The Grown-Ups Are Talking

If you've ever finished undergrad and thought what now? !-- this episode is for you.A master's degree can feel like the obvious next step. It sounds impressive, it keeps you in education a little longer, and it gives you something to say when people ask about your plans. But is it actually worth it? And are you doing it for the right reasons?In this episode, I'm joined by two friends and classmates, Nasreen and Ed, to reflect on our year doing an MA in Podcasting- yes, that's a real thing- and have an honest conversation about graduate school: what it costs, what it gives you, and whether it's actually necessary.We talk about what led each of us here, how a master's compares to undergrad life (it's more fragmented, more self-directed, and a lot less social than you might expect), and what we genuinely took away from the experience — academically, professionally, and personally.We also get into the harder questions. What were the paths we didn't take? How different would things look if we hadn't done it? Are there fields where a master's is genuinely valuable — and others where it's just a very expensive way of buying time?My honest take: I don't think a master's is for everyone. A lot of people do one to delay a decision rather than make one, and that can cost you serious time and money without much to show for it. But I also think there's a version of doing a master's that isn't really about the degree at all — it's about opening a door into a new chapter of your life that you couldn't have planned in advance. That's what it was for me.You don't have to do it right after undergrad. You don't have to do it at all. But if you have a real reason — a specific goal, a genuine curiosity, a sense that it might take you somewhere you actually want to go — it might be one of the better investments you make. Not just in your career, but in yourself.

This is Part 3 of the Dream Self series-- and this is where everything you've been building finally comes to life.If you've been following along, you've already done the deeper work. In Part 1, you got honest about what you actually want from your life- not what you think you should want, but what genuinely lights you up. In Part 2, you started getting to know the version of yourself you're working towards. Now, in this final instalment, we're getting into the part that most people skip: actually making it happen.Because here's the thing: vision without action is just a daydream. And action without structure is just chaos. So in this episode, we're building the bridge between who you are now and who you want to become, one concrete, practical step at a time.We start with goals-- why setting them is one of the most powerful things you can do for your wellbeing, performance, and sense of self, and how to set them in a way that actually sticks. Then we get into the real magic: systems and habits. You'll learn why motivation is never the answer (and what to rely on instead), how to design your environment so that your good habits become the path of least resistance, and how a collection of small, consistent actions compounds into something life-changing over time.We also talk mindset, because none of the practical stuff works if you're paralysed by perfectionism, self-doubt, or fear of what other people think. We get into how to build confidence through evidence, how to let go of the need to have it all figured out before you begin, and why consistency- even in tiny doses- is the thing that will change everything.This episode draws on research from positive psychology, habit theory, and the work of people like James Clear, and it's packed with real examples from my own life of what it actually looks like to build systems around your goals-- the wins, the things that didn't work, and the adjustments I made along the way.If you've ever had a big dream that never quite got off the ground, if you keep starting things and not finishing them, or if you're someone who knows exactly what you want but can't seem to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, this episode is for you.You don't need more motivation. You need a plan. Let's build it.

This episode is the bridge between dreaming and doing. Last week, we designed your dream life; this week, we're talking about how to actually prepare to build it. But before we dive into tools and systems, there's a big caveat I want to get into first: the most successful people have the smallest gap between idea and action. You don't need to know everything before you start. The learning happens as you go.From there, we get into the practical stuff- how to reverse-engineer your dream into a personal curriculum, how to find the right people and role models to learn from, and how to filter the overwhelming amount of content and "experts" online to find the voices you actually trust. We also talk about the difference between passive consumption and active learning, and how to build a system that keeps you growing consistently, not just in a burst of motivation at the start.We cover the tools and formats worth your time: podcasts, books, Substack, Sublime, YouTube and more, and why the real goal isn't to consume more, but to build something with what you take in.If you've ever felt stuck between knowing what you want and feeling ready enough to go after it, this episode is for you.

How to Design Your Dream Life (Part 1 of 3) | Finding Your Purpose, Identifying Your Values & Building a Life You Actually LoveDo you feel stuck in a job you don't love-- but you also don't really know what you want to do instead? Uninspired, unsatisfied, or just going through the motions? This episode is for you.The good news? You've already done most of the work. The answers are hiding in plain sight: in your YouTube watch history, your saved Instagram posts, the books that changed your life, the moments that made you feel most alive. You just need to know how to notice and capture them.In Part 1 of this three-part series, I walk you through a practical framework for designing your dream life: how to notice what's already lighting you up, how to reflect and make sense of it (including a powerful AI prompt, the dream day exercise, and how to ask your friends the questions that unlock your self-awareness), and how to capture and visualise it into something real and concrete.I also share how reading Just Mercy led me to law, how becoming obsessed with podcasts led me here, and why I'm heading to Harvard Law School this year while building this show-- and what all of that taught me about chasing the feeling, not the plan.Part 2 is about learning your way into the life you want. Part 3 is about taking action. But it all starts here.The Grown-Ups Are Talking is a podcast about navigating adulthood--relationships, identity, money, career, and purpose.Keywords: how to design your dream life, how to find your purpose, figuring out what you want from life, life design, finding your passion, feeling lost in your twenties, identifying your values, dream day exercise, vision board, self-discovery, personal development, career change, finding direction in life, intentional living, twenties podcast

Today's episode is a little different. I'm introducing something I've been building-- The Grown-Ups Are Writing, a brand new Substack newsletter and companion to this podcast. In this episode, I'm reading my very first post: why I started it, what I want to create, what you can expect, and why, in a world drowning in content, I think building something of your own still matters. If you've ever felt the itch to create, or you're just curious about what's coming next in the TGUAT world, this one's for you. Subscribe to the Substack! I'd love to see you there: https://substack.com/@thegrownupsarewriting?utm_campaign=profile&utm_medium=profile-page

