EMPOWERED POLY

Ever felt like poly was wrong? Or you were? Felt guilty? Shameful? Afraid? Yeah. Us too. In this episode we decided to share what we used to want, believe and feel as we navigated the VERY bumpy polyamorous/non-monogamous journeys we've had. And how painful they were!Join us, Greg and Leanne Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we get real about where we fumbled and stumbled on the road to where we are now. Want to check out our next PolyLab (small group coaching)? Visit us at: https://www.empoweredpoly.ca/the-polylab/

Do you think you're experiencing Poly under duress? This is a term gaining popularity in the polyamorous community and a situation that is very serious. In polyamory, it is common when opening up a relationship to have one partner introduce the idea, sometimes in messy, unhelpful or thoughtless ways. Sometimes the boundaries they set around their own polyamorous identity or need can feel very hurtful to their monogamous partner. Does this mean this person or this relationship is toxic and they are trying to coerce or force you into polyamory? Let's talk about it. Join Certified Relationship and Sexuality Coaches Greg & Leanne Million as they examine what duress is, what it isn't and offer their perspectives. (With a side trip about manipulation.) Sometimes understanding your situation can provide clarity and help you feel more empowered to make choices for yourself.

What is YOUR capacity in your relationships and what affects it? In this episode join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship and Sexuality Coaches as we discuss what we mean by capacity, what it means to be over your capacity, the things that can impact it and recognizing when you're beyond your capacity. Knowing more about your capacity helps you have healthier relationships!Curious about Coaching with Greg or Leanne? Visit us at https://empoweredpoly.ca AND join the Empowered Poly Newsletter here: http://eepurl.com/iEfop6You can check out our blogs at https://gregmillion.com and https://leannemillion.comLeanne's Polyphoria Blog article mentioned in this episode: https://www.leannemillion.com/two-types-of-people-in-a-relationship/Questions or suggestions? Get in touch at [email protected]#podcast #polyamorousrelationship #empoweredpoly #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #boundaries #healthyrelationships #relationshipadvice #enm #nonmonogamy #nonmonogamous

In this episode we're talking about the BIGGEST of the BIG FEELS in Polyamory: Jealousy, Comparison and Fear of Abandonment cuz you are NOT alone if you experience one or all three of these! We changed things up- added some segment titles and SFX this time. Let us know what you think! Curious about Coaching with Greg or Leanne Certified Relationship and Sexuality Coaches specializing in polyamory and non-monogamy? Visit us at https://empoweredpoly.ca AND check out our upcoming PolyLab happening Saturdays in October 2025 on "Polyamory and Big Feels: Cuz You Can't Just Ghost Your Emotions" (Small Group Coaching) at https://empoweredpoly.ca/the-polylab/ Book soon because we will fill up fast!AND join the Empowered Poly Newsletter here: http://eepurl.com/iEfop6Check out our blogs at https://gregmillion.com and https://leannemillion.comQuestions or suggestions? Get in touch at [email protected]#polyamory #enm #cnm #openrelationships #mononormativity #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #relationshipcoaching #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyam #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamous

If you've been on IG or TikTok you probably know @polyamarla - and NOW they've got an incredible book out "Non-monogamy and Defying a Paradigm"! We had such a fun time together!Follow us (if you can...three people with ADHD) as Marla takes us through their polyamorous journey, the "h" word (and why they don't want to talk about it), couple privilege, mono-normativity and it's impact, authentic relating and everything in between! They can be found on IG and TikTok @polyamarla and please visit their website at https://polyamarla.com/ to sign up for their Newsletter and get more info!Curious about Coaching with Greg or Leanne? Visit us at https://empoweredpoly.ca AND check out our PolyLab Small Group Coaching at https://empoweredpoly.ca/the-polylab/Questions or suggestions? Get in touch at [email protected]#polyamory #enm #cnm #openrelationships #mononormativity #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipcoach

Wow! What a journey Nicole has had! With eloquence and awareness she shares what it was like to grow up in purity culture and to come to terms with her own queer and polyamorous identities. Nicole Thompson is a sex and relationship psychotherapist, host of Modern Anarchy Podcast, the author of the first published research study on Relationship Anarchy and one of the leading academic theorists on Non-Monogamy, Playfully Embodied Sexuality, and Psychedelic-Integration Therapy.Join us, Leanne and Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we dive into Nicole's fascinating self discoveries about herself, psychedelics and her experiences navigating her own sexuality.TW: Mentions sexual assault and rape cultureInterested in the Modern Anarchy Podcast or working with Nicole? Visit modernanarchypodcast.comInterested in personal, couples or group coaching with Greg or Leanne? Visit empoweredpoly.ca#modernanarchypodcast #relationshipanarchy #purityculture #polyamory #polyamorous #relationshipcoach #rapeculture #nonmonogamy #nonmonogamous #NicoleThompson #empoweredpoly

