Pickles & Pasta with Steph and Jay

What does it actually take to lead creative people without burning out, micromanaging, or losing your own voice in the process? In this episode of Pickles & Pasta, Steph and Jay unpack the realities of creative leadership, feedback, and building with other people when your vision is deeply personal. From Steph's experience transitioning from solo creative to leading a growing brand, to Jay's lessons managing teams across film, sports, and creative production, this is an honest conversation about what leadership really looks like behind the scenes. Steph reflects on learning how to communicate creative direction clearly, navigate difficult feedback, and balance collaboration without compromising instinct. Jay shares stories about hiring mistakes, managing personalities, and the responsibility that comes with guiding people through creative work. Together, they explore the emotional side of leadership, why some feedback builds better work while other feedback creates confusion, and how authenticity becomes the foundation of strong creative teams. This episode also explores: The difference between being a creator, producer, and leader The challenge of giving feedback without crushing creativity The four creative personality types and how they work together What makes someone a great team leader in creative environments Why authenticity matters more than performative leadership Lessons learned from leading teams in fast-moving creative industries What great leadership looks like when you're not in the room And more! This show is hosted by Steph and Jay and produced by Rainbow Creative & ephelants with Matthew “MoJo” Jones as Executive Producer. For sales and partnership inquiries, please contact [email protected] Chapters 0:00 Intro | Creative leadership & building teams 4:00 Transitioning from solo creative to team leader 9:20 Learning how to give feedback effectively 13:06 Different creative personalities & communication styles 18:12 Leadership mistakes and lessons learned 20:41 The four creative personality types 26:09 Perfectionism vs. execution 31:26 Leading creatives without micromanaging 35:13 Protecting creative space as a producer 42:55 Authenticity and trust in leadership 47:13 Final thoughts on leadership, vision & growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when feedback stops being helpful and starts feeling personal? In this episode of Pickles & Pasta, Steph and Jay explore the complicated reality of receiving feedback as a creative, a leader, and a public-facing builder. From formative critiques in design school to unsolicited opinions from strangers online, this is a grounded conversation about what it actually feels like to put your work into the world and have it reflected back through other people’s perspectives. Steph reflects on her time at Parsons, where her work was dissected by industry names like Michael Kors, and how that early exposure to high-level critique shaped her ability to separate useful feedback from emotional noise. Jay brings in the leadership side of the conversation, breaking down what it means to give feedback responsibly when other people are building what you’ve asked them to create. Together, they unpack the difference between critique that sharpens your work and criticism that reveals more about the person giving it than the work itself. They also talk about the emotional side of visibility, from reading feedback third-hand to the unexpected sting of something as small as a friend unsubscribing from an email list. This episode also explores: Why early critique from top-tier professionals can build long-term resilience How to tell the difference between constructive feedback and disguised opinion Why third-party criticism often lands harder than direct conversation What it means to lead creatively without shutting people down The responsibility that comes with giving feedback as a leader The “man in the arena” idea and who actually earns the right to critique your work Dave Grutman’s philosophy of “taking it personal” and what that unlocks A closing reflection on whether your work would change if no one else’s opinion existed Follow & Connect with the Show!Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PicklesAndPastaPodcastFollow ephelants on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ephelants/ Steph’s brand: Have Some Fun TodayThis show is hosted by Steph and Jay and produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) & ephelants (https://ephelantsz.com/) with Matthew “MoJo” Jones as Executive Producer. For sales and partnership inquiries, please contact [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Pickles & Pasta with Steph and Jay, the conversation turns to something a lot of creatives run into but don’t always talk about honestly, what it actually takes to turn an idea into a real business. Steph and Jay share their own paths, and where things didn’t go as planned. Jay talks about starting a tennis racket stringing business before he was 20, with zero business experience, and learning everything the hard way. Steph reflects on walking into Bendel’s with hand-sewn dresses, landing a major moment with Brooke Shields, and still having to figure out how to actually build something sustainable behind the scenes. They get into the gap between being creative and being business-savvy, and why those are two completely different skill sets. There’s a real conversation around pricing, including the costly mistakes that led to a combined ~$100K lost in bad marketing decisions, and why so many creatives undervalue their work early on. They also challenge the idea that everyone should start a business. Sometimes the better move is keeping something as a hobby, and knowing the difference can save a lot of time, money, and stress. The episode breaks down how to recognize when something has real potential versus when it’s being forced into something it’s not. A big theme throughout is the importance of who you surround yourself with. The right people don’t just support you, they help you see your blind spots and make better decisions faster. If you’re a creative, founder, or someone sitting on an idea you’ve been trying to turn into something bigger, this episode offers a more grounded, honest look at what that actually requires. Share your thoughts in the comments. Are you building something right now, or still figuring out what it could be? Follow & Connect with the Show!Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PicklesAndPastaPodcastFollow ephelants on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ephelants/ This show is hosted by Steph and Jay and produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) & ephelants (https://ephelantsz.com/) with Matthew “MoJo” Jones as Executive Producer. For sales and partnership inquiries, please contact [email protected] Chapters 0:00 - Opening 0:39 — Intro: From Idea to Income 3:19 — Steph's path: college, art school & early ambitions 3:43 — Jay's story: building a business before age 20 19:58 — Product vs. service businesses — finding the right fit 34:12 — How to price your work 38:06 — Financial mistakes & marketing scams 42:22 — Advice for creatives: balancing passion with business Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Pickles & Pasta with Steph and Jay, we get into AI and creativity,  what it actually means for artists, entrepreneurs, and anyone trying to make something original right now. There’s a lot of noise around AI, but this conversation breaks down where it’s genuinely useful and where it starts to interfere with the creative process. Steph shares how she’s integrated tools like ChatGPT and Claude into her workflow as a painter and designer, not to create the art itself, but to support everything around it. From writing applications to documenting her work and communicating her vision more clearly, AI has become a backend tool that helps her stay focused on what actually matters: the creative. Jay brings a decade of experience in the AI space and explains how people are really using it right now, from agents to custom-built assistants, and why most people are barely scratching the surface. He also gets into prompting, where people go wrong, and how to actually use these tools in a way that saves time instead of creating more noise. Together, they explore the difference between using AI as a crutch versus a collaborator, why solopreneurs need to be paying attention, and the bigger questions around ethics, copyright, and ownership in a world where technology is moving fast. They also make the case that the real advantage isn’t AI alone, it’s the combination of human perspective and AI execution. If you’re a creative, founder, or someone trying to figure out how AI fits into your workflow without losing your voice, this episode gives you a grounded, practical way to think about it. Share your thoughts in the comments — are you using AI right now, or still figuring it out? Follow & Connect with the Show! Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PicklesAndPastaPodcast Follow ephelants on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ephelants/ Follow Pickles & Pasta on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/picklesandpastapdocast/ Follow Pickles & Pasta on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578277108234 This show is hosted by Steph and Jay and produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) & ephelants (https://ephelantsz.com/) with Matthew “MoJo” Jones as Executive Producer. For sales and partnership inquiries, please contact [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph and Jay, we break down burnout, what it really is and what it’s not. We separate true burnout from boredom, depression, frustration, and plain exhaustion, and talk about why so many entrepreneurs misdiagnose what they’re feeling. Steph opens up about her five-year “slow burn” while building Have Some Fun Today. What started as a creative dream turned into nonstop inventory management, shrinking margins, marketing pressure, and wearing every hat in the business. When COVID shut down her planned QVC launch, the cracks got wider. Jay shares his own story of hitting a wall while running multiple tennis businesses and the hard decision to step away before the burnout consumed him. Together, they explore misalignment as the real root of burnout, why high performers ignore the warning signs, and how to reset before it’s too late. Steph shares how spiritual practice, art workshops, and recommitting to her creative career helped her recover and rebuild with clarity. If you’re an entrepreneur, creative, or leader feeling drained, stuck, or disconnected from your work, this episode will help you identify burnout and take practical steps toward recovery. Share your burnout story in the comments and let us know how you handled it. Follow, Watch, & Connect with the Show! Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PicklesAndPastaPodcast  Follow ephelants on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ephelants/  This show is hosted by Steph and Jay and Produced by Rainbow Creative  (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/) & ephelants (https://ephelantsz.com/)  with Matthew “MoJo” Jones as Executive Producer. For sales and partnerships inquires, please contact Shane Thornton at [email protected]  CHAPTERS 00:00 What Burnout Really Means 01:44 Steph’s Slow Burn Story 04:54 Jay’s Wall Hit Burnout 00:00 Burnout vs Being Drained 10:37 Misalignment and Evolving Goals 13:04 Warning Signs and Frustration 16:15 COVID and Momentum Shifts 18:53 How to Heal and Pivot 20:55 Reigniting Creativity Through Art 22:15 Wearing Too Many Hats 24:59 Money Versus Alignment 26:51 Spotting Burnout Signals 32:06 Wisdom From Past Clients 34:11 Overthinking And Burnout 38:11 Avoiding The Spiral 39:34 Share Your Burnout Story Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pickles & Pasta EP35 - Momentum, Pauses & Staying the Course In Episode 35 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph dig into the reality of momentum, how it starts, how it builds, and what happens when life suddenly interrupts it. They talk about the energy that comes with stepping into a new year with fresh ideas, clear goals, and real movement, but also how outside events, delays, illness, and unexpected setbacks can throw even the best plans off course. Steph shares how she has been navigating that in real time across multiple creative projects, and why she has learned not to see every pause as a failure. Sometimes the slowdown is actually useful. Sometimes it gives you space to refine the idea, expand the vision, or see a better path forward. Jay builds on that from the strategy side, exploring the difference between losing momentum and simply being redirected. Together, they reflect on persistence, preparation, and the belief required to keep going when things are not unfolding on your timeline. The conversation becomes a broader look at resilience, faith in your path, and the importance of knowing when a delay is not a dead end. They close with a fun rapid fire on where they would go to eat if they could jump on a plane right now, where creative ideas show up, and what gives them clarity outside of work. Topics Covered: Momentum and why it matters What to do when life interrupts your flow The difference between a pause and a setback Persistence, patience, and staying with the long game How outside events can affect creative and business momentum Why delays can sometimes improve the outcome Trusting your direction even when timing shifts Rapid fire: creativity, travel cravings, and clarity Momentum is powerful, but knowing how to move through the pause is what keeps you in the game. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 34 - Mindset, Momentum & Mental Loops In Episode 34 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph begin by reflecting on the close of Steph’s solo show and what it feels like to wrap something meaningful with a sense of peace, pride, and readiness for what comes next. From there, the conversation turns to mindset, how the way we think shapes the way we work, create, and move through daily life. Steph shares a mindfulness idea that reframed things for her in a powerful way: maybe it is not just a negativity problem, maybe it is an algorithm problem in the brain. That sparks a deeper conversation about overthinking, mental loops, gratitude, and the importance of consciously shifting your focus toward thoughts that energize rather than drain you. Jay builds on that by connecting mindset to repetition, prayer, meditation, concentration, and the habits that help people stay grounded. Together, they explore how our inner dialogue affects confidence, creativity, and emotional resilience, especially when life and work feel heavy. They also reflect on manifestation, discipline, the