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This is the end of Season 2.It is very simple silence is and celebration can be the result.Nothing has to be a production...everything may be silently enJoyed!Listen to this episode and lean into what is silence for you and what is celebration for you. Are you complete in both? Does one cause unrest?How is it effecting your wellness? My further invitation is to join me on May 17th for Moments of Wellness for Every Mom described in this episode. Stay tuned for my next season in silence and healing.

Economic distraction. Unworthiness. Don’t feel anything.What happens when the life you built to survive is no longer the life you want to inhabit?In this raw and reflective episode, I explore the lived reality of female-bodied people navigating emotional abuse, survival mode, and a culture that often rewards disconnection. Recorded just before the CNN article about the 65 million, this conversation speaks to the deeper truth underneath the headlines: women are exhausted from being asked to endure, perform, and remain silent.This episode is for the high-achieving woman who has mastered success while privately suffering, and for anyone ready to move from survival into self-forgiveness, embodiment, and healing. The path home is not outside of you. It begins in your body, your voice, and your willingness to feel.Connect with me at https://cordeliagaffar.com/services#emotionalabuse #65million #mentalhealth#mindfulness#embodiment#traumahealing#somatichealing#selfforgiveness

We live in a world where keeping a cheerful façade feels mandatory. Social feeds are overrun with polished highlights, workplaces ask us to "stay positive," and even with close friends, venting can feel unwelcome. Underneath that constant optimism, many of us are quietly running on empty. We push down discomfort and skip over sadness, thinking strength means pretending everything’s fine. The truth? Constant positivity is exhausting, and it disconnects us from our own humanity. The Hidden Cost of "Good Vibes Only"Relentless positivity isn’t just tiring, it’s a form of emotional bypass. When we invalidate our real feelings, our bodies pay the price through tension, fatigue, and a sense that joy is always out of reach. I’ve seen countless clients, especially those in leadership roles, soldier on with a smile, only to wake up one day feeling numb, burned out, or unmotivated. Suppressing uncomfortable emotions doesn’t make them disappear. It simply makes us less resilient in the face of real challenges. Emotional authenticity isn’t about drowning in negativity, it’s about creating space for your true experience. Only then can we process, grow, and access genuine contentment. Your feelings, yes, all of them, are signals worth listening to. Embracing All Your Feelings: Why It MattersIf you notice yourself slipping into autopilot, performing cheer instead of truth, ask: What feeling am I really carrying right now? Giving yourself permission to feel is powerful. Here’s what emotional authenticity can unlock:Release the pressure to "keep it together" 24/7Restore your natural energy instead of forcing positivityDeepen your connections with family, colleagues, and yourselfCultivate real resilience because you’ve faced your full experience, not hidden from it Ready to Practice Emotional Authenticity?In my Wellness Consultations, we focus on the radical act of feeling fully—without judgment, guilt, or explanation. We combine somatic healing, mindful reflection, and new daily rituals to help you move from pretending positivity to living authentically. Learn more about how the journey can support you. And if you’re craving a safe space to start, you can always schedule a call with me to reclaim your joy. Together, we’ll navigate what’s real without bypassing or minimizing and create your map back to clarity and peace. Reflection Prompt: This week, gently notice when you feel pressure to "stay positive" instead of being honest. Ask yourself: what would it look like to trust your authentic feelings as wise messengers, not problems to fix? Choose joy and pleasure so that you savor your life.Cordelia GaffarThe Ultimate Joy Goddess 

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar delves into the often-overlooked connection between emotional neglect and physical health. Discover why your emotions are not just fleeting feelings but essential nutrition for your body and soul. Through insightful conversation and practical embodiment exercises, Cordelia guides you to reconnect with your emotional self—transforming survival into genuine, holistic joy. Tune in to learn how nurturing your emotions can become your most powerful act of self-care.Visit https://cordeliagaffar.com/ to connect with her.#emotionalhealth#nutrition#wellness#self-care#mindfulness#stressmanagement#holistichealth#emotionalnutrition#joy#pleasure#leadership

Have you ever felt like the world is telling you you’re not enough? Tag someone who needs to hear this.In this episode of Reclaiming Your Joy and Your Humanity, I open up about how easily we lose sight of real happiness in a society obsessed with buying and achieving more. We’re surrounded by messages that say joy comes from possessions—but what if genuine fulfillment is found in the stillness of connection, love, and self-acceptance?The heart of my work is listening to your body, and nurturing emotional health so that you reconnect to what truly matters. I introduce you to small but radical ways to reject artificial joy and rediscover peace and purpose through presence, nature, and mindful living.Let’s challenge those old narratives and reclaim our joy from within. Reclaiming your joy is about shifting your focus from artificial happiness to authentic fulfillment. By acknowledging your body’s needs, embracing indigenous practices, and fostering genuine relationships, you can lead a more joyful and peaceful life. What does it mean to reclaim your joy?Reclaiming your joy involves shifting your focus from material possessions to emotional and spiritual well-being. It’s about finding happiness within rather than seeking it from external sources.How can I start focusing on emotional health?You can start by practicing self-awareness, engaging in mindfulness, and seeking support from professionals or community resources that prioritize emotional well-being.What’s your experience with this?**Call to Action:** Want to learn more about how to reclaim your joy? Book your Wellness Consultation [here]. #ReclaimYourJoy #WellnessJourney #SlowLiving #MindfulLiving #InnerPeace

What if your rage wasn’t something to silence—but a guide leading you toward healing and wholeness? In this deeply honest conversation, we dive into the often misunderstood emotion of rage as an opening to transformation. Together, we explore how trauma, spiritual growth, and self-awareness can turn even our darkest emotions into pathways of love, resilience, and inner power.Through personal stories, reflections on divine connection, and practical tools for emotional detox, this episode invites you to reconnect with your truth, reclaim your emotional agency, and shift from surviving to savoring life. Rage is not your enemy—it's your sacred messenger, calling you home to yourself.About my Guest6x #1 Amazon Music 🎶 Bestselling Artist, 📚14x #1 Global Best Selling Author, Forbes, GQ, ABC, CBS, MTV, XXL, Broadway World, Entrepreneur, Maxwell Speaker, Coach,

In this juicy episode of Rooted and Embodied with Jameelah Creates, we play on the edges of aliveness, leadership, and liberation. Jameelah breaks down alignment with her now-iconic moving walkway metaphor, opens up about how suicidal ideation became a doorway back to her lineage, and exposes how food deserts are weaponized against communities while reclaiming intuitive, ancestral eating as everyday energy medicine.We wander from psilocybin to breathwork, into the wild, shimmering reality of what Kundalini activation actually feels like, and why true leadership means giving power back to the people, not hoarding it. You’ll hear the story of a Kundalini awakening that changed everything and get a taste of the upcoming Embodied training and free March 5 workshop designed for those ready to live their spirituality through their bodies, not just their minds.Come listen if you’re craving a conversation that’s part altar, part call-out, and part activation — the kind that leaves your nervous system softer, your vision clearer, and your creativity turned all the way on.About my GuestJameelah is an Integrative Somatic Specialist, a multi-certified Energy worker specializing in Kundalini Activation, Sat Nam Rasayan and Transcendental Meditation. She has sat with Aboriginal energy workers from West African Yoruba culture, and Traditional Ngangkari Healers.Jameelah holds certifications in healing Intergenerational and Racial Trauma through Therapeutic & Ecstatic Breathwork; her background also includes extensive training in Mindfulness and Shamonic Meditations. She’s received her certification in Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Training and Polyvagal Theory - helping her clients transmute heavy emotions.Along with kundalini life force, Jameelah also anchors the most native state of non-dual awareness which cultivates a deep experience of oneness with all things. Jameelah's unique background in the Performing Arts, Sat Nam Rasayan, Breathwork, Trauma Healing, and West African Yoruba Spirituality - blends to create a powerful alchemy of grounding and healing energy - this connects her clients to their innate divinity, inner wisdom, and profound intuition.​Jameelah travels internationally creating spaces for people to remember their own innate healing capacity. For the past five years, she's lived on the Caribbean coast of Costa Rica, where she tends to the land, communes with nature, and dabbles in herbalism & crafting chocolate delicacies.Your link to March 5th

Ramadan is often seen as a sacred month only for Muslims, yet its deeper invitation is profoundly human: a chance to reset your nervous system, release emotional weight, and remember that you are safe to lead.For twenty years, I navigated a tumultuous, emotionally abusive marriage. The practice of Ramadan—fasting, reflection, and surrender—became the lifeline that helped me regulate my limbic system, reclaim my body, and rebuild my sense of self. That journey is what ultimately shaped my work as a Somatic Holistic Healer and the creation of my Four Mind Alignment™ methodology and my self‑guided course, Feel Safe to Lead.What Most People Miss About RamadanBeyond food and drink, Ramadan can be a powerful somatic and leadership reset—even if you are not Muslim.Consider fasting from:Self‑sabotage and negative self‑talkLow‑vibration people and draining environmentsRefined sugar, processed and GMO foods, caffeine, and heavy proteins that stress your bodySocial media and “energy vampires” that deplete your focus and confidenceWhen you treat fasting as spiritual, behavioral, and emotional forgiveness, you create space to:Hear your own intuition more clearlyRelease survival patterns that keep you smallReconnect to a felt sense of safety in your bodyThis is the inner work most leadership trainings skip—and the work that makes sustainable leadership possible.Why “Feeling Safe” Is a Leadership SkillMy Four Mind Alignment™ methodology is designed to help you regulate and stay centered in your body so you can lead from resonance, not reactivity.When you feel safe to lead:You stop outsourcing your worth to titles, metrics, or other people’s approvalYou can set boundaries without shutting down or explodingYou access clarity and courage in moments that used to trigger anxiety, people‑pleasing, or freezeRamadan gave me a yearly structure to practice this: pausing, observing my patterns, and consciously choosing who I wanted to be on the other side of the fast. That same structure is built into Feel Safe to Lead.This Week on “What People Miss”In this week’s episode, “Rise, It’s Ramadan: Benefits and Tips for Non‑Muslims,” I share:How fasting can become a portal to emotional regulation and inner safetyPractical ways non‑Muslims can engage with Ramadan as a 360° resetAn excerpt on spiritual warfare and how it relates to the Four Mind Alignment™https://form.jotform.com/260272684303151 for nutritional assessmentIf this resonates, let's connect https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/Introspect on where you can forgive yourself.See yourself in your greatest powerCommit to being that version of yourselfDevote 14 days to doing that by joining Feel Safe to Lead https://www.skool.com/feel-safe-to-lead-8430#podcast #WhatPeopleMiss #Ramadan #benefitsofRamadan #MentalHealth #Emotionalwellness

