Let's Have It with Nick Tillia

Nick riffs on how internal conflicts (or duality) are the cause for not getting what you want and how resolving said conflicts (with a good coach) will help you get what you want!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick shares 3 lessons from Rory McIlroy’s 2025 Masters Victory1. You never have to pick up pressure or weight - and if you accidentally do. You can release it even for the situation is resolved.2. You get to assign meaning and can (and must) manage or perspective! Rory’s caddie gave him the shift he needed just before the playoff.3. Chasing a feeling > outcome. And even better = generating how you want to feel > chasing a feeling!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick riffs on how subtle subconscious sabotage can take shape.He uses a recent experience with he and Courtney to demonstrate the form that sabotage can take and function for it.How to become more tolerant of experiencing good things so that your subconscious doesn’t default to sabotage when something feels new or unfamiliar.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick shares his process for making monthly decisions and how he tracks and assesses progress! Take whatever serves you and make it your own! Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick breaks down the importance of finding what works for YOU in terms of your mindset as you compete or create in life - using Rory’s reflections on his mindset after winning the “5th Major” at TPC Sawgrass. Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick watched the whole Hasan Piker interview on This Past Weekend with Theo Von and gives his thoughts - including how the left needs to engage the manosphere!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick answers a question about business stalling before it gets to the point where they could make the full transition into doing the business full time - aka leaving the safe/secure job.It’s a common pattern Nick has seen that people use as a means of self-protection.Nick illuminates the pattern and shares how to move beyond it!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

A reminder from Nick at the beginning of this new year.Perfection inhibits progress.Let go of it as a condition.Focus on making progress through consistency and grace instead!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick talks about the power of making a decision versus the wishy-washy energy behind most folks’ goal, intentions, and resolutions!Don’t miss the offer to book a coaching call to jumpstart your 2025!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick shares the process he’s personally used and has used with clients to get what you want.Rather than just making resolutions or a vision board, work the process to actually get what you want.Making the time to acknowledge and celebrate the good.Understanding and demystifying successes and failures.Learning from failures and adjusting accordingly.Connecting to your desires, unapologetically.Actually planning out and preparing for getting you what you want.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

After leaving a dermatologist appointment, Nick talks about the importance of judgment-free care and support - especially for men.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Black Friday 2024 Deals!!Nick describes the digital programs and also 1:1 options available this Black Friday!!https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com/programsCode: JOY for 50% off of digital programsDM Nick on Instagram for the details for 1:1 coaching or Voxer Coaching.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Keeping your rituals and routines in place during the holidays - maybe even increasing them if needed!You don’t have any obligation to spend time with people or in environments that are unhealthy.Setting boundaries.Being willing to examine traditions and loyalties and adjust them if needed! Practical steps like staying at a hotel rather than with family as a WIN for everyone.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick discusses what the ‘24 presidential election reinforced about authenticity and how desired and necessary it is in today’s world.Why “Just be yourself” is great advice… but easier said than done.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick’s answer to a question about moving beyond shame and into forgiveness even if they haven’t forgiven you yet. Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

There’s some things that you may be able to figure out on your own. But why do so if support and guidance and available?Nick discusses why he advocates for qualified support whenever possible and feasible!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick answers an anonymous question from IG from somebody who is looking for purpose after a marriage ended 2 years prior.Nick explains why an understanding of purpose that is independent from external circumstances is important - highlighting his own experience with divorce and the perceived sense of loss.Nick references his The Purpose Workshop Link here: https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com/the-purpose-workshopAnd also discusses the principle of content versus form with a process for accepting and releasing with the belief that there is better still ahead!! Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

An anonymous IG question:Nick shares the story of how he left teaching to be a stay-at-home Dad while starting his coaching business.Nick talks about how he dropped the idea of perfection in favor of authenticity, the extent that he would go to in order to get content out, and the biggest hack for getting shit done with 2 very young, energetic boys at home!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick shares the story of his son, Tré, auditioning for a part and his audacious confidence when confronting the director.Nick also shares how he told Tré how impressed and inspired he is by his confidence.And Nick breaks down how we can each aspire to that level of audacity in our own life.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick discusses the double standard of Courtney being asked this question and how they respond to it.Also, how they respond to people who say, “I feel sorry for your kids!” Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick talks about the pattern he often sees where people stop doing what’s working because it’s working!!! 🤣Recognize the pattern and stop that shit!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

