ME + MOTHERHOOD with Benita Bensch

For this, my 50th episode, I'm sharing my lessons on blending motherhood and entrepreneurship. From the start of TTC (trying to conceive), going through IVF, the newborn and toddler days and now the school years, motherhood and business have gone hand-in-hand for me.This journey has shaped me in ways I never expected, teaching me lessons that go far beyond business strategies or parenting techniques. I’d love to share with you some of the insights I’ve gained from navigating this blend (not balance) of motherhood and entrepreneurship over the years. 1. Know Your Values - Initially, I thought I needed to compartmentalise these roles, but I've learned that when your values are clear, decisions flow more naturally. It's about recognising what truly matters and letting that guide your choices, even if they seem conflicted.2. Understanding Different Energies - Work often provides immediate satisfaction and clear outcomes, while motherhood is more nuanced and complex. Acknowledging this difference has helped me approach each role with more awareness and intention.3. Embracing Support - One of the most profound lessons for me has been understanding that seeking support isn't a sign of weakness - it's essential for growth. This realisation didn't come easily, but it's transformed how I approach both roles.4. Honouring Multiple Passions - Rather than seeing this as a lack of focus, I've learned to embrace it as a strength that brings depth to both my parenting and entrepreneurial endeavours.5. Listening to Your Body - The physical demands of motherhood and business are real. Learning to recognise and respect our body's signals isn't just beneficial - it's crucial. 6. Finding Natural Rhythms - It's not about forcing a perfect schedule, but rather finding flows that honour everyone's needs while moving your business forward.7. Leading with Strengths - The skills we develop as mothers often enhance our business capabilities, and vice versa. It's about acknowledging these strengths and allowing them to serve us in both areas.8. Building Meaningful Support Networks - The importance of having people who understand this journey cannot be overstated. 9. Let Go of Mum Guilt - The weight of mum guilt can be particularly heavy when building a business. Let it go, but also lean in and listen to what it’s saying. 10. Embracing Creative Evolution - Creativity flows differently in different seasons of life. I'd love to hear about your experiences - what lessons have you learned along the way? Episodes Mentioned:11. Karen Brook On Consciously Creating, And Ditching Mum Guilt39. How to Make Time for CreativityFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

I was asked recently what it's like raising four boys. It definitely got me thinking.They’re about to celebrate their birthdays in the next six weeks – the twins will turn nine, our eldest is almost 11, and our youngest will be seven. And while there’s a bit of rough-and-tumble going on that usually comes with the territory, raising sons has been an eye-opening experience and completely different to what I expected. Today, I’m sharing the lessons I’ve learnt, ways I’ve adapted to the unexpected and what I hope to be instilling in my boys as they grow.I'll take you through my experiences of:  - Releasing expectations- Nurturing individuality- Understanding physical play- The power of attention- Awareness of body image- The need for good role models- Fostering emotional language- Challenging gender normsThese lessons really just skim the surface. I’m not perfect, and I don’t have all the answers. But I'm continuously learning, and eager to hear from you too. What are your experiences? Please drop me a message or an email – I’d love to discuss the incredible journey of raising boys with you!Facebook Group: Support for Women in Family Farming: Succession & Other ChallengesFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

As we step into 2025, my life has been swirling with change – not just with a new home, but with a shift in my career as well. Recently, my family and I embarked on a significant move that upended our surroundings and challenged us to settle into a new rhythm. Alongside the chaos of relocating, I’ve also closed a chapter as an accountability coach with the Farm Owners Academy, leaving me with a clean slate to explore new ventures. As I reflect on this journey of shifting landscapes, I want to share with you the top five lessons I’ve learned about navigating big change, the art of surrender and how reinvention has shaped me. Perhaps these will offer some guidance or comfort if you too find yourself swirling in the waves of life's transitions.We'll explore:1. Progress Over Perfection2. Honour and Communicate Your Needs3. Comparison is the Thief of Joy4. A Shift in Energy is Growth5. Honour What You LoveNavigating big changes in life can be daunting, but it’s within these shifts that we find opportunities for reinvention and self-discovery. My hope is that you too, will find the courage to step forward, surrender to the flow and embrace change with a reinvigorated spirit. Remember, the magic lies not in having everything perfectly aligned, but in the beautiful journey of becoming.Facebook Group: Support for Women in Family Farming: Succession & Other ChallengesFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

I find myself in the thick of school holidays and I imagine many of you, much like myself, are navigating the highs and lows that accompany this somewhat haphazard time of year. Whether you have kids at home from primary school, kindy, daycare, or even boarding school, the change in routine can feel both liberating and overwhelming. Some days, it feels like we’re swimming in flexibility and fun, and other days, it feels as if our nerves are hanging by a thread.It’s perfectly natural to experience a spectrum of feelings during the holidays. Some parents cherish every moment, while others find it a challenge—or perhaps you’re like me, somewhere in the middle. In this episode I take you through a few strategies that have helped me manage the holiday hustle with my sanity intact.I think it’s important to remind yourself during this time that every parent’s journey through the holidays is unique. Allow yourself the grace to navigate these times in a way that best suits you and your family. If you feel like you need additional support to set your goals for 2025, I’ve created a comprehensive workbook available to you—just reach out via social media or email, and I’ll be glad to send it over.Sending you love and wishes for beautiful, joyous holiday moments with your little ones. Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

As we usher in 2025, I find myself deeply reflective and excited about the year ahead. Whether you celebrated New Year's Eve by turning in early or dancing the night away, I hope your festivities were wonderful. I’m writing this with a sense of fresh beginnings and anticipation, and I wanted to share some of the goals I've set for this year. Embracing New BeginningsAs many of you know from previous episodes, we have embarked on a huge transition. After moving from the border town of Goondiwindi in Queensland to our new home in the Echuca Moama region, we are ready to begin this exciting new chapter. Personal Growth and StabilityThis year, I am committed to slowing down and fostering stability within our family. It's been a whirlwind past few years, filled with big decisions and changes, from leaving our family farm to moving towns and schools. My aim in 2025 is to pause, reflect, and appreciate the journey. Additionally, I am focusing on health and well-being. I've encountered some unexpected health challenges in the past 18 months, which have served as a reminder to care for my body and mind. Slowing down not only feels essential but vital for maintaining a balanced lifestyle. Work and PlayMy approach to work is undergoing a transformation in 2025. I've temporarily paused my coaching programs, desiring the headspace to focus on our move and settling in. Yet, I'm thrilled about leaning into my passion for writing in 2025. I plan to make writing my primary focus, while dedicating, I think at this stage, approx. one day a week to coaching and consulting. I'm especially excited about working on my upcoming non-fiction book centred around motherhood, and embarking on a children's book series as well.The Road AheadWhile my goals for 2025 might seem loosely defined, they’re driven by an intention to live slower and more intentionally. I’m eager to witness what life unfolds when I maintain a high vibration and clarity in my thoughts and actions. I invite you to join me in reflecting on your own ambitions for the year. What are your goals for 2025? Is there a word that encapsulates your hopes and intentions? Listen in to find out what mine is!Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

This episode is inspired by our family's significant move from our beloved farm near Moonie to the lively border town of Goondiwindi, and my reflections on living in a rural town compared to life on the farm. After spending decades mainly on the land and out of town, this transition brought its share of revelations, and I'm eager to share the highs and lows.When we decided in 2022 to live in town during the school terms of 2023, it meant embracing a new chapter. Goondiwindi became our home base, offering immediate access to amenities that were previously the cause of extensive planning and travel from our farm 130km away. The ease of simply being able to pick up a fresh loaf of bread, grab a coffee, or pick up groceries felt like a luxury. This convenience has been a significant pro of town life—the time saved from driving alone was a game-changer.And then we made the move to living in town full time during 2024. We became "townies!"One of my favourite aspects of residing in town has been the community connection. Living closer to others means there's more opportunity for spontaneous coffee meet-ups and being part of events that enrich our social circle. However, town living isn’t without its downsides. The bustling environment can sometimes feel constrictive, especially after enjoying the expansive freedom of farm life. Several challenges in our family arose from feeling “caged in” due to smaller living spaces and constant noise.As I reflect on this past year of living in town, I've also acknowledged some lifestyle changes. It’s been challenging to juggle the faster-paced conveniences of town life while longing for the hands-on, active lifestyle that the farm provided. I hope this reflection resonates with you, especially if you're contemplating a similar transition or just curious about the rural versus town dynamic. Our experiences, though personal, might offer insight or comfort as you navigate your own journey. Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