Let's talk about being a good hinge! Many of the issues in a polyamorous or non-monogamous relationship can be prevented with responsible & compassionate choices made by the hinge - the person with multiple partners. Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches specializing in polyamory and non-monogamy as we explore the role of a hinge and how it relates to best practices in communication, emotional labor, boundaries & autonomy, bottle-necking, scheduling, personal responsibility, supporting partners, power dynamics, triangulation, and fostering security instead of competition.Interested in personal, couple's or group coaching or want to know more about us? Visit www.empoweredpoly.ca #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #hinge #polyam #polyamorousrelationships #nonmonogamous #openrelationships #ethicalnonmonogamy #nonmonogamy

Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we chat with Lola Phoenix, the delightful author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy" and "The Non-monogamy Journal"!We spoke to Lola about the concept of "anchor" as a grounding tool for navigating non-monogamy, especially for anxious individuals. She shared her struggles as an introvert and in trying to find community in polyam, as well as emphasizing that understanding one's nervous system and reframing anxiety as a protective response rather than an enemy can be helpful. She suggests treating anxious thoughts as a part of oneself that needs comfort, rather than something to fight against We are all definitely on the same page about the importance of taking responsibility for one's role in creating and cultivating healthy relationships.You can reach Lola and find her books and upcoming course at www.nonmonogamyhelp.comInterested in Coaching with one of us? Visit ⁠us @ empoweredpoly.ca.#anxiety #interview #podcast #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #polyamory #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #anxious #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationships #openrelationships #polyam

Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we chat with the one and only Kathy Labriola - author of "Love and Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships" (NEW EDITION AVAIL), "The Jealousy Workbook", and "The Polyamory Break Up Book". We spoke to her about her latest work "Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships" and had a frank exploration about how aging impacts our polyamorous relationships, what poly elders bring to the table and considerations that poly elders (and their partners) may have that are unique. You can reach Kathy at [email protected], call (510) 841-5307 or visit her website at www.kathylabriola.com. We refer to the Empowered Poly episode 27 on Safer Sex as well as Episode 31 All About Ambiamory. Interested in Coaching with one of us? Visit empoweredpoly.ca

Content Warning: mentions (with no detail) self-harm and abusive relationships. Celebrate 4 years and 40 episodes with us, Greg and Leanne Million Certified Relationship Coaches, as we unpack an AI-generated list of reasons (which Leanne printed but didn't "create") why people choose to cheat in Polyamorous or Non-monogamous Relationships. For those who may be considering cheating, for those who have, and for those who seek to understand cheating and perhaps reflect on what contributes to cheating in a relationship. Enjoy our content? Give us a Like/Follow and leave us a comment! We are always open to feedback! NOTE: When we refer to a singular partner/relationship, we are aware that many of us have multiple partners, and that these conversations/conficts may occur in multiple relationships. And at the END enjoy our post-show chat (yes, those are our terrible British accents)! References made: The book "Polywise" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley - top resource out there which we highly recommend. Previous Empowered Poly podcast episodes: "Relationship Agreements", "All About Relationship Autonomy" (and check out Greg's blog article on Relationship Autonomy on his website at gregmillion.com), "Boundaries", "Polywise" and "Tools vs. Rules" our very first show! Interested in coaching with one of us? Visit us at empoweredpoly.ca #polyamory #relationshipcoach #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #cheatinginrelationships #cheating #polyam #infidelity #honestyinrelationships #nonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy

Join us, Leanne & Greg Million Relationship Coaches, as we dive into why boundaries are important, why they are challenging, what types there are, what they are and what they aren't! Boundaries can be a steep learning curve for some of us, so hopefully this episode helps you advocate for and honour your own and someone else's boundaries. Trigger warning: mentions sexual coercion. #empoweredpoly #relationshipissues #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #healthyrelationship #communication #communicationcoaching #communicationskills #boundaries #boundariesinrelationships #boundaries101 #boundariesarehealthy #boundariesinrelationships

