Secret Garden

This is very Manifesting Generator of me… but I’m pausing the podcast (for now!) to make space for the next version to drop in. In this episode, I’m unpacking why following excitement, honoring pivots, and clearing space might just be our greatest superpowers.FYI – the tool I’m using to support me in this pivot is To Be Magnetic.If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Deciding to pivot02:09 Life as a manifesting generator07:34 Initial resistance to pivoting09:18 Clearing space12:52 More manifesting generator thingsWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Deep connection with others starts with the micro-decisions you make with yourself. In this episode, I opened up my journal archive and uncovered the five stages that helped me feel more grounded, more powerful, and more me. These aren’t overnight transformations – they’re subtle shifts that build over time. From listening to what your anxiety is trying to tell you, to noticing when you’re crossing your own boundaries, to spending money in ways that actually feel aligned.Wherever you are on your self-connection journey, my hope is that this episode helps you recognize how far you’ve come – and where you might want to go next.FYI – the tool I’ve used to help me on the journey of reconnecting with myself is To Be Magnetic.If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:28 Stage 1: Listening to the signals07:09 Stage 2: Stop outsourcing your decisions11:31 Stage 3: Removing external blockers15:46 Stage 4: Cleaning up your internal boundaries20:01 Stage 5: Making congruent choices23:38 Closing: We love progressWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Saying “I’ll do it tomorrow” over and over is exactly what keeps us stuck. But why is that voice so convincing? Today I’m unpacking the sneaky energy of resistance — how it shows up in my own life (like not wanting to leave the corporate world or put myself out there), and how it quietly convinces us that something else is always more important than our growth. Let’s learn how to see it, nod, and keep walking – before it talks us out of everything we actually want.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 The sneakiest mask of them all02:17 Undetected resistance04:59 Your underlying goal07:57 Resistance in leaving the corporate world09:56 Resistance in putting yourself out there14:25 Hamster wheel vs wealth-building17:13 Show the sneaky energy who’s bossWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowes Instagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Lately, I’ve felt like I’m orbiting around my friends’ lives, not really in them. These are people I love deeply — we have years of history — but our paths are starting to look really different. They’re settling into marriages and motherhood. I’m still chasing my wildest dreams.In this episode, I’m unpacking what it means to grow in a different direction than the people you love — and the courage it takes to keep evolving. How do you hold space for someone else’s dream while staying loyal to your own? And how do you know when things no longer feel aligned?Timestamps:00:00 Intro: Orbiting around friends’ lvies04:43 Having the courage to grow12:30 Grieving that your lives look different17:18 Figuring out a new way to connect20:23 Supporting your friends’ wildest dreams23:03 Knowing when to leave the party24:56 You’re not aloneWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

I said yes to things in my 20s that make me want to scream in my 30s – and moving cities after getting robbed was one of them. I thought it was an empowering decision to move back home, but in hindsight it was rooted in fear. Today I’m talking about what happens when fear makes our decisions for us, and how learning to build internal safety has been the most freeing shift I’ve made.If you’ve ever felt like you had to run just to feel okay ormade decisions that now make you cringe a little — this episode is for you.Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:50 What happened in San Francisco16:17 Expansion vs contraction17:54 Quest of safety24:59 Putting myself back in a box33:01 Biggest blindspot34:43 Creating my own safety and securityWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Ahhh, let’s rest. Lately, it feels like we’ve all been on shaky ground. For me, the shakiness comes from trying to balance building a podcast, working a full-time job, not burning out (again), keeping my skin clear, managing stress… the list goes on.But the more I prioritize rest, the more clarity I find. In today’s episode, I’m diving into the questions that surfacein those quieter moments:What are we giving the most air time to?How do we talk ourselves into doing what we truly want?And how do our habits hold us through the shakeups?Come explore it all with me.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Shaking and resting04:30 Threading the needle of our lives06:16 What do we give the most air time to?12:25 How do we talk ourselves into doing things?19:46 How do our habits support us in the shakeups?32:41 Locking the f*ck inWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowes Instagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

They approved my podcast name... and then took it back. So now I’m rethinking everything. In this episode, we’re going back to the drawing board—looking at the name, the concept, and how I want the show to feel. I’m pulling inspiration from graphic tees and the time I had a front-row seat to the most intense (yet incredible) week of my brother’s life. This is about staying flexible with the how and continuing the path towards your greatest vision.Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:52 Setting the foundation & owning the IP07:56 Trademark troubles10:57 Why I’m going back to the drawing board24:56 Using graphic tees as a guide34:41 Embracing the creative process41:56 Creating space for spectacular ideasWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesEmail: [email protected] to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