Everyone has an opinion on what you should do with your 20s. Work harder. Travel more. Say yes to everything. Build your savings. Figure yourself out. But what if nobody's actually stopped to ask the right question first?In this episode, I'm laying out the three camps many of us fall into: the grinder, the experience collector, and the traveller- and taking an honest look at what each one gets right, and where each one might leave something missing. Because for some people, the relentless focus on work comes at the cost of ever figuring out who they are outside of it. For others, saying yes to every experience means never quite laying the foundations for the life they actually want. And sometimes, constant movement can start to feel less like living and more like running.I've personally felt the pull of all three. But everything here is information, not instruction. What works for me might not work for you.The question I want to leave you with: are you optimising for the life you actually want, or the life that just looks good from the outside?

What does it mean to spend most of your 20s in education?After finishing my master's degree and staring down three more years of law school, I've been sitting with a feeling I haven't talked about on this podcast before-- the quiet fear that I'm always going to be a student. Or that I'm behind and it feels like everyone else is further along.In this episode, I'm reflecting honestly on what both sides of the coin have actually taught me. Because I've been the student romanticising a salary, and I've been the employee daydreaming about freedom-- and the truth is, the grass is almost always greener.I get into:- What working taught me that school never could (and vice versa)- The real pros and cons of both - Feelings of comparison that are almost impossible to avoid in your early 20s- Why I started this podcast alongside my degree, and what I'm building towardWhether you're employed and considering grad school, currently studying and wondering if it's worth it, or just trying to make sense of where you are right now-- this one's for you.

What does it really mean to grow up when you're caught between cultures, expectations, and versions of yourself? In this episode, I'm joined by a guest who knows that tension intimately.We get into what it looks like to come of age as a second-generation South Asian woman in the West-navigating the push and pull of feeling "too Western" in some rooms and "too traditional" in others, and how that shapes the adult you're still becoming. We talk about the quiet grief of losing cultural connection, what it means to stay connected to your roots when the spaces that held them start to disappear, and the particular weight of growing up in an immigrant family-where your parents sacrificed so much, and that love doesn't always come without expectation.We also get honest about the things nobody really talks about- the guilt that comes with not maximizing your earning potential, the gaps in how South Asian families taught us (or didn't) to talk about feelings, relationships, money, and mental health, and what we'd want to do differently for the next generation.It's a conversation about identity, independence, and what it looks like to build a life that honors where you came from without being confined by it.

Do you actually know what you want from your life- or are you chasing someone else's version of happy? In this episode, I'm getting into how to figure out what genuinely lights you up, not what looks good on paper or what society tells you to want. Because I truly believe most of us already have the clues. We're just not paying attention to them.I'm sharing three ways you can start figuring out what you actually want. Paying attention to the activities that energise you, even when you didn't want to show up for them. Using jealousy as a data point rather than something to feel bad about. And what your For You page is quietly telling you about your deepest desires- and why it might not be the thing itself you're craving, but the feeling behind it.This one is warm, honest, and ends with a reframe I hope stays with you. Hit subscribe or follow wherever you're listening- new episodes every week for anyone navigating their twenties and trying to figure it all out.

Lately, my sleep- and my routine- has been completely off.In this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking, I’m talking about sleep, morning routines, and nighttime habits, and what happens when adult life gets busy enough that your rhythm quietly disappears. After a hectic period filled with work, rehearsals, social plans, and constant activity, I found myself feeling exhausted, struggling to wake up, and unable to maintain a consistent sleep schedule.This episode explores sleep hygiene, realistic morning and night routines, and the small habits that can help you fall asleep more easily, wake up with more energy, and feel more grounded day to day. I share what’s been affecting my sleep lately, the science behind healthy routines, and the practical strategies I’m trying to rebuild consistency in my own life.If your sleep schedule feels off, your mornings feel rushed, or your nighttime routine has disappeared during a busy season of adulthood, this conversation is for you.Follow the podcast so you don’t miss next week’s episode, where I’ll report back on whether 6:30am Abby actually exists.

Whether it’s a podcast, a Substack, a YouTube channel, or a business, this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking is about starting the thing.Starting can feel surprisingly hard- not because you’re lazy, but because beginning requires vulnerability, self-trust, and the courage to do something before you feel fully ready.In this episode, I share the story of how this podcast began, the projects I almost started (and didn’t), what finally helped me commit, and why messy, imperfect beginnings matter more than perfect plans. We talk about perfectionism, fear of failure, claiming a creative identity, and how confidence is built through action, not before it.This episode is an encouragement to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start small, start imperfectly, and start now.If there’s something you’ve been dreaming about creating, consider this your gentle push to begin.✨

This week, I found myself thinking about a question we rarely ask in our twenties: what can the end of life teach us about how to live right now?After attending a beautiful memorial this week, I found myself thinking about something we rarely talk about in our twenties: what the end of life can teach us about how to live well right now.Why do so many people reach the end of their lives with similar regrets? What would people say about you if they had to describe your life today? And how do we build the “roots” we need in adulthood so we actually have the freedom to grow?In this solo episode, I reflect on:what funerals reveal about what really mattersthe most common regrets people have at the end of lifeidentity, legacy, and the traits we’re shaping every daywhy building stability- emotional, financial, and relational - might be the real work of your twentiesThis isn’t about fearing death. It’s about using perspective to realign with the life you actually want to live.If you’ve ever felt caught between productivity, uncertainty, and trying to figure out who you’re becoming, this conversation is for you.🎙 The Grown-Ups Are Talking is a podcast about navigating early adulthood- careers, relationships, mental health, and everything nobody quite prepares you for after graduation.⭐ If you enjoyed this episode, leave a 5-star rating and review, and don’t forget to follow or subscribe wherever you’re listening.📱 Follow along at @thegrownupsaretalkingpod on Instagram and TikTok, and join the conversation.

