The Art of Approach Podcast

Today's guest is Dr. Mike Strand, an established psychologist with a private practice here in Austin. We're excited about this one. Find out more about Mike: connectedcounselingwellness.com In this episode, we discuss a trending Instagram reel, answer a question from Reddit, and explore the topic of trust in relationships. We then go deep with Mike, who shares insights on dating, relationships, and internal family systems. The conversation covers topics such as gender differences in attraction, the importance of trust in relationships, and the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse. Mike also discusses his private practice and upcoming workshops on relationship building. We discuss Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and its application in personal growth and relationships. We explore the concept of parts within ourselves, including protectors, managers, firefighters, and exiles. We emphasize the importance of developing a relationship with these parts and cultivating self-energy. We also discuss the legacy burdens we carry from our parents and the potential for healing and transformation through IFS. Mike shares an exercise for exploring and understanding our parts, and we discuss the benefits of working with a trained practitioner.

Welcome back to the show! Today our guest is Cory Smith, a business coach and socializing teacher here in Austin. Find out more about Cory and his work: coryjsmith.com In this episode of the podcast, we discuss various topics related to conversation, listening, consent, and rejection. We explore the importance of proximity and touch in gauging interest, as well as the need to approach interactions without expectations. We also address the question of how to ask for consent without breaking the mood, emphasizing the importance of playfulness, humor, and open communication. The conversation delves into the art of listening, with tips on eye contact, body language, and asking why questions. We also go into the difference between empathy and compassion, and the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. We discuss various aspects of dating and relationships, with a focus on the experiences of gay men. We explore topics such as authenticity, consent, rejection, and the challenges of dating apps. Corey shares his insights on the stages of psychological development for gay men and the prevalence of validation-seeking behavior on dating apps. We also discuss the importance of safety and boundaries in dating, as well as the need for non-bar environments for the LGBTQ+ community. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of communication, self-reflection, and personal growth in navigating the dating world. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 02:20 The Importance of Proximity and Touch 05:45 Approaching Interactions without Expectations 07:11 Asking for Consent without Breaking the Mood 37:25 Empathy vs. Compassion 47:28 Setting Boundaries in Relationships 51:05 Authenticity and Communication in Relationships 52:34 Consent and Reframing Rejection 55:46 Challenges and Pitfalls of Dating Apps 58:10 Safety and Boundaries in the LGBTQ+ Dating Scene 01:13:02 Dating as a Gay Man: Challenges and Experiences 01:19:22 Creating Non-Bar Environments for LGBTQ+ Community 01:24:37 Approaching Men and Setting Boundaries 01:28:48 Cautious Consent and Protecting Others 01:35:28 Finding Social Activities and Non-Bar Environments 01:37:13 Coaching Session Offer for Podcast Listeners

Welcome! This week we have an incredible guest, Glaucia Stanganelli. Find more about her: www.glauciastanganelli.com/ @glaucia_stanganelli or @artbyglaucia on Instagram In this episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we discuss the role of fashion in dating and relationships with Glaucia. We emphasize the importance of expressing oneself through clothing and style, as it can give a person an edge in the dating market. We also explore the concept of creativity in fashion and how it can be a signal of a person's willingness to invest in a relationship. The conversation touches on topics such as authenticity, comfort, and the impact of clothing on one's mood and confidence. In this conversation, we and Glaucia discuss the importance of personal style and how it can impact one's confidence and self-perception. We explore the idea of wearing clothes that fit well and flatter one's body shape, as well as the significance of experimenting with different styles and colors. We also touch on the role of shoes in a man's outfit and the importance of being open and receptive in dating and relationships. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the connection between personal style, self-expression, and personal growth.

We're back! After a few weeks off we're back with some great guests in the coming weeks. Today we discuss the challenges women face in finding attractive men and why some women aren't being approached. We explore the concept of proximity attraction and how it affects dating dynamics. We also share personal experiences and insights on approaching women and the importance of authenticity. The episode concludes with a discussion on the experimental mindset of approaching and the different approaches that work for different individuals. We then discuss our different approaches to dating and meeting new people. One of us shares his preference for feeling certain that a woman will be open and receptive before approaching her, while the other thrives off the pressure of approaching and enjoys the challenge. We also discuss the importance of getting out of the house and being in social places, as well as the value of approaching and connecting with interesting people, even when in a relationship. We highlight the need for men to continue meeting new people and maintaining a strong social network, rather than solely focusing on their partner. Find more about us: Tim IG: @the_approach_coach, theartofapproach.com Will IG: @willpower_lifestyle, williammulvaney.com, The Willpower Podcast

Welcome back! This week we are joined by Vielka Kano who is an AASECT certified sex therapist here in Austin. You can find out more about her and her work at vielkakano.com. In this podcast episode, Vielka shares her insights into the field of sex therapy and the critical importance of sexual education. She discusses the widespread misconceptions and challenges people face regarding their sexual desires and needs, emphasizing the need for self-love, safety, and open communication in maintaining healthy sexual relationships. Vielka explores the concept of polarity and how it can intensify the sexual experience between partners, shedding light on the complexities of sexuality and the necessity for open dialogue and understanding. The discussion also covers finding balance in relationships concerning sexual satisfaction, respecting individual desires, and the benefits of Tantra in deepening emotional connections and enhancing intimacy. Additionally, the conversation addresses various aspects of sexuality, including the impact of positive associations on desire, the importance of mental health in sexual satisfaction, and methods for cultivating desire and managing common issues like low libido and premature ejaculation. Vielka provides techniques and insights into addressing these concerns. Further topics include erectile dysfunction, the role of emotions in sex, the effects of pornography on relationships, and maintaining desire in long-term relationships. The importance of communication, consent, exploration, and variety in sexual experiences are highlighted, with Vielka offering advice on keeping relationships vibrant based on her extensive experience as a sex therapist.

