The Good Love Podcast

Can an online quiz really tell you who you are in BDSM? How long does it take three neurodivergent kinksters to take a test together (and just how many Barbarella references can we fit into our commentary)?  Charlie and I decide to take the (in?)famous BDSM Test and compare it with another sexuality self test MojoUpgrade. While working our way into the first test we got a call from one of our favorite humans, Sir Aiden Charming, who joined us in the test adventure and commentary. We laugh, we cringe, we learn about ourselves and each other. This is a truncated version of our online shenanigans, while Patreon listeners have the opportunity to do the tests with us in a  2-hour long play by play, query by query recording. So buckle up for this blast from the past (we actually recorded this in the summer 2024 but Kat got overwhelmed by the editing process #spoonielife #betterlatethannever).Have you done these or other sexuality/kink tests? What did you like or dislike? Let us know if there's one you think we should take on the pod!Take the Tests!BDSMtest.orgmojoupgrade.comOther resources mentioned:Kat’s Yes/Maybe/No Kink ChecklistScarleteen’s non-kink/beginner friendly Yes, No, Maybe So: Sexual Inventory StocklistDonate to them!"Mind the Gap" Underwear designed by Kat

We're back with a new interview episode! I invited my dear friend and metamour, Nicole Nichols, to talk about her amazing work as boudoir photographer. From creating safe spaces for women (and men!) to rediscover and celebrate their bodies to building community traditions in self love, Nicole has touched so many lives! Follow my guest:https://www.nicolenichols.com/Join the 28 Days of Self Love Challengehttps://www.nicolenichols.com/self-love-challenge-win-boudoir-sessionFollow The Good Love Project

In this installment of of Kink Journeys, I sit down with BDSM educator and certified life coach, Jonnyace. Together, we explore the power of consent, the importance of community, and why representation for sadists matters. Jonnyace shares their path from martial arts and polyamory to kink community educator and shaped their identity as a sadist, daddy, and dominant. Honest stories. Fresh perspectives. Real kink journeys.Follow My Guesthttp://www.gsrmcoaching.com/https://fetlife.com/Jonnyace

In this episode of The Good Love Podcast, I interview the founder of Denver's House of Pleasure, Mistress Pain. Mistress Pain shares her Kink Journey from trying to 'pray the gay way' to creating spaces of erotic exploration and self expression. We also discuss her community vision focused on female pleasure and how many of us connect with sex-positive spaces as a form of ministry and fellowship.Follow My GuestHouse of Pleasure

In my last episode we did a deep-dive for International Female Orgasm Day, including busting through some of the many misconceptions around female sexuality. So this week, I'm bringing on my friend and colleague, Sex Coach Same, to unpack some of the inaccurate and harmful messaging around male sexuality. Whether it's misinformation from society, media or pressure we put on ourselves, we can break the cycles and Sam was happy to share to tools to do this vital self-work. Trigger Warning for discussion of sexual violence (19:45 - 30:53)Follow My Guest:https://www.samcharlescoaching.com/https://www.instagram.com/sexcoachsam/Join us in Boulder, CO for the The Intimacy Experiment™ Workshop!

August 8th is International Female Orgasm Day! So I’m diving into history, bad science, and reclaimed pleasure. Where did this holiday came from? What is the orgasm gap (and why does it still exist)? How can we push back against a society that tries to control our sexuality? I'm unpacking all these questions and more. If you’ve ever been curious about the clit, the G-spot, or why pleasure still feels taboo—this one’s for you! Resources Mentioned:BodysexBooks Follow The Good Love Projectwww.GoodLoveProject.com

In this episode (recorded live at DomCon LA) I interview Lady Sheba, a powerful Black kink educator and leather community photographer. Sheba shares her journey from curious submissive to confidence-wielding Dominant, exploring how kink helped her reclaim her femininity after trauma. Together we discuss the challenges Black women face in kink spaces, the importance of representation, mentorship, and community accountability, and Sheba’s inspiring photography project for the Carter-Johnson Leather Library & Collection, documenting influential figures in the Leather and BDSM worlds. We also gush about our visit to the iconic Tom of Finland House and the importance of preserving kink history.Follow Lady Sheba on FetlifeSupport Lady Sheba's Leather Portrait Series.Get early access and exclusive content on Patreon!