As spring arrives, everything starts to feel a little lighter: the days get longer, routines shift, and suddenly we feel the urge to reset. In this short solo episode, Abby reflects on how seasonal change mirrors the experience of early adulthood: learning to start again, clear space, and grow into new versions of ourselves.From spring cleaning our homes (and minds), to revisiting goals that didn’t quite stick in January, to rediscovering energy, connection, and joy after the winter months, this episode is a gentle check-in for anyone navigating change or craving a fresh start.Because maybe adulthood isn’t about having everything figured out; maybe it’s about recognising when you’re entering a new season, and allowing yourself to begin again.

In your 20s- and in early adulthood more broadly- it can feel like you’re expected to do everything at once. Build your career. Stay fit. Maintain friendships and relationships. Grow personally. Plan for the future. And somehow avoid burnout while doing it all.In this episode, we’re talking about how to balance it all, and realistically.This isn’t about toxic productivity or maximising every hour of your day. Your value is not tied to how productive you are. Instead, this episode focuses on building a sustainable version of work-life balance that aligns with your priorities, your energy levels, and your current season of life.We break the conversation into three parts:1. Understanding Your Priorities2. Creating Systems & Routines That Reduce Overwhelm3. Mindset Shifts for Avoiding BurnoutIf you’ve been struggling with work-life balance, feeling overwhelmed in your 20s, or trying to prioritise your goals without burning out, this episode will help you create more clarity, structure, and calm in your daily life.Balance isn’t about doing everything perfectly. It’s about intentional trade-offs, sustainable routines, and giving yourself permission to evolve.Subscribe to The Grown-Ups Are Talking for more conversations about adulting, career growth, relationships, mental health, and navigating your 20s with intention.

In this episode, I’m taking you through every major decision I’ve made about my life and career so far- the moments where I felt completely certain I had it all figured out… and how those certainties kept evolving.From creative writing and theatre to law school dreams, big law ambitions, financial litigation, burnout, podcasting, and producing, I’ve changed my mind more times than I can count. And each time, I was so sure I finally knew what I was doing with my future.This is one of my most honest and vulnerable episodes yet. I sat down without a script and talked through the real turning points: choosing passion over prestige, navigating family financial pressure, chasing creative work, questioning law school, and ultimately deciding to attend Harvard Law School.I talk about the fear of being indecisive, the tension between creativity and practicality, and what it means to admit you don’t actually know what your life will look like- even when you’re the type of person that always wants to map out a five-year plan.By the end of the episode, I share the major decision I’ve recently made about Harvard Law and why I’m finally learning to lean into change and uncertainty instead of trying to control it.If you’re in your twenties, navigating career changes, feeling behind, or wondering whether you’re allowed to change your mind- this episode is for you.And maybe the goal isn’t to have it all figured out. Maybe it’s to keep choosing- and re-choosing who you want to be.

February is the month of L-O-V-E but this episode isn’t about Valentine’s plans or dating advice (though it might help with those too!)It’s about the relationship that comes first, above all others: the one you have with yourself.In this episode, I talk about why self-love isn’t just a buzzword or a personality trait; it’s a necessary foundation for every relationship in your life, and for going after the life you want. From self-talk and confidence to boundaries, standards, and enjoying your own company, we unpack what self-love actually looks like in real life and how you can develop it. I share my belief that self-love is essential for healthy relationships- not meaning that you have to be perfectly healed from past experiences/traumas, but in the everyday ways it shapes how we show up, what we tolerate, and what we believe we deserve.We’ll talk about:How your self-talk shapes your confidence and choicesWhy low self-esteem affects relationships- with others and with yourselfLearning to enjoy your own company and build a life you loveLetting go of comparison and controlHow to start developing self-trust, self-respect, and confidenceIf this episode resonates, please do subscribe to the podcast and leave me a 5-star rating and review wherever you're listening! p.s. stay till the end for bloopers!

If you want 2026 to be the year you actually achieve all your goals, this episode is for you.In this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking, I’m breaking down the things that will actually transform your life: systems, consistency, and the right mindset.I talk about how to build habits that stick, how to design your environment so success becomes easier, and why living as your future self today matters more than waiting to feel “ready.” This episode is about learning how to show up consistently, even when life gets busy, or when habits feel uncomfortable or unmotivating.I also share the exact systems I use in my own life, from habit tracking and identifying my non-negotiables, to revisiting goals, vision boards, and protecting your time and attention in a world full of distractions (yes, including social media).Whether your goals for 2026 involve your career, fitness, creativity, relationships, or personal growth, this episode will help you stop relying on motivation and start building a life that actually works.In this episode, we cover:Why motivation is unreliable, and what to use insteadHow to build systems that make good habits easierThe role of discipline, discomfort, and consistency in long-term growthHow to revisit and refine your goals throughout the yearLiving as your future self without perfectionism or burnoutWhy your environment matters more than willpowerHow to align your daily habits with the life you actually wantIf you’re in your 20s and trying to figure out how to balance ambition, discipline, and real life, this episode is for you. If you like the episode, subscribe to the podcast and leave a rating and review wherever you're listening!