Find out about Erik Landry: Instagram: @vocodojo Work with him: vocodojo.com In this podcast episode, we delve into the dynamics of relationships and the intricacies of communication between men and women. We emphasize the importance of understanding and being understood, highlighting the need for clear and open communication to avoid covert manipulation and ensure balanced interactions. We discuss the power of authenticity and the interplay of active and passive roles in building meaningful connections. We also explore the concept of pseudo-rejection and its potential to cause misunderstandings, stressing the importance of openly expressing feelings. The role of voice in influencing perceptions is examined, with a focus on the importance of relaxation and proper vocal tract space to enhance voice quality. Further, we address the challenges of approaching women in sensitive environments like gyms and the dynamics of dating multiple people, discussing the ego-driven aspects and the importance of honest intentions. Our discussion extends to the technical and emotional aspects of voice, with insights from Erik, a voice specialist with a background in singing and vocal health, and Tim, an expert in communication science. We also introduce the Vocal Dojo Voice Center, bridging speech therapy and vocal performance, and discuss the connection between emotions and vocal expression, emphasizing the influence of the limbic system and the importance of conscious breathing. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of understanding personal archetypes—magician, lover, warrior, and king—to better navigate personal and professional interactions. This exploration into the authenticity and self-awareness underscores the ongoing journey of self-discovery and personal growth, reflecting on how these elements influence our approaches in communication and relationships. 00:00 Introduction to the Dynamics of Relationships 06:15 The Power of Authenticity 10:32 Creating Space for Connection 14:59 Balancing Active and Passive Forces 23:26 Improving Communication through Voice and Relaxation 25:03 The Role of Self-Awareness in Effective Communication 27:21 Building Healthy Relationships through Active Listening and Empathy 36:53 Exploring the Sensation of Space in the Voice 39:20 Navigating the Challenges of Approaching Women at the Gym 41:09 The Dynamics of Dating Multiple People 44:06 The Ego-Driven Desire to be Claimed 49:21 Passion for Vocal Health and Becoming a Voice Specialist 54:45 Bridging the Gap: The Vocal Dojo Voice Center 55:13 Understanding the Archetype of Your Voice 57:25 The Influence of Emotions on Vocal Expression 59:59 The Importance of Conscious Breathing in Exercise 01:09:05 The Interchangeable Roles of Teacher and Student in Vocal Training 01:15:00 Adapting Your Voice and Demeanor 01:19:34 Listening to Your Body's Signals 01:22:15 Adjusting Energy to Meet the Other Person 01:23:13 Genuine Connection vs. Manipulation 01:25:20 Developing Awareness and Adaptability 01:27:30 Understanding Archetypes in Communication 01:32:17 Understanding Archetypes 01:35:02 Exploring Personal Archetypes 01:37:31 The Importance of Self-Awareness 01:39:42 Adapting Your Approach for Authenticity 01:41:03 Authenticity in Interpersonal Interactions 01:45:02 Finding and Accessing Your Authentic Voice 01:46:29 Approaching with Innocent Curiosity 01:48:07 Letting Go of Pressure and Expectations

Today we are joined by Matt Ng. Matt is an approach coach here in Austin, TX. You can find out more about Matt at @mattapproachcoach on Instagram. In this podcast episode, we explore various facets of dating and personal growth, focusing on the concept of the 'nice guy syndrome' and its impact. We discuss how being overly accommodating and passive, often seen as 'nice guy' behavior, stems from insecurities and a lack of self-worth. The conversation also covers the need to embrace more assertive masculine qualities and the importance of facing fears like rejection to foster individual growth. We delve into the societal and cultural influences that shape the 'nice guy' persona, discussing the need for redefining masculinity and the importance of education in this area. Our discussion extends to the significance of stepping out of comfort zones, not only in personal development but also in innovating and trying new things. Approaching women, a key topic, is examined through the effectiveness of both direct and indirect openers, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and forming emotional connections beyond surface-level topics. We highlight the role of pursuing passions to enrich conversations and build meaningful connections. Additionally, we discuss the journey of self-discovery in dating, focusing on addressing limiting beliefs and the value of trauma healing to enhance confidence and happiness. The role of mentors in navigating these emotional challenges is also touched upon. Finally, we stress that everyone's journey is unique, and comparing oneself to others is counterproductive. The overarching theme is the importance of authenticity, emotional intelligence, and the continuous effort to understand and connect with others in dating and relationships.

Hey all. The audio on this episode is a little rough but there's lots of good stuff regardless. Listen through to the end! In this episode we cover various topics related to dating and meeting new people, discussing the challenges of gaining attention and the importance of authenticity. We debate the fine line between oversharing and being too reserved. Our conversation also touches on maintaining an abundance mindset and accepting one's current state in the dating journey. We share advice on approaching women and emphasize the importance of vulnerability in building connections. We conclude by recounting a recent experience at a meat market where the nervousness of approaching two women together was palpable. We also delve into the concept of cold approaching, the complexities of gauging interest in such situations, and the pitfalls of inorganic interactions. We stress the importance of finding someone who appreciates the approach process. The episode wraps up with our commitment to a daily practice of approaching one new person in a non-romantic way to enhance our social skills, reflecting our continuous efforts to improve and adapt in the realm of social interactions and dating.

