Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh

In this episode of Therapist Take Podcast, we welcome back licensed therapist Kristen Callaway for a practical, down-to-earth conversation on mindfulness….without the eye rolls.Together, we unpack what mindfulness actually is (hint: it’s not just meditation), why it can feel uncomfortable or even threatening, and how it connects to your nervous system and trauma responses. Kristen shares how mindfulness helps you move from reacting to responding, and offers simple, real-life tools you can use in moments of stress—whether you're stuck in traffic, overwhelmed at home, or navigating anxiety.We also explore how building awareness can help you better understand what you truly need, break cycles of avoidance, and grow confidence in handling difficult emotions.If mindfulness has ever felt inaccessible, unrealistic, or just not “your thing,” this episode reframes it into something practical, flexible, and deeply human._____________________00:00 – Introduction & welcome01:16 – Introducing Kristen Callaway03:13 – Why mindfulness (and why people resist it)04:30 – Mindfulness vs. meditation07:04 – What mindfulness actually is (simple definition)09:11 – Why mindfulness is hard (especially for avoiders)10:06 – Trauma and discomfort with awareness12:02 – Everyday disconnection from internal signals13:02 – The nervous system & polyvagal theory explained14:33 – Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses16:23 – Reacting vs. responding to perceived threats19:36 – Mindfulness as acceptance (not avoidance)20:18 – Practical tools: naming, distancing, and breathing21:46 – How to regulate your nervous system in real time22:00 – Asking: “What do I need right now?”24:27 – Panic attacks, breathing, and sensory grounding26:33 – Awareness → identifying needs27:13 – Meeting basic and emotional needs28:50 – Real-life example: anxiety while driving31:10 – Emotional release & the “cry song” concept33:28 – Human discomfort & avoidance patterns35:12 – Thera-Sense Game41:35 – Closing thoughts & where to find Kristen__________________Resources from this Episode:Note: As Amazon Associates, we earn on qualifying purchases.Polyvagal Theory (Stephen Porges) – Understanding how the nervous system detects and responds to threat - https://amzn.to/4cESDISBreathing – Techniques to activate the parasympathetic nervous system - https://amzn.to/4tcZX5iFeelings Wheel – Tool for identifying emotions - - https://amzn.to/41BqoWjEMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) – Trauma-focused therapy approach - https://amzn.to/4vz721A“How to Keep House While Drowning” (book) – Mentioned in relation to Kristen’s podcast series - https://amzn.to/3QfG13m_________________ABOUT OUR GUEST: Kristen Callaway is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the owner of Seeking Peace Counseling. She is EMDR-certified and an Oklahoma-approved licensed supervisor, with additional certification as a first responder counselor.Kristen specializes in working with adults navigating trauma, anxiety, and grief, with a particular focus on military service members and first responders. Her approach integrates nervous system awareness, mindfulness, and trauma-informed care to help clients build resilience and healing.She is also the host of the podcast Let’s Sit With This, where she shares grounding tools, encouragement, and honest conversations about life’s challenges.Outside of her clinical work, Kristen enjoys running (including half marathons), baking, and spending time with her husband—a military veteran and law enforcement officer—and their two children.Connect with Kristen:Website: seekingpeace.comPodcast: Let’s Sit With This - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-sit-with-this/id1818168015_______________For more great content, please check out our LinkTree at https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsokSocial: Seeking Peace Counseling (Facebook & Instagram)

Why do some films leave us speechless, stirred, or suddenly more aware of our own lives? In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we sit down with actor, producer, and screenwriter Erin Elizabeth Cook, whose current film in production features Martin Sheen. Together, we explore how storytelling onscreen doesn’t just entertain, it evokes emotion, builds empathy, and influences how we understand ourselves and others.From a clinical lens, we examine the psychological mechanisms that make movies powerful tools for emotionalprocessing and identity formation. From Erin’s perspective inside the industry, we unpack how characters are developed, how emotional arcs are crafted, and what it takes to portray vulnerability in a way that feels authentic rather than performative. This conversation bridges the therapeutic and the cinematic, revealing how the stories we watch often echo the stories we’re living.__________________00:00 - Hi, Carrie!08:20 - The One Film12:59 - Martin Sheen16:48 - Character Development23:25 - A Larger Purpose - Posttraumatic Growth27:10 - Writing Our Own Story43:50 - Telling Your Story44:15 - Self-Awareness & Method Acting54:25 - Mental Health Attunement on Set01:05:00 - Information for "The One" Movie____________About the Author: Erin Elizabeth CookProducer/Screenwriter/Actor-Erin Elizabeth Cook started training for her career in Theatre, Television, and Film at the age of twelve. She has appeared on various TV Shows, Theatrical Productions, Commercials, and Films across the United States including Texas, California, Oregon and Oklahoma, both in front and behind the camera. After making the decision to leave LA and taking a long personal hiatus, Erin re-launched her career in her home state in 2014. Since then, she has had over 30 speaking roles in various Films including "Awake", "If Looks Could Kill", and "The Unbreakable Boy". Erin is also an Award Winning Screenwriter and Producer. Having interned directly under a Producer on over 20 sets in LA and at home, she recently set out to produce her own content. She has won over 30 Awards for her Screenplay "The TentVille Knights" including The Golden Pen Screenwriter of the Year Award in 2023. "Chasing Shadows", a short film that she Produced, wrote, and starred in, had it's Hollywood World Premiere at the Beverly Hills Film Festival at the TCL Chinese Theaters in 2024. During that time, she was also deep into development for her first Feature Film which she wrote, produced, and co-starred in. "The One", starring Martin Sheen, Jana Kramer, Nick Zano, Olivia Sanabia, and Noah Redclay was filmed entirely in Oklahoma thanks to incentives and the Filmed in Oklahoma Act and features new songs from "We The Kings" and "The Imaginaries".While awaiting a late 2026 release, she is in development on another Feature film and an Episodic. She just completed her fourth Feature Screenplay, "Second Shift". When she's not working, she loves spending time with her furry children, helping other pets find their forever homes, and advocating for PTSD and mental health awareness.Connect with Erin on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/erinelizabethcookofficial_________________Information on "The One" MovieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theonefeaturefilmFacebook : https://www.facebook.com/theone-movieFacades Short Film: https://youtu.be/i3V4y2ksRq0?si=fOwayjcy36STLhtu______________________Please check us out on our linktree for more great content: https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

What if stories aren’t just something we consume, but something we step into, feel in our bodies, and experience together?In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we sit down with Rev. Jim Perkin, founder of Bedford Theatre and longtime community arts leader, to explore the healing potential of live performance. Though Jim isn’t a mental health professional, his decades in ministry and community theatre offer a practical and deeply human perspective on how the stage can spark connection, meaning, and personal growth.We talk about how theatre invites people into stories bigger than themselves, creates safe space for emotional expression, and fosters a powerful sense of belonging—both for those on stage and those in the audience. From the vulnerability of performing live to the shared ritual of gathering around a story, this conversation reveals how creative experiences can nurture reflection, resilience, and hope._________________00:00 - Hi, Carrie! Hi, Jim!03:31 - Jim's Story & the Bedford Theatre13:15 - Can Theater Help Us Be Better?17:45 - The Power of Our Imagination19:05 - Creating a Better You28:45 - The Audience Is Part of the Show34:55 - Belonging38:09 - Musical Match-Ups (fun)50:45 - Auditioning Info_________________ABOUT OUR GUEST: REV. JIM PERKINRev. Jim Perkin is the founder of Bedford Theatre and a lifelong advocate for the arts, community, and ministry. He graduated from Oklahoma City University in 2000 with a Bachelor of Arts in Religion and earned a Master of Divinity with high honors from Phillips Theological Seminary in 2010. Jim has been active in ministry since the age of 18, serving in numerous pastoral and youth ministry roles across Oklahoma, Kansas, and Missouri, including appointments in Poteau, Snyder, Indiahoma, Moore First, Nowata, and Denton (KS) United Methodist Churches. He and his wife have also served as Family Counselors at the United Methodist Boys Ranch near Gore, Oklahoma.Jim’s love for theatre and the arts runs deep. He spent six years volunteering with Good Times Community Theatre in Poteau, Oklahoma, where he built sets and designed and ran lights and sound. He also served on their board of directors for four years, the final two as President. Today, Jim continues his involvement in the arts through Bedford Theatre at Nichols Hills United Methodist Church, where he serves as Producer for most shows and Director for their upcoming production of Seussical (the Musical). In addition to his work in ministry and theatre, Jim enjoys playing guitar, singing, sports, and spending time with his family. He has a deep passion for helping people grow in their relationship with Jesus Christ and connect more fully with God—a calling he first felt at age 15 during a formative experience at Camp Egan near Tahlequah, Oklahoma, and one that continues to shape his life and work today._________________Check out the following links related to Rev. Perkin and his ministry through the arts:Bedford TheatreWebsite - https://nicholshillsumc.org/bedford-theatre/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/bedfordtheatre1212Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bedfordtheatreNichols Hills United Methodist Church Website - https://nicholshillsumc.org/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/nicholshillsumcInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/nicholshillsumc__________________For more great content or to learn more about mental health services we offer, please check out our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Infidelity doesn’t just damage trust, it changes the emotional landscape of a relationship almost overnight. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we unpack the complex shifts couples often face in the aftermath of betrayal, exploring how identity, connection, and stability can suddenly feel uncertain. Rather than focusing only on the event itself, we look at the relational ripple effects: evolving roles, fluctuating power dynamics, and the emotional disorientation many partners experience.Drawing from clinical insight and real-world patterns, we discuss concepts like liminal space, ambivalent attachment, and the unexpected relational dynamics that can emerge during repair attempts. This conversation is designed for clinicians, couples working through rupture, and anyone interested in understanding how relationships reorganize after a breach of trust — and what healing can realistically look like.___________00:00 - Hi, Zander & Mackenzie06:47 - Episode Breakdown07:14 - The Liminal State16:21 - The Mother-Son Phenomenon29:03 - The One-Down Position30:30 - Desire for Retribution34:29 - the Progress Paradox39:40 - Community____________________Books: Ambiguous Loss by Pauline Boss - https://amzn.to/3ZTA2CVThe Betrayal Bond by Michelle Mays - https://amzn.to/3MorrVyHurting with God by Glenn Pemberton - https://amzn.to/4ahOqe0Sapiens by Yuval Harari - https://amzn.to/4copqTJState of Affairs by Esther Perel - https://amzn.to/4kvysjUAs Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.__________________More on Mackenzie CampArticle: Better Boundaries: Introducing The PARC, a New Relational Tool - Family Solutions CounselingProfile Page: Mackenzie Camp - Family Solutions Counseling_________________For more great content or to learn more about the services we offer at Family Solutions Counseling, please click on our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we welcome back published author and practicing family law attorney Brian Putnam to continue our conversation on Escaping Domestic Abuse, the title of his book and the framework for this important series. This time, our focus is on one of the most critical and practical aspects of leaving an abusive relationship - safety planning.Together, we walk through how to thoughtfully develop a safety plan, what essential items and documents should be gathered in advance, how to safely execute the plan, and what survivors can expect in the immediate aftermath of leaving. Brian brings both his legal expertise and his deep understanding of the lived realities survivors face, helping translate complex decisions into clear, actionable steps.We also discuss a comprehensive safety planning checklist that Brian has created and generously shared with our listeners (see like below). This resource is designed to help individuals think through each phase of the process with greater clarity, preparation, and support.This episode is an empowering, practical continuation of our exploration of how to move from surviving abuse to taking concrete steps toward safety and stability.---------------00:00 - Hi, Carrie (introduction)01:37 - Introducing Our Guest, Brian Putnam03:00 - The Book06:28 - Empowered through Leaving11:15 - The Checklist13:10 - Preparing to Leave21:05 - Items to Take 26:55 - Executing the Plan34:32 - You Left, but It's Not Over____________The Checklist - https://shorturl.at/pzAj3____________About Our Guest:Brian Putnam is an experienced attorney, advocate, and author of Escaping Domestic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free. Through his legal work and writing, Brian provides survivors with clear, compassionate guidance for navigating the legal system and safely leaving abusive situations.For more information about Brian and/or the legal services his team provides, please visit https://www.PutnamLawOffice.com.To purchase the book, Escaping Domestic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free, you can do so by clicking the following link - https://amzn.to/47zeFeSAs Amazon Affiliates, we earn from qualifying purchases.-----------------Domestic Abuse Resources:Escaping Domestic Abuse (book) by Brian Putnam – see link aboveNational Domestic Violence Hotline – 1 (800) 799-SAFE(7233)YWCA - ⁠https://www.ywca.org/⁠Oklahoma Specific Domestic Abuse Resources:OK Domestic Violence Hotline – 1 (800) 522-SAFE (7233)YWCA OKC– ⁠https://www.ywcaokc.org/⁠Palomar - ⁠https://palomarokc.org/⁠Cardinal Point - ⁠https://cardinalpointok.org/⁠Latino Community Development - ⁠https://www.lcdaok.com/⁠Sanctuary Women’s Development - ⁠https://www.lcdaok.com/_________________For more great content or to learn more about our mental health services, please check out our linktree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Therapists are often expected to be calm, neutral, and unaffected, regardless of what enters the room. Yet therapists are human—and that humanity is not a liability; it is an essential part of the clinical process. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we examine what it truly means when therapists are human and why that matters in practice. We explore the distinction between having internal reactions and acting on them, how self-awareness functions as clinical data, and why professionalism is not the absence of feeling, but the capacity to regulate and use it ethically.The episode concludes with our bonus segment, “Would We Say That in Session?”, where we evaluate popular mental health phrases and separate social media advice from sound clinical practice.This conversation is for clients, clinicians, and anyone interested in how therapy remains both deeply human and clinically safe________________00:00 - Introduction | Hi, Carrie!02:00 - The Unaffected Therapist09:25 - Self-Disclosure as a Tool17:45 - Problem Solvers19:32 - Course Correction30:27 - Would we say that in session?_______________Book: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb - https://amzn.to/4pDQEbZBook: Letters to a Young Therapist by Mary Pipher - https://amzn.to/4pEfXL3As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases_____________For more great content or information on mental health services we provide, please check out our linktree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com