At a work dinner, someone told me I should move cities, marry a rich man, and quit my job. I strutted out of the restaurant channeling Cher — “I am a rich man” — but on the drive home, I felt deeply misunderstood. In this episode, I unpack what it’s like to be projected onto, the discomfort of feeling unseen, and how that moment pushed me to ask a new question: How can I make sure I’m fully seeing myself?If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling small, underestimated, or erased — this one’s for you.Timestamps:00:00 They told me to marry a rich man06:53 Unseen, underestimated, & misunderstood10:17 How can I see myself?16:26 Have your own sh*t going for you20:00 The world is your playgroundWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Ever felt strangely irritated when someone repeats your own words back to you? Maybe it was something you once proudly said about yourself—until it started feeling like a label you’ve outgrown. In this episode, we explore why it’s so uncomfortable to be reminded of who we used to be, and what it takes to close the gap between how we see ourselves and how others still see us. This is about reclaiming your narrative—and learning to speak up for who you are now.Timestamps:00:00 Outgrowing old self-labels06:46 Why I’m mad/sad about the self-label 16:30 Expertise in the thing we hate20:06 Friends identifying where you hold yourself back25:14 Teaching others how to see youWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowes Instagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

I used to think that moving cities could solve my problems. And while the hyper-independence was empowering for a while, it brought on a whole new set of difficulties – think painful separations, goodbyes, blindsiding others (and even myself). Today I’m unpacking the urge to run when life feels off, the duality of independence vs connection, and how I’m reframing things with a growth mindset so I can stay – not run – when things get uncomfortable.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Intro: The urge to run04:40 The light and dark sides of independence06:38 Influences on my independence18:27 Taking the independent path24:19 Lessons from being hyper-independent25:57 The root of why there’s an urge to run29:07 Fixed mindset vs growth mindsetWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

My 20s was my surface-level decade – but now in my 30s, I’m going deeper. Today I’m talking about how I’m making new friends as a single woman in her 30s, what’s changed about how I show up, and why you’ve got to go do the cool things if you want to meet the cool people. Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:54 My 20s: The surface-level decade05:41 Why you need aligned friends in your 30s11:26 Gem 1: Someone you feel safe sharing with14:09 Gem 2: The cool person who did the cool thing21:44 Gem 3: Someone who comes back a decade later31:05 Back to basics of building friendships38:09 Must-dos for making new friendsWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowes Instagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

This is a love letter to anyone who has ever lived in a space that drains you, shrinks you, or makes you feel small. I went from air mattress surfing, pancake battered windows, signing an apartment sight unseen, living at my parents’ house as an adult… to manifesting my current apartment (aka safe haven of my dreams). Consider this proof that you can have everything you want in a living space. Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Intro01:24 Air mattresses & pancake battered windows18:07 Living at my parents’ house as an adult22:52 Uncovering limiting beliefs31:17 Finding my apartment45:17 Refusing to settleWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowes Instagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

This is a question I saw on TikTok that sparked some reflection… so what if we remove the struggle and replace it with ease? My version of this is removing the struggle when sharing my truth, whether it’s someone I’ve just met (my therapist’s intern), someone I’ve known for a while (my therapist), or someone I’ve known forever (my brother). Today we’re chatting about how to bring ease into conversations that normally feel difficult.Timestamps:00:00 Intro: struggle vs ease03:01 Removing the struggle when sharing in therapy18:11 Removing the struggle when triggered by group chat24:48 Closing thoughtsWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowes Instagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

My life is now split into two parts: before tornado and after tornado. The in-between is a collection of the near-death thoughts I was having as the tornado came towards me. They all started with “I wish I would’ve _____.”Deepest truths were revealed. And now I’m facing thosetruths. Let’s get into it.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 When the tornado was approaching05:48 Truth being revealed07:49 Dilemma in the closet14:00 Fear hangover17:01 Protective bubbles18:29 Clarity in rock bottoms21:36 What the tornado is telling me33:28 The tools I’m using35:51 Why do I think this is never gonna happen?38:53 Diving deep into my subconscious40:01 What I need to step throughWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