In this episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we explore the transformative power of fashion in men's wardrobes, emphasizing the impact of a white button-up shirt and stylish shoes. We delve into the importance of self-care and expressing individuality through clothing. Our discussion also covers meeting women in real life versus using dating apps, advocating for a balanced approach. We stress the importance of safety, genuine intentions, and respect in interactions, while addressing issues like false accusations and the need for clear communication in relationships. The conversation touches on taking responsibility for one's emotions, avoiding blame, and managing jealousy to foster healthier relationships. We also highlight the significance of understanding and connecting with one's emotions in dating. Sharing personal insights, we recount advice given to our friend Abhi about taking things slow and the benefits of clear, confident communication. An observation of an awkward interaction further underscores our points about authenticity and presence in social settings. Overall, this episode emphasizes being present, authentic, and confident, whether approaching relationships or navigating the complexities of dating and personal growth. 00:00 The Power of Clothing: White Button-Up Shirts and Stylish Shoes 08:27 Meeting Women: Real Life vs. Dating Apps 12:11 Balancing Approaching and Dating Apps 14:10 The Importance of Safety and Respect in Interactions with Women 22:35 Being Authentic and Not Proving Yourself 23:42 Handling False Accusations and Assumptions 24:35 Communicating Disinterest in a Relationship 25:10 Confronting and Managing Jealousy 46:21 Overcoming Jealousy 48:29 Defining Self-Worth 50:57 The Power of Tools 54:37 Approaching Women 01:01:09 Speaking from the Diaphragm 01:08:15 Learning from Uncomfortable Approaches

This episode we are joined by Dalton Daniel, a podcaster and good friend of ours. You can find 'Don't think. Breathe' on major podcasting platforms and on Instagram @donthink.breath. In our conversation, we discuss approaching women in public, emphasizing understanding their interest and mindset. We cover the importance of genuine interest versus neediness, sharing insights from personal experiences to highlight respect and intention. We also stress appreciating every woman's beauty genuinely and approaching with authenticity. We explore dealing with rejection, emphasizing genuineness, understanding rejection's impact, and resilience strategies. We highlight the role of positive mindset, support from friends or coaches, and the importance of detachment and mindfulness in facing rejection. Furthermore, we talk about authentic self-expression, approaching interactions with kindness, and using voice messages for clearer communication. We stress facing the fear of rejection positively and the importance of embracing uniqueness. We also touch on the challenges and insights from using dating apps, including dealing with ghosting and the cultural impacts of online dating. We underline the necessity of intentionality in dating and the value of relationships in enriching life, reminding listeners that there's no perfect time to start dating. 00:00 Introduction 02:03 The Problem with Neediness 06:58 The Fine Line Between Attraction and Neediness 10:56 Approaching Women in Public 20:35 Finding Beauty in Every Woman 21:49 The Whole Foods Story 22:35 Overcoming Rejection and Staying Positive 24:41 Preparing Mentally for Approaching 29:53 Visualizing Different Outcomes 33:08 The Value of Visualizing Every Outcome 34:18 Practicing Mindfulness in Emotionally Charged Moments 34:28 Being the Narrator of Your Life 35:17 Detaching Emotions from Thoughts 36:25 Taking Control of Your Own Stories 37:05 Breathing Out Emotions 38:23 The Importance of Support 39:21 Approaching Alone vs. in a Group 40:21 Reactions to Approaching 41:28 Not Caring What Others Think 42:37 You Are What You Love 44:14 Approaching Without Setting Yourself Up for Rejection 47:13 Claiming Your Identity as a Approacher 49:22 Overcoming Anxiety in Approaching 52:06 The Importance of Genuine Kindness in Approaching 54:00 Expressing Interest and Giving Compliments 55:14 Overcoming Insecurities and Fear of Rejection 56:11 Taking Ownership of Feelings 57:07 Imagining Success and Failure 57:51 The Power of Voice Messages58:08Experiences with Dating Apps 59:13 Using Dating Apps with Intention 01:00:22 The Downside of Dating Apps 01:02:10 The Benefits of Voice Messages 01:04:32 Mixed Experiences with Dating Apps 01:05:31 The Evolution of Dating Apps 01:07:18 Avoiding Overstimulation and Entertainment 01:08:19 The Impact of Porn and Instagram 01:11:28 The Impact of Limiting Consumption 01:12:28 Struggles of Being an Entrepreneur 01:13:13 Thinking Differently About Dating 01:14:25 The Feeling of Nothing to Lose 01:15:31 The Importance of Women in Our Lives 01:17:58 Recognizing Insecurities and Making Excuses 01:18:34 Owning Your Circumstances 01:19:09 Withholding Insecurities and Expressing Self-Awareness 01:20:09 The Impact of Insecurity on Dating 01:21:06 Building a Relationship with Yourself 01:22:34 Recognizing and Addressing Validation Seeking Behavior 01:23:35 Being Your Own Advertising 01:23:53 Finding Purpose and Value in Yourself 01:24:52 Closing Remarks Where to find Dalton: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/59wfzg0oeASIhceU0FenXR Instagram - @donthink.breathe

