Free From P*rn

"The Other Team Is On Scholarship"You're not broken — you're being played. In this episode, Rich pulls back the curtain on why doom scrolling feels impossible to stop: there are highly paid professionals whose entire job is to keep you hooked. And if you've got a porn habit layered on top of that? You're in a dopamine loop that makes everything else in life feel gray and flat.Rich walks through a real coaching conversation with a guy who slipped up — not to shame him, but to investigate what actually happened. What they found was a trail: one notification, a few hours of doom scrolling, and then the familiar chase.If you've ever asked "what do I do when I'm bored?" — this episode is for you. Rich shares the practical dopamine reset strategies he actually uses: driving in silence, reading novels, walking without your phone, and sitting in the secret place. None of it is flashy. All of it works.Your dopamine levels can be restored. The sky can be blue again. But it starts with being willing to sit with the discomfort long enough to get there.

What happens when the guy behind the pulpit is hiding the same sin as the guy in the pew?In this episode, Richard and Justin sit down with Jonathan Leonardo — pastor, minister, and founder of Love Reality — for one of the most honest conversations we've had on the podcast. Jonathan pulls back the curtain on a decade of double-mindedness: translating Greek in seminary by day, feeding a secret life of lust by night. Traveling to preach the gospel, then using those same trips to gratify the flesh.But this isn't just a confession episode. It's a breakthrough episode.Jonathan walks through the shame cycle that keeps so many men trapped — the secrecy, the self-condemnation, the isolation — and explains why more theology, accountability software, and willpower only made it worse. What finally changed wasn't a new strategy. It was a revelation: you were always the son.If you've been spinning your wheels trying to earn your way out of this thing, this conversation is for you.In this episode:Why seminary didn't fix Jonathan's addiction — it ran alongside itThe "thin veil" between sexuality and spiritualityHow shame keeps men silent, isolated, and stuckThe gospel truth that landed like a thousand pounds on Jonathan's chestWhy identity in Christ is the antidote to the shame loopWhy freedom is never a solo project

What if the thing you call “failure” is actually the key to your freedom?In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young and Justin Khoe dismantle one of the most dangerous beliefs Christian men carry: “If I mess up again, it’s over.”That mindset doesn’t protect you… it traps you.We unpack why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck in the cycle—and how a simple shift can change everything. Drawing from concepts popularized by Carol Dweck and grounded in the gospel, we show why relapse isn’t a verdict—it’s data.You’ll learn: • Why porn isn’t the real problem (and what actually is) • How shame and fear of failure keep the cycle alive • The difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset • Why compassion—not condemnation—is the path to real change • What Simon Peter’s story reveals about how Jesus Christ responds to your worst momentsThis episode will reframe how you see setbacks—and show you how to actually grow through them instead of being defined by them.If you’ve been stuck in shame, afraid to fail again, or believing you have to get it perfect to be free… this conversation is for you.Freedom isn’t found in never falling. It’s found in learning how to rise—with truth.

If you’ve ever asked, “Why is this happening to me?”—this episode will completely reframe how you see your struggle.In this episode, we break down one of the biggest mindset traps keeping men stuck in cycles of shame, guilt, and pornography—and how to finally step out of it.What if your struggle isn’t random? What if it actually makes perfect sense based on everything you’ve walked through?Instead of condemning yourself, you’ll learn how to: • Understand why you’re stuck without shame • Stop fighting urges with willpower • See your past with compassion instead of frustration • Use every urge as an opportunity for real transformationThis isn’t about excusing behavior—it’s about finally understanding it so you can change it.Because when you stop asking “Why is this happening to me?” and start seeing clearly…You can actually move forward in freedom.God isn’t condemning you. He’s leading you out.Freedom starts here.

What if your worst mistake wasn’t the end of your story—but the beginning of transformation?In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin shares a raw and unforgettable story from his teenage years—getting arrested for shoplifting on a military base in Las Vegas. What follows isn’t just a story about consequences… it’s about conviction, identity, and the kind of moment that sticks with you for life.But the conversation doesn’t stop there.Fast forward years later, Justin finds himself on the other side—as a father—facing a similar situation with his own son. And instead of reacting with fear, anger, or punishment, he chooses something radically different: discipleship over discipline, and love over condemnation.This episode dives deep into: Why punishment doesn’t produce real transformation  The difference between behavior correction and heart formation  How shame keeps people stuck (in porn and beyond)  What it actually looks like to be fathered by God  And how understanding God as a good Father changes everything If you’ve ever struggled with guilt, shame, or the cycle of messing up and hiding—this episode will reframe the way you see both yourself and God.Because freedom doesn’t come from being punished into change… It comes from being loved into it. 

What happens when you finally bring your struggle into the light?In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard shares a powerful excerpt from the Death to Life Podcast featuring Samuel, a member of the Free From Porn coaching community. Samuel opens up about his journey from secrecy and fear to freedom and boldness in Christ.For years, Samuel believed the truth about his identity in Christ—but there was still one thing he had never done: tell someone about his struggle. When he finally stepped out of the darkness and into community, everything changed.In this conversation, Samuel shares:• How understanding his identity in Christ changed the way he viewed temptation • Why secrecy keeps people stuck—and why confession breaks its power • The moment God told him, “You need to tell somebody” • How bringing sin into the light lifted a burden he had carried for years • Why learning to question your thoughts is a key to lasting freedomSamuel’s story is honest, encouraging, and deeply relatable. If you’ve ever felt trapped by shame or afraid to let someone see the real struggle, this conversation will remind you that freedom grows in the light—and that you are not alone.Freedom is possible. And sometimes the breakthrough begins with a single act of courage: telling the truth.Listen in and be encouraged.