Root. Reveal. Rise. with Embodied Visioning.Every January for the past four years The Wholeness Center has offered The Visioning Retreat virtually and in person. This year I was one of the facilitators.This episode is both a recap of this years' event from the perspective of each facilitator/ participant and one participant and an invitation to view visioning differently. Bemene Piaro, the Founder of Wholeness Center and ICF certified transformational coach, defines "vision board" and the process utilized in her unique embodied visioning.Madala Machini, a certified Yoga Instructor and Acupuncturist and herbalist in training, share her experience and contribution.Robyn Shahda, an ICF certified Life Coach, shares her experience as a repeat annual participant as well as quarterly participant and where her vision has come to fruition.I also share vulnerably about vision boarding and what this event has shifted in my life, my body somatically and world.Whether you are new to vision boarding or embodiment practices, this episode will be eye opening for you.Reserve your spot for the 2027 Visioning Retreat Joining the list ensures you receive details and priority access as soon as registration opens.In-Person:https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbLMQvS5DU2X_PqtrU7HfMmrNPsNG9XIJoRA4ys1tCQXzrJw/viewform?usp=headerVirtual:https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe7jjkgReLLlgE0UfXKd-vo658dHwVj5sJxqlgsiQptrF2G6Q/viewform?usp=headerAbout Cordelia GaffarCordelia Gaffar, known as The Ultimate Joy Goddess, is the CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc., an award-winning podcast host, author, and embodiment guide. She helps professionally successful, socially respected men—especially corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgment, or emotional overwhelm.This podcast is your sacred space to practice self-nurturing as a radical act, and to remember that you are allowed to choose joy and pleasure, even in seasons of grief, transition, and rage. Connect and exploreLearn more, explore current offerings, and join Cordelia’s joy-centered communities at: https://www.cordeliagaffar.com#InnerJoy #PerformativeJoy #WhatPeopleMiss #TheUltimateJoyGoddess #SelfNurturing #EmbodiedLeadership #MenAndMentalHealth #BurnoutRecovery #JoyOverPerformance #SavorYourLife

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar invites you to stop contorting yourself to fit standards that were never made for your wholeness. Explore the hidden costs of being “palatable,” how those patterns once kept you safe, and how to transcend them through embodiment, presence, and joy. It’s time to move from surviving to savoring — from performance to authentic power.Follow Cordelia at https://cordeliagaffar.substack.com/

Success has a shadow.For many successful men, it’s the quiet exhaustion that comes from constantly managing how others see you.In boardrooms, at home, and even in friendships—you’ve learned how to be “palatable.” Charming. Strategic. Controlled.But behind that mastery lies a truth: being endlessly adaptable is slowly draining the very energy you need to live fully.When you spend years being "selectively you," your nervous system stays in a loop of performance—reading the room instead of resting in your body. Your limbic system, designed to protect you, becomes hypersensitive. That’s when anxiety, irritability, and emotional numbness begin to take over.This isn't a weakness—it’s a wiring issue.My work helps you reset your limbic system so you can reconnect to your inner power—the kind that doesn’t need permission.The kind of confidence that comes from embodiment, not performance.The truth is, being palatable keeps you safe—but it also keeps you small.Let’s wake up your body’s intelligence so you can reclaim your strength, assert your boundaries, and lead with grounded confidence.You deserve to rest in the full weight of who you are.→ Join my new self-guided experience The Ultimate Confidence Guide for Men Over 50! Cordelia Gaffar, known as The Ultimate Joy Goddess, is the CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc., an award-winning podcast host, best-selling author, and embodiment guide who helps professionally successful, socially respected men—particularly corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted to regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgement, or emotional overwhelm.

Inner joy is quiet, rooted, and lived from the inside out—performative joy is polished, public, and often exhausting. This episode of What People Miss invites listeners to stop staging happiness and start actually feeling it.Episode overviewIn this solo episode, The Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia Gaffar, unpacks the difference between inner joy that nourishes the nervous system and performative joy that keeps you on an endless treadmill of proving, pleasing, and performing. You will explore how childhood conditioning, corporate culture, and social media norms train you to prioritize looking happy over being deeply well.Cordelia guides you to notice where you are still “performing joy” in your relationships, leadership, and daily life, and how that performance quietly drains your body, focus, and self-respect. Then she offers embodied questions and gentle reframes to help you begin sourcing joy from within, even if you are physically and mentally exhausted.Who this is forCorporate leaders and founders who look successful on paper but feel numb, burnt out, or disconnected inside.High-achieving men who are praised for their performance yet rarely feel safe enough to rest, feel, or receive.Anyone ready to move from surviving, proving, and performing into savoring life on their own terms.About Cordelia GaffarCordelia Gaffar, known as The Ultimate Joy Goddess, is the CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc., an award-winning podcast host, author, and embodiment guide. She helps professionally successful, socially respected men—especially corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgment, or emotional overwhelm.This podcast is your sacred space to practice self-nurturing as a radical act, and to remember that you are allowed to choose joy and pleasure, even in seasons of grief, transition, and rage. Connect and exploreLearn more, explore current offerings, and join Cordelia’s joy-centered communities at: https://www.cordeliagaffar.com#InnerJoy #PerformativeJoy #WhatPeopleMiss #TheUltimateJoyGoddess #SelfNurturing #EmbodiedLeadership #MenAndMentalHealth #BurnoutRecovery #JoyOverPerformance #SavorYourLife

Dress your soul in color: discover how style, presence, and embodiment can move you from survival mode into savoring your everyday life.Savoring life through color with Inna KorbokinaSavoring life through color, embodiment, and presence, this conversation with producer, host, and author Inna Korobkina invites you to see your everyday world as a living canvas for joy and self-expression. Together, we explore how what you wear, how you move, and how you see color can become a pathway out of survival mode and into a more intentional, pleasure-filled life.What this episode is aboutHow color influences your mood, nervous system, and sense of possibility—and how to consciously curate your visual world for more grounded joy.The way style, fashion, and image become a language of personal branding, embodiment, and self-respect, not performance or perfectionism.Practical ways to “rise and thrive” in your daily rituals so you feel more at home in your body, your story, and your presence in every room you enter.Who is Inna KorobkinaInna Korobkina is an actress (Dawn of the Dead, Transformers, Far Cry 6) Creative Director of Jewel Branding Studios, host of The Tapestry Podcast, and an indie film producer, who is using her skills as a storyteller to push forward the idea that developing a unique personal style is intimately tied to developing a strong character in life. As an author she created the audio-visual fashion journal “My Style Journey Guide” a tool for fashion education and style inspiration that helps the user build a strong identity rooted in authenticity and courageous self-expression.Why you will love thisYou are ready to move from performing for the world to savoring your life, one intentional choice—one color, one breath, one outfit—at a time.You want a gentle but powerful reframe of style, visibility, and self-expression that honors your nervous system, your history, and your desires.Tune in to remember that your wardrobe, your environment, and your presence are all part of your self-nurturing practice—and that you are allowed to feel good in your own skin, today.Follow her online https://www.instagram.com/innakorobkina/?hl=enTo apply for The Portrait Social

What People Miss with Cordelia Gaffar is a space for women who are done merely surviving and are ready to savor life, even in the midst of grief, transition, and rage. Through intimate, unfiltered conversations, award‑winning podcast host, best‑selling author, and Ultimate Joy Goddess Cordelia Gaffar walks you through the quiet moments most people skip over when they are trying to be “strong” and keep it all together.paste.txt​What this episode exploresIn this powerful episode, Cordelia opens the new solar year by inviting you to create from a place of savoring life instead of repeating old patterns of burnout, silence, and self-abandonment. She shares how her Replenish Me process evolved into Four Mind Alignment—honoring the body, belly, heart, and brain—so you can move from survival mode into continuous moments of joy and pleasure.paste.txt​A story of grief, rage, and rebirthCordelia is joined by her longtime friend and client Maritza, a home‑educating mother of six and blues singer whose life was shattered when her husband was killed in a sudden, preventable accident. Maritza vulnerably describes how grief destroyed her from the inside out—stealing her voice, her music, and her sense of self—until somatic practices, community, and “sweet talk” helped her reclaim wholeness.Embodiment, hips, and healingRooted in Afro‑Latina and Caribbean traditions, Cordelia and Maritza share how moving their hips, somatic breathwork, and kundalini‑based practices became portals for healing rage, grief, and exhaustion stored in the body. Cordelia weaves in her training in somatic movement, Tantra, and somatic sexology to show how sensation, breath, and rhythm can restore your nervous system and even transform your relationship with your own aging body.Voice, rage, and the throat chakraThis episode dives into what people miss about the throat chakra, especially for Black and Brown women who are taught to fear the “angry Black woman” stereotype. You will hear how singing pulled rage out of Maritza’s locked throat, how redirected rage became art and therapy, and why refusing to hold emotions to make others comfortable is a radical act of self‑nurturing.Why you should listenIf you have ever lost a partner, a role, your voice, or your sense of who you are, this conversation offers a living example of moving from shattered to stage—literally—from a grieving widow who is now performing at the International Blues Challenge. You will walk away with a felt sense of what it means to prioritize yourself, honor your emotions, and choose joy and pleasure without pretending your pain does not exist.Tune in if you are ready to reclaim your body, your voice, and your life—and to discover what you have been missing about truly savoring your existence.To work with Cordelia go to https://cordeliagaffar.com