In this episode, we discuss various aspects of dating and the nuances of approaching women, underlining the crucial role of maintaining mystery and self-validation to keep the attraction alive. We talk about overcoming approach anxiety by advocating for incremental steps towards building self-confidence and the profound importance of engaging with and understanding our emotions, particularly in social settings. Emphasizing the significant benefits of having female friends, we explore how their insights can refine our dating strategies and help us understand the dating scene from a different perspective. Additionally, we touch upon the necessity of presenting ourselves authentically in dating profiles and seeking constructive feedback. The conversation also navigates the delicate balance between pursuing romantic interests and personal goals, underscoring the importance of self-awareness and owning one's journey through the complexities of relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Coach Corey Wayne04:01The Importance of Mystery 04:52 Understanding Mystery 06:48 Finding Certainty in Yourself07:01Recognizing Temporary Emotions 07:38 Overexplaining and Neediness08:38Creating Mystery in Dating 09:43 Certainty and Insecurity10:05Dealing with Rejection 11:23 Finding Certainty Elsewhere 12:36 Recognizing Temporary Emotions 13:05 Understanding Anger and Emotions 13:43 The Pitfalls of Overexplaining 14:48 The Dangers of Overexplaining 15:47 Keeping Some Mystery 16:37 The Thrill of Leading 17:57 Acceptable Places to Approach Women 18:58 Approaching in Grocery Stores 19:37 Approaching with Short-lived Conversations 23:03 Being Respectful and Not Creepy 24:46 Best Places to Meet Women 26:10 Approaching Women in Coffee Shops 27:34 Approaching Women in Parking Lots 28:37 Strategies to overcome approach anxiety 38:40 Will's new relationship 49:14 Importance of female friends 51:38 The Influence of Others on Dating Profiles 54:46 A Date with an Incredibly Beautiful Woman 56:28 Psychic Sexual Communication 57:43 Mixed Signals and Uncertainty 01:00:44 Struggling with Business and Dating 01:03:51 Balancing Business and Personal Life 01:08:47 Owning Your Circumstances 01:12:47 Dealing with Adversity and Maintaining Groundedness

In this episode, we discuss how qualities like emotional expression, authenticity, and leadership, often seen in musicians, can make one more attractive in dating. We emphasize the importance of connecting emotionally, being genuine, and showing vulnerability to forge authentic bonds. We highlight confidence, self-love, and the mindset of viewing dating as a path to personal growth and abundance. The conversation covers psychic sexual communication, the significance of body language, setting intentions, and the necessity of a supportive network. Ultimately, we conclude that embracing authenticity, pursuing self-improvement, and maintaining a positive mindset are key to building confidence and attracting meaningful relationships. 00:00 Introduction 01:19 Overview of the Podcast 04:07 Qualities of Musicians that Attract Women 06:52 Leadership and Confidence 09:06 Preselection and Being the Center of Attention 12:46 Bad Dating Advice: 'Be Yourself' 13:55 Expressing Flaws and Insecurities 15:55 Courage and Acting Despite Fear 24:51 Intensity in Dating 26:05 Creating a Cultivated Space 28:04 Taking Rejections as a Positive 30:01 Preparing for a Date 37:00 Advancements in Tim's Dating Life 39:31 Visualization and Psychic Sexual Communication 45:00 Believing in the Desired Outcome 48:10 Admiring Beauty and Gratitude 51:15 The Power of Silence 52:00 Eye Contact and Silence 53:23 Planning the First Date 54:59 Approaching Women 57:39 Challenges of Approaching Alone 59:09 Overcoming Resistance to Approach 01:03:13 Navigating Early Stages of Dating 01:07:07 Building a Strong Relationship 01:10:17 Defining the Ideal Relationship 01:11:12 Being Slow and Intentional

Bill Furlong's Artwork & Photos: www.billfurlong.com Insta: @furlongartwork @furlongphotos In our conversation, we delved into diverse dating topics, from rejection to personal growth. Key themes emerged, highlighting the value of genuine intentions, vulnerability, and empathy. We explored psychic sexual communication and the significance of eye contact in forging connections. Tips were shared on coping with rejection, advocating self-love, recognizing misalignment, and shifting focus away from oneself. The discussion extended to how dating experiences influence other aspects of life, notably career paths. Will shared insights into how his interactions with women have shaped his professional journey, emphasizing self-confidence and awareness gained through rejection. He stressed the importance of cultivating friendships with women and embracing feminine energy. We concluded with reflections on taking initiative and fostering clear communication in relationships. Will shared his recent dating experiences, underscoring the challenges of interpreting text messages and maintaining a balanced mindset. Despite hurdles, he remains optimistic and open to new opportunities. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction of Bill Furlong 01:16 Bill's Natural Ease with Women 03:03 Psychic Sexual Communication 08:09 The Power of Eye Contact 17:32 Expressing Desire After a Relationship 19:00 Tips for Dealing with Rejection 25:03 Approaching Women and Its Impact on Life 31:29 Appreciating the Feminine Essence 37:21 Making Female Friends 45:34 Being Clear and Leading in Relationships 47:49 The Second Date 48:26 The Vagueness of Communication 49:57 Setting an Actual Date 50:50 The Importance of Clarity 51:19 Understanding Women's Behavior 52:40 The Challenges of Text Communication 52:49 The Age of the Woman 52:53 Mixed Signals 53:15 Choosing the Right Date Activity 54:00 The Danger of Fixating on One Woman 57:25 Approaching a Woman at a Show 01:02:24 The Importance of Being Willing to Walk Away 01:03:13 Confidence and Self-Belief 01:04:38 The Abundance Mindset 01:07:20 Final Thoughts

