Offhand With Harley

Growing up, my parents taught me to be honest. Then I became a teenager who kept lots of secrets. I’ve lied being straight to my parents and I’ve lied to myself, believing I was who I was. Then I went to college where I was able to explore my identity, sexuality, and my views about the world. I explored my spirituality. I was born Roman Catholic, but at the age of 17, I got baptised as a Born Again Christian as I accepted Jesus into my life to forgive me for all of my sins and save me from the coming rapture. As an adult, I got to make that decision which gave me satisfaction. Then I learned that gay people will suffer in hell if they continue being gay, so I stopped attending church and find my own people by challenging myself to understand the meaning of the universe. Then I fell in love with a guy for the very first time, in which I couldn’t understand in the first place. Then I moved on, then I fell in love with another guy again, and so on. The cycle continued, doing the same thing over and over again. It’s a different kind of pain when you are going through something and you need someone to talk to, but you don’t want to bother anyone, so you just sit there drowning in your own thoughts.

Hello. How are you doing? I hope you guys are well, healthy, safe and sound, and staying hydrated as always wherever you are. I’m good, by the way. Thanks for asking. Today, I need to talk to you guys. We have to have this conversation right now. It is important.

Hello. How are you doing? I’m freshly showered, shaved, and moisturised. You can’t believe this but I’m slathering my body with oils this past few weeks, and I am sooo happy with the result. My skin smoother and I feel so luxurious to say the least. So I’ve been working late from the past week now, and because of this, my schedule of posting here isn’t timely as I planned to . But it’s okay. Nobody listens to me anyway. But I’ll keep going. Because there might be someone out there who might love me for what I say and gets entertain even for a bit. Life is so unpredictable, you know. Nobody knows what will happen next to us or the people around us. Like everybody else, we are hoping for a better outcome, if not better, at least a good one. The thing is, I’ve been pondering about life again because of the choices I had to make for the past few weeks now. Nobody knows what I am going through because I don’t talk about it. I don’t like talking about it. I like talking about the good stuff, the positive in life, and the things that make people happy and inspired. I don’t really know if that is a good thing or not, but that’s just me. I think if you need help, you gotta get help. But in my case, because I’m so good at managing myself and my emotions, I tried to be so casual about it. I’m still trying to be vocal about my struggles. But it’s really hard when no one is there to listen to you and who will not judge you for it.

Hello. Do you ever find yourself making assumptions about someone or something without any real evidence to back it up? Maybe you assume your co-worker is slacking off because they're always on their phone, or that your friend is mad at you because they didn't reply to your text right away. Well, hold on to your hats because in this blog post, we're going to dive into the world of assumptions without facts and how your brain can play tricks on you. So, let's start with the basics. What exactly are assumptions without facts? These are beliefs or judgments that you make without any real evidence to support them. They're often based on your own experiences, biases, or expectations, rather than objective facts or observations.

Hello. It’s me, Harley. So today, I want to talk about non-sexual forms of intimacy. Most people who are in a relationship usually just ignore these things because they are just little actions. And most little actions are forgotten right away, usually. We remember the big things in life — the engagement, the half-million dollar wedding, the honeymoon, how big the ring is, is it diamond, is it princess cut, the first home, you know those kinds of things. But the little things, most often than not, we don’t remember them. But the thing is, every meaningful and lasting relationship that I know is built on little things that we do on a daily basis.

Welcome to the first episode of Offhand With Harley where I talk about anything under the sun. Today, I want to talk about why I started the podcast and schedule, and some bits that nobody asks for. Enjoy!