Standing Stronger

What is confidence?A feeling of self-assurance arises from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.Things Psychologists Wish You Knew Can Gradually Destroy Self-Esteem- Bustle ArticleWhat can destroy confidence?Surrounding yourself with negative- Misery loves company. Excessive apologizing- making it your faultLetting negative self-talk control your brainBelieving you know what others are thinking-  creating scenariosGiving into fearsSaying yes to everyone and everything- Others controlling your dayBelieving Failure is the worst thing everAssuming No one likes youNot accepting complimentsComparing your life to someone elseForbes Article10 Ways To Build ConfidenceGet Things Done.Monitor Your Progress.Do The Right Thing.Exercise.Be Fearless.Stand-up For Yourself.Follow Through.Think Long-term.       9. Don’t Care what others think    10. Do more of what makes you happy

In today's episode, we talk about trying to find perspective. We take a look at how you can take a step back and evaluate what's going on I am learning to respond instead of reacting.We go down a couple of rabbit holes, there might be mention of God (gasp).

In marriage, you have to give a little and expect a little. No one is perfect, and we can not go into a relationship thinking we will change the other person. The only person you can change is yourself, which is one thing you need to remember in a relationship. Today we talked about our relationship. We have been together a long time and have been through most trials that a relationship will face, and we made it through to the other side. We talk about everything from arguing about what food we are going to eat to infidelity. We are not scared to share the bumps, bruises, and skeletons, along with all of the good.

The Standing Stronger Podcast was first launched in 2014 and has since garnered over 1 million downloads and has been listened to across the world. The show started as we navigated through the murky waters of mental health and then began to morph into a show about success in life, marriage, and business.Then, as it tends to happen, life got in the way, and we took a hiatus. We are beyond blessed to announce that we were able to grow our businesses, our life, and our marriage during that hiatus. We are excited to bring the show back and look forward to sharing the journey with you every Monday.

On our previous podcast, we talked about how you should never stop dreaming. However, a dream is just a dream until you put together a plan of action. Then that dream becomes a goal, and with the proper amount of effort, that goal becomes a reality.

You can not expect people to live up to your expectations of them, they can only live their best life, even if you think they can do better.If you expect someone to act a certain way or respond in a certain way, you are setting yourself up for disappointment; you can only accept who they are and be ok with the decisions they make, even if you think they are wrong.That does not mean you need to tolerate the behavior. If they are someone, you should not be around you need to cut ties. But you can not expect them to change.

As we grow up, our dreams get crushed. It may be because you realize that you are 5'2" and not really the best fit in the NBA, or because someone said you were not good enough.We dare to dream as kids and as our hopes and dreams get crushed by life, we stop dreaming all together. It is just easier that way right? Why get our hopes up? Stay safe!Nope, that is a big pile of steaming dog crap. If you quit dreaming you resign yourself to a life of mediocrity. Lets start dreaming again.

Don’t procrastinate. Sounds easy enough right? We all do it, the goal is to recognize it and take control over it when it rears its nasty head.Procrastination is mostly a habit that derives from our naturaltendency to take the easy route. Today we talk about the tools we deploy to help curb our tendency to procrastinate.

We all have a vision of what our perfect workday looks like. Could we start taking steps to make that perfect day a reality? I think we can.Most days will not be perfect. Life happens, however, most of us are nowhere near the vision of what we would consider a perfect day. So, instead of staying the same, why not take steps to make your days as close to perfect as possible.Today that is what our talk revolves around.

SSP Podcast S2E6 Frustration, Mold and PeeWhen it comes to frustration we all have a choice, we can either respond or we can react. Whenever frustration comes your way how do you handle it? Do you respond to it or do you react to it? In today's episode, we talk about a weekend that started very frustrating and how we made a choice to respond in a positive manner instead of reacting negatively.You get to hear about how Shannon almost needed to pee in a cup. Then we asked the question have we been poisoned with mold?

She said I am a hoarder and the clutter was driving her crazy. So she gave it all away! Find out how we deal with clutter and a few tips on how to clear a cluttered mind and a cluttered desk.