Trigger warning: Contains brief references to self-harm, sexual assault, and consensual non-consent. Join us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship and Sexuality Coaches, as we discuss red and green flags for vetting partners in BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadomasochism, and Masochism), explain a variety of other kinks as well as discuss the shame that many people feel when realizing they are kinky. This is an educational discussion. There are no depictions of any sexual acts. Our focus is on safety & consent. GET IN TOUCH: Leave us a Comment! Let us know what you think. Feel free to contact us at [email protected] if you would like us to provide our BDSM Checklist or If you are interested in coaching please visit us at empoweredpoly.com. Also, be sure to FOLLOW US on IG @thegregmillion and @leannemillion & @poly.thoughts! Enjoy our content? Please leave us a RATING and don't forget to FOLLOW the EMPOWERED POLY Podcast! NOTE for clarification: Drag artists are often not only entertaining, but they are part of a political, subversive movement intended to deconstruct gender. NOTE for clarification: We recognize that many submissives in subspace become non-verbal. We encourage Doms to rehearse and reward the use of safe words and implement physical signals (as discussed) that will make the Dom aware that the sub needs something to change. #bdsm #kink #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #sexualityeducation #sexualitycoach #relationshipcoach #submission #dominance #intimacy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyrelationship #polyamory #sexuality #relationshipgoals

Here's what happens when you get 3 sex-positive Relationship Coaches together!! You get to learn about ALL the ways to communicate, discuss, organize and enjoy a yummy THREESOME (or more-some)! Our special guest, and our online friend - holistic Relationship Coach and TedX speaker, Ali Hendry, shares her insights on why someone might want to have a threesome, how to bring it up, what fears, myths and misconceptions people have and best practices. Connect with Ali: https://alihendry.co.uk/ Social media: @alihendrycoaching LIKE OUR CONTENT? Hit LIKE and SUBSCRIBE! Looking for a coach? Visit our website: https://empoweredpoly.ca/ Mentioned in this podcast: Ali's TedX Talk "Survivor's Guide to Jealousy" - https://www.ted.com/talks/ali_hendry_survivor_s_guide_to_jealousy Leanne's Sex Languages Quiz - https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/5ff650e4f33af7001633254f NO MORE WET SPOT BLANKET - BEST Blanket to keep your bed and furniture dry! Leanne vouches for this well-made, durable, soft, and effective protective blanket from first-hand experience! Made in Canada! ❤️Order here -> https://www.nomorewetspot.info/NMWSaffiliate/NMWS_Affiliate.php?id=172 #consensualnonmonogamy #polyrelationship #polyamory #healthyrelationship #nonmonogamy #complexrelationships #relationshipcoach #intimacy #intimacyadvice #intimacycoaching #ethicalnonmonogamy #podcast #relationshipdynamics #relationshipadvice #relationships #sexpositive #threesomes #groupsex

In this episode we discuss how we develop a self-aware foundation for building agreements based on core values and boundaries, vital categories to consider when creating Relationship Agreements, and why we chose to have what we call a "Limited Information Agreement". #consensualnonmonogamy #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #triads #throuples #openrelationship #openrelationships #empoweredpoly #nonmonogamy

A fabulous time was had with the incredible Evita "Lavitaloca Sawyers" - as we discussed her journey as a black, queer, femme person into the worlds of non-monogamy, polyamory and kink! She shared with us her insights, wisdom and we enjoyed every minute! Evita is a coach, speaker, educator and author of "A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Days of Reflections for the Consensually Non-Monogamous", as well as the well known "Today's Polyamory Reminder" on IG. Where you can connect with Evita: https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34/ https://www.facebook.com/lavitalocasawyers/ #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingforwomen #relationshipcoachingformen #comparison #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship

Disclaimer: This episode focuses on vaginal birth only and may contain triggering information for some listeners. The term "normal" birth is used ironically and in the video version on YouTube you can see that Anne uses quotation marks. If you or your partner has recently given birth, here's a podcast for you! In this episode, we welcome our special guest counsellor Anne Chronnell who specializes in helping us navigate major life events such as childbirth and parenting. We chat about what the body goes through and needs to heal from, expectations we/our partners/or society places upon the birther, ways to build intimacy with your partner, and how to support someone who's given birth. Note: we recognize not all birthing parents identify as female and may use terminology other than "mother" to describe themselves. Find out more about Anne and her work at https://redtentcounselling.ca or reach her directly at her email: [email protected] Anne is hosting an in-person workshop for new birthers with babies 0-6 months old in January 2024 in Kelowna, BC, Canada. #polyam #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #sex #healthyrelationship #becomingaparent #parenthood #birthing #givingbirth #newparents #newparent #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #openrelationships #womenshealth #labour #intimacy #intimacygoals #intimacycoaching #sexcoach #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingformen #relationshipcoachingforwomen

