The Secure Love Club Podcast

In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation where I was interviewed by the amazing Drea Renee on her podcast ‘Hey Babe, Can We Talk?’This is such a fun, value-packed conversation where we’re not just talking about what’s been happening to you in dating, but also how you might be unintentionally keeping yourself stuck in the exact patterns you say you want to break.We get into what my own dating life used to look like — constantly thinking about the person I was seeing, needing their attention to feel okay, and calling it “connection”… when really, it was anxiety running the show. We also go into love bombing in a really honest way. We dissect how it shows up in another person, AND, the role we can play in speeding things up, getting swept up, and ignoring what we already know deep down.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why what you call “connection” might actually be anxiety• The subtle ways you might be participating in the patterns you feel stuck in• What love bombing really looks like — beyond the obvious• How to tell the difference between feeling calm… and feeling consumed• Why shifting your focus back onto yourself changes everything🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.CONNECT WITH DREA!IG: https://www.instagram.com/heybabecanwetalk/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5IHI4Nis2q39tAsMC6Zr3O?si=d2fbcbba9c91427c MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m taking you into one of the most important (and honestly, confronting) truths when it comes to love, dating, and relationships: the love you want is real… but there are parts of you that simply cannot come with you into it.This isn’t about not being “healed enough” or needing to become a perfect version of yourself before you’re worthy of love. It’s about recognising that many women are trying to call in calm, secure, emotionally available relationships… while still holding onto identities that were built in chaos — where love felt inconsistent, uncertain, and something you had to fight for.We dive into why you can be self-aware, doing the work, and still find yourself in the same dating patterns… and the deeper shift that actually changes things. From the stories your nervous system is still running, to the uncomfortable “in-between” phase of becoming someone new in love — this episode will help you understand what’s really keeping you stuck, and what it takes to finally move forward.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why the issue isn’t that you want love too much… but that parts of you are still afraid of what receiving it would require• The difference between familiarity vs safety, and why you keep feeling drawn to the same type of person• Why strategy alone won’t change your dating patterns (and what actually will)• What the “in-between” phase of becoming secure really looks like and why it feels so uncomfortable• How your identity shapes your experience in love… and the shift that allows you to finally receive something different🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED - ENROLLMENT CLOSES APRIL 30TH 2026: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!Watch the ‘You Are The Problem’ Replay HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/you-are-the-problem-replay-opt-in-landing-page 

In this episode, I’m sitting down with one of my Peacefully Attached clients, Zala, who shares her journey from feeling heartbroken and stuck after a breakup… to getting her spark back and dating with confidence and self-trust.When she first came to me, it wasn’t just the breakup — it was the deeper fear that she’d never find the love she truly wanted. Old patterns were back in full force… anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable partners, and slowly abandoning herself to keep things going. Even with years of self-awareness, she still felt stuck, like nothing was actually changing.We talk about the shift that moved her out of that; learning how to regulate her emotions, rebuild safety within herself, and finally start trusting herself again. Now, she’s dating in a completely different way — clear, grounded, and no longer chasing or overthinking. The spark she thought she’d lost? It’s back. This episode is a reminder that just because you feel broken right now… doesn’t mean you stay there.In this episode, you’ll learn:• What heartbreak can bring up beneath the surface, and why it often reactivates old attachment patterns• How Zala moved from feeling stuck and defeated… to rebuilding her confidence and sense of self• Why awareness alone wasn’t enough and the piece that actually helped her create change• What it looks like to get your spark back and date from a place of self-trust, clarity, and emotional safety🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED - ENROLLMENT CLOSES APRIL 30TH 2026: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!Watch the ‘You Are The Problem’ Replay: https://www.mimiwatt.com/you-are-the-problem-replay-opt-in-landing-page 

In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of a very real, very recent dating experience… where I got ghosted. And not just ignored… fully unmatched. 😅What made this moment so powerful wasn’t the ghosting itself… it was what happened internally. The thoughts that came up, the stories my anxious attachment wanted to run with, and the way I caught myself before spiralling into old patterns. Doing the work doesn’t mean you never get triggered again. It means you respond differently when you do.I walk you through exactly what went through my mind in that moment, how I regulated myself, the questions I asked to shift out of anxiety, and the reframe that allowed me to move on within hours instead of days or weeks. This episode will show you what it actually looks like to embody secure attachment in real time — not just understand it.In this episode, you’ll learn:• What goes on internally when your anxious attachment gets activated, and why those thoughts feel so real in the moment• The simple but powerful shift from reacting → regulating (and how to catch yourself before the spiral takes over)• Why expressing your standards will never push away the right person, and what it reveals when someone disappears instead• How to stop making rejection mean something about your worth, and start seeing it as information about compatibility• The difference between knowing the work… and embodying it; what secure attachment really looks like in practice🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED - ENROLLMENT CLOSES APRIL 30TH 2026:https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!Watch the ‘You Are The Problem’ Replay HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/you-are-the-problem-replay-opt-in-landing-page 

In this episode, I’m sitting down with one of my past Peacefully Attached clients, Liv, who shares her journey from feeling stuck in repetitive, anxiety-driven dating patterns… to finally experiencing calm, grounded, and secure connection.From the outside, her life looked full — thriving career, strong friendships, everything “working” — but behind the scenes, her dating life felt like a constant loop of emotionally unavailable men, overthinking, and that underlying sense of unease she couldn’t shake. We talk about the moment everything clicked… when she realised she wasn’t just attracting these dynamics, she was actively participating in them, and how that shift gave her the power to change.From stepping out of dating entirely and rebuilding safety within herself, to now dating in a way that feels slow, intentional, and aligned… this episode shows what actually happens when you move beyond awareness and start embodying the work. If you’ve ever felt like you keep ending up in the same situation with a different person, this will open your eyes to what’s really going on, and what’s possible instead.In this episode, you’ll learn:• What it looks like to be stuck in a situationship loop, and the subtle ways Liv was keeping herself there without realising. • The moment she realised she was recreating her own dating patterns (and why that changed everything)• How she went from constant anxiety and overthinking… to feeling calm, grounded, and no longer obsessed with checking her phone!! • What shifted when she stopped playing games, started speaking up, and saw how differently people responded.• How stepping out of dating completely became the thing that allowed her to attract healthier, more aligned connections.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED - ENROLLMENT CLOSES APRIL 30TH 2026: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE Watch the ‘You Are The Problem’ Replay HERE 🎥

