The Fem Tell All Podcast

In this episode, Ruth and Maddie explore the difficult decision to cut ties with toxic family members. Join the ladies as they share personal stories, explore the signs of unhealthy relationships, and discuss the emotional toll of staying connected. They also offer practical advice for those considering this radical step and how to reclaim your peace and happiness. Tune in for insights that might inspire you to prioritize your well-being!

This week on Fem Tell All, Ruth and Maddie go over a step-by-step guide on how to finesse the perfect first date. Everything from asking a woman out, what time to make the reservation, what to wear, and how to close out the date to ensure you may get a second date in the future. The ladies hope these tips and tricks help!

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss a recent survey "regarding intimacy, communication, and trust, as well as how much ‘couple content’ (couples) share online." The survey results were staggering, showing that "those who share three or more couple selfies per week are allegedly 128 percent unhappier than their more discreet counterparts." Find out what the ladies think of this statistic and if they believe it to be true (hint: one of them vehemently disagrees!)

In this week’s episode, after receiving multiple requests on this subject alone, Ruth and Maddie cover Fetishes and Kinks. What defines a kink vs. a fetish, what are some of the most common types, and what do the ladies truly think about them?

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie answer a listener's question about the importance of meaningful gifts and how to best discover what gifts your significant other appreciates and cherishes. Reach out with any other topics you want to hear the ladies discuss! What gifts do you find romantic?

In this week's episode Ruth and Maddie cover the best (and worst!!) examples of relationships in movies. Everything from The Titanic to When Harry Met Sally! The ladies share their perspectives on how rom-coms may have shaped their expectations in relationships in the current day and the lens through which they wish they had viewed some of these fictitious relationships at an influential time in their lives.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss soulmates. Are they real? How do you know if/when you've found them? Is there the potential to have multiple or even platonic soulmates? Find out what the ladies think!

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover birthdays and the varying emotions surrounding them. Ruth having just celebrated a birthday and Maddie about to celebrate hers next month reflect on the last year. Birthdays tend to bring up a slew of emotions (the good, the bad, and the ugly) and the ladies wanted to deconstruct how they move through each emotion and scenario surrounding theirs. What is your relationship with your birthday like?

This week's episode celebrates ONE YEAR of Fem Tell All! Ruth and Maddie cover a rapid-fire Q&A provided by listeners and then the ladies do a deep dive into their favorite moments over the last year. Thank you all for listening, here's to many more anniversaries! 

In this week's episode Ruth and Madison tackle lying on dating apps and whether one gender seems to lie more than the other. The ladies share personal encounters as well as stories from friends. The differing opinions make for a heated debate.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover the last words. Whether that's the last words you've shared with a loved one before they pass, the previous phrase before a breakup, or the final goodbye shared with a no longer friend. Ruth shares how this new focus on the importance of goodbyes has affected her current relationships.

In this week's episode, Maddie and Ruth reflect on a recent poll featured on Vanessa Marin's (Sex Therapist, NYT Best Seller,  @vanessaandxander ) Instagram page where she revealed "the average person's ideal length of sex." This sparked a debate between the two ladies to determine why there was a clear disparity between the answers.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss the latest study on the elevated levels of toxic metals found in tampons. Although this information is outrageous, it was not surprising to both hosts. The ladies discuss the facts presented in the alarming study, as well as, dive into additional staggering statistics on women and people with uteruses health. Note: "Autoimmune diseases are more prevalent in women, affecting up to 10% of the world's population, with approximately 80% of those affected being women." Sources: Axios https://www.axios.com/2024/07/09/toxic-metal-tampons-lead-arsenic Berkeley https://publichealth.berkeley.edu/news-media/research-highlights/first-study-to-measure-toxic-metals-in-tampons-shows-arsenic-and-lead Cleveland Clinic https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23424-heavy-metal-poisoning-toxicity The Commonwealth Fund https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2024/jun/insights-us-maternal-mortality-crisis-international-comparison The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/11/well/tampons-arsenic-lead-heavy-metals-toxic.html Science Direct https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160412024004355 The Washington Post https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/09/12/period-products-absorption-study-blood/ Women's Healthcare https://www.npwomenshealthcare.com/9-most-sobering-statistics-in-womens-health/

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie give a play-by-play on planning a perfect date. How to not only make a date memorable(positively) but also how to make it successful in ensuring future dates. Both ladies share specific examples from their best and worst dates and what they believe would be the ultimate "moves" to make someone feel special and cared for. 

