Safe to Hope

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode of Safe to Hope, Ann Maree and Julia sit down with Dr. Steve Tracy, President of Mending the Soul Ministries, to explore the reality of spiritual abuse within the Church. Through theological insight and real-life application, Dr. Tracy helps unpack how misuse of authority, emotional neglect, and distorted interpretations of Scripture can deeply impact survivors.Grounded in Helen’s story, this conversation sheds light on the subtle warning signs of unhealthy systems, the importance of emotional and spiritual maturity in leadership, and the hope found in a God who sees, cares, and redeems.To Heal or Harm by Steven R. TracySafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode of Safe to Hope, Dr. Lisa Oakley, a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Chester explains her 20-year journey in defining and addressing spiritual abuse, highlighting its emotional and psychological impacts. She emphasizes the importance of creating healthy church cultures and responding well to disclosures. Dr. Oakley will discuss the subtlety of spiritual abuse, the need for proper policies and processes, and the damaging effects of dismissal and discrediting survivors' experiences. Dr. Oakley is one of the foremost experts in spiritual abuse, her book Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse is a foundational resource on this topic.Season 7 Is It Spiritual Abuse?Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode of Safe to Hope, guest host Lynna Sutherland from Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew sits down with Ann Maree to discuss how spiritual abuse can unfold inside church structures—and why a woman’s “perspective” is often dismissed when authority is treated as ultimate.Ann Maree shares her journey from long-term service and trust in her church to becoming the one who was silenced, discredited, and pushed out. She describes advocacy work that led to accusations, misuse of church process, and “shepherding” meetings that felt like interrogation rather than care. Together, they examine what spiritual abuse is (and isn’t), how institutions can prioritize image over people in crisis, and how trauma can have a long “shelf life” even after leaving.Listener care: This episode includes discussion of spiritual abuse and may include references to other forms of abuse. Please listen at your own pace and take breaks as needed. Resources are available in the show notes.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this first episode of Safe to Hope, Season 7 Wade Mullen joins Ann Maree and Julia to unpack how spiritual abuse operates within churches and Christian organizations. Drawing from his research and lived experience, Wade exposes the image-protecting tactics—silencing, justification, denial, and confusion—that often harm victims and protect systems. This conversation offers language, clarity, and hope for those seeking truth, safety, and a more faithful response to abuse.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

This bonus and final episode of the Safe to Hope podcast brings together Dr. Dan Allender and our storyteller, Carya, in a conversation that is both tender and profound.Dr. Allender—known for his pioneering work in trauma and abuse recovery—invites Carya to reflect on her healing journey through the lens of God’s image, goodness, and gentleness. Together, they explore the paradox of holding both unbearable evil and astonishing grace within one life.SHOW NOTES: Dr Allender resourcesThe Wounded HeartThe Healing PathTo Be ToldGod Loves SexIntimate AlliesThe Cry of the Soul, Bold LoveBold PurposeRedeeming HeartacheThe Deep-Rooted MarriageSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In her final story episode, Carya reflects on what it means for God to be with her—not only through rescue, but in the long, quiet ache that follows. Through Scripture, images, and honest wrestling, she shares how comfort can coexist with agony, and how the Word that once felt distant has become both balm and challenge. Explore what healing looks like when it isn’t finished yet—when faith must hold steady between lament and hope.Episode 4 Episode 6 Restoring the Shattered Self and Treating Trauma and Christian Counseling  by Dr. Heather GingrichGraduate Certificate in Trauma TherapyThe Other Half of Church, Escaping Enemy Mode and The Red Dragon Cast Down  by Jim WilderSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisServing SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergScripture quotations are from the ESV®Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright© 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good NewSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Dr. Dan Allender joins Ann Maree to discuss trauma, faith, and the work of story. Together they wrestle with how believers can live in the tension between death and resurrection—where hope and heartache coexist.SHOW NOTES:Episode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr Heather EvansDr Allender’s Resources:The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual AbuseThe Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant LifeTo Be Told: Know Your Story, Shape Your FutureThe Cry of the Soul (with Tremper Longman III)God Loves Sex (with Dr. Tremper Longman III)Bold Love (with Tremper Longman III)The Other Half of Church by Jim WilderSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisServing SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Carya’s rescue didn’t begin with a manual—it began with love, prayer, and a community willing to bear witness. In this conversation, “Lynn,” the trusted friend who helped orchestrate Carya’s exit from harm, shares how faith, patience, wise counsel, and practical safeguards came together to make safety possible. This is not a how-to guide; it’s a testimony of God’s steady care through ordinary people who chose to stay.SHOW NOTES:Episode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr Heather EvansRestoring the Shattered Self by Dr. Heather GingrichTreating Trauma and Christian Counseling by Dr. Heather GingrichGraduate Certificate in Trauma TherapyThe Other Half of Church by Jim WilderSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode and The Red Dragon Cast Down by Dr Jim WilderServing SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this pivotal chapter of her story, Carya shares how her long nightmare began to shift—when the years of abuse finally gave way to rescue. Yet safety was not something she could walk into alone. This episode highlights the crucial role of people-helpers—those who step in, stand beside, and walk with survivors through the fear, uncertainty, and fragile beginnings of healing.Show Notes:Episode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr Heather EvansRestoring the Shattered Self by Dr. Heather GingrichTreating Trauma and Christian Counseling by Dr. Heather GingrichGraduate Certificate in Trauma TherapyThe Other Half of Church by Jim WilderSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode and The Red Dragon Cast Down by Dr Jim WilderServing SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