value of practice, and why small mental shifts can change the way we experience everything. The episode closes with a playful rapid fire on AI, adventure, and the things they would and would not want technology to do for them. Topics Covered: Closing a chapter and moving on with peace Why mindset matters in work and life Overthinking, mental loops, and “algorithm” thinking Mindfulness, gratitude, and shifting your focus The connection between repetition, belief, and momentum How inner dialogue affects creativity and resilience Rapid fire: AI, adventure, and personal preferences Your mindset shapes more than your mood, it shapes your energy, your work, and the way you move through the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 33 - Patience, Perspective & Playing the Long Game In Episode 33 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph ease in with playful back and forth about their intros, getting ready to go out, and the little rhythms that make up life together before shifting into a much deeper conversation about persistence, creativity, and what it really means to stay with something. The heart of the episode is about the strategy of not giving up. Steph reflects on building projects in an uncertain world, explaining how she approaches new ideas, slower momentum, and the patience it takes to keep going when things are not moving as quickly as expected. For her, it is never about forcing results overnight. It is about trusting the long game, staying ready, and believing that the alignment will come. Jay expands on that by talking about entrepreneurship, setbacks, delays, curveballs, and the deeper mindset required to keep building. Together, they explore the difference between simple stubbornness and true perseverance, the kind rooted in vision, purpose, and a belief that the path is still worth walking. They also reflect on what it means to live creatively, how ideas keep arriving at all hours, and why the journey itself is often the real reward. The episode closes with a funny and affectionate rapid fire round about seasonal changes, what they do not miss when seasons shift, and what they are most looking forward to this spring. Topics Covered: Creative resilience and not giving up Staying committed in uncertain times Patience, timing, and the long game Why some projects move slowly Trusting your path as an entrepreneur Stubbornness vs perseverance The journey, not just the outcome Rapid fire: spring shifts and what they’re looking forward to Keep going, trust the timing, and remember that sometimes the real win is staying with the path long enough to see it open up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 32 - Soft Launches, Calm Energy & Juggling the Buckets In Episode 32 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph open with a real life teamwork moment in classic New York weather that turns into a reflection on momentum. After finally shipping something they had been organizing for a long time, they talk about the relief of checking things off and how February begins to feel lighter after an endless January. The conversation then explores a question many creatives face: how do you soft launch something new while still building multiple projects behind the scenes? Steph shares why she is evolving Have Some Fun Today toward more artisan, one of a kind offerings like painted bags and original art without making a dramatic announcement, choosing a quieter approach that reflects a more grounded and sustainable way of working. Jay adds the strategy perspective, explaining how clarity, support, and the right team make it easier to balance multiple “buckets” without burning out. Together, they discuss trusting your gut, avoiding pressure from people without skin in the game, and organizing projects by timeline, energy, and readiness. They wrap with a rapid fire round on work styles, from jumping in versus planning to starting versus finishing and how they move from one project to the next. Topics Covered: Soft launching new work while other projects continue Evolving Have Some Fun Today toward artisan art  Creating sustainably without burnout Managing multiple project “buckets” Trusting your gut over outside pressure Team support and delegation Rapid fire: problem solving, follow through, and rest vs next Soft launches still count. Stay grounded, keep your buckets organized, trust your gut, and build in a way you can actually sustain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pickles & Pasta EP31 - Perceived Value, Pricing & Respecting Creative Work In Episode 31 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph kick things off with playful creative momentum, riffing on a “Cherish” t-shirt concept in real time and reflecting on the closing of iconic New York spaces, what it signals about shifting culture, and how change reshapes creative communities. From there, the conversation moves into something many creatives experience but don’t always talk about openly: being asked to work for free. From influencers requesting original artwork in exchange for “exposure” to people casually asking producers to “just read a script” or weigh in on a project, Jay and Steph unpack the deeper issue beneath those moments, the perceived value of creative work. Why are artists, designers, and producers so often expected to donate their time and expertise when other professions aren’t? And how do you respond without burning bridges or underselling yourself? It’s an honest conversation about boundaries, confidence, and what it really means to respect the work, both your own and other people’s. Topics Covered: The creative spark and staying open to ideas The closing of cultural institutions and city evolution Why creatives are often asked to work for free Influencer culture and the “free product” mindset Educating clients about professional value How to price art and creative services Balancing confidence with market reality The importance of paying people fairly Rapid fire: shopping habits, minimalism, and food decisions If this conversation resonated, let it be a reminder: Know your value, protect your work, and don’t be afraid to charge what you’re worth.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pickles & Pasta EP30 - Process, Partnership & Turning Sparks into Reality  In Episode 30 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph talk about what it actually looks like to take an idea from concept to execution, and how two creatives can approach the same goal in completely different ways.  Steph shares her hands-on process: capturing sparks on Post-its, brainstorming in ChatGPT, experimenting with materials, and letting ideas incubate before shaping them into collections. She also opens up about how her vision for Have Some Fun Today is shifting toward a more art-forward, crafted approach, and how she’s building multiple creative “buckets” at once, including art, design, and a children’s book.  Jay breaks down his process from the other side: seeing the full arc early, asking questions as quiet market research, and architecting the bigger ecosystem around a project. Together, they unpack why collaboration matters, how the right partners fill your gaps, and why translating a visual brain into “computer language” can be the hardest part of bringing ideas to life.  The episode ends with a rapid-fire round on personal habits they want to improve, business priorities they keep pushing, and what they’re determined to do before spring.  