Shared Frequencies and the Space Between

Episode 23 – The One About Self-CareIn this open and wide-ranging episode, El and Don sit down to talk about what self-care really looks like in their day-to-day lives. From haircut philosophies and mental reset showers to routines, red meat, running, and emotional bandwidth, the conversation weaves through the deeply personal and the totally relatable.They explore how neurodivergence influences their approach to self-care, how energy levels and external expectations shape their routines, and how the lines between self-care, self-preservation, and survival sometimes blur.🔹 Why a haircut can mean more than just a trim🔹 Showering, task avoidance, and mental resets🔹 How routine makes self-care possible🔹 Listening to your body vs. pushing through🔹 Sex, books, exercise, and the things that keep us groundedThoughtful, honest, and sometimes very funny, this episode is a reminder that self-care looks different for everyone — and that figuring it out is a lifelong work in progress.Keywords: self-care, neurodivergence, routines, emotional bandwidth, mental health, ADHD, masking, honest conversation, friendship podcast, shared experience

Episode 22 – Dead Serious(ish)In this deeply reflective and unexpectedly wide-ranging episode, El and Don start with grief, loss, and anniversaries, but quickly find themselves unpacking far more.From running a 5K on a difficult day to navigating the emotional weight of family estrangement, breakups, and furniture that carries forgotten dreams, they explore how grief shows up in unexpected ways. The conversation touches on masking, inherited stoicism, societal expectations, and the discomfort of public or "manufactured" grieving.🔹 Why anniversaries hit differently each year🔹 Grieving people, futures, relationships, and decisions🔹 The difference between being the oldest and feeling responsible🔹 Poppies, public mourning, and social media pressure🔹 Masking emotions even from ourselvesThis is an episode about the grief we talk about and the grief we don't, and how learning to feel it fully is part of living well.Keywords: grief, emotional masking, loss, anniversaries, neurodivergence, family dynamics, social media grief, breakups, honest conversation, shared experience

Episode 21 - Living Well, Ageing Weird!In a delightfully meandering episode full of synchronicities and side quests, El and Don unpack the recent glitches in their matrix: strange coincidences, shared brainwaves, and the bizarre ways the universe seems to line things up.What starts with a few “did that just happen?” moments turns into a bigger conversation about belief, folklore, myth, science, religion, and how the space between all of it might just hold more than we know. From Nessie sightings and Kelpies to energy, afterlife, and teleporting blue glasses, this one travels far and wide with a familiar dose of humour, wonder, and the comfort of shared weirdness.🔹 Glitches, synchronicities, and shared sentences🔹 The myth and mystery of Loch Ness, Kelpies, and fairy folklore🔹 Science, belief, and the blurry line between them🔹 Living well, ageing weird, and questioning everything🔹 Why some things don’t need proof to feel realCurious, nostalgic, and filled with tangents, this is the kind of episode where you never know where you’ll end up, but you’re glad you came along for the ride.Keywords: belief systems, folklore, synchronicity, shared experience, neurodivergence, Scottish myths, friendship podcast, honest conversation, science vs spirituality

Episode 20 – One Pavement – Two PathsIn this powerful and vulnerable episode, El and Don explore how differently men and women navigate the world—often walking the same streets but living very different experiences.They unpack what safety really means, how social conditioning and lived realities shape their movements through public and private spaces, and how power, perception, and gendered expectations can play out in everyday interactions. Drawing on personal stories—some unsettling, some infuriating—they offer space for reflection, honesty, and the call to do better.🔹 Being safe vs. feeling safe🔹 Navigating gendered space and social cues🔹 Two real-life accounts of boundary violations🔹 Why “good guys” still need to be aware🔹 How empathy, self-awareness, and conversation can shift thingsAn important episode that highlights the gap between intention and impact—and the value of listening, believing, and showing up differently.Keywords: gendered experiences, safety, street harassment, allyship, lived experience, boundaries, neurodivergence, honest conversation, friendship podcast, emotional labour