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover their personal take on the meaning of "financial freedom." How to achieve it, how to sustain it, and how it can affect your personal relationships. What does financial freedom mean to you?

This week on The Fem Tell All Podcast Maddie and Ruth welcome a very special guest, Midge Tkocz! Midge and Maddie have been long-time friends since college and have had the pleasure of witnessing the trials and tribulations of relationships for the last decade. Maddie (and Ruth by proxy) has always admired how Midge navigated her romantic life with an open mindset. Now that Midge is happily married and in a loving throuple, the ladies have asked her to speak on her experience of polyamory, open relationships, and finding two partners to love. 

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie respond to a comment/ request from a listener on their "What Women Want" episode asking about how to approach women successfully and find like-minded women in this dating climate. The ladies share personal experiences(virtual and in-person), pick up success stories, and even brainstorm new ideas on how they believe women would prefer to be approached. For more requests on what Ruth and Maddie should discuss next, please comment or reach out via direct message.

On this week’s episode of Fem Tell All we have the ever-so-brilliant and lovely Mac Thurston discussing the topic of identifying as nonbinary. Mac (they/them) is a genderqueer lesbian currently pursuing their MD-PhD at Kaiser-Caltech. They grew up in a religious household and have spent the last decade (un)learning & exploring their identity. Mac first met Madison in 7th grade and they have been best friends ever since! We couldn't love Mac more at FTA and can't wait for you all to "meet" them!

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss the top quality they believe Women want when dating Men. They share personal anecdotes, what they've observed from past relationships, and feedback from their friends to deduce what Women REALLY want. Weigh in on the conversation!

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss the pitfalls of living with perfectionism. Specifically the typical shame spirals, negative relationship habits, and thoughts of low self-worth that correlate to having perfectionist tendencies. Both ladies share personal stories on how they've seen perfectionism manifest in their lives and anecdotes on how they have learned how to cope with it and change their behavior.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie celebrate Mother's Day by interviewing their mothers! The ladies ask the same set of questions to both Aecha and Meg to see what motherhood means to them. Whether you have a great relationship with your mother or no ties, FTA hopes you enjoy this deeper look into one of Ruth and Maddie's closest relationships. Happy Mother's Day to all who celebrate!

In this week's episode Maddie and Ruth discuss what Feminism means to them. Both ladies share when they first started identifying as feminists, and the daily acts to promote an equitable and equal world. What does feminism mean to you? 

In this week’s episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss how the healing process is not always linear. Everything from heartbreak, childhood trauma, strained family relationships, and friendships tiffs. Both ladies share their personal experiences of healing (some currently in progress) and the ways one can show grace in the process.

This week on Fem Tell All, Ruth and Maddie discuss the age-old question, is love a feeling or a choice? The ladies dive into their own experiences with past and current love and whether they feel it is a choice or not. Love is complicated and easy, exhilarating and terrifying. Do you believe we have autonomy over whom we love?

This week on Fem Tell All we cover “Must-Have Dating Criteria” with our special guest, Adam Khalil! The ladies love to cover dating adjacent topics on the pod, but this time they wanted to approach it from an analytical view. Listen as Adam teaches Ruth and Maddie the importance of reframing dating from an objective lens using what Adam likes to call your dating “homework.” Read more about Adam and all of his areas of expertise below.   Adam Khalil is an accomplished investor, author, and businessman.    Adam started investing in real estate in 2008 and then moved to stocks and crypto.   In addition, Adam wrote “Mental Constructs,” to help share his knowledge on how to create a successful mindset.    He completed his degree in Psychology and has always appreciated the psyche of the human brain. He continues pushing forward his knowledge in multiple areas and educating those around him. 