In early adulthood, we’re often told to push through stress, power through anxiety, keep going, and achieve a ton, even when our bodies are clearly asking us to slow down or things are getting a bit much. But what if the foundation for a calmer, more stable, and more fulfilling life isn’t doing more… but learning how to feel safe in your own body and self?With the pressure of a new year, many of us feel the urge to become more productive, more efficient versions of ourselves, but that pressure can create a lot of anxiety. And ultimately, there’s not much point in chasing growth if you’re too stressed to actually enjoy your life.In this episode, I’m joined by Hannah, creator of reallygetintoitco, for a conversation about nervous system regulation: what it actually means, why it matters so much in early adulthood, and how learning to regulate your nervous system can completely change how you experience stress, emotions, and uncertainty. We talk about allowing yourself to feel the full range of your emotions, understanding what they’re trying to tell you, and practical ways to ground yourself during moments that feel overwhelming.This conversation is especially for anyone navigating big transitions- new jobs, serious relationships, family pressures, or that quiet anxiety that comes with trying to “have it all together” in your twenties. Regulating your nervous system isn’t about being calm all the time ; it’s about creating stability so you can take risks, make decisions, and show up for your life from a place of clarity and calm instead of survival.In next week’s conversation, I’ll be breaking down the specific systems and frameworks I’ve used to move through early adulthood, including getting accepted to Columbia, graduating with honors, being accepted to Harvard Law School, and landing a competitive first job straight out of college. This isn't to boast but rather to make one thing clear: I’m not special. I’m first-generation, my parents don’t have connections, and I’m not any smarter than anyone else. What made the difference was having the right systems in place- and I’ll be sharing exactly how you can build them too. So be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss it. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or like you’re constantly operating in fight-or-flight, this episode is a reminder that slowing down might be the most powerful thing you can do.

We’re well into 2026 now, and if there’s one thing adulthood teaches you quickly, it’s how fast a year can disappear. But before we rush forward, it’s worth pausing, because 2025 was full of lessons we don’t want to leave behind.This is Part 2 of a two-part highlights episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking, where I’ve gone back through every guest conversation from 2025 to pull out the advice, moments, and reflections that genuinely changed how I approach adulthood. These conversations and ideas stayed with me, and ultimately shaped my decisions, my career, and the way I think about building a life.In this episode, you’ll hear conversations about career pivots, quitting jobs, money as a tool to design your life, taking risks in your 20s, building sustainable health routines, and redefining what success actually looks like when no one hands you a roadmap. As always, these are highlights from guest episodes throughout 2025. If a clip resonates, I strongly recommend going back to the full episode for deeper context. And while this episode focuses on guest conversations, I also shared many solo episodes last year- more personal and reflective- covering topics like getting into Harvard Law School, loneliness, ambition, and time moving faster than you expect.If you’re entering 2026 trying to be more intentional about your career, your finances, your health, or simply how you spend your time, this episode is for you.

This week’s episode is a little different- because it’s my 25th birthday!!! Instead of releasing Part 2 of our The Best of 2025 series (don’t worry, it’s coming next week), I wanted to pause and reflect on something that’s been sitting with me lately: time - how fast it moves in early adulthood, and what that speed might actually be telling us about how we fel about our lives.Since graduating, it feels like I’ve lived nine different lives. Some years crawled by. Others disappeared in a blink. And turning 25 has made me think deeply about why.In this solo episode, I talk about:Why time felt painfully slow in my corporate law job- and why it suddenly feels like it’s flyingWhat psychology tells us about time, novelty, routine, and engagementHow choosing work you care about can completely change your experience of timeI also reflect on a big shift I’ve felt this past year: moving from being money rich and time poor to time rich and money poor- and why I’ve realised that, at least right now, time matters more to me.I talk about:High-paying careers vs. time autonomyWhy there’s no “right” trade-off, only the one that fits youSaying no to good opportunities to make space for better-aligned onesWhy I chose to defer law school again to pursue creative work I’m excited aboutAnd because it’s my birthday, I end the episode on something a little more personal — three ways I know I’ve grown into adulthood, even when I sometimes feel “behind”:Emotional maturity and stabilityHealthier, quieter, more intentional relationshipsFeeling more aligned with myself than I have in yearsTurning 25 has reminded me that time isn’t just something we measure — it’s something we feel. And maybe the reason life feels like it’s moving so fast right now is because, for the first time in a long time, I’m actually living it.If you’ve ever felt behind in your adult life, rushed, stuck, or unsure whether you’re using your time “correctly,” this episode is for you.🎂 Birthday favour:If you enjoy the podcast, it would mean so much if you could:Leave a 5-star rating and reviewFollow us on socials @thegrownupsaretalkingpodShare the episode with a friend who might need itNext week: Part 2 of our Best of 2025 series drops , covering health and wellness in early adulthood, hobbies, quitting your job, money advice, and making your mark in your twenties.Make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss it!Resources discussed:https://www.theguardian.com/science/2024/dec/29/does-life-feel-like-its-speeding-up-how-to-slow-down-time-in-2025

2025 was a big year- and so were the conversations.In this episode, I’m taking you through part one of a best-of series, revisiting some of the most meaningful moments from The Grown-Ups Are Talking in 2025. From navigating mental health in adulthood, to love and dating, post-grad uncertainty, hobbies, long-distance relationships, and finding your footing as an adult, this episode brings together some of the advice and conversations that stayed with me long after the mic was turned off.Re-listening to these episodes reminded me just how much honesty, perspective, and reassurance is packed into this podcast-- so much so that it had to be split into two parts. If a snippet you hear resonates, I really encourage you to go back and listen to the full episode, where the conversation goes even deeper.This episode focuses purely on guest episodes, pulling together some of the most thoughtful insights from 2025. And this is only part one.In part two, we’ll be talking about making your mark in your twenties and the startup world, essential money advice from a financial expert, quitting your job and pivoting careers, health and wellness in adulthood, AI and adulthood, and even law school.Subscribe now to make sure you don’t miss part two. New episodes drop every Wednesday morning.

Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas and happy new year! In this episode, I’m back home in London, settling into a new video setup, and doing what has quietly become a tradition on this podcast: an end-of-year audit.Today’s episode is all about reflecting on 2025 and setting intentions for 2026. I start by revisiting my reflections from this time last year- back when I thought 2025 would be “peaceful” and more within my control- and unpack just how wrong (and right) I was.2025 turned out to be the year I:prioritised consistencymade some of the boldest decisions of my adult lifequit a job I once worked hard to getand rebuilt my life around work that genuinely excites meThroughout the episode, I model a simple reflection framework and invite you to think about your own year.I also share:what 2025 taught me about adulthood, work, and stabilityhow my relationship with routine, creativity, and ambition shifted in 2025why my word for 2026 is growthmy goals for the podcast, my personal life, and the opportunities I want to build nexta major life update, including why I’ve chosen to defer Harvard Law School and what I’ve learned about changing plans you were once proud ofBefore you move on with your day, I hope this episode encourages you to ask yourself:What did this year teach me?What do I want more of next year?And what am I ready to release?Here’s to closing out 2025 with honest reflection and stepping into 2026 with intention.Happy New Year 🤍

In this short but sweet Christmas episode, Abby reflects on spending the holiday season in West Africa with her siblings and the unexpected turns adulthood often brings. She shares thoughts on embracing uncertainty, practising gratitude, and staying grounded in connection with loved ones- even when life doesn’t unfold as planned. Abby invites listeners to find moments of calm and joy during the holiday season and closes with a heartfelt thank-you to the podcast community for being part of the journey. And if you’re watching the video too, let’s hope Santa brings me some better video equipment this year LOL- but this is the best I could do while abroad without my usual setup! The biggest Christmas gift you could give me is subscribing to the podcast <3 Thank you so much for being here, and I hope you have a very merry Christmas!

As the new year approaches, goal setting can start to feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. In this solo episode, Abby breaks down how to set meaningful, sustainable goals for 2026 without pressure, burnout, or last-minute panic.This episode is about reflection, clarity, and consistency. Abby shares the exact goal-setting framework she’s used to navigate early adulthood this year, including earning a promotion to Senior Analyst at her corporate law firm, reaching a major financial milestone, growing her podcast, and navigating unexpected career pivots- alongside research-backed insights on why goal setting is so powerful for mental health, motivation, and long-term success, especially for young adults.You’ll hear:Why New Year’s goals should be a moment for recalibration, not pressureThe psychology behind goal setting- and how it impacts wellbeing, anxiety, and self-esteemAbby’s real 2025 goals: what she achieved (barring one, everything on her vision board came true!!!), what didn’t, and why both matteredHow to set specific, realistic goals using systems- not just wish listsWhy writing your goals down and visualising them actually worksAbby’s three tools for goal setting: clear goals, a vision board, and a word of the yearHow to balance ambition with flexibility when life doesn’t go according to planAbby also walks listeners through her vision board process in detail- from photoshopping resumes and Spotify analytics to visualising lifestyle, relationship, and creative goals- and explains why consistency beats motivation every time.Whether you’re feeling excited, stuck, anxious, or behind as the new year approaches, this episode is a grounded guide to reflecting on the year you’ve had and intentionally designing the one ahead.If you’re navigating early adulthood, career uncertainty, creative goals, or personal growth, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to approach 2026 with clarity, optimism, and direction.

Almost two months ago, I handed in my notice at my corporate law job. Since then, everything has changed.In this episode, I’m reflecting honestly on what life has looked like since leaving stability behind for a more creative path. I share what I miss (and what I don’t), how money fears and family expectations have shaped this transition, why I’m feeling more aligned than ever with the podcast- and the unexpected doubts that have come up around my decision to go to law school.In this episode, I talk about:What it actually feels like after quitting a “dream” corporate jobThe pressure of choosing passion over a paycheckReturning to live at home in your 20sWhat alignment in your life means for youQuestioning my decision to go to law school Redefining what “impact” looks likeLong-distance love and how big life decisions ripple into relationshipsLearning to trust yourself at the crossroadsBe sure to subscribe to the podcast wherever you're listening. You can email [email protected] with feedback, questions, or suggestions- I’d love to hear from you! 💌

Winter hits differently as an adult: darker days, colder commutes, fading motivation, and that persistent urge to hibernate. In this cozy, honest episode, Abby dives into what it really feels like to navigate adulthood during winter, amidst lower energy levels, disrupted routines, social burnout, winter blues, and the pressure to “stay productive” when your body wants rest.From a freezing early-morning run attempt in London to learning how to reframe routines seasonally, Abby shares practical strategies for surviving- and even romanticizing- the cold months. This episode is your permission slip to slow down, soften your expectations, and build winter habits that actually work.Whether you’re struggling with motivation, feeling lonely during cuffing season, or just trying to protect your mental health when it gets dark at 4pm, you’re not alone. Winter is hard, and this episode meets you exactly where you are.

