That Is Not How You Do It

Are you someone who plans everything… or someone who just figures it out?In this episode of That Is Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna explore the difference between planners and chaos goblins.Some people rely on structure, schedules, and preparation. Others prefer spontaneity, flexibility, and going with the flow.But which approach actually leads to better experiences?We discuss:the psychology behind planning and spontaneitywhy some people need structure while others resist ithow these personalities clash in everyday lifeand whether planning helps or hurts enjoyment.Because sometimes the difference between organized and chaotic… is just perspective.

How fast should you text back?In this episode of That Is Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna explore the unspoken rules of texting — and why response time can feel so personal.Some people reply instantly. Others take hours — or even days.But what does that actually mean?We discuss:fast texters vs slow textersthe psychology behind response timingwhy read receipts cause anxietyand how texting has changed modern communication.Because sometimes the difference between rude and normal… is just how long someone takes to reply.

Shoes in the house — normal behavior or absolute chaos?In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna dive into one of the most surprisingly passionate household debates.Some people believe outside shoes should never touch the floor inside a home. Others think it’s completely normal.But this debate goes deeper than just dirt.We explore:cultural norms around shoes indoorshygiene vs conveniencethe awkward moment when you walk into someone else’s homeand why the way we treat our floors can reveal how we view our living space.Because sometimes the difference between “normal” and “insane”… is just how someone was raised.

Watching a show together sounds simple… until someone cheats ahead.In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, Ram and Anna break down the surprisingly serious rules people create around shared TV shows.Is watching ahead betrayal?Does falling asleep cancel your rights to the next episode?And why do people treat shared shows like relationship contracts?We explore:binge watching vs slow watchingthe psychology behind shared entertainment ritualsthe drama of spoilersand why TV loyalty feels weirdly personal.Because sometimes the show isn’t the point.

Few household arguments escalate faster than the thermostat.Some people are always cold. Others are always overheating. And somehow everyone believes their preferred temperature is the correct one.In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, we explore the psychology and biology behind temperature preferences — and why the thermostat often becomes a quiet power struggle in shared spaces.We talk about:why people experience temperature differentlythermostat sabotage in homes and officesroommate and relationship negotiationsBecause sometimes the thermostat isn’t about comfort.It’s about control.

Everyone has the chair.The place where clothes go when they’re not quite dirty but not quite clean. The hoodie you might wear again. The jeans that are “still good.” The pile that slowly becomes… structural.In this episode of That’s Not How You Do It, we unpack the psychology of the chair.Is it a system… or procrastination?We talk about:decision fatiguestress signals in our living spacesand why some people need visual order while others thrive in chaos.If you’ve ever said “I’ll wear that again,” this episode is for you.

When you say "I'm on my way"... are you actually moving?Or are you emotionally preparing to move?In Episode 2 of That's Not How You Do It, we break down one of the most casually dishonest phrases in modern communication.For some people, "On My Way" means engine on, wheels turning.For others, it means shoes are nearby and optimism is high.We dive into:Literal time vs. intention time.Cultural differences around punctualityIs being late disrespectful or just human?And what does your relationship with time say about your personaility?If you've ever waited in the parking lot refreshing your texts...this episode is for you.

Is it better to clean as you cook...or deal with the destruction after the meal?In our very first episode of That's Not How You Do It, we enter the most dangerous room in any relationship: the kitchen. Specifically - the sink!One of us believes in rinsing immediately, wiping as we go, and protecting Future Me from suffering.The other believes cooking is a sacred creative act and the mes is simply part of the process.But this episode isn't really about dishes.It's about:Anxiety vs. EfficiencyUpbringing vs. Unspoken RuleAre you Team Clean-As-You-Go?Or Team End-of-the-Night Warrior?

Ram and Anna try and figure out what they're doing. They talk about the difference in asking someone "How are you doing", knowing your neighbors, and wet bath mats.