Why Do Men Podcast

Dr. Amir Levine is a psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and bestselling author of Attached - the book that became the internet's go-to guide for understanding relationships. His new book Secure picks up where it left off.We're told some of us are just "clingy." Some of us are just "distant." That's who we are. So we blame ourselves and keep repeating the same patterns. If a missed text can ruin your day… If you pull away the second someone gets close… If you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship…This episode is for you.EPISODE CHAPTERS:00:00 – How Insecure Relationships Age You06:17 – The Anxious-Avoidant Trap12:32 – Why Avoidants Get a Bad Rep21:27 – Where Attachment Styles Really Come From28:51 – The CARP Method for Dating34:14 – Wall Tennis With Love43:10 – Gut Instinct vs. Anxious Spiral52:57 – One Piece of Advice for Each Attachment StyleConnect With Us 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enLiv: https://www.instagram.com/livnevill/?hl=en-gbGrab Amir's new book Secure hereTake the attachment quiz at AmirLevineMD.com💎 Part of the I.A.M Podcasts roster #WhyDoI #AttachmentTheory #AmirLevine

We’re told getting older means losing value.So we chase youth like it can save us.Tell ourselves we’re “still young.”But after my full conversation with Poorna Bell, I’ve been reflecting on something deeper…Aging isn’t the problem.The story we’ve been sold about aging is.Because some people hit 40, 50, 60…and become more themselves than ever.More certain. More grounded.Less interested in performing for everyone else.Fear says your best years are behind you.But often your best years begin when you stop trying to prove anything.Maybe wrinkles aren’t decline. Maybe they’re evidence.Maybe slowing down isn’t failure. Maybe it’s wisdom replacing urgency.And maybe the people most afraid of aging,are the ones who never learned how to live now.If getting older scares you…ask whose voice that really is.Because it might not be yours.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en💎 This Show Is Part Of The I.A.M Podcasts roster

We're told that aging is something to dread. That it means slowing down. Becoming invisible. Losing your edge.So instead… we obsess over looking younger. We buy the creams. We scroll past women our age doing incredible things. In this episode of Why Do I, I'm joined by Poorna Bell - journalist, author, competitive weightlifter, and martial artist - whose new book She Wanted More charts what aging really looks like for women in their 40s, 50s and 60s.If you've ever felt invisible in a room full of younger people…If you've ever thought "I'm too old to start that"…If you've ever tied your worth to how you look rather than what you can do…This episode is for you.EPISODE CHAPTERS:00:00 – Why Are We So Scared of Aging?08:44 – How Your Reasons for Training Should Change18:31 – How Poorna Became a Competitive Weightlifter28:56 – Why the Algorithm Is Keeping You Stuck36:26 – Who Decided What Relationships Should Look Like?46:31 – What Hundreds of Women Had in Common57:04 – The Freedom of Being One Person AlwaysOH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoioffic...Tom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?...Also check out Poorna's book: She Wanted More - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1785122835?...💎 This show is part of the I.A.M Podcasts roster#WhyDoI #Aging #PoornaBell #SheWantedMore

We’re told needing people is weak.So we handle everything on our own.Tell ourselves we’re “fine”.But I’ve realised something recently…Connection isn’t the reward for having your life together.It’s the thing that helps you get there.Loneliness isn’t always obvious either.Sometimes it’s a full life… with something missing underneath.And maybe “I’m fine on my own” isn’t always true.Maybe it just means “I don’t want to be let down.”If something keeps telling you to show up somewhere…just go once.You don’t need to say anything.Just be there.That might be enough.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster

We’re told anger is a bad thing.So a lot of us just… stop feeling it.Or at least, we think we do.After my conversation with Sam Parker, I realised something uncomfortable:I don’t really feel anger… and that might be the problem.Because you can’t get rid of an emotion.You can only suppress it.And when you do, it shows up in other ways– distance– tension– saying “I’m fine” when you’re clearly notThis is me trying to make sense of that.If you’ve ever struggled to express how you actually feel… this might hit.👇 CONNECT WITH USPod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSam: https://www.instagram.com/samparkeruk/📖 Check out Sam’s book Good Anger:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Good-Anger-Radical-Rethink-Misunderstood/dp/1399417851💎 This show is part of the I.A.M Podcasts roster

