Reconnect to Self with Tracey and Scott

Have you ever sat in couples therapy, done all the "right" things… and still felt like you and your partner were miles apart?In this episode, we sit down with Jonathan Robinson — former psychotherapist, bestselling author of 16 books, and one of the early pioneers of MDMA-assisted couples therapy — to explore why traditional therapy often falls short, and what 40 years of working underground with over 700 couples has revealed about what it actually takes to reconnect.We explore how fear keeps couples stuck in the same patterns, why both partners need to feel safe at the same moment for real breakthroughs to happen — and what becomes possible when that wall finally comes down.Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:Why most couples wait 6 years before seeking help (and what it costs them)How MDMA removes the fear response that keeps partners from being truly honestWhy both people being open at the same time changes everythingThe "joy muscle" — and why most people don't know they can train itWhat Jonathan learned doing sessions over Zoom (the results surprised everyone)The difference between a relationship that's struggling and one that's ready to transformIf you've ever felt like you and your partner keep hitting the same wall, or wondered whether there's a faster path to genuine connection… this conversation will challenge what you think is possible — and open the door to something better.Connect with Jonathan Robinson:www.ecstasyasmedicine.comIf you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves.Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy or click the links below:instagramTik TokFacebookYouTube*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

Are you constantly putting others first… only to feel drained, resentful, or like you’ve lost yourself in the process?In this episode, we sit down with Dr Katherine Iscoe — speaker, author, and self-respect advocate — to unpack the hidden cost of being a people pleaser, and why being “nice” might actually be holding you back.We explore how people-pleasing often starts as a survival strategy, the subtle ways we abandon ourselves in everyday situations, and why no amount of external validation ever truly feels like enough.Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into:Why people-pleasing is so common (and why it’s not your fault)The connection between self-respect and true confidenceHow your inner dialogue is shaping your realityWhy most people aren’t thinking about you as much as you thinkThe difference between self-care and self-respectSimple, practical ways to start choosing yourselfIf you’ve ever struggled to speak up, set boundaries, or prioritise your own needs without guilt… this episode will challenge the way you see yourself — and give you the tools to take your power back.Connect with Dr Katherine:Website: www.drkatherine.comInstagram: @drkatherineiscoeIf you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves.Follow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

Is your relationship feeling harder lately… and you don’t know why?In this episode of Reconnect to Self, Tracey, a relationship therapist of over 20 years, opens up about her own experience navigating perimenopause, and how it unexpectedly began impacting her relationship with co-host and husband, Scott.This is a raw and honest conversation about what it actually looked like behind the scenes — the mood swings, emotional distance, and moments where things felt so different that it led to questioning what was really going on.It’s something many couples experience in their 40s, but rarely understand.To help unpack this, naturopath Natasha Goodrim joins the conversation to explain what’s happening in the body during perimenopause — and why it can affect mood, the nervous system, and relationships in ways people don’t expect.Together, they explore:Why relationships can suddenly feel harderMood swings, anxiety, and emotional disconnectionThe impact of hormones on the nervous systemWhy women often feel like they’re “not themselves”How this stage of life can affect couples differentlyPractical ways to support the body through this transitionIf this resonates, consider sharing it with someone who might need to hear it — especially if you or your partner are navigating this stage of life.For more conversations like this, follow Reconnect to Self.Follow Natasha:⁠Website⁠InstagramFollow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

On a New Year’s Eve over 20 years ago, one decision changed everything.In this episode, Paul Turley shares the story of a moment that cost someone their life — and the decades that followed as he learned to live with the weight of it.This is not just a conversation about drink driving.It’s about accountability, shame, and the question many people carry in different ways:Are you allowed to rebuild your life after your worst mistake?We explore how culture, alcohol, and unprocessed emotions can lead to decisions we never imagined we’d make… and what it takes to face them, own them, and move forward.Today, Paul uses his story to educate young people and help prevent others from making the same mistake — turning something irreversible into something meaningful.This is a powerful conversation about responsibility, purpose, and the truth that:You are not your worst decision…but you are responsible for what comes next.Contact Paul:WebsiteLinkedinFollow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

What if the only thing standing between you and something meaningful… is starting?In this episode of the Reconnect to Self Podcast, we sit down with Craig Hollywood, founder of the charity Short Back & Sidewalks, to talk about how one small idea turned into a movement helping tens of thousands of people across Australia.Craig didn’t have a plan.He wasn’t a social worker.He wasn’t in the charity sector.He was simply someone who cared — and decided to do something about it.What began as one free haircut in a Northbridge car park has now grown into a nationwide initiative restoring dignity and connection to people experiencing homelessness and hardship.But this episode isn’t just about charity.It’s about the courage to start something meaningful, even when you have no idea what you’re doing.Craig shares the story behind Short Back & Sidewalks, the challenges of building a movement from scratch, and the lessons he learned along the way — from facing rejection, to getting comfortable being uncomfortable, to nearly running out of money and wondering if it would all survive.If you’ve ever had an idea in the back of your mind — something you’ve thought about doing for years but felt too uncertain to begin — this conversation might be the push you need.Because as Craig proves in this episode…You don’t need a perfect plan to make a difference.Sometimes all it takes is one small step.In This Episode We Cover:• How Craig started a charity with no experience and no plan• Why haircuts restore dignity, not just appearance• The moment the first haircut changed someone’s life• How to start something meaningful with baby steps• Why you’ll hear “no” far more than “yes” — and why that’s okay• The importance of surrounding yourself with people who know more than you• Getting comfortable being uncomfortable• And why anyone can make a difference if they simply beginConnect with Craig / Short Back & SidewalksLinkedin: Craig HollywoodInstagram: Short Back & SidewalksWebsite: www.shortbackandsidewalks.comFollow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