In this powerful episode, I talk with Berlin-based kink artist and educator, Sven Brandy aka "Carnivore". Sven shares his journey from nude photography to immersive kink art, emphasizing consent, authenticity, and cultural differences in kink between Europe and the US. They discuss "play shooting," the art of integrating photography with interactive kink, and dive deep into Edgeplay, safety, preparation, and ritual. Sven also shares his teaching philosophy, upcoming projects, and insights into building supportive kink communities. Whether you're curious about kink artistry or advanced edge play, this episode offers grounded, inspiring wisdom from decades of lived experience.This is part one of a two hour interview, listen to the full version on Patreon!Follow my Guest: https://fetlife.com/CarnivorePic

Kat is joined by two guests, Smokey the Babe and Vana X . They dive deep into the evolution of embracing one’s true self within the kink community, share their personal journeys, and discuss the importance of informed and enthusiastic consent. From nostalgic stories of discovering kink to navigating the complexities of relationship dynamics, this conversation is full of playful insights and candid reflections. So, get comfortable, open your mind, and enjoy this thought-provoking session with Kat, Smokey and Vana!Listen to the full hour episode on PatreonOur Guests:Smokey the Babe IG X/TwitterVana XFollow Us:LinksMerch

In this episode of the Good Love Project Podcast, Katrina and Charlie dive into the importance of solo exploration and how it can deepen self-awareness, boost confidence, and enhance both personal and partnered pleasure. They debunk common myths—like the idea that solo pleasure is just a "substitute" or a sign of dissatisfaction—and talk about shifting the mindset to embrace self-connection without guilt. You'll hear tips for unlearning shame-based habits, creating a pleasure-positive space, and exploring at your own pace. Plus, discover Katrina’s 30 Days of Solo Tantra playlist on YouTube for guided practices to support your journey.

Welcome to another insightful episode of The Good Love Podcast, where we delve into the realms of personal growth, relationships, and confidence. In today's episode, "Pleasure Mapping," your hosts, Katrina Boots Rainsong and the ever-insightful Charlie Sharp, explore the concept of understanding desires and boundaries through the creation of a "Pleasure Map." This episode serves as a personal guide to discovering what brings you joy and comfort, both physically and emotionally, while establishing clear boundaries to ensure safe and enriching experiences. As always, we bring to the table powerful discussions and practical exercises designed to inspire confidence and joy in both solo adventures and partnerships. We'll also touch on recent developments in digital privacy and free speech challenges, offering a unique perspective on how these factors intertwine with sexual education. So, get comfortable, and let's embark on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment together.4:30 -Hot Topic: Age Verification8:14 - Main Topic BeginsFollow Us!https://linktr.ee/GoodLoveProject

In this episode, Kat and Charlie tackle the complex and often silenced topic of sexual shame. Listen in as they deconstruct societal myths around non-normative sexual preferences, explore the damaging impact of cultural and religious expectations, and emphasize the importance of embracing your authentic self. With personal insights, candid discussions, and a touch of humor, they'll challenge the notion that there's a "right" way to have sex and shine a light on how misinformation fuels feelings of unworthiness. From addressing body image issues to sharing actionable tips for overcoming shame, today's conversation is all about fostering self-acceptance and open dialogue. 2:57 Hot Topics: Belgium Grants SWers Full Labor Rights 6:32 Main Topic Begins Follow Us! Patreon Good Love Links Buy us a coffee Merch powered by Chaos Kitty Co

Curious about kink? This bonus episode offers an exclusive excerpt from Katrina's popular "Intro to Kink" class, where you'll get a glimpse into the essentials of consent, communication, and creativity in BDSM. It’s a tantalizing taste of the full recorded class, available to Patreon subscribers in the "Let's Go Steady" tier. If you're ready to explore your desires in a shame-free, supportive space, this sneak peek is just the beginning of what you'll unlock when you join our community of Good Lovers on Patreon.