Most of the struggle with porn—and honestly, most of the struggle in life—isn’t the behavior itself.It’s the psychological torment happening in our minds.In this episode, Richard Young talks about the power of perspective and how our minds often trap us in unnecessary suffering. We spend so much time trying to manipulate our circumstances so we can finally feel “okay.” When things don’t go the way we want, we spiral—medicating discomfort with porn, alcohol, sex, or endless mental rumination.But what happens when you zoom out?When you remember that you’re standing on a tiny planet spinning through space… warmed by a star so massive that 1.3 million Earths could fit inside it… one of 330 billion stars in our galaxy, which itself is just one of trillions of galaxies in the universe.Suddenly the problems your mind keeps rehearsing start to lose their power.And yet—here’s the incredible paradox.The same God who created all of that also sees when a sparrow falls. He knows you. He loves you. And through Jesus Christ, He has already given you a new identity—holy, blameless, and free.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why most of our suffering comes from the stories our mind tells usHow zooming out can break the cycle of mental tormentThe freedom that comes when you stop trying to control lifeWhy your addictions don’t have the final sayHow to step out of your head and start actually living the life God gave youYou may be smaller than you think in the grand scale of the universe.But to God, you are deeply known, deeply loved, and placed here for a reason.It’s time to stop living trapped in your mind—and start shining.

Most men trying to break free from porn believe their biggest problem is their urges.But the real issue runs deeper.It’s their relationship with their mind.In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young breaks down the three stages every man goes through in his relationship with his thoughts—and why understanding this changes everything.In stage one, you believe you are your thoughts. Every urge feels personal. Every intrusive idea feels like it defines you. And because of that, you live in reaction—trapped in cycles of shame, fear, and compulsive behavior.In stage two, everything begins to shift. You realize you are not your thoughts—you are the observer of them. This is where real transformation begins. Instead of reacting automatically, you learn to let thoughts pass without identifying with them. Urges stop feeling like commands and start becoming opportunities to renew your mind and stand in truth.Then comes stage three.The stage where urges no longer control you. The thoughts that once ruled your life become background noise—nothing more than passing signals that no longer carry power. Not because you fought harder, but because you stopped identifying with them altogether.This episode will help you:• Understand why you are not your thoughts • Break the lie that urges define you • Learn how to take thoughts captive without fear or shame • See why renewing your mind is the key to lasting freedom • Discover how men naturally progress to a place where urges lose their gripFreedom isn’t about eliminating thoughts.It’s about realizing they were never you to begin with.When you stop identifying with every urge, you stop being controlled by them.And that’s when everything changes.

What if you’ve been starting in the wrong place this whole time?For years, I thought freedom meant climbing. Climbing out of sin. Climbing toward peace. Climbing into God’s approval. But there was one idea that broke everything open for me:In Christ, you start where He finished.You don’t begin your spiritual life at the bottom of the mountain trying to reach God. You begin seated with Christ.You don’t fight for victory. You fight from victory.In this episode, I unpack:• What it means to start from rest instead of striving • Why your default setting in Christ is love, joy, and peace • How life circumstances and old thought patterns trick you into “coming down the mountain” • Why pornography is a symptom of forgetting you’re already okay • How Colossians 3 shifts everything about recoverySo many men relapse not because they lack desire for freedom — but because they don’t know they’re already free.They’re trying to get peace instead of living from peace.You are not climbing to heaven. You’ve already been raised with Christ.The invitation is simple: Stop leaving the room you’re already in.Freedom isn’t at the top of the mountain. It’s your starting point.Listen in and learn how to live from the finish line.

What if the urges you’re afraid of are actually the key to your freedom?In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young flips the script on how we think about urges. Instead of fearing them or trying to suppress them, he explains why urges are actually doing important work—revealing the unresolved emotions, beliefs, and wounds we’ve learned to cope with through porn.You’ll hear why porn isn’t the real problem, how urges point to dysregulated emotions beneath the surface, and why avoiding uncomfortable feelings only keeps you stuck longer. Through real-life stories and practical insight, Richard shows how facing those feelings—rather than escaping them—creates space for healing, release, and lasting freedom.This conversation goes beyond porn. It applies to anger, shame, fear, impatience, and negative self-beliefs. If you’ve ever felt afraid of your thoughts, emotions, or urges, this episode will help you learn how to process them in the light of truth—and walk in the freedom Jesus has already given you.Freedom isn’t found in fighting harder. It’s found in learning how to face what’s coming up… and letting it go.

Most people think their struggle with porn is about willpower, discipline, or self-control.It’s not.In this episode, Richard breaks down a deeper issue that keeps people stuck—not just in pornography, but in anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and constant inner turmoil: the illusion of control.We talk about why porn is rarely the real problem, but a coping mechanism for unregulated emotions… and how much of that emotional pain comes from resisting life instead of experiencing it.You’ll hear:Why “trying to control” your circumstances is mentally exhaustingHow resistance and constant mental effort create the very anxiety you’re trying to escapeWhy escape behaviors (porn, alcohol, distraction) feel necessary when life doesn’t go your wayWhat happens when you stop resisting and start actually livingHow freedom grows when your energy is no longer wasted on mental tug-of-warThis episode invites you to put down the weapons—worry, control, resistance—and learn how to live from peace instead of striving.As Paul writes, “Do not be anxious about anything…” That’s not a command to try harder—it’s an invitation into rest.If you’re tired of fighting your mind, medicating emotions, or feeling trapped in the same cycles, this conversation will give you a completely different way forward.Freedom isn’t found by controlling life. It’s found by learning how to experience it—without fear.

