Tea With TJ

A dream can be so familiar that you stop asking whether it’s actually yours. I sit down with my friend Hillary Dominguez to talk about what happens when motivation fades in a creative career and how one unexpected moment can completely reroute your path.Hillary shares her story of growing up as a child actor in Seattle, chasing musical theater, and carrying that quiet pressure that you’re always one year away from the “big break.”  and the surprising way a mentor offered a safer step forward: assistant directing. That behind-the-scenes doorway turned into a real passion for directing, casting, and building stories from the other side of the table.We also get honest about imposter syndrome, downplaying your own work, and the tricky balance of collaborative leadership. Finally, we go deep on vulnerability, therapy, self-respect, and building a chosen family that holds you accountable when your dreams feel scary to say out loud.If you’re navigating burnout, a career pivot, or the question of what you want next, this conversation is for you. Subscribe to Tea With TJ, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

A song can be a boundary you finally honor. We sit down with Eight—artist, activist, and wellness visionary—for the exclusive premiere of “Switch Up,” a pulsing statement born from being underestimated and deciding not to be. That spark opens a candid journey through creative growth, mental health, and a bold reimagining of what a supportive community can look like for artists and neighbors alike.We start with craft: how moving from overthinking to feeling changed Eight's songwriting, and why certain lines hit like a mirror when love turns careless. From there, the lens widens to seasons of change—moving from New York to Florida, navigating trauma, shedding people-pleasing, and choosing a new brand identity rooted in warmth, and grace. Eight shares practical tools for anxiety and depression, from breathwork and yoga to guided meditation, and explains how those practices inform a new wellness collective bridging art, mental health, and community resources so people can be seen for both their creativity and their lived experience.Spirituality threads the conversation. Eight speaks openly about a love-centered view of God and the universe, then shares the power of identifying as Two-Spirit in Indigenous tradition—honoring both masculine and feminine energies, protecting gifts, and leading with service. We trade rituals that keep us steady—morning grounding, the simple ceremony of tea—and name the mindset shifts that carry us through uncertainty: zoom out, choose worth, and keep eyes on the horizon. If you’re standing at the edge of a big decision, take Eight’s clean advice: don’t believe the doubt.If this conversation moved you, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a quick review so more people can find the show. What season are you in right now?Switch up Single Listen HereFollow Eight on IG @theeighthkingSupport the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

What happens when the mask that kept you safe starts to shrink your life? We sit down with our friend Jeffrey Vizcaino—actor turned Playbill social lead—to talk about performance, protection, and the messy art of speaking in your real voice. Jeffrey takes us from his early theater years and burnout to building inclusive platforms for new songwriters and off-Broadway creators. Then we get honest about the masks queer people of color learn to wear: the lowered register to dodge mockery, the “retail voice” that smooths edges, the posture we adopt in rooms thick with flags that feel like warnings.The conversation moves from community to self. Inside queer spaces, labels can liberate and limit at the same time. We unpack “masc for masc,” desirability politics, and the pressure to refit your hair, clothes, and energy to match a trend that changes with the algorithm. Jeffrey shares how confidence lands differently when a camera and a celebrity are involved. We draw a line between professionalism and self-erasure, and why platform size shouldn’t be the price of authenticity.Therapy and language become turning points. TJ shares how the pandemic ended his habit of filtering Southern Black vernacular to stay “palatable,” and how learning to name feelings—clearly and without apology—changed work and love. We talk about emotional masks, why partners aren’t therapists, and the small rituals that help us unmask at home. Along the way we make space for joy and the everyday grace of liking your own smile or your own eyes in the mirror.If you’ve ever wondered where safety ends and self begins, this one’s for you. Hit follow, share with a friend who needs the reminder, and leave a review with the mask you’re ready to retire. Your story could be the permission someone else is waiting for.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

