Words Never Spoken

Episode 8. Detachment in Manifesting In today’s episode of Words Never Spoken, Jill and Carmen discuss manifesting and the importance of detaching from the dream, to make sure we are enjoying the present moment. Spoiler alert: You can feel your dream come true right now! The conversation also includes a nugget about "adulting" and the false sense of urgency many people operate with today. Questions to ask yourself: Who chooses what you do each day? Will the world end if you don't do all the things on your checklist? We'd love to hear your thoughts on these topics - and others too. Email us at ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out ⁠⁠this guest application form⁠⁠, and we will be in touch!  Disclaimer: The Words Never Spoken podcast is presented to provide connection and expanded awareness. The use of information from this podcast is at the listener’s own risk. The information shared on this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, or other licensed professional. Listeners should seek professional advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have.

Episode 7. Navigating Transitions Today’s episode of Words Never Spoken finds us chatting about some of the transitions currently ongoing in our lives, in our relationships and our professional and personal identities. Transitions don't usually feel comfortable, do they? But they do help us to grow. Just like talking about the hard things frees us to be able to live the lives we would love. This unplanned conversation was a joy to have. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did. If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at ⁠[email protected]⁠. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out ⁠this guest application form⁠, and we will be in touch!  Disclaimer: The Words Never Spoken podcast is presented to provide connection and expanded awareness. The use of information from this podcast is at the listener’s own risk. The information shared on this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, or other licensed professional. Listeners should seek professional advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have.

Episode 6. Embracing New Things After a personal pause, we’re back…. and resuming the vulnerable conversations. Just the two of us this time.  On today’s episode of Words Never Spoken, we are holding a safe space to discuss a topic that everyone on the planet deals with: doing new things. Let’s face it: Our brains just don’t like anything new. It can often bring up feelings of fear and overwhelm, even when we see the new thing as a positive.  Sometimes we need someone else to help us recognize all the goodness right in front of our faces, to help us have a more empowered perspective.  Our co-host, Jill, shares how she is facing some decisions as she considers taking on a ‘real” job (working set hours for someone else), something she hasn’t done in a couple of decades. Full-time or part-time? How do you prioritize yourself and the other people in your life? How do you make time for both work and play?  We’re thrilled to dive into this topic and welcome you to join us! If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at [email protected]. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out this guest application form, and we will be in touch!  Disclaimer: The Words Never Spoken podcast is presented to provide connection and expanded awareness. The use of information from this podcast is at the listener’s own risk. The information shared on this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, or other licensed professional. Listeners should seek professional advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have.

Episode 5. Narcissism and Gaslighting: Getting Out On today’s episode of Words Never Spoken, we are discussing a trending topic in today’s world. And it’s good it’s being talked about, as much more awareness is being brought to it. We are talking about narcissism and the gaslighting that accompanies it.  Many of us have found ourselves in relationships with these patterns but were unaware of how unhealthy they were. We may have seen them in our families or in society and thought they were normal. Then, when we become more aware and decide we want to break the patterns, there are challenges to overcome. Our guest, Ashley, shares the story of when she was evicted from her home by her partner, forcing her to finally do what she had known for a long time: she had to get out. She suddenly had to answer a lot of questions very quickly. Consider this: What do you do when you believe you don’t know what to do? Who do you turn to? In this episode, we go deep into this. We cover how subtle these patterns can be sometimes, the things we tell ourselves that keep us in unhealthy situations, warning signs that may indicate we are dealing with a narcissist, and steps to getting out. If this rings true for you, know you are not the only one; we know what it feels like. We also want you to know that there is a way out and a much brighter future possible. You are worthy of feeling good in your relationships.  Resources: Learn more about Narcissistic Personality Disorder Women’s Law Partnership Against Domestic Violence  National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at [email protected]. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out this guest application form, and we will be in touch!  Disclaimer: The Words Never Spoken podcast is presented to provide connection and expanded awareness. The use of information from this podcast is at the listener’s own risk. The information shared on this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, or other licensed professional. Listeners should seek professional advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have.

Episode 4. Infidelity: Moving on with Compassion On today’s episode, we take on the highly charged topic of infidelity. From the outside, there’s a tendency to harshly judge affairs; however, anyone who has been involved knows it’s often more complicated than it appears. Today we shed light on some of the nuances that can exist as our co-host, Jill Douglas, tells her story of infidelity. She shares the internal struggles she encountered and the shame she experienced, mostly from her own self-judgment. This episode isn’t about condoning affairs; it’s about having more compassion and better understanding. And it’s about offering hope for those who have been there: You can forgive (most importantly, yourself), and you can go on to enjoy great relationships. Ideas discussed: Body betrayal and the pull of physical pleasure Feeling safe enough to say No Shutting down our natural sensuality and openness to make ourselves less attractive – so we don’t get put in the position to say No to unwanted advances The impact of self-judgment and shame Owning all parts of ourself and our healing (and not holding responsibility for another’s) The need to forget and move on, after the healing The impact of keeping secrets (and when it’s important to share them) Resources: Esther Perel (relationship and sexuality expert’s focus on infidelity) If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at [email protected]. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out this guest application form, and we will be in touch! Disclaimer: The Words Never Spoken podcast is presented to provide connection and expanded awareness. The use of information from this podcast is at the listener’s own risk. The information shared on this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, or other licensed professional. Listeners should seek professional advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have.