In this episode I’m talking about a topic that I know many of my rural and regional listeners who are involved in farming businesses will resonate with. That said, I think there's a good message in here for everyone as we discuss the labels we put on ourselves and finding our place in the stage of life we’re in. In this conversation, I’ll explore taking a stand for what we want for our lives and making conscious choices that see it come to pass.I encourage each of you to pause and reflect on the labels you assimilate. Whether it's "farmer", "farmer's wife", "stay-at-home mum", or any number of titles we've been given or have taken on ourselves, these labels shape perceptions. They affect how we view ourselves, how others perceive us, and ultimately, how we show up in various facets of our lives.You may find yourself in roles traditionally defined by others, but remember, you do have a choice. It’s entirely okay to express a desire to pivot away from roles that do not align with your interests or strengths.In all this, the most crucial thing is to own your role or position. If you're content with being a "farmer's wife," embrace it. If you prefer to forge an identity beyond, say, "just a mum", then proudly step into what resonates with the essence of who you are. Be deliberate and conscious in how you define and represent yourself.If the environment you are in doesn’t support your vision or make you feel valued, consider whether it is the right one for you.I'd love to hear your thoughts, experiences, and welcome you into my Facebook community for women navigating these very issues. Let's support each other in becoming the authors of our own stories, with love, compassion and a shared determination to live authentically.Facebook Group: Support for Women in Family Farming: Succession & Other ChallengesFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

We talk a lot about mental health these days which I’m so grateful for. It’s brilliant that we as a society are more aware of this topic and it’s no longer taboo to talk openly about things like anxiety and depression.While I believe these conversations are extremely valuable, we often place the focus on mental illness as opposed to mental health itself. I’d like to open the discussion on how to recognise the mental health red flags so we can catch ourselves and take action before we spiral downward. I recently had a conversation with my dear friend Mandy and we brainstormed the idea of implementing a traffic light system to identify our mental states. The green light represents everything going well, orange indicates that things are beginning to slip, and the red light signifies waving flags, urging immediate action. One resource I've turned to repeatedly is the Beyond Blue website. One page in particular offers a fantastic description of the mental health continuum, showing that mental health isn't black and white. Picture it as a timeline with stages ranging from healthy to crisis, allowing for a personalised understanding of your mental health journey.Green Light - Healthy:  In this stage, we operate smoothly. We think clearly, feel capable, and maintain positive connections and routines. Orange Light - Unsettled: We might feel irritable or have trouble concentrating in this stage. The key is to acknowledge these feelings early, especially as we approach high-stress periods like the busy holiday season.Red Light - Struggling: When you’re in the red zone, emotions might include distress, hopelessness or brain fog. At this point, you might feel like you need professional support from a counsellor, psychologist, coach or trusted friend.Because we’re all different, your green, orange and red lights will look different to someone else. For me, being overly stressed or losing touch with my intuition is a sign that I’m in the orange zone. Spiraling negative thoughts, not wanting to take calls or go out at all indicate more severe struggles in the red zone.Creating lists of what helps during each phase is a proactive step you can take. Maybe going for a walk, calling a friend or taking a long bath are things that help draw you back to feeling yourself.Remember, there's no shame in asking for help. Vulnerability not only liberates you but also grants others permission to share their struggles too. You are worthy of feeling good and are a valuable part of our world.Beyond Blue Website Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Moving away from the familiar is generally very uncomfortable. As someone who has experienced a lifetime of perfectionism and people pleasing, I know just how hard it is to let go of control and branch out into something beyond my comfort zone. But what if discomfort is actually the best thing for us?At the time of recording this, I found myself reflecting on the story of Australian man Nedd Brockmann, who embarked on what he called 'Nedd's Uncomfortable Challenge' and completed it. He ran an astounding 1,000 miles around Sydney Olympic Park, aiming to set a new record in 10 days.Although he completed it in 12 days, his determination and the $3 million + raised for charity speak volumes about the strength that comes with embracing discomfort. Witnessing this has made me ponder: how could someone put themselves through such pain and so many injuries when they didn’t have to? What's required to have that level of mental and physical toughness, and what was his why?It got me wondering about my own life and the ways in which I push myself (or fail) to get uncomfortable. And what it means to navigate our own discomforts, particularly as mothers?Today, we're exploring:- Bridging Discomfort and Motherhood- Understanding Our Discomforts- My Uncomfortable: Embracing a Slower Pace- Subtle Shifts and the Power of No- Crafting Our Unique JourneysHere’s the lesson I hope to impart: your uncomfortableness, however it manifests, is just as valid and transformative as running a thousand miles. It's unique to you. Whether it's scaling unprecedented heights or simply learning to be gentler on ourselves as parents, it’s crucial to embrace our journey authentically and with compassion.And perhaps, in doing so, we’ll find our own version of Nedd’s courage—a courage to face and champion our personal challenges with everything we’ve got.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

I’ve been feeling different in the past few years. There has been one internal shift, big question and hard decision after another to contend with. I’m thinking more deeply about what I want to do with my life, and who I want to surround myself with.I’m referring to the midlife unravelling. Notice how I specifically didn’t use the term 'midlife crisis'? That’s because, for many of us, the experience of reaching our 40s and beyond is less about crisis and more about unravelling—a gentle peeling back of the layers we've built over the years. The term 'midlife crisis' often carries a negative connotation, suggesting disarray and upheaval. But what if we view it through a different lens? To me, the term 'unravelling' seems to better capture this phase—it's an inevitable shedding of old defences and identities that no longer serve us, and an invitation to step into our true selves.One of the gifts of these midlife years is the wisdom to recognise that we have a choice—we can rethink, redefine, and reimagine what our futures holds. Yes, it's an ongoing work in progress with no definite answers, but isn’t that liberating in its own way? Here's what I've settled on: I want to grow continuously and cherish each version of myself. This time isn't just about enduring change but embracing it with open arms and an open heart. So, if you're also navigating this midlife unravelling, remember, you're not alone. This evolution is an opportunity for transformation, and within it lies the potential for profound personal growth.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Sometimes, we prefer to stay in our suffering.The pain we’re familiar with can be a lot less scary than the unknown - which potentially comes with rejection, failure or even success (yes, that can be scary too!)This could be relationships, habits, friendships, old beliefs… and sometimes they’re paralysing to let go of, even when we know in our hearts that we should.So how do we find the courage to release what holds us back? Today, I’m sharing with you five different tips that I came up with that will support you in the letting go journey and making changes you need to get into alignment with your true self.I’ll take you through how to:1. Use Past Evidence2. Follow Your Feelings and Intuition3. Get Clear on Your Desires4. Be Courageous5. Find Power in Letting GoLetting go is rarely instant. It’s a gradual process that might require revisiting over and over, especially with significant changes like ending a long-term relationship or changing careers. However, equipped with the right mindset and these tips, you can navigate through the process of letting go with grace and self-assurance.I understand that there's a big spectrum of things that you might be letting go of, but remember: trusting yourself and your inner knowing, even when it’s outside your comfort zone, will only lead to healing and growth. Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

