Her Advantage Collective

What if the only thing standing between you and the life you actually want is you? In this episode we sit down with Erann Lincoln — director-level executive in the aerospace and aviation industry, mother of two, wife to one, and someone who knew exactly what she wanted and spent years talking herself out of it anyway.From a breaking point during the pandemic that brought her to her knees, to a deliberate decision to start saying yes, Erann's story is equal parts honest, funny, and deeply relatable. She talks about the structural changes she made to actually make it work, the investments she made in herself that changed everything, and the moment she looked in the mirror and made a decision that every woman in this audience needs to hear.If you have ever felt like you have more to give, this one is for you.In this conversation we talk about:Why saying yes is a decision, not a feeling — and why no one can make it for youThe moment during the pandemic that broke everything open and what she did nextThe structural changes that actually made her career possible — and why she doesn't apologize for any of themWhat she said to herself the day she decided she was done feeling guilty for being ambitiousWhy investing in yourself is not taking from your family — it's the whole point

What do you do when life asks you to keep going after losing the people who made it make sense? Wendi Marshall has walked through every mother's worst fear, the loss of her daughter Lauren at 23, and then years later the sudden loss of her husband of 42 years. She didn't just survive. She built a nonprofit, raised hundreds of thousands of dollars in Lauren's name, showed up for her grandkids, and somewhere along the way learned to flirt with the world again.This episode is for anyone who has ever walked through loss and couldn't find the words, and for anyone who has ever loved someone in pain and didn't know how to move toward them without being afraid of breaking them.In this conversation we talk about:Why grief doesn't end and why that's actually okayThe conscious choice to keep moving when staying in bed is so much easierHow to show up for someone who is grieving (hint: just do something specific)What it means to hold happiness and heartbreak at the same timeWhy Wendi is done with the word "widow" and what she's calling this season insteadWant to connect with Wendi or share how this episode resonated with you? Head to The Advantage Writes, our Substack community. It's the best place to reach us, stay in the conversation, and go deeper between episodes. We read everything.Her Advantage Collective. Wisdom forged in the hardest seasons of life.

Are you feeling the "squeeze" of the sandwich generation? This week, Katie and Ms. K sit down with former educator and self-described "recovering fixer" Kim Brakmann for a conversation full of wisdom, laughter, and hard-won grace.Kim Brakmann has always been the one people call. The teacher. The organizer. The fixer. But caring for aging parents has a way of humbling even the most capable among us, and Kim's journey from trying to cure the people she loves to simply being present with them is one every woman in this season needs to hear.In this episode, we dive into:The Perfectionism Trap — Why excellence and perfection are not the same thing, and why one is rooted in prideThe Sibling Renaissance — How the caregiving season can bring siblings back together for a "team maiden name" comebackPractical Midlife Hacks — Lightweight wheelchairs, bed modifications, baby monitors, and the caregiving tools nobody tells you aboutThe Power of Margin — Why saying no to the church nursery might be the yes your soul (and your neighbors) actually needWhether you're deep in the caregiving trenches or it feels like a million years away, Kim's wisdom on leading with love — and seeing the people in your life as people to love, not problems to fix — will stay with you long after this episode ends.

Have you ever hit a wall where your old productivity hacks just... stopped working? Where you felt like you were suddenly struggling to keep up, despite years of being the high-achiever who had it all together?This week on Her Advantage, Katie and Ms. K sit down with instructional designer and systems expert Kristen Vega Glass. Kristen shares the vulnerable moment her internal systems hit a breaking point and the life-changing ADHD diagnosis that followed. It turns out, her struggle wasn't a character flaw—it was a direct result of biological chemistry.In this episode, we dive into:The "Vocal Stim" Revelation: How a casual cubicle moment led to a formal ADHD diagnosis at age 34.The Estrogen Connection: Why hormonal shifts (like postpartum and menopause) can suddenly "unmask" ADHD symptoms that were previously managed or hidden.Calculated Spontaneity: Kristen’s brilliant framework for building systems that allow a neurodivergent brain to thrive without the burnout.Naming the Narrative: How separating her identity from her diagnosis allowed her to trade shame for high-level strategy.If you’re tired of "white-knuckling" your way through brain fog and are ready to start designing a life that works with your biology instead of against it, this episode is your masterclass.Stop apologizing for your wiring. Start leveraging it.

​​"I guess I’ll just try this... and then it ended up being my life." Ever felt like you were coasting on a series of "happy accidents" until life suddenly demanded you get intentional? This week we are sitting down with our very first guest, Chandra Reilly.Chandra spent 25 years in the "physical sport" of high-stakes construction. She was the 9%—one of the only women in the room, riding high on professional momentum, and building a massive professional identity.But when the "Icarus Moment" hit in 2024 and that chapter ended abruptly, she had to decide: chase another title, or finally design a life that fits? We’re getting real about the "gut punch" of a career ending, the weird grief of losing an identity you didn't know you were clinging to, and why Chandra ultimately chose family and freedom in Seattle over another high-rise project. Now, she’s taking all that logic and grit to build her own empire, Travel As You Like It.If you’ve been feeling that midlife rumbling for a change, this conversation is your blueprint for the pivot.In this episode, we’re chatting about:The 9% Reality: The grit required to be the only woman in the executive pipeline (and the 0% metric at the top).2020 as a Reset: Why the pandemic wasn't just a "pause," but a total trauma-informed shift in our priorities.The Icarus Moment: Confronting the stigma of being fired and realizing it’s actually the fastest way to get free.The Power of AND: How to be sad about the door that closed while being obsessed with the one you’re opening.Travel Design: Why 25 years of construction logic makes Chandra the secret weapon for your next soul-filling vacation.Let Chandra Plan Your Next Vacation:Give your 'planning brain' a vacation before your actual vacation. Visit TravelAsYouLikeIt to connect with Chandra. Whether it's a family takeover or a solo reset, she’ll custom-tailor an experience that hits different. Just head to the site, hit the contact form, and let the expert take the wheel!

Are you standing at a crossroads, and you feel the rumbling for change in your life,? Maybe you have a successful career and you are thinking"I just don't want to play this game anymore"? Or you are wondering what the next chapter holds. You aren’t alone.In this episode, we tackling "The Great Breakup." Kristin and Katie dive deep into why so many midlife women are trading C-Suite titles for passion projects and why the data supports this massive shift.We discuss:The "Validation Gap": struggling to identify as a writer/creator without the corporate paycheck.Why the drop in estrogen and oxytocin (the people-pleasing hormones) is actually your superpower.Kristin’s hilarious journey from P90X "sweat trauma" to fitness instructor.Why this isn't a midlife crisis—it's a midlife evolution.If you are in the messy middle of a transition, this episode is your mirror. You aren't quitting; you’re just getting started.

Welcome to the launch of Her Advantage Collective! We’ve dropped the "AI" from our name to broaden our horizons, but we are keeping the Advantage.In this Season Premiere, Katie and Miss K tackle a topic that haunts high-achieving women everywhere: The pressure to be perfect. Using the Proverbs 31 woman as our case study, we dig into why aspirational figures often feel like a burden rather than an inspiration in our 20s and 30s.But here is the secret of the 40s: We stop reading the "ideal woman" as a Tuesday to-do list, and start seeing her as a vision board for a life built slowly over time.In this episode, we cover:The Rebrand: Why we pivoted from Her AI Advantage to Her Advantage Collective.The Biology of Comparison: Why women are hardwired to "tend and befriend" (and why social media breaks this mechanism).The "Postcard" Metaphor: Why you need to view success as a destination you are traveling toward, not a standard you have to meet by 5:00 PM today.Soul SOPs: How to create Standard Operating Procedures for your life that prioritize rest and Sabbath.Notable Quotes:"Stop trying to be the Proverbs 31 woman on your own strength. It’s not a checklist; it’s a postcard from the future.""I really do think this is the best time of life. I enjoy the collagen in my face, but the feeling of centeredness in my 40s is different than I’ve ever felt before."Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to drop the baggage of perfectionism today!

Are you actually productive, or just "recovering-multitasker" busy? This week, Katie and Ms. K dive into the "Productivity Propaganda" that keeps midlife women running on empty.From the heartbreaking moment Katie realized her daughter saw her as an "octopus" to the neurological shifts of perimenopause, we explore how to move from frantic hustle to a "Hustle and Float" rhythm.Plus, we break down the three buckets you need to categorize your week: Busy, Productive, and Restorative. Learn how to use AI to protect your margin so you’re available for the moments that actually matter—like that rare 10% window when your tween actually wants to talk.Mentioned in this Episode:📖 Book: Hustle and Float by Rahaf Harfoush🎧 Podcast: Adam Grant's WorkLife with Rahaf Harfoush

STOP FIGHTING YOUR BIOLOGY!You've heard of Fight or Flight, but those rules were mostly based on research done on men. Women are wired differently—and this changes everything about how we handle stress and learning.The Female Instinct: Tend and BefriendTEND: Soothe and care for the young (or yourself).BEFRIEND: Gather, group up, and seek support.When we get stressed, our bodies chemically scream for us to find a friend!Katie and Miss K explore the profound science behind this instinct, citing Dr. Shelly Taylor's "Tending Instinct" and a powerful story of women who met every Wednesday for 44 years—surviving life's biggest challenges through connection.Here’s the takeaway: Friendship and community aren't just hobbies; they are a strategic advantage and a necessary survival tool.Resource Links: Marriages, Kids, Careers: For 44 Years, They’ve Been Talking It OutBerne Brown's Take on The Armor That's Doesn't Serve Us AnymoreIf you want to stop learning tech alone and harness the biological power of "Tend and Befriend" for mastering AI, join the Her AI Skool community today.

Does opening LinkedIn make you feel like you’re already behind? Do you feel like everyone else became an AI expert overnight while you’re still trying to figure out which button to press?You are not behind. You are just stuck in the "AI Frenzy."In this episode, Katie and Miss K break down the anxiety-inducing noise created by headlines and "bros in tank tops" selling get-rich-quick schemes. We explain why "should" is a dirty word in your learning journey and reveal the hidden reason why learning these tools feels so cognitively heavy.We cover:The "Two Skills" Trap: Why struggling with AI isn't your fault—you're likely trying to learn coding logic and a new interface at the same time.The "Cheating" Myth: Why women feel guilty using AI to save time (and why we need to treat it like the office coffee maker).Silence the Noise: How to spot a fake "AI Expert" and why you need to ignore the hype to find the tools that actually help you.Real Life Use Cases: From editing newsletters to organizing medical records for aging parents.If you are ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and start finding your focus, this episode is the permission slip you’ve been waiting for.Links & Resources:Join the conversation in the Her AI Advantage community.

Katie and Miss K break down the real impact of AI at work and how women can approach it with confidence instead of perfection. A practical, honest look at the mindset and tools that matter most right now.The Resources you need:                                                          Substack: AI: The T2 Helper You Need, Not the T1  Hunter You Fear Above-the-Line graphic: Berne Brown's Genius Framework 

When AI shows up in your kid’s world, what do you actually do?This week, Katie (our optimistic AI newbie) and Ms. K (our wise, undercover industry insider) break down the surprisingly complicated world of kids, tweens, and AI—without panic, jargon, or “tech bro” energy.We get into:– Why tweens aren’t using AI nearly as much as people think– Whether AI “companions” are harmless… or a hard nope– How to talk to your kids before they stumble into something weird– The framework that helps kids come to you without fear or shame– Why modeling healthy AI use as parents might matter more than we realize– And what future jobs might look like when our kids manage humans and agentsIf you’ve ever wondered, “How do I prepare my kids for this world without freaking out?” — this is your episode.👉 Join the Her AI Skool community to learn alongside real women, get support, and become the AI-confident woman everyone comes to for help.

Katie and Miss K talk about what AI means for kids and young adults today—from school to job hunting to the new, non-traditional paths ahead. A grounded, hopeful guide for parents, caregivers, and anyone supporting the next generation in an AI-shaped world.AI can feel overwhelming—community makes it easier.Join the Her AI Skool group to deepen your learning: Her AI Advantage