This week, The Tillias are filming the exact show that they prayed and prepared for, for years! Nick talks about how exhausted they are from full days of filming while the rest of life is happening AND how they've learned (sometimes the hard way) to live in what they prayed for and created.There will inevitably be parts that feel some type of way about the manifestation - your job is to not let those parts shut it down or shit away what you asked for!That's the work.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

The power is in your response and how you respond determines what you'll get next! Nick discusses the two things he tells to his clients (and himself) any time they experience disappointment or it looks like they're not going to get what they want.1. Keep fucking going. Don't get caught in the victim state of sorrow or disappointment. Trust that you're closer than ever! You're not starting over, you're almost there!2. There's a purpose to this pain. You're going through this so that you'll be able to guide others when they're in this position.If you can apply this KNOWING, you'll get to the other side quicker and better.AND man... it helps to have somebody reminding you of this!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

The awe and wonder of the people we saw reporting on the eclipse on TV was unmatched!Nick shares how powerful those emotions are and why they might be so elusive to many of us.  Listen to the end for a journaling prompt and a special offer for Nick's The Purpose Workshop!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

This lesson could be the entirety of your curriculum. Especially if you struggle with low self-worth or self-hatred.This lesson and the prescribed practice are about releasing the false image we’ve created of ourselves and replacing it with God’s image of us.Nick talks about the process of moving from illusion to truth and from self-hatred to self love!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick breaks down A Course In Miracles, Lesson 92. Showing how anything built upon external conditions or appearances is unstable and unreliable (as we learned during the global pandemic). If you want peace that is stable, you can learn to create internal foundations that exist indecent of any circumstances.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Journaling Prompts for Money Desires & Money Blocks!! Nick describes how imagining yourself winning the Powerball can help you to identify your desired as well as your money blocks.He discusses how folks who think that they’re powerless only think that they can get what they want through an Act of God (or winning the lottery) compared to powerful folks who believe in possibility and are willing to go about creating what they want! If you enjoy this one, let us know on Instagram! Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

On this Easter Sunday, Nick wants you to remember what this day is about.It’s not about worshipping the son of God’s achievements or sacrifice…It’s about YOU, and me, and all of us.It’s about understanding what he was teaching and demonstrating.It’s about remembering that he wasn’t special and that all of the qualities and potential that existed in Jesus, exist in you and I.The resurrection is about remembering and being who you are by conquering illusion and that which isn’t love. Enjoy.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick breaks down ACIM Lesson 90, which is a review of Lesson 79: Let me recognize the problem so that it can be solved; and Lesson 80: Let me recognize my problems have been solved.Nick discusses the principles and gives various personal examples of the principles in action.Ego loves a disruption/distraction and to create the illusion of a problem to send you on an endless mission of seek and do not find. These principles are great answers to self-sabotage!! Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Sabotaging patterns serve to protect us from what parts of us see as a threat to our safety... these parts just don't perceive our best interest. Their  focus is simply to survive - not to thrive, prosper, change, evolve, or progress. But we all have them.And they don't go away.Thinking that they shouldn't be there or do what they do (aka Judgment) doesn't actually help us in any way.The key is to understand and accept them without judgment or shame and keep it moving.Those who meet their patterns with GRACE are the least impacted by them!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

During a heated moment in the most-watched Super Bowl to date, Kansas City Chiefs tight-end (and Taylor Swifts boo thang) bumped into and screamed at his coach on the sidelines. The bump caught Reid off-guard and he stumbled before a teammate grabbed Kelce and pulled him away.The Chiefs went on to win the game and both parties down-played and laughed about the incident in the post-game interviews.Of course, media and social media were set ablaze but the incident and there have been takes ranging from Kelce "assaulting his elderly coach" to it raising "red flags" about the person Taylor Swift is dating.In this episode, Nick shares his perception of the event and the factors that we need to consider in assessing and judging it.Nick tackles what's guiding folks' perceptions, the context of the moment and Kelce's actions, what role race plays in folks' responses, the potential red flags for Taylor, and how the Chiefs should handle penalizing Kelce.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Over the last 2 years, professional golf has been marred by legal and publicity battles between the PGA Tour and LIV Golf.The PGA Tour made a huge mistake in their dealings with LIV, which actually ended up hurting themselves more than LIV ever could've.Nick's works in Universal principles to demonstrate the mistakes made by the PGA Tour  so that you don't do the same with the LIV (antagonist) in your life!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Ego loves to send you on an endless a fruitless journey of seeking but never finding!It's why folks are always trying to change things externally and looking for a magical pill rather than working their inner world.It's why folks are always looking for a different form of support rather than FULLY working what they have. It's why folks are always looking for more to add or whatever is sexy and trendy rather than working on mastering the fundamentals of their craft.and it's why folks often think that they need another voice speaking a different message into their life rather than hearing the same message over and over until it's locked in loaded into their consciousness.Nick describes how to identify and defeat this pattern and what his most successful clients do that others don't.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