A lot of us would never call ourselves creative.We think that if we can’t paint, write or draw, then we’re definitely not creative.That was me for many years. At a young age, I decided that because I was the academic one in the family and not good at art like my sister, I wasn’t and never would be creative. Thankfully, I no longer believe this lie. I now recognise the unique ways in which I create and that if I put myself in a box, I’ll miss out on all the wonderful experiences I could have.We are all innately creative beings, and there are no rules around what is creative and what is not. The beauty of creativity lies in its boundless nature; it's whatever we wish to manifest. If you’re struggling to recognise your own creativity or carve out time for self-expression, then this episode is for you.I ask you to consider what self expression looks like in your world. It doesn't have to be any of those things that are traditionally seen as ‘artistic’. It's any sort of thing that makes you feel good and more like you.And while I know time is precious and not always easy to find, I encourage you to prioritise your creativity as an important appointment. Limit distractions and give yourself permission to close the door and shut out the world for a moment. Or integrate creativity into your daily routines, whatever that looks like for you.Making time for creativity is not just about producing art; it’s about enhancing our lives, nurturing our souls and expressing who we truly are. Remember, your creative journey is unique to you, and there’s no right or wrong way to embark on it. Embrace your creativity and let it flourish.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Life comes with its fair share of ups and downs, but there are moments when the downs can feel overwhelming - insurmountable even. Personally, I’ve had a few episodes of poor mental health in my lifetime - patches of anxiety and depression that I’ve learnt how to manage. However, in 2022, I got to my lowest point with it, even experiencing symptoms of psychosis. When I first considered going on antidepressants during this time, it felt like a big, daunting step. And though I would encourage anyone else in my life to not feel shame, the idea of going on antidepressants still made me nervous.Today, I want to shine a light on this topic so that anyone feeling shame around taking medication can begin to shed that feeling and know they’re not alone.I’m sharing my personal experience with antidepressants, both while taking them and after deciding to come off the medication.While on antidepressants, I actually found that I could begin to reclaim parts of my life that had felt lost to depression. I had more energy, more clarity and slowly but surely, more hope.Yet, as effective as they were, I always knew that I didn’t want to be on medication forever if I could help it. After a period of stability and having learnt tools to manage my mental health, I decided to come off the antidepressants completely, without tapering the dose.It’s been intense: agitation, fatigue, difficulty sleeping - and a lot of crying. I’ve even gotten to the point of being unable to parent. Yet, I have hope. My research shows these are common symptoms, and I’m looking forward to the light at the end of the tunnel.Of course, there are times I question myself: What if my symptoms return? What if I’m unable to cope?I may go back on them, and I know that’s totally okay. If you are currently on antidepressants, know that you are not alone. There’s no shame in taking medication, whether it’s for a short period or for the rest of your life. Each person’s experience with mental health is unique, and so too are the tools they use to navigate it.I hope that sharing my experience can offer some insight and comfort if you are struggling. I know that as we continue to support one another and share our stories, we can together dismantle the stigmas and shame surrounding mental health.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Do you ever feel like a doormat? You spend all day pouring out love, time and energy into meeting everyone else’s needs and by the end of the day, you feel like you’ve been walked all over.Your needs go unnoticed. Your needs don’t matter. It’s no wonder so many of us struggle with feelings of resentment and anger. A lot of the time, it all comes down to a matter of boundaries. For many women, boundaries is an uncomfortable topic but it’s also a really important one. A huge breakthrough for me in this area was learning that it's not just okay, but vitally important for my well-being to meet my own needs by putting boundaries in place.Boundaries are lines we draw to protect ourselves and our children, ensuring our physical, emotional, and mental safety. They are meant to protect your time, energy, and what you give away and you are worthy of them. Your worth is inherent and you don't need to prove your worth to anyone. A boundary ensures your needs are met because unmet needs can have serious ramifications.Physical and Emotional BoundariesThere are physical boundaries we can put in place, but there are also emotional ones that protect us. If you feel like you’re getting beyond your window of tolerance, setting a boundary will help you feel safe and regulate your nervous system.Your boundaries don’t require anyone’s sign-off. Other people may not understand and it may even challenge them, but you can't take care of someone else's feelings while setting your boundaries.People-Pleasing and PerfectionismIt can feel uncomfortable to set boundaries, especially for people pleasers or perfectionists. Brene Brown says, "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." The point of a boundary is to take care of yourself.Boundaries require practice; they are not walls and they can change. It's about deepening your awareness of what feels good in the moment and continually reevaluating.Boundaries with your partner: Let’s say your partner wants to discuss business right when you're about to go to bed. You’re tired and not in the right frame of mind. A good boundary could be, "Darling, I know this is important, but can we discuss it in the morning when I'm more alert?"Boundaries with your children: Kids love to push boundaries and it’s your prerogative to keep those boundaries firm or to be flexible. Whether you choose to stay firm on your boundaries, or go against them, make this a conscious choice. Boundaries for personal time: Simple things like going to the toilet or taking a shower in peace can be crucial boundaries. Your personal space is important and setting clear boundaries will not only help you, but also model this to your children too. Start noticing as you go about your day what you need and when you start to feel pushed beyond your limits. Understanding these sensations will help you recognise when a boundary is necessary.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

I’m tackling a bit of a sensitive topic today and if you’re currently relying on that nightly glass (or two) of wine to unwind after a long, stressful day, it may even hit a raw nerve to hear me talk about why, and how, I gave up wine o’clock.In Australia, we have such an alcohol fueled culture, which makes it harder to recognise the dangers of wine o'clock in mummy wine culture. It’s become normal to reach for a drink to cope, relax, escape, celebrate, socialise, drown your sorrows, and every other reason we find. Sure, wine relaxed me in the short term, but drinking also came with a lot of guilt, poor sleep, and a bunch of other negative effects - hello hangover! And when stress showed up in my life, more alcohol did too. So on Christmas morning of 2021, I decided enough was enough and I was going to stop drinking for 12 months, maybe longer. I'd been longing for the courage to decide for almost two years but before then, I didn’t believe I could completely give up. That morning, I felt immense relief and pride in myself that I had drawn the line in the sand.Initially, I thought giving up alcohol would be all about willpower and making the conscious decision to stop. But while willpower played a role, I quickly realised that for lasting change, I needed to go deeper.Going Beyond Willpower to Subconscious BeliefsIn August 2021, I started the alcohol experiment conducted by This Naked Mind to explore my relationship with alcohol. A light bulb moment came on day one of the experiment when I reflected on the question, “Why do I drink?”.You see, you can use your thoughts and willpower to change your habits. But, this approach only scratches the surface. The real transformation begins when you uncover those deeply ingrained ideas that drive your behaviours. For me, there was a subconscious belief that alcohol was essential for relaxation and coping with stress, a belief that had to be reprogrammed.When the subconscious and the conscious minds agree, willpower is no longer needed because you're no longer fighting against yourself. After doing the alcohol experiment, I realised that I didn’t even want to drink. My body didn’t like it, my mind didn’t like it and the benefits of being sober far outweighed the challenges. Giving up wine o'clock wasn't easy, but it was one of the best decisions I've made for myself and my family. It allowed me to find new ways to love and care for myself, without the crutch of alcohol. If you're feeling stuck in a similar cycle, know that change is possible. You can rewire those subconscious beliefs and find healthier ways to cope with the beautiful chaos of motherhood.https://www.soberinthecountry.org/Watch my video story in Sober in the Country's Amplification Project hereFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