Episode 19 – Still Catching UpIn their second catch-up after an unintentional hiatus, El and Don reflect on life lately—from university rejection and time perception to memory quirks, energetic dips, and the emotional impact of furniture and routines.They navigate frustrations around the barriers faced by mature students, share vulnerable moments from recent weeks, and laugh through stories of memory lapses, karaoke machines, and Denmark trips. The conversation is loose and wide-ranging—true to its title—but full of heart and insight.🔹 The emotional toll of rejection—and asking for help🔹 Time, memory, and why everything feels like a blur🔹 Navigating burnout, routines, and reconnection🔹 Small joys: side quests, song references, and shared sofas🔹 Big topics brewing: boundaries, discomfort, and future episodesSpontaneous, reflective, and full of that familiar blend of honesty and humour. An episode that lingers in the in-between, where life really happens.Keywords: friendship podcast, neurodivergence, mature student life, burnout, memory, routines, life transitions, honest conversation, boundaries, emotional check-in

Episode 18 - Let's Catch UpAfter an unplanned break, Don and El are back with a warm and honest check-in. In this unscripted episode, they reflect on why life got so full, what’s been going on behind the scenes, and how burnout, masking, and executive dysfunction have played a role. From shifting their podcast schedule to changes in Don’s job and El’s emotional journey through rearranging furniture, they share what’s felt heavy, what’s lightened the load, and how their partnership continues to offer balance and support. A beautifully meandering conversation full of self-awareness, humour, and hard-won insight.Keywords: friendship podcast, burnout, ADHD, masking, shared space, executive dysfunction, honest conversation, neurodivergence, mental load, co-living, adult friendship, life updates, emotional growth

Episode 17 – A Wee BletherIn this off-the-cuff, in-transit episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, El and Don mic up for a real-time blether—recorded on the way to the cinema and full of the kind of rambling, heartfelt conversation that only happens when nothing is scripted.What starts as a casual catch-up turns into a reflection on meaningful coincidences, feeling seen in familiar places, and what it means to belong—both in shared space and within yourself.In this episode, you’ll hear:🔹 Everyday Encounters – From old teachers to unexpected friendships, Don and El share the uncanny and sometimes moving moments of being recognised in unlikely places.🔹 The Space to Be Fully You – El reflects on finally feeling comfortable in a space where she doesn't have to shrink or mask herself.🔹 Connections That Matter – A discussion about trusting your gut, chance meetings, and how certain people seem to show up exactly when they’re meant to.🔹 No Agenda, Just Life – Unfiltered conversation on books, background noise, gendered safety, and the strange smallness of the world.It’s a snapshot of two people navigating life together with humour, reflection, and a generous dose of wander.Keywords: shared frequencies, real talk, unscripted podcast, a wee blether, meaningful coincidences, shared space, feeling seen, life reflections, neurodivergent friendship, conversation on the go, podcast Scotland

Episode 16 – Unpacking More Than BoxesIn this reflective episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, El and Don explore the emotional ripple effects of big life changes. Don’s just sold his house and landed a new job—two major transitions that stir up more than just logistics. Meanwhile, a spontaneous furniture reshuffle sparks unexpected emotions in El, revealing how the spaces we create and inhabit can echo something much deeper.In this episode, you’ll hear:🔹 Moving On and Moving Forward – Don shares what it feels like to finally complete two massive life tasks: selling his home and starting a new job.🔹 The Domino Effect of Change – El opens up about how Don’s shifts are stirring something up in her—and how even a change in layout can be felt on an emotional level.🔹 Honouring Reactions, Big and Small – A candid chat about allowing yourself to feel what you feel—even if it’s not what you expected.🔹 Shared Space, Shared Growth – A grounded conversation on making room, literally and metaphorically, for change and one another.Perfect for listeners navigating transition, cohabitation, or just the complicated emotions that come with growth, this episode reminds us that sometimes, a change in furniture is about more than just the furniture.Keywords: shared frequencies, emotional space, life transitions, house sale, new job, feelings and furniture, friendship podcast, honest conversations, change and growth, unfiltered podcast

