Stepping In with Kara

In this reflective solo episode, Kara returns to the podcast after an intentional pause to reconnect and share the season that led her to step back. She reflects on the transition from a long chapter of healing following her 2018 accident, describing how moving through this time has felt much like the unfolding stages of a season—each holding its own grief, wisdom, and integration. Drawing inspiration from time spent walking in the autumn woods, Kara explores the beauty of honoring life’s natural rhythms and recognizing the quiet transitions that signal when one season is completing and another is beginning. She also shares an invitation into a new chapter of creation through The Book Journey, a community space where listeners can walk alongside her as she writes and brings her next book into form. This episode is an honest check-in, a heartfelt reflection on endings and beginnings, and an invitation to grow together, even through the pauses.The Book Journey: https://www.karastoltenberg.com/bookjourneyConnect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/podcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkaraInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg/

In this episode, Kara features Amy Salzman, a registered nurse and mother from the Nebraska Sandhills, who bravely shares her daughter Molly's journey with schizophrenia, a diagnosis that dramatically altered their lives when Molly was just 20.This conversation peels back the layers of mental illness, revealing not just the clinical aspects but the deeply personal impact. Amy transparently discusses the subtle, early signs of the "prodromal phase" – the quiet shifts in behavior and mood that precede an acute break. She recounts the overwhelming challenge of seeking help, the desperation for answers, and the profound realization that their family was embarking on an unforeseen path.Amy's story is a testament to the unyielding strength of a mother's love and the vital importance of open conversations about mental health. We delve into the difficult reality of mental illness stigma and why sharing these journeys is crucial for education, empathy, and support. This episode offers powerful insights into advocating for a loved one, finding strength in vulnerability, and transforming pain into purpose. It’s a message of hope, resilience, and the enduring power of never giving up.Highlights:Hear a firsthand account of the emotional and practical challenges families face when a loved one receives a severe mental illness diagnosis, highlighting the isolation and the search for knowledge.Discover how one family is actively working to dismantle the societal stigma surrounding mental illness by bravely sharing their experiences and advocating for greater understanding.Witness the incredible fortitude and unwavering commitment of a mother fighting for her child's well-being, transforming immense personal struggle into a source of inspiration and education for others.Quotes:"I want to educate people on this disease and maybe do something a little bit about the stigma surrounding it, because there is a lot of that. And if I can change one person's mind on stigma or one person feels okay talking about it, then I feel like my purpose is done.""We felt like we were on an island and we could not get off. And I don't want other people to feel that way.""That's all you want for your kids, is for them to be happy and healthy. And if they're not healthy, how are they going to be happy?""You have to grieve who your child was. And then you have to love who they are now."Connect with Amy:Amy Salzman is a wife, mother, grandmother and Registered Nurse. After her daughter went through a difficult time in her life with a mental illness, Amy wants to share what she has learned to help other families in similar situations.Connect with Kara:Support on Patreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergWebsite: ⁠⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com⁠Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this introspective solo episode, Kara invites you to explore the profound power of rest and stillness in a world that often demands constant pushing and productivity. She delves into her personal journey of recognizing the hidden magic in pausing, recharging, and listening to the subtle cues of your body and mind. Kara shares candid insights on the societal pressures and ingrained habits that make rest feel counterintuitive, and how leaning into moments of quiet can lead to unexpected breakthroughs and a deeper sense of well-being. This episode is a gentle yet powerful reminder that true progress often comes not from striving harder, but from allowing yourself the sacred space to simply be. If you've been feeling the strain of constant motion, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on the transformative potential of rest.Highlights:Discover how the belief that "pushing equals progress" can hinder your true potential and lead to burnout.Kara shares a personal revelation about the surprising peace found in letting go of the need to constantly "do" and produce.Explore the concept that rest isn't a reward for hard work, but a fundamental ingredient for sustainable creativity and joy.Hear how prioritizing stillness can lead to a deeper connection with your intuition and inner wisdom.The episode challenges the conventional wisdom that growth only happens through continuous effort, offering a fresh perspective on effective living.Quotes:"As I was able to really allow myself to be in true stillness, that's when things started to shift.""I found that the more I allowed myself to just be, the more I was able to truly hear the soft voice of my own body, telling me what it needed.""It's counterintuitive to think that when you stop, you're actually gaining, but that's been my experience time and time again.""We're taught from such a young age to just go, go, go, produce, produce, produce, and there's so much value in doing that, but there's equally as much, if not more, value in just being."Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this heartfelt solo episode, Kara invites listeners on a deeply personal journey from simply "being okay" to fully reclaiming a vibrant sense of aliveness, no matter life's twists and turns. After navigating profound shifts and working diligently to find a place of peace, Kara explores what it truly means to live by her powerful mantra, "The more here I am, the more okay I can be." This episode delves into the freedom found in releasing comparisons to the past, embracing your inner truth, and creating the life of your dreams from exactly where you are right now. You'll hear about navigating the often-overlooked challenge of regulating your nervous system around good things, the profound humility of generosity and the circle of giving and receiving, and Kara's own remarkable story of finding renewed freedom and joy through unexpected avenues, including the new experience of driving with a full self-driving vehicle. Prepare to be inspired to explore your life with wonder and trust its beautiful unfolding.Highlights:Discover the shift from merely "being okay" to actively "squeezing the joy" out of your life experience and truly living.Explore the often-overlooked challenge of regulating your nervous system around beautiful and good things, not just the difficult ones.Understand the profound harmony and balance that comes with fully embracing both giving and receiving in your life.Learn how to intentionally bring yourself into the present moment to find a true sense of "I am okay," even when feeling out of sorts.Hear Kara's inspiring personal story of regaining freedom and joy, symbolized by the return to driving with the help of new technology, and how life reforms around you when you step into the present.Quotes:"The more here I am, the more okay I can be.""I want more than to be okay. I want to be squeezing the joy out of my life experience. I want to be truly living. I don't want to be surviving. I want to feel and be alive.""I trust the unfolding of my life.""Nature heals in the most effortless way… literally all you have to do is get yourself into the true depths of nature and things start to shift."“Im taking a stand in my life… for freedom.”Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Rachel Gossett, a breathwork facilitator and reiki master, to explore her story of healing from a 33-year journey with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia. Given the instability in her home, as a young girl Rachel longed for love and acceptance. In 7th grade when she was being bullied and made fun of for the way she looked, she began to think if she could change that it would bring her that love and acceptance she craved. Restricting her eating became a way to control life around her. Kara and Rachel engage in an honest conversation about the societal pressures and early experiences that can shape our perceptions of our bodies, and Rachel shares the pivotal moments and shifts in perspective that guided her toward recovery and now allow her to support others on their own healing paths. Rachel gives ideas for engaging with teens if you are concerned around their body perception or food behaviors. If you are navigating challenges with your body image or disordered eating, this episode offers profound hope and practical insights.Highlights:Rachel's first memory of becoming aware of her body was at seven years old, highlighting how early body image issues can begin.The impact of well-intentioned but potentially harmful messaging around appearance, even from a young age, is explored.Rachel shares how the "spinning" of constant body preoccupation eventually stopped as she moved further into her healing journey.Discover the power of breathwork as a tool for connecting with the body and processing stored emotions that can contribute to body image struggles.Rachel emphasizes the importance of shifting the internal narrative and consciously choosing thoughts that support self-acceptance and well-being.Quotes:"And so much of it is the story we tell ourselves. And can we change the story? Can we start to be kinder to ourselves in the story?"“With the power of belief…. Intention… and breath healing is possible.”“You do not have to live with this forever.”Connect with Rachel:Website: ⁠https://reikibyrae.com/⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/reikibyrae/⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/rae.goss.967/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://m.youtube.com/@reclaimingyourlight⁠Book: ⁠Breath of Gold: Stories of Healing and Awakening Through Breathwork⁠Rachel Gossett is a trauma-informed breathwork facilitator, Reiki Master, and Body Freedom Coach. After healing from 30+ years of disordered eating and body dysmorphia, she now helps others build a healthier relationship with food and their bodies. Through somatic practices, Rachel supports her clients in shedding shame, reconnecting with themselves, and reclaiming the freedom to be fully seen.Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara welcomes Dr. Karen Hyden, a board-certified nurse practitioner, Christian counselor, and integrative wellness coach, to discuss the power of exploring her story for healing. Karen has just released her memoir, Back to Hope. From finding her way though eating disorder, body dysmorphia and self-doubt as a teen to navigating the challenges of marriage and chronic illness to finding her true calling helping others, Karen's story offers inspiration and encouragement for anyone seeking to understand their past and create a brighter future. Karen offers encouragement and hope for listeners navigating their own journeys. If you need hope and inspiration, this episode will lift you up.Highlights:Karen's book, "Back to Hope," is incredibly honest and relatable, especially for young women.Learn how Karen used writing to process emotions and gain insights into her life story.Karen shares her approach to exploring her life chronologically, identifying key events and their lasting impact.A candid conversation about the challenges and triumphs of marriage, including navigating difficult seasons and finding unity.Karen discusses the theme of feeling "not enough" and the journey to self-acceptance and self-love.Karen shares insights on improving communication and understanding in partnerships.Quotes:"I feel like in order for me to move forward, I did need to explore my story and everything that happened in my story to really understand lies that I was believing.""Mamas and dads, do your work, do your healing work. Because what you do in your life to heal your life impacts your kids more than anything else.""Your love story is not your whole story.""The goal is to get back to unity. Division is the destruction of marriage.""Learning to be in one (marriage) for a lifelong adventure is a lot of work, and it's a lot of growth.""If you're out there and you're married and you need some encouragement, pick up Karen's book."Connect with Karen:Website: www.karenhyden.comBook: Back to Hope: A Memoir About Finding Meaning and Healing Through SurrenderDr. Karen Hyden, PhD, MSN/Ed, APN-BC, ACHPN, is a double board-certified nurse practitioner and founder of an integrative wellness practice for women. She blends functional medicine, emotional healing, and Christian counseling to help women heal body, spirit, and soul.A national healthcare leader and the author of Back to Hope: A Memoir About Finding Meaning and Healing Through Surrender, Dr. Hyden draws from both personal experience and decades of clinical expertise. Through her signature framework and faith-based approach, she helps women discover purpose, identity, and wholeness rooted in Scripture.Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this deeply moving episode, Kara sits down with Jessica Fein, author of the book Breath Taking: A Memoir of Family, Dreams and Broken Genes to explore the profound depths of love and loss she has experienced. Jessica shares her journey of building a family through adoption, experiencing the heartbreaking loss of her entire family of origin while navigating a degenerative disease process in her daughter Dalia, which eventually took her life at 17.   But this is not a story defined only by grief. It's a story of love, resilience, and the power of family bonds. The two talk about how she and her family navigate the complexities of grief while still embracing the beauty of life. They discuss the power of resilience, the importance of cherishing every moment, and the strength that can be found in love, even amidst unimaginable sorrow. This episode is a testament to the enduring power of the human spirit and will leave you feeling inspired and hopeful, even in the face of life's greatest challenges.Highlights:The family tried to create a sense of stability through Dalia’s medical journey so that it did not define everything. Jessica chose to continue working to create a sense of routine and identity in such an intense caregiving situation.The armor of a to-do list or a focus on what we're gonna do to fix this isn’t always what is needed. Sometimes we have to sit in the sadness.Life keeps Life-ing. There is no pause button when you are going through extremely hard circumstances (and you feel like you need one)Finding ways to communicate and connect with loved ones who are not with us anymoreGrievers in general feel guilt about a lot of things but it really is ok to be decimated and to hold a sense of joy. It’s both-and. Quotes:"My story is first and foremost a love story. And there is a ton of loss.""The book really is about Dalia's life. It is not about her death.""When we talk about loss, I am way more familiar with it than I ever wanted to be. And the flip side of that is the love that I have been fortunate enough to have throughout my life which has made those losses that much more painful."“There's always something good and normalizing when people can relate. But I also don't want to be, as Lisa Keefauer says, “a grief thief”... This is their story and I don't want to be like, ‘Well, let me tell you about mine.’”Connect with Jessica:Website: https://www.jessicafeinstories.com/Book: Breath Taking: A Memoir of Family, Dreams, and Broken GenesPodcast: I Don’t Know How You Do ItInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/feinjessicaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessica.fein.92/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-fein-b643b09/Jessica Fein hosts the "I Don't Know How You Do It" podcast, featuring conversations with people whose lives seem unimaginable and who often hear that very thing. Her writing, which explores grief, resilience, and the unbreakable bonds of family, has appeared in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Newsweek, The Boston Globe, HuffPost, Scary Mommy, and other leading publications. Her work encompasses hope and humor, grit and grace – the tools that make up her personal survival kit. Jessica Fein writes the Grace in Grief column for Psychology Today and is a TEDx Speaker on Grief Literacy. Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Kara reconnects with her childhood friend, Tim Moylan, to share his incredible story of overcoming alcoholism and finding a new lease on life. Tim opens up about his struggles with addiction, his near-death experience, and the long, challenging, but ultimately rewarding journey to sobriety. From the normalized drinking culture of his youth to the depths of despair and depression and the ultimate turning point, Tim's story is one of resilience, hope, and the power of self-love.Highlights:Discover how one man's near-fatal health crisis became a catalyst for profound change.Explore the silent struggles men face with mental health and depression and the courage it takes to seek help.The emotional impact of facing his own mortality and the decision to change.See how Tim's life transcends the label of "alcoholic" and embraces a future filled with possibility.The unwavering support of his wife and siblings during his recovery.Quotes:"It was a dark life before that happened with alcoholism, and I didn't know what I was doing. You know, I was so consumed with the alcohol that it took over my mind.""I knew something was wrong, but I wanted to blame it on anxiety.""I was tired of living a dark life.""I was so consumed with the alcohol that it took over my mind."About Tim:Timothy Harold Moylan is a journeyman electrician, wind technician, and now proud small business owner of Shelby Paint and Hardware ACE in Shelby, Montana. With over two decades of experience in the trades and a deep commitment to personal growth, Tim brings grit, honesty, and heart to everything he does. Born in Omaha and raised in rural Nebraska, he’s the youngest of seven and a devoted husband to Kayla and father to two young daughters, Elizabeth and Camilla. Tim’s journey, from wiring projects across the country to overcoming personal battles with addiction, speaks to resilience, redemption, and the power of choosing a new path.Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this deeply moving episode, Kara welcomes Annie Sklaver Orenstein, author of Always a Sibling: A Guide for Grieving and Honoring Your Sibling, to discuss her experience of sibling loss and grief. Fifteen years after the tragic death of her brother Ben, who was killed by a suicide bomber in Afghanistan, Annie shares her personal journey of navigating the complex emotions and challenges that accompany this unique type of loss. Drawing on her own experiences and interviews with other siblings who have lost loved ones, Annie offers invaluable and honest insights into the grieving process. This episode offers a heartfelt glimpse into the complexities of sibling relationships, the unique challenges of grieving a sibling, and the power of finding connection and hope amidst profound loss. If you have experienced the loss of a sibling, or if you are seeking to understand and support someone who has, this episode offers solace, insight, and a path toward healing.Highlights:The importance of sibling bonds and the often overlooked impact of sibling loss.The challenges of navigating grief in a society that often prioritizes "moving on" and the importance of honoring individual grieving processes.Common misconceptions and unhelpful platitudes surrounding grief, and how to offer genuine support to those who are grieving.Exploring anger and guilt as a part of grief.Identity shift that happens with the loss of a sibling.Annie's insights into the different ways that people grieve and the importance of honoring individual needs and preferences.The power of remembrance and the many ways to honor the memory of loved ones.Gain insights into the challenges of finding adequate support and resources specifically tailored to sibling loss.Moving on doesn’t mean letting go of the person you love.Quotes:"People tell you lies when you're mourning.""There are a lot of things that happen in our lives that are never going to be okay.""You want your parents to be able to take care of you...and they can't do that now."“I think a lot of guilt comes from a misguided desire for control.”Episode Resources:Book: ⁠ Moving On Doesn't Mean letting Go: by Gina Moffa, LCSWConnect with Annie:Book: ALWAYS A SIBLING: The Forgotten Mourner's Guide to Grief Annie Sklaver Orenstein is a qualitative researcher, oral historian, and storyteller who has spent over a decade collecting stories from people around the world. Her work has been featured on NBC Nightly News,Comedy Central, Huffington Post, Politico, TIME, and Mother.ly. In 2020, driven by a desire to share these stories beyond the walls of corporate America, Annie founded Dispatch from Daybreak, a collection of letters written by women to their earlier selves. She lives in Connecticut with her husband, children, dog, and chickens.Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this insightful episode, Kara connects with life coach and business consultant Ryan Spence to explore the journey of finding true fulfillment in all areas of life. Ryan shares his personal quest for deeper meaning and satisfaction, from navigating a challenging childhood to achieving external success, and ultimately discovering the importance of honoring his inner self. This conversation delves into the complexities of self-love, the power of setting boundaries, and the courage it takes to align with your authentic desires. Join Kara and Ryan as they discuss how to shift from seeking validation outside of yourself to cultivating a deep sense of inner peace and fulfillment.Highlights:Ryan's definition of fulfillment: a sense of inner peace without needing external validation.The influence of Ryan's childhood experiences, including his parents' divorce and his mother's mental health challenges, on his quest for fulfillment.How Ryan's early drive to avoid settling and achieve success fueled his personal growth journey.The role of spiritual awakening in Ryan's shift towards inner fulfillment.Ryan and Kara touch on anxious attachment, codependency and patterns from childhood showing up in his external seeking of fulfillment through datingReframing the concept of "selfishness" as a positive act of self-care and boundary setting.The challenge of balancing thoughtfulness towards others with prioritizing one's own well-being.Beautiful conversation contrasting experience from the perspective of masculine/feminine people pleasing tendenciesThe complexities of navigating cultural conversations around gender and equality while staying true to one's authentic self.I need to Do dating differently, I always focused on making the  other person happy because I thought that’s what a good relationship looked like (not honoring me…. Learning self love and self worth allowed me to make a shift)The significance of digesting and processing emotions from past experiences for personal healing and growth.The distinction between identifying emotions intellectually and experiencing them physically.Ryan's insights on navigating anger and sadness, and the connection between anger, boundaries, and passion.Quotes:"If we have true fulfillment...we're pretty grounded and rock solid in our own reality.""Are we being thoughtful because we feel like we need to...or are we being thoughtful because we...want to, and we're resourced enough...to do that?""Anger is feedback that our boundary is being crossed.""We really have to have this fulfillment from the inside of ourselves as opposed to trying to get it with how much money we get or how many clients we have or whatever title we have."Connect with Ryan:Website: https://www.ryanspencecoaching.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanspencecoachingRyan is a life coach and business consultant. He helps you go from feeling stuck and unmotivated to finding true fulfillment and satisfaction in your life, career or business. He accomplishes this through: helping you get clear on the vision of what you REALLY want, co-creating bite sized steps to get there and feeling supported along the journey!Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this raw and honest episode, Kara sits down with ordained minister, Kate Riffel, to explore her deeply personal journey from a seemingly perfect life to the depths of alcohol addiction, and ultimately, to a place of deep self-discovery. Kate opens up about the years of people-pleasing and overachieving that led her to seek solace in alcohol, and the difficult road she traveled to break free from its grip. This conversation delves into the shame, the struggles, and the eventual triumphs, offering hope and inspiration to anyone who has felt lost or trapped in a cycle of self-destruction. Kate's story is a powerful reminder that healing is possible, and that even after a significant fall, you can rise again, stronger and more authentic than before. Not to mention, she has a way of humor and lightheartedness that bring brilliant perspectives and insights into a heavy topic.Highlights:How Kate's tendency to people-please and overachieve stemmed from a childhood of neglect and a deep-seated need for validation.The slow and insidious way that alcohol became a crutch for Kate, eventually leading to addiction.The shame and self-loathing that accompanied her struggle with alcohol, and how it fueled the cycle of addiction.The pivotal moments, including a DUI and a particularly harrowing experience in jail, that forced Kate to confront her addiction.The role of faith and spirituality in Kate's journey of healing and self-discovery.The importance of self-compassion and forgiveness in breaking free from addiction and moving forward.Practical advice for recognizing when your relationship with alcohol has become unhealthy, and steps you can take to change that relationship.Insights for supporting a loved one who is struggling with addiction, emphasizing the importance of non-judgmental support and allowing them to lead their own journey.The transformative power of self-acceptance and the realization that you are not defined by your mistakes.Quotes:"My pain was I was trying to overcome overcompensation for the person I wasn't. I didn't know who I was… Drinking allowed me to escape the unbearable weight of never being enough.""Nothing is too hard to overcome. And you are not defined by your mistakes or perceived failures. Every day is a new day."