Topics Covered:  Types of creatives and why process matters  Steph’s idea-capture system: Post-its, notes, incubation  Evolving Have Some Fun Today into a more art-led brand  Collections, merchandising, and future product spin-offs  Jay’s “architect” approach: vision, systems, strategy  Working with teams to bring ideas to life  Translating design instincts into digital execution  Rapid fire: habits, priorities, and before-spring goals  If you’ve got ideas but struggle with the “how do I actually make this real” part, this one will help you find your process and your people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 29 – Ghosting, Mixed Signals, and People Who Actually Show Up In Episode 29 of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph are back in New York with winter reflections, snow-day observations, and the oddly emotional “will we get one more storm?” debate. Then they get into something they’ve both been running into lately: ghosting, especially in business and creative circles. Jay breaks down why disappearing without a word is frustrating and unnecessary, while Steph explains why we often fixate on people who pull away. Ego, the need for closure, and the urge to win back someone’s attention all play a role. From there, the conversation expands into mixed signals and energy, those moments when someone seems supportive one day and distant the next. They talk about how tension in communities can quietly grow, including the way identity and politics can shape how people categorize each other, and why maturity and mutual respect matter more than ever. They close by flipping the lens toward the positive: the people who consistently show up, and how Steph is embracing a new, evolving community through her art workshops and creative work. The episode wraps with a Fashion Week themed rapid fire on dressing for the weather, where fashion is headed, and the fashion eras they’d love to bring back, including Jay’s hilarious robe and cloak fantasy. Topics Covered: Ghosting in creative/business relationships Closure, ego, and “future FOMO” Mixed signals, reading energy, and social tension Identity/politics shaping community dynamics Choosing self-respect and focusing on real support Building new community through creativity (art workshops) Rapid fire: Fashion Week edition If someone disappears, let them, and put your energy into the people who show up, support you, and make your world bigger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 28 – Creative Energy, Client Work, and Finding Your Groove  In this week’s episode of Pickles and Pasta, Jay and Steph start with some classic winter banter, from Miami “cold” to the relief of longer daylight after a never-ending January. Then they shift into a thoughtful conversation about different types of creativity and why creating “from the soul” feels fundamentally different than creating within client constraints, budgets, and practical parameters. They unpack the difference between being an artist versus being a creative-for-hire, and how Steph is navigating a new in-between space: making paintings that still use her artistry but are also product-driven (built to meet a need in the marketplace). Jay reflects on how money, time, and materials quietly change the creative process, and how emotional bandwidth (family stress, world stress, exhaustion) can deeply affect whether the creative mind can “access the work.” They also share a practical takeaway for business owners: choosing the right clients is an art, and protecting peace of mind matters as much as the paycheck. The episode wraps with a light rapid-fire round (seasonal cravings, condiments, and the surprisingly enjoyable doctor visits), plus a warm sign-off to keep you cozy wherever you’re listening. Topics Covered: How and why creatives work differently Artist vs designer vs creative entrepreneur Product-driven work vs personal art How emotional overload blocks creativity Balancing care for loved ones with creative focus The importance of choosing the right clients Rapid fire: seasonal favorites, condiments, and favorite doctors Wherever you are, stay warm, enjoy the longer light, and we’ll see you next week. Same bat time, same bat channel. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 27 - Expression, Identity, & Choosing Care January has felt unusually heavy, and Steph and Jay open up about what it’s like to live and create in a world that feels emotionally maxed out. They talk about how politics has bled into business, art, and personal platforms, creating pressure to speak, stay silent, or choose sides. Steph shares why she’s long avoided political messaging through Have Some Fun Today, and why that boundary is becoming harder to hold. Jay reflects on tone-deaf branding, public backlash, and how quickly discourse turns reactive. The conversation widens into the role of creatives during unstable times, how artists absorb the emotional climate and translate it into work, often without trying to persuade or polarize. They explore authenticity, compassion, curiosity, and the idea that standing for humanity doesn’t require taking a side. They close with a lighthearted rapid-fire snow-day segment covering winter comforts, food, and cozy watch picks. Topics Covered: Why January felt emotionally heavy Politics and business pressure to choose sides Neutrality vs speaking up in a “tone-deaf” era Social media backlash over mild statements Trigger culture and heightened reactions The role and weight of creatives today Spiritual grounding amid noise and confusion Supporting artists without preaching Rapid Fire: winter ice cream, snow-day comfort food, cozy watch picks Wherever you land on the issues, this episode is a reminder: we all deserve to be heard, and it costs nothing to listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EP26 - The Reset Episode: If You Needed This Today Sometimes you don’t need a new plan, you need a reset. In Episode 26, Steph and Jay bring together the most grounding moments from past episodes into one steady, calming listen. It’s built like a guided emotional “re-center,” moving from overwhelm → regulation → perspective → self-trust → gentle momentum. If your mind feels loud, your nervous system feels fried, or you’ve been spiraling into the future, this episode is a place to land. Topics Covered: Overwhelm and emotional grounding Staying present and reducing future-spirals Anxiety, fear, and nervous system regulation Reframing chaos into usable energy Perspective-taking and not personalizing everything Authenticity and self-expression Boundaries, shrinking, and choosing better environments Healing through conversation (not avoidance) Self-trust and forward momentum Slowness, winter energy, and patience Creative block, clutter, and making space Starting before you’re ready Kindness as a daily practice If you needed a sign to slow down, breathe, and come back to yourself, this is it. Stay here. Just today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 25 - Alone Time, Creative Work and When Money Enters the Room Episode 25 opens with Steph and Jay checking in on the wonkiness of the world and the mental load of staying aware without getting consumed. They talk about how people cope differently, from staying plugged in to fully tuning out, and why it feels harder than ever to find calm while still caring. From there, they get into the creative process, especially the role of