Episode 15 - Signal Check - May 25In this open and grounding episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, El and Don hit pause to check in—not just with each other, but with the rhythms of life that have shaped their past few weeks. Recorded after a whirlwind of travel, illness, and home projects, this episode is part catch-up, part reflection, and part recalibration.🔹 Pacing Ourselves – A candid look at how physical health, rest, and energy cycles have played out lately, especially after the big kitchen renovation.🔹 Navigating Highs and Lows – From a morning of frustration to the comfort of reclaimed routines, Don and El explore the emotional nuances of cohabiting while managing fluctuating energy and motivation.🔹 Reconnection Through Conversation – After a few off-weeks, the pair discuss the importance of checking in, recognising shifts in their shared dynamic, and giving each other space to re-sync.🔹 Real Life, Real Rhythms – There’s no script here—just honest observations, small moments of humour, and a shared commitment to navigating the ups and downs of daily life.This episode is a soft reset: a moment to regroup and reflect on the ordinary-yet-significant beats that shape how we show up in life and in our closest relationships.Keywords: shared frequencies, check-in, signal check, kitchen renovation, cohabiting, everyday rhythms, honest podcast, friendship dynamics, low energy, real talk, podcast Scotland, supportive conversations

Ep 14 - Frequency Interrupted - Renovation ReflectionsIn this episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, Don and El return from a short podcast hiatus brought on by the chaos of a full kitchen renovation, undertaken entirely as a DIY project. Between demolition dust and cabinet confusion, they reflect on the disruption to their usual routine, what it’s been like living in a temporary state of “camping” indoors, and the emotional weight of interrupted rhythms.In this episode, you’ll hear:🔹 Life in Renovation Mode – The highs, lows, and slightly crunchy in-betweens of taking on a major kitchen refit, from tool misplacements to missing takeaway cutlery.🔹 Mental Clutter and Physical Chaos – How external disarray affects internal calm, and how they’ve each coped with life feeling out of sync.🔹 Rebuilding Beyond the Kitchen – Don and El talk about what helps them recalibrate when life doesn’t go to plan—and why it’s okay to need a little extra time to re-find your footing.This honest, light-hearted, and reflective episode explores the relationship between our surroundings and our sense of stability. Whether you’ve lived through a renovation or just need a reminder that temporary mess doesn’t mean failure, this one’s for you.Keywords: Shared Frequencies, DIY renovation, mental health, routine disruption, kitchen refit, cohabiting, neurodivergence, honesty, resilience, friendship, the space between, life in progress.Tune in and join Don and El as they talk mess, meaning, and making space—one frequency at a time.

Episode 13 – Tuned In, Zoned Out - The Static FrequencyIn this wide-ranging and deeply personal episode, El and Don explore the hum of neurodivergence that buzzes in the background of their lives—and sometimes takes centre stage.They talk candidly about self-discovery, undiagnosed ADHD traits, sensory sensitivities, and the unique ways their brains process the world around them. It’s a conversation about difference, understanding, and the way their friendship creates space for being fully, messily human.🔹 How neurodivergent traits show up day-to-day🔹 Internal vs. external hyperactivity and gendered presentation🔹 Dopamine-seeking detours, impulsivity, and hyperfocus🔹 Navigating routines, emotional regulation, and sensory overloadAs always, the exchange is open, funny, thoughtful, and rooted in a shared commitment to understanding each other better. An episode that tunes into the signal beneath the static.Keywords: ADHD in adults, neurodivergence, emotional regulation, sensory sensitivity, friendship podcast, mental health, masking, honest dialogue, internal experience

Episode 12 – pHysical pHrequency Pt 2In the second part of their reflection on physical selfhood, El and Don turn the lens toward now - what it means to live in and with their bodies in the present.They talk about learning to listen to the signals their bodies send, the daily impact of work, routine, rest, and overwhelm, and how their experiences have shaped what physical health looks and feels like for each of them.🔹 How burnout shows up in the body🔹 Adjusting expectations of movement and energy🔹 The role of routine, work rhythm, and self-awareness🔹 Noticing what feels “off” - and learning how to respondAs always, the conversation is tender, humorous, and grounded in mutual support. A thoughtful close to their check-in on how the physical overlaps with the emotional and mental.Keywords: physical wellbeing, burnout recovery, self-awareness, work-life rhythm, shared experiences, mental health, honest conversation, friendship podcast, unfiltered dialogue