What we leave unsaid can steer our lives as much as anything we declare. This week, we sit down with producer and theater enthusiast Kevin Ferg to trace the quiet turning points that shaped his path—from Columbus, Ohio, to the buzzing stages and back offices of New York City. Over a pot of strawberry green tea, we dig into the messy middle between truth and strategy: how coming out unlocked confidence and creativity, and how staying silent at work can be smart or self-defeating depending on what’s at stake.We talk candidly about fear of being othered, the relief of finally saying “I’m gay,” and the strange ways auditions, rooms, and relationships shift once you’re not hiding. Then we get practical: when silence preserves your future self, when it erodes your body and paycheck, and how collective voice can move a room more safely than going solo. His story about dancing eight months in shoes two sizes too small becomes a blueprint for better boundaries, clearer asks, and protecting your craft.If you’ve ever wondered whether to speak, to wait, or to let the room carry the message, this conversation offers real-world cues and hard-won wisdom. Press play, sip something sweet, and tell us: what truth changed your path once you finally said it out loud? If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review—your words help more listeners find us.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this episode, TJ and and guest TJ Gibson discuss the power of manifestation and the importance of writing down your desires. They share personal stories of how they have manifested things in their lives and the role of gratitude in the manifestation process. They also discuss the balance between being specific in your manifestations and remaining open to different possibilities. TJ shares how he has manifested clients and his career as a stylist, while TJ emphasizes the importance of finding peace at home. They both express their fear of not fully realizing their purpose and the practice of gratitude through writing and speaking.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Join us for an intimate conversation with the talented Calvin M. Thompson as we explore the complexities of navigating rejection in the arts. From his roots in Aiken, South Carolina, to the bustling streets of New York City, Calvin shares his journey and the resilience it requires to thrive as a Black artist in a demanding industry. We reminisce about our first meeting during auditions for the Motown national tour and discuss how our connection has evolved into a rich friendship. Calvin opens up about the inspiration he drew from Barack Obama's 2008 election, a milestone that fueled his belief in his potential and set the tone for his artistic endeavors.We also tackle the profound themes of self-love and purpose, drawing on the wisdom of the late Chadwick Boseman. Calvin and I reflect on the grounding power of love and how embracing rejection can lead to true alignment with one's path. Through personal anecdotes, we discuss the unpredictable nature of the theater world and the courage it takes to walk away from opportunities that don't resonate with personal values. This episode offers listeners a fresh perspective on finding authenticity and fulfillment in their work by embracing each "no" as a stepping stone to the right "yes."Finally, we celebrate the importance of maintaining identity and authenticity in creative spaces. Calvin and I delve into the responsibility of choosing roles that reflect diverse Black experiences and the challenge of staying true to oneself amidst external pressures. We share our aspirations to tell powerful and authentic stories, emphasizing gratitude and self-awareness as keys to navigating the artistic journey. So, grab your cup of tea and join us in this heartfelt discussion. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram at Tea with TJ Podcast, and stay tuned for more inspiring conversations!Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

What truly defines your self-worth, and how does it intertwine with confidence? Together with our insightful guest, Lonnie, we unpack these intricate concepts, sharing a transformative gem from his therapist that changed his perspective. While achievements might boost our confidence, self-worth is rooted in loving ourselves just as we are. Listen as we discuss how this understanding influences our ability to form deep, authentic relationships and the hurdles personal history and independence can present in building trust.Ever wondered about the complexities of polyamory and open relationships, especially through the lens of someone from a marginalized community? Lonnie brings his personal experience to the table, shedding light on the unique challenges and misunderstandings faced by polyamorous individuals. We delve into the emotional rollercoaster of dating in such a framework, the significance of self-love amidst rejection, and why having the right words to express emotions is crucial for personal growth and understanding.We also explore the fascinating dynamics of non-monogamous relationships, inspired by public figures like Shan Boodram. From public misconceptions to maintaining multiple partnerships, we emphasize the role of communication and consent. Lonnie shares his vision for an ideal polyamorous relationship where autonomy meets connection. Join us for an eye-opening conversation that highlights the joys, challenges, and freedoms of polyamory, providing insights for those curious about or practicing this relationship style.