Happy New Year, It's Season Three! We're trying something new this year; themed seasons to boost your learning and inspiration! Sexual confidence is about more than just feeling good in the bedroom—it’s a foundation for authentic self-expression and deeper connections in all areas of life. In this episode, we explore what sexual confidence looks like, why it’s essential, and how it can transform your relationships and self-esteem. Join Kat and Charlie for an empowering discussion filled with personal stories, expert insights, and practical tips to help you embrace your desires with ease and joy. Whether you're just starting your journey or looking to deepen your confidence, this episode is for you! 3:08 Hot Topic - Disrupting IVF? New Developments in Reproductive and Fertility Science 6:56 Main Topic Honoroable MentionsCathy Vartuli - Intimacy DojoCuddle Party Follow Us Website Facebook Instagram X/Twitter Support Us Patreon Merch:

In today's episode (which is a past recording), Katrina and Charlie are feeling a little under the weather after getting their COVID boosters in preparation for the highly anticipated Sex Geek Summer Camp. But don't worry, they're not letting a little vaccine fatigue stop them from bringing you some juicy content! Get ready for a laid-back episode as our hosts lounge around with their microphones, offering their thoughts and advice on a variety of Reddit posts. From discussing the complexities of sexual communication and the importance of vocalization during intimacy to challenging societal stereotypes about masculine and feminine expression in the bedroom, Katrina and Charlie are here to provide their unique perspectives. So, grab your favorite blanket, curl up on the couch, and join Katrina and Charlie for a cozy, informative, and slightly silly episode of The Good Love Podcast! News Link: https://www.boston.com/news/the-boston-globe/2023/03/24/somerville-celebrates-another-first-for-polyamorous-people/ Follow Us: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Merch: http://www.etsy.com/shop/chaoskittycompany

In today's episode, we're excited to welcome a very special guest, Amy the Poly Realtor, who's not only a kinkster and current president of Arizona Power Exchange but also a proud, self-identified Cuckquean! Amy opens up about her unique relationship dynamics and discusses the nuanced differences between cuckqueaning and other forms of non-monogamy based kinks such as Cuckold and Hot-Wifing, shedding light on topics of humiliation, degradation, and the joy in her particular lifestyle. We also touch on the importance of boundaries, honesty, and the emotional considerations essential in non-monogamous relationships. Furthermore, Amy shares insights into navigating feminism and agency while embracing non-standard relationship roles and kinks, adding layers to how identities and desires intersect in complex and fascinating ways. From handling jealousy in polyamorous arrangements to finding resources for unconventional relationship structures, this episode is packed with honest reflections and practical advice. Settle in as we explore these intimate topics with candor and warmth, and don't forget to stay tuned till the end for some lighthearted banter about "cuckcake" designs and the unexpected wisdom found in trying new things—like tapioca pudding! Whether you're familiar with the kink scene or just curious about different relationship dynamics, today's episode promises to enlighten and entertain.

This week, I bring my girlfriend on to talk about the (infamous?) PornHub year-in-review report! We pore over the intricacies of global and US search terms, laughing our way through state-specific curiosities—from car sex in sunny Arizona to body swap fantasies in the hustle of New York—while exploring the shifts in our online desires. Charlie tries not to tell on herself with her interests and I go on a mini-rant about my love/hate feels for "gangbang" content. We're lifting the veil on what terms lead the charts in adult content and dissecting what this might tell us about societal shifts and cravings. Timestamps and Sources 4:20 News https://www.theverge.com/2024/1/2/24022539/pornhub-blocked-montana-north-carolina-age-verification-law-protest https://www.xbiz.com/news/279633/republican-introduces-bill-to-effectively-outlaw-all-sex-work-in-the-u-s-as-coercive 24:48 Main topic https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2023-year-in-review Follow my guest https://www.instagram.com/CharlieSharpOfficial Data Daddy T-Shirts and other Merch: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ChaosKittyCompany

