New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast

Today, I am joined by Tracey Bee, owner of the The Divorce Solutionist. Tracey specializes in guiding self-represented litigants through divorce and custody cases as a Family Court Strategist™. Tracey studied psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University and got her legal training at Seton Hall University School of Law, and she leverages both of those areas of expertise to provide actionable strategies to help clients navigate family court with clarity and confidence. In this conversation, Tracey shares her wisdom to help people understand when self-representation is a good idea, what the pitfalls are to be aware of, and how to be best prepared to walk into a courtroom as your own representative.  This discussion was incredibly informative and sheds light on a method of divorce that many people don't even know is an option.  To connect with Tracey Bee, visit her website The Divorce Solutionist. 

In today's episode, Tamar is joined by family law attorney Nicole Sodoma.  Nicole is a nationally recognized family law attorney, author and thought leader, who is redefining divorce, co-parenting and modern family dynamics. She is the founder and managing principal of Sodoma Law, the largest family law firm in North and South Carolina. A former litigator, certified parenting coordinator and collaborative law attorney, Nicole draws on her own lived experience as a step-parent, mother, ex-wife and entrepreneur to provide personalized strategies and tools for families navigating complex transitions. She is the author of Please Don't Say You're Sorry, which helps readers navigate the challenges of marriage and divorce with insight, humor and practical tools to move forward. Nicole is also the founder of the Sodoma Law Foundation, and a sought-after source on all things divorce and family, having been featured in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, USA Today and Business Insider. Together, Tamar and Nicole discuss the complex time between staying and going. The "quiet middle" that people find themselves in when trying to figure out whether to stay in their marriage or leave. Nicole shares insights based on her expertise as an attorney for over two decades and her lived experiences.  You can find Nicole on all socials @nicolesodoma. To learn more about Nicole's law practice, visit the Sodoma Law website. 

And we're back with a new episosde of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast!  This episode probably should have been the first one I ever did. I realized that often when I'm meeting with potential new clients or talking to people online, they aren't really sure what a divorce coach is.  In this episode I break down that question and I address some of the most common other ones I receive. What's the difference between divorce coaching and therapy? Why should I spend money on another professional when divorce is already expensive? Do you just advocate for everyone to get divorced? Have a listen to this episode and let me know if you have anything to add or any other questions you'd like answered. You can find me on Instagram or Threads and you can always reach out via email. 

In this episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast, Tamar is joined by attorney and author Renee Bauer.  Renee has been a divorce attorney for 20 years. She is the founder and managing attorney of Happy Even After Family Law in Connecticut.  Renee is also an international speaker, author of 4 books – Divorce in Connecticut, The Ultimate Guide to Solo and Small Firm Success, the children's book Percy's Imperfectly Perfect Family, and her most recent, She Who Wins.  Renee hosts the annual She Who Wins Summit, a live event created to inspire, motivate and challenge women to move forward bravely in their personal and business lives. Her impact has been recognized by Success Magazine where she was nominated as a Woman of Influence and with awards such as Litigator of the Year, Women-Owned Business of the Year, and New Leaders in the Law. She has been featured in multiple media outlets such as the International Business Times, Comment Central, AP News, NBC, FOX, and iHeart Radio. In this episode, Tamar and Renee explore: Why Renee fell in love with family law How Renee helps clients mitigate conflict  Tough conversations lawyers can have with clients to help them realize when they are escalating conflict When going to court is unavoidable Other tips and tidbits of legal expertise Renee's app She Who Wins and all that it provides  You can find Renee on Instagram @msreneebauer or her firm website http://familylawyerct.com.  As always, you can find me at http://nbdivorcecoaching.com or on Instagram at @nbdivorcecoaching.  Be back with a new episode soon!  

Welcome back to New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast! I am thrilled to welcome Jill Kaufman to the show for this episode.  Jill is a divorce coach, therapist, mediator, and co-parenting expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, Jill made it her life's mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book, online course, and her transformational coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce so that they have less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace. In this episode we address: The idea of "staying for the kids" and how it really impacts children Co-parents bad mouthing each other to the kids and ways to avoid falling into this trap How the BIFF style of communication is invaluable for parents going through divorce The importance of protecting yourself and your children emotionally  You can join Jill's facebook group for divorce support here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/separationanddivorcesupportcommunity. or, find her on her website: divorcecoachjill.com As always you can find me on Instagram or by email or on my website nbdivorcecoaching.com.       