In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of the most challenging and transformative seasons I’ve experienced in a long time… and the truth is, it caught me completely off guard. Because from the outside, everything looked like it was working — the business was growing, I was showing up, I was doing all the “right” things — but internally, I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and slowly burning out in a way I couldn’t quite explain.What I didn’t realise at the time is that I was deeply dysregulated, living in a constant state of fight or flight without even knowing it… and it was quietly impacting everything. My energy, my ability to take action, my emotions, and even the things I thought I just “didn’t have motivation” for.I walk you through how this showed up for me, the moment it finally clicked, and the simple but powerful shift that changed everything. We talk about what self-regulation actually means in real life (not just the buzzword version), how your nervous system might be keeping you stuck without you realising, and why this piece of the work is non-negotiable if you want to feel secure, grounded, and in control of your life and relationships.This is about expanding your capacity to actually live the life you keep telling yourself you want.In this episode, you’ll learn:• What it really looks like to be dysregulated (and why most people miss it)• Why you can “know the work” but still feel stuck in the same patterns• How chronic stress impacts your energy, emotions, and decision-making• Why self-regulation is the foundation for secure dating and relationships• The shift that helped me move from burnout and avoidance… to clarity and action🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.PEACEFULLY ATTACHED: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re getting into one of the biggest patterns I see holding women back in dating and relationships: struggling to communicate what you actually want and need. And not because you don’t know how… but because your body doesn’t feel safe enough to do it. I’m walking you through a real client scenario where everything looked “good on paper” — consistent communication, a secure partner, no major red flags — but one small shift triggered her into a spiral of self-doubt and fear of abandonment. From there, we unpack what was really going on beneath the surface, and how quickly things can unravel when old wounds take the lead.We talk about the difference between reacting from your anxious patterns vs responding from your secure self, and the exact process I guided her through to move from panic and self-sabotage… to clarity, groundedness, and confident communication. This episode will show you why communication isn’t just about what you say — it’s about how regulated you are when you say it. Because when you feel safe in your body, speaking your truth becomes a whole lot simpler.In this episode, you’ll learn:• The real reason you spiral over small changes in someone’s behaviour• How your core wounds (like “I’m not good enough”) show up in dating• The difference between reacting vs responding in relationships• What secure communication actually looks like in early dating• The two biggest communication mistakes to avoid (that push people away)🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.PEACEFULLY ATTACHED: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re unpacking something that might sound a little controversial at first: the moments in dating when not listening to your feelings is actually the most secure thing you can do. We’re often told to follow our heart, but if you have anxious attachment, those intense feelings of chemistry, butterflies, or an irresistible pull toward someone can sometimes just be your nervous system recognizing a familiar pattern — not necessarily a healthy one. I’m sharing my own experience of being completely heart-led in dating, constantly chasing that spark and diving headfirst into connections that felt electric at the start, only for them to crash and burn a few months later.We talk about why this happens, how anxious attachment can make familiarity feel like compatibility, and the shift that changed everything for me: learning to date like a scientist by observing someone’s behaviour, consistency, values, and emotional availability instead of getting swept away by the feeling. If you keep finding yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable people — even when you know better — this episode will help you understand why and how to start making different choices so you can stop chasing chemistry that leads to chaos and start building connections that actually feel calm, safe, and secure.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why following your feelings in dating can sometimes lead you straight back into familiar unhealthy patterns• The difference between genuine intuition and emotional familiarity• Why intense chemistry at the start can cloud your judgement• How anxious attachment keeps pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners• The key behaviours to observe when you’re dating so you can choose secure, compatible partners🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram — I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway.PEACEFULLY ATTACHED: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re unpacking a sneaky pattern that quietly runs so many people’s lives without them even realizing it: being addicted to the struggle. The belief that things have to be hard, that success must come through suffering, or that love only “counts” if you fight for it. Sound familiar? 👀I’m sharing a powerful realization I had recently that completely shifted how I see success, identity, and the patterns we repeat in life and relationships. Because the truth is, sometimes we unconsciously keep ourselves stuck in struggle — not because we want to suffer, but because that identity has been meeting deeper needs like validation, control, or feeling worthy.We talk about how this shows up in business, dating, and anxious attachment — especially when you find yourself repeating the same dynamics over and over again. I break down why awareness alone isn’t enough to create change, the identity shifts that actually move the needle, and the role courage plays when it’s finally time to step into a new version of yourself.If you’ve ever felt like you’re taking two steps forward and three steps back… or like life and love always have to feel like a battle — this episode is your loving wake-up call.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why so many of us unconsciously attach our worth to how hard we struggle• The surprising way your identity can keep you repeating the same patterns in business and relationships• How anxious attachment can keep you drawn to familiar chaos instead of secure love• The three steps required to actually break a pattern (not just understand it)• The role courage plays in finally becoming the person you say you want to be🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!PEACEFULLY ATTACHED: https://www.mimiwatt.com/MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

This episode is for the high-achieving, self-aware woman who feels grounded and powerful in every part of her life, except when it comes to dating. You’re decisive in your career, clear in your friendships, aligned in your lifestyle… but the moment you start liking someone, everything feels foggy.Inspired by a powerful question from a client inside Peacefully Attached, I’m breaking down why your intuition can feel sharp everywhere else but suddenly “go offline” in romantic relationships. We talk about what’s actually happening beneath the surface, how attachment wounds override your instincts, and why protecting connection often becomes more important than protecting yourself.If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can I trust myself everywhere else… but not in love?” — this one’s for you.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why romantic relationships activate your nervous system more than any other area of life• How anxious attachment can override your intuition and turn “Is this aligned?” into “How do I not lose this?”• The subtle ways you may be self-abandoning to preserve connection• Why boundaries feel threatening in dating and how to make them feel safe• Practical steps to rebuild self-trust in love (without just telling yourself to “be more confident”)🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!Check out Peacefully Attached HEREMIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