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Ever wonder how a change in scenery can profoundly impact one's mental health? Lonnie Woods III, a remarkable creative professional, joins us on "Tea With TJ" to share his journey from Baltimore to Los Angeles. As a first-generation college student, Lonnie talks about his passion for photography and his pursuit of a master's degree at NYU, blending art with education. He reflects on his cross-country moves, motivated by the search for balance and better mental well-being, revealing the underlying challenges of seasonal depression encountered during the pandemic in New York. Despite the allure of sunny California, Lonnie's heart continues to resonate with the East Coast's vibrant energy.Relationships are not just connections but pivotal elements that shape us, especially within the Black queer community. Together, we examine the multifaceted dynamics of love, friendship, and mentorship, sharing personal insights from his journey as a poet. The conversation highlights the courage it takes to write about relationships from a place of vulnerability and the unique experiences of people of color forming connections in predominantly white spaces. Explore how these interactions become a tapestry of support, empowerment, and personal growth, crucial for navigating identity and community.Authentic self-worth and self-love are the cornerstones of meaningful relationships. In our conversation, we unpack the importance of understanding one's true self and how this awareness shapes interactions in bustling metropolises like New York and Los Angeles. Through personal anecdotes, including a spontaneous connection on a New York train, we discuss the transformative power of confidence, self-awareness, and embracing one's values. Our dialogue underscores that self-worth shouldn't depend on external validation, inviting listeners to embark on a journey of embracing authenticity in every aspect of life.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Broadway star Anastacia Mccleskey takes center stage on this episode of Tea with TJ, offering a captivating glimpse into her illustrious career that began at the American Musical and Dramatics Academy. From her debut in the national tour of "Hairspray" to shining performances in celebrated productions like "Tarzan," "Book of Mormon," and "Priscilla, Queen of the Desert," Stacey's journey is a testament to passion and perseverance. Discover her unique perspective on rebounding from the pandemic, her return to the stage in "Hercules" at the Paper Mill Playhouse, and her fascinating experiences on London's West End and in "Sex and the City 2."Ever wondered how gratitude and abundance can manifest your dreams? Anastacia and I explore this transformative concept, sharing personal stories and practical advice on harnessing gratitude to live a fulfilling life. Listen as we discuss the art of writing down goals and then releasing them to the universe, revealing how this approach can reduce the pressure and fear surrounding auditions and life’s unpredictable events. You’ll learn the value of embracing the present and how seeing abundance in the small things can lead to a more meaningful existence.Explore the intersection of creativity, spirituality, and self-awareness with Anastacia as she opens up about her journey of self-love and discovery. We touch on the importance of solitude, energy practices for artists, and Stacey's inspiration behind her TikTok series "Hello Beautiful Spirits." From sound baths to protective energy techniques, Anastacia shares insights into maintaining balance while navigating the pressures of performing. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of personal growth, offering listeners inspiration and practical tools to foster self-awareness and inner strength.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this episode, TJ welcomes Kendra Holloway, an artist from Kentucky, who shares her journey from a small town to New York City. Kendra discusses her experiences in the arts, the impact of attending an HBCU, and the importance of lived experiences in shaping her career. She reflects on pivotal moments that influenced her decision to pursue acting seriously, the challenges of navigating the acting industry, and the significance of faith and intuition in her journey. Kendra also emphasizes the value of community and mentorship in the arts, particularly for actors of color.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