A common question or area of frustration from women involves men not taking the cues to approach them or initiate conversation.It seems as if good men have stopped approaching or hitting on women in public and while this is a good step in the right direction, it's causing some confusion and ambiguity.Nick explains why his advice to women has changed from "leaning back" after creating an opening to actually now being the one to initiate.We're in a good place if it feels like women have the power in these interactions and men have the responsibility of safety, security, and ensuring consent. Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Nick went through a season in the last quarter of 2023 where he experienced debilitating anxiety and panic as well as many of the horrific symptoms of anxiety and panic: agoraphobia, depersonalization, derealization, air hunger, vertigo, dizziness, GERD, and others.Nick shares the details and specifics of the experience, including what caused it, what helped his process of recovery, and what he learned through it all!Valuable lessons and awareness for anybody who lives with anxiety or panic or knows somebody who does!Resources/Mentors Mentioned:Shaan Kassam Dr. Claire WeekesFind Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

"Do you think that a contrasting experience is required in order to clarify what you want and then be able to go after it or create it?"Don't waste good contrast or rock bottom, but they aren't required.Personal contrast definitely isn't required.Listening intentionally can make the lessons and nudges more gentle than getting smashed over the head.Learn how to connect to and clarify desires without needing the contrast to happen first.Nick's The Purpose WorkshopFind Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

One of my favorite New Year ceremonies is writing down everything that I want to release and let go of and then BURNING the list!!While powerful, this ceremonial act isn't actually enough to relate these patterns and behaviors. We have to do it over and over again as these tendencies inevitably show up in our lives.Let's decide what we're going to release and commit to doing it as many times as necessary.Happy New Year!!Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Not a question, but a riff.It's inevitable that your adult children are going to come to you with things to discuss and process.The worst way to respond to them is...The best way and the way that can grow your relationship with your kids is...Why you might want to get support before this comes up.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

"Do you believe time heals?"Why time isn't enough for healing. Healing is an active process that doesn't occur with just the passing of time.Time is a secondary factor of healing. If you avoid the healing and just hope that time will do the trick... what will be left waiting for you?Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

"I've struggled with my body for most of my adult life. I don't know if I'm holding onto some beliefs that may be making it harder for me to shed this weight but would love insight on how to identify these limiting beliefs that are keeping me safe so I can stop sabotaging my health goals." Courtney and Nick actually both started out as fitness coaches and answering this question led them into life coaching.How Jen Sincero's You're A Badass at Making Money can help you identify how you relate to your body or losing weight.The questions to ask that will help you discover why you might be sabotaging your goals.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

"How to move from just knowing something to truly believing it. I know that despite media portrayals, guys don't necessarily want sex constantly. But, I still feel rejected and unsexy when I'm in the mood and my husband isn't, for example."Reprogramming, Reparenting, and Repetition.The importance of considering medical conditions or hormones if somebody's libido isn't what it used to be.Getting the reps in proactively and in response to being activated.How to not take shit personal.Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

"What do you think about practical gifts for Christmas?" Nick gave an ex partner a gym membership and it did NOT go over well!If you insist on giving to Nick, give THIS.Let's normalize asking people what they like and want rather trying to read their fucking minds!How Nick and Courtney do lists for Santa with their kids. Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com

Let's have it!!!Episode 1 is your introduction (or re-introduction) to Nick.Why did the world need another podcast from a cishet, white dude?All the personal metrics and details that people ask about, including the really important ones like age and height!How YOU can have your question answered on this podcast and what you aren't allowed to ask (aka boundaries). And lastly, a reminder to not be a dickhead. Find Nick on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicktillia/Get more info about coaching and program offerings https://nicktillia.mykajabi.com