Do not compare somebody else's middle with your beginning. Often we judge ourselves by what we see in other people. Our perception is that their lives are much better than they actually are. It comes down to the grass is always greener on the other side. Often times we think our life would be so much better if we just had, if we just did, if we just were…We need to realize that our lives have unlimited potential. It is up to us to unleash that potential. If we are not where we want to be at this exact moment it is up to us to start taking the steps to get to where we want to go. It is up to us to change so that our future changes. However, without a change today there will be the same tomorrow.So, if you're looking at someone else thinking I wish I had, I wish I was, I wish I were… Now is the time to stop judging their middle and start your beginning.

At What Age Do We Give Up?This week the question arose, at what age do we stop achieving in life and become comfortable with life?For Little Shannon, at the age of 30 you start wondering if this is how life will always be? Am I doing anything purposeful? I think you start questioning life around that age. By 35 I think people just say this is my life and I am too old to change it.Why do you think this happens?Join us as we walk you through the 15 tip article below for reasons why people give up on their dreams. We walk you through the article with personal stories of failures that turned to success. We believe when you apply the failure as a lesson and move forward success will be achieved. Listen in to today's podcast to help you apply tips to your life to reach the top!

Standing Stronger PodcastSeason 2: Episode 2Why does it matter?Welcome back: What is new since last week with Big Shannon?What is new with Little Shannon? Last week before school starts. Jordan starts 7th grade and Makenzie starts VPK. I am a Senior. Looking forward to a routine again. Summer is fun but I work best with a plan for the week.So we strive to help our listeners feel as they are not alone here. We all face trials in a day but that does not define who we are. So this week we will share how overwhelmed we can get in a day. Your attitude matters!An example for me is saying yes to to many things. Me, a wife, a mom, a business owner, a cheer coach, a friend. If I go on then I could break down what each of those jobs entail but we do not have time for that. But the overwhelming feeling to accomplish so much in a day becomes exhausting.Big Shannon discuss his day of overwhelming thingsWhat helps us stay on track:Starting the day with exerciseHaving a schedule of taskTime Management in the scheduleCut off time from workSleepWhen you start to feel overwhelmed, Take a step back, take a deep breath, and release.

Welcome Back- Season 1 was about anxiety, depression, suicide attempt, child abuse, brain surgery, dad passing, and knowing that you are not alone. The struggles are real and we did our best to bring hope to the hopeless and have healing for ourselves during that time.Nowwwww we are on to the next chapter. We are thriving, happy, struggling, broken at times but better together. We are here in Season 2 to continue bringing hope and to bring laughter in our everyday lives and to help our listeners understand that we all have trials or struggles but those things do not define us!

Today we talk to the Christian Counselor that helped me through one of the toughest times of my life.Lisa has been a professional counselor for over 20 years.  She works with individuals, couples, families, and children.  She treats issues such as depression, anxiety, anger, stress, parenting, behavior management, and childhood abuse issues.  Lisa is a Christian and is very active in her church.Lisa was a great help to me and see really brings a ton of helpful advice to today’s podcast. See discusses some signs and symptoms you may experience with depression and then lays out how we can coupe with those feelings.It is a great podcast full of helpful hints and tricks to living a better life. Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS014 Talk To A Professional appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

What is Anger?A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostilityWhat is Rage?Violent, Uncontrollable angerBig Shannon’s background with Anger and Rage….Little Shannon the emotion of anger usually comes from your disappointment in something due to an expectation you have set.Unknown author- Story on Pinterest about the wolves….how do you feed evil? Talk about it to the wrong people that add fuel to the fire.how do you feed good? seek wise counsel, someone who is calm, realistic, good character, someone you trust.Don’t go looking for someone to just agree with you to make you feel better about the situation.Where there is anger there is always underneath pain- Author unknownAsk yourself where does the anger generate from? Who or what are you really angry at?Do you take it out on the wrong people?Buddha- Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.Forgiveness has to happen. Harden heart will infect every day!!!Tips to release AngerPray about itRespond instead of reactrefocus negative energy on something positive- work out- yoga- BREATHETalk about it to wise counsel and then let it go— do not let it control you or define who you are Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 013 Rage Monster appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

In today’s episode we cryptically describe a situation that is happening in our lives and how the fear of the unknown has crept it. So we thought it would be perfect to talk about fear today, and we lay out 4 tips on how you can confront and overcome your fears.Get out of the fear cycleFace your FearsRealize that most of the fear you experience is simply made up in your own mindLet go and let God handle it Resources talked about in today’s podcast:The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 012 Big Fat Scaredy Cat appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

