The 100% Podcast

In this powerful episode of The 100% Podcast, Chaya Garcia, The @EpicLoveExpert, sits down with guest Carine Van Hee for a deeply important conversation about toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and the signs that are often missed in the beginning.So many unhealthy relationships do not begin with obvious danger. They can begin with intense chemistry, instant connection, synchronicity, and the feeling of, “This must be my soulmate.” But sometimes, what feels like destiny can actually be the beginning of a trauma bond, emotional confusion, and a relationship that slowly disconnects you from your peace, clarity, and sense of self.Together, Chaya and Carine explore the early signs of abuse, the impact of pregnancy within a toxic relationship, the loneliness of not being understood by others, and the painful reality that many abusers maintain a positive public image while creating chaos, control, and harm behind closed doors.Carine also shares the heart behind her powerful book, Is It Me? The Hidden Systems Behind Toxic Relationships, which helps expose the invisible patterns, systems, and confusion that keep people stuck in unhealthy love. Make sure to support Carine by buying her book and checking out her beautiful art.This episode is a reminder that love should not cost you your sanity, your safety, your voice, or your soul.Key Takeaways:✨ Toxic relationships can begin with chemistry, synchronicity, and emotional intensity.✨ Abusers may have a positive public image while causing harm privately.✨ Major life transitions, like pregnancy, can intensify abusive dynamics.✨ Not everyone understands abuse, so seek guidance from knowledgeable support.✨ Boundaries protect your peace, clarity, and self-worth.✨ Observing behavior is more powerful than believing potential.✨ Healthy love should bring safety, clarity, peace, and emotional stability.Because you can healing.And still, you are 100% lovable.To connect with Chaya Garcia, The Epic Love Expert, follow along on social media:https://www.facebook.com/TheEpicLoveExperthttps://www.facebook.com/epicloveexpert/https://www.tiktok.com/@epicloveexperthttps://www.instagram.com/epicloveexpert/https://www.youtube.com/@EpicLoveExpertSubscribe and Follow To Help Heal The World!Ready to get clear on your love life, your patterns, and what may be keeping you from safe, healthy, aligned love?Book your free relationship audit call here:www.connectwithchaya.comTo book Chaya Garcia for your stage, podcast, event, women’s gathering, or transformational experience, please use the booking link:www.connectwithChaya.comIf this episode inspired you, please subscribe to The 100% Podcast and leave a 5-star review.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-100-podcast/id1855653894

In this deeply honest and eye-opening episode of The 100% Podcast, Chaya Garcia sits down with Katie Lain, founder of Thrive Alcohol Recovery and a former high-functioning drinker who struggled with alcohol for nearly a decade.Katie shares her personal journey of using alcohol as a coping mechanism, especially within the pain and confusion of an abusive relationship. Together, Chaya and Katie explore the emotional impact of narcissistic abuse, the complicated role of family dynamics, and the powerful realization that sometimes what we call “coping” is really a sign that something deeper needs healing.Katie also introduces The Sinclair Method, a neuroscience-based, medication-assisted approach to alcohol recovery that helped her regain control without requiring total abstinence. Backed by decades of research, this method uses behavior change and an FDA-approved medication to help people unlearn alcohol addiction at the brain level.This conversation is about addiction, abuse, healing, healthy love, and hope. It is for anyone who has ever felt stuck, ashamed, confused, or afraid that they would never find their way back to themselves.Because you can be struggling.You can be healing.You can be 100% human.And still, always, 100% lovable.This conversation is raw, real, and full of hope.We talk about:✨ Narcissistic abuse and emotional confusion✨ Alcohol as a coping mechanism✨ Why “high-functioning” does not mean “not struggling”✨ The Sinclair Method and neuroscience-based recovery✨ Healing through safe, healthy love✨ Why shame is never the answerYou are not broken.You are not hopeless.You are not too far gone.You are 100% human, 100% healing, and still 100% lovable.Socials / Show NotesTo connect with Chaya Garcia, The Epic Love Expert, follow along at:Instagram: @epicloveexpertFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheEpicLoveExpert/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@EpicLoveExpertReady to get clear on your love life, your patterns, and what may be keeping you from safe, healthy, aligned love?Free Relationship Audit Call: www.connectwithchaya.comFor speaking, podcast interviews, stages, or event bookings, please use my booking link: www.connectWithChaya.com