A question most mothers will ask themselves at one point or another is, "Can I really do this?" Balancing motherhood, work, personal growth, and other responsibilities can feel overwhelming, so today I want to share some strategies that have helped me navigate a challenging few months. I recently went through 9 weeks of solo parenting while my husband was away, during which time I also had multiple gallbladder attacks, underwent surgery, and dealt with ongoing health issues with our children. Everything started piling up and it started to wear me down. Signs of Reaching the LimitStress manifests in many ways—irritability, frustration, and heightened anxiety, to name a few. When I noticed these signs, in particular the feeling of resentment, appearing more frequently, I knew something needed to change. I was short-tempered, and my mental health was slipping because I wasn't making enough time for self-care.Around three or four weeks ago, I hit a wall but it seemed that the only solution was to push through. During this time, the resentment and bitterness that I was feeling indicated to me that I was out of alignment.Setting BoundariesOne of the first things I had to work on was setting better boundaries, especially during times when I was solo parenting and didn't have space away from the kids. I've worked hard to establish simple but effective boundaries like not being disturbed when I'm in the shower or on the toilet! It's important to be brave enough to enforce boundaries, even if they seem trivial. For instance, I've told my children that my office and bedroom are off-limits for their playtime because I need these spaces to function effectively and peacefully.Shared ResponsibilityResentment often comes from feeling that you're carrying too much of a load. This could be physical tasks, but it can also be the mental and emotional load of feeling responsible for everything. I’m so grateful to have been recommended the Fair Play method by Eve Rodsky, which involves dividing household responsibilities more equitably. We went through the cards together to decide who takes responsibility for various tasks and it helped us gain clarity, understand each other and distribute the load more fairly. Balancing Work and MotherhoodLastly, I had to address my capacity for work. Like many mothers, I love my children more than anything, but my work also brings me joy and a sense of purpose. However, it's challenging to find the right balance. I've learned that I need to be realistic about how much work I can handle without compromising my well-being and ability to be a present, happy mother. Remember, it’s crucial to find joy and fulfilment in both your personal and professional roles.What thoughts and feelings do you experience when you’re out of alignment? Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Motherhood is a profound experience that brings about countless changes. For many women, it comes with a huge identity shift, sometimes even an identity crisis. Before having children, you might have felt like a confident, capable individual with a strong sense of self - but the transition into motherhood can come as quite a shock. A lot of women feel out of control, overwhelmed, isolated and like they no longer have a sense of self. In 2018, I hit a wall—an experience I term as "falling into the black hole." I felt lost, my confidence shattered, and my identity blurred. Transitioning from an ambitious career woman to a mother gave me so much joy, but it was also incredibly challenging. I was left grappling with the question— "Who am I now?" Who Are You Really?Motherhood not only alters your routines but also your inner world and this transformation involves meeting and embracing a new version of yourself. The truth is, the roles we identify with—wife, mother, daughter, colleague, friend —don’t define us. You are not just the roles you play or the titles you bear. You are not merely your thoughts, physical body, feelings, behaviour, or career. When you strip all of those things away, you are a soul—a spiritual entity living a human experience. Navigating the Enormous ChangesNikki McCahon, a leader in matrescence education, writes about the various changes women go through when entering motherhood. It’s not just a matter of things changing physically. In various ways, we all experience an upheaval in our psychological, relational, spiritual, cultural, career, economic, and political lives. It's no surprise that amidst all these changes, you might feel lost, questioning what you’re doing wrong. But know that these changes are part of an immense, transformative process and you are not alone. Reflect and Reconnect to Your True SelfIf you’re struggling with your sense of identity in motherhood, ask yourself these questions:When do I feel like me?What do I love?What am I good at?What comes naturally to me?Even amidst the chaos of motherhood, take a few minutes to journal or reflect on these questions. Remember, you are worthy and valuable simply because you are you. Your worthiness is never in question, even if your confidence wavers.Connecting with yourself at a soul level, away from labels and titles, is vital. Recognise the need to update your self-image to reflect who you are now, not who you were before having children. Allow yourself to explore and remember who you truly are underneath the daily roles and responsibilities.If you feel the need for support, consider seeking guidance from someone external to help navigate your way through these changes. Establishing a new direction and understanding your true self can be profoundly empowering. And above all, know that even in those dark moments, you have the innate capacity to reconnect with your essence and embrace this evolved version of yourself.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Words are not just sounds; they are vibrations that shape our entire world. Believe it or not, the stories you tell yourself are ruling your life and these stories can either empower you or hold you back. The choice is completely up to you. We all have those repetitive stories - the ones embedded in our minds from past experiences, conditioning, and the environments we grew up in. These narratives feel so true because they've been echoed in our minds for years.But when was the last time you took a step back to observe those stories? Take a moment to reflect on which stories are true and which you should discard. Remember, you are the author of your life. Your story can always be edited.Listen to Your Inner DialogueOften, our internal stories affirm our negative beliefs. Have you noticed how one negative thought can spiral into many more? Whatever we focus on, we move toward. Start by noticing your inner dialogue. Observe the thoughts that pop into your mind and the words you say out loud. Are these thoughts serving you or holding you back?Take note of patterns when you hear yourself being self-critical or when you use words that are self-limiting. By catching these moments, you can begin to rewrite them. For example, instead of saying, "I can't do this," shift your language to, "I'm learning and getting better at this."It’s not about being fake or succumbing to toxic positivity. It’s about becoming aware of your inner dialogue and catching yourself when you set limiting boundaries for yourself. It’s about noticing your thoughts and recognising that they are just stories. Thoughts aren’t always the truth. Re-frame Stories Through AffirmationsI use affirmations every day to reframe my thoughts, especially when I’m feeling more vulnerable. For me, I know that when I’m tired or sick or when my family is sick, the catastrophising goes downhill quite quickly, so using affirmations is a powerful way to bring my thoughts back into alignment. Here are some of my favourites:I always have time for what’s important to me.Everything is working out for me.Life is happening for me, not to me.There's always tomorrow.Speaking out these affirmations helps foster a more positive internal dialogue and almost instantly changes the way I feel in my body. Again, it’s not about ignoring how you feel, it’s about choosing to re-frame the story in a more empowering way. I’ve seen these principles at work in my own life and in the lives of those I coach. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, instead of saying, "I’m so busy," try saying "I'm managing my time well, and I’m in control.” This subtle shift in language can drastically alter how you feel and how you approach your day.Be Kind to YourselfAs you go through this process, be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s about making consistent, small adjustments. Observing your thoughts without judgment will create a more compassionate inner environment.Every day is a new opportFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

As I celebrate my 43rd birthday, I find myself reflecting on the journey of the past year. It’s been a period filled with growth, challenges, and ultimately, a great deal of personal development. From Farm to Town LifeOne of the most significant changes in the past year has been our move from the farm to town life in Goondiwindi. For almost a decade, our family lived on a farm near Moonie, engaged in a agricultural business we ran with my parents and family. However, in 2023, we made the challenging decision to relocate to town during the school terms, and then full time in town in 2024.The Freedom and Challenges of Town LifeI’ve greatly enjoyed being able to grab a coffee in town, an indulgence that seemed so simple yet luxurious. It’s the little things you notice the most.Working with a personal trainer has been another highlight. What started as a weight-loss journey evolved into something much more profound, impacting my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. While town life has its perks, it also brought its own set of challenges. Adjusting to the separation from the farm was tough. My connection to the land runs deep, and leaving behind what we thought would be our forever home was heart-wrenching. Growing Through Personal ChallengesMy personal journey over the past year has been marked by several health challenges, including a knee injury that required multiple surgeries. This taught me patience and the importance of prioritising my well-being. It also made me realise the significance of daily movement and a balanced lifestyle for my mental health.Solo parenting has been yet another hurdle. With Adam at the farm during the week, I have been in charge of parenting the boys and being there for all the after school activities. I’ve realised that I’m easily overstimulated, especially from the chaos when my boys come home from school. Discovering that I'm a highly sensitive person has helped me understand why I become easily overstimulated and what steps I need to take to manage it.Support Systems and Personal GrowthReaching out for help has been crucial. Whether it’s hiring a cleaner or having someone assist with house chores, these supports have been invaluable. They have allowed me to focus on my children and my personal growth without feeling overwhelmed by daily tasks.Additionally, mentors and health practitioners have played essential roles in my journey. Focusing on foundational aspects like sleep, hydration, nutrition, and mental health has been life-changing. Embracing Creativity and the Big PictureThis year, I’ve also made space for my creative side, whether it’s through singing or simply going for a walk and allowing my mind to wander. These activities nourish my soul. Reflecting on this past year, I’m filled with gratitude for the journey and the lessons learned. Each challenge has been a stepping stone to deeper self-awareness and growth. As I step into another year of my life, I carry with me the understandFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