solitude. Steph shares why working alone is energizing, how deep focus shapes her best work, and why being social doesn’t mean needing people around while creating. Jay reflects on the flip side, how the right city energy can be inspiring, but also distracting when it comes to getting work done. Then the conversation turns practical: when does money enter creativity. They unpack the difference between making art for the sake of making it and building products where margins, materials, and price points have to be considered early. Steph breaks down the real cost of supplies and why art pricing is often misunderstood, and shares her shift toward art based products that require a more business minded structure. They close with rapid fire on future tech, fixing New York, and weird food combos. Topics Covered: Staying aware in a chaotic world without burning out Solitude vs stimulation and how creatives actually work best The balance between deep focus and being energized by people When money enters creativity and why timing matters The real cost of making art and why pricing is misunderstood Product thinking vs fine art and working backwards from margin Rapid fire: tech we want, NYC fixes, and odd food pairings This episode is a reminder that creativity needs both space and structure, and learning when to protect your process and when to think like a business is part of the work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 24 - Focus, Energy and The Journey This episode captures that strange early January shift after the holiday rush, when the world is technically “back,” but not really moving at full speed yet. Steph and Jay talk about what it feels like to be creatives during a season where other people slow down, while their own momentum keeps building. They explore how conferences, awards season, and trend cycles flood the culture right after the holidays, and why Steph tends to block a lot of that out to protect her originality. From there, the conversation moves into something deeper: the way creatives pick up on energy in rooms and environments, and how that unspoken tension or empathy often gets channeled into the work. The episode lands on a central anchor, focusing on the journey, especially when life feels full of landmines, shifting plans, and constant uncertainty. They wrap with a funny rapid fire and a simple reminder about stress: don’t do it twice. Topics Covered: The strange post holiday pace of January Creative schedules versus traditional work rhythms The flood of conferences, awards, and trend noise Protecting originality and filtering cultural overload How creatives sense and process energy differently Turning empathy and frustration into creative fuel Staying focused on the journey amid constant change Rapid fire on time, childhood, and risk taking Why pre stressing only makes things harder This episode is your reminder to tune out the noise, stay grounded in your path, and keep your focus on the journey, especially when life tries to pull the rug out from under you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 23 - Reset, Reflection and Creative Freedom The first episode of 2026 opens with Steph and Jay turning a casual new year check in into a thoughtful conversation about how creatives actually reset. They talk about why January 1st feels motivating for some people and completely overrated for others, then dig into the real reset of clearing physical and mental clutter so new ideas can take shape. Steph shares what it looks like to wind down an old way of running a business in order to make room for what’s next, including experimenting with a new product focused direction that blends art and interior design. Jay reflects on how the simple act of organizing can kick the brain back into creative mode and why real adaptation requires space rather than pressure. They also explore what the holiday season leaves behind, from meaningful moments to small dramas, and how those experiences quietly carry into the new year. The episode wraps with a rapid-fire round that is both funny and unexpectedly sincere. Topics Covered: New Year resets: motivation vs “you can start anytime” Clearing clutter and why creatives need space to create The connection between cleaning, emotional processing, and mental calm Adapting to new plans and building systems for a fresh year Steph’s new creative direction: art as product + catalog thinking What carries forward from the holidays: gratitude, drama, lessons Rapid fire: new year feelings, holiday traditions, and takeaways This episode stays with you as a reminder that clearing space isn’t just housekeeping, it’s how you make room for what’s next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 22 - Closure, Hope and End of Year Clarity Episode 22 is a reflective end of year conversation about perspective, growth, and entering a new chapter with intention. Steph and Jay move from light talk about winter in New York into gratitude, the emotional weight of the holidays, and Jay’s experience navigating a Christmas centered culture as a Jewish person. At the heart of the episode, Steph reflects on a year of closing chapters, clearing energy, and trusting the slow incubation of creativity, while Jay shares how global events and the people in his life continue to shape his thinking and push him to keep learning. They close with a rapid fire that turns thoughtful, touching on kindness, closure, and the small internal shifts that change how we move through the world, offering a grounded and hopeful send off to the year. Topics Covered: Year end reflection and what this year demanded Letting go, clearing space, and closing chapters Identity shifts, growth, and creative timing Gratitude and grounding when the world feels heavy The Jewish experience during the Christmas season Personal hope for 2026 versus the global outlook How humans resist change and adapt under pressure Rapid fire on kindness, anonymity, and closure This episode stays with you as a reminder to clear what no longer fits, protect what matters, and step into the new year more aligned with yourself. See you in 2026. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 21 - Holidays, Creativity, and Knowing When to Slow Down In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph and Jay, a simple catch-up turns into a thoughtful look at creativity during the holiday season and the push-pull between momentum and rest. They unpack how December’s packed calendars and cultural expectations can derail focus, while still offering surprising inspiration through new experiences and shared adventures. They also talk about resisting the pressure to constantly sell, promote, or discount creative work, with Steph choosing to focus on making art right now and Jay reflecting on how hard it is when “slowing down” feels imposed instead of chosen, all while touching on consumer culture, originality, and creating with intention. They wrap with humor and a rapid-fire round on winter comforts, music habits, and the annual events that quietly shape their creative lives. Topics Covered: Creating during the holidays and how seasonal energy affects focus The tension between slowing down and maintaining creative momentum Events, stimulation, and how new experiences fuel inspiration Selling versus making and owning the value of creative work Consumer culture, trends, and the search for originality Choosing rest and reflection without losing purpos Rapid fire on winter