It's Season Two of The Good Love Podcast, where we dive deep into the world of intimacy, relationships, and everything in between! For this 15th episode, I have a special treat for you. Joining me in the studio is the ever-insightful Vana X, here to explore the multifaceted world of kink and BDSM. We share our laughter over a foiled attempt to shoot a movie review YouTube episode, leading us to an impromptu sneak peak critiquing the controversial "50 Shades of Grey." We'll also unravel the complex and often misunderstood world of primal play, discussing how it breaks down gender roles and embraces the true essence of adult play. Nirvana is not just here to share her cinematic tastes but also her transition from a sensual "baby girl" to a confident Dom, specializing in practices like ball busting and CBT. Meanwhile, I'll give you a glimpse into my journey of kink education, from acquiring books on bondage to navigating fetish magazines before the digital age dominated our learning. Expect anecdotes from our past—including working at a strip club and some surprise kink requests in the VIP room —and our exciting encounters with the renowned Midori. We'll also touch on the evolution of finding like-minded individuals, from clandestine newspaper ads name dropping mainstream movie titles as secret kinky codes, and how media has influenced the perception and conversation of kink over the years. Get ready for an honest conversation about everything from the necessity of consent and the danger of absolutes to the importance of self-discovery in the ever-evolving landscape of alternative lifestyles.So, plug in your headphones, get comfortable, and join us for a journey through the gray areas of sexuality that promise to be as enlightening as it is titillating. This is The Good Love Podcast, where no topic is off-limits and all curiosities are welcome. Let's get started! Follow my Guest Vana X https://x.com/AZCactusBound Learn More about Midori https://planetmidori.com/ Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProject instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee: http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

In today's episode, I'm exploring the practice of Orgasm Control. From the intense power exchange of submissive handing over their orgasms to their Dominant, to the thrilling play of edging and denial, there's so much to discover. I'll delve into the various forms of orgasm control, including mental and physical chastity, the art of asking permission before climaxing, and the mind-blowing experience of "forced" orgasms. Get ready for this orgasmic adventure! Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProject instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

In today's episode titled "Pleasure in Restraint: Exploring the Depths and Rewards of Chastity Fetish", we delve into the intriguing world of chastity kink. We explore the concept of chastity, its origins, and the reasons why some people find pleasure in the erotic denial of sexual activity. We uncover the intimate connections and power dynamics that can come into play within the realm of chastity kink. Whether it's about trust, submission, or enhancing pleasure, there is much to discover. We'll also address the misconceptions surrounding chastity, debunking the notion that it is strictly for cisgender men. We discuss the various devices available and the importance of safety in engaging with chastity play.So, get ready to unlock the secrets behind chastity kink in this eye-opening episode of The Good Love Podcast. Product Shoutout: Cage Cream by Leather Daddy Skincare Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com  facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProject  instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject  twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject  Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

My spicy model friend, Kinky Kupcake, joined me to watch Luis Buñuel's French erotic-drama classic Belle de Jour (1967), starring Catherine Deneuve as Severine, a kink-curious young woman who takes on a double life to explore her fantasies of submission and degradation. Get a taste of my new series "Bad B*tch BDSM Reviews" where I bring on guests to react and review kinky cinema classics. Conversational topics include: Lust vs Love, Shame, and the power of erotic fantasy! Watch movies with me on Patreon! My Guest: https://twitter.com/KinkyKupcakee Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProject instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

Last week, I got to chat with one of my favorite kink educators, Professional Disciplinarian and self-described "Dominurtrix", Miss Chris! We talk about the variety of Domestic Dynamics one can explore and disspell some of the many misconceptions around her favorite actvity... Spanking! Whether you're a full-on Spanko, or just a bit curious, you're going to love this fun and down to earth conversations with the incomparable and imaginative Miss Chris! Find My Guest https://www.missschris.com/ Twitter @Dominurtrix And she makes toys! Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProject instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

In today's episode, we have some incredible guests joining us: Emma, and Cody from The Good Eggs organization. Get ready for a thought-provoking conversation as we dive into topics like vulnerability, consent, and harm reduction. We start off by discussing Southwest Flow Fest 2023 and its unique focus on learning and skill-sharing. Our guests share their favorite moments from the festival, highlighting the power of vulnerability and the importance of creating safe spaces for growth and exploration. From there, we explore the concept of vulnerability in various contexts, including its connection to physical, emotional, and mental experiences. We delve into the role of vulnerability in personal growth and how it can be both empowering and transformative. Next, we turn our attention to the crucial topic of consent. Our guests shed light on the cultural and local aspects of consent, emphasizing the need for education and awareness. We learn about the "FRIES" acronym as a helpful tool to understand and discuss consent, with a particular focus on the importance of enthusiasm and informed decisions. Additionally, we delve into Harm Reduction, exploring its significance in festival settings and beyond. Our guests share the work they do through The Good Eggs organization, creating safe spaces and empowering individuals to take care of their bodies and minds. This episode is filled with valuable insights and perspectives on these important topics. So get comfortable and join us as we deep dive into harm reduction, consent, and the power of vulnerability with The Good Eggs. Let's learn, grow, and create a more loving world together. Buckle up, it's going to be an enlightening ride! The Good Eggs https://linktr.ee/GOODEGGSAZ Cody https://www.instagram.com/curiosidycoaching/ Emma https://www.instagram.com/themodernday.mystic/ Southwest Flow Fest https://www.thesouthwestflowfestival.com/ Follow Me:linktr.ee/GoodLoveProjectSupport:Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProjectMerch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials.com

