The Home on the Rock Show

“When you know, you know.” It’s the phrase people throw around when talking about marriage. But here’s the truth: many of us thought we knew… and ended up with the wrong person.  In this episode, Crystal and Thiago go beyond the fairytales and societal expectations to reveal the unfiltered truth about love, marriage, and commitment. They open up about the red flags we’re so quick to dismiss when we’re desperate for love, and the deep peace that comes when you finally find the partner God has for you.  This episode will shift how you see marriage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or already married, you’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to discern “the one”, why thriving matters more than just staying together, and how faith transforms everything.  Because a true home on the rock isn’t built on comfort. It’s built on faith, resilience, and choosing each other through every storm.  In this episode: (01:20) - Crystal’s concept of marriage before meeting Thiago (05:28) - Why Thiago never thought he would marry (08:24) - Settling vs Choosing: Why people marry for the wrong reasons (11:23) - The red flags most people ignore in relationships (16:08) - Why you can’t force the wrong person to fit (17:14) - Don’t stay too long: It doesn’t have to be wrong to not be right (20:44) - Why who you marry and who you stay married to are oftentimes two different people (22:29) - It’s not marriage until it is tested (23:30) - When your relationship makes you regress instead of grow (25:40) - How Thiago knew Crystal was “the one” (29:58) - Staying together vs Thriving in marriage (36:10) - Happiness, Co-dependency, and true commitment in marriage Links and Resources: Grab your copy of the 7 Relationship Killers Parents Struggle With Everyday | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Connect with Thiago and Crystal: Website | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thehomeontherock/  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567116733941  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@_HomeOnTheRock_  

Going from one child to two isn’t just “adding another”. It’s stepping into a whole new chapter. One that will stretch your capacity, test your marriage, and invite you to become someone new. The rhythms you’ve built will change, your relationship will be refined, and your firstborn will feel the shift in their own little heart.  In this honest and hope-filled conversation, Crystal & Thiago open up about the fears they faced going into this season, the lessons they learned, and the small but powerful shifts that helped them grow closer instead of falling apart. You’ll hear how they prepared their firstborn for a sibling, protected sacred newborn time, and discovered that love doesn’t divide - it multiplies.  Whether you’re expecting baby #2 or already finding your way as a family of four, this episode offers perspective, grace, and encouragement to help you walk this season with open hands and a steady heart. Timestamps: (03:19) - A completely different feeling during the second pregnancy (06:00) - “Will I have enough love for another child?” (10:30) - Finding the energy and faith for parenting two kids (13:59) - Pre-framing your firstborn (18:49) - Shaping your firstborn’s identity as a big sibling (20:55) - Working better as a team (23:16) - Working through intimacy struggles in the newborn season (28:53) - Creating sacred newborn time while nearby family helps with a toddler’s needs (32:26) - The “Don’t blame the baby” rule (37:16) - Recalibrating and embracing change (42:19) - How dads can show up differently with baby #2 (48:57) - Final words of encouragement Links and Resources: Grab your copy of the 7 Relationship Killers Parents Struggle With Everyday | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Connect with Thiago and Crystal: Website | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thehomeontherock/  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567116733941  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@_HomeOnTheRock_  

Love wasn’t enough to save our marriage. Faith was.  Before the launch of The Home on the Rock, we were invited to share our story on The Fordify Show with Emily Ford and Jake Havron. It was the first time we ever shared our story publicly - the story that gave birth to The Home on the Rock and shaped our desire to help other couples navigate the stormiest seasons of marriage and parenting through faith, truth, and healing.  We talked openly about the pain we didn’t know how to process for years, the miscarriage that broke our hearts, and the resentment and disconnection that crept without us realizing it. But in the middle of that storm, God gave us the opportunity to rebuild not on our feelings but on His foundation.  If you’re in a difficult season in your marriage, parenthood, or your faith, we hope this conversation meets you where you are and reminds you: storms don’t mean it’s over. Sometimes, they’re the beginning of something sacred.  In this episode: (00:50) - The Harveys on The Fordify Show (04:46) - The inspiration behind Home on the Rock (11:41) - The Harveys’ Parenting Philosophy (12:44) - Faith-based Parenting (18:06) - Tips to empower children to make thoughtful decisions (21:15) - Discipline through love vs punishment driven by fear (30:36) - Vulnerability in marriage (38:18) - The importance of open communication and mutual support during life’s hardest moments (41:34) - Recognizing and addressing early signs of disconnection in marriage (45:00) - A raw and honest account of Crystal’s miscarriage and her unspoken grief (51:14) - Understanding how men & women experience grief differently (59:19) - How blending personal development with faith equips couples to face life’s challenges with confidence and resilience (01:04:11) - Tony Robbins’ 3 C’s and 3 U’s (01:13:58) - Practical ways to reignite intimacy and strengthen the bond in marriage Connect with Emily Ford and Jake Havron: Website |  https://www.fordivine.com  Instagram - itsemily | https://www.instagram.com/itsemily   Instagram - jakehavron | https://www.instagram.com/jakehavron/   Fordivine House | https://www.instagram.com/fordivinehouse/  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/c/ITSEMILYFORD   Podcast | https://www.instagram.com/calledandcrowned/  Connect with Thiago and Crystal: Website | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thehomeontherock/  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567116733941  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@_HomeOnTheRock_ 