What happens when a lifetime of bullying convinces you something is fundamentally wrong with you? For Brooke DeBoer — life coach, author of Living the Free Life, and creator of the docuseries Fastlife — the answer was a pattern of toxic relationships that nearly destroyed her.In this deeply moving episode, Brooke takes us from death threats in high school, to an older boyfriend who threw her to the ground and left her there, to discovering she was pregnant and choosing to go through it alone. But this isn't just a story of survival — it's a story of transformation.The turning point came in a bathroom mirror at a rehearsal dinner, when Brooke finally asked herself: "Am I truly happy?" That question changed everything.Brooke and Chaya explore the mechanics of abuse — how low self-esteem becomes a magnet for toxic partners, why women try to "fix" broken men, and the difference between real reciprocity and love-bombing. They also unpack the concept of "over-functioning" as a trauma response, the radical idea that you're allowed to just be, and why a friend calling Brooke a "masterpiece" rewired her entire relationship with herself.This episode is equal parts gut-punch and permission slip. If you've ever stayed too long, tried too hard, or forgotten that you deserve to be treated like a masterpiece — press play.

If you've ever been called "too nice" or felt like you need everyone's approval to feel worthy, this episode will change how you see yourself forever.Julie Barth—author, mother of six, and CEO of the Colin James Barth Outreach—knows the people-pleaser trap intimately. After losing her first husband to cancer, she tried to outrun her pain by becoming someone new. What she discovered: unprocessed trauma doesn't stay buried—it gets louder. And abusers can smell a people-pleaser from a mile away.You'll learn:How running from grief makes you vulnerable to manipulation and toxic relationshipsWhat gaslighting actually sounds like (when someone contradicts what you know is true)Why people-pleasers become perfect targets for abusers who weaponize the need for approvalThe real reason even 10% toxicity contaminates an entire relationship (like blood in clean water)How to trust your intuition when something feels off instead of rationalizing red flags awayIf you've ever felt torn between being kind and protecting yourself, you're not alone. You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable—and that's exactly where healing begins.🎯 READY TO STOP SETTLING FOR SCRAPS OF LOVE?If this episode opened your eyes to patterns you've been repeating, I can help you break them for good.I coach single women who are done with toxic relationships and ready to attract a partner who truly values them. Together, we'll uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck, heal your relationship with yourself, and create a clear path to the love you deserve.🔗 Book your free breakthrough call: www.connectwithchaya.com📧 Get my free "Top 7 Dating Mistakes" Guide: www.marriedin2025.com📱 Instagram: @epicloveexpert📱 Facebook: @epicloveexpertYou deserve 100% acceptability—not someone who shows up only when they feel like it.CONNECT WITH JULIE BARTH:Get resources and learn about the Colin James Barth Outreach helping women escape crisis: www.juliebarthauthor.com📚 Books: Notes from A BlackBerry📱 Instagram: @julie_barth_author📱 Facebook: facebook.com/julie.e.barthRemember: You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable. Nothing that has happened to you diminishes your worth. It all starts with love—love for yourself, love from God. Your past does not define your future, but your story can change someone else's.🎙️ Subscribe to The 100% Podcast⭐ Leave a 5-star review if this episode resonated with you📢 Share this with someone who needs to hear this message

