Total Woman Podcast

In this heartwarming episode, I deliver on my long-awaited promise by bringing a special guest Dr. Istifanus Bako (My Husband), to join me. Together, we share our beautiful love story, exploring how faith and serendipity brought us together. Dr. Bako reflects on our first meeting at a medical outreach in Langtang,  Plateau State, recounting how he nervously asked for my number as a broke medical student. He talks about his search for a serious relationship and how his ideal woman changed when he met me. I also share my perspective, admitting I wasn’t even looking for a relationship then. I reflect on how my superficial preferences evolved, realizing I got everything I needed in Dr. Bako. Through laughter and introspection, we discuss the importance of rising above expectations, embracing imperfections, and building a relationship rooted in friendship. This episode celebrates love, offering valuable insights for anyone seeking their "Mr. or Mrs. Right." Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow. You can also watch the full episode on our Youtube Channel at Total Woman Podcast

In this episode, I discuss how I met Mr Right. I went through the acute fear of getting married because of failed marriages. It became a question of, "What version do you bring to the table to ensure he is the man?" Marriage is where we cultivate each other. I aimed to embody the qualities I sought in a man, prioritizing spiritual alignment. Despite having spiritual direction, my vanity almost made me miss my husband because he didn't fit my ideal package. One key lesson in choosing a life partner is overcoming vanity—know and accept yourself. His confidence and belief in himself drew me to him. Though dating brought challenges, I am happy with my choice and have no regrets. We didn't let sex overshadow us before marriage, allowing us to develop a deep understanding of each other. What did you think were crucial at the start of a relationship but later realized weren't? In this episode, we'll explore these insights and more. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow. 

In this episode, I explore the journey of understanding relationships and personal growth. After gaining insight into how God operates, I felt it was time to reevaluate my views on men. I realised that everyone struggles with something from their past, including those who may have wronged us, and this understanding helped me learn to extend grace. I had lost faith and confidence in men, but I decided to set standards like abstinence and purity, which narrowed my dating pool significantly. I focused on becoming a better version of myself, embodying the qualities I wanted in others, such as hard work, openness, and transparency. Mastering communication, learning to ask for help, and being accountable were essential. I discovered that people are often willing to help if you just ask. During my self-improvement journey, I met many interesting people but didn't let their opinions define me. It's crucial to understand what you want from a relationship and to give yourself time to heal from past ones. This helps redefine what you're looking for and ensures you're ready for a healthy partnership. What is your ideal partner like? Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I discuss my journey through church navigation, searching for a suitable place to worship. During this period, I encountered various misconceptions the church faced, such as issues with dressing and some strange doctrines. I felt a persistent sense of seeking something more, leading me to read scripture and pray more directly. The love I experienced during my initial encounter with Jesus seemed absent in these places. I sought intimacy with God, and I realized I could not find it in a particular location. Instead of complaining about what was missing, I decided to become part of the solution. In my quest to know God more, I realized that most of the restrictions that keep us from faith conversations are man-made, not from God. I also discovered that while the church speaks highly of God, it often fails to connect its members with the God of the church. This prioritization of the church over God was significant for me. We should strive to mirror God in His purest form and let people determine their own place. Church is not something to inherit; let's inherit God. Setting aside cultural and religious interferences and experiencing a direct revelation of God is possible.  Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I continue sharing my faith journey. I realised that although I had found Christ, I still struggled with my past life and worldly activities like partying and spending time with people who didn’t support my faith. However, certain experiences led me to understand prayer as a conversation with God. Over time, I felt God's love and decided to stand out and make a difference in my Christian life. Despite this, Christianity still seemed boring to me, so I continued my journey of discovery. This quest led me to search for the right church, resulting in some church hopping. Through these experiences, I discovered that there is much more to God than I initially realised. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I share my story of losing and rediscovering my faith in God. I discuss the struggles and doubts I faced after experiencing rape and feeling like a perpetual victim. In desperation, I prayed for help, and God sent a loving individual who supported me. Despite this, I found it hard to talk about my faith crisis with my parents. Throughout my journey, God sent reminders of His love and presence. Over time, I saw clear signs of His love and began to accept His presence in my life. Finally, God led me to the Book of Romans, inspiring a deeper study of His word and marking a turning point in my spiritual journey. Join me as I explore rediscovering faith, understanding divine love, and finding solace in the word of God. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I dig deeper into the narrative shared in our last episode, exploring my journey into me. Despite encountering the trauma of rape, I made a conscious decision not to allow it to dictate my identity or dictate the course of my life. Instead of succumbing to victimhood, I established crucial boundaries and rediscovered my faith in God. Furthermore, I embarked on a profound journey of forgiveness and rebuilding trust in my relationship with God and within my family. This path was challenging; it demanded substantial introspection and therapy. However, through perseverance and dedication, I emerged on the other side as a stronger, more resilient individual. My experience proves the possibility of healing, growth, and joy amidst adversity. Join me as I share the lessons learned and the transformative power of faith and familial bonds. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