What if trying to outthink your porn habit is actually keeping you stuck?In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young breaks down why willpower, mental debates, and “inner dialogue” are the worst tools for overcoming urges—and what to do instead.You’ll learn:Why your mind isn’t equipped to solve addictionHow inner arguments actually drain you and strengthen temptationThe difference between reacting to urges and observing themA practical, embodied way to endure urges without fighting themHow the peace of God guards both your heart and your mindThis episode introduces a radically different approach: relaxing behind the urge, regulating your body, and letting God’s peace do what your mind never could.If you’ve been exhausted from trying harder, thinking more, or reasoning your way out of temptation—this one might change everything.Freedom is your new normal.

What does it actually mean to be free from p*rn—and how is that different from trying to be “sinless”? In this episode, Richard breaks down Romans 6 and explains why real freedom isn’t about white-knuckling behavior change, but living from the ontological freedom Christ has already given you.

Every January, we make resolutions we don’t keep—especially when it comes to quitting porn. In this episode, Richard Young explains why freedom doesn’t come from trying harder or setting negative goals like “I won’t do this anymore.”Instead, real change starts with intention.You’ll learn why intentions formed in clarity are stronger than resolutions made in emotion, how fear and desire derail your commitments, and what it looks like to set a higher intention rooted in freedom and integrity. Richard shares why your intention should be about who you’re becoming—not just what you’re avoiding.This episode is a call to set your course for 2026: Not away from porn, but toward the freedom Christ has already given you.If you want this year to be different, start here.

The holidays have a way of stirring up old thoughts, old emotions, and old coping patterns. Family gatherings, financial pressure, grief, loneliness, and anxiety can all collide at once—and when anxiety rises, the mind often reaches for the same “solution” it always has. Porn isn’t the problem. It’s the relief valve we’ve learned to pull when tension feels unbearable.In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard Young teaches a simple but powerful practice that changes everything: learning to observe your thoughts instead of fighting them—and relaxing around the feelings they trigger. You’ll discover why resisting or suppressing anxious thoughts actually makes them stronger, how to step out of the mental “roller coaster,” and what it looks like to take thoughts captive by staying present, relaxed, and grounded in Christ.As you head into the busy Christmas season, this episode will help you:Understand why anxiety—not desire—is the real driver behind porn useLearn how to observe thoughts without identifying with themPractice relaxing your body and nervous system when triggers ariseExperience how peace replaces compulsion when tension is releasedWalk through the holidays conscious, free, and no longer medicating stressThis isn’t about trying harder or fighting your mind. It’s about learning how to live from peace—where thoughts lose their power, urges pass, and freedom becomes your new normal.

Justin shares two hilarious stories of almost joining a cult—and we use them to unpack why old thoughts, temptations, and guilt still show up even when you’re walking in freedom. Learn how to “unsubscribe” from old mental patterns, retrain your mind’s algorithm, and stop taking every thought personally so you can keep walking in the freedom Christ already gave you.

n this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, host Richard Young dives into one of the most overlooked pressure-cookers of the year: the holiday season. For many, Thanksgiving and Christmas bring joy… but they also bring stress, old triggers, family dynamics, and emotional weight that can feel overwhelming.But what if those very triggers were invitations—not setbacks?Richard unpacks why moments of pressure are often the same moments that used to drive you to medicate with porn… and how this season can become a sacred opportunity to renew your mind, release old patterns, and walk in the peace that’s already yours in Christ.From Paul’s words in Philippians 4 to the practice of getting alone with God in the “secret place,” this episode shows you how to turn holiday anxiety into holy ground. You'll learn how to:Bring your anxieties to God instead of numbing themRecognize triggers as opportunities for transformationLet the peace of God guard your heart and mindBuild new habits of freedom in the moments that used to break youStep back into family settings with calm, clarity, and Christ’s life flowing through youWhether you're listening before Thanksgiving or weeks afterward, this conversation will help you walk into any environment—family gatherings, stressful moments, old memories—with peace, gratitude, and unshakeable identity.This holiday season, your buttons aren’t setbacks. They’re invitations to freedom.

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin and Richard kick things off with a hilarious question: “What’s the manliest thing you’ve ever done?” What starts as jokes about peeing standing up and awkward gym compliments quickly turns into a story that nearly ends in disaster—Richard almost drowning at a Hawaiian beach because he fought the waves instead of letting himself float.But that moment becomes the doorway into a much deeper conversation about white-knuckling, rumination, anxiety, and why so many men exhaust themselves trying to “fight the waves” of life, urges, or stress.Justin breaks down the real meaning of Philippians 4:13 (hint: it’s not about doing backflips for Jesus), and together they unpack why:Most people aren’t sinning because they’re evil—they’re medicating because they’re overwhelmed.Trying to out-think your anxieties only drags you deeper into the rip current.Freedom isn’t found in controlling the waves—it’s found in learning to float.If you’ve ever felt like life is “lifeing,” like you're trying to fix circumstances you can’t fix, or like your urges spike the moment stress rises, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.You don’t need more force. You don’t need more self-hatred. You don’t need to swim harder.You need to learn the art of endurance, peace, and floating with Jesus in the middle of the waves.This episode will show you how.Tune in now.

