"Girl, I've been thinking"

You think you’re healing.But what if you’re just… performing it?In this episode, I’m calling out the version of “healing” that looks good on the surface like love, light, high vibes ,but quietly avoids the real work.The suppressed anger. The hidden jealousy.The parts of you you don’t want to admit are there.Because real healing isn’t about becoming better. It’s about becoming honest.Are you actually healing… or just getting better at hiding?Stay connected:Instagram@monica_cotolan@girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastFor collaborations or private inquiries:[email protected] this podcast resonates, share it with a woman who needs to hear it.Support the show

You don’t miss them.You miss what you thought it could be.That’s why you keep going back ,even when it’s over.In this episode, we talk about:•why you feel stuck after a breakup or ghosting•why closure isn’t coming•how to actually let go and move onIf you’re tired of overthinking, checking, and waiting for answers…this is for you.DM me “MOVE ON” on Instagramif you’re ready to finally break the cycle.Follow & connectInstagram (personal): @monica_cotolanPodcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastSupport the show

subtle icks that instantly kill attraction . The ick. I asked women online. They didn’t hold back.It’s always something small.And then it’s over.Follow & connectInstagram (personal): @monica_cotolanPodcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastSupport the show

What if the reason your relationships keep ending the same way… isn’t just them?In this episode, we’re talking about the patterns nobody wants to admit:falling for potential, overthinking texts, needing clarity too soon, and slowly losing yourself in someone you barely know.This one might feel like a personal attack.But it might also change your entire dating life.Follow & connectInstagram (personal): @monica_cotolanPodcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastSupport the show

Some people move on quickly after a breakup.Others barely survive the silence.In this episode I break down the pattern known as monkey-barring , when someone jumps from one relationship straight into another without ever sitting in the space between.And why it can feel so personal when it happens to you.Through a story from my own 7-year relationship, I explore the pattern of people who are always “in love,” the panic that can show up after a breakup, and what it really means when someone replaces connection with relief.This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered:Did they actually move on…or were they just afraid to be alone?Follow & connectInstagram (personal): @monica_cotolanPodcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastSupport the show

Being replaced can make you question your entire worth.One moment you’re part of someone’s life … and the next it feels like you’ve been swapped out like you never mattered. And suddenly the question appears:“Was I just… replaceable?”In this episode, we explore why being replaced hurts so deeply and the psychological trap our mind falls into after rejection. Because the most painful part is often not what happened … but the meaning we attach to it.We talk about:• why being replaced triggers humiliation and self-doubt• the dangerous story your brain tells after someone moves on fast• why some people replace instead of repair• how to stop turning someone else’s behavior into your identity• and the reframe that helps you stop feeling disposableBeing replaced doesn’t mean you weren’t special.Sometimes it simply means you were in a place where special things weren’t handled carefully.If you’ve ever felt like someone moved on too fast ,this episode is for you.You weren’t replaced. You were misplaced.Stay connected:Instagram@monica_cotolan@girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastFor collaborations or private inquiries:[email protected] this podcast resonates, share it with a woman who needs to hear it.Support the show

Have you ever felt like you had to be a certain version of yourself to be loved?In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to perform in relationships , to overgive, overexplain, overachieve just to feel secure. Where that pattern starts, how it shows up quietly, and what it takes to stop tying your worth to how well you’re received.If you’ve ever felt exhausted from trying to be “enough,” this one is for you.Stay connected:Instagram@monica_cotolan@girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastFor collaborations or private inquiries:[email protected] this podcast resonates, share it with a woman who needs to hear it.Support the show

At some point, growth stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… quieter.In this episode, we talk about what happens after you become self-aware when you can’t unsee patterns, can’t romanticize chaos anymore, and can’t go back to the version of you that felt easier to be.We get into the strange loneliness that comes with emotional clarity, wanting things you know aren’t good for you, and why relationships , and even your personality start to change once you understand yourself more deeply.This is about the in-between phase:not who you used to be, but not fully comfortable with who you’re becoming either.If you’ve ever thought“I know better… so why do I still feel this?”this episode is for you.Welcome to girl, I’ve been thinking.Follow & connectInstagram (personal): @monica_cotolanPodcast Instagram: @girl_ive_been_thinking_podcastTopics we touch on• self-awareness & identity shifts• outgrowing old versions of yourself• emotional patterns in relationships• why growth can feel lonely• the difference between reacting and choosing• overthinking, attachment & claritySupport the show