Why do so many of us comply with norms that don’t actually fit who we are?In this episode, we pull back the curtain on respectability politics—how they are shaped by colonization, religion, and the longing to belong—and what it costs us to keep performing “acceptable” instead of being fully alive. The conversation traces how compliance often grows from a desire for safety and community, not weakness, and why justice can never be one-size-fits-all when every story and body is different.Together, we explore how curiosity can soften defensiveness, how discomfort becomes a portal to growth and resilience, and how emotional maturity asks us to seek understanding rather than assume, even when we disagree. You will hear how personal politics of respectability vary widely, how joy can be experienced as a frequency that transcends culture, and why incremental growth matters for those living with expansion anxiety.This episode is an invitation to notice where you are still shrinking to fit, where your nervous system is clinging to compliance as protection, and where your heart is ready to take one more brave, small step toward authentic self-expression. Tune in if you are ready to hold both your need for safety and your longing for liberation, and to practice a politics of respectability that honors your actual humanity rather than someone else’s script.When was the last time you felt truly safe to choose pleasure, not just power?In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and Guide for Intimacy Intelligence, invites you to step out of survival mode and into a life you can actually savor. Through stories, somatic reflections, and courageous truth-telling, you will explore what it means to self-nurture in a world that profits from your exhaustion.​You will hear how healing your relationship with your body, emotions, and boundaries can:Rewire your nervous system from hypervigilance to easeTransform leadership from performance to intimacyTurn everyday moments into rituals of joy-bonding™ with yourself and othersThis conversation is for high-achieving women, exhausted leaders, and secretly tender powerhouses who are ready to detach from expectations, reclaim their joy, and lead from a deeply replenished heart. Press play if you’re ready to move from “holding it all together” to being free to be fully, unapologetically you.​Call to action:If this episode speaks to you, share it with one woman who looks powerful on the outside but feels invisible on the inside, and tag Cordelia on LinkedIn or Instagram so your breakthrough can ripple through your community.#SafetyAndBelonging#IncrementalGrowth#ExpansionAnxiety#SeekToUnderstand#BeyondRespectability#EmbodiedJustice#HeartAndMind#LiberatedJoy

Silence at Work: The Societal Impact of Respectability Politics with Dr. Christopher N SmithIn part two of our series on respectability politics, host Cordelia Gaffar and guest Dr. Chris N. Smith go deeper into the emotional and embodied cost of constantly performing for acceptance. Together, they explore how conformity drains our energy, suppresses joy, and subtly distorts our sense of success and self-worth.This conversation invites you to reclaim self-nurturing as an act of resistance and liberation—choosing pleasure, presence, and savoring life instead of living for external validation. Cordelia and Dr. Smith unpack how societal pressures shape our relationships, often pulling us away from healthy love, authentic emotional connection, and the kind of conflict resolution that leads to true personal growth rather than more self-abandonment.You’ll hear a powerful reframe of conflict as a catalyst for healing, not something to avoid to keep the peace. They also explore the importance of physical touch, safety, and nervous system regulation in building relationships rooted in mutual respect, independence, and genuine intimacy. This episode is an invitation to choose joy on purpose, honor your body’s needs, and redefine success on your own terms.If you’ve ever felt exhausted by “being respectable,” this conversation will help you step out of performance and into a deeper, more self-nurturing relationship with yourself and others.https://cordeliagaffar.com/About your host: Cordelia GaffarCordelia Gaffar is an award-winning podcast host, Intimacy Intelligence Embodiment Coach, and author of Detached Love. As a guide for women and leaders on the journey from surviving to savoring life, she helps people feel safe enough in their bodies to choose joy, pleasure, and authentic expression. Through her coaching, speaking, and writing, Cordelia centers self-nurturing, emotional regulation, and embodied practices as pathways to healthy love, inner freedom, and sustainable success.About today’s guest: Dr. Chris N. SmithDr. Chris N. Smith is a researcher, educator, and practitioner committed to helping individuals and communities heal from the psychological and relational impact of societal pressures and oppression. With a focus on emotional health, relational dynamics, and community care, Dr. Smith supports people in cultivating emotional connection, navigating conflict with integrity, and redefining success beyond respectability and performance. His work bridges theory and lived experience, offering grounded, compassionate insight into how we can all move toward more liberated, joyful ways of being together.#RespectabilityPolitics#SelfNurturing#ChooseJoy#RedefiningSuccess#SavoringLife#HealthyLove#EmotionalConnection

“Silence says more than words” could be the subtitle of my conversation with Dr. Chris N. Smith. Together, we explore the messy, very human space where marginalization, respectability politics, and self-nurturing collide, unpacking how survival strategies like code switching shape identity, behavior, and belonging. The episode traces the emotional toll of constantly monitoring how you speak, move, and show up, and what happens in the body and mind when “fitting in” becomes a full-time job.We dive into how silence, avoidance, and emotional abuse are often symptoms of deeper systemic bias, not individual weakness, and why self-advocacy is essential for mental and physical health. We look at how cultural norms influence body autonomy, consent, and the ways different communities express joy and safety—and how joy itself becomes a radical form of resistance in oppressive systems. At the heart of the episode we make a clear invitation: to treat self-nurturing not as a reward after surviving harm, but as a revolutionary act that helps you reclaim your voice, your body, and your story.​About my guest:Dr. Christopher N. Smith (They/Them) is a queer, non-binary, and non-monogamous scholar whose academic work centers BIPOC intellectual traditions while addressing systemic marginalization and intragroup discrimination in education, religion, sexuality, gender, and society. They have worked extensively with public and private organizations to implement and enhance JEDI measures in emergency management, human capital, risk management, contracting, and workforce development. Additionally, they lead SuciaBMORE, an intentional decolonized play and networking community focused on transformative justice, harm reduction, intersectional safety, and BIPOC unity in Baltimore, Maryland.About your host:Cordelia Gaffar is “The Ultimate Joy Goddess,” a self-nurturing and intimacy intelligence embodiment coach, award-winning podcast host of From Surviving to Savoring Life, and author of Detached Love. She guides high-achieving, mission-driven women to move from survival mode into embodied joy, pleasure, and safety by redefining success on their own terms.Learn more, explore current offerings, and connect with Cordelia at:https://www.cordeliagaffar.com#marginalization #RespectabilityPolitics #Identity #CodeSwitching #SelfNurturing #EmotionalAbuse #Advocacy #CulturalNorms #BodyAutonomy #JoyAsResistance

This episode invites listeners into a tender, truth-telling conversation between Cordelia Gaffar and yoga teacher and energy healer Madala Machini about what it really means to care for yourself at the deepest level. Together, they explore how practices like acupuncture, meditation, and yoga support healing not just on the surface, but all the way down to the cellular level, reminding us that the body is always working on our behalf.Madala shares her transformative journey into energy healing, including a pivotal trip to India that opened her path, and how teaching yoga and offering energetic support became her way of giving back to her community. The episode moves through themes of self-nurturing as self-love, the courage it takes to challenge yourself in your growth, and the power of visioning retreats to help you name and manifest what you truly desire.​Throughout the conversation, Cordelia and Madala emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces where vulnerability is welcomed, where “every day is a second chance,” and where it is never too late to begin your health journey. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how energy work can hold physical and emotional discomfort, and with practical inspiration to see your own self-nurturing as sacred, courageous, and completely available to you now.Madala Machini is a 500-hour certified yoga instructor, energy healer, and masters student of acupuncture and herbs whose work bridges ancient wisdom and modern mindfulness. She is known for her calm, grounding presence and her ability to create a safe, nurturing space for self-awareness and healing.In-Person Visioning Retreat• January 10, 2026 | 10:00 AM  at Tuft n' Up Studio & Social • Early Bird Rate: $175 until Dec. 15 • General Admission: $250 • Reserve your place: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-visioning-retreat-pause-reflect-realign-tickets-1965651488516?aff=oddtdtcreatorGrateful to our venue partner @tuftnupstudio.social.Virtual Visioning Retreat• January 11, 2026 | 10:00 AM • Early Bird Rate: $125 until Dec. 15 • General Admission: $200 • Reserve your virtual seat: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-virtual-visioning-retreat-tickets-1970033518285?aff=oddtdtcreator#TheWholenessCenter #VisioningRetreat #Mindfullness #visionboard #MindfulnessRetreat #Manifestation #BIPOCWellness #BIPOCWomenLead #PurposefulLiving #Goals #EmpoweredWomen #PersonalGrowthJourney #EntrepreneurMindset 

🌟 Ever felt like intimacy is just out of reach during tough times?  In our latest podcast episode, we dive into the importance of self-intimacy and being present with our bodies, especially when life gets challenging.  Feeling disconnected? Remember, it’s okay to acknowledge your needs!   How do you stay connected with yourself during tough times? In Tantra, we keep our eyes open because inside outside same.  So how does that look in real life? I interviewed one of my classmates at The Amina Institute to see how somatic sexologist and tantra help her in real life.In this episode, I catch up with Abeo Noel, a previous guest post knee surgery. She shares about how it affected her intimacy in her marriage. Listen to what she discovered about the importance of maintaining it even with injury.Visit her website https://www.diagnosis2desires.com/She is an  Intimacy Coach who brings 24 years at NYU Langone Health as a Nurse Practitioner. She has identified a significant gap in the integration of sex education and pleasure into treatment plans. Recognizing this need, her work takes proactive steps to address it.​Her personal and professional journey is enriched by her upbringing in Trinidad and Tobago and the USA, bringing a unique and valuable perspective to my practice.As an Erosomatic Touch Practitioner and Sex Doula, she is uniquely positioned to offer holistic care that addresses physical, emotional, and sexual well-being. Her commitment to integrating sex education and pleasure into treatment plans underscores her deep understanding of their importance to overall health and happiness.​Her background in medicine, combined with her personal experiences and cultural influences, equips her with a distinctive perspective and sensitivity to the needs of her clients. By prioritizing family, community, happiness, peace, pleasure, and loyalty, she strives to enrich not only her own life but also the lives of her clients.#SelfNurturing#IntimacyHealing#IntimacyInMarriage#HealingThroughPleasure#PleasureAsMedicine#EroticWellness#SomaticHealing#EroSomaticTouch#SexualWellbeing#PleasurePractitioner