Comparison is the thief of joy! You may have heard that, recognize its importance and STILL suffer with comparison. We chat in this episode about our experiences with comparison, how it's shown up in our relationships and what we can do to help manage or reframe comparison to make it more helpful! While we focused in this episode on the differences in relationships to highlight their uniqueness, it is also worth noting that you may find yourself comparing similarities - which can lead to feeling "replaceable". Again, refocusing on what makes you special and unique as a human will help with those feelings. Also asking for reassurances from your partner(s). Books recommended: "Polywise" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley, and "The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor as well as the Workbook "Your Body is Not an Apology" by the same author. Error: Around 2:20 Leanne said "I'm comparing myself to my partner" but what she meant was "comparing myself to my meta" - although it also points out that you may feel competitive with your partner as well! #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #polyamorous #polyam #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #empoweredpoly #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoachingforwomen #relationshipcoachingformen #comparison #healthyrelationships #healthyrelationship

We were super jazzed to have psychotherapist and author of "Polysecure", Jessica Fern, return with her co-author David Cooley to chat about their new book, "Polywise" which is an amazing resource on healthy relating. We discuss restorative relationship conversations, parts work, codependency, ambiamory and how Eastern philosophy helped shaped their journey, as well as we dive into their own relationship history. Eye-opening and genuine conversation with two awesome humans! We had a blast! NOTE: Outtakes at the end! "Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships" by Jessica Fern and David Cooley @Thornapple Press jessicafern.com www.restorativerelationship.com #polywise #polyamorousrelationship #relationships #polyamory #polyamorous #ethicalnonmonogamy #healthyrelationships #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #internalfamilysystems #codependency #polysecure #polyrelationship #polyamory #polyam

You may not have heard about Ambiamory - the ability to be in either monogamous or polyamorous relationships. For those who identify as Ambiamorous, like Leanne, there are challenges and gifts. We invite you to explore what Leanne's journey of Ambiamory is like. If you're confused about why your mono-mind is so active when you really WANT to be polyamorous, or you wonder why as a monogamous person you can't shake the need to have other connections, this may be the episode for you! Leanne & Greg Million are International Certified Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment Coaches specializing in polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, kink and alternative lifestyles. Join our FB group: Empowered Poly Relationship Support and Advice. Reach out to us directly at [email protected] and [email protected]. #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #ambiamory #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationships #relationships #healthyrelationships #identity #relationshiporientation #personaldevelopmentjourney #relationshipdynamics #polyamorous #monopolyrelationships #monogamy #polymono

#polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment *Content Warning: sexual assault mentioned. Steeped in the mindset of possessiveness and ownership, entitlement can show up in ANY relationship, and polyamory is no exception. We chat about what entitlement is and how it's different than deserving, about the ways in which people feel entitled to you and why it's important to shift away from it when it does show up for you. Join us (Leanne & Greg Million) as we share our insights from our own experiences as well as what we've observed as Relationship Coaches. And sometimes we have an "aha" moment during one of these shows! Here's the article that Leanne couldn't remember the name of: https://solopolyamory.quora.com/I-Apologize-To-The-Entire-Poly-Community-For-This-One-https-joreth-dreamwidth-org-408917-html?ch=10&oid=7600056&share=47611ca0&srid=Ov6Zz&target_type=post #polyamory #polyamorousrelationship #openrelationships #openrelationship #nonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationship #relationships #healthyrelationships #entitlement #possessiveboyfriends #possessiveness #unhealthyrelationships #personaldevelopment

#polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #breakingup #breakups #endingarelationship #shiftingarelationship #polyamorous #openrelationship #openrelationships #relationshipcoaching #howtobreakup #managingabreakup In this episode, we take a look at how to mindfully frame a breakup in a healthy way, managing our feelings, holding space for the other person and dealing with potentially challenging or difficult breakups. During this podcast, we actually had a slight misunderstanding. Leanne had offered the idea of bringing to your partner how you would like to be broken up with, and Greg misheard this as "ask your partner how they'd like to be broken up with". Subsequently, Leanne didn't correct him, but went with the flow (as she is wont to do) and assumed she'd said it incorrectly. We missed that left turn and ended up in Albuquerque (if you know, you know). Ultimately, it all turned out fine in the end with some important discussion. Trigger warning: we mention situations where someone may be at risk and need to leave immediately, and we also mention getting help if you are in danger from yourself or others. These are not discussed in detail. Reference to the book "Illunimata: a Return to Prayer" by Marianne Williamson.

#openrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polyamory #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching As Relationship Coaches specializing in consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, we see a lot of stress occurring around meeting your partner's partner (your "meta").   So in this episode we ask...What are some things to consider when you are deciding whether or not you want to meet your meta(s)? Why might your partner be feeling obligated to meet their meta(s)? Why do some people choose not to meet their meta(s)?  We chat about all of these and then give you some great TIPS for those of you who decide to go ahead and meet your meta(s).  