This holiday season, Therapists’ Take is unwrapping something a little unexpected - the psychology of holiday villains. Sure, we all know the Grinch’s heart grew three sizes and that Scrooge found the true meaning of Christmas—but what does it really mean to be a “villain” in a world shaped by trauma, unmet needs, and human complexity?In this special series, we look beyond the caricatures and clichés to explore the emotional underpinnings of four iconic holiday “bad guys,” asking questions our listeners may have never considered. Together, we’ll dig into bullying, trauma, greed, redemption, emotional reactivity, and the very nature of good vs. evil. And at the end, we’ll decide if they truly deserve the title of villain… or something more complicated altogether?🎁 Bonus segment: Stick around for a brief but fun end-of-episode debate as Carrie and Josh tackle the perennial holiday question, Is "Die Hard" actually a Christmas movie?_______________00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Favorite Holiday Movies)02:45 - The 4 Holiday Villains03:19 - The Grinch (How the Grinch Stole Christmas)07:48 - Mr. Potter (It's a Wonderful Life)10:40 - Ebeneezer Scrooge (A Christmas Carol)15:42 - Scut Farkus (A Christmas Story)26:44 - BONUS: Is Die Hard a Christmas Movie?_____________MOVIE LINKSHow the Grinch Stole Christmas (2000 film) – Wikipedia The Grinch (2018 film) – WikipediaMickey’s Christmas Carol – Wikipedia Christmas Carol (2009 film) – Wikipedia A Christmas Story – Wikipedia It’s a Wonderful Life – Wikipedia_________________Fair Use Notice:The clips and images shown in this episode are used under the U.S. copyright doctrine of “fair use” (17 U.S.C. § 107). These excerpts are used for purposes of commentary, criticism, and discussion to educate and entertain listeners, and not to exploit the original works for commercial gain.We do not claim ownership of any copyrighted material included in this episode. All rights remain with the respective copyright holders.If you are the copyright owner of material included here and believe its use does not fall under fair use, please contact us so we can address your concerns.____________For more great content or services, please visit our linktree at https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of The Therapists’ Take Podcast, we dive into the complex and often invisible realm of ambiguous and non-traditional grief. These forms of grief don’t stem from a physical death, making them harder to recognize, articulate, and validate. Together, we unpack the many ways this kind of grief shows up—through infertility and disrupted visions of family (13:53), through the slow unraveling of relationships and the loss of safety within them (20:15), through the painful recognition of family dysfunction (07:26), and through the moral injuries carried by those in military or first responder roles (28:05).With special guest Kristen Callaway, LMFT (01:12), we explore how to name these experiences (07:26), understand their emotional impact, and take meaningful steps toward healing when closure isn’t straightforward.____________________00:00 – Hi, Carrie!01:12 – Guest Intro: Kristen Callaway, LMFT04:48 – What Is Ambiguous Loss?07:26 – Name It to Tame It13:53 – Broken Expectations & Family Dreams20:15 – When Safety Feels Unsafe28:05 – Moral Injury & the Loss of Self31:50 – Zander’s Final Thoughts35:27 – Practical Takeaways____________________About Our Guest: Kristen Callaway, LMFTKristen is a Licensed Marital and Family Therapist and the owner of Seeking Peace Counseling in Edmond, Oklahoma. She is an EMDRIA Certified Therapist, a Certified First Responder Counselor, and an Oklahoma Approved Licensure Supervisor. Kristen works with adults seeking healing from trauma, anxiety, and grief, with a special focus on military service members and first responders. She is also the host of the Let’s Sit With This podcast, where she shares grounding tools, encouragement, and honest conversations about the hard parts of life. Outside the therapy room, Kristen enjoys marathon training, baking, and spending time with her husband—a military veteran and law enforcement officer—and their two children.Kristen's Links:Her Website - https://www.seekingpeaceok.com/Let's Sit with This Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-sit-with-this/id1818168015Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/seekingpeacecounseling__________________Resources Mentioned in PodcastAmbiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief by Pauline Boss - https://amzn.to/48jMMrjEscaping Domestic Abuse (interview with Brian Putnam) - https://youtu.be/Sz4uPvRr8roAs Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases._________________________For more great content and resources, please check out our linktree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Ever feel like you’re stuck in the same argument on repeat — whether with your partner, your kids, or even yourself? Restoration Therapy might just be the reset button you’ve been looking for. This approach helps you spot those old patterns that trip you up, understand why they keep showing up, and learn how to choose peace instead of pain. In this episode, restoration therapist, Jacob Oliver, will be joining us to break it all down in real talk, share stories from the therapy room, and show you how these tools can make everyday relationships a whole lot healthier.________________00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Intro to Episode)01:43 - Episode Breakdown02:10 - Introducing Our Guest, Jacob Oliver04:10 - Shameless Plug: Restoration Therapy Website05:45 - What Is Restoration Therapy?11:00 - A Deeper Look Inside of Self14:45 - Pain Cycles and Peace Cycles18:55 - The Four Phases21:38 - The 4 Steps of Step 428:20 - Couples in Restoration Therapy____________________________About Our Guest: Jacob Oliver is marital & family therapist licensed in both California and Oklahoma. He is a certified s3x addiction therapist, and a level 3 restoration therapist. He received his clinical training at Fuller Theological Seminary; and he is part of our team at Family Solutions Counseling. Learn more about Jacob here - https://www.familysolutionsok.com/jacob-oliver. __________________Resources on Restoration Therapy:Get Trained - https://www.restorationtherapytraining.comFind a Restoration Therapist Near You - https://www.restorationtherapytraining.com/find-a-therapist/BooksThe Mindful Marriage- https://amzn.to/3JOxFNfThe Mindful Marriage Workbook - https://amzn.to/49rDyKAForgiving the Devil - https://amzn.to/4psqlpHFamilies & Forgiveness - https://amzn.to/3XD2veSAs Amazon Affiliates, we earn on qualifying purchases______________________For more great content, please visit our linktree at https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this second installment of Therapists’ Take on the dark side of couples therapy, Dr. Shannon Dial and Whitney Alexander rejoin us to push the conversation even further. While couples therapy is often seen as a pathway to healing, not every situation—or every client dynamic—fits neatly into that frame. This episode shines a light on the places where couples therapy can actually backfire, enabling harm instead of helping.From the subtle timing of emotional wounds to the dangerous potential of ignoring abuse, our guests unpack the tough realities that therapists, couples, and even individuals need to face when entering the therapy room. Together, we wrestle with hard questions: When is neutrality dangerous? How can therapists unwitting be complicit in abuse cycles? And when does the “couple’s problem” framework itself become part of the problem?____________00:00 - Intro 00:45 - Assessing Abuse04:00 - The Timing of the Wounding06:40 - The Problem with Agendas09:00 - Is "Part of the Problem" Part of the Problem?12:50 - Deciphering Sociopathy in Couples15:18 - The Part that Is Complicit22:10 - Using Couples Therapy as a Crutch42:56 - Practical Takeaways-ish ______________Why I Hate Your Podcast (article)⁠ - this is related to the discussion from the Part 1 intro._____________About our guests:We’re thrilled to be joined by Dr. Shannon Dial, LMFT, from Family Solutions Counseling in Oklahoma City, and Whitney Alexander, LMFT, EMDR Consultant, and owner of the Warren-Alexander Group in Stillwater. Whitney's Profile - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staffhttps://familysolutionsok.com/shannon-dialShannon's Profile - https://familysolutionsok.com/shannon-dial______________________For more great content, please check out our LinkTree at https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