In this episode, we explore diverse approaches to dating, covering topics such as reviewing an Instagram reel, responding to a Reddit question, and providing insights on approaching a girl surrounded by friends. Emphasizing the crucial role of authenticity and confidence in social interactions, we share tips on navigating various situations. Our key message underscores the importance of having the courage to initiate connections and staying true to oneself when pursuing someone of interest. Discussing aspects like approaching with confidence, avoiding burnout, being selective, and the benefits of compliments, we also explore group approaches and stress the necessity of having a clear dating vision. Throughout, we highlight the theme of authenticity in different scenarios, addressing feelings of inauthenticity and emphasizing vulnerability in group conversations. We touch on the discomfort of disengaging from uninteresting interactions and stress the importance of sharing enjoyable activities with a partner. The conversation concludes with a reminder to stay true to oneself and seek date coaching if needed. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 00:24 Reviewing Instagram Reel 09:21 Approaching a Girl in a Group 14:41 Being Authentic About Inauthenticities 16:30 Approaching a Girl with Friends - Alternative Approaches 18:21 Approaching with Confidence 21:20 Avoiding Approach Burnout 22:06 Dealing with Picky Behavior 25:31 Approaching Less Attractive People 27:18 The Importance of Complimenting 29:23 The Benefits of Group Approaches 35:40 Having a Vision for Dating 41:09 Authenticity in Different Situations 42:06 Being Authentic in Approaches 43:37 Feeling Inauthentic in Group Settings 46:21 Vulnerability in Group Conversations 48:18 Disliking Surface-Level Group Conversations 51:45 Leaving Uninteresting Group Interactions 52:15 Leaving Social Gatherings 53:58 Feeling Awkward About Leaving 55:48 Planning Fun and Exciting Dates 59:35 Doing Activities You Enjoy with Your Partner 01:00:01 Doing Things for Yourself and Your Partner 01:01:23 Closing Remarks

In this episode, we explore various facets of dating and attraction, delving into the notion that attraction is not a choice and emphasizing the importance of authenticity. Our discussion covers topics such as dating multiple people, self-improvement in attracting a partner, and the significance of having a clear vision in dating. We navigate the challenges of workplace attraction, suggesting a cautious, slower approach outside of the workplace to mitigate potential complications. We encourage listeners to break away from conventional thinking and forge their unique paths, exploring different approaches to exchanging numbers. Throughout, we stress the vital role of authenticity, presence, and individuality in creating memorable dating experiences. The conversation also addresses ethical considerations in pursuing someone in a relationship, highlighting the importance of understanding women's fears and emphasizing ongoing consent and communication in the dating process. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and Overview 02:40 Attraction and Authenticity 05:42 The Myth of Universal Attraction 08:25 Self-Improvement and Authenticity 09:41 The Importance of Having a Vision 11:11 Dating Multiple People 12:36 Exploring and Getting to Know People 15:01 The Importance of Purpose 19:38 Approaching a Girl at Her Workplace 23:49 Revisiting the Debate: Giving Numbers vs Taking Numbers 25:41 Navigating Workplace Attraction 26:18 Taking a Slower Approach 27:39 The Inevitability of Attraction in the Workplace 28:05 Expressing Interest Outside of Work 29:05 Being Cautious and Respectful 30:10 Navigating the Friend Zone 32:24 Creating Memorable First Approaches and Dates 34:50 Being Authentic and Present 36:04 Listening and Getting to Know the Other Person 38:12 Being Extraordinary and Standing Out 39:08 Taking Risks and Going Where Others Won't 40:04 Choosing Your Own Path and Being Authentic 41:10 Overcoming Ordinary Thinking 44:42 Making Approaches and Dates Memorable 45:39 Receiving the Number Instead of Taking 47:12 Making a Statement Instead of Asking 48:51 Leaving the Number and Letting Them Text 50:35 The Difference Between Leaving the Number and Texting 50:46 Mistrust in Giving Out Numbers 51:46 The Power of Words and Actions 52:24 The Transition from Conversation to Texting 53:14 Agreeing to Disagree 53:44 Taking Initiative in the Dating Process 54:31 The Importance of the First Text 56:28 Group Approach Day 57:16 Approaching Conversations with Strangers 58:14 Dealing with Disappointments and Nasty Voices 59:14 Approaching a Waitress 01:00:53 Unexpected Encounters 01:03:12 Ethics of Pursuing Someone in a Relationship 01:04:19 The Unfairness of the Dating Process 01:06:06 Women's Receptiveness and Men's Approach 01:07:04 Approaching a Mother and Daughter 01:09:01 The Friendliness of Women 01:10:45 The Responsibility of Approaching Women 01:12:05 Understanding Women's Fear and Protection 01:13:56 The Importance of Consent and Ongoing Communication 01:15:28 Being Receptive to Women's Fear 01:16:50 Showing Friendliness and Reassurance