If you've ever stayed in a relationship where you felt uncomfortable but told yourself to "suck it up and not make waves," this episode will change everything. What Jo Ann Fawcett shares about her 20-year marriage to a narcissist will reveal truths about your own worthiness that you need to hear.Jo Ann Fawcett is an author and survivor who transformed her life after seven marriages that included abuse, divorce, death, and being a prison wife. For over two decades with husband #7, she didn't realize he was a narcissist—she thought she wasn't enough. Author of Midlife Magic and The Prince Was Wrong: Leaving the Narcissist Behind, Jo Ann's journey proves transformation is possible at any age.You'll learn:How to recognize subtle narcissistic control tactics (the hand on your thigh, the stern voice, the "don't embarrass me" manipulation)Why staying silent and "not making waves" means you don't believe you're 100% lovableHow narcissists turn your concerns back on you and make everything your faultWhy fearing someone will stop loving you reveals the gap in your own self-loveThe real reason you tolerate discomfort: you're waiting for external validation instead of knowing your worthHow believing you're 100% lovable transforms what you'll accept in relationshipsIf you've ever felt like you had to shrink yourself to keep the peace, you're not alone. You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable—understanding both truths is where your healing begins.🎯 READY TO STOP SETTLING FOR LESS?If this episode opened your eyes to patterns you've been repeating, I can help you break them for good.I coach single women who are done with toxic relationships and ready to attract a partner who truly values them. Together, we'll uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck, heal your relationship with yourself, and create a clear path to the love you deserve.🔗 Book your free breakthrough call: www.connectwithchaya.com📧 Get my free "Top 7 Dating Mistakes" Guide: www.marriedin2025.com📱 Daily inspiration on Instagram: @epicloveexpert📱 Daily inspiration on Facebook: @epicloveexpert🌐 Learn more: www.connectwithchaya.comCONNECT WITH JO ANN FAWCETT:📚 Books: Midlife Magic and The Prince Was Wrong: Leaving the Narcissist Behind🌐 joannfawcett.com📱 Instagram: @jo.ann.fawcett.author📱 Facebook: facebook.com/jo.a.richards.5Remember: You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable. Nothing that has happened to you diminishes your worth. Jo Ann's journey through seven marriages proves transformation is possible at any age. Your past does not define your future, but your story can change someone else's.🎙️ Subscribe to The 100% Podcast⭐ Leave a 5-star review https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-100-podcast/id1855653894 📢 Share with someone who needs this message

If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship because you have been pressured by your clergy to stay, this episode will change everything. What Joni Woods shares today will shift how you see abuse, faith, and your own strength.Joni Woods is a certified life coach and author of Burned, Blocked, and Better than Ever. Six months into her marriage as a youth pastor, her husband literally tried to cast out a "demon" during an argument—then hit her with a Bible. For 15 years, she believed she was the problem. What she reveals in this raw conversation will help you recognize manipulation tactics hiding behind religion—and give you permission to choose yourself.You'll learn:How narcissists weaponize religion and the Bible to control you—and why it works so devastatingly wellWhat the early red flags looked like (hint: he told her she'd "never be good enough" before they even dated)How to recognize when "submission" becomes abuse—and why G-d never intended you to sufferWhy confusion keeps you stuck (and how clarity creates the courage to leave)How to rebuild your life one step at a time—even after devastating lossIf you've ever felt like leaving would make you a bad person, you're not alone. You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable—and that's exactly where healing begins.🎯 READY TO BREAK FREE FROM TOXIC PATTERNS?If this episode opened your eyes to manipulation you've been experiencing, I can help you break it for good. Start this week.I coach single women who are done with toxic relationships and ready to attract a partner who truly values them. Together, we'll uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck, heal your relationship with yourself, and create a clear path to the love you deserve.🔗 Book your free breakthrough call: www.connectwithchaya.com📧 Get my free "Top 7 Dating Mistakes" Guide: www.marriedin2025.com📱 Daily inspiration: @epicloveexpert🌐 Learn more: www.connectwithchaya.comCONNECT WITH JONI WOODS:Get Joni's Free Transformation Roadmap at joniwoods.com📚 Book: "Burned, Blocked, and Better than Ever" - Available on Amazon🌐 joniwoods.com📱 @authorjoniwoods (Instagram)🎥 @joniwoods7141 (YouTube)Remember: You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable. G-d didn't create you to suffer—He created you to be loved, to be whole, to be free. Your past does not define your future, but your story can change someone else's.🎙️ Subscribe to The 100% Podcast⭐ Leave a 5-star review if this resonated📢 Share with someone who needs permission to choose themselves#ReligiousAbuse #NarcissisticAbuse #FaithJourney #AbuseAwareness #BreakingFree #HealthyLove #SelfWorth #100PercentPodcast