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young unpacks one of the most counterintuitive truths about freedom — that trying harder often makes things worse. Drawing from psychology and Scripture, Richard explains the “law of reversed effort,” showing how willpower alone can reinforce the very habits you’re trying to break.You’ll learn why striving, white-knuckling, and obsessing over sin only deepen the struggle — and how true transformation happens when you relax into grace.If you’ve ever felt frustrated that your best efforts still lead to failure, this episode will help you understand why. You’ll see that freedom isn’t found in more effort — it’s found in changing the picture you hold of yourself.Key themes:Why trying harder reinforces bad habitsThe law of reversed effort and imagination vs. willHow identity in Christ rewires your behavior from the inside outThe power of relaxing into grace instead of striving for freedomListen now to discover how to stop fighting for freedom and start living from it.

What happens when freedom turns into permission? In this raw and hilarious episode, Richard and Justin unpack how a single conversation years ago threw Richard off course and why it’s so easy to swing between guilt and license when you’re learning to live free from p*rn.From a wild story about a dad discovering his son’s “Free From P*rn” charge on the family bank statement to a deep dive into Galatians 5 and 2 Peter 1, the guys reveal how comparison, immaturity, and misplaced focus can subtly sabotage real freedom.This episode is for anyone who’s tried to escape shame, only to drift into apathy. You’ll discover the middle ground where grace empowers growth, not excuses, and learn why your freedom is secure even as you practice self-control.Listen if you’ve ever thought: “If I’m free, why do I still fall?” “Is grace just letting me off the hook?” “How do I stay out of guilt and complacency?”

Have you ever noticed that the moment you start doing something new, stressful, or outside your comfort zone, the urges to look at prn suddenly show up again? In this honest and vulnerable episode, Richard opens up about why launching the Free From Prn coaching program actually increased his urges. Joined by Justin Khoe, they unpack why stress often becomes a hidden trigger and how to process it without escaping.Together they explore: • Why p*rn isn’t the problem, it’s the solution you’ve been using • How stress and new challenges can surface old habits • The biblical path to regulating emotions without shame • What Philippians 4 teaches about anxiety, prayer, and peace • A simple, powerful breathing practice that calms your body and centers your heart in ChristThis episode will remind you that stress isn’t your enemy—it’s an invitation to slow down, breathe, and experience the peace of God that guards your heart and mind.Listen now to discover how freedom looks even in moments of pressure.

Most people would rather hide than admit they’re struggling with porn—but what if talking about it is the very thing that breaks its power?In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin and Richard get real about embarrassment—why we feel it, how it keeps us stuck, and what happens when we finally stop pretending. Joined by their friend David Hunte, who battled porn for over 40 years, they unpack the role of shame, identity, and community in finding lasting freedom.David shares how understanding who he is in Christ—and learning to take thoughts captive—transformed decades of secrecy into a testimony of freedom. From “trying harder” to “standing fast in liberty,” this conversation will help you see that your struggle doesn’t define you, and you don’t have to hide anymore.🎧 In this episode you’ll hear:Why talking about your porn struggle isn’t embarrassing—it’s freeingHow guilt, shame, and condemnation keep you silent (and stuck)The identity shift that ends the cycle for goodWhy community and confession are crucial to walking in victoryHow to renew your mind when temptation hitsIf you’ve ever thought, “I can’t talk about this”—this episode is your permission to stop hiding. Freedom starts with honesty.

We kept the awkward cold open on purpose—because today’s conversation starts messy and turns miraculous. Justin is back after an emergency C-section and a week in the NICU with baby Ezekiel (“Zeke”). Out of that whirlwind, he shares a gospel reframing that changes how you think about sin, shame, and why white-knuckling never sets you free.Richard and Justin unpack Romans 5 and Titus 2 through a powerful NICU analogy: sin isn’t a slap-on-the-wrist for “spilling the milk”—it’s a condition you were born into. Separation from God isn’t Him arms-crossed at the door; it’s a Father whose heart breaks while He moves heaven and earth to bring you home. The punchline? Your first and most powerful prayer isn’t “I’ll try harder.” It’s one word: “Thank You.”In this episode, you’ll learn:Why behavior-first strategies keep you stuck—and what identity-first freedom looks likeHow Romans 5 reframes sin as condition, not condemnation (and why that matters for p*rn)The one-word prayer that ends the shame spiral and jump-starts real transformationHow grace actually trains you (Titus 2) to say no to ungodliness without hating yourselfA simple way to practice gratitude that rewires your reactions in the heat of temptation

Real freedom starts when truth leaves your lips. In this episode, Richard unpacks radical honesty—why saying the real thing out loud (to safe, gospel-anchored people) exposes the lie beneath a porn habit and opens the door to healing. You’ll hear how confession isn’t shame—it’s surgery—and why many of us only realize what’s true as we say it.In this episode you’ll learnWhy isolation keeps the cycle alive—and how honest confession snaps it.How the kind of porn you’re drawn to can reveal an unmet need or hidden lie.A simple framework to practice honesty inside trusted community (without self-condemnation).What scripture actually invites us into: confession → healing → renewed identity (James 5:16; 1 John 4:7–8).A guided prayer to help you speak truth and receive grace—today.

Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release.Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpacks how shame around sexuality can prime the cycle of escape and numbing—and how lowering the stakes helps many step out of compulsion. You’ll learn:How to separate p*rn-driven fantasy from simple physiologyWhy “more rules” often intensify rebounds (and what to do instead)A practical, shame-free way to coach yourself—or your kids—toward healthy sexualityHow stress and anxiety fuel the escape loop, plus a prayerful path to peaceIf you’re tired of white-knuckling and ready for clear-conscience living, this conversation will help you trade shame for wisdom and walk in real freedom.P.S. Keep Justin and Emily in your prayers as they welcome baby #2!

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, laugh at the shame-y scripts that pretend porn still owns you, and trade the “try harder” treadmill for identity-based transformation. You’ll hear the two sneaky lies that quietly prolong a porn habit, the one liberating truth that ends it, and a grace-filled way to process urges without white-knuckling. Listen in, breathe out, and step into what’s already true of you in Christ.What You’ll LearnWhy identity (not IQ or willpower) drives lasting behavior changeThe 2 lies that keep you looping: “porn has power over me” and “I actually want it”The gospel reframe: “Sin shall not have dominion over you” → how to live that todayA simple way to process urges without shame, panic, or self-punishmentHow to laugh at old scripts and realign to your new heartScriptureRomans 6:14, Romans 6:17, Colossians 2:15, Ephesians 2:6

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again.You’ll learn: • Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation) • How boredom + scrolling quietly funnels you back to porn • The “turn your phone into a phone” rule that disarms triggers • Practical resets: no-phone mornings, room-parking your phone, long-form without a second screen • The gospel frame: dead to sin, alive to God—welcoming urges and answering with truthWe end with a prayer to trade peaks and valleys for steady joy in Jesus. Share this with a friend who says, “I relapse when I’m bored.”

Are “big BUTs” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but…” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show why a healthy tree (you, in Christ) produces good fruit—and how the “but” often reveals the real lie you’re believing.You’ll hear a live coaching moment where a brother realizes he doesn’t actually believe he’s a “good tree,” why all-or-nothing thinking (hello, 75 Hard) fuels shame and relapse, and how to let good fruit ripen with patience instead of quitting at the first stumble. The episode closes with a hopeful prayer, rooting you again in your union with Jesus.In this episode, you’ll learn:How to spot the “BUT” that’s blocking transformationWhy identity (“good tree”) precedes behavior (“good fruit”)A grace-based way to handle setbacks without starting overPractical steps to take thoughts captive and agree with truthIf you’d like Richard & Justin to teach this message at your church or men’s group, DM us. And if this helped, follow the show and share it with a friend who’s ready to retire their “big BUTs.”

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily.You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient, shame-free habits that actually change your life: feeling your feelings, questioning fear, and renewing your mind with truth. Richard breaks down a simple rhythm for processing anxiety with God, taking thoughts captive (2 Cor. 10:5), and being transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom. 12:2)—even when it’s uncomfortable.If you’re ready to stop chasing “get-free-quick” and start walking in durable freedom, this one’s for you.CTA: Grab the free checklist, How to Quit Porn Now: A Freedom Checklist, and DM “SFP” on Instagram to get the link to our next shame-free masterclass.You’ll LearnWhy “make it easier” can become a new form of avoidanceA simple framework for feeling urges without obeying themHow to process anxiety with God so peace guards your heart (Phil. 4:7)The difference between effort and striving—and how grace fuels practice

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn, Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks:👉 “What if I still feel tempted?” 👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?” 👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?”Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’t mean you’ll never feel temptation again. Even Jesus was tempted. What matters is how you see it—and whether you let shame or grace define your response. Richard explains why temptation isn’t sin, why desire itself isn’t the problem, and why trying to convince someone else to quit will always backfire.If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m not really free because I still feel tempted”—this episode will change the game for you.And at the end, Richard shares an exclusive invite to his Shame-Free Path Masterclass happening this Thursday. Normally $27, but for podcast listeners it’s just $5. DM him “SFP” on Instagram to grab your spot.

Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment.Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, they show you how to spot the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in half-hearted attempts—and how to finally go all in without the weight of shame.If you’ve ever felt like you’re “committed to quitting” but secretly only committed to looking like you’re quitting, this conversation will flip the script. Freedom doesn’t come from beating yourself up. It comes from believing the truth of who you are in Christ—and committing from that place of grace.

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity.Justin shares multiple jaw-dropping stories of being propositioned in places he thought were safe spaces, and how he continually chose purity in moments of temptation. Richard joins the conversation to challenge the false narrative that external factors—like women’s clothing or controlling environments—are the key to overcoming lust. Instead, the battle starts inside, and how you choose to see people, not as objects but as image-bearers of God.In this episode, you’ll discover:The absurdity of outsourcing responsibility for your lust to others.Why changing how you view people is the real battle.Practical steps to take ownership and steward your thoughts and eyes.It’s time to stop blaming others and start embracing the transformation of your mind. Tune in for a conversation that will shift your perspective on lust, temptation, and true freedom.Ask ChatGPT

“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…” That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true.In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love.But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability to connect with real people.Ruth brings a powerful and rarely-heard female perspective on how media marketed as “funny” or “romantic”—from American Pie to Twilight—shaped how she saw men, love, and her own worth.We talk about:Why both men and women can objectify each other without even realizing itHow porn rewires your brain—and makes healthy relationships harderThe subtle ways shame keeps you guarded, self-protecting, and disconnectedAnd how the gospel frees you to see others (and yourself) as God does: with love, curiosity, and grace.If you're tired of relational pain, performance masks, or the fear that you’ll never be “enough” for someone—you need this episode.🔥 Plus: Ruth and Eliana are launching a brand new coaching program for women ready to walk in freedom. DM them to learn more— @strewthrewth @always.daughter