We’re taught that anger is something to avoid.That it’s dangerous.Unattractive.Something that pushes people away.So instead… we suppress it. We tell ourselves we’re “not an angry person.” We keep the peace. We bottle things up. But what if the real problem isn’t anger…It’s the fact we never let ourselves feel it?In this episode of Why Do I, I’m joined by Sam Parker from GQ, who’s spent years exploring what happens when we repress anger… and the impact it has on our relationships, our anxiety, and how we show up in the world.If you’ve ever said “I’m just not an angry person”…If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, frustrated, or tense without knowing why…If you’ve ever struggled to express how you really feel…This episode is for you...EPISODE CHAPTERS:00:00 – Why I Struggle to Feel Anger05:30 – The Hidden Cost of Suppressing Anger12:30 – How It Shows Up in Relationships20:00 – Learning to Identify & Express Anger28:30 – Conflict, Communication & Repair36:30 – Social Media & Collective AngerOH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSam: https://www.instagram.com/samparkeruk/Also check out Sams book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Good-Anger-Radical-Rethink-Misunderstood/dp/1399417851💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster#WhyDoI #Anger #samparker

We grow up believing that a good relationship means good sex.That if you’re having enough of it…If the chemistry is there…If the spark hasn’t faded…Then everything else must be working.But that’s not always true.Because you can be having loads of sex…And still feel completely disconnected.In this reflection episode of Why Do I, I unpack one of the biggest mindset shifts I’ve had around relationships… following my conversation with Henika Patel.I open up about how I used to measure the success of a relationship through sex alone…Why so many men fall into that trap…And how that way of thinking can quietly damage something that could’ve been meaningful.We get into why desire naturally changes over time…The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire…And why chasing the early “dopamine phase” can stop you from building something deeper.I also share my own experiences with validation, distraction, and not having the tools to communicate properly in relationships…And why most couples aren’t actually struggling with sex - they’re struggling with connection.If you’ve ever questioned your attraction in a relationship…If things have felt different over time…If you’ve ever used sex as a way to measure how things are going…This episode will shift the way you see it.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enHenika: https://www.instagram.com/henika.x/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster#WhyDoI #Relationships

We grow up believing connection should just… happen.That if you love someone enoughIf the relationship is right enoughIf you’re close enough…That spark should stay the same forever.But then real life kicks in.Stress.Routine.Pressure.Emotional distance.And slowly, the connection that once felt effortless starts to feel harder to hold onto.In this episode of Why Do I, I’m joined by Henika Patel, founder of the School of Sensual Arts.Henika helps us understand why closeness can shift in long-term relationships and why so many couples struggle to talk about it honestly.We unpack the difference between chasing intensity and building real connection…Why the early “fireworks” phase naturally changes over time… and how relationships can become stronger when we stop expecting love to always look the way it did at the start.If you’ve ever wondered why attraction changes over time…If you’ve ever felt confused by distance in a relationship…If you’ve ever loved someone deeply but struggled to feel close…This episode is for you.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enHenika: https://www.instagram.com/henika.x/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster#WhyDoI #Relationships #Connection #Love

After my conversation with Julius Cowdrey about parental behaviour and generational patterns, something stayed with me long after the microphones were turned off…What happens when you realise parts of your personality might not actually be yours?When you start to see how your parents’ wounds quietly shaped the way you love, react, and run from things?We talk a lot about childhood trauma. But we rarely talk about the quiet fear of becoming our parents.In this solo reflection, I open up about:• Growing up with an absent father and the complicated grief that followed• The pressure of trying to be the “good son” for a parent who sacrificed everything• The moment at 32 when I looked in the mirror and felt like I had become my dad• Avoidant attachment and why running can feel like freedom• Discovering my father’s own childhood abandonment and how that changed everything• Why understanding our parents’ pain can be the first step to breaking generational cyclesIf you’ve ever worried you might repeat your parents’ mistakes…If you’ve ever felt trapped between loyalty to your family and the need to become your own person…If you’ve ever questioned whether your patterns are truly yours…This episode is for you.💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster

We grow up thinking our parents are just… parents.The safe one.The distant one.The provider.The peacemaker.The one who never talks about feelings.But then you get older and you realise…their relationship didn’t just shape them.It shaped you.The way you trust.The way you attach.The way you avoid.The way you love.In the second episode of Why Do I (Season 2), I’m joined by Julius Cowdrey. Julius opens up about growing up in the shadow of infidelity, emotional distance, and the silent rules many of us inherit from our parents without even realising.We talk about the ripple effect of: A father who won’t go deep…a mother who stays selfless for the “family unit”…and how that can later show up as avoidance, fear of being relied on, and a constant question of “am I good enough?”If you’ve ever felt your dad’s absence still living in your adult decisions…If you’ve ever repeated patterns you swore you wouldn’t…If you’ve ever wanted connection, but panicked the moment it got real…This one’s for you.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enJulius: https://www.instagram.com/jlcowdrey/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ Roster#WhyDoI #Relationships #Healing #FamilyTrauma

After my conversation with Sasha Pallari about breakups that don’t make sense on paper, I found myself sitting with something deeper…What happens when you’re with someone who is objectively incredibleKind. Stable. Supportive. And yet something still feels missing?We talk a lot about red flags. But nobody prepares you for the green flag breakup.In this solo reflection, I open up about:• Staying in “almost right” relationships• Cognitive dissonance and emotional self-gaslighting• The sunk cost fallacy in love• My own breakup at 32 that completely shook my identity• Why leaving a good person doesn’t make you the villainIf you’ve ever felt ungrateful for being unhappy…If you’ve ever tried to logic your way into love…If you’ve ever stayed because it looked good on paper…This episode is for you.This is about emotional filters.This is about trusting your gut.This is about choosing truth over convenience.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSasha: https://www.instagram.com/sashapallari/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster#WhyDoI #Relationships #Breakups #SelfGrowth

If someone sees you.Understands you.Holds you.Chooses you.That’s enough… right?But what happens when the person who makes you feel the most seen you’ve ever felt… is also battling addiction?In this clip from Why Do I (Season 2), Sasha Pallari opens up about loving someone who could show up for her… but couldn’t show up for himself.We talk about:- Fire and ice love.- The heartbreak of asking, “Why didn’t he fight for me?”- Realising you can’t save someone from themselves.- And the painful truth that sometimes love isn’t enough.If you’ve ever loved someone through addiction…If you’ve ever tried to help someone heal…If you’ve ever had to walk away from someone you still love…This one’s for you.🎙️ Watch the full episode with Sasha Pallari on the channel now.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSash: https://www.instagram.com/sashapallari/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the I.A.M Podcasts Roster#WhyDoI #Addiction #Relationships #Breakups

We grow up thinking love is supposed to feel a certain way...Butterflies.Intensity.Stability.Someone choosing you.But what happens when you’ve had the wedding… The divorce… The once-in-a-lifetime love… And you’re still asking, what do I actually want?In the first episode of Why Do I (Season 2), I’m joined by Sasha Pallari!!Sasha opens up about her marriage, her divorce and the complicated truth that sometimes love isn’t enough.If you’ve ever walked away from something that looked perfect on paper… If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re asking for too much… If you’ve ever loved someone deeply but known it wasn’t right…This one’s for you.Season 2 starts here!!OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSash: https://www.instagram.com/sashapallari/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the I.A.M Podcasts Roster #WhyDoI #Relationships #Breakups

‘Why Do I…?’ is a podcast about the patterns we keep falling into in our relationships.The ones we do not always talk about.The ones we sometimes do not even notice.It explores where those behaviours come from, what they might be protecting, and what we could be avoiding when things start to feel uncomfortable.Each episode is a chance to sit with someone as they unpack the patterns they have recognised in themselves, and the ones they are still figuring out.There are no neat answers.No perfect endings.Just conversations and those quiet moments of recognition where you think, maybe that is me.🎙️ New long-form episodes every fortnight🧩 Short reflection episodes in betweenIf you have ever caught yourself wondering why you show up the way you do in relationships, this is the show for you.Enjoy Season 2!#WhyDoI #RelationshipPatterns #SelfAwareness

