Saucy and Unfiltered

Bez sits down with Daniel Laggner ahead of his workshop "The Intelligence of Jealousy" at The Sauce on March 7th. Daniel opens with a disarming confession: he's teaching this topic because he's a deeply jealous person himself. And that honesty sets the tone for one of the most grounded, real conversations we've had on this podcast.Daniel shares his origin story — 13 years married, eight of them monogamous, and a slow reckoning with the realization that polyamory wasn't just something he wanted, it was part of who he is. What followed was less a smooth transition and more an emotional crash course in self-discovery, one that led him deep into attachment theory, rejection wounds, and the humbling truth that nobody else is responsible for what comes up inside you.What Daniel brings to this workshop is something hard to teach: he's been in the mud, he knows what it smells like, and he has a genuine gift for helping others map their own inner terrain. Expect a breakdown of what jealousy actually is, real tools for navigating it in relationship, and a visual map to take home with you.If you've ever watched your partner walk out the door and had to sit alone with what came up next — this one's for you.

In this episode of Saucy and Unfiltered, Bez sits down with SunRay Bates — community member, hug enthusiast, and co-facilitator of Hug Healing — ahead of her workshop at The Sauce on March 7th. What starts as a conversation about hugging quickly opens into something much deeper: the hunger so many of us carry for safe, platonic touch, and how rarely our culture actually makes space for it.SunRay shares her journey from experiencing the first Hug Healing event as a total revelation, to becoming one of its most devoted co-facilitators. She talks honestly about her own history with unsafe touch, and how this practice — founded over a decade ago by her best friend Billy Bob — has been genuinely medicinal for her nervous system, her relationships, and her heart.We talk cacao ceremonies, sound baths, the "Bliss Ball" (yes, it's exactly what it sounds like and also somehow more), and why SunRay is bringing this work to Yosemite Falls this spring. If you've ever felt awkward asking for a hug, or realized you might be starving for connection you didn't know how to name — this one's for you.Hug Healing is happening Saturday, March 7th at The 418 Project. Come ready to be held.

In this episode, Bez and Matt get raw and real about the next bold evolution of our community: Our First Play Party. We talk about how this event differs from the Sauce (yep, it’s all-bases), why we believe we’re ready for it, and what our deepest desires are for building a braver, more connected erotic culture together.We share the ethics at the heart of this container—like staying open to surprise, taking responsibility for your own experience, and remembering that you're always at choice. We also explain the application process, why it matters, and how to move forward whether you’re invited to this one or asked to join us for the next.If you’ve ever been curious about what it takes to build an intentional sex-positive community from the inside out, this one’s for you.

Bez Stone and Daniel Mollner dive into dance, sexuality, and aging in the Santa Cruz scene. They chat about embracing getting older, normalizing sensuality in dance spaces, and creating supportive, all-ages environments. Plus, a sneak peek at Daniel’s upcoming workshop, The Prom You Wish You Had—where prom night meets grown-up wisdom.

In this fun and heartfelt convo, Bez chats with the radiant Sirena Andrea about the magic of storytelling—especially the erotic kind. They dive into how sharing our personal stories helps us connect, feel seen, and even heal some of our deepest shame. Sirena talks about her journey from teaching kids to empowering women through the YoniVerse Monologues, and why getting specific and vulnerable makes stories really land. If you’ve ever wanted to feel more confident sharing your turn-ons or just be more real in your relationships, this episode’s for you.

Bez gets flirty with intimacy coach Matt Sturm as they dive deep into desire, making bold invitations, and the magic that happens when people feel truly safe to play. Whether you're a seasoned Saucling or just dipping your toes into Santa Cruz's hottest monthly party, this convo is your permission slip to follow your turn-on and connect with others in ways that feel delicious and real—just in time for Matt's workshop on April 5th.

In this juicy convo, Bez Stone sits down with Shane Kephart to talk about all things dance, sobriety, and self-expression. Shane shares his story of getting sober and eventually becoming a lap dance instructor (yep, you read that right)—and how movement became a path to confidence, pleasure, and play.They get into the real talk about seduction, gender dynamics in dance, and how to shake off the intimidation factor when it comes to being seen. It’s fun, heartfelt, and full of insight—plus an invite to Shane’s upcoming workshop at the April 5th Sauce, where you’ll get to explore your sensuality and let your body lead the way.

Harper and Ash, two performers deeply involved in the kink and BDSM community, discuss their upcoming performance at the Sauce Goes Deeper... titled "Take Out the Trash." Designed to both inspire and shock people, the duo's deep 45-minute performance showcases their deep trust and shared love of exhibitionism.Learn about the art of performance in kink, what it means to be a switch, and the importance of education and exposure in exploring kink and sexuality.

I’m so excited to bring you another episode of Saucy & Unfiltered where we meet our workshop leaders.I sat down with Daniel Moreh, a Shabari teacher and grad student in marriage and family therapy, to talk about:✨ How Shabari became a powerful tool for healing and connection.✨ Why presence, intention, and improvisation matter more than fancy knots.✨ What to expect from his beginner-friendly workshop at the Sauce Goes Deeper next weekend—perfect for curious newcomers ready to build skills and confidence.Daniel’s approach is all about creating emotional experiences—whether sensual, therapeutic, or both. Tune in for inspiration and get ready to learn from him on March 29th!

I’m thrilled to introduce The Sauce Unfiltered—a brand-new way for you to go deeper with the Sauce, meet our incredible workshop leaders, and stay connected to the heart of our community.For our very first interview, I sat down with EnBerlin, our brilliant Dungeon Master, to talk about:✨ How we met at the very first Sauce (spoiler: it involved horns & negotiation worksheets)✨ Why kink and BDSM are essential tools for erotic exploration✨ What to expect at Sauce Goes Deeper on March 29th, including EnBerlin’s flogging & impact play workshop and the dungeon tour (which is already super popular!).