If you've ever felt trapped repeating your parents' relationship patterns, this episode will change everything.Jori O'Neale, 10-time published and 2-time bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and women's empowerment coach, knows this struggle. Growing up in inner-city Chicago, she witnessed her grandmother beaten near death, watched her mother navigate loveless relationships, and survived sexual assault before age 10. The trauma normalized abuse so deeply that she didn't even know healthy love was possible. What she discovered on her journey to breaking these cycles will shift how you see yourself and your future relationships.You'll learn:How to recognize when you've normalized toxic patterns from childhood without realizing itWhy going inward to yourself and God must happen before seeking external adviceWhat questions to ask potential partners to identify their character before investing emotionsHow to stop trying to fix your partner—and why this battle will never workThe real reason you can't attract healthy love until you know and love yourself firstWhy taking time alone without books or external validation is essential for self-discoveryHow to break generational cycles by doing your own internal work instead of waiting for others to changeIf you've wondered why you keep choosing the same type of person, you're not alone. You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable—and that's where healing begins.🎯 READY TO BREAK YOUR TOXIC PATTERNS FOR GOOD?If this episode opened your eyes to patterns you've been repeating, I can help you break them. Start this week—you don't have to carry these cycles into another relationship.I coach single women who are done with toxic relationships and ready to attract a partner who truly values them. Together, we'll uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck, heal your relationship with yourself, and create a clear path to the love you deserve.🔗 Book your free breakthrough call: www.connectwithchaya.com📧 Get my free guide: www.marriedin2025.com📱 Daily inspiration: @epicloveexpert🌐 Learn more: www.connectwithchaya.comCONNECT WITH JORI O'NEALE:📚 Get "Talk Your Book: Say it, Shape it, and Share it" with a personal note!🌐 joryoneale.com/bookstore📱 @JoriONeale on all platforms🎙️ Podcasts: "30 Minutes of Power" and her Marriage PodcastRemember: You are 100% effed up AND 100% lovable. Nothing that has happened to you diminishes your worth. The abuse you witnessed, the trauma you survived, the patterns you inherited—none of it makes you less deserving of true, peaceful love. It all starts with love—love for yourself, love from God. Your past does not define your future, but your story can change someone else's.🎙️ Subscribe to The 100% Podcast⭐ Leave a 5-star review📢 Share with someone who needs this#GenerationalTrauma #BreakTheCycle #ChildhoodTrauma #AbuseAwareness #HealingJourney #SelfLove #ToxicRelationships #TraumaSurvivor #HealthyLove #100PercentPodcast

In this raw and life-changing first episode of The 100% Podcast, Chaya sits down with Caty—an extraordinary woman who survived three decades of emotional and psychological abuse…and lived to reclaim her freedom.Together, they expose the quiet, creeping lies women tell themselves that keep them trapped:“I just want my kids to have a father.”“Maybe it’s not that bad.”“I can fix him.”“This is what love is supposed to feel like.”Through Caty's brutally honest story—childhood wounds, trauma bonding, coercive control, financial betrayal, threats, and the moment she finally knew she’d die if she stayed—listeners will hear their own patterns, their own fears, and their own hidden strength.This episode breaks open the truth:You are not crazy.You are not alone.You are 100% messed up and 100% lovable.If you’ve ever questioned your worth, minimized red flags, or stayed too long hoping for change, this conversation will pierce the shame, lift the fog, and remind you that the life you want is still possible.A must-listen for every woman healing from narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, or the weight of loving someone who cannot love you back.