Light in the Battle: Autism, Single Motherhood and Trauma Recovery

In this short episode, we’re talking about something that keeps many survivors stuck: closure.We’re often told we need:an apologyaccountabilityunderstandinga “clean ending”But in high-conflict dynamics — and especially after narcissistic abuse — that closure often never comes.And waiting for it can keep you:emotionally attachedmentally replaying the paststuck in a loop of “maybe one day they’ll get it”• Why closure is often unavailable after narcissistic abuse - the self-verification concept is what makes it impossible• How waiting for understanding keeps you tied to the other person• The difference between external closure and internal decision• Why emotional detachment requires letting go of being understood• How to move forward without resolution• The link between closure, surrender, and trauma recoveryClosure is not something you need the other person to give you. Because needing anything from someone with narcissistic tendencies is dangerous.Closure is another thing to let go of. “I understand what happened. I don’t like it. I don’t agree with it. But I accept that this is who they are.”From there, you stop:re-explainingrehashingtrying to be understoodAnd you start moving forward without needing their version of the story.For autistic women navigating trauma recovery and narcissistic abuse recovery, this shift is key to breaking emotional attachment and reclaiming your energy.You don’t need the story to end cleanly.You need to stop revisiting it - which may require a bit of trauma work.👉 Follow the show for more short, practical episodes on emotional detachment, autism (ASD), and high-conflict co-parenting👉 Leave a review if this content is helping you move forwardDisclaimer: This podcast shares lived experience related to narcissistic abuse recovery, trauma recovery, autism and ASD. It is not a substitute for professional medical, legal, or mental health advice.Take it one day at a time.

How do you get anything done when you're a PDA adult? When everything feels like a demand, from responding to an email from your lawyer to the simple fact your body says it's time to get a sip of water? Just like the ⁠autistic burnout meditation⁠ I created for myself,these are affirmations I recorded for myself and that are having quite the impact on getting stuff done in my life. Stuff that society expects, that "normal" people do, that my body expects of me, etc. I now do things because I WANT TO DO THEM. Not because my body says it needs it, because my phone tells me I need to answer a call, or because normal people make their bed in the morning. I hope this helps other PDA adults reframe the demands intostuff you want to do for yourself, because it's important to YOU. PDA stands for Pervasive Drive for Autonomy, also known asPathological Demand Avoidance. It can greaty impact your quality of life as a PDA single mother, because the underlying dynamics that enable you to do all the things for your child, are not the same that require you to do all the things for yourself. For your child, it's an ancestral instinct geared towardsthe survival of the species, so you do everything your kids need. But when it comes to you, as an autistic single mother with PDA, especially after you're out of battery, you will 100% refuse to wash your face in the evening, or to respond to your friends who are checking in on you. There's a bit of mental exhaustion mixed with task paralysis. So let's reframe those demands, into things we want for ourselves. This invisible disability, this neurodivergent life doesn't have to take a massive toll on our social lives, on our health, on our careers, on our daily functioning, on our ability to ask for help, and such.  Keywords (look away!)PDA affirmations, autistic adults, autism burnout recovery,PDA autism support, neurodivergent affirmations, gentle self care autism, PDA meditation, nervous system regulation autism, demand avoidance adults, low demand lifestyleautism, autism meditation, guided affirmations adults PDA affirmations for demand avoidancePDA profile adult support strategies affirmations for taskavoidance autism internalized demand resistance affirmations PDA Affirmations for Adults,PDA Meditation for Adult PDA, Adult PDA MeditationAdult PDA AffirmationsPDA Affirmations for Autistic Adults, Adult PDA Meditation,Adult PDA Affirmations, Meditation for PDA adults- Pervasive Drive for Autonomy- Pathological Demand Avoidance - PDA Autism Affirmations for Adults, PDA Affirmations forAutistic Adults, Getting Shit Done with PDA