This week on Safe to Hope, Dr. Heather Davediuk Gingrich joins us for a conversation that blends deep clinical insight with years of walking alongside survivors of extreme abuse. From dissociative identity disorder (DID) to ritual abuse, she helps us understand how evil distorts, how the church can cause further harm—even unintentionally—and how to become truly safe people for those who are healing. This is a sobering yet hope-filled episode, equipping us to listen well, care wisely, and respond with both truth and compassion.SHOW NOTES: Shattered No More by Dr. Heather GingrichRestoring the Shattered Self by Dr. Heather GingrichTreating Trauma and Christian Counseling by Dr. Heather GingrichGraduate Certificate in Trauma Therapy with Dr. Heather GingrichThe Other Half of Church by Jim WilderSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode by Dr Jim WilderServing SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Through language rarely spoken in Christian spaces, Carya explains the difference between grooming and training, and how dissociation became the means of survival when life became unbearable. Carya invites listeners to see not only the trauma, but the mercy that allowed her to endure it. Her words call us, the Church to deeper understanding, and to become a place where stories like hers can be known and safely held.Show Notes:Episode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr. Heather EvansShattered No More by Dr. Heather GingrichCTHN, Tools and HandoutsSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersThe Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous SystemTherapy in a NutshellJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode by Dr Jim WilderServing SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanLalich Center on Cults and CoercionRAINN.org - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivorsOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergEscaping High-Control Religious GroupsSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this compelling expert segment, attorney and advocate Rachael Denhollander offers deep insight into the role of theology in abuse prevention and response. She helps us understand why survivors struggle to be believed and what it takes to build churches that are safe, discerning, and equipped to care well.SHOW NOTES:What Is A Girl Worth? By Rachael DenhollanderRedeeming Power by Diane LangbergInformational Resources:Serving SRA Survivors: Satanic Ritual Abuse Recovery by Kay Elise TolmanLalich Center on Cults and CoercionRAINN.org - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivorsOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergEscaping High-Control Religious GroupsSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