You’ve heard the stereotype: “Porn is a guy problem.” But what if that’s not the whole truth?In this groundbreaking episode, Justin Kuh and Richard Young are joined by their very first guest—Eliana—to dismantle the myth that porn is a men-only struggle.Eliana shares her powerful story of battling a lesser-talked-about side of addiction: erotica, audio porn, emotional fantasy—and the ache underneath it all. Not lust. Not rebellion. But a longing to be loved. To be seen. To be safe.We talk about:Why women often don’t realize they’re caught in a porn cycleHow shame keeps so many silent and stuckThe real root behind feminine addiction—and how Jesus heals itWhy freedom isn’t just for men… and how the gospel is better than behavior managementThis is not just another conversation about purity. It’s a call to come home—to the truth that you are already loved, already worthy, already free in Christ.💬 If you're a woman silently struggling with pornography, DM us. We’re exploring a coaching program just for you—by women, for women.This is your moment to step into the light. Let’s go there—together.

What if the thoughts in your head aren’t actually you?So many believers are walking in condemnation, not because they’re sinning—but because they believe every thought that pops into their head is them. A lustful thought. A shameful memory. A mental image they didn’t ask for. And suddenly, they’re spiraling.In today’s solo episode, Richard Young breaks down one of the most powerful mindset shifts in the journey to freedom from pornography and shame: You are not your thoughts.Just like you aren’t your kidneys or your heartbeat, you’re not your brain’s random mental noise. You’re the observer. And once you stop taking every thought personally, freedom becomes your new normal.Inside this episode:Why Jesus’ words in the Sermon on the Mount don’t mean every lustful thought is your identityHow to separate random brain static from the real “you” in ChristThe science of inputs and how years of porn exposure still echo—but don’t define youA simple mindset shift that defuses shame and puts you back in controlHow we help men in our coaching program take thoughts captive without legalism or fearIf your thought life has been the final stronghold keeping you in shame, this episode is your jailbreak.📥 Want personal help walking this out? DM Richard or Justin to see how the Free from Porn Coaching Experience can help you finally renew your mind—and walk like someone who’s already free.

In this episode of Free from Porn, Richard and Justin dive deep into the hidden engine behind so many porn addictions: shame.We’ve been told that feeling worse will make us do better — that if we could just hate our sin enough, we’d finally change. But what if shame isn’t the path to freedom... but the very thing keeping you enslaved?Through personal stories, parenting reflections, and powerful gospel truth, we expose how shame speaks — “What’s wrong with you?” “You should’ve known better” — and why it never leads to lasting transformation. You'll hear how a single word of belief from a mother, or unexpected kindness from a father-in-law, can spark the courage to walk a new path.This episode isn’t just about recognizing shame — it’s about replacing it with the voice of the Father who rejoices over you with singing, even in your worst moment. The God who turns shame into praise.If you’ve been stuck in silence, guilt, and self-hatred, this conversation might be the beginning of your breakthrough.📩 Got questions or want to talk? DM me. You’re not alone — and freedom is your new normal.

What if I still want to look at porn after getting free? Does that mean I’m not really in Christ?This is the question that trips up so many people on their freedom journey. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young dismantle the hidden lies behind that fear.If you’ve ever thought you were going in and out of Christ based on your performance, this conversation will flip that entire narrative on its head. You’ll discover:Why God puts you in Christ—and why you can’t get yourself out.How your unwanted urges don’t define your desires.Why tension is actually a sign of your freedom, not your failure.How to stop reacting to temptation and start responding from the truth of who you are.This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels stuck in the cycle of guilt, shame, and anxiety—thinking they’ve somehow fallen out of God’s grace.Freedom isn’t fragile. It’s your new normal.

Is melatonin the secret weapon to overcoming porn? Well… maybe not the Walmart version. In this episode of the Free from Porn podcast, Richard and Justin kick things off with a hilarious dive into supplements, sleep cycles, and the rogue Joe Rogan research that got them thinking: maybe the real solution isn’t fighting porn harder — maybe it’s surrendering.Through Chiefs football analogies, victory laps, and the not-so-already-but-actually-already victory of Jesus, they unpack why so many Christians are stuck battling something that's already been defeated. You don’t have to fight for victory. You get to live from it.This episode is for you if you’ve been caught in the exhausting cycle of fighting urges, thinking you're still in a war that’s already over.The game’s over. Time to take a knee.

Cold plunges make you watch porn? That’s what we (jokingly) claim in today’s episode—but what we’re really talking about is decision fatigue, willpower myths, and why what you believe about your ability to overcome matters more than you think.Join Richard and Justin as they dive into:Why your willpower isn’t your problemHow decision fatigue sneaks up on youThe surprising link between cold plunges, late-night Amazon shopping, and your porn habitsWhy it’s not about having more fruit—it’s about knowing you have the orchardThis episode is packed with stories, laughs, and a powerful truth: You don’t need more self-control. You already have the Source living in you.Tune in now to break free from the hustle, the struggle, and the scarcity mindset for good.

“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters MostToday on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all.We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher—if you let truth train you instead of shame define you. From lactose intolerance gone wrong to zippers and golf swings, today’s episode is full of laughs, real talk, and gospel-centered hope for anyone struggling with setbacks on the journey to freedom.This one’s for you if:You’ve recently relapsed and feel like giving upYou want to stop cycling through guilt and start learningYou need a reminder that God hasn’t forsaken you—He’s fathering youThe righteous fall… and they get back up. Let’s talk about how.

