UNSTUCK by Shey

So I posted a reel yesterday and my DMs have been going insane since.It was about that moment you realize you’ve been shrinking yourself just to keep someone. Adjusting your voice, your needs, your whole personality — not because you wanted to, but because somewhere along the way you learned that the smaller version of you was easier for them to handle.And that’s what we’re getting into today. The real conversation.Because it’s not just about the person you lost. It’s about the version of YOU that went quiet trying to keep them. The confidence that slipped. The standards that dropped. The gut feeling you ignored over and over again until you stopped trusting yourself completely.We’re also going deeper on something I touched on in the reel — watch how a person loves themselves. Because that is exactly the love they have available for you. Every time.And at the end we’re doing a coaching exercise that’s going to make you name what staying actually cost you. Not surface stuff. The real stuff. “Remember who you are, Simba!” 😂 (forever my favorite scene from the Lion King)

I have a friend who told me she wasn’t ready to pursue someone she liked because she was “still healing.” And when I asked her healing from what — she couldn’t answer me.And I sat there like… GIRL. That’s not healing. That’s hiding with a vision board.But before you come for her — I have been her. We have all been her.This episode is about the thing nobody wants to say out loud: that somewhere along the way, “I’m working on myself” became the most socially acceptable way to avoid your life. And we dressed it up so nicely that we stopped being able to tell the difference.We’re getting into why you keep repeating the same patterns even though you’ve done the work, what hiding actually looks like when it’s wearing healing’s clothes, and the one question that will tell you everything you need to know about where you actually are.Plus, we’re doing a coaching exercise at the end that is going to make you uncomfortably honest with yourself. In the best way.If you’ve been ‘not ready’ for longer than you care to admit: this one’s for you! Oh and happy 15th episode to me! Thank you all for making it happen 😜❤️

Aren’t we all guilty of being a little delulu sometimes? In this episode, I’m exposing myself a little but you guys like when I do that 😂So, at one point, if you asked me if I’ve ever been in love, I would’ve thought of ONE person—and no, it wasn’t even my ex-husband.😩🙈I thought this person was the LOVE OF MY LIFE…Like… lost my mind, thinking about him 24/7, planning a whole future, convinced this was it.And then I had a random, mid-shower realization:I don’t miss him.I miss who I was when I was with him.So if you’re sitting there replaying memories, missing someone who’s no longer in your life, or convincing yourself that what you had was rare and irreplaceable…this episode is your gentle (but slightly savage) wake-up call.We’re talking about:    •    why you’re actually not missing them    •    how your brain romanticizes the highlight reel    •    the difference between delulu vs trululu    •    and how to stop emotionally catfishing yourself 😭Shhh… WE got this! You don’t need them back.You need YOU back. Moving on starts by understanding why your past doesn’t need to be in your future for you to succeed.

Well it’s no secret that these last two weeks truly took a toll on me. Ironically, I kept meeting with clients who said “I’m numb,” “I feel nothing, Shey,” “what’s the point?” at the same time as I felt exactly the same way. I lost someone close to me, I got hospitalized, and I laid there thinking “No one is coming to save you,” and “No one is going to pause your life for you.” while attempting to carry my own clients out of depression. That’s where the truth comes in- you either give up or you get up. Get up, even if you’re not 100%, even if you feel you can no longer keep pushing. Just doing one thing out of the 10 you’re supposed to , already serves as movement. And life is nothing without perpetual movement forward. So, this episode is for anyone who ever felt exhausted, defeated, and especially, numb. Progress doesn’t care about our feelings and emotions; don’t let darkness win when light is desperately trying to lead you.

