Still Becoming Podcast

what does it feel like to live in Paris?—join me into a deeper reflection on travel, grief, and the people who shape us.A quiet reminder that it’s not the place, but the moments and connections, that truly ground us.

[English]Do you realize that we spend most of our waking hours working?In this special French-language episode, Zefa explores the tension between the security of a CDI (permanent contract) and the courage to pursue passion — especially after becoming a mother.From burnout and work-life balance to French work culture and Denmark’s “flexicurity” model, this episode asks a powerful question:Are you staying because you love it — or because you’re afraid?[Français]Nous passons la majorité de nos journées au travail. Mais à quel prix ?Dans ce premier épisode en français, Zefa s’interroge sur le paradoxe français : la sécurité du CDI peut-elle devenir une prison dorée ?Inspirée par une interview d’Eric Dane et par le modèle de « flexisécurité » danois, elle partage une réflexion intime sur l’impact de notre épanouissement professionnel sur nos enfants.Pourquoi restons-nous dans un job qui ne nous correspond plus ?Quel héritage voulons-nous laisser à la prochaine génération ?Un épisode sur le courage de changer, l’attachement parent-enfant, et cette promesse essentielle :« Je ne suis pas un arbre. »

What if the real mental load isn’t the to-do list — but the identity of always having to perform?In this episode, I reflect on a simple moment in a Pilates class that made me question how I move through life. As a high-achieving woman who once called herself a “Shark,” I’ve spent years chasing performance, perfection, and belonging — even outside the workplace.From sacrificing moments with my family to navigating pregnancy loss and the sudden passing of my father, I share how grief humbled me and reminded me that we are living on borrowed time.This is a conversation about:The invisible mental load of always being “on”The pressure to prove yourself as a woman in the WestBeing replaceable at work, but irreplaceable at homeLetting go of performance and learning to move with easeIf you stopped performing today — who would you be?

In this episode of Still Becoming, Zefa reflects on the complexities of identity shaped by cultural origins, passport privilege, and life abroad. Drawing from her experience as an Indonesian woman building a career in Europe, she explores how accent, perception, and self-image influence belonging—both personally and professionally. Through stories of work, borders, and motherhood, Zefa invites listeners to embrace their roots, honor multicultural identity, and redefine what belonging truly means.

What if your "dream life" isn't in the future, but in your present? In this debut episode, I revisit a wishlist I wrote 15 years ago and realize something after my recent travel: I am living exactly what I once prayed for. We’re discussing the transition from wanting to noticing and how to recognize your own manifestations. Join me in questioning everything and make sure to subscribe.

In this first episode, i want you to get to know me, Zefa, your host and why the name and the platform Womb Warriors was born. It's a story of loss and grief and how my Dad inspired me to transform it into something beautiful. Welcome to Womb Warriors, a safe space podcast.