This episode is one of the most sobering in our 2025 Safe to Hope season. As Carya transitions into life beyond her father’s household, she shares how a new circle of abusers—men in Christian leadership—took over her life with terrifying control. She exposes not only their cruelty, but also how they weaponized orthodoxy, hiding their evil behind sound doctrine and religious influence. In this story, Carya shares a deeply personal and painful part of her journey: her pregnancies and her children. She names the loss, the rage, and the impossible grief. And yet, through her prayers at the end, she reveals the quiet power of lament that trusts a personal, covenant-keeping God even when hope is hard to find.Please use caution in listening. The material is disturbing—not due to graphic detail, but because of the nature of the abuse. There is an optional early ending point before Carya’s story of her children.SHOW NOTES: Episode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr Heather EvansSelf-Care Resources:CTHN Tools and HandoutsSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersThe Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous SystemTherapy in a NutshellJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode by Dr Jim WilderInformational Resources:RAINN.orgOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergEscaping High-Control Religious GroupsSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

What does healthy intimacy look like in Christian marriage? And what happens when biblical language gets tangled with cultural stereotypes? In this powerful and hope-filled episode, we welcome Sheila Wray Gregoire—author, researcher, and founder of BareMarriage.com—to discuss her latest book The Marriage You Want. With wisdom grounded in Scripture and backed by extensive research, Sheila offers a compelling call to mutuality, emotional connection, and healthy sexuality within marriage.This conversation gently acknowledges that these insights may not apply to relationships marked by coercion or abuse. If that's your story, we hope this episode offers language to describe what’s not of God—and affirms your worth, safety, and dignity.Whether you’re rebuilding your marriage or simply curious about God's design for intimacy, this episode brings both practical insight and compassionate encouragement.SHOW NOTES:Sheila Wray Gregoire ResourcesBare Marriage podcastGreat Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended The Marriage You Want: How to Build a Relationship that Brings Out the Best in Both of YouShe Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self, and Speaking Up🎧 Also available on YouTube.Safe to Hope episode with SheilaSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In Episode 2 of our Summer Reading Series, Julia and Ann Maree welcome Elyse Fitzpatrick to talk about her latest book, Unloved: The Rejected Saints God Calls Beloved. Together they explore how God's mercy meets us in the middle of shame, rejection, and misunderstanding—and why the church desperately needs prophetic voices willing to tell the truth.With deep personal insight and decades of ministry experience, Elyse challenges us to reconsider how we view the mischaracterized women of Scripture and to embrace the truth that God calls us beloved, even when our stories have been distorted or dismissed.Unloved: The Rejected Saints God Calls Beloved🎧 Also available on YouTube.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this powerful Summer Reading Series conversation, Safe to Hope host Julia Fillnow and Help[H]er Executive Director Ann Maree Goudzwaard sit down with therapist, author, and advocate Tabitha Westbrook to explore the sacred journey of healing after trauma. Drawing from her book, Body & Soul, Healed & Whole, Tabitha speaks candidly about sexuality, consent, coercive control, embodiment, and the intersection of theology and trauma recovery.Together, they discuss how survivors can reconnect with their bodies, challenge internalized shame, and discern the difference between biblical teaching and spiritual manipulation. Tabitha’s clinical wisdom and personal vulnerability offer a compassionate, truth-filled roadmap for women navigating abuse, recovery, and intimacy.This episode includes sensitive content and may be triggering for some listeners. Discretion is advised.🎧 Also available on YouTube.SHOW NOTES:Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality after Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive ControlTabitha WestbrookCalled to PeaceBearing Witness: Episode 2: Jesus is My CaptainSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