Episode 11 – pHysical pHrequency Pt 1In this reflective first part of a two-episode arc, Don and El take an honest look at how their bodies have evolved with them—through childhood, life events, breakdowns, healing, and changing expectations.They explore the early shaping of physical identity, how illness and stress left lasting marks, and what it’s meant to learn self-compassion in the face of change.🔹 Early body stories and youthful physicality🔹 Navigating illness, collapse, and recovery🔹 Redefining ability and value🔹 Owning the space your body takes up—then and nowThis is a quiet but powerful conversation that invites listeners to consider their own physical frequency—and how it’s shifted across time.Keywords: physical health, personal growth, life transitions, body image, recovery, stress, friendship, honest conversation, unfiltered podcast, Shared Frequencies

Episode 10 – The Space Between What We Know and What We FeelIn this honest and emotionally resonant episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, Don and El open up about a recent blip in their day-to-day rhythm—a misalignment that left them both feeling unsettled. What unfolded was more than just a disagreement; it was a moment that revealed the deeper space between what we know and what we feel.In this episode, you’ll hear:🔹 The Blip – A real-life moment where something small triggered something bigger, reminding Don and El that emotional weight doesn’t always match the size of the situation.🔹 Processing the Aftermath – El shares how it brought up feelings she hadn’t expected, and Don reflects on being present in the aftermath.🔹 The Power of Space and Support – A vulnerable discussion on how giving each other the room to process - without fixing - helped them reconnect more deeply.🔹 Building Emotional Fluency – They explore the nuance of trying to bridge the gap between logic and emotion, especially in high-trust relationships.This episode offers a relatable glimpse into how even the strongest friendships can hit bumps - and how honesty, patience, and shared emotional language can help navigate through.Keywords: shared frequencies, relationship growth, emotional processing, communication, understanding, mental health, burnout, neurodivergence, support, honest conversation, emotional fluency, friendship podcast, unedited lifeTune in as Don and El share the kind of conversation that can only happen when trust meets vulnerability—one frequency at a time.

EP9: The Space Between Then & Now – A Mental Health Check-In Pt 2In this second part of our mental health check-in, we shift the focus to El. We take a thoughtful look at her recent experiences with mental health, the pressures of holding things together, and what healing has looked like in her world. Through open, reflective conversation, Don offers support as El unpacks what’s felt heavy, what’s changing, and how she’s navigating the space between then and now.

In Episode 8 - The Space Between Then & Now - A Mental Health Check-In Pt 1Don and El get raw and real as they check in on Don's mental health journey. They revisit past breakdowns, burnout, and the long road to recovery—using a unique clock analogy to map Don’s progress. With El offering her steady support, they reflect on how connection, care, and honest conversation can shape the healing process. Tune in for insights on self-care, resilience, and a reminder that it’s okay to be a work in progress.

Episode 7 - Sharing Space & Settling InDon and El give you an intimate, unfiltered look at their first week living together full-time. With humor and honesty, they share the excitement of moving in, unpacking, and arranging their new shared space—from navigating quirky challenges like the “crisps in sandwiches” debate to adjusting routines and handling unexpected emotional moments. Join them as they explore the highs, lows, and everyday nuances of cohabitation, proving that open communication and a willingness to adapt can make all the difference in transforming a house into a home.

Episode 6 - Our Relationship, Our FrequencyIn this revealing episode, Don and El explore the complexities of defining a relationship that defies traditional labels—non-romantic, non-sexual, yet deeply emotional. Inspired by insights from Simon Sinek’s podcast episode Happily Friended with Author Rhaina Cohen, they discuss how societal norms often misinterpret genuine connections and share what it means to truly “feel seen.”Big thanks to Simon Sinek (simonsinek.com) and Rhaina Cohen (rhainacohen.com) for inspiring our conversation.If you know of any books or podcasts that dive into these topics, please share them with us—we’d love to hear your recommendations!Tune in now and redefine what relationships can be!

Episode 5 – Drafting Our Frequency: Housemate Agreement Part Two In this practical follow-up to Episode 4, El and Don dive into the nitty-gritty of moving in together. They tackle everyday cohabitation challenges - from setting up shared finances and meal planning to coordinating cleaning, dishes, and laundry. This candid conversation uncovers how two friends negotiate responsibilities, adapt routines, and work together to create a harmonious shared space. Tune in for real-life insights, humour, and the honest back-and-forth that keeps their friendship - and their home - on track.