How do creative souls navigate the turbulent waves of life and emerge stronger? Join me, on "Tea with TJ" for an intimate conversation with William Sinclair Moore, an actor, new age spiritualist, and podcaster. William's journey is a compelling narrative of overcoming depression, rediscovering himself through multiple relocations, and embracing healing practices like tarot, yoga, and sound baths to enhance his personal well-being.Ever wondered how artists turn their imaginative sparks into tangible creations? William and I explore the unique energy and creative processes that drive artists to bring their ideas to life. We emphasize the importance of nurturing the inner child, especially when dealing with past traumas, and share personal anecdotes that highlight the emotional baggage we all carry. With heartfelt stories about reconnecting with childhood through television shows and the transformative impact of therapy and self-awareness, this episode is a testament to the resilience and power of the human spirit.We discuss the weight of words, the necessity of kindness, and the practice of gratitude as cornerstones for achieving personal peace and authenticity. Tune in for a heartfelt episode that celebrates resilience, creativity, and the healing power of embracing your true self.You can find William: @sinclairizmSage the house down podcast: Sage the House DownSupport the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

How much of our lives would change if we truly listened to our parents and embraced their wisdom earlier? Join me for an enlightening conversation with my dear friend Q Smith, a multifaceted actress, voiceover artist, and educator thriving in New York City. From our serendipitous meeting at a musical's stage door in Chicago to the cherished memory of the introduction to sticky rice, we explore how small acts of kindness leave lasting impressions. Q opens up about the lessons she wishes she had learned before turning 40, including the importance of taking education seriously and facing fears head-on. These reflections resonate deeply as she now navigates the complexities of raising a child in the vibrant, and sometimes chaotic NYC.In Our conversation Q shares the impact of her grandmother's wisdom on leading with love and joy. We discuss how avoiding unnecessary conflicts and focusing on the bigger picture helps us let go of what’s beyond our control, illustrated through Q's own experiences in the theater world. From a missed job to an unexpected fulfilling role, her journey highlights the significance of patience and acceptance. We round off this heartfelt episode by delving into how motherhood has transformed Q’s career and personal life, showcasing how her family now guides her decisions and enriches her artistry. This episode is brimming with wisdom, humor, and genuine inspiration that you won't want to miss.You can find Q on:IG: @qperstarWebsite: www.qdotsmith.comCoaching: www.yourstageyourmoment.comVlog: @stallingsontheriseSupport the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

What happens when you take a leap of faith? Our guest, Arnold Harper II, did just that, leaving behind his job in Baltimore to pursue his dreams in New York City. From his humble beginnings, to his mother's undying support and an unexpected job offer, Arnold's inspiring journey is a testament to resilience and the transformative power of passion. This episode of Tea with TJ promises to leave you uplifted and motivated, as Arnold shares the pivotal moments that shaped his career as an actor, singer, and stylist.Let's explore the profound effects of the pandemic on our social and mental well-being. Arnold and I discuss how the absence of social interactions during lockdown led to contrasting experiences—some found joy in close-knit living situations, while others grappled with isolation. We also tackle the complexities of readjusting to normalcy post-pandemic, from maintaining focus amid overwhelming circumstances to the surge of self-tape auditions. This candid conversation captures the shared and individual journeys of adaptation and healing during challenging times.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Have you ever wondered what truly fuels creativity and resilience in the face of life's challenges? Join me, TJ, as we wrap up an enlightening season two of Tea with TJ with heartfelt reflections and transformative moments from our incredible guests. From the unexpected joy found on a farm to the profound revelations brought on by the pandemic, this episode is a tapestry of inspiration and hope. We'll share personal stories of overcoming rejection and finding healing through creative expression, all while highlighting the importance of being a role model for younger generations and the transformative power of shared happiness.In this special finale, we dive deep into the emotional impact of familial relationships and the alignment inherent in storytelling. You'll hear about the resilience that laughter and gratitude can bring, and how self-assurance can be a comforting companion through life's ups and downs. We also explore the fears that keep us up at night and the inspiration we draw from our achievements, both personal and professional. Lastly, we underscore the vital importance of representation and visibility, celebrating the love we find within ourselves and the drive to uplift underrepresented communities. Don't miss this heartwarming conclusion to season two and get ready for even more inspiring stories in season three.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