What does it mean to be the “perfect” mother? And is this a standard that we should even remotely be trying to live up to?For some background, listen to episode 26 where I chat with Dr. Sophie Brock, a mentor of mine who specialises in this area and with whom I completed my Motherhood Studies Practitioner Certification. She has a fantastic podcast called "The Good Enough Mother" that you should definitely check out.Firstly, let's acknowledge the pressure. Social media, movies, even our own upbringings bombard us with unrealistic expectations of what motherhood should look like. This constant comparison can be a recipe for guilt, shame, and exhaustion.Professor Andrea O'Reilly outlines eight societal rules of perfect motherhood that contribute to this myth. These include the idea that mothers must be the sole caregivers, available 24/7, prioritise their children's needs above all else, and constantly strive for perfection. It's an impossible standard!Here's the liberating truth: there is no such thing as a perfect mother. Dr. Sophie Brock shares that internalising these pressures can lead to significant stress, anxiety, and depression.The good news is, we can rewrite the rules!Here's how to get started:Identify your triggers. Notice when you feel that familiar guilt or shame. Is it mealtimes? Screen time? Make a note of these situations.Challenge your thoughts. These triggers are clues that you're holding yourself to an unrealistic standard.Rewrite your rule. For each trigger, write down a new rule that reflects your values and priorities as a mother. For example, "I am a good enough mother when I get healthy food on the table most nights, not every night."Embrace "good enough." Remember, your worth is not defined by your mothering. You are inherently good enough.This journey of rewriting the rules is empowering. It allows you to create a motherhood experience that works for you and your family.Remember, you are strong, capable, and enough exactly as you are.Links:Episode 26 with Dr Sophie BrockThe Good Enough Mother Podcast Amy Taylor-KabbazNikki McCahonFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Being a mum is amazing, but let's be honest, it's also very hard work! And when sickness hits your house, it can feel like everything explodes into chaos. I know for me personally, I find not only my physical health deteriorates if I’m unwell, but my mental health really takes a dive. So I thought it may be helpful to share some strategies that I have to help improve your mindset when those germs come knocking.What I’ve found to be powerful: shift your focus. Our thoughts are powerful things. Instead of stewing about how ill you feel, find some gratitude. Maybe you're grateful your kids are finally sleeping through the night (even if it's because they're knocked out by a cold). Think positive thoughts! Imagine yourself getting healthier with every sunrise.Feeling like you're gonna lose it? Take a deep breath! Deep breathing is amazing for calming your nerves and reminding you that this too shall pass. You’re not in any immediate threat and you are safe. Getting some sunshine and fresh air works wonders too.Need a little mood boost? Turn on some happy music, listen to a guided meditation, or find some funny videos online. Anything that makes you smile is a win.The bottom line is this: you're not alone. Every mum faces these battles. By using these simple tips, you can weather the storm of sickness and come out the other side feeling calmer and more positive. Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

As a Mum of four, coach and multiple business owner, I spend most of my days listening, nurturing, and getting things done. There's not always a lot of room for, well, me.This year, I decided to change that. I started thinking about what I could do as a hobby that was purely for myself. It didn’t have to be connected to any particular career aspirations or life goals, it just had to feel like it was just for me. The more I thought about it, I decided singing lessons would be something I’d like to try, although the thought of it made my palms sweaty. But I was determined to step out of my comfort zone and discover more about myself as a person.I’d always enjoyed singing as a young girl (didn’t we all dance and sing into the hairbrush as a teen?) and I signed up for singing lessons with the amazing Jayden who is seriously the most encouraging human ever.Let me tell you, those first few lessons were rough. My inner critic was having a field day – who did I think I was, belting out tunes in a room, even if it was a soundproof shed. But Jayden kept pushing me to "take up space," to embrace the sound of my own voice, wobbly notes and all.And guess what? It's been incredible. Singing lessons have become more than just learning proper technique and focusing on my breathing. They've become a way to reconnect with my playful side, to let go of control and just have fun making weird noises (yes, weird noises are part of the curriculum).More importantly, it's shown my kids a different side of me. They see me learning something new, embracing challenges, and maybe even butchering a song or two. I’m not attached to the outcome and I know practice is progress. They’re learning that too. It's a powerful message – that it's okay to pursue your passions, no matter your age or skill level.This weekend, I'm even doing a performance with Jayden's other students! Nervous? Absolutely. But also excited to step outside my comfort zone and, well, take up some space.So, I pose a challenge to you: how are you taking up space in your life? Are there dreams you've put on hold? Maybe it's time to dust them off and give them a go. You might be surprised at what you discover about yourself.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

“Is this decision serving me to my greater good?”This is one of the questions I want to leave you with as I take a break from this podcast.I have found making the decision to put the podcast, and other parts of my business on hold to be incredibly difficult, and I understand that readjusting your priorities can be hard, but you are important and your health is important.Adam and I are off to forge our own path in our farming business and as we make plans and decide what that will look like for us and our family I want to be there for all of it by having the headspace and capacity to be fully present, and to be emotionally available for my family.My deepest gratitude and heartfelt thanks to you for tuning into ME + MOTHERHOOD over this year and for joining in on the conversations.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Dr Sophie Brock is a motherhood studies sociologist and mother living in Sydney, Australia. She provides analysis of motherhood in our culture and the ways individual experiences of mothers are shaped by broader social constructs.Sophie's work contributes to changing the cultural conversation on motherhood and the individual experiences of mothers to create a world where mothers feel empowered, supported and valued.In this episode we cover:Dr Sophie’s Fish Tank of Motherhood analogy for understanding social constructThe power of rewriting the narrative around motherhood, shifting from victimhood to agency and the concept of the “good enough mother”The impact of societal constructs and culture on experiences of motherhood and the need for questioning of societal norms and expectationsThe “perfect mother myth” and addressing anger, understanding triggers and finding productive ways to respondAs you navigate your own motherhood journey and the challenges of being a mum, it’s crucial to remember that you are not alone. Together, we can debunk harmful narratives, validate our experiences and work towards a society where mothers feel supported and valued.The wisdom and practical experience that Dr Sophie shares in this episode is going to be incredibly impactful on your motherhood journeyBenita xConnect with Dr Sophie Brock:The 'Fish-Tank' of Motherhood ModelThe Good Enough Mother PodcastBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

“Our challenges now will be their strengths in the future” shares Steph Schmidt on navigating her motherhood journey.Steph is a psychologist working in farmer mental health and grassroots and community based strategies. She is also a mother to 3 boys and alongside her husband runs a sheep and cropping farm in South Australia.Steph openly admits that she has found motherhood to be the hardest thing she has ever done, and has navigated raising 3 sparkler boys on a busy farm whilst battling postnatal depression. In this episode we cover:Navigating the ups and downs of motherhood and embracing the different seasons that come with itThe challenges and joys Steph has experienced balancing farmwork, solo parenting and prioritising what is most important in lifeEmbracing authenticity while sharing personal experiences and respecting the privacy of othersWhat Steph knows about motherhood now that she wishes she knew back at the beginning of her journeySteph’s experience with postnatal depressionSteph is incredibly open and honest about the challenges and joys that she has faced on her motherhood journey so far and I know that you will take so much of her wisdom with you.Benita xConnect with Steph’s Story: https://www.gidgetfoundation.org.au/stories/stephanie-schmidts-storyBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