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits?In this episode of Free From Porn, Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now—and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity.You’ll hear stories, practical tips, and a no-fluff breakdown of why raising your standard and living from your true identity in Christ is the only foundation strong enough to walk in lasting freedom. If you’re tired of white-knuckling your way through temptation and want to experience true transformation, this episode is for you.Highlights:Why willpower always runs out (and what to do instead)How smart systems can help—but can’t saveWhy identity is the missing piece most people never talk aboutReal stories from our coaching programA prayer to stand in your new identity💥 Ready to raise your standard? Hit play and discover what freedom really looks like.

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program:"God, take away my sexual desires."But what if that’s not the problem?What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed?We talk about:Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotional dysfunctionHow Jesus models what it means to feel deeply (without being ruled by feelings)Why real freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sex drive—but learning to steward it in righteousnessThe trap of Christianized stoicism and the myth of “robotic holiness”How to stop seeing your sexuality as dirty and start thanking God for itIf you’ve ever begged God to just make it all go away, this one’s for you.

Ever fallen once… and then gone all in on failure?In this hilarious yet deeply honest episode, Richard and Justin unpack the all-or-nothing mindset that keeps so many stuck in cycles of porn, shame, and self-condemnation. What starts with a lactose pill and ends with a binge becomes the perfect metaphor for how guilt drives us deeper into the very thing we want freedom from.You’ll learn: – Why “one slip” doesn’t mean you’re out of Christ – How guilt and shame fuel binging behavior – The difference between falling in Christ vs falling out of covenant – Why God’s mercy isn’t on a 24-hour countdown timer – And how to get back up without starting overThis one’s funny, raw, and full of gospel truth. If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn your way back to God, this episode will set you free.

A lot of guys believe the lie: “Once I get married and can have sex, I won’t struggle with porn anymore.” But here’s the hard truth—we’re not trying to be clickbaity… marriage might actually make your porn habit worse.In this episode, Justin and Richard unpack why marriage and sex were never meant to be the solution to your struggle with lust. We talk through the deep-rooted misunderstandings many Christian men have, the biblical truth about freedom, and why Jesus—not your future spouse—is the one who sets you free.We explore: – Why sex doesn’t heal what only Jesus can redeem – How Romans 7 and 8 reveal the real path to freedom – Why your problem isn’t a lack of sex—it’s a lack of belief – What it means to walk in righteousness as a new creation – How to stop waiting for external fixes and start living free todayThis one might feel like the rug gets pulled out from under you. But trust us—on the other side is solid ground.Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation is for you.

What if your struggle with porn isn’t an addiction… but a habit?In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young unpack why the language you use to describe your battle matters deeply—and how calling it an "addiction" might be keeping you stuck. Drawing from science (yes, Pavlov makes a cameo) and scripture (Colossians 3, anyone?), they explore the difference between being a slave to sin and simply needing to renew your mind and habits through the power of the Holy Spirit.This isn't behavior modification. This is transformation grounded in the gospel. You are not an addict. You are a new creation—seated with Christ, filled with the Spirit, and empowered to walk in freedom.Why shock collars and extreme hacks won't set you free How neuroscience and scripture agree on habit change What it really means to be hidden with Christ in God The simple (but profound) mindset shift that breaks the cycleListen now and discover why freedom is not just possible—it’s your new normal.Tap in, hit play, and renew your mind with truth.

For years, we’ve been taught to flee temptation. Run from lust. Avoid triggers at all costs.But what if that’s not what God is actually calling you to do?In this powerful episode, Richard Young and Justin Khoe unpack a surprising truth about 1 Corinthians 10:13—and explain why the real way of escape isn’t running away, but learning to endure.You’ll learn:✅ Why trying to avoid temptation keeps you stuck in shame ✅ The physical and spiritual connection between urges and growth ✅ How to sit in the tension, feel the pull—and still walk in truth ✅ Why temptation isn’t your enemy… it’s your training ground ✅ How to rewire your brain through practicing righteousnessThis is your invitation to stop fighting the wrong battle. You don’t need more filters—you need a renewed mind and a deeper belief in who God says you are.🎧 Tap play and discover the path to lasting freedom. And if you're ready to go deeper, our 6-month coaching program is open now—but only for a limited time.DM us “freedom” on Instagram or message us directly to grab one of the final spots.

Why running from temptation might be keeping you stuck—and how to flip the script.🔥 What We Talk About:Most of us were taught: "Just flee temptation." But what if that advice is keeping you spiritually weak?In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle a commonly misused phrase—“flee temptation”—and explain why that mindset can actually deepen your slavery to sin. They walk through what Scripture actually says (and doesn’t say), and challenge you to view temptation as a training ground, not a trap.Key highlights:📖 Scripture never says “flee temptation” — we show you what it does say instead💪 Why temptation is spiritual leg day—the thing that makes you strong, not sinful🧠 How your mindset (Expectation Effect) shapes your strength in moments of weakness🛠️ Practical steps to engage temptation without fear and walk in freedom🙏 A powerful prayer for those still wrestling with shame, discomfort, or fear🧩 Practical Tools & Takeaways:Matthew 4:1 — Jesus was led by the Spirit into temptationHebrews 4:15 — Jesus was tempted in every way, yet without sinJames 1:12 — "Blessed is the one who endures temptation..."Reframe: Temptation isn't your enemy—it’s your opportunity to grow stronger in truth.Identity Shift: Stop seeing yourself as weak and about to fail. You are free, equipped, and filled with the Spirit.💬 One-Liner Takeaway:“Temptation is not the problem—it’s the place where freedom becomes real.”🎧 Listen now if you’ve ever thought:“Why am I still tempted if I’m free?”“Does temptation mean I’m sinning already?”“How do I stop running and start growing?”This episode flips your view of temptation and gives you a gospel-centered framework for enduring it with confidence and clarity.🧠 Freedom is your new normal. 🎧 Subscribe + share if someone you love needs to hear this.Want to connect with us?Send us a DM@jkhoe@riyoung@ffp_podcast