In this short but sweet Thanksgiving special, we explore the surprising ways the holidays reflect who we’re becoming as adults. From gratitude and friendship to routines, reflection, and the quiet realities of growing up, this episode breaks down 10 Thanksgiving-inspired lessons that hit differently once you’re navigating adulthood on your own.We talk about:Practising gratitude in a genuine, sustainable wayFriendsgiving and what it reveals about adult friendshipsWhy leftovers are basically the blueprint for meal prepLearning to cook as a proxy for trying by doingThe holidays as a natural checkpoint for self-reflectionWinter routines, rest, and slowing downAnd more cozy, grounding reminders for this time of yearWhether you celebrate Thanksgiving or not, these lessons offer a moment to pause, reflect, and acknowledge how far you’ve come since last year, and how much growth often goes unnoticed.Let me know what you’re up to this holiday season and what you want to hear next!Email [email protected] anytime with ideas, feedback, or suggestions.If you enjoyed the episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and follow the show on socials to stay connected.Happy Thanksgiving, and thank you for listening!

In this conversation, Abby shares her journey for applying and getting accepted into Harvard Law School, but more importantly, how it clarified her philosophy for achieving major life goals. She talks about how it's not about innate genius or luck, but rather emphasises the importance of breaking down goals into accessible, achievable steps. Let us know what you think! Email [email protected] with feedback, suggestions for future episodes, or general inquiries.

Applications to US law schools are skyrocketing-- up more than 30% this year alone. But as more twenty-somethings turn to law school for clarity and stability, the question remains: is it really the right move?In this episode, Abby sits down with Velen, who recently dropped out of Columbia Law School, and Joshua, who just left his pre-law firm job after wrestling with the decision to apply. Together, they explore ambition, uncertainty, and how to know whether law school is the right next step… or just the default one. Tune in for an honest look at what it really means to choose your path with intention and stay for the advice on how to find your why before you take the leap.For more conversations about all things adulting, subscribe to the show. (Next week, Abby will walk through her own process applying to- and getting accepted- to Harvard Law School). Email [email protected] for feedback and suggestions for future episodes!

This episode started the way many of my podcast ideas do, from a real conversation with a friend. Over dinner, she admitted she was utterly terrified about what AI might mean for our futures. Will it take our jobs? Will there even be a place for us in the workforce ten years from now?These questions stuck with me. So I spoke to Magan, the brains behind 'GenZBestie' and the most tech-knowledgable young adult I know, to understand whether we should be afraid of AI, and how we can prepare for what’s ahead.What does this all mean for us, the generation just entering adulthood and trying to build meaningful careers? In this episode, we unpack how AI is reshaping the job market for young adults, why fear might not be the right response, and how learning to work with AI might just be the key to thriving in the future of work.The takeaway: Those who combine human creativity, emotional intelligence, and AI literacy will be best positioned to succeed in this new era.Email [email protected] with thoughts, feedback, and suggestions for future episodes.

It’s spooky season, and I'm here with a special treat. 👻In this bonus Halloween episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking, we’re not just talking costumes and candy. We’re talking about what Halloween means as adults. Somewhere between trick-or-treating and tax returns, many of us forgot how to have the kind of fun that’s silly, carefree, and completely unproductive.I explore how Halloween (this weird, wacky, wonderfully over-the-top holiday) reveals something deeper about adulthood: connection, play, creativity, and the importance of not taking ourselves too seriously.Because maybe growing up doesn’t have to mean outgrowing the fun.🎃 Tune in for a playful, thoughtful take on adulthood, having pure fun, and why we all need a little Halloween spirit, no matter how old we are.

This week on The Grown-Ups Are Talking, I get personal about a big life decision: quitting my corporate law job. It wasn’t a spur-of-the-moment choice — it was months in the making. In this episode, I share my journey from feeling stuck and dissatisfied, to finding inspiration in creative opportunities, and finally taking the leap into uncertainty and freedom.We dive into:Life working a corporate job and the challenges of balancing work, growth, and personal fulfilmentHow past podcast episodes and conversations sparked a desire for a more creative pathThe whirlwind of applying for a dream opportunity and what I learned from rejectionTrading financial stability for time, freedom, and a year to focus on what truly excites meThis episode is for anyone thinking about making a change, feeling stuck, or curious about what it’s like to take a leap and pursue something that really matters to them.

In this episode, Abby Thayananthan explores the common experience of feeling lost, particularly among young adults navigating their quarter life crisis. She discusses the signs of this crisis, the feelings of uncertainty and self-doubt that accompany it, and offers practical solutions for finding direction and purpose. Through personal anecdotes and insights from Reddit, Abby emphasizes the importance of reflection, self-discovery, and taking small steps towards meaningful change. The episode serves as a comforting reminder that feeling lost is a shared experience and can lead to personal growth and discovery.

Healthy living isn’t just about fitness — what you eat matters just as much. But in early adulthood, when life is busy and schedules are unpredictable, how do you actually make it work?In this episode, I’m joined once again by Cara Chedid and Noah Tinker to talk about food and diet in early adulthood. We explore how to make healthy choices on the go, balance convenience with nourishment, navigate grocery shopping on a budget, and avoid the all-or-nothing mindset when it comes to eating.This is Part 2 of our two-part series on healthy living in your 20s. If you haven’t already, make sure you listen to Part 1 on fitness and routines first.Tune in, subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes, and be part of the conversation by sharing your thoughts, questions, and ideas for what you’d like to hear next.

