ReFraming Life

Some of the most beautiful seasons of our lives only reveal their true meaning in hindsight.Not because anything went wrong in the moment… but because we later realize we were living inside a chapter that wouldn’t last forever.In this episode, I take you back to the summer of 2018, a time when life with Adel felt full, expansive, and open in every direction. We travelled to Budapest, where she reconnected with her childhood story of leaving Hungary under extraordinary circumstances, and then to Tuscany, where a simple vacation quietly turned into something much bigger.That trip changed how we saw our future.We began to imagine a different kind of life, one built around experiences, travel, and fully living in the present rather than waiting for “someday.”And like so many dreams we created together… it felt completely possible.What we didn’t know at the time was that we were living in our final season of normal life. A season filled with gratitude, laughter, and possibility, one that would soon give way to something neither of us expected.Looking back now, I don’t see that time as something we lost.I see it as something we were lucky enough to fully live.🎙 My Soulmate Named Adel is part of the ReFraming Life series, true stories of love, loss, and what it means to be human.

Most of us wait for the big moments to celebrate love.The anniversaries. The milestones. The occasions that feel important enough to mark on a calendar.But Adel and I had a different tradition.Every week — for over fourteen years — we celebrated what we called our week-anniversary. Not with grand gestures or elaborate plans. Just with presence. With the quiet, deliberate choice to say: this week mattered. And so did you.At the time, it felt like a small thing. A ritual that was simply ours. But looking back now, I understand what those weeks were really building — not just memories, but a kind of bond that holds its shape even when life asks everything of it.This episode is about the things we build slowly, without knowing we're building them. About why small celebrations aren't small at all. And about what it means to choose someone — not once, but week after week after week.Episode 10 of ReFraming Life — a true story about love, loss, and what it means to be human.

This is not a podcast about grief. It’s a story about love.My Soulmate Named Adel is a 20-part series about what it means to find your person later in life… build something real together… and then lose them.Adel and I didn’t begin with magic. We built it. Day by day. Choice by choice.And when she died, I was left with a question I didn’t know how to answer:What do you do when your soulmate is gone… and you’re still here?This series follows our story, how we met, how we lived, what we built, and what it took to keep going after everything changed.If you believe in soulmate love… If you’ve lost someone… Or if you’re trying to understand what love really means over a lifetime…You’re not alone here.Start with Episode 1.New episodes are released every two weeks.

Most people think memories are something you hold onto after the moment has passed.But what if trying to capture the moment… is the very thing that takes you out of it?In this episode of My Soulmate Named Adel, I share a quiet realization from early in my relationship with Adel, one that changed how I experienced love, presence, and memory for the rest of my life.It began with a simple question she asked me on our first trip together… and led to a deeper understanding of what it truly means to be with someone.Because in the end… what we keep… and what we leave behind… are the same thing.If you’ve ever wondered what really matters in a relationship… or how to create moments that last long after they’re gone… this conversation is for you.

Some of the most revealing moments in a relationship don’t happen when everything is going right.They happen when things fall apart.In this episode, I share a day Adel and I experienced in Barcelona that quickly turned into a cascade of mistakes:We lost our train tickets.We got on the wrong train.We ended up in the wrong station.And by the end of the night, we were standing outside a locked gate, trying to find our way back in.It should have been frustrating.Instead, it became one of the funniest days of our entire relationship.Looking back, that day revealed something I didn’t fully understand at the time.A strong relationship isn’t defined by perfect moments.It’s revealed in how two people move through the unexpected, and whether they stay on the same side when things go wrong.This episode is part of the series:My Soulmate Named AdelA true story about love, loss, and what it means to live with an open heart.If this resonates with you, you’re always welcome to share a thought or reflection.

Have you ever met someone and felt something quietly shift inside you?Not fireworks. Not perfection.Just a strange sense that something in your life has changed.In East Asian folklore there is a belief that the people we are meant to love are already connected to us by an invisible red string.You cannot see it. You cannot control it.But somehow it pulls two lives together until one day they meet.For most of my life I didn’t believe in destiny or soulmates. I believed in hard work and showing up.That belief changed the day I met Adel.This reflection explores the idea of soulmates, recognition, and the strange way life sometimes reveals meaning only when we look back.It serves as a quiet introduction to the series My Soulmate Named Adel, a true story told across twenty episodes about love, timing, loss, and the moments that quietly change everything.