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOTFreedom doesn’t happen alone. It’s not just about willpower, filters, or white-knuckling your way through temptation.If you want real, lasting freedom from porn—you need a grace-filled community.In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack how shame drives isolation, and why the enemy loves to keep you there. You'll hear personal stories, biblical wisdom, and an invitation into something far more powerful than “trying harder.” Because according to Scripture—and experience—transformation is a team sport.🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARNWhy shame isolates—and grace brings healingHow Jesus modeled vulnerability in His darkest hour (Gethsemane wasn’t a solo mission)What Sequoia trees and your spiritual health have in commonHow real confession leads to real healing—not guiltWhy freedom thrives in truth-filled, grace-driven relationships💬 QUOTABLE MOMENTS“Community isn’t a crutch—it’s a strategy of heaven.”“Confessing to God is powerful. But confessing to a brother? That’s where healing explodes.”“The devil wants you isolated. God calls you into family.”💡 BIG IDEA:Freedom is your new normal—but it doesn’t grow in isolation. If shame keeps you quiet, community breaks the silence with truth.🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYDon’t just find any community—find a grace-filled one.Surround yourself with people who speak to your identity in Christ—not your past.Want to go deeper? Richard and Justin are launching a 60-day coaching program where you’ll be surrounded by men who get it, support you, and walk with you toward lasting transformation.🎯 WANT TO JOIN THE COACHING PROGRAM?If you’re ready to stop hiding, start healing, and actually live out the freedom Jesus already purchased for you—we’d love to walk with you.📥 Send us a message on Instagram@[email protected]@[email protected]

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOTSex isn’t dirty. Desire isn’t sin. And freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sexuality.In this episode, Justin and Richard confront one of the most harmful lies in Christian purity culture: that sexual desire is inherently sinful. But what if the urge to procreate is no more evil than the urge to urinate?We explore how God designed sexuality as a gift, why shame has hijacked it, and how the gospel empowers us not to repress desire—but to redeem it. Through vivid metaphors (sugar, smartphones, beach balls in the pool) and biblical insight, this episode unpacks how real transformation starts with renewing your view of sex itself.🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARNWhy sexual urges are not sinful—they’re signs of a healthy, God-designed bodyThe damaging cycle of shame and repression (and how it always backfires)How pornography floods your brain with fake “sugar” and makes real intimacy less satisfyingThe gospel’s promise of heart-level transformation—so thorough that your desires are rewiredWhy freedom isn’t about losing desire, but redirecting it back to its God-given purpose💬 QUOTABLE MOMENTS“It’s no more evil to want to procreate than to urinate.”“Shame makes us push sexuality down like a beach ball in a pool—until it explodes back up.” —Richard Young“If you’re in Christ, you don’t need to be afraid of your desires. You need to redeem them.”“You don’t stop craving porn by trying harder. You stop craving it when your soul is full.”💡 BIG IDEA:Sexuality isn’t the enemy. Shame is. God created desire. The enemy corrupted it. And the gospel restores it.🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYYour urges don’t need to lead to sin. They can lead to gratitude. Instead of saying “What’s wrong with me?” when you feel desire, try:“Thank you, Lord, for making me fully alive.”Freedom starts by seeing sexuality the way God sees it.@[email protected]@[email protected]

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOTNo one has ever hated themselves into healing. Yet for so many, shame has become the default strategy for breaking free from porn.Here’s the truth: Shame doesn’t heal you. Shame doesn’t change you. Shame just makes you feel worse.In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack why shame feels powerful—but never produces lasting transformation. You’ll hear powerful (and vulnerable) stories of how shame led to deeper bondage, even when it should’ve been the final straw.And more importantly—you’ll hear what actually does lead to real, permanent change.🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARNWhy shame-based transformation always fails—even when it looks like it’s workingHow the gospel reframes your value before you ever get it “right”The difference between behavior modification and mind renewalHow to replace the question “What’s wrong with me?” with “What am I believing?”Why God’s love is the only power strong enough to lead to lasting repentance💥 QUOTABLE MOMENTS“Shame is like drinking salt water—it just makes you thirstier.”“The cross wasn’t proof that God hates sin. It’s proof that God values you.”“Your Father isn’t watching to catch you failing—He’s in the pool with you, arms outstretched.”💡 BIG IDEA:Shame leads to cycles. Kindness leads to repentance. That’s not our opinion—it’s Romans 2:4. If you want freedom, stop using the enemy’s tools. Start trusting your Father’s love.🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYShame leads to hiding.Hiding leads to habits.But truth? Truth sets you free.Use the two-step practice from this episode:Identify the lie (e.g., “I’m broken. I’m too far gone.”)Replace it with truth (e.g., “I am a beloved child of God. I’ve been set free.”)You’ll also be guided through a powerful closing prayer to help you start this shift today.@[email protected]@[email protected]