This episode is for you if you’re stuck in that painful in-between place — wanting to move on with your life, heal, and become more secure… but still feeling the overwhelming urge to reach out to your ex for “closure.” Especially if that ex was emotionally unavailable or avoidant.I’m breaking down why closure feels so elusive after anxious–avoidant relationships, why the urge to send one more message can feel unbearable, and the hard but liberating truth most people don’t want to hear: the closure you’re seeking is rarely something another person can give you. We talk about how your nervous system drives the desire to reconnect, why going back often re-opens the wound instead of healing it, and what it actually looks like to give yourself closure, even when it hurts.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why closure after anxious–avoidant relationships so often feels incomplete or never-ending• How your nervous system mistakes reaching out for “safety” and why that keeps you stuck• Why one more conversation almost never brings the peace you’re hoping for• The difference between short-term discomfort and long-term emotional suffering• What real closure actually looks like and how to give it to yourself without reopening the wound🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m sharing a perspective shift on dating that honestly changed everything for me, and it came from a place I didn’t expect. After taking a break from dating, doing some deep nervous system regulation, and going on a recent date with a completely different intention, I noticed how much lighter, calmer, and more confident the whole experience felt. No pressure. No performance. No “is this my person?” spiral. Just… presence, curiosity, and connection.We’re talking about the middle ground so many people miss in dating — between taking it too seriously and not taking it seriously enough. I break down how anxious attachment and dysregulation can make dating feel high-stakes and overwhelming, why pressure kills presence, and how approaching dates as experiences (not auditions) can completely shift your energy, confidence, and discernment.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why dating feels so heavy when your nervous system is dysregulatedHow anxious attachment turns dates into self-focused performance instead of connectionThe mindset shift that helps you show up calmer, more confident, and more presentWhy going on dates “just for the experience” can actually build self-trust and clarityHow to gather real data about what you want (and don’t want) without attaching too fast🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re calling out one of the most frustrating patterns anxious daters get stuck in: dating the same person with a different face. You know the one… the chemistry is insane, it’s hot and heavy at the start, you’re on cloud nine — and then the moment you want depth, clarity, or commitment… they pull away. 😵‍💫I’m breaking down why this keeps happening, and the one thing that will change your dating life forever: slowing down and setting the pace yourself. We talk about why anxious attachment makes you more likely to get swept up in someone else’s intensity, how your nervous system confuses familiar patterns with “safe,” and why moving slowly isn’t boring… it’s actually the fastest way to filter out emotionally unavailable people and choose a relationship that can go the distance.If you’re done with situationships, done with pedestal energy, and ready for something real — this episode is for you!!In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why anxious attachment makes you more likely to attach to potential instead of reality • How getting “swept up” early on leads to fast attachment and missed red flags • Why you can’t truly know someone in the first few weeks and what time reveals that chemistry can’t • The 3-phase Dating Roadmap and how it stops you from rushing into the wrong people • How to regulate the anxious part of you so you can date from self-trust, not urgency🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.comMIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re talking about something we all claim we want… but secretly spend half our lives trying to avoid: problems. I’m breaking down why so many of us have developed this unconscious belief that we shouldn’t have challenges, and how that mindset actually keeps you stuck, disconnected, and living a smaller life than you’re meant for.We dive into the difference between low-quality problems vs high-quality problems, and how shifting the way you frame your challenges can instantly change your energy, confidence, and momentum (in dating, relationships, business, and life). If you’ve been trying to “wrap yourself in cotton wool” and avoid anything that feels uncomfortable… this episode is your loving wake-up call, my love: you don’t need a problem-free life — you need better problems.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why trying to eliminate all problems can actually create a bigger one: disconnection and isolation • The truth about “life is 50/50” and why growth requires discomfort (sorry, but it’s real) • The difference between low-quality problems (draining, dead-end energy) vs high-quality problems (expansive, empowering energy) • How to reframe the way you talk about your challenges so you stop resisting your life and start moving forward • Powerful questions to ask when you feel stuck so you can shift from spiralling to solving🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.comMIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most underrated reasons you feel stuck, drained, and unable to move forward in dating, life, or your personal growth: indecision.I’m breaking down why “I just need to think about it more” is often a trauma response disguised as logic, and how staying in limbo quietly leaks your energy, erodes your self-trust, and keeps you repeating the same patterns. We explore why your body often already knows the answer long before your mind catches up, and how making a clean decision instantly shifts your identity, confidence, and momentum.I also share powerful real-life examples, from challenging a client to make an on-the-spot decision, to saying yes to moves that scared the hell out of me (hello Bali and big investments), and how the universe tends to meet you halfway once you commit. If you’ve been standing on the edge of a decision, waiting for certainty, permission, or reassurance… this episode is your loving-but-firm nudge to MOVE!In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why unmade decisions drain your energy more than making the “wrong” choice ever could• How fear disguises itself as overthinking and keeps you stuck in familiar discomfort• Why decisive action is a powerful act of self-trust (especially for anxiously attached women)• How saying yes instantly redirects your energy, identity, and momentum• When to stop waiting for certainty, and let commitment create clarity🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!👉🏽APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this special replay episode, I’m taking you right back to the beginning — sharing my full journey from growing up anxiously attached, through years of emotionally draining relationships, to becoming secure within myself and building a life and career that truly lights me up.This episode originally aired as the very first Secure Love Club podcast episode, and I’m resharing it to mark a full year of weekly episodes — and to give newer listeners a chance to hear the story that started it all.In this episode:• How my childhood shaped my anxious attachment and the patterns I unknowingly carried into every relationship• Why I kept choosing emotionally unavailable partners (and the huge lie I believed about myself because of it)• The subtle ways I chased love, self-abandoned, and tried to control outcomes before I knew better• The moment everything shifted when I stopped outsourcing my worth and learned how to feel safe within myself• What secure love actually feels like and how this transformation led to starting my dream business!🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I sit down with my sister, Hannah, to have an honest, nuanced conversation about what it’s actually like to experience relationships from an avoidantly attached perspective.So many anxiously attached people are left feeling confused, rejected, or questioning their worth when someone pulls away emotionally. This conversation offers a rare inside look into what’s really happening beneath the surface; not just the behaviours, but the fear, overwhelm, and coping mechanisms driving them.We talk about how childhood experiences shape avoidant attachment, why emotional closeness can feel unsafe, and how avoidance isn’t about not caring, it’s about self-protection. We also explore the anxious–avoidant push–pull dynamic, why conflict feels so threatening for avoidants, and what actually helps someone with avoidant tendencies feel safe enough to open up.In this episode:• What’s actually happening when an avoidant partner pulls away• Why their distance is about overwhelm — not indifference• How the anxious–avoidant push–pull keeps both people stuck• The hidden anxiety avoidant partners rarely show• How to tell if this dynamic can heal… or if it’s time to walk away🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between building a life that looks good on the outside and one that actually feels right on the inside. This conversation was sparked by a powerful moment with a woman joining Peacefully Attached — and it opened up a deeper truth so many of us avoid: when our happiness rises and falls based on our relationship status, we’re not living in alignment… we’re outsourcing our fulfillment.We explore how many of us unknowingly build lives for validation, optics, and approval — careers, relationships, routines, and identities that look impressive but leave us feeling drained, restless, or quietly empty. I break down what emotional alignment really means, why ignoring it leads to burnout and anxiety, and how learning to live in integrity with yourself changes everything — including how you date.If you’ve ever felt like you “should” be happy, but aren’t… this episode is an invitation to get honest, come back into your body, and start building a life you actually respect.In this episode, you’ll learn:• The difference between a life built for appearance vs. one built for alignment• Why emotional misalignment shows up as anxiety, burnout, and restlessness• How social conditioning teaches us to seek validation over fulfillment• Why overriding your intuition creates long-term dissatisfaction• How identifying your values becomes a compass for decision-making• Why building a full, aligned life changes the way you date and attach🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!👉🏽APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m flipping the usual conversation around healing anxious attachment and attracting healthy love. Instead of focusing on what you should do, I’m walking you through the key things I stopped doing — the behaviours, patterns, and unconscious habits I had to let go of in order to create space for secure, grounded love.I share my personal journey of recognising anxious attachment, taking an intentional break from dating, and learning how to stop chasing intensity, proving my worth, rushing timelines, and abandoning myself just to keep a connection. We talk about why chemistry can be misleading, how urgency is often rooted in fear, and why secure love requires an identity shift — not perfection.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why I stopped dating when my anxious attachment was highly activated• How over-giving, over-explaining, and over-performing sabotage secure love• Why slowing down and releasing timelines builds real safety• Why healing isn’t linear — and how to respond to slip-ups with self-compassion• The role support and mentorship played in making secure love possible🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!👉🏽APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m inviting you into a powerful reflection on what happens when the way you’ve been living, working, dating, or showing up no longer feels good — even if it once did.Fresh from a deeply activating session with one of my mentors, this conversation is about recognising where you’re living on autopilot, clinging to familiarity over fulfilment, and repeating patterns simply because they feel safe. We explore why change can feel so uncomfortable (even when staying the same hurts), and how shifting your life doesn’t require burning everything down, just the courage to choose differently.If you’ve been feeling bored, restless, drained, or quietly asking yourself “Is this it?”, this episode is your permission slip to pause, reflect, and start updating your life in a way that actually feels expansive!!In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why familiarity often keeps us stuck, even when it’s no longer nourishing• The subtle signs you’ve outgrown a phase of your life• How nervous system safety influences your ability to change• Why choosing differently in dating, work, or life can feel uncomfortable at first• How real change happens through identity shifts, not just mindset or behaviour🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Emma — a former Peacefully Attached client — for one of the most honest and expansive conversations we’ve had on the Secure Love Club podcast.Emma shares what life looked like before we worked together: moving between anxious and avoidant attachment, repeating toxic relationship cycles, people-pleasing to the point of burnout, and feeling deeply disconnected from her sense of worth. We unpack how trauma, boundary violations, and self-abandonment quietly shaped her dating life, her work, and her relationship with herself — and the moment she realised she couldn’t keep doing it alone.We talk openly about the difference between therapy and coaching, what actually created lasting change for her, and how learning to regulate her emotions, trust herself, and raise her standards transformed not just her dating life — but her confidence, career, friendships, and self-talk.In this episode, you’ll hear:• How Emma broke free from anxious–avoidant cycles and finally started feeling safe, grounded, and secure within herself• The exact shift that helped her spot red flags early, stop over-giving, and walk away without second-guessing herself• Why structure, integration, and real support created deeper change than awareness alone ever did• What dating looks like when you trust yourself — clear boundaries, honest communication, and no more settling• How this work transformed more than her love life, creating confidence, emotional regulation, and self-respect across her career, friendships, and daily life🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/  MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m taking you into a conversation that poured through me fresh from my morning trot. You know those moments where life suddenly clicks, and you see your challenges through an entirely different lens? That’s what today is about. I’m breaking down the biggest lie we tell ourselves — that life should be linear, logical, and pain-free — and showing you why the hard seasons in your life aren’t punishments, but preparation. Preparation for more love, abundance, alignment, and a deeper version of yourself you haven’t even met yet. We explore how the universe uses your “quantum crumbles” to redirect you, strengthen you, and shape you into the person who can actually hold the expansion you’ve been asking for. I share openly about one of my biggest breakdowns — losing my business, my apartment, my relationship, and my identity — and how it became the catalyst for stepping into the work I’m meant to do. If you’re in a season that feels heavy, stagnant, or uncertain, this episode is your reminder that contraction always comes before expansion… and that nothing is happening to you. It’s all happening for you.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why your hardest seasons are often the exact catalyst for your biggest growth• How to shift out of victim mentality and see challenges as preparation, not punishment• The energetic laws behind expansion — contraction, duality, alignment, and responsibility• Why letting go of old identities, timelines, or relationships is sometimes the deepest form of protection• How to return to gratitude, self-responsibility, and love — the frequencies that open the door to abundance and new opportunities🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, we’re diving into a question almost every woman on the anxious-to-secure path quietly struggles with: “How do I believe the partner I truly want actually exists… and that I’m not delusional for wanting it?” This conversation was sparked by a powerful question from a Peacefully Attached client who had just finished painting a beautiful, detailed vision of her ideal partner, and then immediately felt like it was too good to be true.If you’ve ever felt that too? You’re in the right room, my friend. I break down why your brain resists believing in healthy, aligned love, how past evidence from anxious dating patterns distorts what feels possible, and why your job is never to figure out how it will happen, only to become the woman who can hold it.In this episode, you’ll learn:• Why your brain resists believing in healthy, secure love, and how cognitive dissonance shows up when you raise your standards.• Why you don’t need past evidence to desire (or receive) the relationship you want.• How to embody the qualities you’re calling in and become an energetic match for aligned love.• The difference between grounded self-belief and “delusion,” and how to stay committed when fear tells you to settle.• How to trust timing, release the grip on the “how,” and let dating feel calmer and easier.👉🏽Join my free training EMERGE here: https://www.mimiwatt.com/emerge-masterclass-opt-in-landing-pageThis is your final free training of 2025, and I’m taking you through the exact framework to break self-sabotaging patterns, raise your standards, and become the secure, self-led woman your future relationship needs.MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most addictive and confusing patterns for anxiously attached women; the chase for high-intensity relationships. You know the ones: the mixed signals, the emotional rollercoasters, the butterflies that feel electric… but end up leaving you anxious, exhausted, and questioning your worth.I’m breaking down why those “sparks” you’re chasing aren’t actually chemistry, they’re activation. You’ll learn how low self-worth wires you to confuse chaos with connection, why your nervous system keeps choosing what’s familiar over what’s healthy, and how to finally reprogram your body to crave calm, consistent, emotionally safe love.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• How low self-worth makes the bare minimum feel impressive• The difference between intensity and intimacy — and how to tell the two apart• What it really means when calm feels “boring”• Tangible steps to rewire your nervous system and build real self-worth• How to slow your dating pace and raise your emotional standards for love🎧 Tune in now — this one’s going to help you connect the dots between your self-worth, your attraction patterns, and your healing journey.💫 Ready to break the pattern for good?Learn the full process inside my signature program, Peacefully Attached. Full details here: https://www.mimiwatt.com/  MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and giving you a real, unfiltered life update - the stuff I usually only share with my closest friends. No lessons, no frameworks today… just truth. I’m talking about the unexpected year I’ve spent in Melbourne, the slow unraveling of my mental health these past few months, the impact of pouring everything into my business, and the very real loneliness that can happen when you don’t have community around you.I share why I finally decided to go back to therapy, what patterns I’m uncovering, and the exact moment I realised something in my life needed to shift. I also talk about the question that completely changed the direction of my next chapter — and how it led me to consider moving interstate (yes… the Gold Coast might be calling 👀).In This Episode, You’ll Hear About:• Why staying in Melbourne for a full year wasn’t part of the plan, and what it revealed• The real pattern behind my mental health dip and burnout• How “going all in” on goals can turn into self-abandonment without you noticing• The loneliness that comes from lacking community, connection, and balance• The golden question that shifted everything, and how it’s guiding my next move🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