In our final short-form episode of Season 1, we reflect on a powerful conversation with LaLaLaLetMeExplain about why men blame women. This episode hit hard - from defensiveness and traditional gender roles to subtle misogyny and emotional growth, we dove into the uncomfortable truths that many men (myself included) are still unlearning. The reflection episode is a reminder that blame keeps us stuck - but reflection can set us free.Lastly - I hope you all loved Season 1 as much as we did. Thank you so much for all the support, it truly means the world. Stay tuned, because Season 2 is going to be even bigger!SOME OF MY FAVOURITE BITS:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this powerful clip from the full episode with lalalaletmeexplain, we dive into the complex dynamics of sex on the first date. From male validation and ego to the hidden power plays behind "the chase." 🎧 Catch the full episode now for the unfiltered conversationSOME OF MY FAVOURITE BITS:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this episode of Why Do Men, we're joined again by LaLaLaLetMeExplain to talk about why some men blame women for their pain, dating struggles, or dissatisfaction with life. We discuss how these attitudes show up in modern dating, the impact of misogyny, and how ideas around masculinity and feminism are often misunderstood. We also look at the role of emotional intelligence in relationships and what needs to change for things to move forward. As always, enjoy the episode and let us know your thoughts on this topic below :)Chapter Timestamps(00:00) - Exploring Men's Blame on Women(12:50) - Navigating Traditional Gender Roles in Relationships(20:52) - Unraveling Misogyny in Dating Culture(29:53) - Rising Right-Wing Misogyny in Relationships(36:24) - Navigating Gender Dynamics in Relationships(40:27) - Challenging Gender Dynamics in RelationshipsSOME OF MY FAVOURITE BITS:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this solo episode, I reflect on my conversation with Lucy Rout from Haystack Dating and unpack one of the biggest questions in modern dating: why aren't men approaching women anymore? From fear of rejection to changing gender dynamics and social media pressure, I share personal stories, real stats, and honest advice on how we can all create more meaningful connections - whether you're making the first move or waiting for one.If you enjoyed this solo episode, a like and subscribe goes a long way - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast

In this 5 minute clip - We tackle one of the most frustrating contradictions in modern dating: men say they want to meet someone “organically” but rarely make a move. From fear of rejection and blurred social cues to the pressure of busy lives and shifting dating norms, we unpack what’s really holding people back - and why both men and women might need to take the first step.If you enjoyed this clip - make sure to check out the full episode with Lucy :)More About Lucy:⁠https://www.instagram.com/lucyrout/?hl=en⁠⁠https://www.haystack-dating.com/⁠📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast #lucyrout

Why don’t men approach women anymore? Are dating apps ruining real connection? 👀 In this Episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep with Haystack Dating founder Lucy Rout to unpack fear of rejection, ghosting, gender roles, and the chaos of modern dating in 2025. From dating app burnout to IRL nerves - we’re asking the big questions about love, confidence and connection!https://www.instagram.com/lucyrout/?hl=enhttps://www.haystack-dating.com/📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast

Reflection Episode - Revisiting Love Bombing (with Sabrina Zohar)This is a solo reflection on our most popular episode yet - the one with Sabrina Zohar on love bombing!I wanted to go deeper into what came up for me after that chat. From my own experiences with coming on too strong, to what it really means when we mistake intensity for connection. We talk about nervous system triggers, chasing fantasy over real intimacy, and why so many of us (my past self included) confuse love with validation. If you’ve ever wondered why you rush in or fall fast - this one’s for you.Before You Go!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]🎧 This podcast is proudly built by ⁠⁠⁠⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠https://www.iampodcasts.co.uk/⁠© Why Do Men Podcast#sabrinazohar #whydomenlovebomb #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In this short clip - Sabrina breaks down how to spot love bombing vs real connection and why setting boundaries early is the fastest way to see someone’s true intentions. If they push back, it was never about you. If they respect it, maybe it’s real. Make sure to check out the full episode of Why Do Men for more honest, unfiltered conversations on modern dating and emotional maturity.Before You Go!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#sabrinazohar #whydomenlovebomb #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In today's episode we are joined by dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar to unpack the psychology behind love bombing!We run through why some people go all in fast and then vanish just as quickly. We discuss the difference between intensity and intimacy, why chaos is often mistaken for chemistry, and how attachment styles play into our dating behaviour. A deeply honest and insightful conversation that will hopefully change the way you think about modern relationships.If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)CHAPTERS: (00:00) Understanding Love Bombing in Dating(06:47) Navigating Early Relationship Boundaries(09:37) Commitment(13:55) Authenticity in Dating(17:57) Understanding Love Bombing Dynamics in Relationships(22:54) The Dynamics of Love Bombing(26:06) Setting Boundaries and Breaking Patterns(32:24) Identifying Patterns and Inner Healing(34:59) Understanding and Breaking Relationship Patterns(38:44) Navigating Healing and Authenticity in Dating(44:03) Communication in Early Dating(51:27) Building a Community of AuthenticityBefore You Go!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]🎧 This podcast is proudly built by ⁠⁠⁠⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠ - https://www.iampodcasts.co.uk/© Why Do Men Podcast#sabrinazohar #whydomenlovebomb #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In this 10-minute reflection episode, I unpack my powerful conversation with resilience coach Josh Connolly on why so many men suppress their emotions in relationships. I open up about my own struggles with emotional expression, childhood conditioning, and the pressure to be ‘strong.’ From somatic work to the role of men's groups, I explore how emotional honesty builds deeper connection and why vulnerability is the key to real intimacy.If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#whydomensupressemotions #whydomenpodcast #joshconnolly