This heart-to-heart is a dance between the tenderness of self-compassion and the rhythm of daily life's relentless pace. We tackle the art of self-parenting, a concept that intertwines the acknowledgement of our imperfections with the relentless pursuit of our dreams. You'll hear us muse about the equilibrium between granting ourselves leniency during life's storms and steadfastly keeping up with the mundane, like ensuring there's clean laundry. Sprinkled with personal memories, our dialogue is an invitation to nurture trust in oneself through dedicated self-care and to intentionally curate moments of tranquility and delight amidst our bustling existences. Sit back, sip your tea, and allow us to accompany you on this exploration of self-acceptance, with Ashley Kristeen Vega as our guest this week.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Have you ever felt the tug-of-war between who you are and who society expects you to be? Today, I had the pleasure of sipping tea with Chethan, a dazzling beacon of individuality from the bustling streets of New York. As an actor, drag queen, singer, and dancer, he peels back the curtain on his transformational journey, one that has seen him merge the masculine and feminine into a harmonious existence. Through his story, we unravel the threads of self-love and the sheer bravery it takes to defy the cookie-cutter norms, finding acceptance and growth in the most unexpected places.This episode is a celebration of the colorful tapestry that is Chethan's life – from the cultural significance of his drag performances, adorned in the transformative elegance of a sari, to the practical wisdom he shares for budding drag artists seeking to carve out their own identity.  Chethan's anecdotes provide a roadmap for embracing passion and self-representation, underscoring the importance of perseverance in the face of agency pigeonholing and the quest for true self-love. So, pull up a chair, and let's toast to the art of being unapologetically oneself, an inspiring journey that Chethan navigates with grace and flair.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this episode of Tea with TJ, TJ interviews Jai the Gentleman, the host of the podcast Dear Black Gay Men. They discuss the concept of healing and the different ways in which individuals can heal. They also explore the importance of uncovering and embracing all aspects of one's identity, including race, sexuality, and gender. The conversation delves into the healing process in relationships, the challenges faced by black gay men, and the need for forgiveness and acceptance. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of living in the present moment and letting go of past traumas. In this conversation, Jai shares his personal journey of starting the Dear Black Gay Men  podcast after a breakup. He discusses the emotional stagnation he experienced and how he found inspiration to create a platform for black gay men to share their stories. The conversation also explores the importance of creating space for truth and vulnerability, as well as the evolution of Tea With TJ. Jai reflects on the lack of honest and vulnerable podcasts and shares his joy in connecting with listeners and finding beauty in the resilience of black men.TakeawaysHealing is a personal journey that involves confronting past traumas and embracing all aspects of one's identity.The healing process in relationships requires forgiveness, acceptance, and understanding that everyone is doing the best they can.Black gay men face unique challenges in society and need to explore and cultivate all aspects of their identity.Living in the present moment and letting go of past traumas is essential for personal growth and healing.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this episode, TJ and Derric  discuss the topic of insecurities. They share their personal experiences with insecurities and how they have learned to overcome them. They emphasize the importance of self-love and being present in the moment. The conversation also touches on the journey of self-acceptance and the power of authenticity. Connect with Derric: The Grown up Podcast Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this episode, TJ and Bernard Holcomb discuss the importance of self-worth and acceptance. Bernard shares his journey of realizing that he is enough just as he is, and how this realization has transformed his life. They also explore the role of pain and self-discovery in finding self-acceptance. Bernard emphasizes the importance of therapy, medication, meditation, and finding a supportive community in his journey. They discuss the intersection of spirituality and self-acceptance, and how to navigate the challenges that may arise. The conversation concludes with insights on dealing with rejection and finding inner peace.TakeawaysSelf-worth and acceptance are intertwined and essential for personal growth.Realizing that you are enough just as you are is a powerful and transformative lesson.Pain and self-discovery can lead to self-acceptance and a better understanding of oneself.Therapy, medication, meditation, and finding a supportive community are valuable tools in the journey of self-acceptance.