In this episode, I’m talking about something that almost nobody in the anxious attachment / healing space is talking about enough… and yet it’s one of THE most important pieces of what actually gets you secure results.Consistency. Not perfection. Not being “fixed.” Not never slipping up. Consistency.Because the truth is, you will have setbacks on this journey. You will have moments where your old patterns pull you back in. You will have moments of self-sabotage. And THIS is where most people opt out, collapse, shame spiral… and change the goal entirely instead of changing the behaviour. But the women who become secure? They learn how to stay with themselves THROUGH the setbacks, and because of that, they keep moving forward and they get the result.Today, I’m breaking this down with real examples, real scenarios, real mindset shifts, and the exact questions you need to ask yourself to get yourself back on the horse and moving toward the version of you who actually gets the love she desires.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• Why your brain tries to convince you to change the goal instead of changing your behaviour• How setbacks are a NORMAL part of the journey — not a sign you’re failing• What separates the people who get secure results from the ones who don’t• How to stop making slip-ups mean something about your worth• How to start building the kind of self-trust that becomes unshakeable in relationships🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!INTEGRATE MASTERCLASS REPLAYThis was supposed to be a one-time event, but honestly… it was too powerful not to share. Get the replay & watch the 90min experience here: https://www.mimiwatt.com/integrate-masterclass-replay-opt-in  MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