The same things that shape you can also mar you. In this episode, I discuss personal experiences that have guided me in finding a sense of family in various stages of life. From enduring physical, sexual, and emotional abuse to grappling with religious misconceptions, these experiences profoundly influenced my decisions and obscured certain aspects of life. Feeling betrayed by those meant to protect me fuelled anger within me for a significant period. Through this journey, I discovered the importance of confronting and experiencing these challenges to facilitate healing from a mental health standpoint. I hope that this revealing episode guides you towards your path of healing and purpose discovery. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I continue my discussion on family as a deterrent to purpose.  I explore the profound impact family can have on our pursuit of purpose and how fostering a nurturing environment within our familial circles is paramount. I discuss the importance of clear communication, setting communicated expectations, having shared visions and respecting individual differences within the family unit. I leave you with an important question, “How do you remain aligned in purpose?” Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of family and how they impact our pursuit of purpose. Family, often regarded as the cornerstone of society, can present challenges and opportunities alike. How do we navigate these challenges to harness the potential of this unit effectively? I specifically delve into the roles of parents and siblings in nurturing and supporting us towards fulfilling our purpose. From the crucial role of parents as the heads of the family to the importance of fostering a growth mindset, I uncover the significance of intentional nurturing and communication within families. Join me as I discuss how families can cultivate environments that foster moral, spiritual, and creative growth, ultimately shaping our journey towards purpose. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this  episode, I explore the intricate dynamics of family and its impact on our purpose. I delve into how family interactions, cultural traditions, and religious beliefs can either propel us forward or hinder our path to fulfilment. Furthermore, I discuss the importance of rising above familial expectations and embracing realistic goals. Also, I examine the pitfalls of limited perspectives and the necessity of objectivity in pursuing one's purpose. Join me as I navigate the complexities of family as both a support system and a potential deterrent to individual purpose. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I explore the topic "Laziness as a Deterrent to Purpose." Laziness hinders purpose by impeding necessary efforts and processes. It manifests in different ways, such as procrastination, tiredness, lack of self-worth, and easy distractions. I also discuss three major types of laziness: physical, mental, and spiritual laziness. To overcome laziness and achieve one's purpose, I identify some remedies, such as setting goals and engaging in self-evaluation. This episode is loaded with much wisdom. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I explore "The Flawed Concept of Rest." Are you constantly feeling the need to rest? It might be a sign of lacking purpose. Additionally, I delve into the driving force of purpose, the importance of soft skills, and how to structure your life. Inspired by the biblical concept of God working for six days before resting, I unravel the true purpose of rest—it's about preparing for the next phase, not an excuse for laziness. I draw a connection between self-discovery, finding your rhythm, and earning the luxury of rest. In a world that often confuses rest with idleness, I challenge you to wake up and get to work. Learn why entrepreneurs are hard workers and understand the significance of showcasing excellence wherever you are. Remember, your time is precious; guard it diligently. Join me as I explore the journey from figuring things out to reaching the place of rest, emphasising timing, persistence, and tenacity. Let's not enable the flawed concept of rest but inspire each other to achieve remarkable feats.  Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, the focus is on the factors that drive purpose beyond mere declarations. Discipline, commitment, and consistency, along with the principle of productivity, sustain one's path of purpose. The story of Joseph illustrates the impact of work ethics, commitment, and innovation in attracting respect and favour.  The importance of understanding and building a solid foundation in one's calling is emphasised, viewing challenges as opportunities for growth. Belief in one's calling, continuous learning, and showcasing abilities are keys to commanding respect.  I encourage listeners to break free from redundancy and financial dependency and highlight the personal journey of self-discovery before benefiting others. It stresses the transformative process as a confidence-building exercise, promoting mastery and purpose. The podcast concludes with a call for intentional self-improvement and daily learning for personal advancement. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, we delve into the obstacles preventing us from realising our true potential. Often, despite recognizing our capabilities, many fail to reach their intended goals. Embracing growth should be a daily pursuit, a commitment to becoming the best version of ourselves. Our sense of purpose acts as a guiding force, constantly propelling us forward. However, certain factors, like rigid religious beliefs and societal labels, confine us within narrow boundaries. These constraints limit our individuality and force us into moulds that don't fit who we truly are. Sacrificing aspects of our personality to please others can lead to complications. What defines us also makes us unique. 5:07 - Various forms of abuse and oppression hinder meaningful conversations. 15:09 - Our generation often complacently accepts imposed norms. 24:05 - Pursuing one's purpose demands immense courage. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