“I am”Have you ever thought about the power and potency of these words?What we impress on our subconscious mind is what comes to reality for us.The power that words hold for us can easily be overlooked or thrown to the side, and in the last 18 months I have become aware that since I was a teenager I have been managing a tendency towards anxiety and made the conscious decision to never say “I am anxious”.Why?Because when I say those words, I feel my heart skip a beat and the anxiety within me.This is a short episode to help you understand the importance of these two powerful words and how you can use everyday language to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Sunny Roberts is deeply passionate about helping women return to their feminine energy. Born and raised in Germany and working in a corporate career she spent her 20s operating in masculine push mode and burnt out at 28 which led her to become a yoga and mindfulness teacher. Becoming a mum of two boys she found herself struggling in her own marriage of 7 years and was ready to give up when she discovered that embracing her feminine energy was the key to lasting connection and love in her relationship.Today she is on a mission to help other women have the same awakening. Sunny deeply believes that every woman deserves to feel loved and cherished in her relationship. What separates Sunny from others in this space is that she actually lives what she talks about. In this episode we cover:Navigating the challenges of parenthood and maintaining a healthy relationship amidst the chaos.How Sunny rediscovered and embraced her femininity as a means of improving personal satisfaction and relationship dynamics.The importance of prioritising your time and effort in nurturing the relationship between partners as parents.Seeking help and support from professionals to facilitate important conversations and navigate relationship difficulties.The transformative journey of self-discovery and identity redefinition in the context of motherhood and partnership.This is a beautiful conversation focused around the stages of relationships and challenges faced by parents and how you can navigate through these seasons.I know you will love getting to know Sunny and our conversation.Benita xConnect with Sunny:Instagram: @wholehearted.womanJoin the Wholehearted Woman Facebook Community Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

**Themes of mental health, pregnancy loss, medical trauma and women’s health issues.**This is not an episode for little people's ears. Pop your headphones on, or listen to it when you're alone.“I’ve really learned that the best parents, and the best mums that I know are the ones that become the parent that their child needs them to be” shares Kate Fisher on her motherhood experience.Kate is a fierce blood donation advocate and is the creator of the Milkshakes for Marleigh blood donation movement and podcast. She is also a child centre play therapist working with children and families who have experienced medical traumaKate and her husband Geoff have four children, three of those living, with her youngest having autoimmune encephalitis and accompanied by their additional family member, Patty the seizure response and autism assistance dog.In this episode we cover:How Kate sums up her motherhood experience and her road to welcoming children into the worldGratitude, permission and the role of support networks for infertility and motherhoodNavigating a pandemic with an immunocompromised childNavigating family life with three children with various neurodevelopmental disabilities and a critical health conditionLeaning in and leaning out, navigating survival mode and finding what serves Kate as a mum through difficult timesThis is a deep and heavy conversation in parts and there is so much more that we cover than what is written here.I know that there are mother’s out there that will benefit from hearing about Kate’s motherhood story.Benita xConnect with Kate:Hear more about Marleigh’s story on the Milkshakes for Marleigh Podcast: Spotify or AppleJoin the Milkshakes for Marleigh Lifeblood Team: 131 495Instagram: @katefisherplaytherapy and @milkshakes_for_marleighWebsite: milkshakesformarleigh.orgBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

My own invisible battle.This has been on my heart for a while now, and it will give you some context for the work that I do with mums, my experiences and hardships with mental health from my own motherhood journey.In this episode I share a very personal, raw and vulnerable letter that I wrote in November 2018 and emailed to a group of Mums around the same stage of motherhood I was.At the time of writing this letter I was finding my feet again after burnout, postnatal anxiety, and probably postnatal depression, though I didn't have a handle on those terms at the time. I wrote it because I wanted other mums to know that I wasn't always the 'supermum' they thought I was (a smile can cover up a lot!) and that they weren’t alone if they had felt the same way I did.I also chat about:A little life update post ACL surgeryMy invisible struggle with mental health as a mumFinding joy, creativity and a way to contribute meaningfully through my personal developmentWhy I don’t think it’s healthy to put a spotlight on the term “supermum”The strength and realisation I found in writing out my struggle and how I got support to move through “The Black Hole”I know that this letter will resonate with so many mums out there who are going through their own invisible struggle too. I want you to know that you’re never alone!Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Katrina is a Meditation and Wellbeing educator, a fourth generation farmer and co-owner of the family run business, Barham Avocados. Katrina is a passionate rural advocate who cares deeply about rural and regional Australia and is on a mission to support Rural Women to thrive and lead through her Meditation and Mindset Training Business. Her experience travelling all over the world shaped her desire to build strong and supportive rural communities with thriving people to enhance a sense of belonging and to encourage entrepreneurism and innovation. She hosts a podcast called This Rural Life and runs a boutique accommodation offering on their farm near Barham. Katrina has been a panellist on Q+A and has featured on ABCs Women’s Work program Smiling Mind campaigns as well as various radio interviews.In this episode we cover:Katrina’s view on productivity as a busy mum of four juggling life and business and how you can be more productive through doing less.The importance of practising presence and getting off the hamster wheel of endless thoughts and multitasking in our mind.Laying the important foundations of sleep, rest, food and movement to be able to achieve the incredible things that you are here to achieve.What we, as women, need to get better at considering when it comes to saying yes, and being honest with ourselves about our capacity and priorities.Why Katrina loves meditation and her top 3 strategies for managing a full plate with joy and ease.This conversation is all about productivity vs presence and the question “When you say yes to something, what are you saying no to?”I know so many of you will love this conversation.Benita xConnect with Katrina:Wellbeing, Meditation, Podcast: @katrina_myers_Lost and Found Retreat: @lostandfoundbarhamBarham Avocados: @barhamavocadoswww.katrinamyers.com.auwww.barhamavocados.com.auBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

 “No matter how fiercely independent you are and how much you struggle to ask for help, when push comes to shove, you end up having to ask for help” shares Riana Davis on her motherhood lessons.Riana has been officially part of our family for around 10 years, and I am so grateful to call her my sister-in-law. Riana is married to my younger brother Shawn and together they have two young girls aged 7 and 9 who are the most incredible little humans.As far as mums go Riana is incredible and she has joined me on the podcast to share her motherhood story which includes the loneliness, difficulty and fullness that comes with being a mum. In this episode we cover:How Riana sums up her motherhood experience so farThe importance of creating a village around you, and how this can go well beyond family and comes in all different shapes and sizesNavigating motherhood when her husband is out of the house from 5am each morning, and making millions of little decisions each day on your ownThe greatest joys Riana has experienced as a mum, along with the greatest challengesWorking through making tough decisions and having neurodivergent childrenThere’s so much more that Riana and I touch on in this episode as well, including the importance of being open and honest about the struggles that come with motherhood so that others don’t feel so alone.I know so many of you will love this conversation.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306 Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

The Art of Trying.In this context, trying is the colloquial term used to describe the process of deliberately timing intercourse to coincide with ovulation for the purpose of creating an embryo.It implies action.I came to detest the word trying because it invoked in me a sense of hard work, futility and never quite getting there.It’s also the title of my book.Whilst my husband and I now have 4 beautiful children, it was a long journey filled with dark and light while trying to conceive at different times over 7 years.If you are currently experiencing an underlying pain of things happening or not happening for you this little bite sized episode is a note to you to let you know that I get it.Benita xPS. This episode comes from the preface of my book, The Art of Trying. If you’d like to read a little more, you can download a free copy of chapter 1 here: https://benitabensch.com/the-art-of-trying/#freePSS. BUSY MUMS! THIS IS FOR YOU!Join me for a free mid-year check-in, training, opportunity for self exploration, coaching with Benita AND a giveaway!Head to my website at https://benitabensch.com/reset/ Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Maddy Bento is a degree qualified nutritionist working in the body image and intuitive eating space.She was an exhausted mumma who was trying so hard to eat “perfectly” and her mental health suffered, along with her relationship with her body health and food.Maddy has since learnt about Intuitive Eating and Health At Every Size (HAES) and has not only transformed her own relationship with food and her body, but does so for other mums that have become caught up in trying so hard to be “healthy” and follow the “rules” only to have their mental health suffer from it.In this episode we cover:What drove Maddy towards body acceptance coaching and intuitive eatingHow Maddy worked on her own relationship with her body and food to improve her mental healthChanges in body image and mental health of women during pregnancy and post birthWhere guilt and shame stem from when it comes to food and eating habitsHow decision fatigue plays into women not nourishing their bodies and mindsDieting, vulnerability and letting go of the need to control what’s happening around youMaddy reminds us all that your weight is not your worth.There are incredible things about each and everyone of us, as humans, sisters, daughters, mothers and none of them are related to the weight on a scale.I know so many of you will love this conversation.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