In this episode, I’m diving into why constantly dating, matching, texting, and seeking the next “spark” is actually delaying your love life — not accelerating it. We’ve been sold this idea that the woman who hustles hardest in dating wins. But in reality, the women who find healthy, secure partnership aren’t the ones sprinting from person to person… they’re the ones who pause, reflect, self-resource, and date intentionally.I’m breaking down how slowing down — even taking short breaks from dating — is one of the FASTEST ways to call in the love you desire. Because when you stop rushing, you can finally see your patterns clearly, take responsibility for the results you’ve been creating, and make conscious, empowered shifts toward compatibility and alignment.We’ll talk about how your nervous system influences your pace in dating, how to release the fear of “falling behind,” and how slowing down transforms you into the woman your future partner is naturally drawn to. In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• Why dating fast actually slows down your results• How rushing is often a trauma response disguised as “effort”• What slowing down really looks like (beyond just deleting the apps)• Why your patterns become clearer when you pause and reflect• How taking responsibility puts your power — and energy — back in your hands• Why becoming more intentional collapses time and speeds up finding your person🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!JOIN THE INTEGRATE MASTERCLASSLive on Nov 6 2025, register to secure your spot HERE!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

In this episode, I’m opening up about something that’s been sitting heavy on my heart lately - loneliness. Not the kind that comes from not having plans on a Saturday night, but the deeper kind that sneaks in when you’ve done the healing, raised your standards, and are no longer willing to settle for half-love or almost relationships.I’m sharing the truth about what this season of singleness has brought up for me. The moments of peace and freedom, but also the quiet ache of missing connection and partnership. Because even when you’re secure, fulfilled, and deeply content in your own life, loneliness can still visit.We’ll talk about how to move through these waves of emotion without running back to what’s familiar but unhealthy, how to hold yourself with compassion when you miss having “your person,” and why this version of loneliness — the kind that comes from choosing yourself — is actually a sign of growth, not regression.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• The emotional reality of being single after healing your attachment patterns• Why loneliness isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong — it’s proof of your evolution• How to hold space for your emotions without slipping back into old patterns• The difference between being alone and feeling lonely• Why this “lonely” chapter is actually one of the most powerful seasons of your life🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

In this unfiltered solo episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what’s really been going on in my world — and my heart — lately. This isn’t your typical “dating advice” chat. It’s about the seasons of life where you aren’t dating, where you’re questioning parts of yourself you never expected to, and where you wonder if who you are now still fits the life you once built.After feeling creatively flat and disconnected from my usual spark, a powerful conversation with my mentor cracked me open to the truth I hadn’t been saying: I haven’t dated in over a year and a half. I’ve been questioning my sexuality, feeling unsure about where I fit, and afraid of what being seen in this season might mean.In this episode, I’m sharing that journey — the confusion, the curiosity, the discomfort — and what it means to honour your evolving identity with compassion instead of shame. We’ll also talk about why so many women in their 30s are exploring their sexuality, the societal shifts driving that change, and why it’s so okay if your journey doesn’t look like the polished “coach with the dream relationship” you see online.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• The real reason I haven’t been dating and what that’s brought up for me• How to honour your changing identity and desires without labelling or judging yourself• Why more women are questioning their sexuality in their 30s• How emotional safety and societal shifts are changing what we want in relationships• What to do when your journey doesn’t look like everyone else’s and why that’s your power🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into the truth about situationships - not just what they are, but why we find ourselves in them. This conversation was inspired by a listener who shared how much she loved my previous episode on secure situationships, and a private client who realized she was using hers to avoid parts of her life that needed her attention.I’m sharing my own story of how casual dating once became both a healthy outlet and a sneaky form of escapism and how I learned to tell the difference. Because sometimes, a situationship can genuinely add joy, fun, and connection to your life… and other times, it’s just keeping you from facing what’s really going on.If you’ve ever felt like your situationship started out exciting but slowly began to drain you, or if you suspect you might be using love as a distraction, this episode will be the honest, loving reality check you need.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• The difference between conscious casual dating and avoidant escapism• Why some situationships empower you and others drain you• How to spot when you’re using dating to avoid your emotions or responsibilities• The key questions to ask yourself when it’s time to let go• How to refocus your energy back on yourself and your goals without losing your sense of fun and connection🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!Previous ep on 'Secure Situationships Are a Thing - Here’s How to Have One': https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-secure-love-club-podcast/id1792782864?i=1000718346075  MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

We’re back for part two of my conversation with embodiment coach Emma Elmoza — and if you haven’t listened to part one yet, go back and tune in first so you’ve got the full context.In this second half of our chat, we move from naming retroactive jealousy into the heart of healing it. Emma shares how she built deep self-trust, confidence, and inner safety — and how those shifts completely transformed the way she experiences her relationship. This conversation will open your eyes to what’s possible when you stop living in survival mode and start creating a grounded, embodied connection with yourself.Inside this episode, you’ll discover:- The link between self-trust and trusting your partner (and why they mirror each other)- How embodiment practices help release stored emotions and rewire your nervous system- Why slowing down and being in your body is key to building inner safety- What changes in love, creativity, and confidence when you stop running on survival patterns- The baby steps you can take today to start building self-trust and emotional freedom🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!CONNECT WITH EMMA!- Try KunYin online → https://www.kunyinstudios.com/offers/PzvoHNjs/checkout- Experience KunYin in person → https://emmelmoza.as.me/kunyininpersonclass- Connect with Emma on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/emmaelmoza/- Passionate about transforming the lives of women? Become a KunYin Instructor. Let’s chat! → https://emmelmoza.as.me/discoverycallMIMI SOCIAL MEDIAConnect with Mimi on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!