A few weeks ago, Tamar came across an instagram post in which a woman sent a Venmo request to the woman who had an affair with her husband. In the memo, she explained that since this woman played a role in her divorce, the other woman should at least contribute to it financially. She hashtagged the memo with "homewrecker"  Click here for IG post. This got Tamar thinking about accountability and who is actually responsible for the end of a marriage. Spoiler alert: it's not the woman who didn't take vows.  In this episode, Tamar: Breaks down the misogyny behind the concept of the homewrecker and why we need to stop using the word Looks at how the idea of "girl code" stays with women throughout their lives Focuses on the importance of holding men, and men alone, accountable for the actions of men Differentiates between being responsible for causing pain and being responsible for the status of a marriage. Share your thought on this episode on Instagram or email Tamar at [email protected]. Happy listening!  

I am so excited to welcome Joelle Perez to the podcast to discuss mediation and why it's such a great option for people looking to end their marriages. Joelle Perez is a compassionate and experienced divorce mediation attorney who serves as a neutral third party, helping clients reach mutually agreeable settlements with dignity and respect. Her mediation style is rooted in creating a safe, supportive environment that prioritizes the emotional and financial well-being of both spouses—and their children. Having personally navigated divorce mediation, Joelle brings a unique and deeply empathetic perspective to her work. She understands firsthand the emotional challenges her clients face, which allows her to approach each case with sensitivity, insight, and a genuine commitment to helping families transition with care. Joelle is the founder of Peacemaker Divorce Mediation, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the divorce process in a cooperative, amicable, and cost-effective way. Her mission is to help individuals move forward with clarity, control, and compassion. In addition to her private practice, Joelle is a leader in the field of divorce mediation. She is the Past President of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, the former Chair of the Council's Nominating Committee, and former Co-Chair of its Education Committee. She also serves as Program Manager for the Long Island Collaborative Divorce Professionals, working to advance collaborative approaches to family law.

On this week's installment of the New Beginning's podcast, Tamar welcomes Nanette Murphy to talk about Netflix's new show, Four Seasons.  A remake of a 1981 film of the same name, Four Seasons follows three couples in their 50s, all best friends since college, through one year of their lives -- as one of them decides he's ready to end his marriage and start a new chapter.  Tamar is thrilled to be joined by Nanette Murphy to unpack these characters and their stories.  Nanette Murphy is a dedicated Divorce and Life Reinvention Coach for women over 40, who understands the unique challenges that come with navigating life after divorce. Having experienced her own journey of healing and growth after a 25-year marriage, she has spent the last decade transforming her pain into purpose. Her mission is to empower women to prepare for the divorce process, gain essential knowledge, and ultimately thrive in their new lives. Nanette walks alongside her clients, offering support, guidance, and a compassionate ear as they heal, grow, and rediscover their true selves. You can find Nanette at her website livelifenowwithpurpose.com. As always you can find Tamar on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoaching or on her website http://nbdivorcecoaching.com.     

It was an absolute pleasure to welcome Leah Hadley onto the podcast! Leah Hadley will tell you she's no stranger to financial challenges. She became an adoptive parent to three overnight, got divorced, and built her business from the ground up, to name a few. These were times when careful financial planning was critical to her peace of mind. Now an award-winning financial planner, sought-after speaker, Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC), and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), Leah is the founder of Intentional Wealth Partners and Intentional Divorce Solutions as well as the host of the Intentional Divorce Insights podcast. She uses her knowledge and nearly 20 years of experience to help her clients make wise financial decisions so they can feel confident in their financial future.   We are so lucky to have Leah sharing her wisdom with us! If you'd like to connect with Leah, find her on Instagram at @watchherthrive or visit her website http://watchherthrive.co. Leah also has an active Facebook community which you can find by searching Watch Her Thrive on FB.    As always you can find me on Instagram at @nbdivorcecoaching. Book a free 20 minute coaching discovery call or reach out with any questions or comments on my website at http://nbdivorcecoaching.com.    I look forward to connecting with you! 

Hi all,  Welcome back! In this episode, I'm exploring the question of whether marriages can survive after there's been infidelity.  I'm not simply answering the question, because the answer is easy. We *can* do anything. But looking at the why of it all is far more interesting and important if you're considering staying married to a person who has betrayed you in this way.  Have a listen and let me know your thoughts.  Find me on Instagram or on my website. 

