The CSM Lounge

Are you a high-level technical expert struggling to make the leap into transformative business leadership? In this episode of The CSM Lounge, host Femi sits down with Jennifer Selby Long, an executive coach to CISOs at companies like Airbnb, Sony, and LinkedIn.Jennifer breaks down why the "high-control" leadership model is cracking and how to navigate the mental and political pressures of the C-Suite. From leveraging sports psychology to mastering "influence without authority," this episode is a masterclass in personal and professional transformation for the modern cybersecurity leader.In this episode, we discuss:The Promotion Trap: Why moving from IC to Manager is a career change, not just a promotion.Control vs. Collaboration: Why "command and control" fails in the age of AI and global workforces.Influencing the Board: The secret to getting "power of the purse" by understanding business pain points.Performance Psychology: Using the "Threat vs. Challenge" mindset to stay calm under pressure.The Power of Recovery: Why high-performing leaders must oscillate between "push" states and "rest" states.Connect with Jennifer:Website: The Selby GroupLinkedIn: Jennifer Selby LongRead the Hit Post: "How to Handle an Ineffective Boss" (Available on The Selby Group Blog)🔥 Level up faster in cybersecurity:👉 Cybersecurity Career Toolkithttps://academy.fogunjiconsulting.com/products/digital_downloads/cyber-career-toolkit (Templates + insider guidance to help you stand out and move faster.)👉 LinkedIn Optimization Coursehttps://academy.fogunjiconsulting.com/courses/optimizing-your-linkedin-presence (Build a strong, credible LinkedIn profile — no Premium required.)💛 Support The CyberSec MigrantYou can support the channel by:Sending Super Thanks on videosJoining Channel Memberships (when available)Supporting on Patreon for behind-the-scenes content & exclusives☕ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/TheCyberSecMigrantYour support helps me keep creating free, practical content for the global cybersecurity community 🙏📲 Follow The CyberSec Migrant:🐦 Twitter/X: @cybersecmigrant💼 LinkedIn: @thecybersecmigrant📘 Facebook: @TheCybersecMigrant📸 Instagram: @cybersecmigrant

Transitioning your career to a new country is about more than just a resume—it’s about a cultural pivot. This week, Femi welcomes HR expert and career consultant Kemi Bankole. Kemi shares her raw journey of moving from Nigeria to Vancouver, nearly hitting "zero" in her bank account, and eventually unlocking a strategy that landed her 7 competing offers from both public and private sectors.Key Takeaways:The "Relationship" Secret: Why cold-messaging "please refer me" doesn't work, and what to do instead.Cultural Nuances: How to navigate the shift from deferential workplace cultures to the Canadian collaborative model.The Imposter Syndrome Cure: Identifying transferable skills in mid-to-senior level transitions.Hiring Manager Secrets: What recruiters see that candidates miss (including the tell-tale signs of an AI-generated resume).Resources Mentioned:Book a free 30-minute Career Clarity session with Kemi: kemibankoleconsulting.comFind Kemi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oluwakemibankole/Connect with the Show:💛 Support The CyberSec MigrantYou can support the channel by: • Sending Super Thanks on YouTube videos • Joining Channel Memberships (when available) • Supporting on Patreon for behind-the-scenes content & exclusives☕ Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/cw/TheCyberSecMigrantYour support helps us keep creating free, practical content for the global community 🙏🔥 Level up faster in cybersecurity:👉 Cybersecurity Career Toolkithttps://academy.fogunjiconsulting.com/products/digital_downloads/cyber-career-toolkit(Templates + insider guidance to help you stand out and move faster.)👉 LinkedIn Optimization Coursehttps://academy.fogunjiconsulting.com/courses/optimizing-your-linkedin-presence(Build a strong, credible LinkedIn profile — no Premium required.)📲 Follow The CyberSec Migrant:🐦 Twitter/X: @cybersecmigrant💼 LinkedIn: @thecybersecmigrant📘 Facebook: @TheCybersecMigrant📸 Instagram: @cybersecmigrant