What does “healthy living” actually look like when you’re just starting out in adulthood? Between work, social life, and just trying to keep your head above water, wellness can feel like one more overwhelming task on the to-do list. But it doesn’t have to be that way.In this two-part mini-series, we’re breaking it down with guests Cara Chedid and Noah Tinker — two young adults who are passionate about fitness and wellness, and are figuring out what works for them in real life. Together, we explore how to make health less intimidating and more sustainable.In part one, we focus on movement, routines, and small lifestyle shifts that actually make a difference. From finding ways to stay active without overthinking it, to building habits that stick (and forgiving yourself when they don’t), this conversation is about approaching wellness with balance, intention, and a little bit of fun.

Your twenties are often sold as the best years of your life—but for many of us, they’re also the loneliest. In this episode, Abby shares stories from moving back to London and a solo trip to Edinburgh, and digs into why so many young adults struggle with connection. From friendship drift to dating apps, she explores what makes this stage so isolating—and how to start finding comfort in both solitude and community.

What happens when your career path is anything but linear? In this episode, product designer Mareike Keller shares how she went from studying business administration, to working as a flight attendant, to returning to university later in life — before landing her role at Spotify. Along the way, we talk about the value of detours, how every experience builds transferable skills, and why it’s okay to take your time figuring things out. Mareike also reflects on the pressures to choose stability over exploration, and how staying open to change can lead you to your best opportunities.

In this episode, Abby Thayananthan speaks with guests Brennan Vacek and Kaushal Gokare to explore the complexities of navigating early career paths, job satisfaction, and the decision to leave a job. They discuss the importance of workplace culture, the balance between idealism and reality in work, and the role of personal values in shaping career choices. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-reflection and the need to evaluate one's job satisfaction regularly, while also acknowledging the challenges faced by many young adults in the workforce today.Chapters00:00 Navigating the Transition to Adulthood03:08 Career Aspirations and Job Satisfaction05:40 The Importance of Work Environment08:41 Evaluating Job Expectations and Reality11:32 Recognizing When to Move On14:06 The Role of Relationships in Job Satisfaction16:28 Balancing Work and Personal Life19:22 Identifying Job Pros and Cons21:56 The Quest for Fulfillment in Work24:43 Personal Growth and Career Reflection32:25 Intentional Time Management and Self-Reflection33:48 Prioritizing Workplace Culture and Personal Growth35:29 Navigating Career Changes and Expectations37:41 Exploring New Career Paths: Law School Considerations40:51 Embracing Career Flexibility and Life Changes41:41 Finding Purpose Beyond Work45:20 Recognizing the Gray Areas in Career Satisfaction47:56 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Career Decisions51:44 Navigating the Balance Between Work and Life55:27 Identifying Signs for Career Transition

From her family’s refugee background to her acceptance at Harvard Law School, Abby shares the personal journey that shaped her transition into adulthood in this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking. She reflects on growing up in London, moving to the U.S., and navigating the uncertainty of figuring out who she is and what she wants. Through stories of education, identity, and shifting dreams—from a love of theater to a pursuit of law and podcasting-- with many unknowns still to come—Abby explores how we make sense of adulthood when the path forward isn't always clear. She also opens up about the origins of the podcast, its mission to facilitate honest conversations and encourage self-reflection, and the power of community in helping us feel less alone as we grow up.

In this episode, Abby introduces a new segment called 'Question Time', where she addresses listener questions about adulting. The conversation covers pivotal themes such as career transitions, the challenges and rewards of moving abroad, and the importance of networking in professional growth. Abby shares personal anecdotes and practical advice, encouraging listeners to embrace change and seek opportunities for personal and professional development.Chapters00:00 Introduction from LA: A New Segment Begins02:38 Navigating Career Pivots: When to Stay or Go11:26 The Journey of Moving Abroad: Independence and Growth25:27 The Importance of Networking26:05 Shifting Mindset: Networking as Relationship Building27:15 Leveraging Existing Connections27:36 Effective Online Networking30:10 In-Person Networking Strategies32:45 Maintaining Networking Relationships33:32 Networking Do's and Don'tsLinks Mentionedhttps://www.forbes.com/sites/laurabegleybloom/2025/04/26/how-some-americans-have-found-a-clever-new-way-to-move-abroad/https://open.spotify.com/episode/7rBOS1SqyylJHB8eBKTVs9?si=7526f1fac7764240

In this conversation, Abby Thayananthan speaks with Al Zdenek, a wealth advisor, about the importance of personal finance for young adults. They discuss how to define financial success, manage your first paycheck, the significance of emergency funds, and the difference between good and bad debt. Al shares practical advice on credit cards, common financial mistakes, and the importance of financial literacy. He also introduces Cake Club app, an app designed to help young people manage their finances effectively.Subscribe to The Grown-Ups Are Talking so you never miss an episode, and follow us on Instagram and TikTok @thegrownupsaretalkingpod.00:00 Introduction to Personal Finance Challenges07:39 Al Zdenek's Journey into Wealth Management13:34 Defining Financial Success in Your 20s20:40 Navigating Career Choices and Financial Stability25:56 Practical Steps for Managing Your First Paycheck27:49 Navigating Financial Independence31:03 Mastering Credit Card Management34:16 Understanding Debt: Good vs. Bad39:16 Preparing for Graduate School Debt43:18 Entrepreneurship and Financial Literacy48:36 Introducing Cake Club: A Financial Tool

This week on The Grown-Ups Are Talking, I'm flying solo with a more personal episode—because honestly, life has been lifing lately. In the midst of a big move (yes, I just left New York City!), I spent my final weekend in the U.S. on a camping-style retreat with a group of strangers-turned-friends. It was peaceful, emotional, soul-feeding, and deeply reflective in all the ways I didn’t know I needed.In this episode, I share what it was like to open up around a fireplace with a group of 20-somethings about discernment vs. consolation, adulthood anxieties, and our hopes for the future. Plus, I read you parts of the letter I wrote to my future self—and talk through the surreal, tender weirdness of moving back in with my parents in my mid-twenties.If you’re in any kind of transition—new job, city, relationship, or just figuring out what’s next—I hope this one resonates. It’s about finding meaning in the messy middle, and reminding ourselves that we’re not alone in the uncertainty.🎧 Subscribe to The Grown-Ups Are Talking so you never miss an episode, and follow us on TikTok @thegrownupsaretalkingpod.📩 DM me or send a voice note about what transitions you’re going through—I’d love to hear them, and maybe even share some in a future episode.