How many “I’m fine”-s does it take before you respond with the truth? I thought the limit didn’t exist. Then my friend staged the most supportive 3-part intervention that pushed me to give an honest answer. Today I’m sharing the method that got me to open my eyes to the biggest change that’s needed in my life right now (in career *asmr voice*). Maybe this will help you face whether you're okay, too.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Intro: Half-baked feelings03:28 Why my friend asked if I’m okay12:08 Convo 121:39 Convo 225:54 Exhaustion and backflips34:51 Two trampolines40:16 Convo 343:43 Closing thoughtsWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

You know exactly what you want to change. But you don’t have the time, money, support, willpower, _____. The change feels daunting, and you don’t feel like you can help yourself. I was in this exact spot. I felt like absolute shit every second of every day. And I came face-to-face with a drastic lifestyle change: I could no longer eat the foods I was eating. Today I’m sharing what I’ve found to be the most impactful steps in making profound change.Timestamps:00:00 Intro03:03 How I got myself into trouble06:40 Why this lifestyle was an issue08:08 Ignoring the warning signs09:35 When I knew I had to change10:39 The first step towards change15:29 The earth-shattering moment18:27 Anxiety surrounding the change24:34 Deciding to prioritize myself25:30 How I actually made the change35:45 All-in mindset36:55 What drove me to change38:22 Non-negotiables43:55 Change is a double-edged sword44:48 Impact on friendships51:59 Helping yourselfWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

You’ve heard it before: you’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with. But what happens if you don’t resonate with those people? How do you replace those people with ones you’re obsessed with? Once you’ve found people you’re obsessed with, how do you build deep connection? And how does this work when the five people are mostly coworkers? Today we're exploring the answers.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Intro04:11 How to remove people that don’t resonate07:45 The power of collective energy10:05 When aligned people come into your life13:39 Greyrocking: Learning when not to use it19:39 Using love languages as a tool26:18 Benefits of being obsessed with the people you spend the most time with27:39 What the people around you are showing youWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

The most difficult time to set and enforce boundaries is when you feel like your back is against the wall. But that’s precisely when you need to say no and create a boundary. Good news is I think I’ve cracked the code on how to set boundaries at work in a way that protects yourself, strengthens your relationships, builds trust, and turns people into advocates. I’m sharing it all today.Timestamps:00:00 Intro03:22 How do you know when you need boundaries? Where?05:04 The 3 layers of the boundaries world05:44 When you set boundaries with others19:48 When others set boundaries with you22:54 When you tell people it’s ok to set boundaries with you28:56 Boundaries create space for wonderful things31:15 If you have trouble saying no33:43 If you need to re-negotiate boundaries34:08 Remember thisWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

My most googled question from the ages of 28-30 was: am I gonna be okay? Followed by: any uplifting stories of Saturn Returns? The search results weren’t making me feel any better. Shit was hitting the fan in my life, and I knew there were lessons I needed to learn. I started tracking what happened daily so that I could later tell an uplifting story about my Saturn Return. Today’s the day to be uplifted.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Intro03:06 What Saturn Return is asking you to do07:44 1st Pass of Saturn: Lessons to learn13:53 2nd Pass of Saturn: Limiting beliefs became clear27:31 3rd Pass of Saturn: Things got exciting29:04 What happened right after my Saturn Return32:00 What I’ve learned from my Saturn Return33:01 How my Saturn Return changed me Where to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Today I’m sharing my experience of taking 18+ months off work to recover from burnout, navigating people projecting their own fear onto me, letting go of rigid views of what a “perfect” next step looks like, and manifesting an aligned marketing job that allowed me to more than double my compensation (vs my previous job). Consider this your inspo to not settle.Resources:Tools I used for subconscious reprogramming and inner child work were from To Be Magnetic. Learn more at tobemagnetic.com.If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 Taking a break can get you more money2:42 How I got burnt out6:00 My daily routine when recovering from burnout7:49 Navigating social gatherings without a job9:51 How I started to rebuild myself11:33 Figuring out what’s next14:04 The concept of a bridge job16:55 Defining what I’d want in a bridge job19:17 Letting go of the rigid view23:56 Saying no25:45 When an immediate no turned into a yes27:16 Interviewing when you’ve been on a work break30:07 Why society is wrong about work breaks30:51 The most annoying frequently asked question32:33 Finding an aligned job34:16 Building my brand as someone who says no35:35 Don’t settle, you’ve got thisWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowes Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