When we think of couples therapy, we often imagine healing, communication, and hope. But what if the very process that’s meant to help actually makes things worse?In this first half of our live discussion, returning guests Dr. Shannon Dial and Whitney Alexander join us to unpack the expectations people bring into couples therapy, how the field itself continues to evolve, and the subtle ways counseling can shift from supportive to harmful.From the hopeful beginnings of what therapy should be, to the sobering reality of how it can sometimes miss the mark, this episode explores the groundwork leading up to the question: What happens when couples therapy turns dark?Whether you’re a therapist, a client, or simply curious, this conversation will challenge you to think critically about the real dynamics at play in the therapy room.___________00:00 - Hi, Carrie (intro)01:43 - Guest Introductions03:04 - Whitney's Topic06:55 - Episode Breakdown08:30 - Expectations of Couples Therapy13:08 - The Ever-Evolving Landscape of Couples Therapy20:27 - When Couples Therapy Turns Dark26:48 - Wrapping Up Part 1______________Why I Hate Your Podcast (article) - this is related to the discussion from the intro._____________About our guests:We’re thrilled to be joined by Dr. Shannon Dial, LMFT, from Family Solutions Counseling in Oklahoma City, and Whitney Alexander, LMFT, EMDR Consultant, and owner of the Warren-Alexander Group in Stillwater. Whitney's Profile - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staffShannon's Profile - https://familysolutionsok.com/shannon-dial______________________For more great content, please check out our LinkTree at https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Ever feel like there’s a whole cast of characters living inside your head? You’re not alone — and Pixar’s Inside Out might be closer to real life than you think. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we break down the concept of "parts language" through the Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy model, using the Inside Out movies as our guide. We’ll talk about why it sometimes feels like different “parts” of us are pulling in opposite directions, how that actually makes sense from a therapeutic perspective, and how getting to know our inner cast can bring more balance, compassion, and joy to everyday life.____________________00:00 - Intro | Hi, Carrie | Multitasking03:34 - Fun Facts about Inside Out Movie10:18 - Episode Breakdown10:54 - IFS Therapy & Parts Language20:25 - Getting to Know Your Parts29:00 - Who Is in the Driver's Seat?38:21 - Practical Application___________________Mental Health ResourcesFind an IFS Therapist Near You - https://ifs-institute.com/practitionersFind therapists near you that utilize IFS model - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapistsConsider counseling at Family Solutions Counseling - https://www.familysolutionsok.comTry our Kids clinic - https://www.fsc.kids_________________Good ReadsNo Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz - https://amzn.to/3IbFtrxNo Bad Parts (children's book) - https://amzn.to/467MBOPYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz - https://amzn.to/4ntLtKZRichard Schwartz 3 Book Collection - https://amzn.to/42r1V6I _________________Inside Out Related ItemsGet the movies - https://amzn.to/42zgUvnFigurine Set - https://amzn.to/3IaupuJPlush Set - https://amzn.to/46oLetM___________________As Amazon Affiliates, we earn from qualifying purchases. For more great content, please check out our LinkTree at https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _________________________Fair Use Notice:This podcast episode makes reference to the Inside Out films for the purposes of commentary, critique, and education. Inside Out and all related characters, titles, and elements are the intellectual property of Pixar Animation Studios and The Walt Disney Company. The use of these references is protected under the doctrine of fair use (17 U.S.C. § 107) as they are employed for non-commercial, educational, and transformative discussion within the context of psychotherapy and mental health concepts.

In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh unpack the rapidly evolving intersection of artificial intelligence and mental health counseling. They explore pressing questions: How is AI already being used in the field? What are the risks of introducing it into such a sacred, human-centered space? Could AI ever replace the need for therapists—or does it simply serve as a tool to enhance care?This conversation is designed to spark curiosity and dialogue, whether you’re a therapist, a client, or simply someone intrigued by the future of mental health.__________________00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Intro)01:00 - An Intimidating Topic09:28 - Episode Breakdown10:29 - The Therapist's Role in an AI Era18:28 - AI as a Useful Tool for Mental Health24:50 - The Psychological Impact on Clients33:07 - The Future of Mental Healthcare and AI__________________Resources:(article) The Reality of Instant AI Therapy | Psychology Today 🙋 Audience QuestionsWould you feel comfortable opening up to an AI therapist? Why or why not?Do you think AI will ever truly replicate human empathy?💬 Submit your own questions for the podcast here: https://forms.gle/J1Tm1AwVKKw5QTt27🌐 Explore more content: https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok👉 If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please like, subscribe, and share for more thoughtful takes on the evolving world of therapy.

In this compelling episode of Therapists’ Take, we sit down with family law attorney and author Brian Putnam to unpack the complex and often misunderstood reality of domestic abuse. Drawing on decades of legal experience and personal insight, Brian shares what it truly takes to break free from abuse—and the critical steps toward safety, justice, and healing.------------00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Intro)01:38 - Guest: Brian Putnam02:50 - The Reason for the Book06:14 - Who Should Read It09:15 - Encyclopedia of Domestic Abuse17:43 - Healing the Wounds28:30 - Breaking Free & Safety Planning34:04 - Preventing Domestic AbuseAbout Our Guest:Brian Putnam is an experienced attorney, advocate, and author of Escaping Domestic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free. Through his legal work and writing, Brian provides survivors with clear, compassionate guidance for navigating the legal system and safely leaving abusive situations.For more information about Brian and/or the legal services his team provides, please visit https://www.PutnamLawOffice.com.To purchase the book, Escaping Domestic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free, you can do so by clicking the following link - https://amzn.to/47zeFeSAs Amazon Affiliates, we earn from qualifying purchases.-----------------Domestic Abuse ResourcesEscaping Domestic Abuse (book) by Brian Putnam – see link aboveNational Domestic Violence Hotline – 1 (800) 799-SAFE(7233)YWCA - https://www.ywca.org/ Oklahoma Specific Domestic Abuse ResourcesOK Domestic Violence Hotline – 1 (800) 522-SAFE (7233)YWCA OKC– https://www.ywcaokc.org/Palomar - https://palomarokc.org/Cardinal Point - https://cardinalpointok.org/Latino Community Development - https://www.lcdaok.com/Sanctuary Women’s Development - https://www.catholiccharitiesok.org/Other Resources MentionedThe 12 Types of Gaslighting (blog) - Vulnerability Exploitation: Twelve Typologies of Gaslighting Found in Committed Couple Relationships - Family Solutions CounselingThe 12 Types of Gaslighting (youtube series) - https://youtu.be/6XANUX7K2aU?si=Js5sNwx4IRYNd63R Gaslighting (YouTube Playlist) - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKQiGv_EQ7Rh-Jc_Asg4Rm5BC-m9v2e&si=Q2h-QUTB_0-65TBNEMDR - https://youtu.be/G692ymBkg-4?si=1FBu-h6VCNYMPccGEMDR (podcast episode) - Episode 22: On EMDR - What Is … - Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh - Apple PodcastsScary Relationships - https://www.youtube.com/live/Rs-HIvN--WI?si=oSR6LGcm4YyHzyVjScary Relationships (podcast) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-01-on-scary-relationships/id1717516278?i=1000635486694-------------For more great content, check out our linktree at https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

After a two-month pause, we’re back—and this time, we’re leaning into the space of transition. In this reflective return episode, we explore what it means to live in the “in-between”—those seasons where you’ve stepped away from what’s familiar but haven’t yet arrived at what’s next.As therapists, we spend a lot of time with people in this very space: between what was and what will be. Today, we’re sharing our take on how to understand, navigate, and even grow through these pivotal moments of change.We’re also thrilled to introduce our new producer, Alexander “Zander” Holland. Zander is a licensed therapist with a special focus on betrayal trauma couple recovery, and we couldn’t be more excited to have him join our growing podcast team._________________In this episode, we explore:The Uncertainty in DisruptionHow disruptions—planned or unplanned—create anxiety, reveal unresolved fears, and challenge our sense of control.The Grief in GrowthWhy all growth includes letting go, and how to honor the sorrow that comes with moving forward.The Opportunity in ReorganizingHow disruption creates space to reflect, refocus, and align life with your values in new ways.The Gratitude in New BeginningsRecognizing the beauty in starting again—and how even the hardest resets can hold surprising gifts.__________________________Book mentioned: The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer - https://amzn.to/3JlsnrRAs Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases._______________________________Learn more about Zander at https://www.familysolutionsok.com/alexander-hollandNew Podcast just released: Poetry in Layers with Carl Patterson. Check it out wherever you get your podcast!____________________For more great content, check out our linktree at https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this short and sunny episode of Therapists’ Take, we’re talking about the power of pressing pause—yes, even on the things we’re passionate about. As therapists, we get how easy it is to stay stuck in productivity mode, always connected and always “doing the work.” But sometimes, the most meaningful step forward is choosing to stop and just be.As we head into our own summer break this June and July, we’re reflecting on what it really means to step back with purpose. Taking a break isn’t quitting—it’s an intentional act of self-care and courage.Here’s what pressing pause can look like:Facing the Fear of Loss – Taking a break can feel scary. We talk about how to move through the fear of falling behind or being forgotten.Being Still or Slowing Down – Rest isn’t lazy; it’s vital. We share why stillness matters for your mental health.Trying Something New – A break can be the space you need to rediscover creativity and explore something life-giving.Retreating, Not Escaping – There’s a difference. We explore how to pause with intention, not avoidance.We’ll be taking a break from the podcast through June and July—but don’t worry, we’ll be back in August with more honest conversations and real talk about mental health, healing, and relationships.Until then, take good care, slow down when you can, and remember—growth doesn’t always mean moving forward________________00:00 - Intro | Hi, Carrie!01:10 - We are pressing pause.03:56 - Episode Breakdown08:06 - Fear of Facing Loss13:22 - Being Still or Slowing Down21:20 - Trying Something New26:50 - Retreats, not Escapes________________Books MentionedEckhart Tolle Collection - https://amzn.to/401BCmiScreamFree Parenting - https://amzn.to/4mXbhQjAs Amazon Affiliates, we earn on qualifying purchases.________________Therapists' Take on THE HEALING POWER of NATURE w/ Kelly Roberts - https://www.youtube.com/live/dbDHkJSkZ9Y?si=lPAiM7RvIcxw1eIV________________For more great episodes, please visit our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, we explore some uncomfortable—but essential—truths that emotionally healthy, non-codependent couples have learned to live by. At first glance, these insights might feel counterintuitive or even a little controversial. But rather than chasing the illusion of the perfect relationship, these couples have embraced a more grounded, realistic approach to love—one rooted in clarity, maturity, and genuine connection.You might feel a little unsettled as we unpack these truths—not because they’re harsh, but because they challenge some deeply held assumptions. If you’ve ever questioned why conventional advice like “always compromise,” “love unconditionally,” or “just meet each other’s needs” often falls flat, this conversation will resonate. Most importantly, we’ll offer a more balanced, self-respecting framework for building meaningful relationships—without losing yourself along the way.____________________00:00 - Intro | Hi, Carrie!03:05 - Episode Breakdown04:20 - The Shelf Life06:30 - Prodependence Book12:58 - Josh's Theory on Codependent Relationships20:00 - What Is Interdependence?22:32 - Hard Reality 1: Want vs Need29:34 - Hard Reality 2: Unconditional vs Conditional 37:29 - Hard Reality 3: Compromise vs Sacrifice47:00 - Hard Reality 4: Happiness vs Togetherness____________________Books:Prodependence by Rob Weiss - https://amzn.to/3Hbu8GQFacing Codependence by Pia Mellody - https://amzn.to/4dLjOBGCodependent No More by Melody Beattie - https://amzn.to/3FAWc6gAs Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases__________________________Interview w/ Rob Weiss - https://youtu.be/W2Z48giYxR0___________________________For more great content, please visit or LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In Part 2 of our heartfelt series, The Impact Our Clients Have on Us, we continue the conversation with the insightful Whitney Alexander, LMFT. This episode takes a deeper dive into the personal side of being a therapist—where our professional and human selves inevitably intersect.We open up about our own vulnerabilities in couple relationships, the tension between being a "helper" and being human, and the sometimes uncomfortable question: Do we actually practice what we preach?Join us for a candid, unscripted discussion that sheds light on the ways our clients challenge, shape, and humble us—and how, in turn, that makes us better partners, professionals, and people.🧠 Topics we explore:The therapist’s vulnerability in personal relationshipsHow working with clients challenges our own emotional growthWhat it really means to be “human” in the therapy room🎙️ Whether you're a fellow therapist or just curious about the minds behind the mental health work, this episode offers raw insights and relatable truths.____________________00:00 - Intro to Part 201:11 - Jumping Back In02:27 - Our Vulnerability06:44 - Whitney Confronts Josh10:16 - When Bad Things Happen13:14- Practicing What we Preach15:42 - What Our Clients Teach Us___________________