On this episode, I discuss the kind of productivity that God expects. God has already bestowed upon you the raw materials and it is up to you to use it wisely. Prayer can guide you in finding direction, but the actual work must be carried out by you. Remember, to whom much is given, much is expected. It's not a lack of money that hinders you from fulfilling your responsibilities, but a lack of discipline. Learn to nurture your skills. The choices we make in our lifestyles come at a daily cost. Let's strive to build a supportive community that aids one another in our endeavours. 8:02 – The greatest hindrance to productivity is laziness 13:42 – In this generation, we have access to numerous tools that we can harness.  21:00 – Your calling is self-sustaining. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

Episode 8 - The Deterrent of Purpose  The essence of purpose is fulfilment, and the fundamental idea behind it is to positively impact lives. Often, we yearn for more from life but find ourselves trapped in a mindset of mediocrity, preventing us from taking actions that qualify us for greater achievements. Purpose is the driving force that motivates individuals to build from the ground up. The reason we often fall short of making a genuine impact is our lack of discipline and tenacity. Take the time to assess your life, identify areas where things may have gone awry, and be open to making necessary adjustments. Be willing to try again. 3:25 - remember that purpose is the potential that God has already placed within you. 15:30 - We may have grand dreams, but we often struggle to break them down into actionable steps for daily progress. 24:05-  it's important to recognize that failure can be a valuable teacher, helping you understand what you should avoid in your pursuit of purpose. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

Today, I continue my exploration of purpose. Many people exist without understanding that life should be guided by a sense of purpose. Purpose is the intrinsic value you bring to your actions, leading to fulfilment. Sometimes, you may feel called to a significant purpose but doubt your qualifications. It's essential to nurture your soul, as the journey to discover your purpose is a specific process. Pursue your calling ardently, uncovering your true self in the process. Unresolved issues burden our lives and hinder us from achieving our purpose. Life is challenging enough without carrying unnecessary baggage. Self-improvement will help you discern your purpose and embrace your uniqueness. 5:10 - Society often takes without giving back. 15:30 - Unresolved traumas significantly influence today's decisions. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

Today, I continue my discussion on purpose, delving into the process of making it visible. Discovering your purpose doesn't mean expecting worship; true excellence attracts accolades naturally. Purpose is just the start. After finding it, you must work towards your unique mission, to lead a life of impact. With purpose, there's a defined process; it's not an instant result. Often, we overlook the significance of challenges and opportunities on our path. A life of impact is a life of purpose. Let's not just discover purpose but also explore HOW we can fine tune our purpose to become whole.  Some key timestamps 3:35 - What's your purpose?  10:12 - Influence makes your message travel further.  15:49 - Purpose has a structured process.  29:00 - When you realise you're destined for more, ask important questions. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, I explore the concept of purpose, particularly in the context of remarkable women from history who exemplified unwavering determination. Purpose is an individual's profound guiding principle. Considering that the fundamental human purpose is to worship God, both men and women seek expressions aligned with divine worship. This leads to a vital question:  how many of us truly take the time to introspect and ask ourselves why we exist and what our role on this planet entails? Purpose evolves from a seed to a blossoming idea. To discover it, we must be receptive to divine guidance. For Christians, our primary purpose is to manifest Christ's presence on Earth. Regular self-evaluation is crucial for growth and daily improvement. Here are some key timestamps: 7:00 - The existence of purpose hinges on our connection with God. 13:35 - Purpose defines both who you are and what you are destined to become. 17:40 - Every obstacle in your path is an opportunity for character development, preparing you for the divine calling. 23:30 - The ultimate objective of discovering one's purpose is the advancement of the Kingdom of God. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

