On Our Terms with Ismatou Bah

Be Brave! What's on your mind? PART 2!!! In today’s episode, Ismatou (On Our Terms) and Sofi (Am I Too Loud?!) sat down to finish the conversation from last week on sex, silence, shame, and everything Black Muslim women were never supposed to say out loud. In this part 2, we dive into relationships, dating and so much more. From our first boyfriends, to halal dating and to arranged marriages? They're unpacking first crushes, living authentically, dating experiences and what it means to truly reclaim your choice as a woman. This is the finale Part 2 of a two-part series. 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? IT’S ABOUT DAMN TIME!! In today’s episode, Ismatou (On Our Terms) and Sofi (Am I Too Loud?!) sat down for the conversation they've both been circling for years. The one about sex, silence, shame, and everything Black Muslim women were never supposed to say out loud.From the sex talk that never happened to the cultural double standards that shaped how they learned about their own bodies, this episode is raw, honest, and long overdue. They're unpacking what happens when religion gets weaponized, when silence does more damage than the thing everyone's afraid to name, and what it actually takes to start unlearning all of it.This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Content note: This episode includes discussions of sexual assault, FGM, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.Follow On Our Terms: @onourtermspod Follow Am I Too Loud?!: @amitooloudpod Follow your hosts: @uotamsi & @the_odditty

Be Brave! What's on your mind? For our "Welcome Back & Back to STAY" episode, Ismatou is opening up about Ramadan on her own, returning to her faith with her eyes wide open, and building On Our Terms from scratch as a one-woman show. From unprofessional NYC creatives to the weight of the global ummah, she's holding it all at once and inviting you in. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou sits down with Ndeye Peinda. Ndeye is a Senegalese-American beauty, plus size fashion and lifestyle creator known for her bold style and confident presence. Blending fashion-forward looks, beauty tutorials, and relatable storytelling to inspire her followers to embrace their own style with confidence. She joined Ismatou on the couch to open up about her divorce. Sharing her advice as a muslim woman who’s been there done that. Ndeye talks about marriage counseling, long distance marriage and dating post divorce. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.Don’t forget to follow our guest @ ndeye.peinda 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Reintroducing an episode that was ahead of  its time, this is a conversation with Arewá Basit. A multihyphenate non-binary trans-femme based in Brooklyn. Basit is a performance artist who uses all mediums to put on for the black femmes. I met Arewà through her collective, LEGACY. Since our conversation,  Arewà  modeled for Amy Sherald's portrait “Trans Forming Liberty”, a recreation of the Statue of Liberty with a trans femme as lady liberty. The piece was surrounded by a lot of press and controversy, beginning with the Smithsonian Museums considering removing the piece from a larger collection titled “American Sublime”. Basit also starred in DOLLS directed by Geena Rocero, which premiered at the New Fest Film Festival marking her big screen debut! In this episode, Ismatou sits down with Arewà to dive into a choice many Millennials and Gen Z are making: skipping the holidays to avoid the trauma.  Arewà’s experience is a refreshing and radical departure: she shares a beautiful story of growing into her queer identity with the nurturing support of her mother. In honor of the upcoming holidays, we hope you enjoy! Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.Don’t forget to follow our guest on instagram @ basit_ and Tik Tok @ arewabasit

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou sits down with Anayka She, a native New Yorker to discuss the G-word, gentrification. Anayka shares wonderful insights about the New York City cultural landscape as a full time influencer. Her vibrant personality clearly shines through this conversation. Anayka She, where talent meets a vibrant personality is the sweet spot you can find Panamanian-New Yorker. She’s an R&B singer-songwriter who makes us all laugh and connects her over two million followers with local New York businesses. She's an OG New Yorker with authenticity that translates to her relatable lyrics about love, life and mental health. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.Don’t forget to follow our guest on all platforms @AnaykasheTags: Black girl podcast, nyc , gentrification , R&B musician, NYC native, housing crisis, capitalism 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? For our “Welcome Back” episode, Ismatou is breaking free from superstitions as she dives deeper into her faith. Refusing to be nonchalant she is vowing to share more of her personality, in hopes of cultivating this community founded on vulnerability and authenticity. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.Tags Black girl podcast, NYC , Islam, superstitions, religion, West African 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou recaps her year on the orange chair, reflecting on the highs, lows, and learnings, and sharing some of her final 2024 takeaways. Book your ZocDoc appointments using our link: zocdoc.com/onourterms 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Arewà Basit and Ismatou sit down to talk all things chosen family, navigating the holidays, living independently of your family's projections and of course--Arewà's experience on the iconic and historical, all-queer season of MTV's Are You The One? Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou @uotamsi on IG. You can find Arewà on IG @basit_.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? The full OOT team (Ismatou, Esther, Samantha and Cahleb) break the fourth wall and let you in on what making this podcast was really like, and how their professional and personal journeys with creativity landed them here.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find the OOT team on IG at:@the.esther.c @what.son@cmuulaaaAnd follow @youngblackbrklyn (Samantha’s photo blog) and @cdradio8 (Cahleb’s soon-to-be-launched music criticism blog.Host: Ismatou BahProduced by: Cahleb Derry, Samantha Watson, & Esther ClaytonEdited by: Madeleine RichardsonShot by: Eli KuliSound by: Kobe GuillfordPhotos by: Dumebi Menakaya