In the episode, I get to sit down with Bemen Piaro, a previous guest and talk about two of our upcoming events including Visioning as Self-Nurturing.The Whole Tantrum Party on Dec 27, 2025https://cordeliagaffar.com/services/personal-development/the-whole-tantrum-party-december-27th-150527445The Wholeness Visioning Retreat on January 10, 2026 If you’ve been moving fast, making decisions on the fly, or feeling stretched thin, clarity might be exactly what your mind and body are craving. And clarity doesn’t simply appear — it emerges when you slow down long enough to hear yourself again. That’s why we’re gathering for the Visioning Retreat on January 10 & 11 — a guided space to pause, breathe, reset, and design 2026 with intention, not pressure. You’ll walk away with a clearer vision, grounded priorities, and a renewed sense of direction for the year ahead. This Black Friday, choose the investment that truly transforms your year. With our early-bird Black Friday discount, you can save up to $75 — or as much as 30% off.✨ Grab this incredible offer through the link in the caption and join us for a visioning retreat designed to support the version of you you're becoming.In-Person Visioning Retreat• January 10, 2026 | 10:00 AM  at Tuft n' Up Studio & Social • Early Bird Rate: $175 until Dec. 15 • General Admission: $250 • Reserve your place: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-visioning-retreat-pause-reflect-realign-tickets-1965651488516?aff=oddtdtcreatorGrateful to our venue partner @tuftnupstudio.social.Virtual Visioning Retreat• January 11, 2026 | 10:00 AM • Early Bird Rate: $125 until Dec. 15 • General Admission: $200 • Reserve your virtual seat: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-virtual-visioning-retreat-tickets-1970033518285?aff=oddtdtcreator#TheWholenessCenter #VisioningRetreat #Mindfullness #visionboard #MindfulnessRetreat #Manifestation #BIPOCWellness #BIPOCWomenLead #PurposefulLiving #Goals #EmpoweredWomen #PersonalGrowthJourney #EntrepreneurMindset Bemene Piaro is trained in the pure coaching approach, which places you, the client, in the driver’s seat of your coaching experience. Bemene completed her coach training at International Coach Academy (ICA) which is accredited with the International Coaching Federation (ICF). She also holds a master’s in public health from Georgia State University. Her coaching is neither mentoring nor directing but is a true accompaniment which supports and holds space for you to find your way on your journey. She is a mindfulness practitioner and has been practicing meditation for six years, particularly in the Vipassana and Plum Village traditions. She believes that being exposed to alternative perspectives and cultures widens a person’s understanding and their ability to communicate and empathize with all sorts of people. As a third culture kid, originally born in a village in Nigeria, Bemene loves to travel.  She has traveled to 18 countries and hopes to visit every country in the world in her lifetime. As your coach, Bemene brings a wealth of empathy and understanding of how the experience of living and working in inequitable systems can impact our ability to envision and embrace the life goals we truly desire and deserve. Are you ready to move forward in your life?  Bemene is ready and able to accompany you on your journey.

In this episode, I invite you into a tender yet rebellious conversation about what it truly means to de-center others and reclaim your own emotional, mental, and spiritual bandwidth.For so many of us—especially women—we were taught to give, give, give.To self-deprive.To silence our desires.To see ourselves only in relation to someone else, especially a man.But what happens when we consciously choose to break those patterns?This episode explores the courageous act of rebelling against what is expected and accepted, and choosing instead to build a life rooted in self-nurturing. I share how experimenting with small acts of care—receiving kindness, speaking gently to yourself, doing things simply because they feel good—begins to reprogram the negative thought cycles at the core of self-sacrifice.Together, we look at how to:✨ Stop centering your worth around others’ needs✨ Interrupt the patterns of self-deprivation you were taught✨ Reclaim the right to receive without guilt✨ Speak to yourself with softness, generosity, and truth✨ Choose new desires—ones that come from your body, your spirit, and your joyThis is your reminder that you are allowed to choose yourself.That you are allowed to want.And that you can rewrite the script of your life—one act of self-nurturing at a time.Tune in for a conversation that feels like a deep breath, a warm embrace, and a radical permission slip to center your own joy again.For resources join The Ultimate Joy Goddess CommunityWho is the Ultimate Joy Goddess? Cordelia Gaffar is a transformational leader guiding individuals and organizations to embody joy, deep healing, and authentic connection.  As the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and a private healing practice, she integrates somatic movement, intimacy coaching, and corporate consulting to foster self-mastery and well-being.  Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation.A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, amplifying conversations on self-discovery and emotional intelligence.  As a retreat facilitator and best-selling author of eight books, Cordelia curates transformative experiences and thought-provoking insights on pleasure, empowerment, and self-love.Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner.  She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose. Featured In Radio 786 South Africa – Emotional Wellness & Self-Nurturing using food as medicine  WNBC Radio – Dating after Divorce  Fox News – Self-Nurturing, Leadership & Women’s Wellness  Powerhouse Global Magazine – 2019, 2020, 2024 Global Woman of Impact  Podcast Host of the Year (2020, 2022)  Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019) 

In this episode, Coach Sandy B, my guest, opens her heart about the journey of learning to tell the truth—especially with the people who raised, shaped, and challenged us the most: our family. We explore what happens when we begin to communicate honestly after years of silence, suppression, or saying only what we believed others could handle.I share my personal reflections on accountability, the complicated layers of family dynamics, and how self-awareness invites us to show up differently. And yet—when we do show up differently, not everyone applauds. Sometimes, honesty feels like an attack. Sometimes, growth threatens the familiar. But life is wise. It circles us back to the conversations we avoided, the wounds we hid from, and the lessons we weren’t ready to learn—until now.This episode is an invitation to stand in your emotional truth with compassion. To remember that conflict is not failure—it’s a doorway to deeper intimacy. And to trust that the discomfort of communication can be the very thing that allows us to move forward with greater understanding, maturity, and love.What You’ll Hear:Why avoiding communication ultimately holds us backThe moment honesty shifts family dynamicsHow accountability transforms relationshipsThe emotional intelligence required for difficult conversationsLife lessons that return until we are ready to face themWhether you’re navigating the holiday season, healing generational patterns, or reclaiming your voice—this conversation is for you.Sandy B Limiting ourselvesSandra Barker-McIntosh, widely known as Coach SandyB, is an accountability coach, podcaster, speaker, and author with over five years of experience in coaching and podcasting, as well as more than twenty years in corporate accounting and finance. She combines her sharp analytical background with her ability to motivate high-achieving professionals to follow through, stay focused, and execute their goals with confidence. As the creator and host of the 90 Day Wins Podcast, Coach SandyB guides listeners through practical strategies rooted in her signature 90 Day Wins methodology. Her framework helps individuals and organizations build momentum, overcome procrastination, and stay committed to meaningful goals. Through insightful solo episodes and powerful interviews with thought leaders, she offers listeners a blueprint for personal and professional growth. As an accountability coach, she has supported entrepreneurs, creatives, and corporate professionals in turning vision into action. Her coaching goes beyond surface-level motivation. Coach SandyB is known for helping clients achieve clarity, organization, and consistent, aligned action that leads to real results. On stages, she speaks with energy, authenticity, and real-world wisdom, inspiring audiences to reset limiting beliefs, build self-trust, and create a plan they will actually follow. Her approach is rooted in clarity, accountability, and bold confidence. Sandra is also a wife, mother, and adventurer at heart. Whether she’s completing 5K mud runs or road-tripping with her family, she believes in living fully and enjoying the journey.Guided by Proverbs 21:5, “Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity,” she continues to champion the mission of helping people win daily through planning, disciplined execution, and unwavering faithConnect with her at https://90daywins.com/#communication #honesty #accountability #family dynamics #personalgrowth #relationships #self-awareness #emotional intelligence #conflict resolution #life lessons

Let's Talk Respectability PoliticsIn this episode, I open a heartfelt conversation about respectability politics and the myth of imposter syndrome. We’ve been told that imposter syndrome is something we must “fix” within ourselves—especially if we are women, mothers, creatives, or leaders who dare to do life differently. But what if the real issue is not within us at all?I explore how the world we move through was not designed with all of our identities, expressions, or cultural truths in mind—and how the pressure to “perform” acceptance, professionalism, or palatability can make us feel like we don’t belong in our own bodies.This is not about striving to fit in.This is about coming home to yourself.Together, we examine:How respectability politics show up in our daily choices—from how we speak to how we love ourselves.Why imposter syndrome is not a personal flaw but often a symptom of environments that do not know how to receive us.The radical power of nurturing your identity as sacred—your culture, your sensuality, your joy, your voice.What it looks like to honor yourself as the authority of your life, rather than seeking permission to be.This episode is an invitation to soften the edges you’ve sharpened to survive, to breathe into your individuality, and to remember that you are not here to prove yourself—you are here to embody yourself.May this conversation support you in reclaiming your wholeness, in public and in private.Let’s talk about it. Let’s remember ourselves.If this resonates, join the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community