Can solo pleasure be a meditation practice? What can we learn from observing ourselves in a state of sensation or pleasure? Does semen retention REALLY have benefit? This week we're talking about Masturbation and Meditation aka Medibation! Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

Our society is obsessed with the idea of "tight" vaginas and full of misconceptions that there are many ways to "ruin" them. This week, I'm talking about some of the most common, and incredibly pervasive, misinformation around the dreaded "loose pussy". Follow: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/TheGoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee: http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

What does it mean to "fly" in scene? How does BDSM affect our states of consciousness? This week, we're talking about the altered headspaces we can get into through kink, namely, Domspace and Subspace and I share my own first experience. Got a juicy story you'd like to share? Send it to [email protected] Follow: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Support: Buy me a coffee: http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

Part two discussing my experience at the inaugural event, Southwest Decadence! We talk about what you should know and how to survive your first con. Digressions include: Charlie's review of Kat's new Kitten Play toy. Conferences and Events Mentioned: https://www.southwestdecadence.com/ My Guest: Charlie Sharp https://linktr.ee/charliesharpofficial https://boasbycharlie.square.site/ Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/teamgoodlove twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee:http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

I get interviewed by my girlfriend about my experience at one of the newest Leather/Kink conferences in the U.S., Southwest Decadence! I also answer questions about what happens at a kink convention, what draws people to them, and the differences between Leather and Kink. Digressions include: talking about the food and introducing my new product for kitten players! The charity referenced in the episode is The National Indigenous Women's Resource Center. Please consider donating: https://www.niwrc.org/ Conferences and Events Mentioned: https://www.southwestdecadence.com/ https://www.sexdownsouth.com/ https://secure.seleatherfest.com/ (Donate to the Sadie Hawkins Scholarship Fund: https://tinyurl.com/3bjaexdy ) http://darkodyssey.com/summerfest/ My Guest: Charlie Sharp https://linktr.ee/charliesharpofficial https://boasbycharlie.square.site/ Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/teamgoodlove twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee:http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

Will a vibrator ruin me for the "real thing"? How many partners is "too many"? How long should I spend on foreplay? This week I'm sharing clips from my video series "Ask A Good Lover", where I answer real questions from listeners just like you! Got Questions about sex, pleasure, or relationships? Ask a Good Lover! Send your queries to [email protected] (subject: "Dear Good Lover") Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/teamgoodlove twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee:http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

Curious about Dominance and submission? What does it mean to be Dominant? What traits do you look for in a Dom? We're exploring the left side of the slash in D/s relationship dynamics! Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/goodloveproject twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee:http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

How do you tell you partner you want to try something new? What if they're freaked out? What if they have questions? In this episode, we'll go over 10 tips for introducing spicy, new elements into an established relationship. Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/teamgoodlove twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee:http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials

How do you keep the spark going in a long-term relationship? How can you make your first experiences with new partners better? In this first episode of the Good Love Podcast, we'll talk about how to get out of your head... and out of your own way to deeper intimacy and increased pleasure through Mindfulness. Follow Me: website: http://www.goodloveproject.com facebook: http://www.fb.com/GoodLoveProjec instagram: http://wwww.instagram.com/teamgoodlove twitter: http://www.twitter.com/GoodLoveProject Buy me a coffee:http://www.ko-fi.com/thegoodloveproject Merch: http://wwww.wickedsibessentials