In this episode, we debunk the idea of a complex process for approaching women at the gym and emphasize the importance of authenticity and clarity in expressing desires. Our discussion delves into the difference between spraying and praying and the potential pitfalls of purely sex-driven motivations. We also provide insights on how to navigate various dating scenarios, such as ignored messages, flakes, and cancellations. We explore the concept of emotional intelligence, highlighting the significance of understanding and working with emotions in dating and personal growth. Throughout the episode, we share our recent dating experiences and the challenges we face. We discuss new romantic interests, dealing with uncertainty, and reacting to being ignored. Additionally, we delve into the topic of alcohol and its impact on dating, sharing a cautionary tale about a drunk encounter. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Overview 00:34 Critiquing Instagram Reels and Reddit Posts 02:00 Debunking the Gym Approach Process 03:15 The Importance of Authentic Connections 05:02 Understanding and Expressing Desires 06:17 The Difference Between Spraying and Praying 08:05 The Tragedy of Purely Motivated by Sex 09:12 Does Chasing Girls Work? 10:16 Interpreting Ignored Messages 13:35 Responding to Flakes and Cancellations 15:07 Navigating Physical Intimacy 16:49 Setting Up Second Dates 18:38 Accepting Friendship or Moving On 23:31 Understanding Emotional Intelligence 26:35 Recognizing and Working with Emotions 30:09 Developing Emotional Awareness 32:02 Overcoming Emotional Resistance 33:09 Personal Experiences and Growth 33:38 New Romantic Interest 38:16 Will's Dating Experience 43:33 Dealing with Uncertainty 48:51 Reacting to Being Ignored 51:25 Treating Women Equally 56:19 Alcohol and Dating 59:04 Horror Story: Drunk Encounter 01:00:01 Closing Remarks

In this episode, we shift our perspective to explore dating advice and optimal places to meet women, urging listeners to broaden interests and utilize platforms like Meetup.com. Advocating for authenticity, we debunk the myth of a perfect time for approaching women, sharing real-life examples and emphasizing empathy. Our experiences in approaching strangers in the park and group meetups are recounted, highlighting the importance of setting goals and staying focused. We delve into the dynamics of approaching women in various scenarios, caution against over-reliance on dating apps, and explore the intersection of art in society, addressing challenges faced by artists and contemplating the future of artistic expression and authenticity in shaping culture. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:20 Reviewing Dating Advice 02:16 Best Places to Meet Women 03:43 Opening Your Mind to New Interests 04:41 Using Meetup.com to Meet Women 05:25 Finding Women in Specific Environments 06:04 Feminine Restaurants and Coffee Shops 07:07 Social Sporting Events 08:07 Using Dating Apps as a Supplement 09:21 The Illusion of a Perfect Time 10:36 The Rules of Approaching a Woman 11:20 The Importance of Taking Action 12:20 Creating the Perfect Time 13:23 The Myth of a Perfect Time 14:16 Handling Unexpected Situations 15:07 Authenticity in Interactions 18:48 The Role of Rules and Authenticity 20:09 Creating a Space for Authenticity 23:22 Real-Life Examples of Authentic Approaches 26:46 Empathy for Women in Approaches 28:24 The Importance of Familiar Energy 29:22 Showing Your Real Self 29:54 Recap of Meetup Group 30:03 Approaching Strangers in the Park 30:33 Sharing Stories and Goals 31:28 Overcoming Resistance and Making Approaches 32:23 Making Genuine Connections 33:18 Approaching Women with Boyfriends 34:04 Approaching with Different Intentions 35:13 Stepping Out of Comfort Zones 36:15 The Exhaustion of Approaching Strangers 37:21 Navigating Approaches and Personal Boundaries 38:09 The Excitement and Vulnerability of Approaching 39:25 The Thrill of the Unknown 40:36 The Comparison to Grand Theft Auto 41:13 The Rush of Approaching 43:25 Managing Highs and Lows 45:08 Riding the Highs of Approaches 46:16 Building Sandcastles and Expectations 48:15 Being Present and Avoiding Objectification 49:25 Approaching Women on the Phone 52:42 Approaching Women Who Are Walking 56:04 Approaching Women Who Are Running 58:39 Approaching Women on the Phone 59:22 Being Mindful of Facial Expressions 05:00 The Importance of Art in Society 15:00 The Role of Artists in Shaping Culture 25:00 Challenges Faced by Artists 35:00 The Business Side of Art 45:00 Artistic Expression and Authenticity 55:00 The Future of Art 01:00:00 Closing Remarks

In our latest episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we explore the nuances of online dating, from navigating Instagram reels to setting up the first dates, emphasizing the importance of the right mindset and confidence without overemphasizing expectations. We delve into the dynamics of approaching groups, the persona contrasts between "bad boys" and "nice guys," and the significance of expressing desires authentically. Our discussion also covers the challenges of seeking validation, the importance of self-validation, and understanding one’s inner child, alongside recognizing red flags in dating. We address balancing desire with self-control, the benefits of setting boundaries, and the importance of clear and respectful communication of desires. Concluding with insights on handling nervousness and the power of humor in overcoming awkward moments, we emphasize the importance of personal integrity and the pitfalls of seeking external validation in the complex world of dating. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 06:57 Reviewing Instagram Reels 29:13 Discussion on Talking to Groups of Girls 33:09 Approaching Groups of Girls 46:57 Dealing with Rejection and Seeking Validation 53:11 Embracing and Validating Your Inner Child 59:35 Seeking Validation from Trusted Sources 01:02:19 Approaching Dates with High Hopes and Low Expectations 01:03:02 Recognizing Red Flags and Keeping an Open Mind 01:04:02 Balancing Desire and Self-Control 01:05:01 Not Having Sex on the First Date 01:06:04 Keeping Sexual Energy Open 01:07:15 Expressing Desire and Setting Boundaries 01:08:03 Building Up the Kiss 01:09:37 Personal Interactions and Nervousness 01:10:51 Laughing Off Awkward Moments 01:11:41 Dealing with Skepticism and Misinterpretation 01:13:36 Holding onto Integrity and Ignoring External Validation 01:15:13 Conclusion

In the 8th episode of The Art of Approach Podcast, we explore the intricacies of dating and approach coaching, sharing insights and personal experiences on overcoming self-defeating thoughts, healing past wounds, and building self-belief. We discuss the importance of body language, being present, and the power of affirmations and self-forgiveness in building rapport. Our conversation also covers managing expectations when approaching women, the benefits of approaching alone versus with a wingman, and the significance of expressing feelings and respecting privacy in potential relationships. Finally, we reflect on the importance of honesty and authenticity in interactions, emphasizing overcoming fear and building confidence in the realm of dating and approaching women.