Love Awakened: Healing the Blockages That Keep You From LoveLove isn’t something we chase—it’s something we remember.In this soul-stirring conversation, I sit down with Renee Miller, Founder of The Love Camp and my co-creator of the Love Awakened Retreat for Women, to explore the invisible barriers that keep us from experiencing the fullness of love. We unpack how trauma, self-protection, and cultural conditioning can quietly shape the way we give, receive, and even define love.Set against the lush, transformative backdrop of Bali, we reflect on the deep emotional labor that unfolds when women reclaim their softness, learn to trust again, and choose joy as a conscious act of healing. From self-awareness to self-respect, from boundaries to belonging—this episode is a sacred invitation to remember that the journey back to love always begins within.✨ You’ll discover:How identifying your love blockages opens the door to real growthWhy trauma and conditioning can distort your relationship with loveThe role of self-love as the foundation for every connectionHow emotional labor and vulnerability build authentic intimacyThe transformative power of healing in community💫 Your seasons of love are sacred. Which one are you in?Ready to join us in Bali next year? Join our waitlist https://join.thelovecamp.co/page/black-women-retreat-waiting-list#LoveAwakened #UltimateJoyGoddess #SeasonsOfLove #FromSurvivingToSavoring #PleasureIsHealing #BodySoulShift #EmotionalFreedom #FeminineRebirth #SacredJoy #SelfNurturingSunday

SummaryIn this conversation, Zaha Aljabri and James Faghmous discuss the various factors that rob people of their joy, particularly focusing on capitalism and its associated beliefs. They explore the importance of recognizing one's true nature and spiritual intelligence as a means to reconnect with joy. The discussion also touches on parenting in a capitalistic society, cultural expectations, and the role of joy in spirituality. Ultimately, they emphasize the need to reclaim joy amidst chaos and the importance of community and connection.Zahra is an author, award-winning entrepreneur, lawyer, and life coach who helps Muslim professionals unlock their highest potential—spiritually and strategically. As the former Founder & CEO of Mode-sty, the world’s first multi-brand modest fashion platform, Zahra’s work has been featured in Forbes, Vogue Arabia, MPR News, and USA Today.She now coaches her clients to overcome self-doubt and lean fully into divine support, showing that success in business and deen can go hand in hand. You can follow her on Instagram @practicalmuslim James H. Faghmous, Ph.D. is the trusted advisor to world-class Executives, top CEOs & public figures who want to amplify wealth in all areas of life, on their terms.As an entrepreneur, author, 2X Most Influential Muslim Award Recipient, former CTO of a $30M company and pioneer behind one of the first AI consultancy businesses, I've walked the path from technical excellence to transformational leadership. My greatest breakthrough came when I realized the key to sustainable success was through becoming Spiritually Intelligent - where more life meant more faith (not more work, more skills, or more degrees). The executives and public figures I advise crave more meaning, not more money. They understand that when you align your success with your deepest values, you don't just build a business; you build a movement.Limitless Life is the exclusive advisory program for top executives, CEOs, public figures, and world-class founders who refuse to settle for excellent when limitless is within reach. This is the only life transformation system you need to go from excellent to limitless, so you can amplify wealth in all areas of life, on your terms.The private mastery & expansion circle has already reshaped 1000+ of the most powerful Muslims globally, helping them create lives that honor their faith while expanding their influence, impact, and legacy beyond what they thought possible.TakeawaysCapitalism instills false beliefs that rob joy.Recognizing our true nature is essential for joy.Spiritual intelligence helps transition from doing to being.Parenting in a capitalistic world creates cognitive dissonance.Cultural expectations can diminish self-worth.Joy is a spiritual practice and connection to God.AI cannot replace the inherent value of humans.Finding joy is a revolutionary act against capitalism.Community and connection are vital for joy.We must challenge the systems that rob us of joy.joy, capitalism, spiritual intelligence, self-worth, parenting, cultural expectations, AI, community, spirituality, connectionChapters00:00 Introduction to Joy and Capitalism02:48 The Impact of Capitalism on Joy05:56 Understanding Our True Nature08:45 Spiritual Intelligence and Self-Recognition11:28 Parenting in a Capitalistic World14:22 Cultural Expectations and Self-Worth17:26 The Role of Joy in Spirituality20:42 Navigating Capitalism with Joy23:23 The Illusion of AI and Human Value26:15 The Future of Humanity and Capitalism29:15 Finding Joy Amidst Chaos32:27 The Importance of Connection and Community35:06 Joy as a Spiritual Practice38:06 The Challenge of Embracing Joy41:02 Conclusion: Reclaiming Our Joy

In this enlightening conversation, Willie J and I delve into the concept of pleasure, exploring its foundations, the importance of awareness and responsibility in seeking joy, and the transformative power of detachment. How do you do that in these times?Are there practices that you are missing or could deepen?You will enjoy this riveting exchanges between mature believers of different dogma choosing the joy of spirituality as a role model of what is possible.Write me at [email protected] and let me know what is robbing you of your pleasure? And what you are doing to change that?Choose joy and pleasure. When you do you become upstoppable.#pleasure,#joy, #awareness, #detachment, #gratitude, #fulfillment, #spiritual growth, #innerpeace, #self-awareness, #responsibility

The Whole Tantrum Party Feeling with Community. Subscribe here. In this opening season episode, I outline reasons to have a whole tantrum. You may think that is not very mature or sensible and I beg to differ. Listen to the six reasons you need to have a whole tantrum and my further invitation to experience that with me.  This episode also serves as the guide for season 2 and the conversations you will hear with varying spiritual and religious filters. Feel into your body as you listen. Do you feel ease, release, constriction, increased or decreased heart rate? This is somatic practice in words. I am always curious to hear your heart so please feel free to schedule time with me https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddessCordelia Gaffar is a powerhouse of transformation, guiding individuals and organizations toward deep healing, embodied joy, and authentic connection. She is the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and runs a thriving private healing practice. A passionate healer and thought leader, she seamlessly integrates her expertise as a somatic movement facilitator, intimacy coach, corporate consultant, and philosopher to help people unlock their fullest potential.A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, a platform where she amplifies profound conversations on self-discovery, emotional mastery, and human connection. Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner. She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose.Keywordstantrum, joy, peace, self-regulation, inner child, emotional health, personal growth, surrender, pleasure, curiosity

Why Rage is Required for Your Ultimate Joy! This episode is about extreme feelings that are available to open you up to your core for your ultimate joy. How are you using your rage? Are you using it?I also wrote more about this in my substack. Subscribe, comment and enjoy!https://open.substack.com/pub/cordeliagaffar/p/why-rage-is-required?r=1z8t8j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=trueRage and Joy: The concept of rage as a necessary emotion for ultimate joy, and how to liberate and redirect it through practices like belly dance and somatic movement.Sometimes life can be infuriating. You want to throw rocks, scream to the top of your lungs, smash stuff, and all the ways you can possibly express rage. But why don’t you?#rage #joy #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #community #emotional abuse #emotional wellness #sexuality #sensuality #somatichealing #healing #selfnurturing #detachedlove

What if the way you show up in the world—on stage, on camera, or even in your daily life—wasn’t about performing… but about being fully, unapologetically YOU?In this powerful and soul-nourishing conversation, I sit down with Lucy Devi Hall, a visibility and public speaking coach who helps entrepreneurs fall in love with how they show up. Lucy’s unique approach blends emotional strategy, embodied confidence, and parts work, guiding leaders to be seen without shrinking or shape-shifting to fit expectations.But Lucy’s story is more than professional expertise—it’s deeply personal. From surviving childhood sexual abuse, losing her parents, navigating eating disorders, and experiencing racism, Lucy learned to hide as a survival strategy. Now, she teaches us that true visibility isn’t just about showing up—it’s about reclaiming your freedom to be who you were born to be.We talk about: ✨ Why visibility is personal, political, and profoundly liberating ✨ Healing the parts of you that feel too “much” or “not enough” ✨ Shifting from performing for approval to embodying your truth ✨ How to fall in love with your presence—on stage, on camera, and in lifeLucy is also a published author, vegan, animal lover, and music enthusiast who’s sung on three albums—proof that visibility can be both deeply healing and joyfully creative.If you’ve ever felt invisible or struggled to share your brilliance with the world, this episode is your invitation to step into the light, exactly as you are.📲 Connect with Lucy Devi Hall: Instagram: @lucydevihall Facebook: Lucy Devi Hallhttps://lucydevihall.com/ 🎙️ **"Thank you for listening to What People Miss. If this conversation inspired you to savor your life a little more, I invite you to continue the journey with me.Visit CordeliaGaffar.com to explore more ways to reclaim your joy and confidence. And if you’re ready to go deeper, join us in the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community—where we practice radical self-nurturing, pleasure, and presence together.Because you deserve to live free, liberated, and fully alive. I’ll see you there."**

“Joy is a lifestyle, not something you buy.” – Richard NoelIn this week’s What People Miss, we’re talking about how to live joyfully, intentionally, and in alignment with your true self. My guest Richard Noel — sound therapist, musician, and joy advocate — reveals how:✔ Incantations reprogram your mind faster than affirmations ✔ Your mood is your Wi-Fi (it affects every connection you have) ✔ Emotional baggage blocks your natural state of happiness ✔ Worrying is a form of negative meditation you can stop todayThis is more than a conversation — it’s an invitation to choose joy daily, manage your vibration, and give yourself permission to live blissfully.🎧 Listen now, and then ask yourself: What joy practices can I start today? joy, harmony, lifestyle, emotional well-being, personal growth, self-care, mental healthCordelia GaffarThe Ultimate Joy GoddessWho am I? Cordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment. Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah, Somatic K.A.P. Facilitator.  Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection. Visit https://cordeliagaffar.com/

 "We Can Catch This Healing" – A Conversation on Wholeness, Vulnerability & Black Masculinity 🎙️✨In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I sit down with Bernard to reflect on my guest-hosting experience at King’s Corner—the virtual sanctuary created by Black Men Heal in Philadelphia. Together, we open the door to raw, liberating dialogue on what it truly means for Black men to feel safe in their bodies, reclaim their dignity, and allow themselves to heal. 💔💫🛑 We challenge the grind. 🌀 We redefine productivity. 💗 We honor rest, emotional safety, and radical self-care. 💬 We say: "You deserve to be your full self."This is not just a conversation—it’s a movement toward collective healing. We speak on receiving as sacred, vulnerability as strength, and how community can be the container for transformation.🎧 Tune in to hear: 👉 “We have to fight for our dignity.” 👉 “We can catch this healing.” 👉 What emotional intimacy, self-love, and reparenting look like in real time.This is for the brothers walking their path, and for those who love them.#PersonalGrowth #SelfCare #HealthyMasculinity #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ConsciousRelationships #EmotionalHealing #RedefineProductivity #BlackMenHeal #IntimacyMatters #CommunityCare #MentalHealthAwareness #MenAndEmotions #WholenessJourneyAbout my guest:Bernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.To learn more about his work visit https://transformandthrivesolutions.com