So many women secretly struggle with this, but almost no one is talking about it… retroactive jealousy.In today’s episode, I’m joined by embodiment coach Emma Elmoza, who opens up about her own journey from insecurity and self-doubt to building deep confidence and self-worth through embodiment work. Together, we explore the concept of retroactive jealousy — what it is, how it shows up in relationships, and why it often comes with so much shame.If you’ve ever spiraled over your partner’s past, compared yourself to their ex, or felt that anxious pit in your stomach you couldn’t shake… this conversation is going to make you feel seen.Inside this episode, you’ll learn:- Emma’s personal story of going from low self-confidence to embodiment coach- What retroactive jealousy actually is and how it manifests in relationships- Why women feel so much shame around jealousy, and how that keeps us stuck- The link between past relationship wounds and retroactive jealousy in secure relationships- How to start naming and understanding this pattern so you can move through itThis is part one of a powerful two-part conversation. In next week’s episode, we’ll dive deeper into healing, self-trust, and the exact practices that help you move beyond jealousy into grounded self-worth and freedom in love.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!CONNECT WITH EMMA!- Try KunYin online → https://www.kunyinstudios.com/offers/PzvoHNjs/checkout- Experience KunYin in person → https://emmelmoza.as.me/kunyininpersonclass- Connect with Emma on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/emmaelmoza/- Passionate about transforming the lives of women? Become a KunYin Instructor. Let’s chat! → https://emmelmoza.as.me/discoverycall MIMI SOCIAL MEDIAConnect with Mimi on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!

Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on something I’ve seen time and time again in my own journey and in my clients’ lives: when you commit to healing your anxious attachment and developing secure attachment, the ripple effect is massive.This transformation isn’t just about dating or finding “the one.” It shifts your friendships, your career, your self-worth, your hobbies, your boundaries – literally your entire life opens up.In this episode, you’ll hear:- Why anxious attachment keeps you stuck in cycles of chasing, overgiving, and abandoning yourself- How becoming secure gives you back time, energy, and emotional space to thrive in other areas of life- Real-life examples of what changes when you stop shrinking and start valuing yourself- The questions you need to be asking if you’re ready to create a life and love that feel deeply aligned- How self-regulation, self-trust, and authenticity make you magnetic to the right people and opportunitiesIf you’ve ever thought, “This is just how it is for me in love,” I want you to leave this episode realizing that your patterns are not your destiny. Becoming secure doesn’t just give you better relationships – it gives you a better life.And if you’re ready to do this work in a guided, powerful, proven way, my 10-week group program Peacefully Attached is enrolling now. This is your chance to finally become the secure, grounded, magnetic version of yourself you’ve always known was in there.👉 Apply for Peacefully Attached HERE!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a personal story about grief, nostalgia, and the versions of ourselves that relationships leave behind. Sometimes we think we’re yearning for an ex, when really we’re grieving the version of ourselves who existed in that chapter. And while it’s tender and sometimes gut-wrenching, this grief can also be a doorway into growth, self-love, and a deeper understanding of who you are now.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:- The difference between missing a person vs. missing the version of yourself you were with them- Why nostalgia is both beautiful and painful—and why it’s okay to feel it deeply- How to reflect on who you were in past relationships without making it mean you “should” go back- The role of grief in healing and why letting yourself feel it is essential for growth- Reflection questions to help you integrate past versions of yourself and step into your next evolution🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! 👉 Doors to PEACEFULLY ATTACHED are open! Click HERE for full details MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

You don’t get the relationship or life of your dreams just by wanting it harder. You get it by expanding your capacity to hold it.In this episode, I’m breaking down why desire doesn’t equal readiness, the mistakes that keep you stuck even when you’re “doing the work,” and how to stretch your nervous system so you can finally hold more love, success, and visibility without sabotaging it.Inside this episode, you’ll discover:• Why wanting more isn’t the problem (and what really is)• The hidden ways your nervous system shuts down the very love and success you’re asking for• The biggest mistakes keeping smart, self-aware women stuck in the same patterns• A simple framework to expand your capacity without overwhelming yourself• How to finally turn self-awareness into embodied confidence and secure loveIf you’re tired of wanting more but never quite getting there — this one’s for you.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! 👉 Doors to PEACEFULLY ATTACHED are open! Click HERE for full details MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

This episode is one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast. I’m joined by Teagan Woodgate, founder of Reform Body Coaching, whose journey from surviving domestic violence to creating a thriving global coaching business will leave you feeling both shaken and deeply inspired.Teagan shares openly about her past — the warning signs she missed, the fear that kept her stuck, and the breaking point that finally set her free. We talk about the messy, painful reality of abuse, but also the incredible resilience and power that can come from choosing yourself and taking radical responsibility for your healing.We cover everything from rebuilding self-worth after trauma, to the role fitness and self-investment played in her transformation, to how she eventually attracted a safe, secure love with her partner Callum. Teagan’s story is a raw reminder that no matter how far you’ve fallen, you can rebuild — and not just survive, but thrive.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The early red flags of an abusive relationship and why so many women overlook themHow trauma conditioning keeps us stuck in cycles of toxic loveThe breaking point that finally led Teagan to leaveThe role of fitness, structure, and self-investment in her healing journeyHow she transformed her pain into purpose and built a global coaching businessWhat it looks like to experience secure, healthy love after abuseTrigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of domestic violence and abuse. Please listen only if you feel safe and comfortable to do so.Support Resources: If you are currently experiencing or recovering from family violence or abuse, please know you are not alone. You can access support through Victims of Crime HERE.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! CONNECT WITH TEAGAN! You can connect with Teagan on Instagram, and find out more about working together here.MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Connect with Mimi on Instagram here! Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!