In this powerful moment from our full episode with Josh Connolly, we dive into why football matches have become one of the only socially accepted spaces for men to express emotion. Josh breaks down how male friendships often lack the space to truly feel - and why so many men end up crying over football, when really, it’s everything else in their life spilling out.If you do enjoy this clip please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#whydomensupressemotions #whydomenpodcast #joshconnolly

In this episode, I’m joined by Josh Connolly - resilience coach, breathwork expert, and author of It’s Them, Not You.We chat about emotional suppression, father wounds, addiction, and why opening up still feels so hard for a lot of guys. Josh shares lessons from his own journey and the work he does helping people reconnect with themselves and express what they’ve been holding in.If you found it useful, hit subscribe, share it with someone, and drop us a review - it makes a big difference.Chapters:(00:03) Men's Emotional Expression in Relationships(06:32) Journey of Emotional Expression for Men(12:18) Exploring Somatic Practices for Men(24:59) Patterns of Self-Abandonment in Relationships(28:52) Emotional Intimacy and Vulnerability(33:24) Navigating Addiction and Boundaries in Relationships(41:32) Navigating Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth(47:09) Navigating Personal Growth and Relationships(55:38) Healing From Dysfunctional Relationships📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast

In this solo episode of Why Do Men, we unpack the fear of commitment...Why do so many men struggle with it and where does it really come from?I reflect on how childhood, masculinity, dating culture, and emotional avoidance shape modern relationships. Whether you’re someone who fears commitment or dating someone who does, this episode dives deep into the psychology, myths, and solutions behind it all.👉 Make sure to go watch the full episode with David Chambers if you enjoyed this! Before You Go - Check out some of my favourite bits:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch with me: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #davidchambers

In this episode, Tom and guest David explore how modern dating has made men more hesitant to commit. David shares why asking clear, open questions early on is crucial to finding out if someone is serious, and how being intentional about what you want attracts deeper, more meaningful relationships. If you enjoyed this clip, make sure to check out the full episode too!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #davidchambers

So Why Do Men Fear Commitment?In this episode of Why Do Men, we explore why many men fear commitment, with special guest David Chambers, a male relationship and intimacy coach. We unpack the roots of avoidance, societal pressures, childhood dynamics, and the impact of modern dating. It's a powerful, vulnerable, and enlightening conversation for both men and women navigating relationships today.Chapters:(00:03) Male Fear of Commitment Unpacked(09:49) Men's Fear of Commitment and Bullying(16:02) Navigating Relationships With Boundaries(19:02) Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries(24:16) Navigating Fear of Commitment in Relationships(32:50) Avoidant Men and Fear of Commitment(35:54) Navigating Men's Fear of Commitment(46:55) Exploring Fear of Commitment and Growth(54:40) Overcoming Fear Through GrowthIf you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #davidchambers

Why Rejection Hurts (Especially for Men)In this reflection episode, we break down why rejection cuts deep - from childhood wounds to ghosting - and how men often deal with it in silence. With some of the best insights from my episode with the lovely Anna Mathur.Make sure to go check out the full episode with Anna if this resonated with you!If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