Have you ever sat and watched water boil? Man, it takes forever! However, if yo u put it on the stove, walk away, and continue to works… it boils in no time flat. So, how can we apply this principle of boiling water into our everyday lives?Thant is what we talk about in today podcast.3 Tips to making the water boil…Know The processKeep WorkingKnow The end resultResources talked about in today’s podcast:The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 011 Watching Water Boil appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” — Jim RohnIf you need a laugh the Shannon’s brought it today. As always we are real people with real stories that everyone can relate to.Everything worth achieving takes discipline. Whether it’s the simple task of flossing, making the decision to exercise, or running your business.The great Jim Rohn said “ We must all suffer one of two things. The pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.”We walk you through 3 basic steps that are helping us stay disciplined daily. Listen in and apply, so you will not have the pain of regret or disappointment.Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 010 Floss, Toilets, and Discipline appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

 “Stop Creating Your Valleys” – ShannonHerodin today’s episode we talk about how you can build self-esteem and self-worth through believing in yourself. We cover four valid points…Believe in yourselfStop the negative talkAffirmationsContinuing educationSubscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 009 Stop Creating Your Valleys appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

 “You’re Valid, You’re Valuable, You Are Miraculous! Do Not Let Somebody Else Determine Your Worth.” – Carrie WilkersonThis is an episode you will not want to miss. Carrie Wilkerson is our guest today and man o man does she rock the podcast. She talks about everything from her struggle with depression to giving us her #1 habit that helps her even today.Carrie is called CEO “ Chief Encouragement Officer” and that is exactly what she is. She was someone that spoke to Big Shannon at one of the worst times in his life and she didn’t even know it.Listen in and be encouraged by Carrie, We were!!!Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 008 You Are Valid, You Are Valuable, You Are Miraculous! appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

“Yeah Right You Were Healed”In this Episode we continue Little Shannon’s brain surgery story. You will hear how brain surgery didn’t fix the problem and how seizures and short term memory loss came into play.During this time is when Big Shannon really started with anxiety and panic attacks while trying to take care of his wife and learning his father was dying. A lot to handle.Bruce Lee said “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one”Shannon and Shannon depended deeply on God and his healing power during this time. Life is not always easy while in the valley but with the right foundation and ability to Stand Strong you will be on the mountain top!!Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes” itunes=”https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/standing-stronger-daily-podcast/id540029192″] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 007 Yeah Right – You Were Healed? appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

In this episode we talk about the time period in our life when little Shannon had to have brain surgery. It was a very trying time and one we will always remember very vividly. You can see how vividly we remember the experience while listening to the podcast.We talk about everything from how she was diagnosed, our feelings throughout the process, all the way up to when she had the brain surgery.We get so deep into the story we actually had to split this podcast up in just two episodes. So, the second story will be told in a couple days when episode 007 launches.Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 006 How My Wife Became a Crackhead – Our Story of Seizures Brain Surgery and Hope appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.

 This Is My Story of PanicIt all started one night while I was alone in our tiny two bedroom townhouse. My wife had just had brain surgery and was suffering with a seizure disorder and short-term memory loss. My father had just passed away and I was in the midst of building a successful business.I will never forget that initial feeling. It started with clammy hands and quickly led to a light head. All of a sudden I started getting short of breath and my heart started pounding.I had no clue what was going on or what was happening with my body. It scared the living daylights out of me. So, I did the only thing I knew would help…I went out to smoke a cigarette.That might sound crazy, but in that time period of my life smoking was my crutch. I am blessed to say that I have not smoked in almost 7 years, but at that time I needed it.After lighting up I quickly realized that the cigarette was not helping the matter. Not only was I lightheaded, but the room was spinning, I couldn’t breathe ,and it felt like I was having a heart attack.That is when I called 911.Check out the podcast to hear the rest of the story Subscribe to the Podcast[saf feature=”itunes” cta=”Subscribe on iTunes”] [saf feature=”stitcher”]Support The ShowOur Podcast and site is sponsored by you, the listener. If you feel you like to become a friend of the show and show your support please visit our Patreon page. It have some cool perks and prizes for our supporters.The post SS 005 My Story of Panic Attacks appeared first on How to Be Successful in Life and Business – Mind - Body - Family - Business.