In this episode, I’m sharing an interview I did with my beautiful friend Hillary McVeigh — Human Design teacher, Retreat Facilitator, Certified Coach, intuitive, and the kind of woman who will lovingly see straight into your soul.Before we even hit record, she pulled up my Human Design chart (Vessel of Love, Generator 2/4 for my HD lovers) and read me like a book. Then we went deep into all things dating, love, and self-worth.In this episode, we talk about:• The real difference between connecting with someone and attaching yourself to them (and why most people have it backwards).• How to stop morphing into who you think someone wants you to be — and start dating as your authentic self.• My red, orange, and green flag framework to help you stop abandoning yourself in relationships.• Why your nervous system can get hooked on toxic “push–pull” dynamics and how to break free.• How to keep your independence (and attraction) alive in long-term love.• The sneaky influence of the “male gaze” on how we see ourselves — and what changes when you drop it.This ep is jam-packed with moments that will have you rethinking the way you show up in love — whether you’re single, dating, or deep into a relationship.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!EPISODE WITH HILLARY ON MY PODListen here!CONNECT WITH HILLARY!You can connect with Hillary on Instagram, stream her Designed As You Podcast, and find out more about working together here.MIMI SOCIAL MEDIAConnect with Mimi on Instagram here! Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!

This episode is one of the most vulnerable and raw I’ve ever shared. For the last 12 months, I’ve been quietly navigating something that has shaken me to my core and challenged my identity in ways I never expected… and today, I’m bringing you behind the curtain.In this ep, I open up about:- The journey of questioning my sexuality and why it’s felt terrifying and liberating all at once.- How I’ve hidden behind fake tan and perfectionism for years, and what I’m learning about beauty, self-worth, and authenticity.- The shame that comes with holding secrets and how telling the truth (first to myself, then to others) has lifted a massive weight off my shoulders.- The moment I finally told my parents I might be queer — and their beautiful reactions that changed everything.- Why stepping into who you really are is the most magnetic, freeing thing you can ever do.If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide parts of yourself to be accepted, if you’ve wrestled with shame around your identity, or if you’re craving the permission slip to just. be. YOU… this conversation will hit you right in the heart.This isn’t about labels or boxes. It’s about authenticity, self-trust, and remembering that you are worthy exactly as you are.I hope this episode gives you the courage to peel back the layers, ditch the shame, and step into the fullest expression of yourself, whatever that looks like.As always, my DMs are open. If this resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you and hold space for your story. ❤️MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

If you’ve ever felt afraid that once you really like someone, you’ll slip back into old habits… abandon yourself… and forget everything you worked so hard to heal—this episode is for you.After a long pattern of anxious dating, emotionally unavailable partners, and constantly losing myself in love, I decided to do something radically different:I took 12 months off dating completely.In this episode, I share what happened during that year—what I learned, how I reconnected with myself, and how I became the kind of woman who dates from overflow, not emptiness.Whether you’re newly single or dating again and terrified of falling back into old ways, I’m giving you the exact process I used to stay rooted in who I am, even when the chemistry is 10/10.In this episode, I share:- The single most important question I asked myself post-breakup- Why dating from scarcity leads to self-abandonment (and how to stop)- What I did during my 12-month dating detox that changed everything- My “closet metaphor” for rebuilding your life around you- How to meet your own emotional needs before inviting someone in- The promise I made to myself before opening the apps again- How to date without giving up the secure woman you’ve become🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram HERE!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over a situationship, stuck in a cycle of "I know he’s not good for me, but I can’t walk away" - this episode is your medicine, my love. Today, I’m joined by the beautiful Majo Torreli - somatic coach, Oxford grad, and nervous system wizard - for a powerful convo on how your body (not your brain) holds the key to finally breaking your anxious dating patterns.Majo spent over a decade feeling small, powerless, and anxious in love, even while doing all the “right” things like therapy, mindset work, and learning about attachment theory. But the moment she started working with her body instead of just her mind? Everything changed.Inside this juicy episode, we’re talking:• The #1 reason smart women stay stuck in toxic dating loops (even when they “know better”)• What it really means to feel self-love in your body, not just your brain• Why your nervous system is the most powerful dating algorithm there is• How to actually feel safe enough to walk away from someone who isn't right for you• The truth about “gut instincts” and how to actually hear them• Why being “full of yourself” is the secret to aligned love (and how to get there)🎧 Tune in now - and if it speaks to you, send me a DM on Instagram, I would love to hear what landed for you.CONNECT WITH MAJO!Majo’s website: https://www.shesembodied.com/ Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shes.embodied Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesembodied/Free resource: http://bit.ly/4kJ6qAg  MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

You know that moment where you get invited to something amazing — a room full of women you know you’d vibe with — but your body starts screaming, “Nope! Stay home, it’s safer on the couch”? Yeah… that was me last night.In this episode, I’m bringing you behind the scenes of a beautiful women’s networking dinner that totally cracked me open. What started as excitement quickly spiraled into social anxiety, fear of being judged, and a resurfacing of my teenage sisterhood wounds — you know the ones: feeling not cool enough, not chosen, and like the odd one out. If you’ve ever felt that way, this one’s gonna hit home.I walk you through:The exact fears that were spiraling in my head (and body) before the eventThe inner child memory that got reactivated and what it taught me about rejection, bullying, and old emotional residueThe tools I used (the same ones I teach inside Peacefully Attached) to work with my anxiety, not against itHow I turned this emotional rollercoaster into a healing, expansive, deeply connecting night with incredible womenWhy group healing is so powerful — and how vulnerability can instantly shift the energy in any roomIf you're someone who…Craves connection but gets overwhelmed or anxious in social settingsStruggles with the fear of being seen or judged by other womenHas ever wanted to back out of something you know would be good for youIs learning to re-parent yourself and rebuild your self-trust after years of feeling not good enough…then you’re going to feel so seen in this ep.I also share one powerful question that I always ask myself when fear tries to take the wheel — a question that could completely shift how you show up for yourself this week.This one is raw, real, and a reminder that even the most confident women still get wobbly. What matters is how we show up for ourselves in those moments. 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

Can you actually date casually and feel emotionally safe, respected, and secure?Short answer: yes. But most people out here trying to be the “cool girl” in casual dating are actually just abandoning their needs and calling it chill. Let’s clean that up. In this episode, I break down what a secure casual dynamic actually looks like and how to stop treating situationships like a slot machine that might pay out if you just stay cool enough.You’ll learn:The four key ingredients for a secure casual connectionHow to set boundaries without sounding like you're trying to lock them downWhat to do if you catch feelings (without spiralling or people-pleasing)Why you might be secretly performing for love and how to stopExact scripts you can use to express your needs with confidenceWhether you're in your “I just want to flirt and have fun” era, or navigating a situationship that’s starting to feel off, this is the pep talk you need to come back to self and date in a way that actually feels good.💌 Share this with a friend who’s out there trying to act casual but secretly losing her mind after every text. You know the one.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

