Unshakable You

Most people try to change their life with a wish. Unshakable people change their life with a commitment. In this season finale of the Identity Reset Series, Roger guides you through a powerful audio ceremony: writing and signing your Identity Contract. This isn’t just a worksheet—it is a binding agreement between you and yourself to stop living in the past and start inhabiting your new future. In this episode, you will be guided to write: The Honor Clause: Acknowledging how your old identities served you, so you can release them with gratitude instead of shame.The "No Longer Available" List: Drawing clear, non-negotiable boundaries around the behaviors and treatment you are done accepting.The Declaration of Becoming: Defining exactly who you are now, based on your Next Me Blueprint.The Recovery Protocol: A specific plan for what you will do when you inevitably forget who you are.This episode is designed to be interactive. If possible, listen with a pen and your journal (or the companion workbook) in hand. This is where you stop hoping things will change, and you sign your name to the person you are becoming. Your reset is complete. Now your life begins. This podcast is the audio companion to the paperback book Unshakable You. Pair this episode with your worksheet and ask yourself: Which story is mine—and what’s my next micro-action? Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide worksheet! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

What does identity change actually look like in real life—when it’s messy, imperfect, and happening in the middle of work, relationships, and stress? In this bonus episode, Roger shares real listener breakthroughs (and anonymized stories) to bring the Unshakable Identity Reset Method to life. You’ll hear how people moved from “I’m not enough” into new self-trust by applying the same 5 steps you’ve been walking through all season: SEE • NAME • SHAPE • LIVE • PROTECT. In this episode, you’ll experience: How everyday triggers reveal the old identities beneath them (Pleaser, Overachiever, Ghost, Critic, and more)The small “identity reps” that created big shifts over timeWhat protecting the new identity really looks like when life pulls you backReflection prompts to help you identify the breakthrough you’re building right nowThis podcast is the audio companion to the paperback book Unshakable You. Pair this episode with your workbook and ask yourself: Which story is mine—and what’s my next micro-action? Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide workbook! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

Change doesn’t fail because you “don’t want it enough.” It fails because you don’t know how to protect the new you when life gets loud. In this episode, Roger walks you through PROTECT, the fifth step of the Unshakable Identity Reset Method. You’ll learn how to hold your new identity when stress, old environments, and familiar people try to drag you back into who you used to be. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why “wobbling” back into old patterns is normal—and not a sign you’ve failedThe four-step Pullback Protocol to use when you notice yourself slipping: Pause, Name, Normalize, ChooseHow to set outer boundaries with people and situations that keep you smallHow to set inner boundaries with your own self-talk and behaviorThe role of resilience rituals in keeping you grounded and unshakable over timeUse this episode with the Unshakable You paperback and companion workbook to create your personal Identity Protection Plan—so your new self doesn’t vanish the moment life tests you. Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

Your identity doesn’t change because you understand it. It changes because you live it. In this episode, Roger guides you through LIVE IT, the fourth step of the Unshakable Identity Reset Method. You’ll learn how to translate your new identity from Episode 6 into simple, repeatable micro‑actions that prove to your brain, “This is who I am now.” In this episode, you’ll discover: Why big, dramatic changes rarely stick—but tiny consistent actions doThe difference between self‑respect actions, self‑trust actions, and self‑expression actionsHow to design 3 daily “Identity Reps” (morning, daytime, evening) that align with your Next Me BlueprintHow to tweak your environment so it supports your new identity instead of pulling you back into the old oneUse this episode with the Unshakable You book and companion workbook to move beyond insight and into embodiment—so your new identity stops being an idea on paper and starts becoming the way you actually live. Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

Seeing and naming your old identity is only half the work. Now you decide who you’re becoming. In this episode, Roger leads you through SHAPE, the third step of the Unshakable Identity Reset Method from the book UNSHAKABLE YOU by A B Mustikin. You’ll move from “I don’t want to be like this anymore” to a clear, grounded picture of the Next Me you’re building—without fake affirmations or fantasy versions of yourself. In this episode, you’ll discover: How to define the core values, beliefs, and standards of your future selfWhy vague goals like “be more confident” don’t work—and what to do insteadA guided process to create your personal Next Me BlueprintHow to write identity statements that feel true and stretching, not cheesy or forcedUse this episode with the Unshakable You book and companion workbook to design an identity you can actually live into—so you’re no longer just escaping the old you, but intentionally shaping who you are next. Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

Once you see your patterns, the next step is to call them out. In this episode, Roger walks you through NAME, the second step of the Unshakable You Identity Reset Method. Instead of vaguely thinking “I’m just messed up,” you’ll start identifying the specific old identities and inner characters that have been running your life—like The Pleaser, The Ghost, The Overachiever, or The Critic. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why naming an identity instantly reduces its power over youHow to turn foggy self‑judgment into clear, workable patternsA simple “Old Identity Dossier” exercise to map each part of you—its beliefs, fears, and costsHow to talk to your old identities instead of talking from themThis is one of the most transformative steps in the entire process. Pair this episode with the Unshakable You book and the companion workbook to begin separating who you truly are from the roles and stories you’ve been stuck in. Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

Before you can change who you think you are, you have to see what’s actually running the show. In this episode, Roger guides you through SEE, the first step of the Unshakable Identity Reset Method. You’ll learn how to observe your reactions, emotions, and habits like a compassionate detective—so “this is just how I am” starts to become “oh, that’s a pattern.” In this episode, you’ll discover: How to tell the difference between you and your conditioningThe 3 types of loops that shape your identity: emotional, behavioral, and story loopsA simple “Pattern Log” exercise to track your triggers and automatic reactions in real timeHow to notice your “not enough” moments without spiraling into shameUse this episode alongside the Unshakable You book by A B Mustikin and the companion workbook to start SEE‑ing your life clearly—so you can finally stop blaming yourself and start understanding yourself. Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

You don’t change your identity by accident. You change it by walking a clear path. In this episode, Roger breaks down the full Unshakable Identity Reset Method you’ll be using for the rest of the series — the same 5‑step framework from the Unshakable You book: SEE • NAME • SHAPE • LIVE • PROTECT In this episode, you’ll discover: What each step really means — beyond the buzzwordsHow SEE helps you spot the patterns and emotional loops running your lifeHow NAME separates you from the old identities you’ve been living insideHow SHAPE turns “better me” into a concrete identity blueprintHow LIVE and PROTECT translate identity into daily behavior and long‑term resilienceThis episode is your map for the entire 10‑episode journey. Pair it with Chapter 3 of the Unshakable You book and the companion workbook so you know exactly where you are — and where you’re going — in your identity reset. Download the podcast Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

How Your Identity Was Formed Without Your Permission You weren’t born thinking you’re “too much,” “not enough,” or “the one who always messes it up.” Those beliefs were built around you. In this episode, Roger breaks down how your identity was quietly shaped by childhood dynamics, culture, family rules, and unspoken expectations—long before you had the language to question any of it. You’ll see that you’re not broken; you’ve been programmed. And what was programmed can be rewritten. In this episode, you’ll discover: How your family, culture, and early experiences wrote “rules” about who you’re allowed to beThe difference between who you truly are and the role you learned to play to feel safe or lovedWhat identity loops are, and how they keep proving your old story “right”A simple set of questions to map the early messages that still drive your decisions todayThis podcast is the audio companion to the book Unshakable You. Pair this episode with Chapter 2 to deepen your awareness and start seeing your current identity as conditioning—not destiny. Download the companion Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

 Why You Feel “Not Enough” (The Hidden Story in Your Mind) If “I’m not enough” is the quiet sentence behind your career, your relationships, or the way you talk to yourself, this episode is where your reset begins. Roger breaks down why that feeling isn’t proof that you’re broken – it’s proof that you’ve been living inside an old story about who you are. You’ll start to see how that story formed, how it keeps replaying, and why it shows up even when your life looks “fine” from the outside. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why “not enough” is an identity story, not a personality flawHow your brain turns painful moments into a lifelong narrative about who you areThe real cost of living as the “not enough” version of youA simple written prompt to start separating you from the story you’ve been believingThis podcast is the audio companion to the book Unshakable You by A B Mustikin. Use this episode alongside Chapter 1 to deepen your reflection and start naming the story that’s been running your life. Download the companion Identity Reset Guide too! Tap here Listen first, then grab a pen. This is the moment you stop treating “not enough” as a fact—and start seeing it as the story you’re ready to rewrite. GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK HERE!

This short introduction sets the stage for the entire Unshakable You Identity Reset Series. Author A B Mustikin shares why most people don’t fall apart because they’re weak or “broken”—they fall apart because no one ever taught them how to become unshakable at the level of identity. If you’ve lived with the quiet story of “I’m not enough,” this is where that story starts to be rewritten. In this episode, you’ll discover: What “identity work” actually is (and why most self‑improvement never reaches it)How your sense of “who I am” shapes your confidence, choices, and relationshipsAn overview of the 5‑Step Unshakable Identity Reset Method: SEE • NAME • SHAPE • LIVE • PROTECTHow this limited 10‑episode series is structured: 8 core identity reset episodes + 2 bonus episodes (real listener breakthroughs and the Identity Contract ceremony)How to use the Unshakable You paperback and companion workbook alongside the podcast for deeper transformationYou’ll also hear how Roger Blake will guide you through each step with stories, frameworks, and practical tools you can apply immediately. If you feel stuck in the same patterns, constantly “not enough,” or disconnected from the person you know you could be—start here. Take a breath. Ground yourself.  Your reset begins now. GRAB THE UNSHAKABLE YOU BOOK BY A B MUSTIKIN: GRAB THE BOOK HERE Download the Identity Reset Guide to go along this podcast >> DOWNLOAD GUIDEBOOK  Then, listen to this introduction, and move straight into Episode 1:  “Why You Feel ‘Not Enough’ — The Hidden Story in Your Mind.”