In a world where AI, algorithms and speed are doing more and more of the thinking for us, what does it actually mean to stay human?This week we’re joined by Bethan Winn, critical thinking educator, speaker and author of The Human Edge, for a conversation that became far less about technology… and far more about agency, meaning and identity.We talk about:The subtle cost of outsourcing our thinkingWhy speed and efficiency don’t always equal depth“Working ourselves into meaninglessness”AI in everyday life (and where it can quietly dull our edge)Authenticity, creativity and getting your hands dirtyRaising kids in a world of confident misinformationHow to use AI as a tool: without losing yourself in the processThis isn’t a conversation about whether AI is good or bad.It’s about noticing what we might be giving up when we let it think for us.Because maybe the real risk isn’t machines becoming more powerful…it’s humans becoming less engaged.If you’ve ever felt that strange mix of productivity and hollowness after flying through tasks…If you’ve questioned whether convenience is costing you something…If you care about staying thoughtful, present and connected in a noisy world…This episode is for you.Follow Bethan:bethanwinn.com.auLinkedinFollow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

In this episode of Reconnect to Self, we’re joined by our friend Britta Grubin, an animal communicator and evidential psychic medium, to explore what it really means to communicate with animals.Tracey met Britta during their breathwork training in Bali last year, and from the moment they connected, it was clear there was depth, integrity, and curiosity in the way Britta approaches her work. In this conversation, we dive into Britta’s backstory, how she developed her abilities, and how animal communication shows up in her work with both living pets and those who have passed.We talk about:How animal communication actually worksWhy the bond with our pets can feel deeper than many human relationshipsWhat animals teach us about energy, emotion, and presenceWhy grief after losing a pet can be so intense and often misunderstoodSoul connections, signs, reincarnation, and what happens after a pet passesPractical insights into pet behaviour and what animals may be responding toThis is a grounded, open conversation — not about convincing, but about listening. Whether you’re curious, sceptical, or already deeply connected to your animals, this episode invites you to see your pets through a new lens.Follow Britta:brittagrubin.com@mediumbrittaFollow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

Most of us feel pressure to do more, stay busy, and keep pushing — even when we’re exhausted. In this episode, Scott and Tracey sit down with bestselling author Donna McGeorge to talk about hustle culture, burnout, identity, and the deeply ingrained belief that we have to earn our rest.This is a real, honest conversation about why slowing down can feel uncomfortable, why being busy often becomes part of our identity, and how challenging our self-talk can help us create a healthier relationship with time, work, and rest.We explore:- Why hustle culture is so hard to shake- The idea that rest shouldn’t have to be “earned”- How busyness can become part of who we think we are-Letting go of guilt, pressure, and overcommitment- Creating more space for what actually mattersIf you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stretched too thin, or uneasy about slowing down — this episode is for you.Contact Donna:https://donnamcgeorge.com/Follow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

In this episode of Reconnect to Self, we’re joined by Emma Dunwoody, one of the world’s leading voices in Human Design.This conversation isn’t about learning another system or trying to become a better version of yourself. It’s about letting go of who you think you need to be and coming back to the blueprint you were born with.Emma shares how Human Design can help you:Understand why you work the way you doStop judging yourself for not fitting conventional pathsTrust your energy, timing, and natural rhythmsRelease conditioning that keeps you striving instead of alignedWe explore why so many people feel broken or inconsistent when, in reality, they’re simply trying to live against their own design — and how alignment often feels less like becoming more and more like remembering who you already are.If you’ve ever felt like you’re pushing, forcing, or constantly questioning yourself, this episode offers a different perspective — one rooted in self-trust, permission, and coming home to yourself.Connect with Emma:Website: https://emmadunwoody.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_human_design_coach/Follow Tracey:instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

Ever feel like you’re running on empty — no matter how much rest you think you’re getting? In this episode, Scott and Tracey sit down with Tim Jack Adams (founder of GreenX7 and author of Energised) to unpack why so many of us feel drained, overwhelmed and disconnected — and what we can do about it.👉 Tim introduces a powerful way of thinking about your energy like a battery — one that leaks slowly when you don’t notice, and only recharges when you intentionally connect with what actually replenishes you.In this conversation we cover:🧠 The 8 core areas that influence your energy — purpose, sleep, physical health, nutrition, mindset, fun, relationships and friendships — and why they matter more than you think. 🔋 How to spot what’s draining your battery (beyond just “doing too much”).🌿 Simple, science-backed ways to recharge your battery — from routines and rhythms to connection with nature and people.💡 Tim’s practical insights for living with energy, meaning and presence — without adding endless tasks to your to-do list. If you’re feeling flat, stuck in burnout, or ready to find real energy again — this episode is for you.*Follow Tim*W: timjackadams.com.au⁠W: greenx7.com*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