In this special two-part series, we’re joined once again by our friend and trusted colleague, Whitney Alexander, LMFT, owner of The Warren Alexander Group in Stillwater, OK.This episode dives into a conversation that’s rarely had publicly—the personal and professional impact our clients have on us as therapists. In Part 1, we explore:🔹 How our clients’ stories shape who we are as clinicians and people🔹 The emotional weight that comes with walking alongside others in their pain🔹 Why it’s vital for therapists to remain aware of their own internal responsesWhether you're a therapist, a client, or someone curious about the behind-the-scenes emotional world of mental health professionals, this episode offers honest insight and reflection.🧠 About our guest:Whitney Alexander, LMFT, is a seasoned therapist and one of our most respected colleagues. She’s been featured in two of our most popular episodes:✔️ Episode 10 – The 3 Channels of Self-Awareness✔️ Episode 32 – Complex PTSD and the Feeling of Brokenness👀 Don’t miss Part 2 next week, where we go even deeper into the emotional toll—and rewards—of this work.👉 Be sure to subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and check the show notes for related resources and links.__________________00:00 - Intro to the Episode01:44 - About Our Guest02:29 - Start of the Episode04:28 - Josh Confronts Whitney06:28 - The Impact on Us09:45 - Self-of-Therapist16:30 - Strong Women17:48 - Brene Brown19:50 - The Weight We Carry25:25 - Vicarious Trauma30:59 - Whitney's Closing Thoughts_______________For more information about our guest and the services she offers, you can visit her website at https://www.warrenalexandergroup.com._______________White Horse Phenomenon - Brene Brown - https://youtu.be/0Wu0lp8LH3c?si=CWfHpgsGkEZEs5kUVicarious Trauma - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/vicarious-traumaCompassion Fatigue - https://www.growthtactics.net/what-are-the-5-stages-of-compassion-fatigue________________To learn more about our services or to access more valuable content, please visit our linktree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Ever wonder what really catches a therapist’s eye—or ear—during a session? It’s not always the words you’re saying, but how you say them, what your body does, or the deeper patterns you may not even notice. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we dive into the subtle but powerful signals that guide us as clinicians. From repeated themes to emotional tone to the moment a client says something “small” that’s actually huge—we’ll talk about how we tune into what truly matters.If you’ve been curious about what therapists notice and why it sometimes feels like we’re reading between the lines, this conversation offers a behind-the-scenes look at how therapy actually works._______________00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Intro)03:03 - Processes & Patterns06:32 - Body Language11:00 - Incongruencies15:56 - Resistance 20:32 - Buzz Words (BW)21:38 - BW1: Governing Rules23:25 - BW2: Dichotomous Thinking24:22 - BW3: Winning/Losing28:26 - BW4: Hierarchical Language30:58 - BW5: The Point35:19 - In Closing________________Books from this Episode: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl - https://amzn.to/3RShtLiAs an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.________________🎧 Want more? Check out all our resources and links at: https://www.linktr.ee/faimlysolutionsok________________Fair Use Disclaimer:This podcast episode includes a very brief audio clip (1–2 seconds) from the film Friday (1995), directed by F. Gary Gray and written by Ice Cube and DJ Pooh. The clip is used in a comedic and transformative context as a cultural reference and not for commercial exploitation.We believe this usage qualifies as Fair Use under Section 107 of the U.S. Copyright Act, which allows limited use of copyrighted material for purposes such as parody, comment, and transformative expression.No copyright infringement is intended. All rights to the original film and its content remain with their respective copyright holders.🔗 Friday (1995) on IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113118/🎬 Directed by: F. Gary Gray✍️ Written by: Ice Cube and DJ Pooh🎥 Distributed by: New Line Cinema

Ever wonder what’s really going through a therapist’s mind during a session? In this listener-inspired episode of Therapists’ Take, we invite you behind the scenes to explore the internal world of the therapist. When a client begins to speak, the work starts—not just in listening, but in engaging a complex, intentional process rooted in empathy, observation, and analysis.Therapists are constantly tuning into body language, emotional tone, and story patterns while forming and revising working hypotheses on the fly. We’ll talk about how we make sense of what’s being said—and what’s not—as well as how our own emotional reactions play a crucial role in the therapeutic process. If you’ve ever been curious about the quiet mental mechanics of a therapy session, you won’t want to miss this episode.____________00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Intro)02:46 - Thing 1: Hypothesizing09:17 - Thing 2: Compassion & Curiosity13:45 - Thing 3: Body Language22:29 - Thing 4: Differences that Make a Difference28:27 - Thing 5: Therapist Emotion______________Check out the following episodes mentioned:- The 3 Channels of Self-Awareness - https://youtube.com/live/n_psQU9kcgg?feature=share- Five Things Therapists Wished You Knew - https://youtube.com/live/_zRx19AA4AA?feature=share_____________For more great content, please visit our linktree at https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Ever wonder what therapists are actually like when we’re not in session? In this fun and more personal episode of Therapists’ Take, we’re giving you a peek behind the scenes—sharing five things we wish more people knew about us outside the therapy chair.We’re talking about everything from the myth that we’re constantly analyzing everyone (promise, we’re not… usually) to the reality that many of us are regulars in the client seat too. Expect laughter, a little vulnerability, and some unexpected truths—like our love for Netflix, moments when the "therapist voice" creeps into casual conversations, and why we definitely don’t have it all figured out.Whether you're a fellow mental health professional, a curious client, or just someone interested in the human side of therapy, this episode is full of humor, heart, and real talk from the other side of the couch._______________00:16 - Hi, Carrie!01:55 - "Do we talk slow?"02:54 - Thing 106:22 - Thing 211:40 - Thing 315:08 - Thing 418:10 - Thing 524:40 - Fun w/ Words_______________Great BookMaybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb - https://amzn.to/4jAerXM_____________For more great content or to find services we offer, please visit our LinkTree at https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

Do you know what forest baths or blue spaces are? Have you ever heard of wild swimming? Did you know that nature itself can help regulate your mood, improve sleep, and support trauma recovery? 🌊🌲In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, we’re joined by Dr. Kelly Roberts to explore the incredible healing power of nature. 🌿✨From forest bathing to wild swimming, Dr. Roberts walks us through how reconnecting with the natural world can help regulate our circadian rhythm, improve mental clarity, and even support trauma recovery. You’ll learn about the benefits of blue spaces, the calming effects of tree oils, and how simply being in nature can ground the nervous system and promote whole-person healing.Whether you're a mental health professional or someone seeking holistic tools for wellness, this episode offers practical insights and inspiring science behind nature's therapeutic influence.__________________________Chapters:00:37 - Hi, Carrie!01:41 - Episode Breakdown02:13 - Guest Introduction | Dr. Kelly Roberts03:44 - The Facebook Post04:22 - The Science06:00 - "We are little sunflowers!"07:25 - Forests14:12 - Water17:25 - Gardening19:30 - Fire20:34 - Nature & Healing23:48 - Challenges of the Digital Age28:03 - Baseball Story31:24 - Relational Benefits Offered by Nature35:24 - Closing: Trick Question__________________About Our Guest: Dr. Kelly RobertsDr. Kelly M. Roberts is a licensed marital and family therapist and was instrumental in launching the Marriage and Family Therapy graduate program at Oklahoma Christian University in 2022. Dr. Roberts served as the Chair of Graduate Programs in Human Sciences and Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at Oklahoma Christian University (OC) but has recently passed the baton and moved to a different role at the university. With over two decades of experience in clinical practice, research, teaching, and policy advocacy, in addition to being a licensed practitioner, Dr. Roberts is an Approved Supervisor with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Her academic journey includes a Master of Science in Family Relations and Child Development, specializing in Marriage and Family Therapy, and a Ph.D. in Human Sciences with a focus on Family Policy, both from Oklahoma State University.Dr. Roberts has held various leadership roles, including serving as President and Legislative Liaison of the Oklahoma Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (OKAMFT). She currently contributes as a family policy and advocacy leader for the AAMFT's "Family Therapists in Medical Settings" interest network and is a member of the AAMFT Judicial Committee. Her professional affiliations extend to the National Council on Family Relations (NCFR), the Society for Teachers of Family Medicine (STFM), and the Society for Clinical Trials (SCT).In recognition of her significant contributions to the field, Dr. Roberts was inducted into the Oklahoma State University College of Education and Human Sciences Hall of Fame.Beyond her professional endeavors, Dr. Roberts has been married for 39 years and has two daughters.Follow Dr. Roberts on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/reddirtkellyRead her blog - https://reddirtchronicles.comSee her profile page - https://www.oc.edu/directory/kelly-roberts__________________________Resources:I heard There Was a Secret Chord by Daniel J. Levitin - https://amzn.to/3RH8jkwTherapist's Take on "Are Newbie Therapists Worth It?" with Dr. Kelly Roberts - https://www.youtube.com/live/3X4CX91mWNg?si=Tm6C_0HQL_yG03lP______________For more great content, visit our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the concept of taking the one-down position in betrayal trauma couple recovery. After betrayal, the partner who caused harm often struggles with defensiveness, shame, or minimizing their actions. However, true healing requires a shift toward humility, accountability, and emotional attunement. The one-down position is not about self-degradation—it’s about owning the harm, prioritizing the injured partner’s healing, and rebuilding trust through consistent actions.We’ll explore how this approach plays out in real-world relationships and address the common challenges that arise, including power imbalances and the betrayed partner’s need for validation. Whether you’re a therapist helping couples or someone on a personal healing journey, this episode offers essential insights into how the one-down position contributes to deep relational healing and lasting change.____________________00:00 - Introduction01:00 - Hi, Carrie!02:15 - Episode Breakdown03:04 - New Workbook06:42 - What Is the One-Down Position?16:00 - The Danger of Defensiveness4:33 - The Power of Imbalance32:24 - Rebalancing Power37:55 - Conclusion____________________Books & Links"Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity" by Dr Shirley Glass - https://amzn.to/3XKDZcn"Forgiving the Devil" by Terry Hargrave - https://amzn.to/4cfF1mqEpisode on Authenticity - https://www.youtube.com/live/48vTHXudO-s?si=PYl_zyrjDPz7MCdXVideo on One-Down Position - https://youtu.be/1nG3l9oecFE?si=avU1SGrLW8uVp6L0____________________Our ONLINE STORE is coming soon! In the meantime, to get a copy of our workbook, The Plan for Peace of Mind: The Betrayed Partner's Guide to Healing Following the Discovery of Infidelity, email us at [email protected].