“It’s not just a moral failure. It is a real thing going on in my body.”"I’ve learned to say “no”… No is a complete sentence."Connect with Kate:Email: [email protected] homeschooling mother of 6 kids appeared to be living the quintessential white picket fence life until she found herself drowning in a bottle of wine daily. With her life, family, and ministry hanging by a thread, she shares the raw story of falling into addiction and emerging as the whole person she never knew.Connect with Kara:Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.comPatreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenbergNewsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara sits down with Jason and Rhonda Halbert, the husband-and-wife team behind the novel Caretaker and a new hybrid publishing company. After reading Caretaker, Kara knew she had to talk with them about their deeply personal journey. This isn't just a story about writing a book; it's a story about navigating immense loss, trauma, and ongoing challenges, including the loss of loved ones and their forever home. Jason and Rhonda share how writing Caretaker became a lifeline, a way to process their pain and find meaning amidst the chaos. They also open up about their vision for their publishing company, a space where authors can tell their authentic stories without compromise. This raw and honest conversation will leave you reflecting on your own experiences with grief, the power of creativity, and the enduring nature of hope.Highlights: The Halberts' background in the music industry and how it shaped their approach to the publishing world. The challenges and compromises of traditional publishing, and what inspired them to create their own hybrid model. The concept of "weariness of hope" and the importance of community and connection during difficult times. How the Cereset treatment has helped Jason and Rhonda navigate trauma and access their creativity. The blending of the mysterious and the supernatural with the physical world in Caretaker, and how it reflects their own search for meaning.Quotes: Practical and heartfelt advice for aspiring authors: "Don't worry about it being perfect. Just worry about getting it down." "We are not in the victory and we are not the hero's arc. We're still in the middle of it all plus more." “You can’t end a book on a cliff hanger.” “But our lives are on a cliff hanger!” “We often pray for a clear path, but sometimes the greatest blessings come from the detours.” “The beauty of life is in the unexpected, and learning to embrace it rather than resist it.”Connect with R.J. Halbert, Jason and Rhonda Halbert: Website: https://www.rjhalbert.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/r.j.halbert Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rjhalbertauthor CARETAKER on Amazon: https://amzn.to/41281JeR.J. Halbert is the husband and wife team behind CARETAKER - Book One of The Goodpasture Chronicles, a supernatural tale about breaking generational curses to forge new bonds of hope. Jason Halbert, one-half of R.J. Halbert, is an Emmy and Grammy Award winning producer and songwriter. His songs have reached millions of listeners worldwide through multiple #1 and Platinum selling records. In addition to his 20+ year career as Music Director and Producer for Kelly Clarkson and several other notable artists, he has left his unique creative mark on numerous works in film and television. When not creating music, he loves bee-keeping, Sci-Fi, and is known to be quite a storyteller. Rhonda Halbert, the second half of R.J. Halbert, after homeschooling their two children around the world on a tour bus, has spent the past 10 years as a successful music and television manager, guiding her clients’ relationships with labels, networks, and producers. She is also a published photographer, music supervisor, passionate cook, garden enthusiast, and spiritual practitioner. Together, Jason and Rhonda have woven their 30+ years of life together into a riveting story, based somewhat on truth and experience, but even more so, brimming with imagination. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Patreon: patreon.com/KaraStoltenberg Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this deeply personal episode, Kara explores the transformative power of vulnerability and how sharing our most difficult life experiences can lead to profound healing. Expressing her journey of healing from childhood trauma and a near-death experience in the first four episodes of this season, Kara reflects on how being vulnerable in sharing her story not only helped her process pain but strengthened her connection with others. Kara talks about the ongoing work of integrating her inner child and how it’s deepened her sense of purpose and empowerment. She also highlights the importance of sharing your story with loved ones and how this kind of reflection can foster deeper healing and relationships. She reflects on the power of creative expression—whether through writing, art, or simply speaking your truth—as a means of processing trauma and healing. Looking ahead to Season 3, she invites listeners to continue the journey of vulnerability with her, offering support, hope, and deep connection. Sharing our stories is not just a way to heal ourselves, but it’s also a powerful tool for helping others on their own paths toward healing. Links to Kara's Story episodes: ⁠Part 1 of 4 (with her Son)⁠ ⁠Part 2 of 4 (with her Doctor)⁠ ⁠Part 3 of 4 (with her Sister)⁠ ⁠Part 4 of 4 (with her MFR Therapist)⁠ Highlights: The power of vulnerability in healing from trauma. How sharing your personal story can bring connection and deepen relationships. The role of creative expression in processing emotional pain and trauma. Healing childhood trauma and integrating the inner child to live a fuller life. The importance of being authentically seen in your struggles. How vulnerability creates space for others to share their stories and heal. Embracing imperfection and the freedom that comes with letting go of perfectionism. Kara is an international best-selling author, teacher, spiritual guide and mentor. Her caring, gentle, and humble spirit quickly draws us into a safe space.  Her desire to see humans embrace and achieve physical and emotional healing is the guiding principle of her life's work.  She is a master teacher and an intuitive mentor. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com⁠ Newsletter: ⁠⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with ICU nurse, Shelby Colette as she takes us with her to reflect on her adventures aboard the “Mercy Ship.” She has served as a volunteer twice on the ship, giving surgical care to people who would not otherwise receive it. Shelby shares that her journey with Mercy ships started even as a child. Her parents' travel taught her that the world was much bigger than her backyard. The dream took form in college when she saw a flier hanging in her nursing school hall that sparked a deep desire in her to one day be on that ship. Despite the dream, after nursing school she got a job, and was in a very serious relationship. Her life was settling down and she could see it written out for the next 30 years. But she felt a little part of her dying, knowing she was made for more. When Mercy ships reappeared, she knew it was her time to go. Even though it felt like she was exploding her own life and stopping everything she had been working for up to that point, she made the brave decision to break off her relationship and let go of everything she knew. Shelby shares her perspectives on how sometimes other people’s stories have a great impact on our own. She doesn’t claim to tell her patient’s stories, but rather honors them as she offers the great treasures she stored up from watching them hope against devastating circumstances, find joy amidst deep pain and have peace when there was no answer. Listen in to gain a valuable lens into a part of the world and a topic that we aren’t generally tuned into.  Connect with Shelby: shelbycolette.com Shelby Colette, RN, BSN has been a nurse for sixteen years.  She's traveled the world, but found her true passion in volunteering aboard Mercy Ships and serving the world's forgotten poor through the love of Jesus.  That's where Shelby discovered her true love of serving those the world has overlooked and a continuing deep faith in Christ.  Shelby loves reading, writing, and being a mom to her three beautifully wild children.  She lives in Oregon with her husband and kids. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is joined by Colby Coash, a childhood friend and author of the newly released book, Running Naked: Surviving the legacy of family in rural Nebraska. After reading his book, set primarily in their childhood hometown of Bassett, in three sittings, Kara was thrilled to get the opportunity to go a little deeper into Colby's story. The two talk about their reflections on growing up in a small rural Nebraska town, which they both hold dear. They share heartfelt conversations about hometown roots, themes of hard work, family expectations and growing up in true community. Kara and Colby also go into difficult conversation about the confusion he had as a boy of only 13 when his mom abandoned their family to create a new life for herself in a faraway state and eventually another country. Colby shares how the lonely process of writing his midlife memoir helped him make sense of and find purpose in his life thus far. He invites his readers to reflect with him through his childhood memories while offering his adult reflective perspective as he takes us on a journey through the stories he shares. The book and conversation will have you laughing and crying, reflecting and thinking about how your own stories shape your life and if you have children, your parenting. Connect with Colby: Website: www.colbycoashauthor.com Colby Coash is the Associate Executive Director for the Nebraska Association of School Boards, providing leadership and government relations work on behalf of elected leaders across Nebraska. This work gives him an opportunity to engage with policymakers and elected leaders using his experience as a former two-term State Senator. During his tenure in the Nebraska Unicameral Coash championed various causes, including child welfare, tourism, criminal justice reform, and support for people with disabilities. Prior to his public service, Colby worked many years in the field of developmental disabilities while operating group homes and emergency shelters for kids with disabilities. It was here he learned the value of advocacy and inclusion in all settings while working with the most vulnerable citizens of his State.  He has spoken regionally about his passion for advocacy and taking a simple approach to leadership.   His work has taken him from group homes to the Capitol. His training as an actor allows him to use storytelling as a medium for sharing his passion for advocacy and taking a simple approach to leadership. Colby speaks nationally in the areas of advocacy, employee engagement, performance coaching, communication, and leadership.  Colby holds a Masters Degree in Leadership Education and is an adjunct faculty member at Doane University and the Bryan College of Health Sciences.  He is married with one son and enjoys movie making, having appeared in dozens of short and feature films.  His debut memoir, Running Naked, Surviving the Legacy of Family in Rural Nebraska was released in 2024. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping into the important topic of postpartum depression with Holly Fisher. The two have an honest conversation about how moms aren't really given the space to acknowledge or grieve that a part of them is changing after the birth of their child. Holly shares feelings of guilt and repressed emotions around the thoughts she was having. It felt shameful to share them, so she suffered in silence to uphold society’s expectation of how she “should” be doing as a new mom. Holly emphasizes that her identity isn’t in being a mom or in her work or in her experience of postpartum depression and gives us all useful strategies to really check in on the moms we love. Postpartum depression isn’t a failure, it is a medical imbalance in a mom’s body after giving birth. Highlights: As a new mom, Holly felt guilty because she wasn’t feeling wonderful and didn’t want to admit that she was struggling.  Fueled by expectation that we are naturally wonderful moms and we are great at it.  Moms may be grieving/mourning a part of us that has changed.  Our society emphasizes a woman’s identity as a mom. We don’t take a moment to make that transition well. Moving into a new season, new roles. It is a huge adjustment. Coupled with her perfectionist personality and plans for everything to go a certain way, she didn’t feel like she was good at this. She was having thoughts like: “What have I done? Can I do this? How might I undo this? Can I go back in time?” Holly’s faith has been a landing place for her. This was a 3 year process to find healing and balance. Medication helped.  Peer support was so important.  Holly suggests always assuming there is a chance a new mom could be struggling.  Quotes: “I can’t stress enough the importance of reaching out for help.” “My Identity is not in motherhood. Not in postpartum depression. Not in work. My identity is in Christ.”  “The minute you think something is wrong, get some help. I suffered needlessly for months. You just don’t have to.” fisher-creative.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hollyannfisher/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hollyannfisher/ Personal Website: https://hollyannfisher.com/ Holly Fisher is the owner of Fisher Creative Marketing and a StoryBrand Certified Guide. She’s helped dozens of organizations clarify their marketing message and develop an effective sales funnel that generates more leads and boosts their bottom line. A long-time professional writer and former full-time journalist, Holly believes in the power of story to inform and engage. She has worked with clients around the globe and in a variety of industries. Holly lives in Asheville, North Carolina, with her husband and teenage daughter. She enjoys hiking, doing CrossFit, reading and driving her Dodge Challenger on the Blue Ridge Parkway. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg

In the episode, Kara is Stepping In with a woman who basically raised herself as well as often functioning as the caretaker to her alcoholic mom. Jennifer Royal grew up as an only child with a single mom who struggled with alcoholism and ultimately took her own life. Jen shares stories of resilience and survival as a young girl who had to figure out how to get what she needed to survive. Her mom did get sober for a time and Jennifer experienced much positive benefit from attending AA meeting with her but unfortunately her mom never did the full work to heal addictive tendencies. There were good times and high points but there was always a thread of manipulation running through, she was never really standing in her power to take care of herself. Kara and Jen talk about the grief and sadness related to not having a childhood which came up as she had her own children as well as Jen’s journey to neurofeedback and igniting her “healer energy” inspired by her mom’s untapped potential. This unthinkable story of trauma and resilience will take your breath away. Connect with Jennifer: Website: https://downtoearthcounseling.com/ IASIS: https://microcurrentneurofeedback.com/ Jennifer is a Certified IASIS Technician in Nashville, TN.  She has extensive experience in the field of functional medicine and nutrition. Her husband is a holistically trained chiropractic physician and together they work in serving our Nashville clients with a unique approach to brain health and wellness. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode Kara steps in with Sue Peters who found herself on a profound journey creating a new life and identity after the heartbreaking loss of her husband and best friend, John.  Sue shares inspiring perspectives and stories of certainty that convinced her she was never alone in this journey. The two explore how she moved from survival to wanting to be alive again. They share thoughts on difficult anniversary days, duality of emotions and finding ways to stay connected with someone you have lost. They highlight the depth of love that comes from processing grief of a loved one. If you have lost someone you love, you will find validation and hope in this episode. Highlights:  John’s medical emergency was on their son’s wedding day, which meant their hospital stay was 3 hours from home and  to further complicate their journey, it was in the middle of Covid which changed the medical visitation and made it difficult to support one another because of the rules they had to strictly follow.   After he died, there was peace. The “spinning” stopped. There was relief even in the sadness. Sue shares the ways she found stillness and centered herself in the midst of this experience as well as her profound experiences with God through the journey. Moments of certainty that she was not alone. Synchronicities of nature. Giving her the realization that her life was not over Irony… Learning so much because he died and yet missing him all the more because he is the person I want to share it with more.  Unique way Sue created to celebrate and connect to her beloved in a different way on special days like their anniversary, his birthday.  At first when John died, she thought now her life would just be survival until she could be with him again. She just wanted to go be with him Sharing her story and the building of relationships and new connections is what brought her out of the deep hole. Finding her purpose at this point in her life after all the changes. Quotes: “The more I am holding on to the “lasts”, it was torturing me. I am allowing myself to make space for new things to come in.  John was leading me.” “Nature helped a lot. I felt seen -  (in nature)God, universe, your loved ones see you.” “Gratitude is a huge part of it. I’ve been so grateful for each thing that comes my way. We are all able to receive them. No one is excluded… just a gift wrapped in a different package.” Connect with Sue: Website: http://www.susan-peters.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hearttosoullinks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sue7675923 Susan Peters is a writer, grief facilitator, mother, and grandmother from Indiana. She has been on a profound soul journey discovering her newfound identity and cultivating self-love after the heartbreaking loss of her husband and best friend, John. She is forging a path toward renewed life, authentic purpose, and genuine love by stepping forward to share her story to create profound connections with others facing loss and adversity. Susan aims to foster hope, understanding, and a fresh perspective of love, gratitude, and joy through the intertwining of our sacred stories to build relationships as we learn to navigate the challenging road of life together. She is in the process of authoring her first book, The Miracle of Marrying My Heart: One Woman's Journey To Discovering New Dreams After Loss, which will be available in Spring 2024. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with Renee Browning who recounts a long journey of grief and loss as she navigated 4 miscarriages amidst the births of her 2 sons and eventual adoption of their 3rd daughter. Renee shares that after pushing through, stuffing the pain and distracting herself, she eventually hit a wall and realized she needed help processing the deep grief she was feeling. The two talk about how miscarriage is a very lonely and isolating road. Renee shares that doing something to tangibly bring you peace, help you process and remember the lives of miscarried babies is an important part of healing. Her journey and perspectives will touch you deeply. Highlights: Miscarriage is a shocking and unexpected event. We have no idea how to process it.  Fear and worry are often present in pregnancies after the loss of a miscarriage. Ignoring the grief can happen by: Stuffing the pain, getting pregnant again, pouring into work, focusing on gratitude It is common to struggle with a friend having a baby. (common duality of feelings… pain within me and happy for you.) Renee talks about when you have faith for an outcome and it doesn’t work out that way.  Miscarriage was very lonely and isolating.  The experience of people minimizing the loss because it was early. Wrote letters to each baby to process and heal.  Do something tangible to mark the lives of your babies. Do whatever brings you peace, helps you process and remember. Renee shares how the loss of 4 babies shaped her… going through this experience of processing the grief has given her tools to process other hard things in life. Peace in the completion of her family with their adopted daughter. Gratitude, be more present and step in with others who are going through it, be as open and honest as you can. Quotes: “So my my word for people who are close to someone who's going through miscarriages, get in the trenches with, you know, if they'll let you in, just let them know how sorry you are and how awful it really is and just that you are there for whatever they need and just really show up” “I just think that because miscarriage is not that spoken about and not that open people are not that open about it. I think that people don't rally around you in the same way as other situations in life.” “Unpacking the grief was horrible and beautiful and tragic and life-changing all at the same time” Connect with Renee: Renee Thornton Browning is a busy Mom who strives to love her family well and spend each day living life to the fullest. She loves the Lord with all her heart and this love pours out into everything she does. She loves to travel and help people in any way she can. She helps manage her son Elijah and recently kicked breast cancer. She is the only women I know to go undefeated in chemo sessions with a 16 and 0 record making even Tom Brady jealous! Renee is the most loving person I have ever met. She pours everything she has into seeing the people around her succeed. She has been through so much in her life and has learned so much that she loves to share with other people. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with author and coach, Dr. Gemma Sampson. Australian by birth, Gemma grew up in a very rural town in Zambia, Africa in a missionary family. Returning to Australia her senior year, she quickly stopped telling the stories that were normal for her in order to assimilate into the teen experience of her peers, thus beginning the lifelong quest to find belonging. Throughout her life, Gemma has moved over 50 times living about 18 months in each place. Listen in to hear how Gemma found home within by learning to listen to the still small voice of her own intuition and not respond to other’s desires for her life. Highlights: The 2 key questions that pivot a lot of her decisions are ‘where are you going’ and 'what's stopping you?’ Keeping things to myself so you don’t invite other people’s doubts or negative energy into your adventure. Living light, letting go unpacking all the extra baggage I have been carrying around with me and finding home Boundaries as Barriers and walls for protection from hurt vs healthy boundaries as fences that let people in and out Guiding your ship for what is right for you. Spent her 20s floating and reacting.  Things change and evolve. Life without regrets. Living with intention.  Gemma recommends exploring through writing, creating space, and eliminating the noise to hear your own inner voice. The next steps or the creative ideas come through when you create space and get in nature, slow down, cut the noise.  When she finally moved to her current home, she found a place that feels like home. Following her inner guidance, led her here. If there is something you want to do: ask yourself, what are the stories you are telling yourself in your head…. And if you really want to do it, you can align, get out of your own way, start telling yourself the story that you CAN do it, and GET IN ACTION.  Quotes: “If we are sitting on the fence, sometimes the decision is made for us.” “Belonging is truly within you” “It's ok to look different. I know what is right for me” “What’s stopping me? Me. I am stopping me.” “Stillness and slowing down helps me tune in.” Connect with Gemma: Website: www.gemmasampson.com Instagram: instagram.com/drgemmasampson Youtube: YouTube.com/@drgemmasampson Dr. Gemma Sampson is an Australian adult third culture kid who grew up in Zambia, lived in England for 7 years, Girona, Spain for 6 and… stopped counting at 50 something houses. Searching for something. She currently calls home in Mallorca, Spain.  Dr. Gemma Sampson is an Advanced Sports Dietitian with over 12 years experience working with amateur and elite cyclists and corporate clients. She aims to optimize health and performance be that in training, competition or in the boardroom. Every athlete is unique. Your training program, races, lifestyle and personal ambitions are exclusive to you – which is why a cookie-cutter approach doesn’t work when it comes to sports nutrition. Her individualized and holistic approach to sports nutrition is tailored around specific training and performance goals. She is a passionate cyclist who loves working with motivated high performing endurance athletes and seeing them get results and achieve their goals. When I’m not talking about sports nutrition, you’ll find her practicing what she preaches and putting nutrition science into practice on the bike herself. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with True Joy Expert, Linda Shively. After healing from an abusive marriage and navigating the diagnosis and eventual death of her severely handicapped 3 year old daughter, Linda found her way to bounce back and reclaim joy in her life. Linda shares gripping moments from her daughter’s diagnosis to her last breath as well as recounting the years of despair and numbness to her new found purpose, triumph and joy in life. Her daughter’s joy and the joy that was between them keeps her going even to this day. Linda’s story of loss is tragic but the peace and presence she has cultivated are healing and inspiring.  Highlights: Linda takes us back to the stark white doctor’s office where her doctor told her Jessica wouldn’t live to her first birthday. After that moment everything changed for Linda, but she realized nothing actually changed for her daughter, so she tried to stay really present in the joy that was between them and give Jessica the best possible life she could in the short time she had with her.  They were in and out of the hospital constantly, making decisions navigating a very significant medical journey.  Creating an environment of other people who can support and help is so important. Doing a fundraising walk every year, she and her crew have raised over $1.5 million, and seen the evolution of now 3 treatments. (No effective treatments were available when her daughter was alive.) Now kids with spinal muscular atrophy are dancing and playing. Linda explains how if you don't do anything to heal and feel, grief is patient. It will wait for you.  Even if you don't feel joy right in this particular moment, you can get to it. It's different from happiness, because happiness is associated with something external.  