What if the way people react to you… isn’t really about you?In this raw and reflective episode, I invite you into the truth behind your light:You are a mirror.Some will feel seen in your presence—and love you for it.Others will be triggered, afraid, even distant. And that has nothing to do with your worth.We explore:Why your light activates both love and resistance in othersThe difference between projection and reflectionHow to stay rooted when your presence makes others uncomfortableThe sacred power of being a mirror—and how to protect your peace while holding itThis is your reminder:You’re not too much.You’re just a clear reflection.And you don’t need to dim your light to keep others comfortable. If this episode stirred something in you… if your soul whispered “this is me”…You’re not here to keep shrinking. You’re here to heal and expand.My 1:1 coaching is for the ones ready to meet themselves fully, rewrite old patterns, and stand in their light …. unapologetically.First 2 sessions are free so we can see if we match 💌 DM me the word “authenticity” on Instagram [@monica_cotolan   or  girlivebeenthinkingpodcast ] to begin your journey. mor📩 SEND me an email at [email protected] you’re ready, I’ll be here. 🤍Support the show

Are you tired of second-guessing your reality? Still picking up the pieces after a toxic relationship? This episode is your lifeline. Dive deep into the hidden world of narcissistic abuse as we expose the manipulative tactics—gaslighting, love-bombing, and emotional sabotage—that keep survivors trapped.  ✔️ Decode the narcissist’s playbook (you’re NOT crazy).  ✔️ Share jaw-dropping survivor stories of escape and empowerment.  ✔️ Reveal actionable steps to break free, heal your self-worth, and THRIVE.  Whether you’re still in the chaos, freshly out, or rebuilding—this is your roadmap to turning pain into purpose. Hit play, and let’s start your glow up. Subscribe now and reclaim the life they tried to steal. Follow me and send me a message on instagram@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcastI love you and I wish you the best onto your healing journey ✨Support the show

Ever feel like your emotions are a tangled mess, steering you off course? In this soul-stirring episode, we dive deep into the truth your heart already knows: Your emotions are not obstacles…they’re your most powerful guides. Join us as we unpack how fear, joy, anger, and even grief can act as signals, pointing you toward authenticity, boundaries, and purpose.  What You’ll Learn:  - How to decode emotional “static” vs. your inner wisdom.  - Practical tools to honor feelings without being ruled by them.  - How to Un-fu*k yourself - Why suppressing emotions is like ignoring a GPS it only gets you lost.  Perfect for overthinkers, empaths, and anyone ready to trade chaos for clarity. Press play and let your feelings flow .Support the show

🌟 Boost Your Self-Confidence! 🌟 In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence. Join us as we share personal stories, expert tips, and actionable strategies to help you unleash your inner powerhouse! 💪✨ Whether you're looking to ace that job interview or tackle a new challenge, this episode is packed with inspiration and practical advice. Don’t miss out on reclaiming your confidence! 🎧❤️ #Podcast #SelfConfidence #Inspiration Tune in now on Spotify! 🎶Support the show

In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the realms of self-awareness and emotional balance. Join us as we explore the integration of feminine and masculine energies, discussing how these vital aspects shape our identities and relationships. Let me know what are your thoughts on this episode and what you resonate with the most •We’ll reflect on personal journeys, sharing insights on:- The transformative power of embracing feminine energy- Practical advice for men seeking to harmonize both energies within themselves- The nuances of self-relationship and how it influences our everyday lives- Strategies for navigating those tough days when everything feels overwhelming- Big fears that hold us back and the lessons we've learned about love and happinessWe’ll also confront our most toxic traits with honesty and vulnerability, reminding ourselves that true growth often begins when we create a safe space for change. Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Marius IG : @coachmariuskhttps://www.instagram.com/monica_cotolan?igsh=MW9xdmJpczVoaDVmNg%3D%3D&utm_source=qrMuch love my dear soulsSupport the show