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the controversial and often painful topic of betrayal through secret pornography use. Is it a form of infidelity? How does it compare to physical affairs? While some see pornography as a private, harmless activity, others view it as a deep violation of trust. We’ll explore the emotional and relational impact, the complexities of secrecy, and the evolving challenges of digital intimacy in today’s world.______________________Key Discussion Points:🔹 03:30 - Is Secret Porn Use a Betrayal? – Examining different perspectives on trust, emotional impact, and whether secrecy itself constitutes infidelity.🔹 08:50 - Porn vs. Physical Infidelity – Understanding the psychological and relational differences (and overlaps) between pornography use and in-person affairs.🔹 15:00 - The Gray Areas in Relationships – What happens when couples have different expectations about pornography, and how can they navigate these differences?🔹 24:54 - Transparency in the Digital Age – How can partners foster honesty, set boundaries, and adapt to a world where online sexual content is more accessible than ever?-------------------------------------Book: Always Turned On by Rob Weiss - https://amzn.to/4hBnarmBook: Pornland by Gail Dines - https://amzn.to/4iAUHmTBook: Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson - https://amzn.to/4iFLAS0Book: Wired for Intimacy by William Struthers - https://amzn.to/4lbJlaL_______________________👉 For more great content, visit our LinkTree: https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we welcome back polygraph examiner David Otwell to explore a critical aspect of the polygraph process—how to properly prepare for a polygraph and the importance of managing doubt. For many couples navigating betrayal trauma recovery, polygraph exams are often desired and sought after as a tool to aid in creating transparency and rebuilding trust, yet many approach the process with fear and uncertainty. Concerns about nerves impacting results, the weight of past deception, and doubts about polygraph accuracy can all add to the stress. In this follow-up episode, David breaks down some of the psychological barriers and offers practical steps necessary to approach a polygraph with confidence and clarity, better ensuring that the process serves its intended purpose of fostering healing and accountability in relationships.____________________________00:00 - Introduction00:54 - Hi, Carrie!02:38 - Episode Breakdown04:45 - The Polygraph Examiner05:24 - 1. The Role of Doubt13:10 - How Therapists Can Help18:07 - 2. Benefits of Written Disclosures21:28 - 3. Impending Doom Doubt30:20 - The Queen of Cuba33:15 - Doubting the Exam Itself39:25 - Final Messages________________About Our Guest: David OtwellWe are honored to welcome David Otwell to this episode of Therapists' Take. David is the owner and operator of Truth Verification Polygraph Services, based in Edmond, Oklahoma. With an impressive 34-year career in law enforcement, David has served in local, state, and federal positions, including as a task force officer with the FBI's Oklahoma City Division, where he investigated national security matters.After retiring from law enforcement in May 2023, David transitioned full-time into his well-established polygraph business. Trained by the legendary Cleve Backster of the Backster School of Lie Detection, David has conducted nearly 3,000 polygraph examinations, serving law enforcement agencies, fire departments, attorneys, district attorneys, counselors, and private citizens. He has also testified as an expert witness in court regarding polygraphs. David is deeply involved in the polygraph community, holding memberships in the Oklahoma Polygraph Association, the American Polygraph Association, and the Association of Police Polygraphists. His expertise and dedication have earned him two appointments to the Oklahoma Polygraph Examiners Board—first by Governor Mary Fallin in 2016 and again by Governor Kevin Stitt in 2023, where he currently serves as vice-chair.David’s unparalleled experience and passion for truth verification make him the perfect guest to discuss the myths, science, and future of polygraph exams, particularly in the realm of betrayal trauma recovery.You can read more about David and gather valuable information and resources from his website – ⁠https://www.truthpolygraph.com⁠__________Links & ResourcesWork with Carrie & Josh’s team at Family Solutions Counseling – ⁠https://www.familysolutionsok.com⁠Find a Betrayal Trauma Therapist Near You - ⁠https://iitap.com/page/TherapistDirectory⁠Episode 44: On Why We Stopped Using Polygraph - ⁠https://youtu.be/94Bzl2aEbc0?si=LDD4Ph_Q-Pa69bzo⁠Episode 47: On How to Effectively Use a Polygraph as Part of Betrayal Trauma Couples RecoveryAmerican Polygraph Association - ⁠https://www.polygraph.org/⁠Stop Sex Addiction Book - ⁠https://amzn.to/3CqPGgD⁠The Queen of Cuba (podcast episode) - https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/revisionist-history/the-queen-of-cubaTalking to Strangers (book) - https://amzn.to/3Di2vdAThink Again (book) - https://amzn.to/3EPEyedAs Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.______________For more great content, please visit our LinkTree – ⁠https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok⁠

Valentine’s Day is often portrayed as the ultimate celebration of love, but for many, it can be a source of stress, disappointment, and even emotional pain. In this episode of Therapists' Take, we explore the dark side of Valentine’s Day, uncovering the hidden pressures, unrealistic expectations, and emotional struggles that often go unspoken. From the loneliness of being single to the strain placed on relationships, we discuss how the holiday can create more anxiety than romance.We also shine a light on toxic relationship dynamics, including the dangers of love bombing and emotional manipulation disguised as affection. For those who have experienced heartbreak, betrayal, or grief, Valentine’s Day can be a painful reminder of loss rather than a celebration of love. Join us as we take a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding this holiday and offer insights on how to navigate it in a healthier, more authentic way._________________00:00 - Intro00:37 - Hi, Carrie!01:47 - Galentine's/Palentine's Day03:26 - Episode Breakdown04:12 - Unnecessary Relational Pressure09:45 - Unrealistic Expectations & Relational Strain14:37 - Beware of Love Bombers21:42 - Grief & Loss25:53 - Wrapping Up__________________For more great content, please check out our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into Webster’s 2024 Word of the Year – Polarization and explore its impact on both mental and relational health. While polarization is often discussed in political and societal contexts, it also affects our personal lives, shaping the way we think, feel, and connect with others.________00:00 - Intro00:49 - Hi, Carrie!01:24 - Words of the Past04:59 - Episode Breakdown07:13 - Defining Polarization11:40 - Impact on Mental Health12:42 - Impact on Relational Health15:44 - Any Benefits to Polarization?8 TIPS FOR NAVIGATING POLARIZATION25:22 - Tip 128:48 - Tip 231:23 - Tip 333:42 - Tip 435:18 - Tip 537:59 - Tip 640:15 - Tip 741:47 - Tip 843:25 - Final Thoughts_____________Episode Breakdown:Defining Polarization – What does polarization really mean, and how does it show up in our daily lives?Mental Health Implications – The psychological toll of living in a polarized world, including stress, anxiety, and cognitive rigidity.Relational Health Implications – How polarization influences relationships, from family dynamics to friendships and romantic partnerships.Tips for Navigating a Polarized Society – Practical strategies for maintaining mental and relational well-being in a divided world._____________________Therapists' Take Episodes MentionedSelf-Awareness Episode - https://youtube.com/live/n_psQU9kcgg?feature=shareAuthenticity Episode - https://youtube.com/live/48vTHXudO-s?feature=shareGaslighting: Word of the Year Video - https://youtu.be/UYFqGQYu5U0______________________Books::Think Again by Adam Grant - https://amzn.to/3CKAw6bWill by Will Smith - https://amzn.to/4hWRxcdScreamFree Parenting by Hal Runkel - https://amzn.to/40W90e0The Self-Centered Marriage by Hal Runkel - https://amzn.to/3EBQqjPAs Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases_______________For more great content, please check out our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we explore the growing phenomenon of climate anxiety and how therapy can offer hope and healing in the face of environmental uncertainty. Mary Scruggs of Family Solutions Counseling joins us to discuss the emotional toll of climate change and share strategies for managing eco-anxiety. We’ll cover key aspects of this timely issue, including understanding climate anxiety, the impact of environmental stress on mental health, therapeutic tools to address eco-distress, and how to foster hope and resilience in uncertain times. Whether you’re personally feeling the weight of climate anxiety or working to support someone who is, this episode offers insights and practical guidance. ___________ Chapters: 00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (intro) 02:32 - Episode Breakdown 03:25 - Guest Introduction 04:14 - Mary's Personal Journey 07:04 - Facing Uncertainty 09:25 - Defining Climate Anxiety 11:05 - Grief 12:35 - Who It Impacts the Most 15:21 - Alone and Helpless 21:55 - Maneuvering Through the Pain 26:35 - Deeper Issues? 31:10 - LGTBQ+ ____________ About Our Guest: Mary Scruggs, LMFT, CPTT Mary Scruggs is a skilled therapist at Family Solutions Counseling in Oklahoma City, specializing in helping individuals and families navigate complex emotional challenges. With a passion for addressing the intersection of mental health and environmental issues, Mary brings valuable expertise to the growing field of climate anxiety. Her compassionate approach focuses on fostering resilience, managing eco-stress, and empowering clients to find hope and balance in uncertain times. __________________ Mary’s Profile Page: https://www.familysolutionsok.com/mary-scruggs Mary’s LinkTree: https://www.linktr.ee/youranxioustherapist_okc Mary’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youranxioustherapist_okc ______________ Resources: Website: Https://climatepsychology.us Book: Generational Dread: Findng Purpose in an Age of Climate Anxiety by Britt Wray - https://amzn.to/3Wx2Lfm Book: Climate Change for Babies - https://amzn.to/4axH5Wd As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive back into the polarizing topic of polygraph exams in betrayal trauma couple recovery. If you listened to Episode 44 (links are below), then you’re familiar with Carrie and Josh’s views on the subject—but could their perspectives shift after this conversation? Joining us is polygraph examiner David Otwell, who brings decades of expertise to the table. David dispels common myths, explains the science behind polygraph accuracy, shares insights from his work with couples navigating betrayal trauma, and explores the future of polygraph use in recovery. Whether you’re a skeptic or a supporter, this episode offers valuable information to help you form your own perspective on this complex tool in the healing process. ________ About Our Guest: David Otwell  We are honored to welcome David Otwell to this episode of Therapists' Take. David is the owner and operator of Truth Verification Polygraph Services, based in Edmond, Oklahoma. With an impressive 34-year career in law enforcement, David has served in local, state, and federal positions, including as a task force officer with the FBI's Oklahoma City Division, where he investigated national security matters. After retiring from law enforcement in May 2023, David transitioned full-time into his well-established polygraph business. Trained by the legendary Cleve Backster of the Backster School of Lie Detection, David has conducted nearly 3,000 polygraph examinations, serving law enforcement agencies, fire departments, attorneys, district attorneys, counselors, and private citizens. He has also testified as an expert witness in court regarding polygraphs. David is deeply involved in the polygraph community, holding memberships in the Oklahoma Polygraph Association, the American Polygraph Association, and the Association of Police Polygraphists. His expertise and dedication have earned him two appointments to the Oklahoma Polygraph Examiners Board—first by Governor Mary Fallin in 2016 and again by Governor Kevin Stitt in 2023, where he currently serves as vice-chair. David’s unparalleled experience and passion for truth verification make him the perfect guest to discuss the myths, science, and future of polygraph exams, particularly in the realm of betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about David and gather valuable information and resources from his website – https://www.truthpolygraph.com ___________ Links & Resources Work with Carrie & Josh’s team at Family Solutions Counseling – https://www.familysolutionsok.com Find a Betrayal Trauma Therapist Near You - https://iitap.com/page/TherapistDirectory Episode 44: On Why We Stopped Using Polygraph - https://youtu.be/94Bzl2aEbc0?si=LDD4Ph_Q-Pa69bzo American Polygraph Association - https://www.polygraph.org/ Stop Sex Addiction Book - https://amzn.to/3CqPGgD As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______________ For more great content, please visit our LinkTree – https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode, we explore Therapeutic Separations—a carefully structured approach to relational healing, facilitated by a licensed therapist, often used when couples face significant challenges such as infidelity or betrayal trauma. We’ll unpack what therapeutic separations entail, who benefits most from them, how they’re designed, and tips to enhance their success. ______________ Episode Breakdown: - What Is a Therapeutic Separation? A therapeutic separation is a guided relational pause aimed at reducing conflict and fostering both individual and relational growth. - Who Is It For? This approach is tailored for couples experiencing significant challenges like betrayal trauma, persistent conflict, or co-dependency. - How Is It Structured? Therapeutic separations include defined guidelines, therapist facilitation, and consistent check-ins to support accountability and healing. - Strategies for Success. Strong communication, accountability, and clear objectives are essential for a positive outcome. _______________ Chapters: 00:00 - Hi, Carrie! 02:50 - Episode Breakdown 03:45 - What Is a Therapeutic Separation? 08:55 - Who Is It For? 12:00 - How Does It Work? 26:30 - Relational Success 30:38 - Common Pitfalls 35:53 - Book: Taking Space 36:50 - Book: The Betrayal Bind _______________ Resources: Family Solutions Counseling - https://www.familysolutionsok.com Couples Therapists Near You - https://www.psychologytoday.com __________________ Books: Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship by Robert J. Buchicchio (https://amzn.to/4gNlrQa) The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays (https://amzn.to/3C4fOOe) The 5 Types of Couples by Gottman - The 5 Types of Couples As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. _________ For more great content, please visit and follow our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists’ Take, we explore the profound role vulnerability plays in building and sustaining healthy relationships. Vulnerability is often misunderstood as a sign of weakness, but in truth, it’s the cornerstone of trust, emotional intimacy, and genuine connection. Join us as we break down what vulnerability truly means and how embracing it can transform relationships for the better. We’ll tackle common fears surrounding vulnerability, the myth of risk-free intimacy, and how to balance openness with self-protection. You’ll also learn practical steps to approach vulnerability in ways that foster trust and connection, without oversharing or losing your sense of self. ____________ Episode Breakdown (02:50) 1. Defining Vulnerability (04:55) - What does it mean to be vulnerable in a relationship? 2. No Risk-Free Intimacy (19:03) - That’s right! There is no such thing! Every meaningful relationship requires a level of emotional risk. 3. How Much Is Too Much? (21:08) - While vulnerability is vital, oversharing or pushing too far too soon can harm relationships. But most relationships are referred to as “give and take relationships” in some circles. 4. Steps Toward Healthy Vulnerability (30:34) - Learn actionable strategies to embrace vulnerability in a way that strengthens relationships without compromising your emotional safety. ________________ Chapters: 00:00 – Intro & Hi, Carrie! 02:50 – Episode Breakdown 03:35 – Squirrel Moment 04:55 – 1. Defining Vulnerability 10:20 – Intimacy Indicator 11:05 – V. begets V. 15:45 – Lifeblood? 19:03 – 2. No Risk-Free Intimacy 21:08 – 3. Can There Be Too Much? 23:35 – It’s Tricky. 25:00 – Parental Vulnerability 29:00 – Domestic Violence Disclaimer 30:34 – 4. Practical Steps 31:57 – Josh’s Embarrassing Story 34:05 – Self-Awareness 36:50 – Runaway Bride Metaphor 38:40 – My Best Friend’s Wedding Metaphor ____________________ Links & Resources: For more great content and services by Carrie & Josh, please check out their LinkTree – https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok The 3 Channels of Self-Awareness - https://www.youtube.com/live/n_psQU9kcgg?si=dJZV6Kw50yxyvLdo Gratitude vs. Grief | Thanksgiving Episode 1 - https://youtu.be/fXJeoBS2lnU?si=glSNVRZXEXX7Ndon Finding Healing Through Connection | Thanksgiving Episode 2 - https://youtu.be/Sf-arzf8B0w?si=1pc0JzSTyn1LiJkv Episode on Authenticity - https://www.youtube.com/live/48vTHXudO-s?si=NK-7Aak2XhYNVcMI Love Addiction - https://youtu.be/aHKUEQRKrZM?si=YSLQFWc6xvsdDXX5 __________________ Domestic Violence Disclaimer: The content of this podcast may include discussions about domestic violence and related topics, which could be triggering for some listeners. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, you are not alone, and help is available. In the United States, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or by texting START to 88788. You can also visit their website at www.thehotline.org for confidential support, resources, and a live chat feature. If you are in immediate danger, please call 911 or your local emergency number. For listeners outside the United States, please reach out to your country’s local domestic violence resources or helplines for support. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and there are people who care and want to support you. 