The pattern that has ruled my life has been overwhelming workload, no support, and a constant state of total chaos. And I’m done with it. The second I put my foot down, though, more chaos followed. But these are the cheeky lil hurdles we must overcome when shifting out of a deeply rooted pattern. Today I’m talking about the small steps I’m taking to shift out of this old pattern and into a new reality.Note: I’m an expert at having this problem. I’m a beginner at figuring out a solution.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 My biggest pattern: total chaos4:13 How the pattern has showed up in my life11:12 Interrupting the pattern12:53 Struggling to change the pattern15:01 Two types of pressure: bad and good17:00 The new pattern I’m trying to create24:46 Using The Chainsmokers as a guide25:42 Taking action to shift out of chaos35:19 Figuring out what to delegate39:44 We’re all facing chaos41:36 A tale of 3 Valentine’s Days47:55 The challenge of delegating48:48 We don’t have to stay in the chaos50:08 Grief in letting go of chaos52:25 Moving towards a new realityWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: ⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

The societal expectation to have a partner gets extra loud around 30th birthdays. Louder than on Valentine’s Day. So, I tried to manifest a partner and a 30th birthday trip with said partner, all before I turned 30. It sort of worked – not in the way I expected – but it was even more magical than I could have imagined. This is a story of what happens when you face the worst-case scenario and choose to celebrate yourself no matter what.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Timestamps:00:00 F all the plans, let’s have fun11:36 When society says “you should have a partner”14:06 Manifesting my ideal 30th birthday celebration21:00 Facing the worst-case scenario22:27 Figuring out where to travel and what to do27:01 When I got tested and had to voice my needs31:02 Putting myself out there and meeting someone new36:58 Mingling with sparkly people40:44 An unexpected partner42:00 The universe works in magical ways44:05 Letting go of rigid views to celebrate yourselfWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel:⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠ TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Today we’re talking about the thing that kept me hiding for over a decade: acne. I was stuck in a state of “trying” to fix the problem, until I got publicly shamed (in-person) for having acne. And within 6 months I had clear skin. I’m sharing the acne treatment protocol for clearing the most painful cystic acne, even when you’ve tried everything.Resources:If you’re interested in To Be Magnetic, use code ALLIE8957 for 15% off your Pathway Membership.The Pathway Membership (Payment Plan)The Pathway Membership (Pay in Full)Esthetician:⁠@skincare.byash⁠ on InstagramTimestamps:00:00 Struggles with acne02:41 My relationship with my skin05:50 The impact of acne on self-confidence07:49 When my acne got extremely bad11:24 Using expensive acne treatment products13:41 How having acne impacted my career15:59 Navigating social gatherings with acne17:12 Getting stuck trying to solve the problem18:05 Rock bottom: I got publicly shamed for having acne24:37 Quest to find a cure27:33 Reprogramming the limiting belief30:12 Discovering Face Reality Skincare35:01 The acne treatment that actually worked48:22 The freedom of clear skin51:31 Advice if you’re struggling with acneWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel:⁠⁠@SecretGardenPod⁠⁠TikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

Happy hours were fun until I started getting vulnerability hangovers. My friend was done with my surface level shit. She wanted to know the real me. As scary as it was to be vulnerable – especially with a friend who started as a co-worker – it was a relief to no longer hide myself for the sake of belonging. I’m exploring what happens when you shift from belonging to authenticity, using Sabrina Carpenter’s journey as an example.Timestamps:00:00 Welcome to Secret Garden 02:03 Belonging vs Authenticity 02:59 What Sabrina Carpenter taught me about authenticity 09:21 Fear of vulnerability 12:30 The first time I had to be vulnerable with a friend 18:57 How Secret Garden started 21:58 Letting go of old podcast, starting a new podcast 29:27 Repackaging ourselves: The influence of others 30:40 Going from surface level to deep emotional connection 34:17 The importance of deep connection 35:28 Trust the timing and who you're surrounded by 36:32 We meet every Thursday in Secret GardenWhere to find me:Video podcast also available on YouTube.YouTube channel: @SecretGardenPodTikTok: @allie_bowesInstagram: @allie_bowesBrought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC.

You're invited to Secret Garden - a podcast about the everyday dilemmas you face when letting your guard down and being your authentic self. The code to get into Secret Garden is press Subscribe or Follow, and then press Play. Brought to you by Secret Garden Media LLC. Video available on Spotify and YouTube.