I begin today's episode discussing the significance of hygiene, especially as we age. Hygiene should never be underestimated. Maintaining cleanliness, including taking care of pubic hair and armpits, becomes increasingly important over time. Reflecting on my past, I share the memory of receiving my first love letter and how my father provided me with books that prepared me for puberty. Navigating the path to womanhood requires guidance. I question who is guiding your daughter on this journey. Attention from men can have two dimensions: one based on perceived value and the other on being undervalued. This stage also involves addressing various conversations about sex. Properly educating children about the potential side effects of contraceptives is vital. By providing well-guided information that strikes a balance between spirituality and practicality, many of the challenges we encounter could be avoided. Equipping children with age-appropriate knowledge empowers them to make informed decisions. Moreover, it's essential to discover one's identity and rectify any missed opportunities for personal growth. The timeline of the episode is as follows: 6:00 – Tips for smelling pleasant, including the use of roll-on and body spray. 9:40 – The dynamics of romantic relationships between individuals. 18:00 – The transition from written communication (letters) to digital communication (phones). 22:15 – The importance of instilling early beliefs that will shape a child's perspective and actions. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

In this episode, we continue our discussion on the transitional journey from girlhood to womanhood. We explore various aspects of this transformation, including the reactions to breast development, the significance of bra sizing and selection, as well as the onset of monthly periods. We also address the challenges associated with menstruation, such as coping with cramps, and examine natural remedies that can offer relief during this time. Furthermore, we emphasise the importance of approaching the process of guiding a girl into womanhood with sensitivity and tact. Educators, especially those in junior secondary schools, play a crucial role in providing appropriate guidance and support during these transformative phases, as they are pivotal moments when these changes often occur. Maintaining proper hygiene such as bathing at least twice daily and conscientiously changing tampons and pads to ensure cleanliness and comfort is a crucial factor during menstruation. Furthermore, the podcast touches on the topic of acne or pimples and explores potential natural remedies to address this common concern. Timestamps of key points in the episode: 4:05: The phenomenon of girls experiencing discomfort due to breast development. 9:23: Responding to the arrival of the monthly period and acknowledging that its onset can vary among individuals. 16:28: The discussion shifts to the occurrence of intense pain during ovulation for some individuals. 19:11: Strategies for managing and addressing issues related to acne or pimples are explored. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: Total Woman Podcast Instagram: @totalwomanpodcast Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

This episode delves into the topic of childhood upbringing by focusing on the crucial developmental stage experienced by children aged 9 to 14 years. These developmental changes include aspects such as the growth of pubic hair. Meaningful conversations regarding these changes should take place between mothers and daughters, fostering an environment where the young girl feels comfortable expressing herself. This open dialogue not only strengthens the bond between them but also allows for the celebration of the various developmental stages that girls undergo. It is important for parents to avoid causing any potential trauma while also educating themselves to better guide their children. Teaching children about proper care and hygiene is essential. The transition into womanhood should be marked by celebration, rather than a strict set of rules imposed on young women. Girls should be equipped with the necessary knowledge to confidently navigate life's journey. 4:30 - A communication barrier emerges between mothers and daughters when certain subjects become challenging to discuss. 11:30 - Developmental stages vary among individuals, highlighting the need for personalised guidance. 17:20 - Determining age-appropriate information to share with girls aged 9 to 14 is explored. 26:10 - Cultural influences have impacted the upbringing of young girls, leading to a loss of fundamental information. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: Total Woman Podcast Instagram: @totalwomanpodcast Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.

On today's episode, we delve into the exciting topic of childhood upbringing by exploring the balanced approach to childhood upbringing using the case study of children aged 0-9 years old. We understand that many people may wonder what a child of this age can know and what differences exist between boys and girls at this stage in relation to upbringing. That's why we break it down into basic chores that children should know how to do at this age and examine the differences between genders. We call for a balanced approach to childhood upbringing, one that allows for growth and development while recognizing the unique needs of each child. 3:00: there is a level of perfection expected from the girl child 7:03: At what point does the girl child get to be just a child? 9:40: We need to rethink how we raise our daughters Don't forget to follow us on Facebook: ⁠Total Woman Podcast ⁠ Instagram: ⁠@totalwomanpodcast⁠ Also, rate, subscribe, like and share this podcast so that others can find it and the Total Woman Podcast family can grow.