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this episode, TJ and Jaxin Jackson discuss the topic of believing in something bigger than yourself. Jaxin shares how his yoga and Buddhist practices have formed a foundation of belief and helped him stay grounded in his values. They explore the concept of taking responsibility for one's life and the power of realizing that the problem isn't bigger than oneself. Jackson also discusses the importance of challenges as opportunities for growth and how daily practice helps him stay present. They touch on moments of reflection and check-ins, as well as different perspectives on meditation and finding meditative moments in daily activities. In this conversation, Jaxin Jackson and TJ discuss various meditation practices, the importance of finding hope and believing in something bigger, and the process of testing and shifting beliefs. They also explore navigating difficult times and seeking happiness, discovering Buddhism and connection, and the sense of community and connection in Chicago. The conversation concludes with a discussion on alignment through storytelling, opening the heart through laughter, and expressing gratitude and happiness.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In the vibrant tapestry of content creation, carving out a niche becomes a journey unto itself, one that Justin and I have both embraced with fervor. I open up about my foray into producing original content, driven by a desire to wield the reins over my creative and financial destiny, inspired by the likes of KevOnStage and Tabitha Brown. We exchange thoughts on the liberating platforms like TikTok that have turned the tide for storytellers and creators, empowering economic self-reliance and a reshaping of our narratives. There's a special moment where we touch on the aspiration to see our work heal and uplift, especially within the black community, and the celebration of a multifaceted career that defies the traditional.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

As I sat with my good friend Morgan McGhee, sipping on caramel delight oolong tea, we unraveled stories of artistic growth and mindful living. Morgan, a vibrant force from Baton Rouge to New York and now Chicago, joins me, in a rich discussion that meanders through our shared stage memories, to the intricate dance of mindfulness in our lives. This talk is a journey—a reflection on the post-pandemic social renaissance where the thirst for connection meets a world still learning to be present. We openly critique the superficiality of performative self-care and emphasize authentic, intentional living. Our conversation isn't afraid to pose the hard questions, like how does one maintain a sense of purpose amidst the noise? Morgan and I don't just ask; we share our personal anecdotes of grounding morning routines, from crafting the perfect breakfast sandwich to the solace of dark, music-filled showers. So, pour yourself a cup of your favorite tea and join us in this heartfelt exploration.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Join us on this journey where authenticity is not just a buzzword, but a pilgrimage into the heart of who we are. My conversation with the indomitable Justin G. Nelson peels back the layers on finding your true self and the power of embracing every facet of your talents. Together, we tackle the tough decisions—like establishing boundaries and knowing when to walk away from relationships that no longer serve our growth. This episode isn't just talk; it's about taking the solitary steps toward shedding the weights that hold us back and celebrating the unique individuals we are destined to be. Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Imagine spending just a few minutes each day to transform your outlook on life. That's what I discovered when I embarked on my personal journey with gratitude journaling, a simple yet profound practice that has become a beacon of positivity in my life. As we share a cup of tea, I recount my experiences and reveal how writing down things I'm grateful for in the last 24 hours not only helped me appreciate the small moments in life but also shifted my focus to the positive aspects. But the magic doesn't stop at journaling. As we delve deeper into the topic of gratitude, you'll learn that it’s much more than just a feel-good emotion. It's a potent tool that can pivot our lives in extraordinary ways. I share how gratitude has deepened my friendships and brought about feelings of joy, love, and happiness that were often overlooked. So, grab your notebook and your favourite cup of tea, and join me on this enlightening journey. Let's harness the power of gratitude and make life truly amazing and rewarding.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Join me, as we navigate this intricate labyrinth, shedding light on the staple elements of a robust bond – trust, communication, respect and a sense of safety. This journey isn't just about maintaining a healthy relationship with others; it's about striking a balance between meeting your partner's needs and preserving your individuality. We'll explore the often neglected concept of outgrowing someone and how embracing this reality can pave the way for profound growth.These changes may not always align with our expectations, and that's perfectly fine! Instead of holding onto what's familiar, we'll discuss how stepping outside of our comfort zones can lead to an even more fulfilling relationship experience. We'll also touch upon setting boundaries, managing expectations, and aligning relationships with our personal goals. So, are you ready to embark on this enlightening journey with me? Because I assure you, it's going to be a riveting ride.