It’s not uncommon to fall into a rut. Life can be monotonous. Our routines are often the same day-to-day. And if you are out of alignment maybe you don’t live the life that you want and that makes it hard to enjoy it .It’s hard to feel excited about life when it feels like we are running on a treadmill. It’s time for some changes !Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .Follow me on my instagram.https://www.instagram.com/monica_cotolan?igsh=MW9xdmJpczVoaDVmNg%3D%3D&utm_source=qr or at  @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . ❤️Support the show

Understand that life has unpredictable plans in store for everyone. You can’t steer it in any direction or control it. So, never worry about factors out of your influence. Focus on being in flow, and enjoy every moment. Also, relinquishing control and accepting whatever result comes your way will help you become more content in life.and I have 6 actionable steps to help you get there !✨Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

In order to break the cycle of toxic behavior, it is crucial to first identify and recognize common toxic traits. These traits can manifest in various ways and have a significant impact on our relationships, personal growth, and overall well-being. Here we are talking about some common toxic traits to be aware of and a way to break the cycle of toxicity in ourselves and how to recognise it in others as well . Stay tuned ✨Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Dark feminine energy is often a misunderstood concept because we tend to think of darkness assomething negative. Life is full of contrasts and complexities, and much of our living experience comes from the balance between two opposing forces.We can't have light without darkness, and vice versa. This concept of the duality of the universe applies to many areas of life, from the physical to the spiritual.But what is this dark feminine energy exactly, and how can we tap into it for our own? Stay tuned and find out ❤️Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know . @monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Would you like to know the secrets of how to be a high value woman, and what high value woman traits are?And how to be a high value woman in dating?You’ve come to the right place. I will also share some of the traits that a high value man is looking for in a woman.I don’t support the idea that we should be a certain way that men expect,but I think it is really important to know those things If you want to date a high value man,and I do see and hear a lot of curiosity  from womens regarding this as well . Press play and let’s get real !Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know . @monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2Support the show

When we think of progress, we often think of moving forward, making improvements, and achieving success. However, defining progression can be challenging as it means different things to different people. Progression can refer to personal growth, societal advancement, or technological innovation. Regardless of the context, progression is about making positive changes and moving forward towards a better future. And I created 9 simple strategies that will work for you into making sure you will be moving towards progress in your field. Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know . @monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

You might feel stuck on your journey to becoming emotionally mature — or have no idea where you are in your growth. But that doesn't mean you can’t succeed in self-improvement. It simply means you need to learn how to improve your emotional maturity, and we're here to help you do that.In a fun way ? In a crazy way ? Yes ,but trust me it is worth it ! And as a premiere,my best friend Maria Monnerat is live with us today so stay tuned !❤️Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know . @monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast or my bestie @monneratdudaMuch love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

The 4 Attachment Styles & Why a Toxic Attachment Style can Affect your Relationships Attachment types develop early in life and often remain stable over time. However, this does not mean that they cannot be changed into more secure forms of attachment–it just means that you may need to develop self-awareness through understanding and resolving attachment issues . The first step of this process is to learn how insecure attachment develops and influences thoughts and actions within the important relationships in our lives.FREE  ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZZ ⬇️⬇️⬇️https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_medium=cpc-lead&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAg9urBhB_EiwAgw88mQAHT7cKeHvFFnzSbpB8rA1DeYhvIHPezZRnILNfkOV_FOutrUnECxoCN6MQAvD_BwE&h_ad_id=677347860169&utm_term=&utm_content=attachment%20style%20test&gc_id=20672152309&utm_source=google-search&utm_campaign=20672152309 Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Making decisions and taking risks has always been a challenge for everyone and it s not easy to actually do it ,especially when it’s about a big decision that brings a lot of risks.And in the episode we will figure out why is it hard to make decisions and take risks,how it impacts us and our future. And as a bonus I will give you 3 habit methods to help you improve your decision making skills and a couple of tips that will help you get there 🤍Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Being intentional is very important when you want to manifest the life that you desire ,because you get to move completely in the direction that you wish .Now for more tips into how to shift with intention stay tuned.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .Or my email adress at [email protected] :@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

There is this proverb that I love and it sounds like this „Let go or be dragged.” It reminds me that holding on to what does not contribute to my overall well-being and expansion will eventually cause me even more pain than acknowledging the truth of the situation, facing my fear, and taking action. And now it is time for you to upgrade your perception as well ,so let’s dive into the episode.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