Nothing prepares you for the kind of sleep deprivation that comes after having a baby.  It’s not just being tired — it’s a physical, emotional, and mental unraveling that can sneak in slowly… and hit all at once.  In this episode, we’re talking about sleep — the kind you lose, the kind you try to catch up on, and what we’ve learned through navigating newborn nights, nap guilt, co-sleeping, and shifting routines. We share what we got wrong in the beginning (like trying to power through on our own), the resentment that built up in the quiet hours, and the small but powerful shifts that helped us restore peace, both at night and during the day.  We walk through the products that helped, the rituals that didn’t, how we split night shifts, and what we learned about our own limits and needs. From bottle warmers to glow-in-the-dark pacifiers, to learning how to sleep in shifts, we cover the real, raw, behind-the-scenes in those early parenting years.  There’s no one “right” way to do it, but there are ways to do it with more grace, more presence, and more peace.  In this episode: (01:12) - How sleep became the first major parenting battle (04:30) - What we thought would work (and why it didn’t) (10:00) - The agreement that created resentment (15:00) - Why sleep deprivation isn’t just physical (18:45) - The guilt & reality of “nap when the baby naps” (24:00) - The strategy that saved us (31:00) - Gears and products that helped (and what we’d skip) (42:00) - Co-sleeping: What worked with one kid vs two (55:00) - Intimacy, distance, and sleep: How we’re making it work (1:08:00) - What we’ll always remember from this season Connect with Thiago and Crystal: Website | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thehomeontherock/  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567116733941  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@_HomeOnTheRock_ 

When you have children, everything changes. But no one warned us that we would, too. Welcome to the Home on the Rock — a space for couples navigating the beautiful, messy, and deeply transformative season of raising young kids. Hosted by Thiago and Crystal Rose Harvey, each episode explores the raw realities of marriage and parenting after children: from communication breakdowns to lost intimacy, to spiritual and emotional disconnection. In this deeply vulnerable debut episode, Thiago and Crystal share the unfiltered truth about what really happened to their marriage after kids: identity loss, intimacy struggles, porn, postpartum trauma, and the moments they weren’t sure they’d make it through.  Through honest reflection and unwavering faith, they reveal the tools, turning points, and spiritual restoration that helped them not just survive but come back stronger. From intimacy to identity to obedience, this conversation goes deep into what it really takes to stay together when life gets hard — and why it’s always worth it.  In this episode: (00:19) - The Biblical Inspiration Behind The Home on the Rock (03:33) - The Change No One Talks About After Having Kids (04:10) - The Hidden Ways Porn Destroys Marriage (10:00) - Pregnancy, Shame, and the Loss of Desire (15:38) - Miscarriage, Grief, and the Moment Everything Cracked (25:58) - Why Love Alone Isn’t Enough To Keep You Together (32:20) - The Depolarization Cycle (35:11) - Most Arguments Aren’t About Winning (37:15) - The Silent Question That Almost Ended It (42:02) - Confession, Repentance, and Rebuilding (46:31) - Advice for Expectant Couples (54:36) - Final Reflections: Don’t Let the Storm Win Links and Resources: Book - What to Expect When You’re Expecting | https://a.co/d/7VnzIMH  Book - The Better Baby Book: How to Have a Healthier, Smarter, Happier Baby | https://a.co/d/8N4QE5p  Connect with Thiago and Crystal: Website | https://thehomeontherock.com/  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thehomeontherock/  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567116733941  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@_HomeOnTheRock_