This week, Ruth and Maddie speak on peer pressure in adulthood. The ladies contemplate whether or not we're influenced by our friends and families to make decisions that may significantly change our lives. Everything from getting married to having children, to even feeling it's acceptable to cheat on your partner if others in your circle have done so as well. Have you felt pressured to behave one way or another because of your surroundings?

For their second featured guest on Fem Tell All in honor of Women's History Month, Maddie and Ruth got the chance to speak with Steph Medina. When thinking of a woman who "has it all," Steph was the first to come to their mind. She is a mother, wife, Chief People Officer, aspiring entrepreneur, and author. Listen as Steph shares her journey of navigating a highly intentional life infused with purpose and passion. Follow Steph Medina on Instagram and TikTok: @sincerelystephmedina

This week Maddie and Ruth discuss learned loneliness with the pandemic being at the epicenter. While loneliness may feel “safe,” it can have dire effects on our overall health. Let’s talk about how we got here and things we can do to combat it.

This week on Fem Tell All, in celebration of Women's History Month, we welcome our first guest, Veronica Maccari! Our compelling conversation covers topics spanning from her journey beginning as an excelling athlete in Italy to an entertainment mogul in LA and NYC, her path to gain citizenship, and the noticeable cultural differences between women in Italy and America.    Veronica Maccari is an actress, writer, and filmmaker from Milan, Italy. She has performed on various NYC and LA stages as well as in shorts, feature films, and commercials. She also produces her own film projects. Most recently she has been on the festival circuit with her web series IMPOSTER, which she wrote and starred in, winning 12 awards and screening at 20+ festivals all over the world, including the Oscar-qualifying HollyShorts and Cleveland International Film Festival. As a proud "extraordinary ability" green card holder, she now helps other international artists navigate their 01 visa journey. Connect with her on IG at: @veronica_maccari

On this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss their own personal Top 10 Qualities that make up a "ten." Everything from reliability to kindness, the ladies deconstruct the characteristics of a perfect potential partner.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss the age-old theory of whether love is blind or not. Although they have opposing views, one of the ladies becomes quite convincing by the end of the episode. Maddie and Ruth share personal stories to support their arguments, discussing whether men and women have a "type" and how evolution may play a role in all of this. So, do you believe that love is blind?

In this week's episode Ruth and Maddie cover Self- Sabotage. After having a run-in with a man who spewed self-hatred on Maddie at the bar after 5 minutes of knowing him, Maddie and Ruth discovered this may be a larger issue at hand that most men are facing. Although this is not a gendered experience, Ruth and Maddie wanted to explore the reasons behind what happens to be a new surge of low self-worth for men. This topic is so nuanced that the ladies plan to have additional episodes to follow.

On this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover the good, bad, and ugly of birth control!! Let's talk contraceptives, baby. The ladies share personal stories about condom mishaps, IUD insertions, and a fluctuating sex drive. Are hormonal birth control side effects worth the price of admission? Should men take more responsibility for birth control in a heterosexual relationship? Listen as they weigh in!

In this week’s episode, Maddie and Ruth discuss adult friendships, which aren’t always easy. When is it ok to leave a friendship? Should there be a checklist of qualities for a friend? Is it better to have quantity or quality? The ladies dive into this sticky yet important conversation.

In this week’s episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss the trending “Orange Peel Theory” and what it means if your partner does or does not "pass the test." The ladies dig into the meaning behind the test, recalling tender memories of what people have done for them in the past and do for them in the present.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover a person's "time of the month." The ladies talk about their own first experience getting their periods, how uneducated and unaware they were of the symptoms of a menstrual cycle, and even touch on the very taboo subject of period sex! Whether you're someone who knows the period roller coaster personally, someone who hasn't gotten their period yet, or just a partner and/or parent trying to figure out the best way to support the menstruating people in their life we hope you enjoy!