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Ever chastised yourself for making a tiny mistake or not meeting your high expectations? If so, you're not alone. I, have spent years in the grips of self-criticism, but through the practice of positive self-talk, I managed to shift my perspective and bolster my self-confidence. I invite you to join me over a cup of chai tea on this episode of "Tea with TJ" as I share my personal journey from self-criticism to self-love. We'll explore the transformative power of affirmations and the importance of embracing our strengths rather than focusing on our flaws.As we delve into the subtleties of positive self-talk, we'll debunk some common misconceptions – it's not about ignoring our flaws, but rather acknowledging them and focusing on our strengths. I'll share how I replaced self-criticism with self-encouragement and how this change led me to the destination of self-love. I will also challenge you to consider what you're genuinely great at, and how focusing on these strengths can propel you forward. By the end of this episode, you'll understand the importance of encouraging yourself, loving yourself, and never doubting who you are. Remember, we are all works in progress striving to become better each day, so let’s embrace our journey, one cup of tea at a time.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Struggling with holding all the ends of life? From working hard, nurturing relationships, pushing for personal growth, to taking time for self-care, it sometimes feels like an impossible task to create a balance. I promise you that achieving balance isn't as overwhelming as it seems. In this episode of Tea with TJ, you'll hear all about my journey in trimming the excess from life, setting boundaries, and prioritizing what truly mattered to me. Listen in as I share how a simple act of calling my mom every day acted as a stepping stone to achieve the balance I craved.The road to balance undoubtedly involves self-care - it's not a luxury, but a necessity. I'll be sharing my personal approach to self-care and the small but significant activities that keep me grounded. Hear about how daily walks, adequate sleep, and small acts of rejuvenation play a pivotal role in maintaining the overall balance. If you're searching for ways to regain balance and ensure self-care isn't left on the back burner, this episode will provide you with insights and practical steps to get there. So, sit back, pour yourself a cup of tea, and get ready for a heart-to-heart with TJ.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Huddled with a soothing cup of chamomile tea, I found myself reminiscing about the authenticity of face-to-face connections and yearning for human touch that the pandemic deprived us of. As I mused over the warmth and fuzziness that a simple cup of tea can bring, I found parallels with the delicate yet profound joy of spontaneous human connections that are often missed in our bustling lives.In this episode of Tea with TJ, we delve into the magical realm of human connections and the power of personal interactions. Is the digital world pushing us apart? Are we losing that precious physical connection to one another? Join me as we explore this pressing issue, sharing personal experiences of unexpected friendships and the nourishment they offer to our souls. Let's cherish every interaction and embrace the potential for deeper connections with the people around us. Because who knows? The next stranger you bump into at a coffee shop might just become your best friend. Let's remember: the world can be a much more rewarding place if we're open to the love and friendship that is always around us.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

We steer through the intricate labyrinth of life's transitions, reflecting on the significance of intentional living and mindset shifts. As we gear up for the dormant seasons of fall and winter, TJ highlights how this period can serve as fertile ground for personal growth, if navigated wisely. Entering your 30s is often accompanied by a shift in priorities and ambitions. We've all been there. We delve into the profound intricacies of this decade, shedding light on the power of wisdom, self-control, and informed decision-making in shaping our life's journey. In a surprising revelation, we unearth how a simple task like grocery shopping can morph into a tranquil and enriching experience. This conversation will soothe your nerves, reminding you that change, while inevitable, is also incredibly beautiful. Embrace it and watch as life's best moments unfurl.