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, Carrie and Josh dive into the controversial topic of polygraph exams in betrayal trauma recovery. For years, polygraphs have been used to aid couples navigating infidelity or sex addiction recovery, often as part of therapeutic disclosures. But are they truly effective? Do they truly serve the healing process? Join us as we: 🧐 Unpack how polygraphs have been used in therapeutic disclosures. 🧐 Examine the perceived benefits that make polygraphs appealing in couple recovery work. 🧐 Reveal why we chose to phase out polygraphs in our recovery model. 🧐 Discuss whether polygraphs still have a place in therapeutic practice. Whether you're a clinician or someone on a recovery journey, this episode sheds light on the evolving role of polygraphs in betrayal trauma recovery. Tune in to hear our insights and join the conversation! ________________ Episode Breakdown (03:42) 1. Polygraphs & Disclosures (05:48). Polygraphs have often been incorporated into therapeutic disclosures to verify information following infidelity or the discovery of sex addiction. We'll explain how they've historically been used and their role in aiding trust-building between partners. 2. Perceived Benefits (14:53). Why have therapists, including us, seen polygraphs as helpful? We'll share anecdotal benefits from our experience, highlighting how they supported some couples in their recovery journey. 3. Why We Stopped (23:15). While polygraphs seemed useful, the drawbacks outweighed the benefits for us. We'll delve into why we chose to stop using them and how this decision aligns with our couple recovery model. 4. Is There a Place for Polygraphs in Betrayal Trauma Recovery (39:20) ? We'll discuss a scenario where we see how polygraphs could work their way back into our recovery model. ___________ Books: Stop Sex Addiction by Milton Magness - https://amzn.to/49qYVts The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays - https://amzn.to/3OKAHRo As Amazon Affiliates, we earn on qualifying purchases. _____________ Articles: Therapeutic Disclosures by Josh & Carrie - https://tinyurl.com/286beza5 Transitional Distrust by Josh & Carrie - https://tinyurl.com/2s3mspv4 ______________ For more great content or to check out our services, please visit our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/FamilySolutionsOK

From Conflict to Connection: Healing Relationships Over the Holidays. In Part 2 of our Thanksgiving series, we’re joined by two incredible returning guests: Dr. Shannon Dial and Whitney Alexander, LMFT, who bring their expertise to the table to help us navigate the emotional complexities of the holiday season. Building on the insights from Part 1, this episode focuses on practical steps to bridge the gap between gratitude and grief while fostering healthier, more meaningful connections. Episode Breakdown: Emotional Regulation Techniques: Discover helpful ways you can help you navigate the swirl of holiday emotions without dismissing your grief. Setting Healthy Boundaries: Learn how to protect your emotional well-being by communicating needs effectively, maintaining balance, and avoiding unnecessary conflict. Building Connection Through Vulnerability: Explore ways to turn tough moments into opportunities for growth, repair, and deeper bonds with loved ones. Join us as Dr. Dial and Whitney Alexander share their wisdom on transforming holiday challenges into opportunities for connection, resilience, and healing. 🍁 _________________________ Therapist Directories: General Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma: https://www.IITAP.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ _________________ Books Inspired by the Episode: A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness - https://amzn.to/3Vgwpor Books by Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/49mxdy9 No Bad Parts - https://amzn.to/4146cxi Boundaries - https://amzn.to/3B52fO0 As Amazon Associates, we may earn on qualifying purchases

The holidays are a time of joy and togetherness, but they can also stir up unexpected feelings of grief, resentment, and emotional conflict. Why do gratitude and grief so often coexist during this season? In this powerful episode, we explore the emotional complexities of the holidays and offer insights to help you navigate them with self-awareness and compassion. We’re thrilled to be joined by Dr. Shannon Dial, LMFT, from Family Solutions Counseling in Oklahoma City, and Whitney Alexander, LMFT and EMDR Consultant (in training), and owner of the Warren-Alexander Group in Stillwater. Both are seasoned professionals in mental health and relationships, bringing valuable perspectives to this heartfelt discussion. Whitney's Profile - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staff Shannon's Profile - https://familysolutionsok.com/shannon-dial ______________________ Whitney's Previous Episodes on YouTube: - Episode 10: On the 3 Channels of Self-Awareness - https://youtube.com/live/n_psQU9kcgg?feature=share - Episode 32: On Complex PTSD - https://youtube.com/live/LpDt5yhS1t4?feature=share ----------------- EPISODE BREAKDOWN Understanding Emotional Coexistence: Discover why gratitude and grief often appear together, especially during the holidays. Cultural Pressures vs. Personal Reality: Examine the tension between societal expectations of joy and your personal emotional experience. Impact of Personal Experiences on Emotional State: Learn how strained relationships or past losses can amplify feelings of sadness or resentment during holiday gatherings. ----------------- The holidays can be challenging, but understanding the interplay between gratitude and grief is a good first step toward finding balance and peace. With expert insights from Dr. Dial and Ms. Alexander, we unpack the emotional triggers of the season and provide tools to help you navigate them more effectively. -------------- Therapist Directories: General Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma: https://www.IITAP.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ _________________ Books Mentioned in Episode: Books by Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/49mxdy9 No Bad Parts - https://amzn.to/4146cxi Boundaries - https://amzn.to/3B52fO0 As Amazon Associates, we may earn on qualifying purchases #GratitudeAndGrief #HolidayStruggles #MentalHealth #Relationships #TherapistsTakePodcast #FamilySolutionsCounseling