In this deeply nourishing conversation, the Queen and I embark on an intimate exploration of what it truly means for Black women over 50 to reclaim their wholeness. Together, we dive into the rich layers of Black women's sexual liberation, the healing power of community and co-regulation, and the often unspoken impact of colorism on self-identity and desirability.We unravel the myth that worthiness is something to be earned, instead affirming that self-worth is a radical choice—one Black women must prioritize unapologetically. Our dialogue weaves in the tender integration of grief as a sacred portal to joy, the spiritual practice of multi-orgasmic living, and the beautiful dance of duality in self-compassion.This episode invites you to release societal distortions, embrace your desires, and remember that your liberation is your birthright. Whether you’re beginning this journey or deep in the work, you’ll walk away feeling seen, supported, and empowered to live fully, sensually, and authentically.✨ Key Takeaways:Sexual liberation is essential at every age.Healing thrives in community and co-regulation.Colorism shapes self-perception and desirability.Self-worth is a choice that fuels empowerment.Grief and joy are both necessary companions.Multi-orgasmic living is a path to spiritual wholeness.Duality in self-compassion is where true growth begins.Social media can distort your sense of self—reclaim it.Your desires are sacred; honoring them is revolutionary.Wholeness is not a destination—it’s a lifelong journey.🌸 This episode is a love note to Black women over 50: You are worthy, desirable, and whole—right now.Chapters00:00 Celebrating Liberation and Wholeness05:44 Community and Co-Regulation in Healing10:12 Navigating Colorism and Self-Identity18:18 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Desirability24:26 The Journey of Choice and Emotional Labor28:50 Navigating Grief and Breath Work31:41 The Journey Through Discomfort33:49 Multi-Orgasmic Living and Spiritual Wealth36:42 Reconnecting to Wholeness39:23 Embracing Dualities and Shadow Work42:38 Reclaiming Power and Sexual Agency46:29 Living in Liberation and Joy#Blackwomen, #sexualliberation, #community, #self-worth, #colorism, #healing, #empowerment, #spirituality, #joy, #wholenessCordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment. Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts. Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection. Choose joy and always pleasure! Visit my website to learn about my programs.

In this powerful and liberating conversation, Cordelia sits down with Mx. Queen, LCSW, M.Ed., a somatic sex therapist and founder of the Erospirituality Centre, to explore the depths of Black sexual liberation, erotic intelligence, and the sacred intersection of spirituality and sexuality. Together, they unpack the critical distinctions between sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation—and why understanding these differences is essential for both personal healing and collective freedom.This episode dives into how emotional and erotic intelligence shape our ability to experience pleasure, self-trust, and authentic connection. Cordelia and Queen examine how religious conditioning, societal norms, and the politics of desirability have limited sexual expression, especially within Black bodies. They illuminate the path of co-regulation, discipline, and the ongoing work of decolonizing sexuality.At its core, this conversation is a loving invitation to return to your body, embrace pleasure as a form of resistance, and reclaim your erotic self as a vital aspect of Black liberation.Key Takeaways:The personal always informs professional healing.Erotic intelligence guides us through chaos toward clarity.Sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation are distinct, vital layers.Liberation requires intentional discipline and deep understanding.Pleasure is not optional—it is essential for healing and joy.Religion often restricts full sexual expression.Emotional intelligence and co-regulation are the foundations of healthy relationships.Desirability politics deeply shape our experiences of freedom.Decolonizing sexuality is a lifelong practice of liberation.About Mx. Queen:Mx. Queen (they/Queen) is a licensed somatic sex therapist, certified hypnotherapist, energy worker, and breathwork facilitator. As an erotic liberation author and healing guide, they center Black sexual liberation through their signature program, Healing The Erotic Self (HTES), and the Erospirituality Centre. Their work helps people cultivate embodied safety, self-trust, and intuitive lovership.Learn more about Queen’s masterclasses and healing experiences at Erospirituality.com.#WhatsPeopleMissPodcast#ConsciousConversations#LiberationTalks#HealingDialogues #SacredStories#BlackJoy#BlackLiberation#BlackHealing#QueerHealing #SexPositive

In this powerful and timely episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I sit down with Coach E., a seasoned Functional Movement Specialist who has helped over 3,000 clients reclaim strength and ease chronic pain. Together, we dive deep into the layered intersections of functional movement, emotional wellness, and the often-overlooked impact of racism on the body.Coach E. shares his lived experience as a Black man navigating discrimination, and how those encounters leave an imprint—not just on the mind, but deep within the muscles, breath, and posture. We explore how trauma and emotional stress manifest physically, particularly in the shoulders, chest, and gut, and how mindful breathing, nourishing food, and intentional movement can offer profound relief.This episode is a call to action: to slow down, tune in, and honor what’s still alive in your body. Your healing begins with presence.🎧 Listen in and savor your return to wholeness.🌐 Learn more: ElevationHealthErgo.com✨ Key Takeaways:Functional movement is a medicine for the nervous systemRacism and emotional labor create chronic stress in the bodyPain is the body’s last languagePresence, breath, and community are healing toolsWomen often carry invisible emotional loadsNourishment and movement support emotional freedom#JewelsOfJuneteenth #LeadershipInWellness #FunctionalHealth #TraumaInformedLeadership #MindfulMovement #EmotionalWellness #RacismAndHealth #HealingThroughPresence #BodyWisdom #Empowerment

 In this episode of Jewels of Juneteenth, I get to discuss segregation, the dreams we lost, and the power we may be missing today with E. Bernard Alexander.Whilst everyone is up in arms about the future of DEI, we ask a challenging and thought-provoking question: Are we missing the gifts of segregation—the ability to empower ourselves, heal our communities, and align with our divine purpose? Could we pull from history and see what we created on the heels of Emancipation to move forward today in a more purposeful and unified way?E. Bernard brings a rich blend of expertise and lived experience to this conversation. As a transformational health and wellness professional, counselor, coach, actor, and creative, Bernard highlights the necessity of shifting from a framework of mere “equality” toward true “equity”— honoring the unique roles we all have in rebuilding strong, thriving communities.Together we explore: ➥ Why we’ve gotten it backwards by focusing on separation instead of unity ➥ How understanding our divine rights can empower us to create lasting change ➥ The roles men and women can play in strengthening their communities ➥ The power of dialogue, understanding, and collaboration across genders ➥ Why local economics and community solidarity matter more than we realize ➥ The importance of transformation, self-discovery, and honoring a higher purposeBernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us that we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.About My Guest: E. Bernard Alexander is a transformational health and wellness professional specializing in trauma healing, holistic wellness, and empowering individuals and communities to achieve lasting growth. His expertise is grounded in a unique blend of cognitive, behavioral, and spiritual perspectives, supported by his education (Temple University and Biblical Theological Seminary) and lived experience.Bernard is not just a healer; he’s a storyteller, actor, musician, and former celebrity barber — a creative soul who advocates for unity, transformation, and communal rebirth.Keywords: #segregation #equity #divinerights #community #transformation #localeconomies #empowerment #gendercohesion #dialogue #healing

What People Miss is a podcast about living life by noticing the subtleties. Like Mozart said, "The music is not in the notes, but in the space between them". The theme for the month of June is the Jewels of Juneteenth. In this interview, I am interviewing Tiffany Wright, the Founder of BOBC, Blacked Owned Business Community.Highlights:Why is there a need for BOBC?How does the Black business community compare to 100 years ago?What are some of the challenges?Juneteenth Gala originsBlack ExcellenceAbout my Guest:Tiffany Wright is the founder of BOBC and Beyond Measure, a non profit for adults with learning difficulties. She is a New Jersey native who moved to the Eastern Panhandle of West Virginia in 2020. Currently located in Hagerstown, MD she is boots on the ground in the origin area of black excellence and booming businesses post JIm Crow.Get your tickets and join BOBC https://bobcwvmarketing.wixsite.com/bobcevents