We're back! After a summer hiatus that lasted through much of the fall, I'm thrilled to be back with a new episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast.  In this episode, I am looking at the natural trajectory of relationships and exploring how the commitment to a marriage impacts that natural course.  I'd love to hear your thoughts after you listen. Please come find me on Instagram or email me at [email protected].  If you're interested in booking a free 20 min discovery call to learn more about divorce coaching, visit my website here: www.nbdivorcecoaching.com.  

This week, I am so excited to welcome Victoria Kirilloff to the podcast. Victoria is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Family Financial Mediator who helps clients get clear on their financial facts in order to make their divorces as financially successful as possible.  After a decade in a marriage that wasn't working, Victoria found herself at a crossroads. Wanting to leave her partner, but recognizing that they were completely financially entangled, Victoria set out to make sense of the finances in order to bring about the freedom she needed. Victoria created her first ever Divorce Impact Analysis report which she now uses with her clients to help them get the financial clarity needed for a successful uncoupling.  Victoria's knowledge and expertise is invaluable and I am so excited to share her thoughts with you. You can see more of what Victoria has to offer a on Instagram at @divorceanalytics or on her website at divorceanalytics.com. As always you can find me at @nbdivorcecoaching nbdivorcecoaching.com [email protected]   

Oof!! This week we were treated to video footage of Kansas City Chief's kicker Harrison Butker speaking to the graduating class of Benedictine College in Kansas. He throws out some wildly archaic ideas about marriage and the role of women in the home that I felt needed to be immediately addressed. Always curious to hear your thoughts! Come share them with me on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoaching or email me at [email protected].   

Months ago, my therapist and I, prompted by an answer in the NYT crossword had a long conversation about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Though it is a concept that refers to business investments, it is incredible how well it relates to relationships. There is so much insight to be gained from the Sunk Cost Fallacy in terms of undesrstanding the motivations behind our decisions. Can't wait to hear what you think. Please share your thoughts with me: Instagram: @nbdivorcecoaching Email: [email protected] Call/text: 516-619-6205

Hi all! We're back! In today's episdoe I am looking at the power of ego - how our need to be liked, chosen, or to feel like we've won leads us to make all kinds of bad decisions for ourselves.  Have a listen and then let me know what you think.  By email: [email protected] On instagram: nbdivorcecoaching instagram On threads: nbdivorcecoaching threads

Welcome back to New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast. This week I have the opportunity to share with you a perspective different from my own. I welcome Cass Morrow onto the show to talk with me about what he sees as society's impact on our decisions to leave relationships.  Cass Morrow is a relationship coach who, along with his wife, helps couples disrupt divorce and create a new kind of marriage. With a background in therapy and personal development, Cass has worked with over 3,200 men in the first 20 months of his business. He is passionate about helping men and women understand their roles in relationships and create a strong foundation for a successful marriage.  I look forward to hearing your thoughts after you have an opportunity to listen to the episode. Find me at: http://instagram.com/nbdivorcecoaching http://threads.com/nbdivorcecoaching email: [email protected] website: http://nbdivorcecoaching.com You can also find Cass in all places @CassFMorrow and with his wife, Kathryn, on the Morrow Marriage Podcast        

Hi everyone and welcome to episode 3: The a**hole conundrum!  This episode is very special to me. It is a concept I use for understanding human behavior that I coined several years ago. I have been waiting for the right opportunity to share it, and it's finally here.  The a**hole conundrum looks at how we behave in certain situations in order to avoid feeling like bad people, when actually these actions make us worse.  Listen now to hear exactly what I mean and to learn the importance of owning our truths. And please be sure to share your thoughts!     

In this episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast, Tamar looks at the concept of forever. Does it make sense as a construct for relationships? Are there other ways to structure marriage that are more in line with people's lived experiences? How does commitment affect the way we assess our relationships? 

Hello! And welcome to the first episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast. In this week's inaugural episode we take a look at the metrics of marriage. How do we judge the success of a marriage? Are we accurate in our assessments or are we using a measuring stick that doesn't quite work? Join me for this discussion and come share your thoughts with me @nbdivorcecoaching on Instagram and Threads.  I look forward to connecting with all of you.