In episode seven of the Art of Approach podcast, we dive into the essence of using 'friend energy' when meeting new people. We discuss the significance of treating everyone like a friend to forge authentic and comfortable connections. Our conversation also touches on the importance of clear intentions and genuine desire in approaches, handling 'sh*t tests' with confidence, and the need to recover from negative experiences while maintaining a balanced mindset. We delve into finding equilibrium in interactions, focusing on the journey rather than the outcome in dating, and the role of texting in early stages of relationships. Sharing our own coaching and dating experiences, we highlight the challenges of missed opportunities and overcoming the fear of judgment. We emphasize the importance of confronting self-doubt, accepting the uncertainties of dating, and the idea that there's never a 'perfect time' to approach someone, encouraging our listeners to seize opportunities as they arise. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 03:22 The Power of Cultivating a Friend Energy 08:10 Approaching with Friend Energy 14:12 Approaching with a Clear Purpose 18:23 Approaching in Different Situations 25:36 Building Confidence through Positive Approaches 28:37 Handling Shit Tests and Maintaining Authenticity 33:08 Bouncing Back from Negative Interactions 34:05 Finding Balance in Interactions 36:29 Texting in the Early Stages of Dating 44:05 Personal Coaching and Dating Experiences 49:14 Overcoming Fear of Judgment 57:18 Seizing Opportunities and Letting Go of Regrets 01:00:38 The Illusion of Perfect Timing

Welcome to the sixth episode of The Art of Approach podcast, where I, Timothy Bray, alongside my co-host Will Mulvaney, dive into the intricate world of approaching and dating. Today, we're thrilled to have Nicole Karmine, an esteemed intrapersonal intelligence coach, joining us to shed light on the nuances of meeting new people and building genuine connections. Nicole brings her unique perspective to the table, discussing everything from the fear of rejection to the vitality of authenticity in relationships. She also shares her inspiring journey with The Chemistry Connection, her venture focusing on intentional intimacy. Together we explore the significance of self-love, the art of being your own coach, and the undeniable power of eye contact and a simple smile in forging connections. Nicole recounts a pivotal moment on the beach that transformed her view on self-expression, leading us to discuss the role of personal style in communicating intention and attracting others. To wrap up, we delve into the art of approaching someone of interest and the impact of genuine compliments. Join us as we emphasize the importance of staying true to oneself and embracing authenticity in all aspects of life. About Nicole Karmine Nicole is a creative and mutiventurer, working and traveling around the world with her soul-dog Gracie. As a Mindset Coach, Nicole works with executives and entrepreneurs to build successful businesses through practices of meditation and manifestation.And Nicole is in the process of launching her new initiative - The Chemistry Connection - through which she is working with individuals looking to build intentional intimacy with themselves, enhancing their intrapersonal intelligence and attracting the life and love they want.  You can book a coaching session with her here (promo code for The Art of Approach community: INTENTIONALINTIMACY) www.nicolekarmine.com/bookyoursession She is also always available directly via email to chat/ connect at [email protected]. And you see more of what she is up to here: www.nicolekarmine.com Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction03:01Reviewing Instagram Reels and Questions 05:16 Discussion on Approaching Women 14:41 Reviewing a Reddit Question 26:05 Why People Don't Meet in Real Life 32:22 The Fear of Approaching and the Importance of Authenticity 36:43 The Value of Real-Life Connections 38:07 Dating Apps and the Fun of Dating 38:53 Manifesting vs Expecting 42:07 Nicole's Journey and The Chemistry Connection 46:50 Creating Intentional Intimacy 49:21 Showing Self-Love 53:33 Being Your Own Coach 57:58 The Importance of Eye Contact 01:01:16 The Power of Smiling 01:09:35 Creating Respectful Spaces 01:14:35 The Impact of Eye Contact 01:19:33 Breaking Down Stereotypes 01:20:01 Finding Yourself and Embracing Authenticity 01:21:07 The Power of Personal Moments 01:22:37 The Importance of Personal Style 01:25:19 Expressing Individuality through Clothing 01:28:42 The Impact of Dressing Authentically 01:31:54 Approaching Someone of Interest 01:34:20 The Power of Genuine Compliments01:37:12The Importance of Authenticity 01:40:10 Closing Remarks

Welcome to episode 5 of The Art of Approach Podcast! Today, we are tackling some common dating advice from social media and answering your questions. We're talking about how to give compliments that really mean something and discussing the tricky business of making an impression. We also dive into why some people hesitate to approach women and share tips on getting past that. Plus, we're exploring the idea of dating with freedom and intention, without rushing into serious relationships. I'll share my thoughts on what makes dating work, like taking time to understand your emotions and the value of a relationship beyond just physical attraction. We'll also chat about why being devoted yet not overly committed can be a good balance in dating. And finally, we'll touch on the importance of being real and vulnerable in your relationships, without just looking for validation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Art of Approach Podcast 01:15 Reviewing an Instagram Reel 08:45 Reviewing a Reddit Post 26:21 Avoiding Hesitation in Approaching Women 49:09 Dating Freely and Navigating Relationships 54:58 The Importance of Time and Devotion in Dating 59:05 The Challenges of Commitment 01:00:28 Bringing Vulnerability into Dating

