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Show NotesAusten, Jane. Pride and Prejudice. With Christina Lupton and James Kinsley, 3rd ed, Oxford University Press, Incorporated, 2020. Oxford World’s Classics Ser.Ford, Susan Allen. “Mr. Collins Interrupted: Reading Fordyce’s Sermons with Pride and Prejudice.” The Jane Austen Society of North America, 2013, https://jasna.org/persuasions/on-line/vol34no1/ford.html?hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. HarperCollinsPublishers, 2018.“Jane Austen’s House.” Jane Austen’s House, https://janeaustens.house/. Accessed 6 Mar. 2026.Merton, Thomas. Love And Living. Edited by Patrick Hart and Naomi Burton Stone, HarperOne, 2002.Wilshere, Meredith. “It Turns Out Pride & Prejudice Fans Have Emma Thompson to Thank for This Now-Viral Line from the Film.” People, 2025, https://people.com/how-emma-thompson-helped-pride-and-prejudice-viral-moment-exclusive-11716425. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit datingat40.substack.com

Blog Post: https://datingat40.substack.com/p/episode-two-the-full-big-mac-mealShow NotesVictims of the École Polytechnique Massacre (https://shorturl.at/j3PBv)Geneviève BergeronHélène ColganNathalie CroteauBarbara DaigneaultAnne-Marie EdwardMaud HaviernickBarbara Klucznik-WidajewiczMaryse LaganièreMaryse LeclairAnne-Marie LemaySonia PelletierMichèle RichardAnnie St-ArneaultAnnie Turcotte Resources and Works ConsultedA Modest Proposal | Project Gutenberg. https://www.gutenberg.org/files/1080/1080-h/1080-h.htm. Accessed 6 Jan. 2026.Atwood, Margaret. The Edible Woman. McClelland and Stewart, 1969.Ballantyne, R M. The Coral Island. T. Nelson & Sons, 1857.Blake, Olivie. Girl Dinner. Tor, 2025.École Polytechnique Tragedy (Montreal Massacre). https://thecanadianencyclopedia.ca/en/article/polytechnique-tragedy. Accessed 6 Jan. 2026.Fresco, Victor, creator. Santa Clarita Diet. Garfield Grove Productions, 2017–2019. Netflix, www.netflix.com.Golding, William. Lord of the Flies. Faber & Faber Fiction, 1973.Lyle, Ashley, and Bart Nickerson, creators. Yellowjackets. 2021–present, Paramount+, www.paramountplus.com.The Montreal Massacre - Femicide in Canada. 6 Sept. 2023, https://femicideincanada.ca/what-is-femicide/history/montreal-massacre/.The National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women. 18 Mar. 2024, https://www.canada.ca/en/women-gender-equality/commemorations-celebrations/16-days/national-day-remembrance.html.Yoder, Rachel. Nightbitch. Anchor Books, 2022. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit datingat40.substack.com

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