In this conversation, I speak with startup founders Alfonso Velasco and Madeline Park to explore the complexities of adulthood, particularly in the context of entrepreneurship. They discuss the diverging paths young adults take in their twenties, the definition of adulthood as agency and responsibility, and the unique challenges and rewards of starting a business. The founders share their personal journeys, emphasizing the importance of taking risks, learning through failure, and the transformative impact of startups on their self-identity and personal growth. They reflect on the balance between pursuing meaningful work and the sacrifices made in terms of stability and security, ultimately highlighting the value of resilience and conviction in navigating both personal and professional challenges. I hope you enjoy the episode, and don't forget to subscribe to the show!

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself—is your career or the track you’re heading down really you? Or did you fall into something stable, something familiar—maybe the path of least resistance, or one that’s been done before and promised success? Do you know how to network, or does that word feel icky and confusing? Do you feel confident in how to reach your goals in life, or do you not even know what they are?In this epiosde, ’m joined by Magan, the amazing founder of yourgenZbestie, a platform that began as a TikTok account and is now growing into a full-blown startup helping Gen Z navigate big life choices. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by what comes after school, this one’s for you.And before we dive in, don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode, and follow us on TikTok @thegrownupsaretalkingpod for updates, behind-the-scenes content, and a sneak peek at some very exciting things coming soon…

This week, we’re talking about something that often gets overlooked in the rush of adult life: hobbies. Not side hustles, not skills for your resume — just things we do because we like them. As we transition out of college and into full-time jobs, our relationship with fun and free time starts to shift. So how do we make space for hobbies again? And why does that even matter?I’m joined by two guests at different stages of post-grad life — one wrapping up university, and one a year into the working world. We talk about the hobbies they’ve held onto, the ones they’ve rediscovered, and the challenge of making time for joy in grown-up routines. We also get into how hobbies can support mental health, shape identity, and remind us that not everything has to be productive to be valuable.Whether you’re into journaling, bouldering, baking, or binge-watching, this episode is a reminder that it’s okay — even necessary — to do things just for fun.🎙️ Plus, a quick announcement: I’m always looking for guests to join the pod! If you’re a young adult with something to say about growing up, or you’re really into a hobby and want to talk about it, I’d love to hear from you. Reach out at [email protected] or message me on TikTok @thegrownupsaretalkingpod.

In this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking, we’re talking all about long-distance relationships—a reality for so many young adults navigating careers, school, and life transitions. Whether you're a few cities or entire time zones apart, maintaining a relationship while also trying to grow as an individual is no small feat.Our guest Maya shares her experience of being in a long-distance relationship: the highs, the hard parts, and the lessons learned along the way. We unpack what it really takes to stay connected, how to communicate better, and why long-distance might actually make your relationship—and your adulting journey—stronger.If you're in a long-distance relationship, considering one, or just curious how people make it work, this one’s for you.

Moving to New York City is often seen as a major step into adulthood—but does it actually make you feel like a grown-up, or just really, really tired? In this episode, we break down what it means to “adult” in one of the most exciting, expensive, and overwhelming cities in the world.From sky-high rent and chaotic commutes to finding community in a city of millions, my guests Julian, Isaac and I talk about how NYC shapes independence, resilience, and our understanding of adulthood. Is the hustle worth it? Does the city make you feel more capable or defeated? And most importantly—do we see ourselves staying for the long haul?Join us as we share the highs, the struggles, and the small wins that make city life worth it. If you're figuring out adulthood in NYC or another big city (or are just curious about what it's really like), this episode is for you!

For 20+ years, life had a clear structure—school, college, summer breaks. But after graduation? There’s no syllabus, no grades, and no set path forward. The uncertainty of post-grad life can feel overwhelming, and the pressure to have everything figured out only makes it harder.In this episode, I’m joined by Michaela, a writer whose reflections on this transition resonated deeply with me. Together, we unpack the post-grad fog—why it feels so unsettling, how to navigate the unknown, and what it really means to build confidence when the future feels unclear.If you’ve ever felt lost after graduation, this one’s for you. Tune in, and let’s figure it out together.

In part two of The Grown-Ups Are Talking anniversary celebration, we’re continuing our look back at the past year with a compilation of highlights from episodes focused on post-grad life. From career uncertainty and shifting friendships to redefining success, body image, and mental health, this episode revisits some of the most insightful conversations about the realities of adulthood. Join me as we reflect on the lessons, challenges, and surprises that come with navigating life after college!

Dating apps can feel like an endless cycle of swiping, ghosting, and disappointing first dates—but is real love actually possible online? With Valentine’s Day around the corner, we’re diving into the highs and lows of app dating, why so many of us give up, and whether finding “the one” is still possible in a digital world. If you’ve ever debated deleting the apps for good, this episode is for you! Tune in, and don’t forget to share your own dating app experiences with us by leaving a comment below.