Human School

Real healing for real people. Onsite offers personal growth workshops and intensive therapeutic experiences just outside Nashville and San Diego. Learn more at experienceonsite.com.Have you ever stood in the middle of a life that looks great on paper and still felt like you were failing the people right in front of you?What if being hard on yourself isn't humility?  It's just the long way around to never believing you're enough? And what happens when the same obsessive drive that makes you world-class at your craft is the exact thing that makes it hard to just sit down and watch your kid eat cereal slowly? Miles sits down with his longtime friend for one of the most honest and wide-open episodes yet. Thomas Rhett brings all of himself — the songwriter who goes all in on everything he loves, the dad of five learning to trade productivity for presence, and the man doing the real work to make sure who his family experiences every day is the same person the world admires from a distance. This one is full of laughter, hard-won wisdom, and the kind of honesty that only happens between two people who genuinely trust each other. This conversation is about the guy who flips on the bedroom lights at 6:30 AM, trying to get five kids out the door, and wonders on the drive home if he loved them well at all that morning. The man who told a new friend upfront, "I'm not a good friend" — and actually believed it. The songwriter who can make strangers cry but struggles to list three ways he was showing up for his own kids. Miles and Thomas Rhett go deep into what it actually looks like to chase congruence, to be as present and real inside your home as you are when the world is watching. Thomas Rhett shares what his first trip to Onsite taught him about letting go, how a simple question from his counselor cracked something open about the way he sees himself as a father, why he's writing his most intentional album yet, and what he hopes his kids say about him long after the number ones stop counting. In this conversation, you'll learn:How to Stop Measuring Your Worth by Rooms That Aren't FullHow to Ask the Question: "How Do I Know I'm a Great Father?"How to Parent Five Kids Completely Differently Without Losing Your MindHow to Shed Your Stage Persona the Moment You Walk Through Your Front DoorHow to Redefine Success So You Can Actually Sleep at NightHow to Have the Friendship You Want Instead of the One You've Labeled Yourself WithHow to Live Like You Know You're Going to Die - Ecclesiastes editionHow to Stop Fixing and Start Being Present in the MessHow to Give Yourself the Dugout Grace Every Parent Desperately NeedsHow to Use Your Obsessive Nature as a Superpower Instead of a Trap Follow Human School:YouTube - Human School PodcastInstagram - @humanschoolofficialThreads - @humanschoolofficialTikTok - @humanschoolofficial Chapters:00:00:00 – Meet Thomas Rhett Akins00:03:18 – Trucks, Gear & Going All In00:07:54 – Soundtrack of the Masters: A Career Highlight00:09:29 – Golf is a Metaphor for Life00:17:44 – Tiger Wood’s & Nick Saben’s Life Advice00:22:01 – The 6:30 AM Spiral with Five Kids00:24:17 – Wisdom from John Maxwell & Worst-Case Scenarios00:28:19 – The Question That Started This Friendship00:30:14 – What Raising Four Daughters is Teaching Him00:35:49 – The Discipline of Being Present00:41:23 – Work-Life Balance Is a Myth00:42:37 – "They Just Need to See Your Eyes"00:47:10 – What Breaks His Heart Most as a Dad00:52:07 – "How Do You Know You're a Great Father?"00:54:10 – The Coach’s Influence Still Impacting Him00:55:14 – Showing Up in Friendships 00:58:01 – The Round Table & A, B & C Friendships01:04:10 – Answering the “Great Father” Question01:20:30 – Ecclesiastes & Living Like You're Going to Die01:37:44 – Redefining What a “Hit” Actually Means01:43:32 – Onsite & The Rock in the River 01:47:52 – 36-Year-Old TR Would Tell 25-Year-Old TR01:52:49 – What He Hopes His Kids Will Remember

Stuck in the same emotional patterns? Onsite's LivingCentered Program is a five-day intensive that helps you slow down, go deeper, and do the inner work that changes things. Learn more at ⁠https://hubs.la/Q04dV_Xl0 Have you ever taught others how to communicate, but still lost it in your own kitchen? What if the best communicators in the world are still works in progress, and that's exactly the point? Jefferson Fisher is a board-certified trial attorney, NY Times bestselling author of The Next Conversation, and one of themost-followed voices on communication online. Behind the millions of views is a husband, a dad, and a fifth-generation attorney from small-town Texas still figuring it out in real time. In this conversation, Miles and Jefferson get into the real stuff — a flooded house, a morning fight, imposter syndrome, and why even the best communicators still have to earn their reps every day. Jefferson opens up about the moment being a public-facing person started changing his everyday life, why going to extremes in arguments almost never works, and the phrase his wife came up with mid-argument that changed how he sees conflict. Miles shares a raw moment from his kitchen and what happened when he finally stopped doubling down and let his wife bring the temperature down. In this conversation, you'll learn:How to Enter Hard Conversations with Something to Learn, Not Something to ProveHow the Ignition and Cooling Phases Work in Real ArgumentsWhy Affirming a Feeling First Is the Most Disarming Move You Can MakeHow Vulnerability Builds More Trust Than Any Credential on the WallHow to Stop Going to Extremes in Conflict and What to Do InsteadWhy the Best at Being Human Learn It From Living, Not StudyingHow to Tell the Difference Between a Reaction and a RepairHow Fame Makes the Very Things You Teach Harder to PracticeWhy What's Good for the Family Is Good for the BusinessHow to Let Go of the Conversation You Had Scripted in Your HeadFollow Human School:YouTube - Human School PodcastInstagram - @humanschoolofficialThreads - @humanschoolofficialTikTok - @humanschoolofficial What We Discuss:00:00:00 - Meet Jefferson Fisher00:03:54 - What law school doesn’t teach00:04:42 - How a trial attorney became a communication voice00:06:09 - Small Town Silsby, Texas00:08:14 - 800 friends to millions of strangers00:10:24 - Contrast is the unlock for building an audience00:27:17 - IBC Root Beer & A Story Told Twice 00:12:33 - His Dad Raised Him with Questions, not Answers00:19:57 - Imposter Syndrome feels different when your job istalking00:23:42 - Does he actually use any of this at home?00:29:18 - Miles's morning: A flooded house, a fight, and arepair00:38:08 - Ignition and cooling phases in action00:39:51 - The one move that stops almost any argument00:45:08 - One Take Videos: Just being Real on Camera00:47:45 - Have something to learn, not something to prove00:53:33 - Surrender as a daily practice00:57:19 - Even the experts are still chasing the tools theyteach01:01:48 - Why therapists send clients Jefferson's book01:06:41 - What Jefferson doesn't like about therapy01:14:26 - ‘Either way, it's good’— the phrase that reframed conflict01:15:39 - Embarrassment makes men double down instead of own it01:19:38 - Jefferson’s Motto on Choosing What’s Next01:21:05 - Projects in the works from Jefferson