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Cahleb returns to the pod, this time in the Orange Chair, to discuss all things friendship with Ismatou from adjusting to changes in relationships throughout your 20s and navigating NYC's social scene, to how Ismatou and Cahleb deal with conflict in their own friendship. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou @uotamsi on IG. You can find Cahleb on IG @cmuulaaa and follow his soon-to-be-launched blog @cdradio8. 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Flo sit down to talk their respective paths to creativity, finessing your career as a creative, and navigating the tweeters & deleters along the way.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Flo @flongala on IG and check out her work at HERE.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Eni take the couch to talk beauty and brains, the pressure on Black women to be “perfect,” desirability, dating expectations, and more.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Eni @enigivensunday on all platforms.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Amadou sit down to chat queerness in Fulani culture, coming out, and navigating cultural/social dynamics while showing up as your authentic self.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Amadou on IG @amazouu

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou sits down solo to talk about her new hair, dealing with body changes, divesting from the male gaze, and the dramatic story of the day she cut it all off! Next time you need a doctor appointment make sure to check out our sponsor ~Zocdoc~ HERE at https://zocdoc.com/onourtermsFollow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou, Skylar, & Jasiel sit down and chat all things polyamory - from polyamory in media to polyamory in practice and everything in between.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Jasiel on IG @allducksrock and Skylar @_skylarrrrrrrrr .

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Bestfriends-in-law Ismatou and Skylar get into all things misandry including disappointment in men, colorism, weaponization of therapy language, tricking niggas, getting a lick vs. finding a partner, and more. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Skylar on IG @_skylarrrrrrrrr.Skylar-Bree Takyi is a queer Black woman, Jersey native, and screenwriter. She studied History & Literature at Harvard University with a focus in ethnic studies and queer theory, graduating Magna Cum Laude and winning the Lee Drama Prize for the student with the most promise in the dramatic arts. After graduating, she moved to Los Angeles to pursue a career in storytelling. Since then, she has gained representation at CAA, written on Bad Robot and JJ Abram's HBO Max series, SUBJECT TO CHANGE, and written for two seasons of a renowned filmmaker’s soon-to-be-announced fantasy series at Netflix. The daughter of Nigerian and Ghanaian immigrants, Skylar has long been influenced by her cultural communities, their love for storytelling, and the ease with which they blur the mundane and the miraculous. Her writing is informed by African diasporic studies, queer theory, and gender studies, as well as speculative genres like sci-fi, horror, and magical realism. In both writing and life, Skylar works to radically prioritize the most marginalized. In case that wasn’t enough, she is also a doula trainee, with the hopes of building a practice that actively combats the subpar experiences and abysmal maternal mortality rates experienced by Black American women. While writing is Skylar's first love, her love for alternative aesthetics, fashion and music is a guiding force – on an off day you can find her bleaching her eyebrows or adding more tattoos to her extensive collection.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Nadir talk gender and racial dynamics in boarding school, the difference in experiences of Black men and Black women in predominantly white spaces, and their perspectives on it all then and now.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Nadir on IG @itsnadirp.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Addis get into demystifying sex work, humanizing sex workers, and how to tell your Caribbean parents that you do porn.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Addis @addisfouche on IG, Twitter and OnlyFans. Be sure to also follow @bitterblush, @the.l.u.s.t.files, and her meme accounts: @nycyourselfout.sj and nycyourselfout.sw. 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Fatou sit down to chat all things Islam from their Fulani Muslim upbringings to the conflation of religion and culture and more. Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IG.You can find Fatou @itsfatoub on IG.

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Jendayi sit down to talk all things mental health from their upbringings, finding the right therapist, getting medicated, and more.Follow us on all socials @onourtermspod and your host Ismatou Bah @uotamsi on IGYou can find Jendayi on IG @⁠_jendayi_, the band @charliebellemusic, & the parties @lesbianhouseparty 

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Ismatou and Cahleb sit down to chat about the phenomenon of “Black Excellence.” They get into their own journeys towards Black Excellence, their critiques of it, and why its ultimately corny. Follow us on all socials @⁠onourtermspod⁠ and your host Ismatou @⁠uotamsi⁠ on IG.You can find Cahleb on IG @⁠cmuulaaa⁠ and his blog CD radio ⁠HERERate us 5 stars if you're a brave one fr

Be Brave! What's on your mind? Welcome to the official trailer for On Our Terms with Ismatou Bah. This is a coming of age podcast where we’ll have unfiltered conversations on hot topics, current events, triumphs, failures and more! Hosted by the big sister who fucks up so you don’t have to ;)Follow us on socials @onourtermspod and Ismatou @uotamsi