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the complex realities of coping with chronic illness as a family. Joined by guest Ceedee Gaddis, LMFT, we’ll explore how a long-term health condition can challenge family bonds, reshape communication, and create new expectations for support and care. Tune in for insights on building a resilient, unified family approach to chronic illness and finding pathways to hope, connection, and shared strength. ________________ Discussion Topics: 1. Impact of Chronic Illness on Family Dynamics Chronic illness often reshapes roles, routines, and responsibilities. We’ll discuss how families can acknowledge these changes and adapt in a way that reinforces unity rather than causing division. 2. Effective Communication and Emotional Support Open and honest communication is crucial, but it can be difficult to sustain in the face of long-term illness. This segment will cover strategies for talking about illness-related stressors, setting boundaries, and expressing both empathy and personal needs. 3. Coping Strategies for Family Members Coping isn’t just for the person with the illness; family members also need tools to manage stress and avoid burnout. We’ll talk about techniques and resources to help everyone in the family manage their mental and emotional health. 4. Building a Resilient Support System Chronic illness requires a long-term approach, and families benefit from a resilient support system. We’ll look at ways to cultivate support within the family and how to connect with external resources for additional strength. _________________ Guest Introduction: Ceedee Gaddis, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist at FSC Kids in Oklahoma City, specializing in family dynamics and mental health support. With a compassionate and insightful approach, Ceedee helps families navigate life’s toughest challenges, including the complexities surrounding chronic illness. Visit Ceedee on the web at https://familysolutionsok.com/ceedee-gaddis. Additionally, check out FSC Kids - https://www.FSC.kids ______________ For more great content including but not limited to, blogs, book recommendations, mental health services, and more, check out all our website and social media platforms by visiting our LinkTree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we delve into the complex world of lust, exploring how it impacts our journey toward self-control and personal power. Inspired by insights from Mirror of Intimacy by Alexandra Katehakis, we look at why lust often feels so conflicting and discuss its role in psychological growth. If you’re interested in a fresh perspective on this intense emotion, join us as we discuss ways to harmonize desire with personal values, fostering a path toward deeper self-understanding. __________________ Episode Breakdown 1. Lust as a Psychological Conflict 2. Lust as a Quest for Personal Power 3. The Conflict of Religion and Biology 4. Aligning Desire with Values ________________ Mirror of Intimacy was written by Alexandra Katehakis, founder of The Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, a clinic dedicated to guiding individuals and couples through healthy relationships and sexual healing. You can learn more about her work at The Center for Healthy Sex, and connect on social media - https://www.linktr.ee/centerforhealthysex. _____________ Books Mentioned: “Mirror of Intimacy” by Alexandra Katehakis - https://amzn.to/4ejUT6V "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl - https://amzn.to/4hNdYRO "The Picture of Dorian Gray" by Oscar Wilde - https://amzn.to/3UKpovZ As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______________ For more great content, please check out website and social media sites which can all be found here - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com

In this Halloween-themed episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive into the concept of metaphorical monsters in our relationships—those individuals who drain us, manipulate us, and leave a trail of negativity in their wake. Join us as we explore four personality types to steer clear of: Vampires, Werewolves, Witches, and Ghosts. Each figure symbolizes a different toxic relationship pattern, and we’ll unpack how to recognize them and set boundaries to protect yourself. Meet the "Monsters" We All Encounter: Vampires: These people deplete your energy, relying on "borrowed functioning" to feel stable. They’re always taking, leaving you emotionally or physically drained. Werewolves: Appearing charming on the surface, Werewolves have hidden agendas. When you’re no longer useful, they reveal their self-serving motives. Witches: With charisma and passion, Witches lure you in, but their influence is toxic. Behind their captivating words are empty promises that leave you feeling manipulated. Ghosts: These figures may seem present, but when you need them most, they disappear. They lack real commitment, vanishing when the relationship calls for substance. Listen in as we discuss these personality types and offer strategies for avoiding their impact on your life. More About Our Guest - Mackenzie Camp. Website: Https://www.familysolutionsok.com/mackenzie-camp Article: Better Boundaries: Introducing the PARC Tool - https://shorturl.at/GF7Lu ________ Featured Podcast Episode: Therapists' Take on Scary Relationships - https://www.youtube.com/live/Rs-HIvN--WI?si=GFh9ZFDEWXCff3q4 ————— Featured Halloween-Themed Books: A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness - https://amzn.to/48YKhX Halloween by Jerry Seinfeld - https://amzn.to/3UnOVL3 Five Little Pumpkins (Baby Book) - https://amzn.to/3Aev1eM As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. ______ Halloween-Themed Articles: Stephen King’s IT and the Horrors of Addiction by Joshua Nichols, LMFT, CSAT - https://shorturl.at/5zrjc Un-Masking America: Why Our Culture Needs Halloween by Joshua Nichols, LMFT, CSAT - https://shorturl.at/9gizt ______ Therapist Directory: To find a therapist near you, visit https://www.psychologytoday.com Become a client of Josh & Carrie (must be present in the state of Oklahoma at the time of service) - https://www.familysolutionsok.com _____ For more great content, check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, we dive into the controversial topic of "Fat Culture." Is the word "fat" inherently fat-shaming, or does it reflect a cultural reality? We’ll explore the psychology of disgust, how societal standards perpetuate a thin vs. fat divide, and whether acceptance of different body types means ignoring health concerns altogether. Join us for an honest conversation on the complexities of body image and societal expectations. ____________ Episode Breakdown: 1. Is “Fat” a Shameful Label? We discuss whether calling someone "fat" is inherently derogatory or a neutral descriptor of body type. 2. The Role of Disgust in Shaming How feelings of disgust influence fat shaming and the psychological impact on individuals. 3. Fat vs Thin: Cultural Imbalance Examining how society favors thinness and the resulting stigmatization of larger bodies. 4. Does Acceptance Mean No Concern? We unpack whether body acceptance should come at the expense of health awareness. ___________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified S*x Addiction Therapist): https://www.iitap.com Somatic Experiencing: https://directory.traumahealing.org EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): https://www.emdria.org/find-a-therapist/ Brainspotting: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory IFS (Internal Family Systems): https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners ____________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. ___________ Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we explore the complex relationship between sexual addiction and the brain's functioning. Join us as we discuss how compulsive behaviors are driven by the brain's reward system and how the brain gets hi-jacked when addiction forms. We also dive into practical approaches for recovery and how trauma and emotional wounds contribute to the cycle of addiction. Whether you're a mental health professional, someone affected by these issues, or simply curious about the psychology of addiction, this episode is packed with insights and hope for healing. ____________________ Episode Breakdown: Dopamine and the Neuroscience of Sex Addiction: How the brain's reward system gets hijacked, leading to compulsive behaviors. Maladaptive Coping and the Role of Trauma: How unresolved trauma fuels addiction, and why addressing these wounds is crucial for recovery. Neuroplasticity and the Challenges in Breaking the Cycle of Addiction: Why willpower alone isn’t enough and how neuroplasticity can play a role in long-term change. Finding Hope in Recovery: Practical strategies for overcoming sex addiction and regaining control, including therapy, support systems, and healthier coping mechanisms. _____________ Books and Resources: 📚Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. - https://amzn.to/402uEOW 📚Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson - https://amzn.to/400P3nl 📚Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hi-Jacks the Male Brain by William Struthers, Ph.D. - https://amzn.to/3U8LWGu 📚The Brain the Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD - https://amzn.to/4dG1VCF 📚TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction by Michael Barta, Ph.D. CSAT - https://amzn.to/3zKPmbx As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. ___________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified S*x Addiction Therapist): https://www.iitap.com Somatic Experiencing: https://directory.traumahealing.org EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): https://www.emdria.org/find-a-therapist/ Brainspotting: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory IFS (Internal Family Systems): https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners ---------- About the Hosts: Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive deep into the valuable relational purpose of difficult emotions. Anger, resentment, guilt, and feelings of defeat are often seen as negative, but they hold important messages about our relationships. Join us as we explore how these emotions can act as signals for unmet needs, boundary issues, and personal growth. We discuss how to better understand and work through these feelings to foster healthier connections and emotional resilience. If you've ever struggled with managing tough emotions in your relationships, this episode is for you! Learn how to harness these feelings for deeper self-awareness and stronger, more authentic relationships. _______ Books to Consider: 📚The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., - https://amzn.to/3XUrbz5 📚The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D., - https://amzn.to/4gVvldB 📚The Library of Brene Brown - https://amzn.to/47VxR4J ___________ Therapist Directories: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ______________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we dive into the complex world of love addiction and limerence—two often misunderstood concepts that can deeply affect personal relationships. We’ll explore how childhood trauma plays a pivotal role in forming these patterns and, most importantly, offer hope and practical steps toward recovery. Whether you’re experiencing these struggles or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with valuable insights and guidance. Key Topics We’ll Cover: Love Addiction: What Is It and How Does It Impact Relationships? We discuss the signs and behaviors of love addiction, how it can disrupt lives, and why it’s essential to address. Limerence: The Obsession of Idealized Love. Limerence is that intense, often unreciprocated feeling of infatuation that can lead to emotional turmoil. We’ll break down how it differs from genuine love and the ways it can negatively impact mental health. The Role of Childhood Trauma in Love Addiction and Limerence. Early childhood experiences shape our emotional needs and relational patterns. We’ll explore how unresolved trauma can set the stage for addictive relationships and unhealthy attachments. Hope in Recovery: Healing and Moving Toward Healthy Relationships. Recovery is possible! We’ll discuss actionable strategies, therapeutic approaches, and the hope that exists for individuals recovering from love addiction and limerence. ___ Take the ACEs Quiz - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean ___ References used for this episode: Is It Love or Limerence - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/limerence Limerence (Psychology Today) - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/limerence?sockid=048b00caf77f646d2f53132ef6f16547 What Is Love Addiction (Psychology Today) - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-new-home/201902/what-is-love-addiction?msockid=048b00caf77f646d2f53132ef6f16547 Limerence of Love Addiction (LivingWithLimerence.com) - https://livingwithlimerence.com/limerence-or-love-addiction/ Can You Be Addicted to Love - https://health.clevelandclinic.org/addicted-to-love ___ Books on Love Addiction: Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://amzn.to/3zwxu3X Ready to Heal by Kelly McDaniel - https://amzn.to/3zqwRZL Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel - https://amzn.to/47KJRGn The Deepest Well (Book on ACEs Research) by Nadine Harris - https://amzn.to/47JOmkk ____ Therapy Resources: Love Addiction Therapists: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Check out our LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ____________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this special bonus episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, couples expert Donnie Van Curen delves into the heart-wrenching experience of a broken heart. Together, we'll explore some of the toughest questions that come with this deep emotional pain: Why does it hurt so much? Will the pain ever fade? Does this signal the end of a relationship or marriage? And perhaps most importantly, is it possible to heal a broken heart while still committing to your relationship? ----- Donnie Van Curen-related links: New Path 12:2 Christian Counseling – http://www.newpathok.com Counseling1820 – http://www.counseling1820.com New Path 12:2 Facebook Page – https://www.facebook.com/New-Path-122-Christian-Counseling-1652062238426679/ Donnie’s Book, “The Best Marriage Ever” - https://amzn.to/3B6YIhT “Ask Donnie” on News9 - http://www.news9.com/story/25774243/ask-donnie-best-time-for-a-fight Family Solutions Counseling links: website - https://www.familysolutionsok.com LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok.com -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "How to Handle Intrusive Thoughts in Sex Addiction Recovery" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfPOphLTTNk -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Affiliate Disclaimers: Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, meaning if you click through and make a purchase, I may earn a commission at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, hosts Carrie and Josh dive into the world of critical thinking and logical fallacies, drawing inspiration from Adam Grant's work on the Hierarchy of Critical Thinking. Critical thinking is the ability to objectively analyze and evaluate an issue in order to form a judgment. It’s a crucial skill in our increasingly complex world, helping us to make informed decisions and avoid being misled. But even the best critical thinkers can fall victim to logical fallacies—errors in reasoning that can undermine an argument. Join us as we break down three common logical fallacies: 1. Anecdotal Fallacy: Relying on personal experiences or isolated examples instead of sound evidence to support a claim. 2. Tu Quoque Fallacy: Deflecting criticism by pointing out flaws in the critic, rather than addressing the argument itself. 3. Either/Or Fallacy: Oversimplifying a situation by presenting only two extreme options when, in reality, more possibilities exist. Understanding these fallacies is key to sharpening your critical thinking skills and making more rational decisions in both personal and professional life. Tune in to learn how to spot these fallacies in everyday conversations, and strengthen your ability to think critically. Don’t miss this essential episode for anyone looking to enhance their reasoning skills and engage in more meaningful discussions. --- Book Reference: “Think Again” by Adam Grant - https://amzn.to/3TH4L3p Logical Fallacies Website: https://www.logicalfallacies.org Logical Fallacies Detector: https://www.logicalfallacies.org/fallacy-detectory YouTube Video Reference: https://youtu.be/P3w6LTkRCZQ?si=u7MIEYf4cEocI2vR Election Stress Blog by Carl Patterson - https://familysolutionsok.com/election-stress --- **Subscribe** to our channel for more insightful episodes, and don't forget to **like** and **comment** to join the conversation! Check out our Link Tree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ---- #TherapistsTakePodcast #CriticalThinking #LogicalFallacies #AdamGrant #MentalHealth #Psychology #AnecdotalFallacy #TuQuoque #EitherOrFallacy