Episode 3. Worry: Releasing Control and Loving What Is On today’s episode of Words Never Spoken, we discuss what it means to actually choose yourself first – so you can love your life right now, exactly as it is, and free those around you to do the same.  Have you ever thought, “What about me? When’s it going to be my turn?” as you worry constantly about your partner or your kids? But then you judge yourself for being selfish. You must be doing something wrong if you’re not happy with your life. Our guest today, Jenny, shares a time in her life when she realized that, even though her life looked perfect on the outside, she was not happy. She had taken on the responsibility for the success of her family members so much that she didn’t know how to just love herself or them. The worry was so overwhelming she dreamt of getting in her car and driving away from it all. But she knew she couldn’t escape her own thoughts and feelings. What if you could stop trying to fix and control everything in your life – and truly love it exactly as it is? What if you could truly love yourself exactly as you are? Listen to Jenny’s story of hope, courage, and patience as she took her life back one moment at a time and found her way to loving her life, exactly the way it was. Gold Nuggets:  Get support: Talk to someone who will listen to you without judgment.  Stop punishing yourself for everything outside of your control. Ask yourself, “What is my responsibility and what is not?” If you’re not sure, ask someone else. Sit quietly with yourself and ask, “What would it be like to love my life just the way it is?” Realize you are no good to anyone else if you don’t put on your oxygen mask first. Ask, “How can I best take care of myself in this moment?” Do things that make you feel good: take a walk in nature, listen to music, dance, gaze at a candle… Learn to trust: first yourself and then also your loved ones to live their own lives. Resources: Book: ⁠Loving What Is - Byron Katie Additional Resources: “The Work” of Byron Katie⁠ is a practical tool you can use to navigate your life. If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at ⁠[email protected]⁠. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out this ⁠guest application form⁠, and we will be in touch! Disclaimer: The Words Never Spoken podcast is presented to provide connection and expanded awareness. The use of information from this podcast is at the listener’s own risk. The information shared on this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, or other licensed professional. Listeners should seek professional advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have.

Episode 2. Codependency: Reclaiming Your Worth and Power Codependency is defined as a dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual excessively relies on and prioritizes the needs and approval of another person, often to the detriment of their own well-being and self-identity. If you find yourself isolated or feeling on edge in a partnership, or if you have ever thought to yourself “it’s not that bad” and made excuses for someone else’s behavior or kept it hidden, you could be in a codependent relationship.  Most of us have either been in one of these relationships or know someone who is. We can stay stuck in this type of relationship for years, not recognizing the unhealthy habitual patterns we’re living. We can also carry a lot of self-judgment and shame about being in relationships like this. Today, our guest and co-host of the show, Carmen Walsh, shares vulnerably about her journey of codependency and healing. Beginning almost from birth, she had circumstances that very easily led to this habitual way of behaving that she didn’t recognize as codependency for almost 35 years. Carmen shares very real and raw moments from her life, gives tips for those who are experiencing codependency, and offers hope that there is a positive side to this challenging experience. We address these main points for our listeners:  How do you know if you are in a codependent relationship?  What can you do if you want to get out of one and don’t know how? What are the least helpful things you could say to a loved one in a codependent relationship? How can you help someone you love to get out of one?  If you or someone you love is in a codependent relationship, know you are not alone. Listed below are some resources to help you: Book: Codependent No More - Melody Beattie Support Group: Codependents Anonymous Additional Resources: Substance Abuse and Mental Health (SAMHSA) helpline; Google a local therapist or substance abuse office And we are here for you as well. While we are not licensed counselors or therapists, we do care and can lend loving support and suggest a next step for you to take. If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at [email protected]. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out this guest application form, and we will be in touch!

Episode 1. Meet Your Hosts: Unveiling Words Never Spoken Have you ever felt like you are the only one who is going through something tough?  Or you feel embarrassed or ashamed by what you’re dealing with, and your instinct is to hide and stay quiet? We want you to know that you are not alone. You are not the only one, and you can stop beating yourself up about how “bad” you are. Because you’re not. You are dealing with something, and it might suck right now. That’s why you need to know there are others out here who understand.  In this inaugural episode of Words Never Spoken, we tell you a bit about each of your hosts, Jill and Carmen, and the origin story of this podcast.  We want all people to experience the joy, freedom, and love of this life. It’s hard to do that when we’re silently holding stories of challenge. And when we feel alone. Join us as we embark on this cathartic and moving journey as we share words never spoken and free the life and full self-expression within us. If you’d like to get in touch with us, please email us at [email protected]. If you’d like to be a guest on our show and share your own courageous story, please fill out this guest application form, and we will be in touch!

Welcome to the podcast Words Never Spoken, hosted by Jill Douglas and Carmen Walsh.  This podcast is a space of unconditional love where we share vulnerably and authentically about some of the most challenging issues we face as human beings, with the intention of providing healing and hope to those who listen. We look forward to being on this journey with you as we share words never spoken.