In our fourth episode of "The Art of Approach," we dive into the complex world of dating. We talk about embracing our anxiety and nervousness, understanding that these feelings are a natural part of the journey and can be tackled with confidence. We discuss the importance of accepting uncertainty in dating, the courage to face rejection, and the significance of starting at any age focused on personal growth. Highlighting the value of high standards, we explore how they lead us to partners who inspire and challenge us. We also touch upon the empowering aspect of expressing our desires and how approaching women, despite the fear of rejection, contributes to our confidence and leads to genuine, meaningful connections. Join us as we navigate these intricate dynamics of dating with a fresh perspective and open heart. Can't wait to hear your thoughts, and until next time, keep embracing life with curiosity and bravery! 🌟 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Structure 01:06 Reviewing Dating Advice from Instagram Reel 03:17 Addressing Anxiety and Energy in Dating 07:03 Building Confidence and Dealing with Nervousness 10:25 Overcoming Zero Confidence in Dating 13:11 Navigating Online Dating and Group Activities 19:00 Embracing Uncertainty in Dating 32:58 Managing High Expectations in Dating 39:20 Student Story: Approaching Someone at the Airport 48:34 Approaching Women in Public Places 55:21 Overcoming Awkwardness and Fear of Rejection 57:16 Challenging Stereotypes and Misconceptions 58:39 Understanding the Perspective of Women and Boyfriends 59:47 Conclusion and Next Steps

Welcome to the third episode of The Art of Approach podcast, where today, Tim and William unravel the intricacies of dating and relationships. We'll delve into effective strategies for engaging with someone who's shown disinterest, share tips on finding the right partner, and explore how beauty influences dating. Tackling common challenges, we discuss overcoming rejection fears, clarifying intentions, the art of the first kiss, and the importance of authenticity and consent. This episode is packed with insights and practical advice to refine your approach to dating, ending with a reminder to stay true to the core principles of building meaningful connections. Join us for a transformative journey into the world of dating!

In this episode, we delve into the world of authentic approach, dating, and relationships. We emphasize the importance of authenticity and integrity in attracting others and often critique modern dating advice to address the root issues behind dating problems. We also explore the concept of the friend zone and stress the need for men to express their desires from the outset. We talk about the patience required to see results from approaching women and the crucial role of consistency. Sharing our personal stories, we highlight the importance of authentic listening and addressing the foundational issues in relationships. Our conversations navigate the uncertainties and challenges in the dating and approach space, focusing on understanding the root causes of these challenges and addressing core human issues like authenticity and integrity. We delve into the concept of the greatest love of all, underscoring the importance of self-love and changing one's narrative. We encourage our listeners to focus on personal growth instead of seeking quick fixes. We also discuss the complexities that emerge after approaching someone and the necessity of breaking negative mindsets. We conclude our episodes by emphasizing the transformative power of changing the conversation, offering insights on coaching, and providing information about meetup opportunities. Takeaways Authenticity and integrity are key in attracting others. Expressing desires clearly and genuinely is important in approaching women. The friend zone often results from men not expressing their desires from the beginning. Consistency is crucial in seeing results from approaching women. Listening authentically and treating the root issues in relationships is essential. Understanding the root cause of challenges in dating and approaching is crucial. Authenticity, integrity, and self-love are core issues of being human. Focusing on personal growth is more beneficial than seeking quick fixes. Breaking negative mindsets and changing the conversation can lead to immediate change in perspective. 01:18 Critiquing a Reel: Approaching a Woman in Public 06:14 Reddit Question: Approaching Women for Beginners 13:37 Community Question: How Long to See Results from Approaching Women 23:47 Personal Story: Being Stood Up on a Date 32:40 Personal Story: Pursuing a Woman in the Park 44:47 Discussion: Authentic Listening and Treating the Root 55:48 Understanding the Root Cause 56:43 Core Issues of Being Human 57:43 Authenticity and Integrity 58:13 The Greatest Love of All 59:10 Focusing on Personal Growth 59:55 Challenges After Approaching 01:00:55 Breaking Negative Mindsets 01:02:15 Changing the Conversation 01:02:59 Immediate Change in Perspective 01:03:25 Coaching and Meetup Opportunities

In this episode, we explore the delicate balance of cherishing each moment and avoiding overpowering behavior in dating. Instead of manipulative tactics, we champion the virtues of being genuine and straightforward. We discuss the nuances of approaching women, with an awareness of societal expectations and the concern of coming across as intrusive. We also offer insights on organically creating opportunities to meet women in daily life, emphasizing the significance of not fixating on results and concentrating on honing our approach. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Format 01:00 Discussion of Instagram Reel 03:13 Takeaways from Instagram Reel 05:22 Discussion of Reddit Question 11:17 Dealing with the Expectation to Approach Women 13:40 Being Authentic with Desires 18:05 Increasing Opportunities to Approach Women 24:14 Finding Opportunities in Day-to-Day Life 35:01 Detaching from Outcome and Focusing on Practice 42:24 Final Thoughts and Complimenting Others 48:08 Introduction and Podcast Goals 49:07 Exploring Standard Dating Advice 50:14 Closing Remarks and Call for Questions