favorites, music, and influential annual events A reflective, honest conversation about honoring your creative rhythm during a season that pulls you in every direction. Whether you’re slowing down, speeding up, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder that intention matters more than timing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 20 - Family, Perception, and Looking Past the Label In Episode 20 of Pickles and Pasta with Steph and Jay, the conversation kicks off with full moon energy and how heightened sensitivity can shape your mood, reactions, and awareness. From there, they dive into how family dynamics quietly (and sometimes loudly) shape who we become, including confidence, self-image, patterns we inherit, and the narratives relatives create about us that can be hard to shake. They also explore how perception works in everyday life: what we assume when we first look at someone, how stereotypes and appearances distort reality, and how our own fears or insecurities can get projected onto other people. The episode wraps with rapid fire fun covering a brand they fell out of love with, the “no downside” food they’d eat forever, and something they dislike doing but love the payoff of. Topics Covered Full moon energy, sensitivity, and emotional awareness Family influence on identity, confidence, and behavior Unlearning family narratives and projected expectations Big families, perception, and confidence versus intimidation First impressions, stereotypes, and the art of perception Projection, social media overload, and the need for quieter mental space Rapid fire on brand regret, indulgent foods, and the payoff of hard work If this episode hit home, take it as a reminder to stay curious about your patterns, your people, and what you might be assuming at first glance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 19 - Dogs, Seasons, and the Art of Paying Attention In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph and Jay, a simple bagel run spirals into a conversation about city dogs, shared sidewalks, and what it really means to be a considerate pet owner, before widening into a discussion on seasons, creativity, and where inspiration actually comes from. Steph talks about winter as creative hibernation, why New York remains her greatest muse, and how even a 239-million-dollar painting at Sotheby’s didn’t move her, while Jay reflects on how walking the city versus the suburbs shifts what you notice and ultimately create. They close with rapid-fire questions on fear versus respect, favorite seasonal transitions, and whether spending 24 hours with someone you can’t stand is worth it if it genuinely makes the world better. Topics Covered: City dog culture and what “curb your dog” should mean Pet ownership as shared-space responsibility Thanksgiving’s complicated meaning and why gratitude still matters How seasonal shifts shape mood, energy, and creativity Winter hibernation vs. NYC as an inspiration engine Real artistic inspiration vs. what the market decides is valuable How walking the city vs. suburbs changes what you notice Rapid fire: respect vs. fear, favorite season shift, 24 hours with someone you can’t stand If you’ve ever side-stepped a leash, wondered where your inspiration really comes from, or felt yourself changing with the seasons, this one will feel familiar. Tune in, walk with them through the city and the suburbs, and see what it sparks in your own life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 18 - Friendship, Change, and Coming Home to You In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph and Jay, the duo opens up about what it means to shrink yourself to fit in across friendships, small towns, social media, and work. Steph shares how moving from New York’s fashion world to a quiet Pennsylvania suburb caused her to dial back parts of who she was without even noticing, and how divorce, grief, and building Have Some Fun Today shifted her relationships over time. Together, they look at how different seasons of life change your circle, why some friendships naturally fade, and why others are worth holding on to. They dig into self-awareness, reconnecting with your creative self, and choosing relationships that support who you are now. Topics Covered: Shrinking to fit in and the subtle ways we make ourselves smaller Social media self-editing and the pressure to be “just right” Friendship seasons and why some relationships fade or deepen Life transitions like divorce, loss, and reinvention that reshape our circles Returning to yourself through awareness, inner work, and creativity Choosing better rooms and people who match your full energy Rapid-fire fun on favorite times of day, dream business skills, and movie characters they’d befriend A reflective, candid, and ultimately hopeful conversation about outgrowing old versions of yourself — and finding the people who love you as you really are. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 17 - Vulnerability, Belonging, and Critical Thinking  Steph and Jay unpack why so many people get swept up by loud voices, politicians, influencers, even “smooth talkers” and how loneliness, vulnerability, and identity hunger make us easy prey. They explore healthier paths to meaning, slowing down, checking our own compass, rebuilding connection, and practicing real critical thinking. It’s thoughtful, candid, and still playful, complete with rapid-fire confessions at the end.  Topics Covered:  Authority bias: why confidence ≠ truth  Loneliness & disconnection in a post-COVID world  Belonging vs. self-knowledge: joining for the right reasons  Faith & politics: grounding yourself, not getting used  Unprocessed trauma: why “back to normal” doesn’t work  Antidotes: slow down, question, connect, create together  Rapid-fire: best compliments, Elvis, dream stages, NYC café vibes  A thoughtful, grounded episode with a touch of New York wit, closing on the reminder that we’re all just trying to make sense of the world together. If this conversation resonated, share it with someone who’d appreciate it, and let us know what you think today’s society is missing. Your rating or review helps others join the dialogue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 16 - Growth, Living, and Building Community In this week’s episode of Pickles & Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo digs into what it really means to grow - personally, creatively, and professionally - when life and business evolve at different speeds. Steph reflects on building Have Some Fun Today, navigating change, and finding purpose through challenge. Together, they explore how discomfort fuels growth, how creativity builds community, and why persistence and playfulness go hand in hand - ending with a lighthearted rapid-fire on tofu, chocolate, and talking animals. Topics Covered Growth & alignment: when business and personal evolution fall out of sync Creative resilience: bouncing back and staying inspired Work vs. life: finding purpose in the process Self-belief: letting instinct and curiosity lead Community: connection through shared creativity Rapid-fire: food quirks, learning styles, and favorite animals Every episode is a reminder that growth, creativity, and connection start with showing up. Thanks for doing that with us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 15: Gratitude, Breathing & Letting Go of Excess In this episode of Pickles & Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo explores how to stay grounded in uncertain times - balancing change with gratitude, breathwork, and mindfulness. They discuss how post-COVID shifts and economic stress affect creativity and connection, and why empathy and community matter more than ever. The conversation gets personal with reflections on illness, loss, and resilience, before wrapping on a lighter note - redefining the holidays with less materialism and more meaning. Topics Covered: Uncertain times: staying balanced and setting boundaries Breathwork & gratitude:  simple ways to calm stress Mindfulness:  daily rituals for peace and focus Empathy & relationships:  compassion through change Rethinking gifts: stuff, more meaning Rapid-fire:  downtime, travel, and favorite burgers     Tune in for an episode that’s equal parts grounding, thought-provoking, and laugh-out-loud real - because sometimes the best way to cope is with conversation, curiosity, and a touch of humor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 14 - Faith, Fear & the Next Generation Steph & Jay unpack why the old “do this, get that” life formula no longer fits—college, careers, and timelines included. They explore how AI, remote work, and real-world skills (grit, connection, EQ) are reshaping opportunity, then dive into the messy overlap of faith, politics, and fear—and how kindness and gratitude cut through the noise. It all wraps with a breezy rapid-fire on first cars, favorite workouts, and, yes, pickles and pasta. Topics Covered Vanishing promise: traditional paths no longer fit College vs. skills: redefining success New essentials: grit, EQ, real connection Work & mentorship: navigating remote life Faith, politics & fear: finding clarity Grounding: gratitude, creativity, community Rapid-fire: cars, workouts, pickles & pasta Honest conversations, unexpected laughs, and a dash of chaos—Pickles & Pasta keeps it real every week. Follow for your next helping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 13 — Comfort, Growth & Reciprocity Steph & Jay sift the fall-event frenzy to focus on what matters, arguing that “comfort is the enemy of growth” in work, health, and relationships. They weigh second-guessing as a safeguard vs. a stall, and dig into support—give because it’s right, not for payback—plus a reflection on resilience from a former hostage’s talk. Wrap-up: rapid-fire on fame vs. freedom, friendship deal-breakers, and the advice we wish we’d taken. Topics Covered Seasons & events: showing up without burning out Comfort vs. growth: how stillness stalls progress Survival mode: pressure brings clarity and focus Second-guessing: when to trust vs. when to check Support & reciprocity: give freely, manage expectations Creative momentum: turning inspiration into action Rapid-fire: fame or freedom, friendship red flags, ignored advice Another honest chat about the messy balance of comfort, growth, and support. Thanks for hanging out with us — same time next week for more life, love, and a little bit of chaos on Pickles & Pasta.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 12: - Culture, Creativity & Leaving Your Bubble  Steph and Jay unpack “cultural capital”—what we consume vs. what truly shapes us—spanning NYC art walks, immigrant-run cafés, small-town festivals, and family traditions. They dive into stepping outside your bubble (imposter syndrome included), how discomfort builds empathy, and how fresh perspectives fuel creativity and relationships. Quick rapid-fire to close.  Topics Covered:  Culture in motion: art, fashion, food, and travel shaping daily life  City vs. small town: blending energy, ideas, and traditions  Openness: individuals over group “cultures”  Stepping out: discomfort, curiosity, creative growth  Imposter syndrome: turning intimidation into output  Empathy & creativity: how new views shape better work  From art and travel to stepping outside your comfort zone, this one’s all about letting culture feed your creativity. Thanks for listening—and remember, the best inspiration usually lives just outside your bubble. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 11: Fear, Truth & Advice to Our Younger Selves  In this episode, Steph & Jay tackle three big themes: fear—how it protects us, when it holds us back, and how to move anyway (from Steph’s workshop launch to Jay’s entrepreneurial lens); truth—why algorithms and social media erode trust and how to practice real verification; and advice to our younger selves—choose respectful relationships, build confidence and authenticity, and prioritize health. They wrap with a playful rapid-fire on packing quirks, over hyped trends, and NYC’s questionable sunglasses.  Topics Covered  Fear & failure: growth vs. paralysis  Anxiety today: cortisol, social media, “what if” spiral  Steph’s workshops: feeling fear, doing it anyway  Truth: why verification matters  Misinformation: trust, algorithms, credibility gaps  Advice to younger selves: relationships, authenticity, health  Rapid-fire: style choices, packing quirks, protein trends, and NYC sunglasses  A thoughtful, candid episode about fear, truth, and growth—served with the humor and honesty you expect from Pickles & Pasta. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pickles & Pasta EP10 - Evolving, Connecting, & Dating  A candid, fast-moving conversation about why evolution isn’t optional—whether you’re running a business, building a personal brand, or navigating modern dating. Steph & Jay trade stories on adapting to new tech, being authentic on (and off) social, and finding connection in a swipe-first world—plus a light, laugh-y rapid-fire to close.  Topics Covered  Evolving in business & life: ditch “always done it” thinking.  Marketing reality: ad spend, stock fails, real service.  Social media shift: photo → video, founder-as-face.  Putting yourself out there: balance IRL + online.  Modern dating: apps, city vs. small-town, friend-first.  Personal growth: therapy, routines, action drives outcome.  If you’re into honest takes on creativity, business, and real-life connection—with a few laughs along the way—this one’s for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pickles & Pasta EP09 - Chaos, Hacks & Creative Fuel In this episode of Pickles & Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo unpacks how everyday chaos can spark creativity, the morning rituals and productivity hacks that keep them grounded, and the mindset shift of not taking things personally—showing how reframing assumptions can transform relationships—before wrapping with reflections on therapy, self-awareness, and a playful rapid-fire round on books, skills, and the eternal call vs. text debate. Topics Covered Chaos → creativity: channeling life’s messiness into art and ideas. Morning rituals: coffee habits, quiet time, stickies + lists, and prayer. Productivity hacks: small systems that keep big lives moving. Reframing assumptions: not taking things personally, pulling back the lens. Therapy & perspective: how objectivity reshapes relationships. Rapid-fire: books that shaped, skills we wish we had, and call vs. text. Join Steph & Jay as they turn everyday chaos into wisdom, laughter, and a little inspiration to carry into your own week.       