“Because ultimately for them to become adults, they need to be able to learn along the way” shares Kylee Curtis on walking the line between expectations and nurturing individuality in her children.Kylee is my older sister and she has been an incredible role model to me, and as far as mum’s go, she’s pretty amazing.Kylee’s children are older than mine. She has a 14, 16 and 18 year old so we are at very different stages of our motherhood journeys, and she is joining me on the podcast to discuss her experience with motherhood and what it’s like to get to where she is in her journey.In this episode we cover:How Kylee sums up her motherhood experience to this pointHer core philosophy that shaped her through all the different phases that she has gone through as a mumThe greatest challenges, joys and learnings Kylee has experienced along the wayThe experience of watching your children blossom into being their own unique individualsEstablishing boundaries without guilt and learning to give yourself a break.This conversation with Kylee was a beautiful one, and she generously shares so much about herself, her family and the phases we go through as our children grow.I know so many of you will love this conversation.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Do you think it’s possible to feel good during the afternoon and evening regardless of the chaos that might be happening around you?There is a lot of focus on our morning routines and I absolutely believe in starting the day with a routine that makes you feel good and gives you a high vibration to carry throughout the day.However, I don’t think we spend enough time talking about afternoon and evening energy and routine, and how we can support ourselves (especially as mothers) to create a more easeful and less stressful end to the day.In this episode I chat about:How decision fatigue can affect us during the afternoon and eveningHow we can feel good later in the day no matter what’s happening around usThe importance of recognising what is and isn’t within your controlWhy I want you to know what your triggers are5 strategies to help you manage decision fatigue at the end of the dayLearning about decision fatigue was a game changer for me and I hope this episode is the same for you.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Trigger Warning: Child LossMegan Hillukka is a bereaved mother, with 7 children, one who died suddenly at 15 months old - her precious Aria.Because of Aria, Megan now encourages and supports grieving mothers that though the worst thing has happened to them, their life is not over. She is the creator of a space called Grieving Moms Haven, where she helps moms learn how to process and move through the emotions of grief through meditation, tapping meditation, breath work and other mindfulness practices. Grieving Mom's Haven also provides a place of safety and compassion within grief, so that these moms can feel themselves again and hope for their future.This episode is emotional and powerful and I believe it is a very important conversation for us to be having.In this episode we cover:Megan’s own journey with grief and trauma as a bereaved motherHow and why she made the decision to support other grieving mothersThe layers of grief that losing a child brings and the trauma that comes alongside this lossHow grieving mothers can begin to ease their painThe importance of mindfulness and getting to know your bodyThe impact that Grieving Mom’s Haven is having for other women and on MeganWhat Megan wants you to know if you are grieving the loss of a childThese conversations aren’t easy, but they are important ones to have, and I am so grateful for Megan for using her experience to inform, guide and support other women. Sending you love as you listen to this and an extra big hug to those of you living through the unspeakable pain of child loss.Connect with MeganWebsite: www.meganhillukka.comInstagram: @cultivatedfamilyMegan's membership is open at the end of each month at www.grievingmomshaven.comShe also has a free video on anxiety and grief on her website at www.meganhillukka.comBenita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

“It sets up an automatic kind of rule book or framework or structure that we then automatically compare ourselves to, analyse and wonder” shares Terri Williams of her Motherhood Story and being questioned around going back to work.There is a 10 year age gap between myself and my younger sister, Terri Williams.Terri got married in 2020 and had her little baby girl in 2022 who is now about to turn one so we are in quite different stages of our motherhood journeys. In this episode Terri is joining me to discuss her experience of being a first time mum and finding balance in her life again.In this episode we cover:How Terri sums up her motherhood experience so farThe impact that being a new mother has on your relationship with your partnerHow Terri is addressing the pressure felt around going back to paid workThe top 3 things that being a mother has taught Terri about herselfComparison, pressure and evaluating priorities as a mumThis is a beautiful conversation about Terri’s motherhood story so far and she shares so honestly and openly about her challenges and joys in the past 12 months.I know so many of you will benefit from this conversation.Registrations are open until this Friday March 31st for the Rise & Shine Retreat. You can find more information over at benitabensch.com/retreat.Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Have you been feeling the call to connect in person?In my mind there’s really no substitute for meeting in person and after a couple of years of having no in person events, I have been feeling a really strong desire to create an event that can bring this incredible community together.This episode is dedicated to our Rise and Shine Retreat that I am co-hosting with Sunny Roberts from Wholehearted Woman.In this episode, I am talking through:Why I am hosting this retreatWhat it’s like to go on a retreat for those of you that may be a little nervous about going on a retreat for the first timeMy intention for the retreat and a bit of an insight into what will be happeningWhat I wish for those who are attending to get out of this experienceIf you are feeling drawn to join us, there is a reason that you feel that. It’s your intuition or a little nudge from the universe that this is an experience that is for you and where you’re at in life right now.Sunny and I have created a spacious schedule with so many experiences including meditation and yoga, a workshop about cooking sustainable and nourishing food, a sacred cacao ceremony and more so that you have time to relax alongside stepping out of your comfort zone a little.Registrations are open until March 31st 5pm AEST and you can find more information over at benitabensch.com/retreat.If you have any questions, please reach out and I look forward to meeting some of you there.Benita xFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Mothers Group was a lifeline for me as a new Mum. It was a highlight of my week, providing sanity-saving adult connection, a reason to leave the house (even when it was hard!), valuable support and information. The bonds we formed in that Mothers Group have lasted for years.On the day of recording this episode I had visited the same Mothers Group service, in the same room, 9 years on from my own time there. I was a guest, there to discuss matrescence, identity shift, mental health, self care, and the power of your words. It’s a true privilege and something I love doing.This episode reveals 6 lessons I learned from Mothers Group that morning, as well as my perspective and suggestions on each one. Those lessons are:Our opinions and comments to expecting and new Mums have a big impact.Mum guilt is still a major thing.Courageously opening up about challenges, depression and anxiety helps everyone.The ‘who is this new version of me?’ feeling is real, and strong.What we think and say to ourselves most often really matters!Mum shaming happens and it’s not okay!These are important lessons we all need to pay attention to in order to move forward as a Society that sees, hears, and supports mothers in a better way. Let’s all play our part in new and different conversations.***Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

A wife, Mum of 2 boys AND high performance mindset coach who helps people create extraordinary results, CEO of a 7 figure business, and top 1% Proctor Gallagher Institute Consultant. I’m talking about the powerhouse that is Karen Brook. Karen says that she asked these questions of herself even before starting a family: “What did I want motherhood to look like for me? What did I want my story to be?”This powerful conversation is all about choosing the attitude of AND in life, not either/or. We talk about energetics, growth, attitude, Mum guilt, consciously creating, motherhood by design, living the effortless way, and more. In this episode we cover:What’s at the heart of Karen’s coaching and what she teaches.What gets in the way of most people living how they truly want to live.How motherhood has shaped Karen and what she values most.What success means to her and what her philosophies, tips and systems are that support Karen to do what she does.Her view on creating the results you desire in your life.What’s coming up for Karen Brook International in 2023.I was a client of Karen’s for almost 4 consecutive years and without question she’s had a profound influence on my life. She is still a valued mentor of mine and the relationships I’ve formed through Karen’s programs are with me for life.***Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