#sexualhealth #safersex #polyamory #sexuallytransmitteddiseases #std #sexuallytransmittedinfections #ethicalnonmonogamy #openrelationship #polyamorous #polyamorousrelationship #polycoach #relationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching In this VERY IMPORTANT episode, we discuss what sexual health is, address the stigma of STIs and how we can help normalize having "the talk", disclosure, consent, and Leanne's journey with her own STI.   Disclaimer: The contents of this episode should not be used in place of medical advice. We encourage you to consult with your local STI health clinic or doctor when making decisions around your health.   NOTE: Cytomeglovirus, although discusssed, is not considered an STI.   (Apologies for the sound quality for Leanne - her lapel mic wasn't working!)

#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #openingup #disentangling #mononormativeprogramming #codependency #enmeshment #boundaries #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcoach #ethicalnonmonogamy #ENM #CNM  Opening Up from being monogamous, whether you're solo poly or from a couple, is very challenging no matter which relationship dynamic you choose on the consensual non-monogamy spectrum. We take a look at what the most challenging aspects of Opening Up are, and how you can navigate them, including codependency, enmeshment, disentangling, autonomy, boundaries and communication.  If you want to learn more about what to consider when Opening Up, or even if you've already opened up, but are struggling and want to know if there was something you should be tending to, this is the episode for you! Trigger warning: abusive relationships are mentioned, no detail given. 

#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #polyamorous #polyamory #kitchentablepoly #triads #cohabitation #triangulation What is it we are drawn to in seeking out Kitchen Table Poly? What are some of the challenges and how can we manage them?  In this episode we take a swim in the deeeeeep end of the poly pool...where you and your metamours (your partner's partners) hang out, socialize, and maybe even live together! Sometimes Triads organically occur in these situations, and our special guest and friend, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach Ellecia Paine, knows from her own experience what opportunities and challenges KTP offers.  You can find Ellecia online at elleciapaine.com, on IG @elleciapaine and you can follow her podcast, "Nope, We're NOT Monogamous" on Spotify, Google and Apple.    

#consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #poly #monopoly #polyamorous #polyamory #monogamous #openingup #relationships #relationshipdynamics #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching In this episode we dive into one of the more challenging relationship dynamics on the planet - the Polyamorous and Monogamous pairing. We will share with you our personal experiences as well as our experiences as Relationship, Sexuality and Empowerment coaches as we chat about poly-bombing, guilt, helicopter partnering, ambiamorous-ness, relationship snobbery, disentangling, KTP (kitchen table poly - where partners and metas feel comfortable enough to spend time together) and parallel poly (keeping relationships separate) and relationship identities.  We'll give you some things we found helpful when navigating the particularly bumpy landscape of this challenging but also very rewarding relationship dynamic. 

#monogamy #openingup #polyamory #polyamorous #monopoly #griefinrelationships #relationshipstructures #relationshipdynamics #relationshipcoaching #poly #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice  In this episode we tackle the grief that comes, as Greg puts it, as "many little deaths" when opening up a previously monogamous relationship. It isn't easy and many of us struggle, even unconsciously, with moving through the grief as we adjust to all the changes that come with opening up. The messages that we receive all of our lives about what love is and isn't create conflict in our minds as we grapple with pushing back against our identities, societal norms and expectations others have of us.  NOTE: our definition of "solo poly" was incomplete. Here's a blog that explain many nuances to the term in this person's experience of it: https://solopoly.net/2014/12/05/what-is-solo-polyamory-my-take/ If you're struggling with grief, please reach out to us at [email protected] or [email protected]. Here is Leanne's Poly Playlist on Spotify reference in the episode: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4qMkzemGbyazOaY7q0gcAf?si=ca0b191b3c0d4d41 And the song she was struggling to remember is: "I'm Free" by The Soup Dragons ...AND there is another one on the list called "Free" by Donovan Frankenreiter.

#relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #newrelationshipenergy #emotionalmanagement #fomo If you struggle to manage your own NRE (New Relationship Energy) or you know it's impacting your other relationships, this one is for you! We share some of our experiences with NRE, how it can affect you and your behaviour and what you can do about creating more balance.    While we're all ultimately responsible for managing our emotional reactions, being a compassionate partner is about taking responsibility for our own behaviour and mitigating negative effects of NRE, creating a safe space for honest dialogue about it, and preventing resentment from building up.    NOTES: Asexual individuals can experience sexual arousal, but not always. NRE can be brought about through touch without sexual arousal. Also any limited information agreement should still allow for information about whether fluid exchange occurred during intimacy.    Want one-on-one/ couple's or triad/quad coaching? Feel free to reach out to [email protected] or [email protected]. If you'd like a copy of our "Check-In" list, shoot us a message!   Our Facebook Group name has changed from EMPOWERED NOW to EMPOWERED POLY Relationship Support and Advice - please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/2723042208009580   Websites and blogs: gregmillion.com and leannemillion.com IG: @leannemillion and @thegregmillion  

#ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting #vetopower This is the continuation of our interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-Monogamy FB group) because we had so much to chat about!  In Part 1 we covered what couple's privilege and hierarchy are and how we all found autonomy in our relationships.    In THIS episode we discuss veto power and unicorn hunting.    You can find Michael's podcast ENM Talk Podcast on YouTube here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen.    And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/enmgroup  

#ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #relationshipcoaching #coupleprivilege #hierarchyinenm #healthyrelationships #autonomy #unicornhunting This was such an awesome interview with Michael Love (co-host of the ENM Talk Podcast and co-admin of the Ethical Non-monogamy FB group) that we had to keep going and ended up creating 2 parts!    We discuss what couple's privilege is and how it impacts relationships, how you can work toward more autonomy and why you may want to, and what hierarchy is in this context. And in part TWO we get into veto power and unicorn hunting!    You can find Michael Love's ENM Talk Podcast here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPfgHA1i6Zrh6I05f-rkFxQ as well as anywhere you like to listen.    And if you'd like to join his Facebook ENM Community group you can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/199655087914476  

#toxicrelationships #toxicbehaviour #emotionalmanagement #boundaries #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoaching #faultvsresponsibility #healingwounds #emotions Yep, we thought this one would be easy...but it's complicated! Join us, Greg and Leanne, Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we tackle what exactly we can do about toxic behaviour in a relationship. Are you experiencing toxic behaviour in a relationship? Or maybe you're the one with the toxic habits? We ALL have learned behaviour that we would like to change. Watch for the moment when I (Leanne) use hurtful humour to deflect...and you can bet I apologized once I realized I'd done it. Oof.    Book mentioned: "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson   Reach out if you would like a copy of the notes we used for this podcast by emailing us at: [email protected] or [email protected]!   

#vulnerability #malevulnerability #gender #genderexpression #authenticity #manboxculture #tonyporter #brenebrown #lewishowes #connection #emotionalmanagement #anger #strengthisvulnerability #intimacy #healthyrelationships #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #selfawareness #maleidentifying  Join us, Greg and Leanne, Emotional Empowerment and Relationship Coaches, as we welcome our good friend and fellow podcaster, Binyam Asress to this episode to delve into what Male Vulnerabiilty is, why it's a struggle and what it has to do with "the fuller flavour to savour"!  A frank and honest discussion featuring two publicly vulnerable men, (and a woman learning more about male vulnerability) addressing the inherent challenges male identifying folx face when trying to express themselves fully and what we can do to change the narrative.  Binyam Asress is a podcaster who can be seen often on Instagram and TickTok, spreading kindness. He first became well known for interviewing his riders for TikTok when he was driving for Uber. His podcast, "Bin Checkin' In" just launched it's 100th episode. Binyam has spent a lifetime studying how people connect...and how we can do so more meaningfully. In his various roles as a father, friend and confidant, he aims to live life on purpose and grow in the midst of community. Find him here:  https://www.tiktok.com/@binyamasress    https://www.instagram.com/binyamasress/   https://open.spotify.com/show/11FyLlbgm814X9ui4DCjgu Recommended reading for those interested in Male Vulnerability:  "The Mask of Masculinity" by Lewis Howes, "Breaking Out of the Man Box - a Call to Men" by Tony Porter, "Men, Women and Worthiness" by Brene Brown. 

#authenticintimacy #authenticityinrelationships #sexualfreedom #selfadvocacy #intimacy #autonomy #newrelationshipenergy #feelingtakenforgranted #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #monogamy #ENM #poly #authenticity Greg and Leanne share their own personal discoveries about what intimacy is and isn't, how it can be nurtured and how it can be lost, and how it's different from sex. Getting vulnerable about how intimacy shows up in relationships and how we often take it for granted is what this episode is all about. They look at how much we value sex as a form of intimacy and how sexual autonomy might look if one person isn't feeling sexual. Does sex have to be at the heart of our shared intimacy? They examine the issue from both a monogamous relationship p.o.v. and also touch on new relationship energy and how it can impact established relationships for poly/CNM folx. 