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pickles & Pasta EP08 - Protein, Gaslighting & Streaming This week on Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo digs into the protein craze (helpful habit or marketing hype?), unpacks gaslighting and self-awareness in relationships, and swaps streaming notes—from Mr. Robot to the long-awaited Yellowstone finale. It’s equal parts practical, personal, and playful. Topics Covered Protein: labels, targets, women’s needs, shakes vs. food Self-care: routines, timing, coffee, balance Gaslighting: impact, awareness, boundaries Showing up: respect, listen, support family Streaming: Mr. Robot, Yellowstone, Eddie Murphy, Wednesday, Landman Rapid-fire: fave rewatch, rom-com vs. action, first jobs Want a mix of real talk and good laughs? This one serves both—no protein powder required. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 7: Summer Memories, Small Wins & Showing Up In this week’s episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo riffs on how food ties us to memory (hello, Mr. Softee)—then pivots to celebrating personal wins without bragging, and the real work of showing up for the people you love. It’s a warm, grounded convo about tradition, gratitude, and being present when it counts. Topics Covered: ·      Summer nostalgia: Mr. Softee + the famed “Georgia Cup.” ·      Family traditions: food memories (and lima beans). ·      Wins & gratitude: Steph’s biggest sale and why small wins matter. ·      Showing up: listen first, tailor support, drop the ego. ·      Parenting in practice: saying yes when it counts. ·      Rapid-fire: Scooby-Doo vs. Foghorn, teleportation, sleep vs. grind on planes.   A sweet-and-substantial episode about roots, resilience, and the joy of cheering yourself—and others—on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 6: Rituals, Care & Craft  In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo gets practical about staying grounded when life is full. From daily self-care rituals to navigating a parent’s health scare, and why “apprenticeship” might be the missing link between school and real work, they share honest stories, useful takeaways, and the habits that keep them steady for the long haul. Topics Covered: Lasting self-care: sleep, movement, nutrition, spirituality, moderation Preventing burnout + modeling health for family Supporting loved ones through illness with presence + teamwork Apprenticeship lessons: purpose, practice, real-world skills Bridging generations: why Gen Z needs the “why” Rapid-fire: stay in/out, top apps, favorite places A grounded, heart-forward conversation about caring for yourself, caring for others, and sharpening your craft—one honest habit at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 5: Family, Festivals & Politics  In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo looks at how family, culture, and politics shape creativity and connection—from generational patterns and post-COVID events to candid thoughts on the NYC mayoral race. Topics Covered:  • Family lessons, conflicts, and healing generational patterns • Why events, festivals, and networking feel more vital than ever • The pitfalls of transactional connections vs. authentic ones • Breaking down the NYC mayoral race and what leadership really means • A lighthearted rapid-fire on pizza toppings, AI, ice cream, and coffee habits This episode blends heartfelt reflection with cultural commentary—reminding us that family, community, and politics are always more intertwined than we realize. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 4: War, Fear & Cashmere Sweaters In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, things get personal. From global unrest to private fears, they explore how external chaos impacts creativity, relationships, and mental health. It’s a heartfelt conversation about using art as therapy, breaking generational cycles, and staying grounded when everything feels uncertain.  Recorded in Steph’s hometown (with a fun Taylor Swift backstory), this one balances vulnerability with warmth—and a few laughs along the way.  Topics Covered:  • How conflict and anxiety show up in our creative lives  • Facing fears and learning to let go  • Using art to process emotional weight  • Healing generational trauma and creating healthier patterns  • Lighthearted rapid-fire on creativity superpowers and unexpected hobbies  A reminder that even in heavy times, humor, honesty, and connection can keep us going. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 3: Fathers, Leaders, & Calgon Dreams  In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo reflects on the power of father figures, the qualities that define true leadership, and how current world events are quietly shaping our emotional lives. From Steph’s deeply personal tribute to her dad to open talk about anxiety, therapy, and relationship tension, this one dives deep—but always with heart.  Topics Covered:  • The story behind Have Some Fun Today and Steph’s father’s lasting legacy  • What real leadership looks like—and why it’s missing in today’s world  • The silent toll of stress, news, and global unrest on our mental health  • Therapy tips: how to find the right fit and why it matters  • How to manage conflict with empathy in relationships  • A Rapid Fire Q&A to end with laughs, reflection, and dream escapes  This episode is raw, real, and refreshingly human—a reminder that even in chaos, connection and conversation matter most. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 2: Weather, Breakups & Vibes  In this episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo dives into how everyday life—both global and deeply personal—shapes their creative process and emotional outlook. From the chaotic energy of New York’s Tribeca Festival to unpredictable weather, family changes, and political tension, Steph and Jay explore what it means to stay grounded in a world that feels anything but.  Topics Covered:  • How personal experiences—like Steph’s daughter’s breakup—impact creativity and emotional awareness  • Climate weirdness and the theory that global vibes might just be affecting the weather  • The Tribeca Film Festival and its role in shaping cultural conversations  • Steph’s wellness experiments (vibration platform, acupuncture, and lymphatic massage)  • Cancel culture and its impact on storytelling  • A Rapid Fire Q&A to end on a personal, thoughtful note  This episode is a mix of real talk, reflection, humor, and human moments—the kind of conversation you didn’t know you needed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 1: Whatever We’re Going to Call  This In the first episode of Pickles and Pasta with Steph & Jay, the duo kicks things off with a candid, unscripted conversation about why they’re launching a podcast in the first place. No roadmap, no expectations—just two creatives navigating life, love, work, and everything in between.  They explore what it means to live outside the lines of the traditional 9–5, how their relationship fuels their creativity, and why now felt like the right time to start sharing their world out loud.  Topics Covered:  • The real reason they hit record—without a name, format, or plan   • Living and working creatively as partners (in business and in life)  • Why vulnerability, laughter, and honesty matter more than ever  • How they hope this podcast can spark connection and conversation  • A preview of what’s to come: rapid-fire questions, special guests, and more  This episode is the beginning of something raw, honest, and deeply human—the kind of dialogue that feels like a breath of fresh air. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices