Relating Differently

We hear a lot about red flags in relationships but what about the green ones? The small, consistent signs that someone is actually safe, supportive and emotionally available… and that we often overlook.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore the quiet behaviours that signal a healthy partner.. things like consistency, communication, respect and emotional presence. We talk about why these traits can feel “boring” or easy to miss, especially if you’re used to intensity or unpredictability.This episode is an invitation to shift your focus from what’s missing to what’s consistently there, to notice what actually makes you feel calm and secure and to start valuing the kind of love that feels steady rather than overwhelming. Healthy connection isn’t always loud but it is reliable and it is there.----Music: ⁠⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠⁠ by ⁠⁠Alicia Rey⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Janbu⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

Not all grief comes from something clearly ending. Sometimes it comes from losing what you thought a relationship could become, the future you imagined, the connection you hoped for or the version of someone you believed in.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore what it means to grieve a relationship that never fully existed in the way you needed. We talk about “what could have been,” why this kind of loss can feel so confusing, and how grief can show up even when the person is still in your life.This episode is an invitation to acknowledge your emotional investment without judgement, to give space to what you hoped for and to understand that letting go isn’t about forgetting, it’s about making room for something more real. You’re allowed to grieve what didn’t happen and still move forward.-----Music: ⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠ by ⁠Alicia Rey⁠ & ⁠JanbuConnect: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

Why You Give So Much in RelationshipsGiving a lot in relationships can feel natural at first. Being attentive, supportive and thoughtful. But over time, it can turn into something heavier where you’re the one holding everything together, often without realising how much it’s costing you.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore why over-giving happens, how it often develops as a way to keep connection and avoid conflict and what it looks like when care becomes something automatic rather than a choice. I talk about emotional responsibility, the fear of disappointing others and how this pattern can slowly pull you away from your own needs.This episode is an invitation to start noticing where you give from habit rather than intention, to include yourself in your relationships and to allow more balance into the way you connect. You don’t have to stop being kind, but you don’t have to carry everything on your own either.-----Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠⁠⁠⁠ by ⁠⁠⁠⁠Alicia Rey⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠Janbu⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

What Anxious Attachment Feels LikeAnxious attachment often shows up in subtle, everyday ways. Overthinking texts, needing reassurance, feeling unsettled when there’s distance or uncertainty. It can feel like you’re constantly trying to keep the connection safe, even at the cost of your own peace.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore what anxious attachment actually feels like beneath the surface, why it’s rooted in the nervous system and how it shapes the way we show up in relationships. We talk about the difference between anxiety that comes from old patterns and anxiety that comes from real experiences and how to start recognising both without dismissing yourself.This episode is an invitation to understand your reactions with more compassion, to create space between your feelings and your actions, and to choose relationships where you feel safe, not constantly on edge. You don’t have to silence your anxiety, but you can learn to listen to it in a way that supports you, not overwhelms you.--------Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠⁠⁠⁠ by ⁠⁠⁠⁠Alicia Rey⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠Janbu⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]

Fearful of Starting a New Relationship: “What If It Doesn’t Work Out?”Starting a new relationship can feel exciting and at the same time deeply unsettling. Especially if you’ve been hurt before, the fear of getting attached or investing in something that might fail can make you hold back.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore why this fear shows up, how self-protection can quietly turn into emotional distance and what happens when caution stops you from fully showing up. We look at the difference between moving slowly and staying guarded and how to stay grounded without shutting yourself down.This episode is an invitation to notice fear without letting it run the relationship, to reconnect with your own stability, and to step forward gently.---------------Music: ⁠⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠⁠ by ⁠⁠Alicia Rey⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Janbu⁠⁠Connect: Instagram: ⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

Letting Go of Perfectionism in Relationships and LifePerfectionism often shows up quietly in relationships. Overthinking, over-responsibility and pressure to get everything “right” so you can be loved or accepted. But instead of protecting connection, it often creates anxiety, imbalance and distance from yourself.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore how perfectionism sneaks into our relationships, why it’s often rooted in self-protection and how it turns care into a performance. We talk about over-managing emotions, fear of vulnerability and what happens when you edit yourself to stay safe.This episode is an invitation to soften the need to be perfect, to allow yourself to be human, and to create connection through honesty rather than effort. You don’t need to be flawless to be worthy of love, you just need to be you.---------------Music: ⁠⁠⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠⁠⁠ by ⁠⁠⁠Alicia Rey⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠Janbu⁠⁠⁠Connect: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠

Avoidant Partners: Why They Feel So AddictiveBeing drawn to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners is more common than you might think and it can feel strangely addictive, even when the relationship is draining.In this episode of Relating Differently, I explore why avoidant partners create such a powerful pull, how uncertainty activates the nervous system and why emotional highs and lows can feel like chemistry or intimacy. We look at how intermittent attention and familiarity keep people stuck in cycles that don’t feel safe or satisfying.This episode is an invitation to understand the pattern without self-blame, to notice how your body actually feels in these dynamics and to begin separating intensity from true intimacy .---------------Music: ⁠⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠⁠ by ⁠⁠Alicia Rey⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Janbu⁠⁠Connect: Instagram: ⁠⁠@newmoonpractice⁠⁠Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠

Why “Being Low-Maintenance” Is Costing You EmotionallyBeing “low-maintenance” is often praised in relationships. It sounds mature and easygoing. But what if it’s quietly costing you more than you realise?In the first episode of Relating Differently, I explore how being low-maintenance can mean suppressing needs, managing emotions alone, and adapting yourself to keep things smooth, often leading to exhaustion, resentment and feeling unseen.This episode reflects on the hidden emotional labour of being “easy” to be with, why unspoken needs don’t create peace and how minimising yourself shapes the relationships you end up in.If you’ve ever told yourself “it’s fine” when it wasn’t, this is an invitation to pause and consider what that’s been costing you and what might change if you allowed yourself to take up a little more space.---------------Music: ⁠Sort en tinc de tu⁠ by ⁠Alicia Rey⁠ & ⁠Janbu⁠Connect: Instagram: ⁠@newmoonpractice⁠Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠

Relating Differently is a podcast for women ready to build confidence, trust themselves and create healthier, more balanced relationships.Each episode explores common challenges like overthinking, people-pleasing, unclear boundaries and repeating old patterns, and offers practical insights and tools you can use in your everyday life.I’m Mons, a trainee counsellor and relationship coach and I share guidance rooted in both counselling and coaching, helping you reconnect with yourself, make choices that feel right and relate differently to yourself first and to the people around you.Music: Sort en tinc de tu by Alicia Rey & JanbuConnect: Instagram: @newmoonpracticeEmail: [email protected]