In this episode, we sit down with psychologist Janelle Booker to rethink everything we thought we knew about ADHD. Janelle works closely with ADHD’ers and highly sensitive people, and she brings a mix of science, stories and deep compassion to this topic.Together, we explore what ADHD really is (and why the name is so misleading), how it shows up in everyday life, and how it impacts relationships, parenting and self-worth. This episode is for you if:- You’ve been wondering if you (or someone you love) might be ADHD- You’re parenting a child who’s bright, sensitive, scattered or “too much”- You’re in a relationship where ADHD traits are creating confusion, conflict or shame- You’re tired of the “just try harder” narrative and want a more compassionate, accurate understanding of how these brains workIn this episode we talk about:- Janelle’s story – how a semester of struggling uni students led her to ADHD work… and to realising she might be a highly sensitive person (HSP) herself- Why the diagnostic criteria are broken – and what we miss when we only measure deficits, not gifts- The “ADHD morning” – a powerful walk-through of what it feels like inside an ADHD brain just trying to get out the door- Dopamine, motivation & hyperfocus – why it’s not about willpower, and how “laziness” is often misread brain chemistry- ADHD in relationships – how it can look like not caring, and what’s really going on underneath- Rejection sensitivity & shame – why small comments can feel like a punch to the chest for ADHD’ers- Language & identity – why Janelle prefers “ADHD’er” over “person with ADHD”- Parenting & generational blind spots – why so many parents are only now recognising ADHD in themselves and their kids- School & work – how our systems often fail ADHD brains, and where they actually thrive- Gifts of ADHD – creativity, empathy, pattern recognition, humour and the “brain of connection” that can light up a roomIf any of this sounds familiar, we hope this conversation helps you see yourself – or your loved one – with a lot more softness, clarity and respect.💚 Listen, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and let us know in the comments what landed for you most.*Follow Janelle* www.janellebookerpsychology.com.au*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

If you’ve ever hit mid-life and thought, “Is this it?” - this conversation is for you. Psychologist and mindset coach Dr Marny Lishman joins us to reframe the so-called “mid-life crisis” as a very human checkpoint rather than a meltdown. We unpack why a vague sense of discontent shows up in your 30s, 40s and 50s, how people-pleasing keeps you stuck, and the small, curious experiments that help you redesign work, relationships and daily rhythms around what actually matters.Expect practical tools, compassionate truth-telling, and permission to start over.You’ll learn:Why “mid-life crisis” is often a mislabel — and what it really signalsHow to spot discontent early (and use it as a compass)Simple ways to build assertiveness after years of people-pleasingThe role of values in making aligned decisionsHow to use curiosity (not certainty) to test new pathsPsychological flexibility: adjusting the sails in real timeWhat “becoming” looks like in everyday lifePerfect for: anyone feeling off-track, successful-but-unfulfilled, or ready to trade autopilot for intentional living.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

This week Scott and Tracey pull back the curtain on the 2-day relationship reset created by Tracey and her psychologist friend and relationship expert, Tina.They talk about why they created it, who it’s for (and not for), and the specific skills couples practice to stop “Groundhog Day” fights and feel closer again. It’s a practical, therapist-supported approach without the sales pitch: we talk real tools, real patterns, and what actually changes at home.Across the conversation, we explore the difference between trading blows about this week’s argument versus learning to spot the deeper loop underneath it. By the end, you’ll have a clearer map for pressing pause earlier, talking cleaner, and choosing connection over reactivity.What you will learn:- How to spot your default loop (the repeatable steps that take a tiff to a blow-up) and where to intervene earlier for a different outcome.- Regulation before resolution: simple ways to bring your nervous system down so problem-solving actually works.- Expectations audit: surfacing the unspoken rules you’re each carrying from early life and past relationships.- Love languages with context: using them after expectations so care actually lands.- Compromise & acceptance: a framework to negotiate flex points and make peace with the “perpetual” differences you won’t change.- Pauses, repair, and reset rituals you can use the same day to de-escalate and reconnect.Who this episode helps:Couples who aren’t breaking up, but feel disconnected, stuck in repeats, or like they’re “good… but not great” and want fresh tools to get back on the same team.Key themes we touch:- Weekly counselling vs a focused reset- Boundaries, bids for connection, and small daily habits that compound closeness- Designing “how we do conflict” as a couple value, not a personality clashIf this resonates, share the episode with your partner and pick one small tool to try today.Reconnect Relationship Retreathttps://www.reconnectrelationships.com.au/*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

When Sophie Bretag hit the wall, she kept trying to push through.High-functioning anxiety, burnout, then a tongue-cancer diagnosis finally led her husband to insist she stop.In this raw, hopeful conversation, Sophie shares how that loving call-out became the circuit-breaker—why crisis puts you in survival, not processing—and how healing came from layering tiny, consistent practices.From time in nature to somatic work—breathwork, Reiki, acupuncture—Sophie slowly pieced herself back together with self-kindness. We explore choosing work that gives energy, letting go of inflated responsibility, and why self-kindness isn’t fluffy—it’s the backbone of resilience, relationships, and sustainable performance.You’ll hear:- The moment Sophie stopped and gave herself permission to heal- What somatic healing looked like after the storm- The 1% practices that actually stick (and why there’s no silver bullet)- How to use values as your “energy filter” for work and lifeTakeaway: Don’t wait for the crash. Pick one small act of care today, repeat tomorrow, and let the gains compound.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

In this episode, Tracey and Scott turn advice they gave to participants in their recent 30 Day Self Care Challenge into a fast, fun quiz.They share the small, doable practices that genuinely moved the needle: breathwork after lunch, a slower exhale (and hum) to calm the vagus nerve, curating your feed for joy, five-minute tidy timers, choosing rest even when it’s inconvenient, and stacking those little one-percenters into a better day.Here's a snapshot of what was covered:How to make self-care doable in winter (and why changing it up monthly helps)The 15-minute post-lunch breathwork that boosted afternoon energyA simple “longer exhale + hum” reset you can do anywhereBe present to micro-moments (aka “pocketful of happiness”) and string them togetherWhy contrast grows gratitude (and how to notice it sooner)The case for rest: choosing yourself without guiltDoom-scroll vs. intentional joy-scroll (curating your content diet)Five-minute timers for decluttering + quick winsDon’t have a hobby? Easy ways to experiment and find oneCompassion in the wild: other people’s energy, our interpretation, and choosing kindnessIf you’re busy, a bit flat, or stuck in “all or nothing”, this one’s for you. If this helped, please: follow/subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone who needs it. It genuinely helps the show reach more people.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

Breakups hurt... even when you’re the one who ended it. In this episode, counsellor Tracey Quayle (20+ years’ experience) and her husband Scott share a compassionate, practical guide for the first days and weeks: what to do, what to avoid, and how to rebuild with clarity.What we coverThe different types of breakups (amicable vs blindsided; leaver vs left) and why the experience feels so differentWhy the leaver also needs support - and how to ask for itDay-one self-care: making space to feel it (yes, the ugly cry), nervous-system regulation, and leaning on your peopleThe social media trap: why your ex’s highlight reel isn’t the truth“Perpetual problems” in relationships (and what to learn from them)Scott’s story: the guilt of breaking up and the regret of trying again!The “New Partner List” exercise: turn red flags into green standards before you date againBoundaries, self-respect, and being gentle while you rebuildCreating things to look forward toWho this episode is forIf you’ve just been through a breakup, you’re considering ending a relationship, or you’re trying to make sense of what happened, this is for you!Try this (from the episode)Before you date again, write your New Partner List:– What didn’t work last time? Flip each “don’t want” into a clear “must have”.– What behaviours help you feel safe, seen and respected?– What are your non-negotiables?If this helped, please: follow/subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone who needs it. It genuinely helps the show reach more people.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn’t a substitute for personalised therapy.

What would happen if you stopped playing it safe… and did the thing that scares you?This week, Tracey and Scott sit down with public speaking specialist and TEDx coach Shil Shanghavi - a man who built his entire career around the one thing he once avoided: his voice.Having developed a severe stutter at age 10, Shil spent years avoiding attention. Today, he stands on stages around the world - not because he became fearless, but because he chose to show up anyway.In this conversation, we explore:How to take action before you feel confidentThe exact tools Shil uses to speak under pressureWhat it really means to step outside your comfort zoneThe mindset shift that helps you fully back yourselfWhether you're facing a big leap or a quiet nudge, this episode is your reminder: Growth starts at the edge of discomfort.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠

If you’ve ever said “yes” when deep down you knew you wanted to say “no”, this episode is for you.Tracey and Scott unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways people pleasing shows up, why it’s so hard to break, and the real cost it takes on your energy, health, and self-trust.In this episode, we explore:The childhood conditioning that wires us to be “the nice one”Why people pleasing often masquerades as kindnessThe physical and emotional toll of saying yes when you mean noTracey’s personal turning point in recognising her own people pleasing patternsHow resentment quietly builds when we ignore our own needsPractical steps to begin setting boundaries without the guiltIf you’re ready to start honouring your own needs without feeling like a bad person, this conversation will give you both the insight and the encouragement to take that first step.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠

In this episode of Reconnect to Self, we’re joined by Emotional Intelligence expert Amy Jacobson for a conversation that will shift how you think about your reactions, your relationships, and yourself.Amy unpacks what emotional intelligence really means...and it’s not about being nice, soft, or always calm. It’s about choosing how you show up, even when things get uncomfortable.Together, we explore:Why emotional hijacks happen (and how to recover fast)How to face difficult conversations without losing yourselfThe real reason we avoid conflict (and how to stop)The difference between feeling your emotions and being ruled by themThis episode is a practical, energising guide to building emotional awareness that actually empowers your life, not just your work. Whether you're a parent, a partner, or a leader, this one’s for you.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠

Are you doing all the work and still feeling stuck?In this episode, Tracey reveals her powerful 4-step method:Lift, Shift, Clear & AlignThat’s helped countless people move beyond old patterns and reconnect with their true selves.Whether you’ve hit a wall with traditional talk therapy or you’re simply craving a deeper kind of healing, this model offers a practical and transformative roadmap.We explore:Why talking alone isn’t always enoughHow emotional energy gets stored in the bodyWhat it really means to "clear" the pastAnd how to begin living in true alignmentThis is for anyone ready to do the real work, and rediscover exactly who they are!*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠

Why do so many of us feel anxious about money, even when we’re doing okay on paper?In this episode of Reconnect to Self, Scott and Tracey dive into how childhood patterns, inherited beliefs and unspoken fears around money shape the way we think, feel and behave financially as adults.From guilt around spending to the pressure to “have enough”, they share personal stories and honest reflections, all with their usual humour and down-to-earth banter.This isn’t about budgets or spreadsheets. It’s about emotional freedom, self-worth and rewriting your relationship with money so it works for you.🎧 In this episode:• Why money triggers stress, even when it shouldn't• How childhood shaped your beliefs around spending• The invisible guilt we carry when we spend on ourselves• What it takes to shift from scarcity to a healthier mindsetTune in for a raw but uplifting chat that might just change how you think about money... and yourself.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠**Join our 30 Day Self Care Challenge**⁠www.traceyquayle.com/30days

This one’s a big one.Cheating is one of those topics that people whisper about, judge quickly, or bury entirely. But what if there’s more going on than most of us realise?In this episode, we explore:- What really counts as cheating (it’s not just physical)- How affairs often begin with emotional disconnection- Why even “good people” cheat - and are shocked by it- The surprising relief some people feel when the truth comes out- What it takes to rebuild trust (and when it’s not worth it)- How to handle judgement if you choose to stayWe unpack why people cheat, not just the obvious stuff, but the emotional, relational and sometimes existential reasons behind it. We talk about the identity loss that can creep into long-term relationships, how disconnection builds slowly, and why good people sometimes make choices that don’t line up with their values.It’s not about excuses. It’s about understanding. And maybe, it’s about rethinking what healing looks like too.If you've been betrayed, if you’ve cheated, or if you’re just wanting to understand this part of relationships with more compassion and less shame, this conversation is for you.*Follow Tracey*instagram: ⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠Tik Tok: ⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠Facebook: ⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠YouTube: ⁠@traceyquayle.therapy⁠*Join my mailing list*⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠**Join our 30 Day Self Care Challenge**www.traceyquayle.com/30days

What really happens when you take ayahuasca?When we hear the words ayahuasca or plant medicine, many of us think of remote jungles, psychedelic trips, or something “other people do.” But what if these ancient healing tools hold the key to emotional release, personal transformation, and deep reconnection with ourselves?In this powerful episode, Tracey & Scott sit down with Tracey's breathwork instructors Adam and Neelam — two incredibly grounded, heart-led facilitators — to explore their work in Peru holding ayahuasca ceremonies, and why they believe this medicine can help so many of us heal.They talk about:- What ayahuasca actually is (and how it's made)- The structure and safety of a typical ceremony- The raw, honest truth about what a journey can feel like- Why it’s a catalyst for deep, personal growth✨ Tracey also opens up about why she’s never done ayahuasca — and what still scares her about it — despite believing deeply in its healing potential.This is not a promo for psychedelics. It’s a grounded, respectful conversation about facing yourself, honouring nature, and choosing to grow.🌿 Whether you're curious about ayahuasca, cautious, or completely new to the idea — this episode will meet you exactly where you are.Contact Adam & NeelamNeelam - www.neelamtaylor.comAdam - www.letsjustbreathe.com.au*Follow Tracey*instagram: @traceyquayle.therapyTik Tok: @traceyquayle.therapyFacebook: @traceyquayle.therapyYouTube: @traceyquayle.therapy*Join my mailing list*www.traceyquayle.com

In this episode, Tracey and Scott dive into one of the most common (and quietly painful) issues in long-term relationships: the slow fade of intimacy and sex. Why do we feel so connected at the start... and then slowly drift into routine? What role do stress, small gestures, and emotional presence actually play in our ability to stay close? Tracey explains how intimacy is about much more than just sex — and how we can start to reconnect with intention. 💬 Expect laughter, lived experience, and one hilariously awkward moment from Tracey you’ll never unhear (yep… she said that on air 😅). ✨ IN THIS CONVERSATION: - Why falling in love is one of the biggest pattern interrupters we experience - How everyday life quietly erodes intimacy (and how to spot it) - What to do when your partner expresses a need — and why ignoring it costs more than you think - A simple mindset shift to reconnect emotionally and physically - One of Tracey's most embarrassingly funny moments on the podcast 😳