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Have you ever wondered about the profound impact of a simple 'yes' or 'no'? My journey, much inspired by Shonda Rhimes' transformative book, 'The Year of Yes,' will unravel the monumental power of these decisions. From a spontaneous weekend getaway to learning an entire show in six days, the word 'yes' has nudged me into experiences that shaped my life in unexpected ways. However, it's not just about embracing every opportunity; taking the leap also means stepping out of your comfort zones and exposing your vulnerabilities, ultimately leading to self-discovery and growth.But it's not all about saying 'yes.' The power of a firm 'no,' my friends, can be equally transformative. Confused? Let me clarify. A 'no' can often act as a tool to protect our boundaries and maintain focus on our long-term goals. It's about understanding the value of our boundaries and letting 'no' open the doors to new opportunities, self-awareness, and well-being. In parting, remember, whether it's a 'yes' or a 'no,' what matters most is to stay true to oneself, be kind, keep sipping, and embrace life's endless possibilities. Join me, as we explore this, and more, over a cup of tea. Let's get started!Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Remember that time when you had a dream, but the road seemed too long and the mountain too high? Join me on a journey as I relive my decision to chase my dream of performing in musical theater, and the small but powerful steps I took to make it a reality. Coupled with this weeks Tea Gunpowder green tea, I'll take you through the potholes and the peaks, as we talk about the importance of embracing the process, focusing on progress and not perfection. We'll break down dreams into bite-sized pieces, and learn why every tiny step moves us closer to the summit.But, that's not all. Ever wondered why some people seem to stumble upon opportunities while others wait forever? It's not luck, it's the power of saying 'yes.' I'll share how a job I initially considered insignificant bloomed into the chance to live my dream on stage. Together, we'll explore the potential hidden in every opportunity and the profound impact of consistency in achieving our goals. So, grab your favorite cup, and let's chat about dreams, small steps, and the magic word - 'yes.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Imagine savoring a delicious cup of Puerh tea, a unique aged tea pressed into a cake form, with a unique sticky rice variant that offers a surprisingly delightful flavor. As the rich flavor fills your senses, I'll be sharing my personal journey of mastering one of life's most challenging virtues: patience. I'll talk about how patience has been a profound factor in overcoming life's obstacles and how it is crucial in everything from our careers to relationships, and even in self-improvement.As we enjoy our tea together, the conversation deepens into how patience and the art of being present go hand in hand. I'll share how brewing a cup of loose leaf tea is not just a routine, but a lesson in patience. You'll hear how patience has been my steadfast companion on my journey through life, and perhaps it might inspire you to embrace this virtue as well. Whether it’s about navigating through life, waiting for an acting break, or building a new lifestyle; patience has been a game-changer. So, ready for a thoughtful exchange over a cup of tea? We're about to explore the beauty of patience. Join us for a heartfelt conversation on Tea with TJ, because, why not? We're here, so we might as well do it.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

On this week's episode we share a quote from Tracee Ellis Ross that we've been meditating on, and how often times our fear gets in our own way. Sipping one of our favorite Oolongs from Té CompanySupport the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this weeks episode we discuss dealing with setbacks, overcoming disapointment and  how I've adjusted my way of thinking to turn rejection into growth. Join us in the conversation on our socials and let's have a chat! @Teawithtjpodcast on instagram. As always stay kind, and keep sipping. Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this week's episode we discuss the healing process and how most of us never truly give ourselves the time or space to heal.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this week's Life lesson over Tea, we explore what it means be prepared when the universe finally delivers on what we've been asking for our own personal growth. Email us your inspirational life stories [email protected] we'd love to hear from you! Join us in conversation on socials:InstagramTik TokThreads Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

In this Self improvement Podcast Episode we discuss what it means to truly be free, and all the BS that comes with it. How Choosing your freedom and peace effects others around you and yourself and how to move forward! Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads

Join us each Wednesday for self care and Tea Talks. Where our love for tea, conversation, a deeper understanding of life, and self improvement intersect. Life is messy and sometimes you just need a cup of tea.Support the showJoin us in conversation on socials:Youtube InstagramTik TokTwitterSubstackThreads