Episode 4 – Drafting Our Frequency: Housemate Agreement – Part 1In this raw and unscripted episode, El and Don dive into the practical—and emotional—realities of moving in together. They candidly discuss creating a baseline for cohabitation through a household agreement, exploring everything from rearranging furniture and redefining personal spaces to managing micro traumas and differing communication styles. This roller coaster conversation reveals the challenges, lessons, and humour behind transforming individual spaces into a shared home, and how these changes strengthen their unique frequency and friendship. Tune in for an honest look at the real work of living together, one conversation at a time.

Episode 3 – "Background Frequencies"In this revealing third episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, hosts El and Don peel back the layers of their lives, offering an intimate look at the journeys that have shaped who they are today. In a candid, unfiltered “elevator pitch” style conversation, they share:Deep-Dive Into Personal Histories: From Don’s bustling upbringing in Inverness as one of seven siblings and a roller coaster career in finance, tourism, and beyond, to El’s formative years in Denmark, transformative life moments, and unconventional path into sustainable tourism.Defining Moments & Milestones: Discover the challenges, triumphs, and unexpected twists—from early career breakthroughs and breakdowns to life-changing decisions—that have moulded their outlook on work, love, and legacy.The Birth of a Unique Friendship: Listen to the stories behind their connection, how shared experiences during turbulent times solidified their bond, and what it means to truly “find your frequency” in life.If you’re drawn to authentic storytelling, raw insights, and the kind of personal reflection that inspires growth and connection, this episode is your gateway to understanding the hearts and minds behind Shared Frequencies and the Space Between.Keywords: personal growth, authentic storytelling, life journey, raw conversation, background story, self-discovery, tourism career, personal milestones, vulnerable conversations, intimate podcast, El and Don.Tune in to explore the narratives that make us who we are—one frequency at a time.

Episode 2 – Finding Our Frequencies In this raw, unedited episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between, hosts El and Don dive into the origins of their unique friendship and the moments that helped them truly "find their frequencies." Join them as they revisit the day they met—on March 2, 2020—sharing vivid memories from their early encounters at Visit Scotland’s head office, that unforgettable dinner, and a two-star hotel lockdown experience that turned uncertainty into a lasting bond. In this episode, you'll hear: The Spark of Connection: Discover how a chance meeting and a shared job opportunity as Quality Tourism Advisors set the stage for a friendship that would defy the challenges of an emerging lockdown. Memorable First Impressions: Relive the stories of that first dinner together, complete with humorous details and authentic moments that made both hosts realize they had found something special. Navigating Uncertainty Together: Learn how the duo turned a challenging time into a foundation of trust, dependability, and raw, honest conversation. Behind-the-Scenes Stories: Enjoy candid reflections on early career adventures, travel experiences in Scotland, and the serendipity that brought them together. Perfect for fans of unscripted, authentic conversations about friendship, life transitions, and personal growth, this episode offers insights that are as entertaining as they are relatable. Keywords: shared frequencies, raw conversation, authentic friendship, unedited podcast, Visit Scotland, Quality Tourism Advisor, lockdown stories, personal growth, life transitions, candid storytelling, Scotland podcast, true friendship. Tune in to Finding Our Frequencies and join El and Don as they explore the powerful moments that shape our lives—one frequency at a time.

Welcome to the debut episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between! In "Tuning In," hosts El and Don invite you into their unfiltered, honest conversation about new beginnings, life transitions, and the art of finding balance in the spaces between change. Recorded live (with a side of stormy ambience and the occasional dog cameo), this introductory episode lays the foundation for candid chats about: Personal Journeys: Meet El and Don as they share their unique backgrounds—from Danish roots and Scottish vibes to countless moves and fresh starts. Life Transitions: Dive into discussions about moving homes, embracing vulnerability, and redefining relationships as they navigate significant life changes. Accountability & Authenticity: Discover why keeping each other accountable—and inviting you along for the ride—is at the heart of this podcast. If you're passionate about personal growth, lifestyle changes, or simply enjoy authentic, unscripted conversations with a dash of humour, this episode is for you. Subscribe, leave a review, and join the journey as we explore the spaces in between, one frequency at a time. Tune in now and find your shared frequency!

Welcome to Shared Frequencies and the Space Between! We’re thrilled to have you join our journey of raw, unscripted conversations. Our very first episode drops on 4th February at 6pm (UK time). Stay tuned for authentic talk, deep insights, and plenty of laughter. Mark your calendars and get ready to tune in!