Today’s episode is for the over-thinkers, the self-doubters, and the “was it something I did?” spirallers. If you’ve ever felt triggered after a date and immediately asked “What did I do wrong?” Caught yourself on a mental hamster wheel wondering if you’re too much, not enough, or just cursed in love… Or tried to dissect someone’s texting patterns like it’s a code to crack…this episode is your wake-up call. We’re talking:- Why the questions you ask yourself are the key to your confidence- The difference between a spiral-inducing question vs a self-led one- How to reflect after a date without abandoning yourself- What “asking better questions” actually sounds like in real life- The identity shift that happens when you stop asking “Why didn’t they want me?” and start asking “Did I even feel chosen?”I’m giving you practical tools to redirect your inner world in the moment, so you can stop replaying old patterns and start living into the version of you who feels secure, grounded, and clear as hell in love. This episode will shift the way you think, reflect, and date.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram - I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

If you’ve ever hit a point in your healing where you thought, “Why is this happening again?” or “I thought I already worked through this!” this episode is your reminder that healing isn’t a straight line… but every challenge is an invitation to EVOLVE.We’re talking:- How to catch yourself before spiraling into victim mindset- What self-sabotage is really trying to protect you from- A deeply personal story about my most recent PA launch and the shadow it brought up- Why your challenges are a portal to becoming the next version of yourself- How to work with your inner child and nervous system to shift from fear to empowermentPLUS - I take you behind the scenes into a real reprogramming meditation I did with my inner 13-year-old self. I share the fears she brought forward, the words I said to her, and how that single moment of healing created a ripple effect in my external reality.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram - I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

This episode is for every human who’s ever thought: “Am I actually into men… or am I just addicted to their validation?” 😳 …or “I think I might be queer, but I’m terrified of what that means.” Today I’m joined by the brilliant Inez Bye - queer content creator, business coach, and one of my real-life besties, for a no-holds-barred convo on coming out later in life, dating women for the first time, and how anxious attachment still finds a way to sneak in… even when you finally feel like you’ve met “your people.”We’re talking:• That moment when you realise you might be queer (and what happens when you suppress it for years.)• Dating women after only ever dating men and why it can actually bring up more anxiety, not less.• The fantasy of queer dating vs. the reality.• Pedestalling queer women, ignoring red flags, and confusing emotional chaos with connection.• The surprising way dating women changed Inez’s relationship with her body (and why it might do the same for you.)• Rewriting your standards and detaching from the male gaze for GOOD!🎧 Tune in now—and if it speaks to you, send me a DM on Instagram, I would love to hear what landed for you.CONNECT WITH INEZ!Follow her on TikTok: @nezzysparklesFind her on Instagram: @inezbyeMIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

Today’s episode is a full-on DATING DEBRIEF. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in dating burnout 🙃, ghosted someone because you weren’t sure how to say “I’m not feeling it,” got ghosted and spiraled hard, or stared at your phone thinking “Do I even want to be dating right now??” 😒 This episode is for you.We’re talking:Why online dating feels so bloody different to meeting someone IRLHow to tell if you actually want to date or if you’re just “should-ing” yourself into itFirst date nerves and how to keep your powerThe ghosting epidemic - why it happens and how to handle it.Getting over the ick (yes, even when he’s wearing marathon sunnies)AND I’m dishing out a little tough love (as always) for my friends who say they want love but can’t even tolerate a slightly awkward voice note. (That’s not an ick, that’s emotional unavailability in disguise and we need to talk.) 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

If your dating life feels like a never-ending loop of ghosting, confusion, and anxiety… you need this episode. In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m breaking down the subtle, yet game-changing, difference between dating from scarcity vs. abundance. This conversation was sparked by a real-life moment from a 1:1 client session that I knew I had to share with you. If you’re sick of overthinking every text, afraid to speak your truth, or constantly worried you’re “too much”… then my love, this one is a must-listen.We dive into:• What it really means to date from scarcity vs. abundance (and how to spot which one is running the show)• How to shift from people-pleasing to radical self-respect in your dating life• Why clarity and directness don’t scare off the right person - they magnetise them• A real-time reframe that helped my client go from anxious to empowered (and got her the exact clarity she needed)• Why filling your own tank is the foundation for healthy love, and how to actually do thatPEACEFULLY ATTACHED✨ Click here to apply for the next live round of Peacefully Attached MIMI SOCIAL MEDIACome say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) over on Instagram here!Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me and let me know!

Ever caught yourself planning your wedding playlist after one flirty date? 👀 Already imagining what your couple selfies will look like before you even know their last name? You’re not alone, my love—and you’re not crazy. In today’s juicy episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m answering a question I get all the time: “How do I stop myself from spiraling into fantasy land and imagining my whole life with someone I barely know?!” If dating has you exhausted from mentally fast-forwarding every new connection… this one’s for you.We dive into:💭 Why your brain creates elaborate fantasies after a first date🧠 What’s actually going on in your nervous system when this happens🚩 How fantasy attachment blocks real connection and leads to burnout🔥 My signature 4-step Anti-Obsession Method to stop spiraling and stay grounded👑 How to stop abandoning yourself in dating and show up secure AFPEACEFULLY ATTACHED 👉 Click here to apply for the next live round of Peacefully Attached MIMI SOCIAL MEDIAConnect with Mimi on Instagram here! Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!

If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — when I find my person, when I make more money, when I finally feel chosen — this episode is your wake-up call. Fresh from my Europe trip, I’m sharing the biggest shift I had around what it actually means to live fully — without waiting for the relationship, the job, or the external milestone to give you permission to enjoy your life. We dive into why so many women (especially those with anxious attachment) press pause on their joy, and how that mindset is quietly keeping you stuck in low self-worth and disconnection. You’ll learn why living a full, joy-filled life right now is not only healing for your nervous system… but also one of the most magnetic things you can do in dating. No more waiting. Let’s go.🔥 In this episode, we cover:• The trap of “I’ll be happy when…” thinking• Why anxious daters hyper-focus on relationships to feel worthy• How society conditioned you to believe love is the goal• The self-worth, confidence, and identity you gain when you start living for YOU• What actually makes you magnetic to secure, healthy love• Tangible steps to start living fully today — without waiting for a partner to make it happen🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIAConnect with Mimi on Instagram here! Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!

You think you’re searching for a relationship, but what you’re really craving is relief. A break from the spiral of overthinking and the constant need to feel “enough.” In this episode, I’m sharing a truth I learned the hard way: When you haven’t learned how to regulate your own emotions, you’ll unconsciously make your partner responsible for doing it for you. And that, my love, is where anxious dating patterns are born. We’re diving deep into why love isn’t the fix you think it is—and how chasing a relationship to soothe your anxiety will only leave you feeling more alone. In this episode, I’ll walk you through:✨ How to spot when you’re emotionally outsourcing ✨ The real reason relationships don’t “fix” your anxiety✨ What it actually means to create peace from within✨ And the question you need to ask yourself today if you want to feel truly secure in love.🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts!MIMI SOCIAL MEDIAConnect with Mimi on Instagram here! Got something you'd love me to record an episode on? DM me on Instagram and let me know!