In this episode, Carrie and Josh take you all the way back to the very first Therapists' Take episode, before it was a podcast. Here they tackle the "Karen" phenomenon—a topic that has sparked countless debates, memes, and YouTube channels. Join us as we explore: The origins of the "Karen" phenomenon and its evolution over time. What "Karen" really means and the stereotypes it perpetuates. Whether the "Karen" label contributes to female suppression or reinforces harmful stereotypes. The idea that we all have "Karen moments" and what they reveal about us. How the "Karen" phenomenon has impacted our culture—are there redeeming qualities? Don't miss this insightful discussion that goes beyond the surface to explore the psychological and cultural implications of the "Karen" phenomenon. _________________ About the Hosts Joshua Nichols is a licensed marital and family therapist (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. In addition to his passion of creating quality mental health content, he also is co-owner and therapist of a private practice group called Family Solutions Counseling - https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Fair Use Disclaimer: This video contains copyrighted material, the use of which has not always been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making such material available in our efforts to advance understanding of issues related to childhood trauma and impact it has on our adult desire for and understanding of unconditional love. We believe this constitutes a 'fair use' of any such copyrighted material as provided for in section 107 of the US Copyright Law. In accordance with Title 17 U.S.C. Section 107, the material in this video is distributed without profit to those who have expressed a prior interest in receiving the included information for research and educational purposes. If you wish to use copyrighted material from this video for purposes of your own that go beyond 'fair use,' you must obtain permission from the copyright owner.

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the emotional turmoil faithful partners experience after infidelity, particularly the pervasive feeling of foolishness. We'll explore why so many partners blame themselves and break down the three most common ways this feeling manifests: "I feel foolish for letting it happen," "I feel foolish for letting it happen again," and "I feel foolish for staying." We'll also discuss how to navigate the uncertainty that follows betrayal and the journey toward regaining a sense of self. Join us as we unpack these complex emotions and offer insights to help faithful partners find healing and empowerment. _________________ Recommended Books for Faithful Partners Impacted by Infidelity: The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays - https://amzn.to/4dvY4sQ Mending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes - https://amzn.to/3Av8ryj Intimate Deception by Sheri Keffer - https://amzn.to/3M7lLeH _________________ Therapist Directories: CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) - Betrayal Trauma Informed Website: https://www.iitap.com/find-a-professional EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Website: https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS (Internal Family Systems) Website: https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing Website: https://directory.traumahealing.org/ Neurofeedback Website: https://isnr.org/neurofeedback-directory Brainspotting Website: https://www.brainspotting.com/directory _________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) and certified sex addiction therapists (CSAT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website - www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include Instagram and Apple Podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _________________ Articles by Carrie & Josh - What Is Transitional Distrust - https://shorturl.at/gpuTZ - Introducing Reflection Aggression - https://shorturl.at/bpHPW - The 12 Types of Gaslighting - https://shorturl.at/dHb4Q _________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 _________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

In this episode of the Therapists' Take Podcast, we are joined by Whitney Alexander, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR therapist and consultant, and founder of the Warren Alexander Group. Whitney brings a wealth of knowledge and experience in trauma therapy, particularly in addressing the complexities of PTSD. Today, we’ll explore the profound impact of Complex PTSD and delve into the feelings of brokenness that often accompany it. Join us for an insightful discussion on how to navigate the journey of healing from deep emotional wounds. ___________ Here some of the topics you'll hear discussed in this episode: What Is Complex PTSD The Concept of Mis-Attunement The Concept of Emotional Flashbacks "Being Seen" as It Relates to Complex PTSD "Brokenness" and the Impact on Self Guilt vs [Toxic] Shame Childhood Origins and the Power of Repair No One Wants a Sad Story Therapeutic Approaches and Building Your Team Practical Steps Toward Healing and Resiliency _________ Books: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker - https://amzn.to/3WEkoctHealing the Shame that Binds You - https://amzn.to/3Agxwgr What Happened to You by Bruce Perry & Oprah Winfrey - https://amzn.to/3WWFd3X What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo - https://amzn.to/3YFj8s6 The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk - https://amzn.to/4dFc2Iv —————- Learn More About Our Guest - https://warrenalexandergroup.com/our-staff Check our Link Tree for more great content - https://linktr.ee/familysolutionsok __________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com EMDR Therapist Directory - https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/ IFS Therapist Directory - https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Somatic Experiencing - https://directory.traumahealing.org/ ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________________ Equipment Used & Other Amazon Links: Mic Stands - https://amzn.to/46o4So6 Rode Pod Mic - https://amzn.to/3Rsw5Sz Pyle Mixer Board - https://amzn.to/3ZsJU5g iRig Pre 2 - https://amzn.to/3ZpCPm9 As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases. #ComplexPTSD #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealthPodcast

I think it is safe to say that the challenges parents face in the twenty-first century are far more complex than the challenges parents faced even one or two generations ago. What do we tend to blame? Technology! In reality, technology has always been the bane of parental existence. The world has always been going to hell in a hand basket. How many generations of parents can relate to that feeling when they stumble across their children’s magazines or comics books, music albums or playlists, movie interests or YouTube subscriptions. How many times have we sighed and rolled our eyes in that “hell in a hand basket” sort of way? I think we all can relate. But there is something different about the world today that just didn’t exist 30 years ago, or at least to the capacity that it does today. That difference is how digital our world has become. So, although parents have always battled the evolution of tech, the challenges parents face today due the rapid evolution and vast presence of tech is unparalleled to generations before. In this episode of Therapists’ Take, Carrie and Josh are going to talk about the real parental challenges of raising children in a digital world. This episode will follow the following format: - Why are parents concerned about the advancements of tech? Why does this characterize parents for generations? - What’s the differences between digital natives and digital immigrants? Why does it matter? - What are unhelpful responses? The problem with tech-shaming. - What are optimal responses? The power of relationships and healthy attachments. ________________________ Books: Closer Together Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work, and Relationships by Robert Weiss & Jennifer P. Schneider - https://amzn.to/3yeDyxd The Distracted Mind: Ancient Brains in a High-Tech World by Adam Gazzaley and Larry D. Rosen - https://amzn.to/3Ylh2NV Video Games and Your Kids: How Parents Stay in Control by Hilarie Cash and Kim McDaniel - https://amzn.to/4bWlRjL ________________________ YouTube by RecoveryTV: Is Tech Ruining Society and Relationships with/ Dr. Rob Weiss - https://youtu.be/W2Z48giYxR0?si=B5iLYtFid5tQYbcI Parenting in a P*rnified Culture w/ Diana Giles - https://youtu.be/OqKED5SdGD4?si=Lh5ipOnj8GPCwzYo 5 Ways to Protect Children from Online P*** w/ Diana Giles - https://youtu.be/xXBb0bvY2fE?si=ETwh30V5jevU4UCB ________________________ Websites Sensible Cyber Parenting - https://sensiblecyberparenting.com Culture Reframed - https://culturereframed.org ________________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com ________________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok ______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Everybody has heard of sexual infidelity, but what is financial infidelity? If fidelity is the “quality or state of being faithful,” according to Merriam-Webster.com, then “infidelity” would be the opposite of that, which might be why “unfaithful” has become synonymous with sexual infidelity. So, we can safely assume that financial infidelity is some kind of egregious relational violation involving the family finances. Debra Kaplan, in her book “For Love and Money” defines it as, “…the keeping of financial secrets in an intimate partnership.” In this episode of Therapists’ Take podcast, Carrie and Josh are going to discuss the concept of financial infidelity. The structure of this episode will go as follows: - What Are the Variations of Financial Infidelity? - Are There Any Links to Sexual Infidelity? - What Are Red Flags? - Any Preventative Measures? Thanks for tuning in to this episode. As always please check out the resources linked in the below. ___________________ Books by Debra Kaplan: For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships - https://amzn.to/3y6MWD8 Coupleship Inc.: From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy- https://amzn.to/3LwgFs8 Battle of the Titans: Battling the Forces of Sex, Money, and Power in Relationships - https://amzn.to/4d5ujhK _____________________ Resources: Debra Kaplan's Website - https://debrakaplancounseling.com/ Family Solutions Counseling Website - https://www.familysolutionsok.com Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. ________________ As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

Have you ever done something truly courageous? If so, what was it? What made it an act of courage for you? If you haven’t, then why not? What has held you back? Is it possible you were brave at times, yet your brain doesn’t conceptualize it as courage? Courage is a complicated concept and phenomenon. Most human beings over the age of three have displayed acts of courage. So how come we often don’t feel that way? How come we can do something that is objectively brave, yet we don’t feel brave? In this episode of the Therapists’ Take Podcast, host Joshua Nichols, and guest host, Rebel Buersmeyer, will walk us through the complexities of the phenomenon in effort to help us understand it better. You'll hear an amazing story of courage where Rebel was in the position where she was compelled to land a small plane on an unfamiliar landing strip. Rebel and Josh will also discuss the role shame plays, the role of fear, and the problem they have with the concept of "cowardice." Here are some great quotes from the episode: "You only have to be brave five seconds at a time." "The opposite of being courageous isn't cowardice, it's just being." ____________________________ The structure of this episode will be as follows: 00:00 - Hi, Rebel! 02:00 - Episode Format 05:55 - Rebel's Courage While Flying a Plane 17:10 - Defining Courage 23:10 - Paradoxical Courage 33:35 - The Problem of Cowardice 42:50 - The Power of Short-Lived Courage __________________ Therapy Resources: Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357 The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/ BOOK: Will by Will Smith - https://amzn.to/465ndrq ________________ About the Hosts Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com. Follow us on our other platforms which include instagram and apple podcasts. Links can be found on our Link Tree - https://www.linktr.ee/familysolutionsok _______________ Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms. And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned. As Amazon Associates, we earn from qualifying purchases.