“It’s easier to be courageous for your child than it is to be courageous for yourself,” shares Jacqui Doyle, the first guest of the ME+MOTHERHOOD ‘My Motherhood Story’ series of conversations with incredible Mums.Like all mothers, Jacqui has experienced her share of ups and downs - the pure joy of the precious moments, blended with the struggle to become a parent, postnatal depression, a body forever changed since childbirth, managing her health and navigating her way through motherhood to reclaim her sense of self and trust in her body.Jacqui’s vulnerability, honesty and generous insight in this episode gives so much; leaving you with new strategies, the knowledge that you are never alone, and that you too can get through hard things. She has a quiet strength and grit about her, melded with a beautiful softness and big heart open to learning, integrating and finding the support she needs.This is a raw and real conversation and you will love Jacqui as much as I do.Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Welcome back for Season 2 of ME + MOTHERHOOD! I hope 2023 is off to a great start for you and yours! This is a short and snappy episode to reconnect with you, and to get you thinking about what’s important to you this year. Instead of discussing goals, I invite you to consider three other powerful questions to shape your decisions and approach in 2023.I also reflect on what personal growth means, why it’s addictive, and share some of the growth stories that clients of mine have experienced in the past 6 months.If you’ve been focusing on everything but yourself over the holiday period, this is a great episode to tune into with a blank sheet of paper and your favourite drink. It’s time to put the spotlight back on you mumma.Thank you for tuning in. Benita xBe kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

2022, where did you go!? For this last episode of Season 1 of ME + MOTHERHOOD I took a little longer in order to reflect on the year that’s been. Reflection is incredibly powerful, and important, and I encourage you to do it for yourself! It reveals important information for us to respond to.For me, 2022 has been a year of self-exploration and uncovering for me what it means to heal, thrive and lean into the person I am becoming. In this episode I chat about:A wrap up of the year and what I've learned, including my most significant personal challenge this year.Finishing the year with gratitude.What's coming up in 2023!We had our first Mother’s Circle in GLOW today. It was beautiful, cleansing, grounding and above all else, connected us as women having a human experience amongst all of life’s ebbs and flows. There was a lot of end-of-year overwhelm. This time of year is a lot. Too much. As a Society we need to change it! Or as individuals we need to make new choices for our health and wellbeing. When you can, take time amongst the noise to sit in quiet reflection.I hope that what I share in this episode is supportive for you. Blessings for the festive season and enjoy a break. Thank you for your support of my podcast so far - I am very grateful. See you in February for the beginning of Season 2!With love and gratitude,Benita x***Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Right now, what do you need to give yourself permission to be, do, have or give?What do you hear whispering quietly within you, waiting and wanting you to bring to life? If you would only give yourself permission, what do you really desire?This podcast episode is a loving kick up the butt from me to give yourself permission. Don’t wait for a permission slip any longer - give it to yourself! This is your life and you only get one shot at it.In this episode, I dive into why giving yourself permission is key, and how to do it. We chat about:The importance of permissionWhere do you need to give yourself permission?What comes before and after (decision... action)There is a full lesson devoted to decision and permission in my Illuminate Coaching Program and ‘giving myself permission’ is one of the most common and biggest breakthroughs that the Mums I work with share in the program feedback.Really pause and ask yourself: Where is a lack of permission holding me back? Where can I give myself permission? I invite you to declare right now that 2023 will be the year you give yourself permission to be, do, have and give more of what’s true for you!Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Have you ever felt like you’ve lost your spark in motherhood? What I mean by this is when you feel flat, like you’re going through the daily motions of life, lacking in meaning and purpose. It feels like there’s a bucket over your inner light and it’s barely flickering. You may feel this way when:For any number of reasons you have been forced to, or chosen to, give up, or put to the side what lights you up.You used to know what lights you up but now you don’t know if or how that fits into your life or if it’s what you want anymore.You are going through significant challenges in your life such as tragedy or illness.When you feel like you’ve lost your spark you might feel downright awful, confused, lost, lacking in confidence, or maybe just have a feeling that you need to tweak something.In this episode I explore three strategies you can use right away to help find your spark again. They are:Ask the hard questionsReconnect with your giftsFind the courage to take a stepI hope what I share ignites something within you to help you find your spark again. And of course, this is the work I specialise in and am here to support you with, through my Illuminate Group Coaching Program and GLOW Membership.Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

There’s no instruction manual for motherhood. I sometimes wish there was but also wonder: would I read it, or toss it to the side like a set of IKEA instructions? What I’ve found to be true is that even with an abundance of information at my fingertips, there’s no escape from living through, and learning from, the lessons we are dealt on the journey of motherhood.This episode is a personal reflection on 15 of my best-of motherhood lessons so far. I probably could have shared 50 of them! These were the first 15 that came to mind and I expand on each of them individually in this episode:How my relationship with my partner has changed and adaptedConsistency is important, and also difficult (for me)3 months is not the magic numberMotherhood is a journey of self discovery and our children are our greatest teacherThe effects of sleep deprivation are realDon’t hit pause… keep doing what brings you joyMatrescence is great to understandHousework is not motherhoodFind more help, support and a communityMotherhood is an AND game, not an either/or gameA mother’s strength knows no boundsI/you/we are normal, it’s not just me/youMotherhood is co-creative with our childrenThe perfect mother myth impacts on usEverything is a phaseI’d love to hear your best-of motherhood lessons so far! Tag me @benitabensch or send me a message on Instagram or Facebook.Be kind to yourself as you listen to this. If this, or any, ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast episode ‘triggers you’ or raise issues for you, I urge you to reach out and speak to a professional on any one of these related support lines: Lifeline: 13 11 14Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380PANDA National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Do you sometimes avoid making decisions?Are you unclear about how to make decisions or take action that aligns with what feels right for you in your life? This episode is a special one. It’s a recording of my recent conversation with Meg Durham from her podcast The School of Wellbeing, Episode 56. Meg has generously given me permission to share it with you on ME + MOTHERHOOD.In this heartfelt conversation, we speak about:The decision-making processWhat stops us from taking aligned actionWhy we often seek out the permission of others to help make important decisions in our lifeAnd so much more, including some real and raw stories from my life that demonstrate the power of decision and permission.What we share is so closely aligned with the solo episode I had planned around the same topic, but even better, because you get doses of Meg’s incredible wisdom!During this conversation, you’ll understand how to become more aware of your decision-making skills and why there’s so much power in taking charge of your personal decision-making. Walk away with essential skills you can implement today to build a more fulfilling life by your own design.“Everything is always a choice - whether we’re consciously aware of it or not.” - Benita BenschFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

I often hear from mothers who come to me for coaching: ‘I don’t know who I am anymore.’ I totally get it because I have said and felt it too in the past! It’s no surprise we would feel this way when you consider the enormity of the transition we go through moving from woman, to woman AND mother. All mothers go through an identity shift - some with more ease and acceptance than others - and that’s okay.In this episode I cover:Understanding and accepting the transition - an introduction to matrescenceBuilding an image of the 'new' youLoving yourself no matter what!Entering into motherhood, and adapting to it, really is a journey! We don’t go back to who we once were and while it may be terrifying to let our ‘old’ self go, it’s also incredibly liberating. You get to choose the new you! Through the process of motherhood you have evolved into a deeper, more brilliant version of yourself. It’s time to embrace it!RESOURCES:A Manifesto for Mothers free downloadFind free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

We all know that self care is important and that we should be focusing on it. But what is self care really? And the even better question: how do you practically achieve it on a consistent basis when you’re a busy Mum juggling so much at once?In this episode I cover:Defining self care for you3 tips on finding time for self care in your busy lifeThe mindset you need to support self care habitsHow to know when you need more than self careThere’s often a difference between what we ‘should’ do, and what we actually do in everyday life. This episode helps to bridge that gap!Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com

Welcome to Season 1 of the ME + MOTHERHOOD podcast! This episode is all about the backstory to ME + MOTHERHOOD because, well, who doesn’t love a good backstory!In this episode, I share the what and why behind the podcast including:Who I am (Benita, your host), what I do, why and how I got hereWhy I’m launching ME + MOTHERHOODThe story behind the podcast nameWhat you can expect from this showIf you’re interested in my story of arriving here and finding my voice again through breakdowns, drought, mothering 4 boys, publishing a book, and returning to my calling as a Coach, this episode is one to tune into.Find free printable affirmations and affirmation phone wallpaper graphics from RESOURCES at www.benitabensch.comLet’s meet: Book a discovery call with me Subscribe: Join my mailing list Website: http://www.benitabensch.com Freebie: Affirmation Email Series Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/benitabensch Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/benitabensch This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit benitabensch.substack.com