#chronicillness #chronicconditions #chronicpain #mentalhealth #relationshipcoaching #relationshipadvice #relationships #autonomy #listentoyourpartner #relationshipbuilding #healthyrelationships In this episode Relationship and Emotional Wellness coaches Leanne and Greg Million offer their insight into the challenges of coping with chronic illness or conditions within a relationship. They provide perspective about how to help your partner, how to respect their independence and how to connect using these 4 pillars: Listen, Self-care, Relationship Building and Being Real.    For more details check out Leanne's blog article here: https://www.leannemillion.com/2021/08/29/managing-chronic-illness-conditions-in-a-relationship/  This episode is lovingly dedicated to the memory of Leanne's father, Mel Maschmeyer 1944-2021. 

#compersion #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #polyamory #nonmonogamous #polyamorous #jealousy #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #sexuality Greg, an Emotional Empowerment Coach, and Leanne, a Relationship and Sexuality Coach explain the term "compersion" as used by the Poly/CNM community. They explore it's origins, why people think they need it, and how it feels to have it, in both comfortable and uncomfortable ways.   

#groupsex #threesomes #orgies #multiplepartners #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmongamy #monogamish #openrelationships #polyamory #sexualautonomy #safesex #elleciapaine #relationshipcoach #sexcoach #sexadvice #relationshipadvice Join Greg and Leanne in welcoming fellow Love, Sex and Relationship Coach, Ellecia Paine to the show! Sometimes a silly yet still very informative discussion about sex with multiple partners at once including things like how to address STI safety, offering really practical advice about how to manage your physical and emotional well being as well as what challenges, red flags and joys might be encountered when engaging with more than one intimate partner at a time.  A must-see for those curious, who want to try or who just really enjoy group sex!   Where you can find Ellecia: www.elleciapaine.com www.elleciapaine.com/course www.facebook.com/elleciapaine www.instagram.com/elleciapaine Download the SPIEL .pdf: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pVSpJsvvgCKmpJ6ixmouvrue9vD3YLwN/view?usp=sharing

#relationshipadvice #compassion #communication #relationshipcoach #polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ENM #poly #selfadvocacy #autonomy #authenticity #vulnerability  Join Emotional Wellness and Relationship coaches Greg and Leanne Million as they explore what being a compassionate partner is, and what it isn't. With a slight detour into what the differences and similarities are between a Relationship Anarchist and Greg's coined term, "Relationship Autonomist", the Millions explore compassionate partnering and surprise even themselves with how much it means to them.  NOTE: This is a poly-friendly podcast, and the content is applicable to all types of relationships.  IMPORTANT: While it is important to self-advocate in our relationships, if you feel unsafe, please consult a local therapist, social worker or shelter to help you plan an exit strategy. 

#polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #nonmonogamy #boundaries #nonmonogamynewbies #couplesprivilege #hierarchicalpolyamory #disentangling So...you're considering Polyamory or Consensual Non-Monogamy? Or you've already started the journey and hit a few road bumps? Greg and Leanne Million Relationship, Sexuality and Emotional Wellness Coaches offer up some advice based on their years of combined and separate experiences in exploring Poly and CNM. Everything from Unicorn Hunting (though they don't use that term in this episode) to hierarchy, to the importance of disentangling as a couple and many more important considerations are explored.  If you'd like a copy of the list of 26 Tips for Those New to Poly/CNM, feel free to email them at [email protected] or [email protected]. 

#polyamory #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #needtofeelspecial #relationshipadvice #relationshipcoaching #empowerment #boundaries #polyrelationships Greg and Leanne delve into what we can do in our Poly/CNM relationships - OR any relationship structure - to address the very foundational need to feel special. There are things we can request, advocate for and create for our relationships to foster and recognize our unique connection with each person in our lives.   

​​#jessicafern​ #polysecure​ #authorlove​ #nonmonogamy​ #ethicalnonmonogamy​ #polyamory Greg and Leanne are completely jazzed to have had the opportunity to meet with the author of "Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy", Jessica Fern! She unpacks some really important points for us, offers a lot of insight, and was just a joy to talk with!   Jessica is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. Reach out to her at www.jessicafern.com, and you can get a copy "Polysecure" on Audible, Kobo, at Thorntree Press, Indigo or on Amazon.   Note: Please excuse the sound quality at times, as Leanne had to rely on her laptop mic and there was some distortion over Zoom.  ​

#jealousy #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #relationships #howtomanagejealousy  Join Greg and Leanne, Wellness and Relationship Coaches, as they examine what creates jealousy in consensual non-monogamy, how it feels and how to manage it, both from the perspective of the partner experiencing jealousy and the partner who is witnessing jealousy.   Some additional tips if you're partner is jealous: give reassurances, avoid oversharing or making comparisons between partners. Join us next time for our interview with JESSICA FERN author of the book POLYSECURE! Also remember to listen until the end for our outtakes!! :) 