The hardest speech I’ve ever given was at my wife’s Celebration of Life.I stood in front of family, friends, and colleagues, knowing that whatever I said first would shape how they remembered us.You only get one opening line in a moment like that.Mine silenced the room.But what came after that line revealed something deeper, not just about humour, but about partnership… about alignment… and about the kind of love that doesn’t weaken when two people spend their lives side by side.In this episode of My Soulmate Named Adel, I share the story behind that moment, how Adel and I worked together, lived together, built something meaningful together… and what working side by side taught me about soulmate love, trust, and togetherness.This isn’t just a story about a speech.It’s a story about what makes a partnership strong enough to stand in front of grief - and still feel whole.If you’ve ever loved deeply…If you’ve ever lost someone…If you believe real closeness doesn’t weaken love but reveals it…I hope this story speaks to you.This episode is part of ReFraming Life, stories of love, loss, and what it means to be human.Subscribe if you’re walking through grief, love after loss, or searching for meaning in the life you’re still living.

After 26 years of loving the way we’re told to love, I lost Adel, my soulmate.And only after she was gone did I begin to understand what love was really teaching us.In this episode of My Soulmate Named Adel, I share the quiet lessons that only reveal themselves after loss, lessons about presence, silence, shared time, and the kind of love that grows not through perfection, but through attention.This is not a story about grand gestures.It’s about grocery store laughter.Sunday mornings.Holding silence instead of fixing it.Choosing to stay on the same team when life gets hard.If you’ve loved deeply…If you’ve lost someone who still lives inside you…This episode is for you.

For years, my wife Adel hid the things she loved.Not because she couldn’t afford them.Not because she was irresponsible.But because someone once made her feel wrong for wanting them.This episode of My Soulmate Named Adel tells the true story of how shame can quietly teach us to shrink - and how love, patience, and being truly seen can help us take our lives back.From hidden shopping bags…to shared joy…to a pair of navy Jimmy Choo boots in Las Vegas that led to an unforgettable moment neither of us could have planned…This isn’t really a story about shopping.It’s a story about identity.About trust.About what happens when someone finally feels safe enough to stop hiding.

Most experts say you should wait months before introducing your children to a new partner. We waited 9 days.In Episode 4 of "My Soulmate Named Adel," I take you back to the terrifying, awkward, and beautiful moment our two families collided inside a bowling alley. I had promised my sons I would never introduce them to anyone unless I was certain it would last. Breaking that promise felt like a massive risk, but with Adel, the normal rules didn't apply.In this episode, I share:Why we rushed the "meeting the kids" timeline (and why it worked for us).The fear of traumatizing my sons with another relationship.Why I refuse to use the label "Step-Dad."How we navigated the transition from dating to grandparents.If you are navigating life after loss, blending a family, or just believe in second chances, this story is for you.

There’s a moment in every real relationship where “falling in love” isn’t enough anymore. You either protect yourself… or you jump.In this episode of My Soulmate Named Adel, I share a true story from my soulmate, Adel, the day she started testing me to see if I was safe, the quiet ways fear tried to sabotage what we had, and the night I finally told her:“Nothing, including your fear, is going to stop our love from growing.”You’ll hear about:• The subtle “tests” she gave me to see if I’d abandon her• Why people who’ve been hurt wait for “the other shoe to drop”• The brick wall she’d built around her heart, and the coaster that finally made it visible• The difference between falling into love and deliberately jumping into it• How months of small, consistent actions slowly rebuilt trustIf you’ve ever loved someone who keeps waiting for you to disappear… or if you’re the one always bracing for impact… this story is for you.

I pulled my hands away when she reached for me across that Starbucks table… and in her eyes, I saw the hurt of someone who thought they were being rejected.I wasn’t pulling away because I didn’t want her. I was pulling away because I had never felt that much love before, and I didn’t know how to hold it.This is Episode 2 of “My Soulmate Named Adel,” a true love story about finding your person, almost losing them, and learning how to stay open when everything in you wants to shut down.In this episode, The Second Date, we pick up just 24 hours after our 8‑hour first date. We’ll sit together in a Starbucks near Adel’s home, meet my parents on speakerphone, and walk right up to the edge of me being so overwhelmed by love… that I almost shut down.

What happens when you finally meet your soulmate… and one day, they’re gone?In this opening episode of My Soulmate Named Adel, I share the true story of how Adel and I met online, the instant connection that felt like destiny, and an 8-hour first date that changed everything I believed about love.You’ll hear:• How rewriting my dating profile like a “manifestation list” led to one message that changed my life• The moment we both wondered, “OMG… do you think we might be soulmates?”• Our first phone call, her unforgettable accent, and the line that stopped me in my tracks: “How can you miss someone you’ve never met?”• The countdown to meeting “IRL,” why we kept moving the time earlier, like excited school kids• Our first embrace at the restaurant door… and why Adel later said, “You had me at the a** grab.”• The 8-hour first date, the roses for her and her daughters, and the drive home, where I felt like I was floating in heavenThis is where our love story begins.