Are you wearing your crown and creating your life—or simply waiting to see what life gives you?Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not just survive. To feel—not just function. To rise—not only react.As we welcome June and prepare to honor Juneteenth, let’s recognize this holiday for more than a moment in time. Let’s use it as a mirror and a map—revealing where we’ve been and where we still must go, especially within.What People Miss About JuneteenthJuneteenth is not just about the freeing of enslaved people—it’s about the delay of freedom. It marks the moment in 1865 when those in Galveston, Texas finally learned of the Emancipation Proclamation—two and a half years after it was signed.That delay? It mirrors the emotional delay many of us live with every day. Long after the trauma ends, the nervous system still doesn’t know it’s free. Long after the gaslighting, the heartbreak, the isolation, our bodies still flinch. Our spirits still whisper, “Am I safe yet?”So, what do we do?We don’t wait for someone else to give us permission to be free. We choose to be free.Emotional Freedom Is Our New EmancipationJuneteenth teaches us that truth and freedom are not always delivered—they’re discovered. They’re embodied.This June, I invite you to explore the Jewels of Juneteenth—lessons hidden inside hardship. Jewels are those moments or memories that once tried to crush us, yet became catalysts for our transformation. That’s what emotional healing is: the art of flipping pain into power.In this episode, I talk about the history of Juneteenth and connect the dots between emotional healing, wholeness and historical events.The Emancipation ProclamationThe Reconstruction EraHarlem Renaissance/ Jim CrowSelf-nurturingInvitationsFree Experiences RetreatAnd that’s the theme not only for the month of June, but for my podcast What People Miss, and my movement: From Surviving to Savoring.From Surviving to Savoring: A Radical ReclamationThis isn’t a cute quote or another checklist. This is a somatic shift. This is about activating the parts of you that forgot how to feel good… and reminding them: Pleasure is not a reward. It’s a right.Starting Tuesday, June 3 at 7 PM ET, I’m leading a 3-day virtual retreat called:From Surviving to Savoring: How to Rewire Your Body for Pleasure and Emotional FreedomThis is your sacred space to: 🌿 Let your nervous system finally exhale 🌿 Use your emotions as a map, not a mess 🌿 Reconnect your body to joy and truth 🌿 Remember the woman you were before the world told you otherwiseThis is the real work. This is the work that ends emotional abuse—not only in your partnerships or past, but in how you treat yourself.This is your Juneteenth of the soul.So, how will you walk into this week?Will you wear your crown? Will you meet your requirements instead of waiting for crumbs? Will you transmute pain into purpose?Because the other side of this work is joy. It’s embodiment. It’s multi-orgasmic living—not just sexually, but spiritually. Orgasm is the electric spark of life from your core, radiating out through every choice, word, and breath.Let June be different this year. Let it be your liberation.💫 You get to reclaim your joy. 💫 You get to savor your life. 💫 You get to become the woman you were always meant to be.🔗 Register Now for the 3-day virtual retreat: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndALet’s walk through the Jewels of Juneteenth together.#sweetwalk #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #emotionalfreedom #jewels #multiorgasmicliving #pleasure

In this conversation, Abeo Noel and I explore the multifaceted concept of self-care, emphasizing its importance in personal well-being and relationships. We discuss the necessity of recognizing one's own needs, the role of retreats in self-discovery, and the connection between self-care and pleasure. We also touch on cultural perspectives of self-care and practical tips for integrating it into daily life, ultimately advocating for a more mindful approach to personal health and emotional awareness.We also discuss different forms of retreats:VirtualHybridWithinDomesticInternationalMy next virtual retreat From Surviving to Savoring June 3-5 register here https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndATakeawaysSelf-care is essential for emotional well-being.Women often lose themselves in relationships and need to reclaim their identity.Taking time for self-care is not selfish; it's necessary.Retreats can provide valuable space for self-reflection and growth.Listening to the body's signals is crucial for self-care.Self-care practices can be simple and accessible.Cultural perspectives shape our understanding of self-care.Self-pleasure is an important aspect of self-care.Carving out time for self-care is vital in a busy life.Self-care should be a natural part of daily living.About My Guest:https://www.diagnosis2desires.com/Abeo Noel, The Intimacy CoachWith 24 years of experience as a Nurse Practitioner at NYU Langone Health, Abeo Noel has identified a crucial gap in healthcare: the lack of integration of sex education and pleasure into treatment plans. Driven to bridge this divide, she has expanded her practice to include holistic and pleasure-centered care.Originally from Trinidad and Tobago and raised between there and the U.S., Abeo brings a rich cultural perspective that deeply informs her work. As an Erosomatic Touch Practitioner and Sex Doula, she offers a unique blend of clinical expertise and somatic healing, addressing the full spectrum of physical, emotional, and sexual well-being.Her work is rooted in the values of family, community, happiness, peace, pleasure, and loyalty. With a deep understanding of how these elements contribute to holistic health, she empowers her clients to embrace pleasure as a vital part of their healing and overall happiness.#self-care #emotionalawareness #relationships #retreats #wellness #health #pleasure #culturalperspectives #mindfulness #personalgrowth

Think of this episode as a blend of how you consciously and unconsciously make choices. Zai Miztiq and I were talking one day and this came up. You get to hear our thoughts and the psychology behind why beautiful women choose ugly men. That means behavior as well as looks. I am bringing levity to mental health awareness whether you are a beautiful woman or ugly man join us 😂🥰🎉According to Zai Miztiq, it is an A.R.T. Watch and find out how to magnetize the higher version of yourself!#romance #relationships #mentalhealthawareness She is the Founder of Step Up Journey and author, Speaker and coach living in Dubai.

SummaryIn this episode, Cordelia Gaffar discusses the often-overlooked challenges that mothers face in balancing work and family life. She highlights the emotional labor involved, the impact on self-worth, and offers practical solutions for reclaiming joy and nurturing oneself amidst the chaos of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care, breathing techniques, and the need for mothers to honor themselves and their contributions.TakeawaysMothers face unique work stress that is often overlooked.Emotional labor significantly impacts a mother's mental and physical health.Self-worth can be diminished by workplace expectations and judgments.Mothers should not be penalized for being late due to family responsibilities.Overachieving in the workplace can lead to physical stress and anxiety.Breathing techniques can help mothers reclaim their joy and reduce stress.Delegating tasks at home and work is essential for self-care.Mothers should prioritize their own needs and desires.Choosing joy and pleasure is vital for mental well-being.Every day should be a celebration of motherhood. If you would like support with your work stress and need a safe space to reclaim your joy, connect with me by scheduling here.

My series on Mothers and Motherhood begins Monday on What People Miss. This week let’s be honest about Mothers and Divorce. Some women don’t want it. Some women do want it. Both groups sometimes stay bondage to the emotions of their decision and the circumstances which created it for years. What if you could not only be free of it but use the emotions as the fuel for liberation?What if you could be divorced and free of attachment?1 - Choosing Cartwheels over hurtle2 - Get Comfortable with being curious (wonder and wander)3 - Co-parenting with Ex4 - Somatic HealingIf my words resonate, let's talk https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/apply-for-reveal-your-erotic-self-clone#hashtagshortsfeed #theultimatejoygoddess #divorcedmoms #cordeliagaffar #mscorporateamerica #play

In this heartfelt conversation, Renee Miller and I explore the profound themes of love, accountability, and the beauty of life. We discuss the importance of integral love, which emphasizes responsibility and empathy in our interactions. The conversation delves into the barriers that prevent a loving world, including personal struggles and societal issues. Ultimately, they highlight the power of choice and self-love as essential components in creating a more beautiful and connected existence.TakeawaysIf people came from a place of love, we would see more integral energy.Integral love keeps you accountable and honors others.We don't want to be honest about our contributions to the world's issues.We have more power than we think in creating change.The beauty of life comes from having integral love with ourselves first.Practicing self-love can transform our relationships with others.We are all connected, and our actions impact those around us.The power of choice is essential in overcoming victim mentality.Aiming for the frequency of joy can change our perspective on life.We need love at the cornerstone of everything we do.Connect with Renee @thelovecampofficial and https://www.thelovecamp.co/Connect with Cordelia @cordeliagaffar and https://cordeliagaffar.com/#beauty of life #integral love #accountability #self-love #choice #humanity #emotional connection #personal growth #love energy #empowerment

In this engaging conversation, Cordelia Gaffar and Renee Miller explore the multifaceted nature of love, relationships, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of shadow work, effective communication in new relationships, and the role of compassion in leadership. The dialogue emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence and the impact of love blockages on personal and professional interactions. Ultimately, the conversation highlights the transformative power of love and joy in both personal and corporate settings.#love #relationships #shadow work #communication #compassion #leadership #emotionalintelligence #joy #loveblockages #personalgrowthAbout my guest:Meet Renee Miller, the Founder of the Love Camp, best selling author and creator of the 7 Steps of Compassionate Leadership and Unblock Your Love as well as podcast host of Love Notes with Renee Miller.https://www.thelovecamp.co/

In this enlightening conversation, Cordelia Gaffar and Dr. Neema Moore delve into the often-overlooked aspects of menopause, discussing its beauty, the challenges of perimenopause, and the impact of hormonal changes on women's health. They explore the significance of community support, the effects of fibroids, and the positive transformations that can occur during this life stage. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-care, confidence, and the opportunity for women to reassess their lives and make meaningful connections as they navigate this transition.TakeawaysMenopause can be a time of joy and self-discovery.Perimenopause can start as early as 35 years old.Women often lack information about menopause from healthcare providers.Fibroids are influenced by estrogen and can improve during menopause.Menopause can lead to a sexual awakening for some women.Community support is crucial for women navigating menopause.Confidence often increases during menopause as women prioritize their needs.Self-care practices are essential for managing menopause symptoms.Exploring new friendships can enrich life during menopause.Women should seek alternative therapies for managing fibroids. Sound Bites"Fibroids are fed by estrogen.""Menopause is great for fibroids!""You need to be a part of something."Chapters00:00 Introduction to Menopause and Joy07:41 Understanding Perimenopause and Menopause08:59 The Role of Healthcare Providers13:31 Exploring Alternatives to Hysterectomy21:38 Impact of Fibroids on Women's Health25:17 Understanding Menopause and Fibroids27:48 The Transition to Menopause30:58 Embracing Change and Confidence32:57 Creating Community and Support35:58 Exploring New Friendships and Opportunities38:50 The Importance of Self-Care and Nurturing43:37 Curiosity and Exploration in Midlife45:42 Outro.mp4About My Guest:Dr. Neema Tillery Moore is a dynamic Chiropractor, Amazon best-selling author of the empowering book "Confidence NOW!", and a business owner. With a fervent dedication to championing professional women, she is deeply committed to helping them cultivate confidence, enhance their well-being, and step into their full potential. Dr. Moore's educational background includes degrees in Biology Secondary Education and a Doctor of Chiropractic from the esteemed Palmer College of Chiropractic.Through her multifaceted approach encompassing Chiropractic, Functional Medicine, Global health initiatives, and luxurious wellness retreats, Dr. Moore provides women with transformative experiences to reconnect, prioritize self-care, and manifest their dream lives. Engage with her across various platforms by connecting @drneemadc