The pressure that’s being thrown upon our generation into becoming someone and living life in a certain way had become an issue for our development.How often do we realize, the people whom we look at for mirroring their actions, styles, trends, behavior may also be trying to conform to something they think is cool or out of societal pressure or peer pressure. Let’s dive into the subject together!Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed my dear girlies and guys especially that I am trying to build the YouTube channel ,thank you!🫶🏻https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

When you think about the word vulnerability,you probably think it s just about weaknesses which is not entirely true .Yea sure being vulnerable makes you potentially weak in front of someone who might use your vulnerability against you either to optain what they want and manipulate you when it’s convenient for them either to feel more powerful in front of you and I had been in multiple cases in the situation in my life where people I expected the less would turn my vulnerabilities against me . But also times where I managed to create absolutely sincere connections. So let’s dive deep into this special episode today together!Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed my dear girlies and guys especially that I am trying to build the YouTube channel ,thank you!🫶🏻https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Have you wondered if it happens to you to be keep wanting love and commitment but somehow you are keep attracting guys or girls that don’t?Well you gotta consider and I know it’s a pill that’s hard to swallow that maybe it’s because on a deeper level you are the one who is not ready to commit .And I am not saying this in a way of judging you like no way this podcast it’s all about helping you grow but sometimes we need a kick in the ass you know ? So let me give you that pep talk. Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

If someone consistently makes you feel emotionally drained, anxious, fearful, or doubtful of your own needs, thoughts, and feelings, you may be dealing with emotional manipulation. Follow your gut instinct when it comes to recognizing what is occurring. Sometimes, people may manipulate others unconsciously, without being fully aware of what they're doing, while others may actively work on strengthening their manipulation tactics. Stay tuned and find out all that you need to knowLet´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

I know that sometimes it’s really hard to make peace with the fact that we are changing and revaluating our life’s it’s hard and scary . And because it is we tend to distract ourselves and fall into a loop of distractions feeling like we are actually getting further and further away from our true selves.Either we feel like we are stuck in our career and life or even in romantic relationships that don’t seem to bring out our authenticity anymore. Or simply seeking for external attention or situationships ,even if deep down we know that’s not what we need.these are signs when it’s the time for you to put the focus back on you and stop forcing whatever no longer align with yourself and keep feeding yourself distraction’s because you cannot accept what lies in front of you.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

It is true that we want to impress, we want to be liked, we want to be respected by people around us yet sometimes it backfires on us. Because we put in a lot of attempts to make people feel certain ways about us, the mind orchestrated some expectations about this that only give us disappointment at the end of the day since not everyone is made to like you. It is true that the feeling of being disliked by people brings out the insecurities that make you question your self-worth. This really needs to stop right here, pleasing people doesn't make them like nor stay with you because if you try to put it in your shoe, you don't like everyone either!Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

I think it’s really helpful to know what your love language is so that you have an understanding of what you need and how you best receive love.It can help you better understand when you’re feeling unfulfilled, frustrated, or let down or disappointed by your partner,or your family and even friends .Understanding your love language (and your partner’s) can also help solve those relationship problems by allowing you to determine what you both need to feel fulfilled or find better resolutions. At the end of this episode I’m gonna make sure that you will know all the love languages and what they mean . I want you to make it a priority that by the end of this week you know everyone’s that you care or love own love language.And I will leave a love language test link right here for you ❤️https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-languageLet´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Please don t forget to hit the subscribe button and leave me a 5 star review .Lovee you Any support for the podcast is welcomed my dear friends ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

The process of transformation is rarely a perfect, linear path that we walk though with grace and ease. Rather we are often thrown in to a messy process of change, re-organisation and temporary chaos.And we feel sad, we feel anger,confussion. If we don’t take a broader perspective to see the beautiful and perfect, divine process that is unfolding, we can easily feel like our life is falling apart.But if we can understand that we are in a process of transformation, and embrace the learnings that are present for us, we can glide through it with so much more peace and ease.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Please don t forget to hit the subscribe button and leave me a 5 star review .Lovee you Any support for the podcast is welcomed my dear friends ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