This week on the Reconnect to Self Podcast, we sit down with Tracey's long-time friend and now Ayurvedic practitioner, Nikki O — founder of The Way of the Warrior Woman.After years of chronic pain, burnout, and emotional depletion, Nikki found herself completely unrecognisable — physically, mentally, and spiritually.Through a deeply personal healing journey, she discovered Ayurveda… and everything changed.Now, she’s guiding other women back to health using simple yet powerful tools rooted in this ancient system of mind-body healing.In this episode, we explore:- Why burnout is often a full-body SOS — and where to begin healing.- What Ayurveda really is (and how it helps you reconnect to self).- How Nikki turned her pain into purpose — and how you can too.✨ If you’re craving a more intuitive, grounded way to live — this episode is your starting point.👇Nikki’s Links🌿 Follow Nikki: @thewayofthewarriorwoman🧘‍♀️ Or visit her website: https://www.thewayofthewarriorwoman.org/🔔 Subscribe for more soulful conversations that help you reconnect to yourself — body, mind and heart. Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode of Reconnect to Self, Tracey returns from an intensive 8-day breathwork training in Bali and shares not just her powerful personal journey—but also the science behind why this practice is so transformative.Whether you’re totally new to breathwork or curious about how it helps regulate the nervous system, this episode breaks it down in simple terms with Scott and Tracey’s usual humour.You’ll learn:💨 The difference between breathwork and meditation (and why it’s not always relaxing)🧠 How breathwork signals safety or stress to the body—and why that matters🔥 What’s really happening when you feel emotional or overwhelmed during breathwork🌿 Tracey’s real take on how breathwork has shifted her energy, mindset, and sense of self✨ Practical ways you can start using your breath to support your mental health and emotional regulationThis isn’t just theory. It’s a real look into a practice that might just help you come back to yourself—one breath at a time.🔔 Subscribe for more soulful conversations that help you reconnect to yourself — body, mind and heart.Links from the episode:Get a one month free trial with Othership Breathwork App.IOS Users: Redeem a 1-month free trial here: https://apps.apple.com/redeem?ctx=offercodes&id=1590348936&code=TRACEYAndroid Users Redeem a 1-month free trial here: https://checkout.othership.us/create-accountSelect either our monthly or yearly member[ship] optionsEnter the promo code TRACEY at checkoutJoin our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode of the Reconnect to Self podcast, Tracey and Scott unpack one of the biggest myths about our bodies as we age — the belief that pain, stiffness and tightness are just part of getting older. But what if that story isn’t true? This conversation explores what’s really going on when your body feels sore, slow and stuck — and how it’s not just about what you’re doing, but how you’re doing it. They’re joined by Greg Murphy — a qualified remedial massage therapist, myofascial release practitioner, and personal trainer — to explore what movement and recovery can look like when we stop pushing through pain and start listening to our bodies instead. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of waking up sore, struggling to move, or feeling like their best physical days are behind them. If you’ve been told “it’s just age”… this one might change everything. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: - Why your body might be holding more than just tension - Greg’s journey to reconnecting with movement - How to stretch and move in a way that works with your body, not against it - Tracey’s practical tools for restoring mobility and ease - The emotional weight we carry in our muscles - Reframing movement as nourishment, not punishment - Ways to feel more connected to your body, even on hard days 🔗 FOLLOW GREG MURPHY: Website: jsrmassage.com.au Facebook: facebook.com/jsrmassage.com.au 🔔 Subscribe for more soulful conversations that help you reconnect to yourself — body, mind and heart. Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode of the Reconnect to Self podcast, Tracey shares her journey to becoming a certified psychedelic-assisted therapist and how it’s reshaped the way she supports clients through trauma and healing. 💫Together, Tracey and Scott open up about their own powerful experiences with psilocybin (magic mushrooms) and why psychedelics are gaining recognition as a breakthrough therapy in Australia. 🇦🇺You’ll hear about the science behind psychedelic-assisted therapy, how it’s being used for treatment-resistant depression and PTSD, and why integration is key for lasting transformation.PLUS: Breathwork as a potent alternative to psychedelics—and why Tracey is now adding this tool to her retreats and client work.💡 This episode blends personal storytelling with professional insight, perfect for anyone curious about plant medicine, healing modalities, or expanding their own toolkit for self-discovery.✨ MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Psychedelic-assisted therapy in AustraliaTracey’s certification process + key learningsThe film “Dosed”Breathwork for trauma releaseIntegration after psychedelic journeysThe neuroscience behind psychedelics and neuroplasticityLinks:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

If you've ever struggled with feeling seen, sharing your truth, or embracing the uncomfortable parts of your past, this conversation will resonate deeply. In this powerful episode of Reconnect to Self, Tracey opens up about some of the most defining moments of her life. Including: 💔 A marriage breakdown—forcing her to question who she was outside of that relationship. 🌈 Deep questions about her identity and sexuality 🤰 A traumatic birth experience and postpartum struggles Tracey shares personal stories of grief, heartbreak, and self-discovery, reflecting on how life’s hardest experiences have shaped her perspective and deepened her ability to connect with others. This episode explores: ✨ The true power of vulnerability—and why avoiding emotions keeps us disconnected.✨ How personal struggles can become our greatest teachers. ✨ The weight of expectations and how they shape our choices. ✨ What it really means to own your story—without shame or fear. Tracey and Scott also dive into the realities of navigating big life transitions, how vulnerability impacts relationships, and why embracing our past (instead of hiding it) allows for deeper healing. 🔔 Subscribe for more conversations that help you reconnect to yourself.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this deeply personal episode, Tracey opens up like never before, sharing the raw, unfiltered stories that have shaped who she is today.From the quiet shame of a childhood spent “making do” to navigating grief, heartbreak, and the complex journey of self-acceptance, this is a conversation about the power—and the fear—of being truly vulnerable.We explore why vulnerability isn’t a weakness but a superpower that creates connection, builds resilience, and helps us own our stories—even the messy, painful parts.Tracey and Scott dive into:✨ How childhood experiences can silently shape adult behaviours✨ The link between shame, people-pleasing, and the fear of judgment✨ Grief, growth, and finding meaning after loss✨ Why embracing vulnerability can deepen your relationships—and your sense of selfWhether you’re someone who struggles to open up or you’ve felt the weight of carrying your story alone, this episode is a reminder: there’s real strength in being seen.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode of the Reconnect to Self podcast, Tracey and Scott dive into setting yourself up for a meaningful and fulfilling 2025.Instead of overwhelming resolutions, discover how small, intentional steps can lead to big changes.Learn why kindness to yourself is the key to progress, how to reflect on what truly brings you joy, and how to create a vision for the year ahead that feels achievable and inspiring.Whether you’re feeling stuck or simply want to approach the New Year differently, this conversation will help you reconnect to what matters most.Highlights:- Practical tips for setting realistic and empowering goals- The importance of self-compassion in achieving success- Strategies to bring balance and joy to your daily life👉 Tune in and let us guide you towards thriving—not just surviving—in 2025.Share your thoughts in the comments:What’s your one small step for the New Year?Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