Dating, Stress & the Power of Being MisunderstoodDating can be an emotional rollercoaster - but what if the key to navigating it is regulating everything else first? In this clip, we explore how managing your baseline stress, building a strong support network, and gently leaning into discomfort can transform the way you respond to dating challenges. Plus, a powerful reminder: being misunderstood doesn’t mean you’ve lost your power.If you enjoyed this moment, make sure to check out the full video.📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomMy Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

Why Do Men Fear Rejection? | With Psychotherapist Anna Mathur This week on Why Do Men, we’re diving into one of the most common but least talked about experiences in male behaviour: rejection. Whether it’s in dating, relationships, or friendships, rejection hits hard - and men often don’t talk about it. To unpack this, I'm joined by Anna, who specialises in emotional intelligence and human connection. We explore how men process rejection, how childhood and self-worth come into play, and why so many guys are afraid to put themselves out there. If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :) 📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom 🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD Chapter Timestamps (00:00) - Exploring Male Behavior in Relationships (04:56) - Understanding Male Rejection and Vulnerability (18:01) - Navigating Rejection and Vulnerability (26:48) - Vulnerability in Relationships (33:36) - Overcoming Fear of Rejection in Relationships (43:35) - Navigating Misunderstanding and Authenticity (51:21) - Authenticity in Dating and Relationships Get in Touch: 💬 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en Threads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom 📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected] © Why Do Men Podcast #relationships #annamathur #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In this reflection episode, I unpack my powerful conversation with psychologist Dr. Mark Rackley on jealousy and emotional abuse. From the roots of jealousy in childhood and gender dynamics to how it can spiral into insecurity or even coercive control!Learn how to spot red flags, build emotional awareness, and strengthen your relationships through honest communication and boundaries. 👉 Listen to the full episode now to explore these insights in depth and hear Dr. Mark’s expert advice firsthand.🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #drmarkrackley

Dr. Mark Rackley, an expert in male mental health and emotional intelligence. In this clip we discuss how perfectionism can ruin relationships!If you do enjoy this clip, check out the full episode underneath this & please leave a rating for the show - it helps more than you know :)🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #drmarkrackley

Dr. Mark Rackley, an expert in male mental health and emotional intelligence. In this episode we discuss jealousy, We unpack its roots in childhood experiences and attachment styles, examining how these early influences shape our adult relationships and emotional responses. We also tackle the challenges of jealousy within the context of toxic masculinity and the "alpha male" mindset. If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :) 🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD 📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom Chapters: (00:00) - Exploring Jealousy in Male Relationships (08:11) - Navigating and Overcoming Jealousy Triggers (18:27) - Exploring Jealousy and Relationships (26:42) - Navigating Jealousy and Setting Boundaries (34:51) - Negative Emotions Associated With Jealousy (38:56) - Jealousy and Coercive Control Recognition (43:59) - Recognising Codependency in Relationships Get in Touch: 💬 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en Threads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom 📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected] © Why Do Men Podcast #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #drmarkrackley

What drives men to cheat, and is it ever more than just the thrill of the forbidden? Our insightful discussion with Claira Hermet unravels the intricate dynamics of male infidelity, challenging the simplistic notion of labelling such men as 'bad guys.' This episode encourages a profound exploration of personal responsibility, urging those tempted by infidelity to reflect on their unmet needs and address them within the bounds of trust. Share this with someone who would find it useful :)🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast #clairahermet

The Art of Communication in RelationshipsWhats everyones view on this? For us this is healthy, but we would love to hear your thoughts below on whether you agree :)🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast #clariahermet

Why Do Men Cheat? Joining me for this conversation today is Claira Hermet! Claira Hermet, a self-love and confidence coach, joins us to explore infidelity - both physical and emotional - and how personal experiences and modern dating shape our views. We look at the root causes of betrayal, from unmet emotional needs and childhood trauma to the pursuit of validation, and how self-worth and communication impact our relationships. Claira shares insights on trust, forgiveness, and healing, offering a compassionate look at moving forward after betrayal. Let us know your thoughts on the episode below & make sure to let us know who you want to see next on the podcast :)🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom--------- EPISODE CHAPTERS ---------(0:00:00) - Exploring Male Behaviour in Relationships(0:12:13) - Understanding Male Infidelity Patterns(0:16:18) - Navigating Relationship Dynamics and Self-Worth(0:19:27) - Seeking Communication and Support in Relationships(0:23:39) - Evolution of Relationship Expectations(0:28:04) - The Impact of Gender Roles(0:37:51) - Navigating Infidelity and Rebuilding Self-Worth(0:45:13) - Can you forgive Cheating?(0:47:55) - The Reality of CheatingGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast #clairahermet

Here are the key takeaways from the Lala conversation & my point of view on what to do if you get ghosted!🔥 Check Out Some Of My Favourite Bits Before You Go:🧠 15% Off Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠Your Heights⁠📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠Amazon Shop⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠@stroudtom⁠Threads: ⁠@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#malecommunication #tomstroud #whydomenpodcast

Our favourite moment from the Lalalaletmeexplain episode!Make sure to check out the full episode.Lalalaletmeexplain is a relationship expert, dating coach, and best-selling author known for her no-nonsense approach to modern dating. 🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast

In this episode of Why Do Men, we explore why men play games in relationships, the psychology behind ghosting, love bombing and breadcrumbing... Lalalaletmeexplain is a relationship expert, dating coach, and best-selling author known for her no-nonsense approach to modern dating. We also cover how to spot red flags early, leading to the outcome of how we can date with confidence in today’s world. 🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD 📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom --------- EPISODE CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:04) - Exploring Male Behavior in Dating (0:11:16) - Dating Behavior and Communication (0:18:50) - Ghosting in Relationships (0:29:28) - Post-Date Behavior and Ghosting (0:39:54) - Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships (0:44:03) - Modern Dating Behavior and Ghosting (0:49:54) - Understanding and Overcoming Ghosting Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en Threads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom 📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected] © Why Do Men Podcast #WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast #lalalaletmexplain

Growing up, I was taught that being strong meant staying silent about my feelings. But after an enlightening conversation with Michelle Elman shifted my perspective on how men communicate in relationships.Here is the key takeaways from the conversation & my points of view on male communication in relationships!🔥 Check Out Some Of My Favourite Bits Before You Go:🧠 15% Off Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → Your Heights📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → Amazon ShopGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: @stroudtomThreads: @stroudtomTikTok: @stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#malecommunication #tomstroud #whydomenpodcast

Our favourite moment from the Michelle Elman Episode! Make sure to check out the full episode.In the first episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep into the reasons men struggle with communication in relationships, touch on emotional expression, healthy anger, dating transparency, and setting boundaries - all crucial for building stronger connections.🔥 Check Out Some Of My Favourite Bits Before You Go:🧠 15% Off Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠Your Heights⁠📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠Amazon Shop⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠@stroudtom⁠Threads: ⁠@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#michelleelman #whydomenpodcast

Why Do Men Struggle to Communicate in Relationships? | Michelle Elman on Emotional Expression, Boundaries & Dating TransparencyMichelle Elman is a five-board accredited body confidence coach, award-winning body positivity activist, and best-selling author. In this episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep into the reasons men struggle with communication in relationships, touch on emotional expression, healthy anger, dating transparency, and setting boundaries - all crucial for building stronger connections.🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:🧠 15% Off Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → Your Heights📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → Amazon Shop-------- EPISODE CHAPTERS ---------(0:00:00) - Male Communication in Relationships(0:12:44) - Emotional Communication in Relationships(0:18:09) - Understanding and Expressing Healthy Anger(0:28:29) - Boundaries in Parental Relationships(0:32:50) - Transparent Dating Communication(0:37:36) - Communication Challenges in Relationships(0:40:15) - Improving Male Communication in Relationships(0:48:47) - Heartbreak and Self-ImprovementGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: @stroudtomThreads: @stroudtomTikTok: @stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast

Releasing on the 14th February!🎙️ Welcome to Why Do Men – The Podcast About Relationships & DatingEver wondered why men do certain things?We’re here to break it down for you. Each episode dives into the behaviors, patterns and psychology behind dating and relationships with the aim to help you navigate them with clarity and confidence.🗓️ New episodes drop every Friday - so hit that follow button and set your reminders!If you enjoy the podcast, please leave a rating & follow us—it helps more than you know!Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: @stroudtomThreads: @stroudtomTikTok: @stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: [email protected]🔥 Some of my Favourite Bits🧠 Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → Your Heights© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast