HER Dating & Relationship Secrets

Barry shares one quick question that can turn around any negative situation in your life! Seriously! Give it a try — it works for dating, relationships, and all your life’s challenges.

Today, Barry covers how we learn about boundaries, the differences between healthy and unhealthy boundaries, what boundaries really do for you and relationships, and how to practice having healthier boundaries today! If you want healthy boundaries, listen! to this!

The One Most Important Thing You Need To Know About Men

Feeling understood is a critical human need, fostering a sense of connection and significance. Barry reviews the ways we can feel understood with someone who ‘gets me’. He covers examples of meeting and dating people, and long term relationships. He lists some common obstacles and solutions to feeling understood by a partner.

Releasing Insecurity

In “Your Relationship With Yourself (Self-Connection)” Barry describes how our restless mind can disconnect us from ourself through distraction, busy-ness, racing thoughts, a story of loneliness, people pleasing and attending to others’ needs instead of our own. He shares how to create a strong foundation for creating a healthy, empowered relationship by connecting deeply with ourself first!

Barry explains why “Letting Someone In” can be difficult. He explains the attachment style behind this and what you can begin to do to let someone into your heart without fear of being hurt.

At a recent talk Barry was asked whether there is really such a thing as a healthy relationship. “Aren’t all relationships co-dependent?”, the audience member asked. In this episode Barry explains why that’s not the case - and the difference between codependency and healthy interdependence.

Barry describes how our EXPECTATION of happiness in dating and relationships can actually get in the way of BEING happy. He shares an exercise to reveal expectations and beliefs, and how to trace the origin of our needs through expressing them and being happy ourself first. That’s how we attract, create and maintain a healthy, empowered relationship!

Barry explains The Importance of Human Touch, then goes through the various types of touch that are healthy and needed. He suggests how to bring more loving, healthy, nurturing touch into our lives today!

Barry explains how Embracing Imperfection improves dating and relationships and gives one simple action to take today to embrace imperfection!

Barry explains “How To Know You’re Ready”; how to know you’re ready for a relationship again, how to know you’re ready to fully commit or marry, how to know if you’re ready to end or leave a relationship. He shares the two questions to ask yourself to find out if you are ready, and how to prepare so you are ready for your next stage in your dating or relationship journey.

You have to like someone to love them fully — in this episode Barry shares the “Flower Watering” Technique to help create a feeling of affinity, closeness, and often chemistry too. It’s an easy way to create better connection with people you are meeting, dating or in a relationship with. It also works to create rapport with co workers, family and friends.

Barry describes how we can become “Overworked & Underloved”. He explains where it starts in our early life, how it develops and looks in relationships, and gives solutions for how to fix it and get the love you really deserve without having to do everything for everybody.

Learning to Say “No”

“I’m Sick Of Working On Myself!” The Gift of Being Fed The F Up

Why Men Say One Thing But Do Another (Actions vs Words)

" I know... BUT" is the most destructive thing you can think and say -- in this episode I explain why and how to get out of your 'BUT'.

How To Get A Man With Clear Goal-Setting

Kissing! The Deeper Language of Lips (And Sometimes Tongues!) 🫦 👩🏽‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻

How Yo Activate Your Most Accurate "Picker"!

A Personal Share (Why I Do This & My Hope For You)

You Can't Live In The Past & Fall In Love In The Present

The Ultimate First Date Primer!

Are You Ready For 'The One'? Let’s find out!

In this 5 minute episode we’ll identify YOUR biggest unmet need Now!

Want to get off the apps? Get outside! Here’s how and why!

In this episode, we discuss understanding men’s behavior, and most importantly understanding your own.

How To Communicate With Men (Indirect & Direct Communication)(* PLEASE NOTE: my recording platform continues to add a lisp effect. Working to get that fixed, but this content was too important for you to not hear it, so here it is!)

The importance of A Day Off of Dating & Relating

Are You Lonesome Tonight? Dealing with Loneliness, Separation and Disconnection

Whether you’re single and want kids, a single parent, or have kids and are in a relationship, your fears around kids can be big obstacle to dating and relationships. In this episode address the types of fears that can arise and what to do about them.

How Are You Doing? (Deep Self-Caring) Take this moment for yourself.

Do You Know Who You Are In Relationships?

Being ALL Of Yourself To Attract The RIGHT Man

A Quick Dating-Motivation

It’s not what you think, it’s who you love.

Gratitude is more important to your dating than you know. Listen in and learn how to use this powerful tool to unblock your love life and not give your power away!

What's REALLY Holding You Back From Finding The Right Man

Creating Appreciation & Acknowledgement, a critical building block for success if you want to find the right partner for a loving, lasting relationship.

You ARE Worthy Of Love (A Healing, Empowering Affirmation for Dating & Relationships)

Avoid THIS Type Of Guy (A ‘Man-Type’ Training). In this episode, I will teach you due to discern between a healthy type of ambitious and focused man who may come across as borderline alpha, and a man who is narcissistic self-centered for a toxic, fake ‘alpha’.

How to make the most of this time of year, when attraction, interest and intrigue are in the air! In this episode I share: the key difference between Spring Fever and Fall Cuffing seasons, the two main ways to lean into the opportunities of this dating (or mating) season and which one leads to a good man, and how to maximize your dating opportunities this spring! Enjoy!

When You Don't Feel Like Going Out (Or Don't Know Where To Go)

In this episode, we combine a social psychology theory around communal versus exchange relating style with attachment theory style to give you a sense of what kind of approach you take in relationships, and to assess those around you.

Your Body Matters (But Not How You'd Think!) in this episode, we cover not only body appearance and physical attraction, but the confidence that comes from taking good care of our body, how trauma and safety issues can get trapped in our body, and how the state of our body affects our confidence in dating relationships, and the workplace!

In this episode I help you connect the dots so you can clearly understand what’s REALLY getting in the way of you having the right man and a loving relationship! Get ready! This one’s going to open your eyes and give you a powerful nee insight on your dating life!

In this episode I share my thoughts in Dating Shows. Which are good, which are bad and why. Which ones are healthy for you to watch, and current trends in dating shows! People are always asking me what I think of these shows. Today, I answer!

The 6 Pleasures are a quick exercise to Create Desire, Attraction & Connection in your life today.

I help people find love, but there was a time when I didn’t feel loved. In this episode, I share short but powerful story of my most painful lonely moment in life. I also share what changed it, how I recovered from it, and found love. It’s a short vulnerable personal share that gives you hope and a path to feeling loved and knowing you matter.