Tired of feeling overwhelmed by the holiday hustle? In this festive episode, Scott and Tracey share relatable stories, laugh-out-loud moments, and game-changing strategies to help you take back control of your Christmas season. You’ll learn how to set boundaries without awkwardness, create space for what really matters, and sidestep common holiday stressors. From navigating tricky family dynamics to injecting more joy and meaning into your celebrations, this episode is packed with practical insights wrapped in engaging, down-to-earth storytelling. Whether you’re hosting gatherings, juggling endless to-dos, or just craving a more peaceful holiday, Scott and Tracey’s candid advice and lighthearted banter will leave you inspired, smiling, and ready to reclaim your Christmas spirit.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

Feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone. In this episode of the Reconnect to Self podcast, Scott and Tracey dive into the everyday challenges of feeling frozen by life’s demands. From work stress to personal struggles, overwhelm can creep in from all sides. But don’t worry—we’re here to help you navigate through it. Tracey shares practical tools she uses in her counselling practice, including the game-changing "pie chart method" to break down overwhelming thoughts and regain clarity. Learn why making a plan (even a simple one!) can unlock the mental space you need and how setting boundaries at work and home can transform your stress levels. Plus, hear Tracey's personal journey with dietary changes and how taking just one step at a time brought her peace during a chaotic moment. 🎧 Key Takeaways: - What overwhelm looks like and how it impacts your mind and body. - The power of small actions in reducing stress and improving focus. - Practical tips for managing overwhelm, including breathing techniques, grounding exercises, and journaling. - Why setting clear boundaries is essential for work-life balance.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

Feeling stuck in your career? In this episode of the Reconnect to Self podcast, Scott and Tracey delve into the challenges and triumphs of career change later in life. Scott shares his personal journey of leaving behind a corporate job that drained him to pursue a passion-driven path, navigating uncertainty, self-doubt, and financial planning along the way. Together, they offer insights on recognizing when it’s time to make a change, finding your curiosity (not just passion), and embracing the discomfort of growth. Whether you’re seeking inspiration or practical tips for making a midlife pivot, this episode will help you rediscover what truly lights you up.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode, we continue the conversation with Tracey as she talks more about her spiritual journey and continues to share the various practices she’s explored—ranging from meditation, breathwork, and crystals to cold immersions and earthing.Now of course there’s no one-size-fits-all approach for this, so Tracey encourages listeners to experiment, adapt, and find what works for them. Tune in to be inspired to create your own spiritual path!Links from the episode:Othership YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ @Othership Othership App: IOS Users: Redeem a 1-month free trial here.Android Users Click here to visit our web checkout portalSelect either our monthly or yearly member[ship] optionsEnter the promo code TRACEY at checkout to get your 1-month free trialGaia: https://www.gaia.com/hp24ab2Paul Mckenna YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ @impaulmckenna Scott's Favourite Breathwork: https://youtu.be/qlTC2HBmPeM?si=0cCzo1ml8lS3vrpfLinks:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode, Tracey opens up about her spiritual journey, sharing the various practices she’s explored—ranging from meditation, breathwork, and crystals to cold immersions and grounding.Her journey is an ongoing, ever-evolving process of finding what resonates.The key takeaway?Spirituality is personal—there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.Tracey encourages listeners to experiment, adapt, and find what works for them.Tune in to be inspired to create your own spiritual path!Links from the episode:Othership YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ @Othership  Othership App: IOS Users: Redeem a 1-month free trial here. Android Users Click here to visit our web checkout portalSelect either our monthly or yearly member[ship] optionsEnter the promo code TRACEY at checkout to get your 1-month free trialGaia: https://www.gaia.com/hp24ab2 Paul Mckenna YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ @impaulmckenna  Scott's Favourite Breathwork: https://youtu.be/qlTC2HBmPeM?si=0cCzo1ml8lS3vrpfLinks:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of holistic health. While Western medicine is essential for acute care, it’s not always designed to optimise how you feel or function. Scott opens up about his personal journey dealing with gut health issues, functional movement challenges, and Meniere’s disease. Tracey shares the practices she uses daily to operate at her best, including how she fixed her chronic back issues. Together, they explore ways to take control of your health beyond traditional medicine. Tune in for insights on optimising your well-being!Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode, we dive into the five love languages and explore how they can transform your relationships. Tracey and Scott discuss why knowing your own love languages is crucial for personal growth and offer practical tips for better communication and connection in your daily life. Understanding how you and others give and receive love is vital for deeper connection and personal growth. Here’s a quick rundown of the five love languages: - Talk: Verbal appreciation and encouragement. - Tasks: Showing love through helpful actions. - Tokens: Thoughtful tokens of love. - Time: Undivided attention and meaningful moments. - Touch: Expressing love through physical closeness. Join us as we unpack these concepts and give practical tips for better communication and connection in your daily life! Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