In this episode I am about to shed some light and to explain what the dark side means and also I will teach you how to start doing shadow work if you do not know yet how to do it.If you’re not doing shadow work ,what are you doing ?Playing out the same old script but with a different cast of characters?And then feeling frustrated or surprised when the plot repeats itself?Judging,analysing,controlling or feeling trapped by your “ self-sabotaging “ patterns instead of letting yourself be curious and enjoy what they’re bringing you?Saying yes to the same situations while believing things will turn out differently next time ? And then Being disappointed when they don’t right? Cause we do this ! I did this tooMaking it about the other person’s wounds or immaturity as the cause of conflict? Without considering the role you played in  creating it too ?  Well ,today all that might change cause if you are doing what I just said then this episode is for you .Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed my dear souls ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Sometimes when you’ve hurt long enough, you may get used to the emotional pain. Maybe it feels safe and familiar. Maybe you’ve internalized it as part of your identity. Perhaps staying angry at that person is comfortable because you can keep a distance.Growing pains can be real. Getting away from the things you’ve felt and thought about for a long time may be uncomfortable. But healing, joy, and peace of mind may be on the other side of letting go.So therefore the final stage of healing could be you telling them to fu*k  off .Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Social media speeds up communication, but is it s less personal.The biggest challange nowadays it s to build trust.Meeting the man or woman of your dreams has never been easier, or so you would think. In the modern age of online dating, we have more choice than ever before, thanks to the advance in technology over recent years. This includes the invention and rise of social media and the thousands of online dating apps out there now. However, more choice can cause confusion and it can also be overwhelming. Some romantic traditions still remain popular today, but the dating culture has changed significantly over the past two decades.One of the greatest reasons for this change has been the invention of social media. Social media provides singletons with access to thousands of other single people, with just a few clicks of a mouse or a few swipes of your index finger.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

We're really bad at NOT forcing things in life.We force relationships that don't deserve more of our time or energy.We force jobs that can't possibly offer us the fulfillment we deserve.We force friendships that are anything but reciprocal.We force interests,timelines and pressure on  ourselves that do not align with what OUR true talents, abilities and timelines actually are .I'm sure you've forced something in your life just like I have....Hop onto the episode and hear and visualize what I am about to say to you.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls . Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

Although your trauma is techinically ´´ in the past ´´traumatizing experiences in childhood can't be laid to rest until the ways they live on your current experiences ,symptoms, and relationships are deeply understood.We tend to have a compulsion on repeat ,even if we try not to.That´s why you might find yourself in relationships that remind you of those that traumatized you in the past.There are many different forms your symptoms or behaviors might take.Again ,these are very individual to you.The important thing is the past is never just the past .Until you've had worked out exactly how the roots of your past are alive in the present ,your childhood trauma can remain ´´unresolved ´´.Let´s connect on my socials! If you liked this episode and have any questions or anything that you'd like to tell me , dm me and let me know .@monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast Much love my dear souls .Support the show

Do you ever feel as if you're wearing a mask? Perhaps you think that you have to act a certain way around your boss, or say certain things to your colleagues, so that you'll be accepted. Instead of being yourself, you're playing a role to fit in, or to impress others.Most of us have gone through times like this. Instead of behaving in a genuine way, we tell people what we think they want to hear, and act in ways that go against our true nature. In short, we're living inauthentically.Living and working this way is tiring, dispiriting, and confining. It can also hold us back from reaching our true potential. The opposite of this is to live and work authentically. When we give ourselves permission to be ourselves, we can live free from others' ideas and expectations, and we can choose our own course in life.So let s dive into this episode.If you love this episode, dm me on instagram at @monica_cotolan or @totallymyselfpodcast and share it with a friend .Much love   Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

What do you think about yourself? We tend to get so distracted with the ideal that our society has created about how we should be that we forget to actually be ourselves and ask our own minds and hearts if we like who we are, if we actually like who we are deep down and if we do not to just put in the work to get to know who we are and not let our surroundings define our personality ,our persona.Let s get into this topic together .Feel free to follow and dm me at @monica_cotolan and stay updated.Love you. Any support for the podcast is welcomed guys ,thank you!https://www.buzzsprout.com/2212099/supportSupport the show

This isn’t a typical podcast introduction.Girl, I’ve Been Thinking is a space for women who are done performing healing and ready to be honest about their patterns, their relationships, and the life they keep postponing.This episode explains what this podcast is and what it’s not.If you’re new, start here.Support the show