In this episode Leanne and Greg provide an overview of various relationship structures, discuss why new terminology is being developed and used and address some misconceptions about these structures.   Leanne mentions that the graphic will be added in post production but for a host of reasons, we decided against that. However, if you would like to access the graphic that Leanne created on this topic, please reach out to [email protected]. #relationshipstructures #relationshipdynamics #relationshiporientation #ethicalnonmonogamy #monogamy #relationshiptypes

Greg, an Emotional Wellness and Empowerment coach and his wife, Leanne, a Relationship and Sexuality Coach discuss what it means to have Relationship Autonomy, why it works for them, how it compares to Relationship Anarchy and how it can be applies to all types of relationships.   NOTE: Be sure to listen until the end to see the outtakes!   Check out their websites to reach out with topic suggestions or questions:  leannemillion.com and gregmillion.com  Or send an email to: [email protected] or [email protected] #autonomy #relationshipgoals #communication #sovereignty #personalresponsibility #relationshipanarchy #polyamory  

In this episode, coaches Leanne and Greg dive into the often-touted precept "You can't love anyone unless you love yourself". Join them as they grapple with this popular notion, share their own experiences and what they've noticed about how "true" this idea really is.   They also share points made by Lisa Voth in her article "Self Love is Bullshit" (link below) and the work of Stan Tatkin on relational blueprints that Lisa cites.    https://www.lisavoth.ca/single-post/2018/01/08/self-love-is-bullshit    You can find us on YouTube also: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCj41-4xONgkjbbf4goWwvVg Feel free to connect with us here to offer topic suggestions or for coaching info:  [email protected] or [email protected] #selflove #selfcare #loveisforeveryone #relationships #youreworthy #lifecoaches  

In a recent poll in their Facebook Group "EMPOWERED NOW: Relationship Support and Advice for ALL",  the #1 information topic requested was Long Term Relationship Challenges. In this episode coaches Greg and Leanne get vulnerable about their own struggles in their MANY long term relationships. They discuss how to address boredom, being stuck in a rut, disconnecting from your partner and intimacy issues by using tips and tools to create opportunities for connection and communication.  #longtermrelationships #healthyrelationships #relationshipchallenges #intimacy #connection #communication

Trigger warning.   In this episode, coaches Leanne and Greg talk about what consent is, what it isn't, who can give consent and what red flags to look for in case someone isn't capable of speaking up when they are uncomfortable. They share their own experiences and hope to inspire others to be able to seek enthusiastic consent in their relationships always.  This episode uses some graphic sexual terms, profanity and refers to sexual assault.   NOTE: Please be informed about the age of consent laws where you live and abide by them. #consent #healthyrelationships #boundaries #sexualassault #sexuality 

Greg and Leanne Million, Personal Development and Relationship Coaches, discuss Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages and Dr. Weiss' Five Sex Languages that Leanne has tweaked in order to better represent areas she thought were important.  Leanne's Eight Sex Languages are explained and they cover what the languages are, how you can incorporate them into your relationships and what they've learned about their own Love and Sex Languages.     To find out what your Sex Languages are, send an email to: [email protected] and you'll be sent a link to her Sex Languages Quiz. #lovelanguages #sexlanguages #connection #betterrelationships

Greg and Leanne Million, coaches in Personal Development and Relationships, offer tips on using tools instead of creating rules within relationships. If you or someone you know tries to control the behaviour of others by establishing rules, Greg and Leanne show how this is ineffective and what can be done instead. By changing the focus to communication, and by recognizing the other person's autonomy over their own decisions, the tools they share help create a safe space in which everyone's needs are considered.   To connect with Greg or Leanne or learn more about the coaching services they offer visit them at: https://www.gregmillion.com/   or   https://www.leannemillion.com/ #relationshipadvice #communication #healthyrelationships #controllingbehaviour

Greg and Leanne Million, Personal Development and Relationship Coaches, and special guest Ivy Padmos (their non-binary adult child) discuss their own gender identity and sexual and romantic orientations. They cover the basic terminology, what good allyship looks like and challenges they've faced in their personal journeys navigating gender identities as well as sexual and romantic orientations.   To find out more about Ivy Padmos and her Open Letter Project, you can find her on Instagram:  @poisoniveh and @openletterproject.  To get a list of the Terminology used in this podcast or to reach out to Leanne or Greg you can do so through their websites: leannemillion.com or gregmillion.com. #LGBTQ2IA+ #genderidentity #sexualorientation #romanticorientation #comingout #allyship