Joy is internal, so even if there's something that isn't great that's going on, you can still have joy. Quotes:  “I have a lot to say about our society and how we deal with grief or don't…" “I didn’t want to stay stuck… I didn’t know how to get somewhere different, but I knew I didn’t want to stay in that miserable spot.” “She always brought so much joy into my life. That glimpse of her joy-filled life keeps me going even now. I’ve kept that powerful, joy-filled little girl in my heart and it feeds everything I do.” “The death of a child isn't something you just get over in a week, isn't something you get over in a few months. It's ongoing, it's just a new way of looking at life…” Episode Resources: Next Door Solutions to Domestic Violence: https://www.nextdoorsolutions.org/ Retreat Link: https://www.lindashively.com/events/ Getting To Joy by Linda Shively: https://a.co/d/asW7cvI Connect with Linda Shively: Website: https://www.lindashively.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LindaShivelySpeaker LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindashively Linda Shively has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, is a best-selling author, international award-winning speaker, and neuroscience and mindset expert. Linda has been a multiple-time guest on ABC, CBS, and FOX television, featured in a feature film and even performed at the Rose Bowl. After healing from an abusive marriage, and navigating the diagnosis and eventual death of her 3-year-old daughter, Linda found her way to bounce back and reclaim her joy in life. Today she helps successful women defeat the dragons in their life and elevate their joy to new levels. Linda has studied brain and mind function for over 30 years, earning a psychobiology degree from UCLA, is a certified Master Life and Executive Coach, a Master Practitioner of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), a Master Hypnotherapist, and a Certified Laughter Yoga Leader. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with Maggie Kang, a board certified radiologist whose nine year old daughter had a very sudden diagnosis of an incurable and rare autoimmune disease. That moment in time and the weeks following completely changed Maggie's life, her daughter's life, and their whole family's way of being in the world. The two talk about the importance of processing pain and grieving in order to truly find acceptance and live in the reality of now after life-altering events. Maggie shares her journey with exploring new ways of thinking about the changes in order to let go of resistance, move through her pain, and find a way to move forward. This episode will leave you full of hope. Highlights: Honestly exploring expectations of yourself and how that can put feelings of toxic guilt on you. Removing labels of Good and Bad helps you find acceptance and a way forward. Give space for recurring grief when you are navigating life events that change everything. It takes time to heal. There is hope. Mental and physical demands of caretaking. Transitioning from a regular life to mobility struggles, feeding changes, etc. When our kids are born we have dreams, let go of who they were to embrace who they are now.  Maggie’s world ended and became dark, then opened up and became very light again. Now they have an impact and can support other people on a similar journey. Focusing your thoughts as a practice to create your new narrative. Holding onto thoughts that allow you to feel hopeful and better within the new circumstances that are now part of life. The art of releasing guilt as a mom. Modeling behavior for our children, how getting ourselves better really does make a difference for our kids. Hard experiences give you greater depth of compassion for others Quotes:  “I think expectation of what you think things need to look like or what they should look like because they did in the past… does sort of impede your ability to move forward” “When a certain situation arises in our lives, how we respond to it is basically by way of our thoughts. And for me, when she was diagnosed, my thought was, this is my fault, this is terrible. I didn't know that I was choosing that thought. I just thought that that was the fact of the situation. But it wasn't, I could have chosen, oh my gosh, she is sick and I want to be the best mom I can be for her. Let me think about all the ways I can do that. There are different ways you can look at it.” “Living in the space of possibility and hope.” “At the end of the day, the thing that was most challenging was feeling alone.” Episode Links: Maggie Kang’s TEDx Talk: The Truth About Pain and Suffering Will Change Your Life Maggie’s Daughter’s book on Amazon: My Hospital Story Subscribe to Maggie’s Newsletter plus a free gift: www.maggiekang.com/narrative Connect with Maggie Kang: Website: https://maggiekangmd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maggiekangmd/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maggie-kang-03088a229 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiekangmd/ Dr. Maggie Kang is a board-certified radiologist, mom of two kids, one with a rare disease. She was the radiologist who was the first to see her nine-year-old daughter’s horrifying brain MRI in the ER. Her daughter was diagnosed with a rare disease, neuromyelitis optica. The ordeal motivated Maggie to shift her focus from radiology to mental well-being. Now a certified Life Coach, Maggie dedicates her time to supporting parents of kids in the rare and chronic disease communities. She also works with physician moms of kids with chronic needs one-on-one in her private coaching practice, MaggieKangMD LLC.  Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

Series Description (4 Parts):  Mine may be the most challenging story for me to hold space for… and yet in this 4 part episode series, I invite you into conversations with a few of the people who have been most present with me on my journey following a near death bicycle accident in May of 2018 that left me with a very broken body and a brain injury. For 6 years, the primary focus of my life has been healing, restoring and figuring out how to live in the now, AS IS. My own journey is very much the inspiration for launching this podcast as I deeply believe that being held and witnessed in our life stories is an important part of healing. It is why I step in with you and this time, I invite you to step in with me. Episode Description: In this episode, I am sharing a conversation with my myofascial release (MFR) therapist and dearest friend, Laurie Wheeler. I have often said, if there is no other silver lining to this event in my life, Laurie is it and that is enough. Next to my son, Laurie has been the most physically present in my journey of the last 6 years of healing and learning to live a very different life. She is a force of love like no other. Her presence has changed me, healed me. She is a gifted healer and has become one of the dearest friends I have ever known. In our conversation, we talk about everything recovery and healing, with much emphasis on the physical journey of my body through the hands on bodywork that she does (John Barnes MFR). Because she has also been such a presence in my life, we also talk about many other aspects of my life and healing in the past 6 years. Warning: This episode includes explicit descriptions of topics not suitable for children, specifically childhood sexual abuse. Keep this in mind if you are not in a place to listen about that topic today or have little people near you when you are listening. I believe talking about childhood sexual abuse is a very important part of healing the wounds and I also believe you get to choose what you consume and when it is best for you on your own journey to healing and wholeness. Episode Resources: John Barnes: Myofascial Release: https://www.myofascialrelease.com/ Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

Series Description (4 Parts):  Mine may be the most challenging story for me to hold space for… and yet in this 4 part episode series, I invite you into conversations with a few of the people who have been most present with me on my journey following a near death bicycle accident in May of 2018 that left me with a very broken body and a brain injury. For 6 years, the primary focus of my life has been healing, restoring and figuring out how to live in the now, AS IS. My own journey is very much the inspiration for launching this podcast as I deeply believe that being held and witnessed in our life stories is an important part of healing. It is why I step in with you and this time, I invite you to step in with me. Episode Description: In this episode, I am sharing a conversation with my big sister and best friend, Jen Bussinger. Despite many states between us, she was at my side in the ICU within 12 hours of my accident. Her support physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually has been the greatest gift of my life. I could never put into words what she means to me nor the depth of healing this conversation stirred in me. She helped me remember things from the beginning and the unfolding of time but we also talked about things each of us has experienced as a result of this event that we had never shared with each other previously. She is stepping in with me, I am with her. You see the layers of my story and the way her story of my experience is part of our conversation. We have worked very intentionally to live in the depth of love and relationship that we share and I am honored to share with you a small window into her love. She is so very special to me. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg

Series Description (4 Parts):  Mine may be the most challenging story for me to hold space for… and yet in this 4 part episode series, I invite you into conversations with a few of the people who have been most present with me on my journey following a near death bicycle accident in May of 2018 that left me with a very broken body and a brain injury. For 6 years, the primary focus of my life has been healing, restoring and figuring out how to live in the now, AS IS. My own journey is very much the inspiration for launching this podcast as I deeply believe that being held and witnessed in our life stories is an important part of healing. It is why I step in with you and this time, I invite you to step in with me. Episode Description: In this episode, I am sharing a conversation with Dr. Tyler Hurst. I met Tyler, who is a functional neurologist, about 8 weeks into my recovery and healing. Functional neurology was an unfamiliar modality to me and I quickly learned it was one of the greatest pathways to help my brain heal. Not only that, but Tyler is a phenomenal human and became like family as he walked with me, guiding me to higher ground in my brain healing. We talk a lot about the brain and how my brain was affected by my accident both physiologically and functionally. By listening, you get a glimpse into what it looks like to live with brain injury. You also get an insight into the emotional journey it is to lose function of the organ that allows you to be who you are in the human experience.  This one is filled with such deep insight into the invisible road to healing a person with brain injury walks. It is also such a testament to how important it is for patients to feel safe expressing what is happening for them on the journey BEYOND the physical. Being witnessed and validated in the wholeness of the experience is an important element for physical healing to occur. Tyler is a pro and I know that you are going to love him as much as I do! Connect with Tyler: thebrainhealthclinics.com Dr. Hurst was born and raised in Ohio. He became interested in chiropractic following a high school basketball injury and began pursuing an education in the field. After high school he attended Kent State University and obtained a Bachelor’s Degree in Exercise Physiology. He graduated from Palmer Florida in March of 2018. During his last two years at Palmer he completed the necessary hours to sit for the IACN Diplomate examination. He has been Board Certified in Neurology since May of 2018. He has been in private practice in Nashville, TN since graduation. In 2022, he and colleague, Dr. Dylan Saulsbery, founded The Brain Health Clinics. This clinic is dedicated to the treatment of neurological conditions such as TBI, stroke rehabilitation, dizziness and balance conditions, developmental disorders and chronic pain. Dr. Hurst is also dedicated to his family. His wife, Dr. Samantha Hurst, is also a Palmer Florida graduate. They are blessed with two children, Hudson and Otto, and are expecting their third child later this year. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

Series Description (4 Parts):  Mine may be the most challenging story for me to hold space for… and yet in this 4 part episode series, I invite you into conversations with a few of the people who have been most present with me on my journey following a near death bicycle accident in May of 2018 that left me with a very broken body and a brain injury. For 6 years, the primary focus of my life has been healing, restoring and figuring out how to live in the now, AS IS. My own journey is very much the inspiration for launching this podcast as I deeply believe that being held and witnessed in our life stories is an important part of healing. It is why I step in with you and this time, I invite you to step in with me. Episode Description: In this episode, I am sharing a conversation with my son, Coleman. He is the only person who has been part of the day to day in the last 6 years. His adolescence into young adulthood has been marked by this journey and he is the reason I have been able to keep going through some of the darkest and most confusing stretches. He is my MVP, my little buddy and my lifelong friend. His perspective is so valuable to me and I know you will be amazed at his endurance as the only child of a single woman who faced death and has had to rebuild from the ground up. That is a lot to carry when you are 12. Though it pains me to know some of the things he took on under our circumstances (don’t we all want the easy road for our kids!?) I am also beyond proud of the way he has risen to be the brilliant and beautiful young man that he is in these times of turbulence and uncertainty. I hope you enjoy this candid conversation between a boy and his momma… reflecting on our journey as it relates to my accident, subsequent brain injury and how it affected him and our family as a unit.  Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Lynette Molina, a woman whose gratitude and joy for life have literally saved her life. The two are talking about the very unexpected, recent loss of Lynette’s little sister. She shares her journey of grief and her gratitude for having loved another so deeply. Because of her childhood trauma which has wiped away many memories, losing her sister was like losing part of her memory. She was the one person who knew Lynette’s entire life journey, as they walked it together. From homeless in LA to PTA member in her daughter’s private school in Scottsdale, AZ Lynette has a great appreciation for every blessing in her life. To this day, every time Lynette leaves the grocery store, she sits in her car and cries because she is so grateful that she can buy anything she wants. Listen in for jewels of wisdom from a woman who has cultivated healing through gratitude in her defining moments, especially when life is hard. Highlights: If you love someone you will be in a grief season. We will all lose someone we love. The shock of losing someone unexpectedly Talking to my sister and feeling her presence Losing the only one who really knew me. Lynette shared the powerful story of when she realized she was not the only one hiding trauma. She didn’t have to keep it a secret. She could take off the mask. Move from wearing a mask because that is what you think you have to do to living authentically because that actually helps others heal. People want to see who you really are. Sharing your story can actually help other people. The contrast of growing up homeless in LA, experiencing a very traumatic childhood to raising their children in Scottsdale, Arizona, which is very fancy and high end. Somatic healing of trauma. Mind body connection Lynette encourages us to listen. Pay attention so you know how to support people.  Pick up the phone. People need to hear your heart. Being grateful doesn’t minimize the hard things you are going through. It is meant to balance them out and keep you in the game. Quotes: “Sometimes death is a defining moment in our life” “(Grief is) part of life… we're all going to experience it. It's a blessing If you love someone enough that you lose them and you're grieving.”  “We are not meant to go this alone.” “So it's like, no matter how sad, mad, whatever is just wrecking you when you say, Yeah, but I'm grateful. I just saw the sunrise… I mean, we were homeless. I was grateful my mom had a station wagon. Now we could all four sit in the back, lay in the back and sleep.” Connect with Lynette: Facebook: www.Facebook.com/lynettejmolina “I’m a wife, mom, a Grammy, a friend, a survivor & a lifetime healer of my soul! I’m a city girl living my dream in the desert with dogs & donkeys! I had a very traumatic childhood & I have spent my entire life healing and helping others heal too. Life is hard and beautiful! Gratitude is my secret weapon!” Resources: Book: The Body Keeps the Score - by Besser van der Kolk M.D. Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/happyhealthymamastribe Lynette’s Top 10 Life Changing Books: The Four Agreements  The Magic by Rhonda Byrne - 30 day Gratitude Challenge (1 per year) Journey to the Heart The Healing Season The Miracle Morning The Body Keeps Score Every Moment Holy Mending the Soul Vibrate Higher Daily Daily Word (a Unity Publication) Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Courage Coach and riveting story teller, Britt Ivy to talk about her very tender experience of having an abortion. Their conversation is not about whether it is right or wrong. It is not a political conversation. It is the story of an 18-year-old Britt who made the choice to have an abortion and later in life unpacked the many ways in which it showed up as self-sabotaging behavior, eating disorder, patterns of choosing abusing partners, numbing her feelings, and addiction until she found help, hope and healing years later. It is her life’s work to help other women heal. Highlights: Post Abortion Syndrome (PAS) is like PTSD for abortion. It shows up years and decades later. It is important to take away the religious and political charge and just talk about the experience it is for a woman to have an abortion. Men are taught to respectfully allow the woman to make a decision. For Britt, when her boyfriend was supportive in that way, it made it feel like the decision went from “ours” to “hers”. She highlights the need for the conversation between the man and woman… sharing the burden of decision. Panic took over. Fear of judgement, disapproval, the end of freedom. A moment of tears and peace as Britt speaks to her younger self: “I love you. You’re mine. Let’s take this journey together. There are no accidents. This life is ours. You are forgiven. You are loved.” People don’t put it together that the life symptoms connect to having the abortion. Quotes: “The world tells you there is no problem… I’m here to tell you there is.” “I am not here for a religious or political debate. I’m here for the wounded.” Connect with Britt: Website: brittivy.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/britt-ivy-speaker Founder of Heartlife Foundation, Britt Ivy, “The Courage Coach”, empowers women who have ended a pregnancy to bravely live with hope and purpose. As an Award-Winning Television Talk Show Host, speaker and philanthropist, Britt’s passionate faith propels women in transforming broken pasts into thriving futures. PATH2Thrive Course - Mission Statement - "I empower Christian heart-centered loving women of faith who have begun their post-abortion healing journey to overcome self defeating thoughts, patterns, and behaviors so they can thrive in a more confident, satisfying, peace filled life and be a blessing to those around them." Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with sought after motivational speaker and international teacher, Nyke Latrice.  Kara and Nyke talk about her single mom life, providing for her 3 kids (2 of her own and an added nephew who was also under her parental care) through numerous hustles while volunteering her heart to serve and volunteer in various ways in the community. Giving back, Nyke emphasizes empowerment by creating programs that give single moms a “hand up” instead of a “hand out”. The two also talk about the devastating murder of the nephew she raised and what it has been for her family to find healing. Listen in to this episode to be encouraged as a mom and inspired by Nyke’s advocacy for women and children trying to figure life out. Highlights: As a young single mom, the hustle of trying to figure this thing out. Stepping up your game financially, educational wise. Pick out different things, so if you get tired of this direction you have something to fall back on because it falls on you alone and you want to make sure you are providing the absolute best. What it takes today to stay connected in our families. God gives you children for a minute. They were never yours. They were yours to raise and let go. Letting go is the hardest thing. Be proud of yourself for what you accomplished as a mom. “I was living on subsidized housing. I was living, you know, using SNAP benefits. I said, I want to use this as a platform. When God puts me in a place where he wants me to bless other women such as I was, I want to do that” Honoring the delicate balance between empowering the single parent verses having pity on them. There is a single mom feeling of, ‘I don't want to be seen as less than I don't want to be seen as needy.’  Nyke talks about a “hand up” versus the “hand out”. It's a really important feeling for single parents to feel like there are other people who truly understand and have their back. In order to be the best you can be, you have to face your past. In my forties, I worry about who I am. I care about what I want, how I feel, I care about me. Quotes: “Life doesn't come with the manual on how to be a woman.” “I love what I do. I'm a voice for a single woman and her children. I was her not only that teenager that was trying to figure it out. I mean, you know, consistency is key, but so few commit to the process.” “I don't care if you are trash lady and you're picking up trash, you need to be the best trash picker up there is.” “Because if you don't have a mother that can take care of herself first, how could she provide to give to her kids?” Connect with Nyke: Website: www.NykeLatrice.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/nyke_latrice Facebook: www.Facebook.com/NykeLatrice Launching a beauty concierge services soon: F.A.C.E. (Females Always Create Excellence) Nyke Latrice is a lifestyle coach, licensed aesthetician, makeup and skincare specialist, motivational speaker and advocate for women and children. HeR mission in life is helping women evolve through life’s lessons by learning HeR first, empowering HeR and finding HeR self love. Through her numerous endeavors, Nyke has established herself as a leader in the beauty industry and in the Middle Tennessee communities. As a mother, Nyke believes that family is top priority in the balance of her life. She draws upon her own emotional life experiences to encourage others with her message of hope, empowerment, and success. An energetic and positive-speaking life coach, Nyke has the ability to edify her students and followers, and help them discover their true potential. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with genius mentor and beautiful soul, Tania Blanco. Tania shares the painful journey of losing her true self through her involvement in a religious organization and through her marriage. Kara and Tania talk about how she was not allowed to have a voice, but rather as a woman had to comply. You will hear how this emotional suffering showed up as physical problems in her body. Tania shares what it took to reclaim her power, create boundaries and dance her way back into loving her life.  Highlights: The motto in our home was to dream, to work for it, and no one is going to stop you. The pain of losing yourself and your voice. Hiding your genius and dimming your shine to keep people around you happy. Your emotional suffering shows up in your physical body. What happens when boundaries fall away in our life and what to do when you realize that. Reclaim you own power Food is powerful medicine, a very important element of our well-being. Using nutrition to help nurture your body. It's not about the situations we go through, but how we navigate them…Take responsibility and make decisions and go forward with action. Ask for help. Accept Help. Don’t wait to talk about it till you have solved it. Tania passionately guides us through ways to tangibly connect with nature, which was an important part of her own healing journey Quotes: “Vulnerability is a gift and a strength.” “I started missing my own self. Where is Tania? This person that I look in the mirror is not me.” “I wanted to fit. I wanted to be loved. I want to wanted to be part of this ideal of life.” “My physical body couldn't handle it.” “when you are doing things because you have to conform, you lose…your own personal path” “I knew that it was the moment for me to reclaim my own power... No one took it from me. I gave it away.” “Then we forget sometimes that we are part of nature.” “Seeing me and just being with me in it… It's so important to just listen.” Episode Resources: PINK – Never Gonna Not Dance Again https://open.spotify.com/track/0Uv0h4QmjeR9ew5AjyBR3i?si=1be9950e17cf456b Kara Stoltenberg – Restoring Earth (Journal) https://www.karastoltenberg.com/blog/restoring-earth Connect with Tania: Website: https://www.taniablanco.net Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/taniablancoblanco/?locale=en_US FacebookFor Spanish: https://www.facebook.com/taniablanco.blog Facebook For English: https://www.facebook.com/taniablanco.blog.en Tania is a Communicator as well as a Genius & Self-Leadership mentor who works with committed individuals, entrepreneurs, and entrepreneurs to be who are eager to live in flow, with joy and fulfillment. On purpose. As a nature's empath, she's constantly learning from Mother’s Nature Wisdom and rhythms (and sharing her findings). Originally from Mexico and based in Switzerland, she’s passionate about Positive Psychology, the Science of Gratitude and Purpose, as well as everything related to Emotional and Spiritual Intelligence.  She's on a mission to inspire inner change for personal and collective well-being while guiding committed Souls to Shine their Genius, communicate with purpose, and strengthen their EQ muscle, so they can be fulfilled, and LEAD from the essence of their BEING. Note: She works in English, Spanish, and sometimes in French. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with her client who recently reclaimed life through her second triumphant round with cancer. They explore strength, mental health and Maren’s transition from operating as a tightly wound twine to relaxing, letting go and allowing life to happen. It became obvious in her journey that she needed space to heal all aspects of her being. Once she created the space, she could see that parts of her life were no longer serving her and she knew she had to make changes that aligned to her highest self. Listen in for multiple extremely relatable conversations that took Maren from living in autopilot to conscious choosing in her life. Highlights: Unspoken dynamics of care taking and being cared for within relationships Letting go of responsibility to make everyone comfortable with the fact that you have this hard thing. Laying down her own expectations for normal performance during chemo. Struggling with coming off as weak or unable. Feeling guilty for needing to do nothing in order to heal. The experience of taking forced space The importance of surrounding yourself with people who allow you to share and are capable of listening. Anger is an emotion and it is trying to tell you something  Being comfortable with who you are is super important and not needing to be comfortable with OTHER people’s idea of who you are may be more important. Support others by taking on their mental load (“what can I do for you?” VS. make the choice, do the thing. Allow yourself to receive which opens the pathway for someone else to truly give.  Redefining terms… what is successful? Productivity vs. relaxing (whose expectations am I really trying to meet anyway?) Quotes: “I’m not happy every day. I’m grateful every day. Release the idea that happy every day is the goal.” “Cancer was here to show me some of these things that I had to work through in order to be my best self.” “Don’t get me wrong, cancer is a physical thing… but it is a mind game as well.” Connect with Maren: Maren Wasner is on a new path since having recently journeyed through cancer (for the second time), as well as a major career shift. She’s not out of the medical weeds yet, but is working through how to remain present and work through tough emotions throughout the process. She remains open to all that life brings and wants to trust the unfolding, while learning that it takes time, effort, and constant reminders. Enter Kara… <3 Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Backlight Productions* choreographer and CYT Nashville Program Director, Elise Horecka. Elise shares with Kara her experience growing up as the younger sister to her oldest sibling, Kari who has Cri du chat, a rare chromosomal syndrome. The two share laughs as Elise recollects fun and funny, unique childhood stories and encourages us all to approach people who are different than us with curiosity and acceptance, even when it is unfamiliar or uncomfortable. Her stories are delightful and her insights are so valuable. Prepare for laughter and a level of heartwarming that is rare. *Backlight Productions is a Nashville, TN based theater company for adults with special needs. Highlights: This is all Elise has ever known, so for her, family modifications for her sister’s needs were and are just normal.  There is so much we can take from these Backlight performers as they are so proud of themselves and focused on the right things. They are excited and proud to be there. It is special for their entire family. If you are willing to be a little uncomfortable, eventually you won’t be, because you will have created a relationship and bond with someone who happens to be a little different than you. Elise shares how it feels when people are awkward, and also when people are well meaning, wanting to lend a hand but it would just be easier to sort it out on their own. Tips for parents to equip their kids to be comfortable interacting with and accepting a person with special needs. Quotes: “It takes time to build understanding and relationship. Everyone deserves that. Just take the time.” “It’s ok to learn about people who you don’t naturally connect with because of the differences you have. Be willing to ask the questions and be uncomfortable in it at first and then eventually, you won’t be because you will have created the relationship and bond.” “I don’t remember what he said, but I definitely remember threatening to beat him up.” (elementary aged Elise in response to a boy making mean comments about her sister) “As a kid it’s hard to explain – “This is my sister, here’s how to act.” You kind of want to have your own life. You don’t want to talk about it or have a whole lesson about it.” “I like when people ask me, ‘What does your sister have?’… I really appreciate friends who want to get to know her. I didn’t realize how much I needed it.” Connect with Elise: Website: https://backlightproductions.org Elise Horecka grew up in Nashville and found a passion for creating and teaching theater and dance. She graduated from Belmont University in 2013 with a degree in Entertainment Industry Studies and Theater. She is the current  Dance Program Director at Backlight Productions and Program Director of CYT Nashville. Both communities give her the opportunity to share her love of the performing arts with adults with special needs and kids, and provide that to people who don't often get to be a part of it.  Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Amy Wiebe Ewoldt, a beautiful momma who has suffered unfathomable loss. Amy shares how in 2013, she lost her youngest son, Kyle while on an adventure from Australia to New Zealand aboard a famous 1920’s sailboat. Kyle bought a one-way ticket to New Zealand, met the captain of the Nina’ and begged him to join the voyage. He was eager to learn and easy to like… so without any sailing experience, the captain still agreed to let him join the crew. Amy holds onto the fact that “Kyle would’ve gone if there was a hole in the boat.” In this gentle sharing of both her and Kyle’s story, Amy offers us wisdom from a very vulnerable and deep place. Listen in to hear funny and inspiring stories of adventure and a zest for life that will live on in Kyle’s family and friends forever, while holding the unfathomable loss of a child and the life that continues on without him physically here. Highlights: The many emotions Amy and her family went through as they waited and hoped while the search for the lost ship continued  The day to day of putting one foot in front of the other, just plugging on. Things that felt supportive both during the search and after the search was called off, as Amy and her family adjusted expectations. It just feels like he is “hitch-hiking across the sea”. The shift from hope to feelings of hopelessness as the search was called off. Things they do to honor Kyle on significant days like his birthday, the day the storm hit and the day the search called off. A line in life – before and after things aren’t the same. The weight in carrying it every single day It’s hard to get up every day (sometimes self-care = getting up every morning and just GOING) No one can say “It’s gonna be ok”, because it’s never gonna be ok. Amy shares how she would offer comfort to any parent who has lost a child. “You cannot pretend to know what someone is going through, even if you have a shared experience.” She makes herself available to anyone who may just need a place to land, a place to be heard. “If there is a mother going through the loss of a child, I’m easily accessible. I will listen to you.” Quotes: “Kyle loved doing what no one else would do.” “We went on hope.” “It was hard knowing that even if they were out there on a lifeboat, they were not going to be found.”  “My pain is no greater than your pain.” “You have to take time for yourself and your children have to do what they need to do.”  “He lives on through all of us.” “Hug your kids. Tell them that you love them.” Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Rosa Cao Liu. Rosa is a remarkable young woman, who as an Asian Latin American immigrant from Venezuela moved to Canada by herself when she was only 17 years old. Kara and Rosa talk about what a frightening experience it was to know no one and speak a different language in a new culture.   Rosa encourages us to seek opportunities to bring growth into our lives by facing challenges with a winning mindset while brilliantly guiding us to our bodies when making any decision. She offers valuable insights to new language learners and tips for encouragement if you find yourself bridging the gap of communication with someone who speaks a different language than you. She is such an inspiration and her story of valor and bravery will motivate you and just plain make you feel good! Highlights: Practical tips for new language learners in a different culture trying to communicate. Get out of your head and into your body. Learn to use your intuition. Using adversity as an opportunity to grow. Approach anyone who is trying to learn a new language with a tremendous amount of admiration. Rose method:  R = remembering our roots O = outdoing ourselves  S = seeking opportunities E = ensuring consistency Quotes: “Because I had no one, I had to learn on my own and rely on myself.” “I'm leaving everything behind and I'm starting a brand new future.” “It's very frustrating that when you feel that you have so much to say, but you don't have the ability or you don't have the knowledge to communicate that and it makes you more frustrated.” “I learned to communicate effectively… isn’t just about expressing yourself. (There's also) many things that can me can be misconstrued if you don't do it well. (That was) a primary motivator to learn how to speak English better every day.” “What makes people successful is having a high level of self-awareness and using that self-awareness to propel themselves forward.” “The moment of realization when you see that it didn't matter what other people were doing, it only mattered what I was doing every day. And it was my own journey and that's when I realized, and this was the moment when I realized that in order to succeed, you have to have a growth mindset and you should not compare yourself to others, but rather yourself to yourself, because everybody else has different strengths and different weaknesses.” “When you compare yourself to yourself and are you better today than who you were yesterday, then you can truly see how far you've come and you are able to appreciate your journey a lot more.” Connect with Rosa: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rosacaoliu Rosa Cao Liu is an Asian Latin American immigrant born in Venezuela, of Chinese descent. She is a TEDx speaker, growth mentor, and co-author of “The Gifts of Pain”, who weaves her Immigrant identity and resilient journey to ignite personal and professional growth.  Through her R.O.S.E Method, she aims to empower people to unlock their true capabilities and lead more fulfilling lives. A career advisor and coach for almost a decade, Rosa obtained her BBA in Management and Human Resources from the esteemed University of Toronto Scarborough in 2017. Her purpose is to be able to inspire others to become the best version of themselves. She is very passionate about drawing out people's truest potential so that they are able to live much more fulfilling lives. She is currently an HR Systems Analyst at a global mining company, Kinross Gold Corporation, and aspires to be a motivational speaker. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara is stepping in with Clarity Coach and Pause Box founder and CEO, Meredith Vaish. They are talking about the journey she went through after years of making it all happen as a powerhouse female hustling in Silicon Valley during the tech boom of the early 2000s, followed by a 16-year career as Marketing Communication Strategist at Stanford University all while operating as an amazing family woman, married to the love of her life and raising their 2 daughters. Kara and Meredith talk about her forced stop when her body suddenly hit a wall and said with symptoms, “Hey, I can’t do all the hustle anymore.” Meredith shares how she had to really pay attention and change some of the ways she was doing all things.  Highlights: Learning to take up space. Are you comfortable needing space?  Feeling shame to ask for the space needed, afraid to let her team down. The voices in our head become the voices we imagine others are thinking about us. It takes trust to give up a good thing, knowing it’s not for you. Take a “soul-batical” to rest and do some creative things. Releasing it all and being ok with, there is nothing. Take time to listen and stop trying to figure it all out. Explore the 3 energies of hustle – pleasing, proving, and perfectionism. Learn self-honoring as part of succeeding. If you want to feel more golden, you have to dial up trust (which means turning down control) and turn on self-honoring (no more self-abandonment in the name of outcomes and success). Being very successful and yet feeling like a failure Turn on trust and self-honoring (and have compassion) when you see yourself in abandonment. Meredith shares her energy quiz to help you identify where you are operating from – hustle, struggle, autopilot or the golden, creative zone. Quotes: “I would just deliver, deliver, deliver. There was nothing I've never delivered. I don't even think I'd had a failure.”  “Who am I if I am not doing all the things?” (After taking space and going through healing,) “With solidarity, I knew I never want to go back…I couldn’t heal in a corporate cubical.” “The need to prove yourself and be valuable is a thread that needs to be untied. We are valuable.”  “I had to let go of the idea that I was being betrayed…My body is not betraying me (with the symptoms). She is my ally” “After 50 we are so powerful. How do you want to use your power today?” Connect with Meredith: Website: https://pauseboxco.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pauseboxco/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meredith.vaish LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/meredithvaish/ Meredith Vaish (pronounced: Vesh) is a Clarity Coach, Pause Box CEO, and Host of The Full Living After 50 Podcast. She’s passionate about helping women CREATE WHAT’s NEXT through intuition and soul-guided action so they can step into their biggest dreams without draining themselves. Meredith is a certified Sourced (™) Coach & Retreat Leader and lives in the SF Bay Area. Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg

In this episode, Kara steps in with author, speaker and brother, Keeper Catran-Whitney.  Keeper is the author of an amazing book, Helplessness: The Mental Health Challenges Brothers Experience After Learning our Sisters Have Been Sexually Abused by our Parents. Kara and Keeper dive deeply into the moment that changed everything in his family. One minute they were set to escape extreme poverty, signing on with Motown records to be the “new” Jackson 5 and the next, everything broke as the brothers learned their step father had been molesting their sisters for years and their mother knew about it the whole time. Keeper shares candidly about the way he experienced this trauma in his family and the way silence ate at him for 45 years until he finally found the way forward through conversations with his siblings. Join Kara and Keeper as they unpack a very dark and heavy topic while bringing light and the redemption of healing to the forefront. This is a beautiful and important conversation that offers healing and insight into unthinkable trauma. Highlights: As brothers, though the abuse didn’t happen to them, it affected them (traumatized them) and their sisters didn’t want to talk to them about it. Keeper highlights that as a brother there are no resources, which is what fueled him to speak out and create a place for brothers to break the silence. As a society we need to realize how rampant this is and how much it affects people's lives for the rest of their lives. When sexual abuse is part of your story, even if you've done beautiful healing work, it is part of your story. As a brother, Keeper shares he was so consumed with anger, guilt and shame. His self-esteem and self-worth had really just taken a beating. As a brother, be willing to let your sister say everything she needs to say. We step in with each other and just try to understand each other's experiences, I think this is where in humanity we can really make these deep connections and have compassion for one another. Giving rise to brothers in their conversation so that brothers and sisters can heal and empower each other. ‘I was sexually abused as a child’ has become an acceptable thing to say. But talking about it, really being honest about how it's affecting you today, that's still pretty taboo. Quotes: “And then as a brother, you hear the words. You can never prepare for…it makes no difference how old you are as a brother. When you hear your sisters have been sexually abused, it is devastating.” “And that's it for brothers. It's just guilt and shame that we feel at not being able to protect our sisters. That becomes all consuming.” “Having a conversation with my sister was the most empowering, healing conversation of my life.” “Brothers need to know that they are not alone. It makes no difference how old you are. If you are a brother and you are carrying this in silence, you are carrying it in silence.”   “I don't have words for the power behind these conversations and the power of healing that it brought to me to listen to them.” (Kara about listening to Keeper’s family conversations) Connect with Keeper: Website: www.KeeperCatranWhitney.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KeeperCatranWhitneyAuthor Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keepercw/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@keepercatranwhitney Keeper Catran-Whitney is the author of the book HELPLESSNESS, which is book one of the three-book series From Helplessness To Hopefulness To Happiness. His podcast, "This is For The Brothers," found on his website as a series of conversations exploring the impact on brothers of their sisters' sexual abuse.  Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with Jennifer Sullivan, a beautiful woman who (with her husband) made the exciting and courageous decision to move their family to live in Costa Rica. Jen shares that they had 3 dreams for their kids: to become confident world travelers, speak another language and know that life isn’t only suburban US. Their story took an unexpected turn when she was diagnosed with breast cancer days before selling their home and making the move. Kara and Jennifer explore the decision to move anyway, the journey through breast cancer with her family living in 2 countries and the deep depression she experienced beyond her healing. They talk about the humility of occupying the position of needing and receiving when the needs go beyond a round of casseroles. Jen shares beautiful stories of living and being in a completely different culture and the lens of perspective she discovered by being the minority. Highlights: -It’s easy to get stopped in fear with so many unknowns. Faith has to be greater than fear. -The beauty and generosity of community (beyond the casseroles) -Learning the balance of giving and receiving -Be inspired as Jen allows us to step into the world of Costa Rica and PURA VIDA “pure life” -Coming back caused her family to unpack the extreme programming of all the things you are “supposed to be doing”. -Bringing the slow-down of Costa Rica back into this culture -Say no. Be intentional about what’s really important to you (not what it will look like on social media or in the Christmas card, on a college app). -Know what makes you happy and what doesn’t. -In the aftermath after treatment Jen experienced deep depression, a loss of self-worth and negative scripts looping in her mind. -Who you are vs. What you do - Jen vulnerably shares how she hid the feelings of depression from most people and a few ideas on ways she coped during this time. Quotes: -“Asking for help is a gift.” -“There are so many different ways to do the right thing. What’s right for you and your kid?” -“I didn’t want stupid cancer taking away our dreams.”  -“If you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”  Episode Resources:  Pura Vida: Pura Vida is the national motto of Costa Rica and it sums up everything I am going to miss about it.  We’ve lived in Costa Rica for two years and Pura Vida has permeated my soul.  Literally translated, Pura Vida means “simple life” or “pure life,” but in Costa Rica, it is more than just a saying—it is a way of life.  It means being thankful and not dwelling on the negative.  It means no worries, no fuss, no stress.  It’s an emotion.  It’s an attitude. It’s happiness. It means let your worries go, everything will get done in due time.  It means let go of the things you can’t control. Enjoy the world around you. Live in the moment that is right now. It’s an inherent part of the Costa Rican culture and I want to figure out how to recreate it so I can take it with me, wherever I go. -written by Jennifer Sullivan and Bev Gray Connect with Jennifer: J. Sullivan Advisors Encore Retreats Thriving Through Transitions Retreat Rock The Empty Nest virtual conference  Jen is a travel junkie and now, an entrepreneur. She developed her expertise and her unique ability to create extraordinary experiences by working for The Ritz-Carlton Hotel Company for 20 years. Now she is the owner of a boutique travel consultancy, J. Sullivan Advisors, and the co-founder of a luxury experiential retreat company, Encore Retreats. Jennifer and her husband have welcomed friends and family into seven different homes in two different countries while raising their kids to be confident and conscientious world travelers. They reside in Richmond, Virginia but who knows where they will end up next! Connect with Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.steppinginwithkara.com Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

In this episode, Kara steps in with inspirational pop artist, songwriter and founder of “The Friends Forever Club”, Nedy Valdivia. The two unpack how her parent’s divorce affected her as a child and has affected her throughout life as various experiences have compounded the wounds of confusion, abandonment and feeling replaced. They share a vulnerable and deeply healing conversation where Nedy taps into the eight-year-old part of her and gives her a voice. If you went through the divorce of your own parents or are a parent navigating divorce with children, you are not going to want to miss this episode! Highlights: Going from being daddy's girl to feeling very replaced, like an outsider. My dad replaced us with his wife and two younger siblings. There wasn’t really a place for me in their home. “We were the visitors.”  That affected me more than I realized. As a kid you have a lot of emotions but you don’t have words. It’s a lot of confusion and loneliness. As a kid you don’t really know how to talk about it. The 8-year-old part of Nedy who felt her first heartbreak, has shown up throughout her life as a desperate feeling for love, subconscious fear she was never good enough and a fear of rejection and abandonment.Different circumstances come up over and over in your life that deepen those first wounds. We all wear different glasses, we all have different perceptions. Many years later it's still how things are. “It's just a matter of acceptance.” My expectations of my father became little to nothing. The lower your expectations are, the harder it is to be disappointed. Pain gave me a passion to live life to its fullest. It’s made me a warrior. What we go through is so influential, It affects who we become, what do and what we're passionate about. It’s powerful medicine to be the person that you eight-year-old self needed.  Quotes: “I experienced my first heartbreak when I was eight years old.” “I would have liked to have been more included.” “There was them and there was us. It still hurts so much.” “I just want to be loved. Fought for. Pursued. Like when it’s not easy.” “You went through that pain for this amount of time. Our pain continued for the rest of our lives.” “I believe that bullying is hatred.” “Part of you wishes you never went through that pain. But then you see the beauty that comes from it and then you're like, wow.” Connect to Nedy: Website: https://officialnedy.com In with the Outcasts: https://www.iwtotv.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialnedy There have always been those whose hearts dance to the beat of a different drum, those who see the world in a different way, and those who find our differences far more beautiful than our similarities. NEDY is one of those people. Armed with an enchanting spirit and a musical talent that is nothing short of stunning, NEDY is an inspirational pop artist poised to lead her loyal fandom into a brighter future. Her new single “Made to Be” now serves as the cornerstone to a new chapter in her career, in which her artistic soul never again tries to mold into someone else’s expectations. THIS is the music that NEDY has waited a lifetime to create. Connect to Kara: Website: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg⁠

Kara is joined by one of her lifelong friends. They explore the journey from shame and self-hatred to deep self-love through Brittany’s journey with breast implants, breast implant illness, and eventual removal of the implants to create health and vitality. Her journey through extreme body symptoms of chronic fatigue, dysfunctional brain fog, heart arrhythmia, motor issues led her to the discovery that her breast implants were causing these problems. She developed a plan to explant and get a fat transfer which further backfired and caused more problems. Join us for cleansing tears, vulnerability and ultimately a story of triumph over shame and imperfection. This is a woman who has found purpose in her pain… turning what felt like the awful in her life into a beautiful, valuable offering to other women. Highlights:  Body insecurities (which Brittany brilliantly emphasizes are not at all about the body). Brittany encourages us all to love our bodies, no matter our shape and size. The cultural drive to focus on body image  If you have ever disliked parts of your body, you will be inspired as Brittany has gone from hating parts of her body to learning to be SO OK in her skin “In our imperfection, we are just what we are meant to be” “I finally feel whole… and love me for me.” Connect with Brittany: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/1brittanyheyden Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/1brittanyheyden TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@1brittanyheyden Website: https://brittanyheyden.com Free Masterclass: https://www.thefatiguefixx.com/register Brittany DeVall Heyden is a nurse practitioner, owner and CEO of Renovaré Functional Medicine located in north central Nebraska. She is also a virtual health coach helping women FIXX fatigue and live with vitality by addressing the underlying imbalances within the body.  Brittany developed a love for functional medicine after battling her own health issues. Once she began to address the underlying source of her health problems, she realized the potential of a root-cause approach. She now dedicates her life to helping other women find health and well-being they once thought impossible. Connect with Kara: Website: https://www.karastoltenberg.com Newsletter: https://www.karastoltenberg.com/subscribe Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/steppinginwithkara Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karastoltenberg

Join me as I step in to beautiful conversations with men and women from many walks of life who are willing to share their stories. These chats will change your perspectives, challenge your judgements, cultivate more compassion and straight up offer you a toolbox of real time offerings if you find yourself in the thick of life. If you are intrigued to find true peace in your present moment, live from love no matter where you are and cultivate deep acceptance for yourself and the life you are living, you have landed in a gold mine. I am so glad you're here.