Have you ever noticed a seemingly small habit or reaction and wondered where it comes from? Often, the answer lies in our childhood experiences. It’s not just the big, dramatic moments that shape us; even minor events can leave a lasting impact.Yet, many of us are reluctant to look back. The idea of revisiting childhood memories might feel daunting or unnecessary, especially if nothing “big” happened. But making these connections can be incredibly freeing and transformative.Connecting these dots isn’t about reliving trauma or digging up pain; it’s about understanding and making peace with how our experiences have shaped us.So, next time you find yourself reacting in a way that puzzles you, consider looking back. You might discover a childhood influence you didn’t realise was there.By understanding our past, we can begin to reshape our future, freeing ourselves from patterns that no longer serve us.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode of "Reconnect to Self," we dive into one of the most common sources of tension in relationships: managing household responsibilities and the mental load that comes with them.We share a personal story of how Tracey and Scott tackled the issue of "who does what" in their own home and explore the concept of the "mental load"—those often invisible, yet mentally exhausting, tasks that can lead to overwhelm and resentment.We also discuss the importance of clear communication, providing practical tips for ensuring that expectations are not only communicated but also understood and agreed upon.Whether you’re struggling with the division of chores, feeling the weight of the mental load, or just want to improve communication in your relationship, this episode offers valuable insights to help you work together as a team and foster a more harmonious home life.Tune in to learn more and take the first steps toward reducing unnecessary arguments and fostering better understanding in your relationship.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Social Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In the third episode of "Reconnect to Self," Tracey and Scott delve into the powerful practice of creating a vision for your future.Visioning isn't just about setting goals; it's about imagining and planning for a holistic and fulfilling life.This episode breaks down eight key areas to consider when crafting your vision:Mind, Body & Soul: Discover ways to nurture your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.Career: Define what success looks like for you and how to achieve it.Relationships: Explore how to cultivate meaningful connections and strengthen existing ones.Lifestyle: Envision the lifestyle that brings you joy and fulfillment.Social Life: Plan for a vibrant social life that supports and energizes you.Family: Consider the dynamics and aspirations you have for your family life.House: Visualize your ideal living space and environment.Finances: Set financial goals that align with your vision for a secure and prosperous future.Join us as we guide you through each area, providing practical tips and personal insights to help you create a comprehensive and inspiring vision for your life.Whether you're looking to make small changes or significant shifts, this episode will help you map out a future that aligns with your deepest desires and values.Tune in and start building the life you envision!Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Resources:Vision template available on our websiteSocial Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

In this episode of "Reconnect to Self," Tracey and Scott dive into a topic that affects many of us: anxiety. Anxiety can be a challenging and overwhelming experience, but understanding it and developing strategies to manage it can make a significant difference in our daily lives.Join us as we explore:The different forms anxiety can take and how it manifests in our livesPractical techniques for managing anxiety in the momentLong-term strategies to reduce anxiety and build resiliencePersonal stories and experiences with anxiety, and how we have navigated through itWhether you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, this episode offers insights and tools to help you cope and find peace. Tune in and learn how to reclaim your calm and reconnect with yourself.Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Resources:Feelings Sheets available on our websiteSocial Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

When we embark on the journey of self-discovery, we embark on a journey of self-love.By understanding our deepest fears, dreams, and motivations, we unlock the door to genuine self-acceptance and compassion. This inner harmony becomes the cornerstone upon which we build a fulfilling and purposeful existence.One of the most loving things we can do for ourselves is to get to know who we are. I don’t just mean basic information, I mean what really makes us quirky and unique. If you think about your favourite character on TV or in a movie, the more layers that they show of this character, the more we as an audience connect to them. We don’t care that they are not perfect, in fact often it is the fact that they are not perfect that makes us connect to them more. So in the same way that we can fall in love with a character on TV, the more we know about ourselves, and can love and accept ourselves (warts and all), the better we can take care of ourselves. You will know what activities to do to switch off, or that get you excited. What foods to cook if you are wanting to nurture yourself and where is the cosiest space for you to enjoy it. All of these things, only you know the answers to. Links:Join our mailing list: https://www.traceyquayle.com/Resources:Journal Prompts available on our websiteSocial Media: @traceyquayle.therapyFollow Tracey on InstagramFollow Tracey on FacebookFollow Tracey on Tik Tok

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