SummaryIn this conversation, Cordelia Gaffar explores the critical differences between equity and equality, emphasizing the importance of focusing on equity to achieve fairness and justice. She discusses cultural transformation, the need to value all forms of work, the significance of financial inclusion for women, and the empowerment that comes from self-care and joy. Gaffar encourages listeners to recognize their own worth and the worth of others, advocating for a shift in perspective that prioritizes equity over equality.TakeawaysEquity focuses on fairness and justice, while equality means providing the same to all.Cultural transformation is essential for changing perceptions of women.Valuing all forms of work is crucial for achieving equity.Financial inclusion must be accessible and educational for women.Women need to prioritize their own desires and well-being.Self-care and joy are forms of empowerment.Emotions are guides to understanding justice and fairness.Recognizing systemic barriers is key to achieving equity.The way we talk about ourselves influences our self-worth.Focusing on solutions rather than problems leads to progress.Sound Bites"Focus on equity, not equality.""Women have to want for themselves.""Equity focuses on the solution."Chapters00:00 Understanding Equity vs. Equality05:27 Cultural Transformation and Its Importance13:48 Valuing All Forms of Work16:50 Financial Inclusion for Women20:36 Empowerment Through Self-Awareness and Pleasure28:01 Outro.mp4

, "Aging has a wonderful beauty, and we should have respect for that."Have you questioned your looks? Felt judged for them? Or even avoided discussing them for fear of (fill in the blank)? Let's talk about what beauty is and is not.self awareness, self love, rediscovery and the importance of recognizing the beauty within us. Introducing Dr. Chi Quita Mack, MSW: distinguished social worker, accomplished author, and revered healing coach. Driven by an unyielding commitment to excellence, she stands as a beacon of inspiration and empowerment to all who cross her path. With a profound dedication to knowledge and service, Dr. Chi Quita Mack holds the highest academic accolades, including a Doctor of Philosophy in Entrepreneurship & Business Administration, a Master of Social Work, and a Bachelor of Science in Biology with a minor in Military Science. Her academic prowess is matched only by her unwavering determination to effect positive change in the lives of others. As the visionary owner and founder of The Chi Quita Mack, LLC and the owner and Founder of the non-profit Rediscovery, Dr. Mack has crafted a sanctuary for women, a haven where healing thrives, inspiration ignites, and the resounding echo of resilience reverberates. Her mission is clear: to remind every woman of her inherent strength, to guide her towards rediscovery, and to empower her to reclaim her essence. Dr. Chi Quita Mack's transformative journey commenced in the hills of West Virginia, where she navigated early motherhood at the tender age of 21. Confronted with profound challenges, she grappled with the elusive pursuit of purpose, happiness, and peace. It was amidst this crucible of self-discovery that she unearthed the profound depths of self-love and the transformative power of introspection. In her quest to illuminate the path to healing, Dr. Mack authored "The Beauty in You" Workbook, a seminal guide designed to usher women through the seven realms of rediscovery: from self-love to goal setting, each step a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. An impassioned advocate for women's empowerment, Dr. Mack lends her voice to "The Beauty in You Podcast," where she amplifies the narratives of women worldwide as they navigate their own journeys of rediscovery.  With a multitude of certifications as a Certified Life, Mindfulness, Business, and Entrepreneurship Coach, Dr. Chi Quita Mack embodies the essence of resilience, compassion, and unwavering determination. Her roots may lie in Columbus, GA, but her indomitable spirit knows no bounds, touching lives and igniting transformation in the hallowed halls of Washington DC and beyond. Dr. Chi Quita Mack stands as a testament to the boundless potential that resides within each of us a luminous force of inspiration, empowerment, and unyielding grace.

Many intelligent and successful women suffer in silence with an unspoken trauma. Sometimes because they don’t acknowledge it and sometimes because it is not recognized as a REAL form of abuse. According to https://www.womenslaw.org/👍Emotional abuse is defined as “...mostly non-physical behaviors that the abuser uses to control, isolate, or frighten you. Often, the abuser uses it to break down your self-esteem and self-worth in order to create a psychological dependency on him/her.”During our discussion we will identify the symptoms and share our stories of how we have moved on and you can too. You will want to be there for MOving Beyond Emotional Abuse with Dr. Marcea Whitaker.Does emotional abuse happen only in the home or can it occur at work and other places?What was your experience of emotional abuse? When did you realize it was happening?How did you miss it?How did you move beyond it?What do you offer to someone who may be currently experiencing it?You may also watch the full episode with the behind the scenes extras.About my guest:Dr. Marcea Whitaker is an award-winning international keynote speaker, physician, master destiny life & business coach, Barnes & Noble bestselling author, and radio personality. As CEO of In Full Bloom Health and Life Coaching, she empowers professional women to break free from their personal prisons and achieve their destinies through Girl Boss Life Academy. Her follow-on program, Life Coaching for Business Builders, is powerful tool helping women reach their business destiny.  Dr. Marcea has been named International Woman of the Year for two consecutive years and featured in Forbes and major media platforms like ABC, NBC, FOX, CBS, CEO Weekly, and USA Today, Dr. Marcea has hosts the Boss Business Strategies podcast and guest hosts on SiriusXM. #EmotionalAbuse #HealingJourney #WomensEmpowerment #MoveBeyondAbuse #BreakTheSilence #TraumaRecovery #SelfWorth #HealingIsPossible #WomenSupportingWomen #EmotionalWellness #YouAreNotAlone #PersonalGrowth #HealingTogether #BossWomen #LifeCoaching #DestinyAwaits #MentalHealthMatters #SelfLoveJourney #EmpoweredWomen #AuthenticLiving

Hi I am your host Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you love your life. I do that by showing you how to play with Intimacy. You will reveal yourself to yourself so that you can reveal yourself to those you love.Today I will present what care looks like in all areas of life:BusinessCareerHome lifeIntimate relationshipsThe distinction between business and career is one you are a business owner and the other you are an employee even if you are in the C suite.The distinction between home life and intimate relationships is that home life is the business of running a home and intimate relationships are the individual relationship with the people in the home.Let’s see what people miss about care!Take notes and if my philosophy resonates connect with me at [email protected] Gaffar  is the founder of the Workout Around My Day Inc  and has a private healing practice. She is also the two time award winning host of the What People Miss and previously The Free To Be Show Podcast, a retreat facilitator, passionate healer, intimacy coach, somatic movement facilitator, retreat facilitator, corporate consultant, philosopher, and best selling author of eight books. A recovering accountant and former CFO of an IT firm, she is certified in sports nutrition, holistic healing, somatic movement, Authentic Consent, worked as an emotional wellness coach for 8 years, intimacy and corporate consulting for the past 3 years, veteran homeschooling mom for 20 years and counting.

Hi I am your host Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you love your life. I do that by showing you how to play with Intimacy. You will reveal yourself to yourself so that you can reveal yourself to those you love. Would you like to help me write my next book?Starting April 14th I am offering a small group of women a six week experience called Revealing Your Erotic Self. The goal is for you to embody your emotions in a way that reveals and explores the depth of your being as fuel and ignites your passion for life. Are you open to that?It begins April 14th email me at [email protected] for details.Today we are talking about the Joy of Vision with Bemene Piaro. We discuss:What is VisioningWhat do people miss about visioningSneak peak at our event on March 29th https://www.eventbrite.com/e/womens-self-nurturing-and-networking-day-tickets-1227639315239?aff=oddtdtcreatorAbout my guest:Bemene Piaro is a certified life coach and the founder of The Wholeness Center. Born in Nigeria and raised in the US, she has traveled to more than 20 countries, deepening her understanding of diverse cultures and perspectives. She holds a Master’s in Public Health and certifications from the International Coach Academy and the International Coaching Federation.Bemene specializes in coaching women of color to overcome challenges posed by inequitable systems and self-limiting beliefs, empowering them to create the lives they desire by reconnecting with their innate courage, agency, and freedom. She has led multiple visioning workshops and provides group and one-on-one coaching to clients across the US.Beyond her coaching practice, Bemene partners with organizations like the CoachMe program and One to One: Women Coaching Women to offer pro bono coaching for those in need. With a unique blend of mindfulness, practical strategies, and compassionate support, she helps individuals and couples reflect, manifest, and embody wholeness.Connect with her https://wholenesscenterva.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/bemenepiaro/

Have you ever been told you’re too much? Or warned not to step outside the boundaries of your industry?If you’ve ever felt boxed in or pressured to shrink yourself, this episode is your permission slip to break free. My next guest is the embodiment of living all that she is, and she’s here to inspire you to do the same.In this soul-nourishing conversation, we explore the beauty, power, and freedom that comes from embracing your full Self — no edits, no apologies. Together, we reflect on what the world misses out on when we dim our light, and how honoring your truth is the ultimate abundance.I had the honor of meeting her recently when we collaborated on The Renaissance, a powerful stage play where I starred as Angel and she shined as the co-producer and co-writer. She’s also the visionary behind the documentary 10:22, which we’ll dive into during this episode — along with the transformational concept of the “abundance economy.”✨ Tune in for a deep and joyful conversation about creativity, courage, and the audacity to BE all that you ARE!Ericka S. Black is a storyteller, mother, wife, top DC realtor, developer, and creative visionary. As the co-producer and co-writer of The Renaissance, she pours her love for the arts into crafting stories that reflect culture, struggles, and triumphs in fresh and exciting ways.A Black woman navigating both business and creativity, Ericka understands the power of storytelling—not just in entertainment, but in everyday life. Whether she’s helping a family find their perfect home as one of DC’s top realtors with Coldwell Banker, raising her son, or bringing bold new narratives to the stage, she moves with intention and passion.With The Renaissance, Ericka is helping create something more than just a show—it’s a celebration of resilience, artistry, and reinvention. Set to be a night of culture, community, and creativity, The Renaissance invites audiences to experience a story that speaks to who we are and where we’re going.#TooMuchTooMagical#PermissionToShine#BeAllOfYou#BreakTheBox#NoMoreShrinking#WomenWhoCreate#VisibilityMatters#AuthenticExpression#CreativeFreedom#AudacityToBe