CLOSED MOUTHS DONT GET FED!People pleasers are some of the most resentful people I know. Not because they’re bad people. Because they keep saying yes when they mean no.They apologize for everything.They overextend themselves.They pretend things are “fine.”And then six months later they’re quietly pissed at everyone.But here’s the truth:People can’t respect boundaries you never communicate. Not at work, not in life. You want a raise? Ask for one. You want someone to respect you? Stop apologizing for existing.Say what you actually mean. And don’t sit there chewing on an overcooked steak just because you “feel bad.” 🙄

Some of you aren’t exhausted because life is hard.You’re exhausted because you keep giving your energy to people who have already shown you they’re a terrible investment.In this episode we’re talking about protecting your energy, recognizing patterns, letting go of resentment, and finally learning to stop pouring into cups with holes.Also fair warning: the ghetto-ness came out but you’re welcome 😜😜😜

I didn’t plan for episode 10 to feel this reflective, but lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the seasons in my life where everything felt like it was falling apart at once. At the time, I truly believed I was being attacked — in business, in relationships, even internally. I kept asking myself why things were shaking when I was working so hard and trying to grow. Looking back now, I see it differently. I wasn’t being attacked, I was being corrected. In this episode, I talk about ego — not confidence or ambition, but the subtle need to prove, control, defend, and win. The kind of ego that can build impressive things, but not peaceful ones. I share what it took for me to recognize where I was asking for more while not fully honoring what I already had, and how resentment, pride, and misalignment quietly block the very growth we say we want. This isn’t a preachy conversation; it’s an honest one about discipline, forgiveness, and what it feels like when life starts dismantling what you thought you needed. If you’re in a season where things feel uncertain or uncomfortable, maybe you’re not being punished. Maybe you’re just being refined.

If you don’t assess your monetary compensation of your time investment, business owners will always find ways to use and manipulate you. Same in relationships. We don’t undercharge because we don’t know our value.We undercharge because we’re afraid of being replaced.In this episode, I unpack the quiet ways self-worth—or the lack of it—shapes how we show up in business, money, and relationships. From building companies without contracts, to offering loyalty without protection, to becoming “low-maintenance” just to feel chosen, this conversation goes deeper than pricing or confidence.I talk about the patterns I see in high-functioning, capable people who keep overgiving, under-asking, and self-abandoning—then wondering why they feel resentful, invisible, or unsupported.This episode connects the dots between:​ Why people avoid asking for fair compensation​ How undercharging and overgiving teach others how to treat you​ Why being “easy” in relationships often leads to feeling tolerated instead of chosen​ How self-worth changes human behavior—in business and in lifeIf you’ve ever felt like the backbone of everyone else’s life while quietly neglecting your own…If you’ve ever shrunk, softened, or stayed silent to keep peace or opportunity…This episode is your reminder that self-worth isn’t a personality trait.It’s a skill.And it can be learned.

Honestly this is my most unhinged podcast recording yet and idgaf anymore. I’m tired of people not choosing to represent themselves properly, for their own image. I’m tired of negative and toxic idiots who hate us because we have too much light and ambition. I’m tired of 99% hating our hustle and our continuous inability to give up because they can’t do it for themselves. Wake the fuck up. Every negative thing you notice about another person, and care enough to even speak about, should show you what you truly resent in yourself. So respectfully, go work on yourself. Stop expecting people to act the way you assume they should. Who tf are you? Whatever. Unhinged. Idc. I’m tired of men thinking they can touch women because they spend a certain amount of money. First of all, if you actually have money, you don’t care enough to remind anyone that you have it. lol am I wrong? Like why are we even discussing this on the first date. Second of all, some women don’t care about your money. They care about your thought process while you made it. Oh wait, too much about me and what I might actually like right? lol Women- close your fucking legs. For the love of anything you deem sacred. You trying to keep these men and have them continue spending money on you by sacrificing your self worth on the first date is why normal women get abused if they don’t follow your norm. I got slapped for not kissing someone after he planned a date and yelled he spent so much money doing so. Who asked you to do that , sir? Just cause you see me as a high -value woman and choose to subconsciously do unnecessary dumb expensive shit because you think that will impress me, it’s not an excuse to slap me if I don’t want to kiss you. Let’s forgive all these assholes who need God, universe, rocks, whatever the fuck you believe in. Honestly the more I learn about people, the more I realize we’re 1% for a reason. Listen to this, don’t listen to this, idc anymore. Be a good person and stop fucking with the higher power. . This is my slim shady era.. call it slim sheyda instead. 🖕🏼 You hate us cause you ain’t us. 💯

Whether you’re married, divorced, separated, or parenting in the same home, many parents are quietly carrying the emotional and mental load alone.In this episode, Shey talks about what it really means to parent when your partner is emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or simply not showing up the way your child needs. This is not about blaming. This is about emotional maturity, protecting your child’s nervous system, and learning how to separate partner problems from parenting responsibility.We talk about why your child should never carry adult disappointment, how to stop poisoning your child’s view of the other parent, and how one regulated parent can raise a secure child even in a dysfunctional dynamic.This episode is for every mother who feels invisible, overwhelmed, and alone in parenting — and every parent who wants to break generational cycles and raise emotionally healthy children.Because your child is not here to heal your relationship.They’re here to have a childhood.

Jealousy doesn’t destroy relationships first — it destroys you.In this episode, Shey breaks down why jealousy has nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear, trauma, and insecurity. From overthinking and compulsive checking to control and comparison, we explore the quiet ways jealousy steals your peace — and how to finally heal it.With practical tools and real talk, this episode will help you build self-trust, calm your nervous system, and stop letting fear run your relationships.

Little disclaimer — some of the topics in this episode may be sensitive to listeners, and everything shared reflects my personal experience and perspective.By sharing this episode, my hope is to help young girls and boys recognize the difference between love, grooming, and abuse — and to protect themselves from relationships that are disguised as care but rooted in control.At sixteen years old, the man I eventually married first walked into my house as my SAT tutor.At the time, I thought he was changing my life.Years later, I realized… he was shaping it for himself.In this episode, I share my story and explore the difference between love, grooming, and emotional abuse — and how mentorship can slowly turn into control. We talk about power dynamics, losing your identity inside someone else’s vision, and what happens when you outgrow the person who once guided you.If you’ve ever questioned a relationship from your past… this episode is for you.-Identifying details have been omitted to protect privacy.-

If you’re busy, ambitious, and tired of starting over, this episode is for you.This isn’t about motivation. It’s about structure. In this episode, Shey break down the non-negotiables that actually keep high-functioning people consistent — how to outline your schedule so life doesn’t run you, why daily fresh air and movement aren’t optional, and why consistency only sticks when your actions align with the identity you’re building.No fluff. No excuses. No waiting to feel ready.Just real tools for people who want results, not another reset.

Real love isn’t proven on good days — it shows up when life gets hard.In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to understand your role as a partner, beyond the picture-perfect version of love we see online.We get into emotional maturity, spiritual alignment, and how to truly show up for someone when they’re at their lowest — not just when things are easy.And let’s be real: if you chose to stay, you don’t get to keep using the past as a weapon. You either forgive or you move forward. Dragging old mistakes into every argument only blocks the future you’re trying to build.We also break down what men and women really need from each other, and why respect, balance, and presence are the foundation of relationships that actually last.Because anyone can want a wedding.Not everyone is ready for a marriage.

You are more than the roles you play — and this episode is your reminder. In case you forgot there’s a human behind all that you do. More than your job title. More than being “the strong one.” More than the version of you everyone depends on.In this episode, Shey breaks down what happens when you finally separate who you are from what you do — and how that shift changes your confidence, relationships, boundaries, and sense of purpose.We talk identity, self-worth, emotional burnout, and what it really means to come home to yourself again — especially if you’ve spent years being everything for everyone else.This isn’t just motivation.This is a reset.

Everyone sees your strength. No one sees how tired you are.In this episode of Unstuck by Shey, I talk about what it really means to be the strong one — and how to finally stop carrying everything alone. This is a coaching-style episode where I walk you through real tools to help you:1) calm anxiety2) reset your mindset3) navigate relationships without self-sacrifice4) understand where you're headed5) and actually implement changeIf you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or exhausted from holding it all together — this episode gives you both the heart and the strategy to move forward.

If you feel strong but tired… if you look like you have it together but know you’re meant for more — this podcast is for you.In this first intro episode of Unstuck by Shey, I’m sharing why I created this space and who it’s really for. This is a podcast about getting unstuck mentally, emotionally, and spiritually — through real conversations about healing, self-worth, faith, ambition, love, and becoming who you truly are.This isn’t about perfection.It’s about honesty, growth, and choosing yourself without guilt.If you’re ready to stop surviving and start aligning, welcome.You’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Let's get it! :)