In this week's episode, Maddie and Ruth discuss Men vs Women: Household Roles edition. What some may believe to be the hard-and-fast truth, and what they believe is a true household "duty" for each partner. How do you and your partner share the duties at home? Does this change over time or with different life circumstances?

On this week's episode Maddie and Ruth discuss the pinnacle taboo subject, sex! Everything from suggested frequency, tips on foreplay, advice on how to communicate your wants and needs to your partner, and the overall best and worst personal sex stories they have. It's time to destigmatize the long and hard journey to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling sex life!

On this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover Ghosting. They both define "ghosting", when they believe it's appropriate to ghost (if at all), and the better alternatives to letting someone down rather than cutting off communication with no warning.

In this week's episode Maddie and Ruth discuss New Year's Goals! They dive into their personal goals, what goals should take precedence, and how to sustain them come the new year. We hope you enjoy and Happy New Year!! The Personality Archetypes Maddie referenced in this episode are The Four Tendencies.  

This week Ruth and Maddie share their top five tips on how to fight "right." These tips apply to fights and disagreements between romantic partners, friends, and even family members. Fighting with a loved one is absolutely natural, but we like to focus on ways to prevent causing irreversible damage to a relationship while still advocating for ourselves.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie dive into the holidays and all the stress that can accompany them. The ladies tackle how they feel overextended during this season and the tips/tricks on avoiding it! 'Tis the Season for Stress and hopefully curbing burnout once and for all.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie cover the exhaustion that coincides with dating. Sometimes putting yourself out there repeatedly can cause a serious mental overload. Even the most eager dater can feel dissuaded nowadays. How do you overcome dating fatigue when it feels hopeless at times?

This week Ruth and Maddie discuss green flags and red flags. Specifically, how can you recognize them in the people you are dating? The ladies cover everything from hygiene habits to character traits. What are your favorite green flags and your least favorite red flags that you recognize? 

This week Maddie and Ruth discuss gratitude and the ways you can practice it every day. Thanksgiving (if you observe the holiday) is the perfect time to begin this self-audit, especially when it’s so easy to forget to do so in the day-to-day. What do you do to practice gratitude in your life?

What are beauty standards? And why do we constantly feel like we fall short of them? This week Maddie and Ruth wanted to approach these questions with no barriers. Removing their makeup, no special outfits, just open honesty about their own struggles and insecurities. 

This week Ruth and Maddie discuss jealousy in relationships. Is there such a thing as healthy jealousy? How can you spot toxic jealousy? And where does it stem from? Your partner or yourself? All to be answered in this week’s episode!

This week Maddie and Ruth discuss choosing the right career path and how they both chose theirs. Sometimes this includes changing your path to something you may never have expected. This can be scary, but it is all worth it if you find something you are passionate about. Let us continue discussing the steps you can take to find and pursue your passions.

In this week's episode, Ruth and Maddie discuss the topical theory referenced in one of their favorite TV shows, Sex and the City, called the "Cab Light Theory." Listen as the ladies debate how legitimate the theory may be and how they've experienced it in their own lives.

This week Maddie and Ruth discuss the difficult topic of when to know it's the right time to leave a relationship. We cover leaving a relationship that isn’t “bad,” all the way to the traps and tactics of toxic and abusive relationships. If you are in an abusive relationship, please know there is still hope. We ask you sincerely to please seek help. Below are some organizations you may find helpful. We are always here to support you in any way we can. LA County Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7 Confidential): (800) 978-3600 National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7 Confidential): (800) 799-7233 (800) 787-3224 (TTY) or text LOVEIS (capitalization does not matter) to 22522 *Msg & Data Rates may apply