With gentle clarity, Dr. Jim Wilder unpacks the logic of evil, the power of gratitude, and the vital role of community in healing. This conversation offers profound insight for anyone seeking to walk with others through unspeakable trauma—without losing sight of who God created us to be.SHOW NOTES:Episode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr Heather EvansArmies of Enablers by Amos N. GuioraDr Jim Wilder:Thrive conferenceThe Red Dragon Cast Down: A Redemptive Approach to the Occult and SatanismPandora Problem: Facing Narcissism in Leaders & Ourselves The Other Half of Church: Christian Community, Brain Science, and Overcoming Spiritual StagnationEscaping Enemy Mode: How Our Brains Unit and Divide UsPlease see transcript for self-care and informational resources.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In one of the most difficult episodes of the season, Carya shares how ritual abuse and satanic worship were not only part of her story—but were carried out under the cover of Christian institutions. With clarity and courage, she invites listeners to reckon with the reality that evil can flourish where it should be most opposed. Her story confronts us with questions about spiritual deception, trauma, and the sacred call to protect the vulnerable. This episode bears witness to truth many would prefer to ignore.Self-Care and Informational resources in Transcript.SHOW NOTESEpisode 4 Self-CareEpisode 6 Dr Heather EvansIn Our First Lives by Diane LangbergPrecious Remedies Against Satan’s Devices by Thomas BrooksWhen Home Hurts by Jeremy Pierre & Greg WilsonThe Red Dragon Cast Down by Dr Jim WilderShattered No More by Heather GingrichPredators by Anna SalterThe Screwtape Letters by CS LewisSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

With insight, compassion, and conviction, Dr Evans reminds us that change begins not with a rescue, but with relationship—and that listening is an act of justice.Show Notes:Understanding Complex Trauma and Post-Traumatic Growth in Survivors of Sex Trafficking: Foregrounding Women’s Voices for Effective Care and Prevention (Routledge Research in Women’s Mental Health) by Heather EvansIn Our First Lives by Diane LangbergVoices of Survivors Project Self-Care Resources:Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools and HandoutsSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersThe Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous SystemTherapy in a NutshellJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode by Dr Jim WilderInformational Resources:Lalich Center on Cults and CoercionRAINN.org - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivorsOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergEscaping High-Control Religious GroupsSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this first part of her story, Carya offers a window into her childhood— the one outsiders saw, and the one they didn’t. Her narrative reveals how abuse and trafficking can be carefully concealed behind the mask of normalcy, community, and even “Christian” culture. As you hear her story, we urge you to listen slowly and carefully, not just with your ears, but with your heart.We begin here to challenge the illusions, to equip the church to respond to real evil, and to stand with survivors like Carya who risk everything to speak the truth.Warning: This episode contains detailed descriptions of childhood sexual abuse and trafficking. Please use discretion and prioritize your emotional safety as you listen.SHOW NOTES:Bearing Witness Episode 1 IntroductionBearing Witness Episode 3 Julia, Ann Maree and CaryaBearing Witness Episode 4 Self-CareInformational Resources:Lalich Center on Cults and CoercionRAINN.org - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivors Kay Tolman's Revelation Gateway MinistriesOn the Threshold of Hope: by Diane LangbergEscaping High-Control Religious GroupsSelf-Care Resources:Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools & Handouts Self-Regulation for Daily TriggersTherapy in a Nutshell Justice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass & Laura DavisSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

How do you prepare your heart and mind to hear stories of deep suffering without becoming overwhelmed — or walking away untouched?In Self-Care with Julia and Ann Maree, we pause before beginning this season’s difficult story to talk about something equally important: how to listen well.Ann Maree is joined by licensed therapist and Help[H]er board member, Julia, to explore the weighty but necessary practice of bearing witness — not only to unimaginable trauma but also to the redemptive thread running through the darkness. You’ll hear practical self-care strategies, spiritual insights, and thoughtful encouragement for anyone who wants to enter into another’s story without losing themselves in the process.SHOW NOTES: Self-Care Resources:Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools and HandoutsSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersTherapy in a NutshellJustice From the Victim’s Perspective by Judith HermanHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisEscaping Enemy Mode by Dr Jim WilderInformational Resources:Lalich Center on Cults and CoercionRAINN.org - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivorsOn the Threshold of Hope by Diane LangbergEscaping High-Control Religious GroupsSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Recently, a well-known Christian podcast released a new series exploring topics like trauma, mental illness, and abuse—many of the same themes we're addressing this year on Safe to Hope. Understandably, some of our listeners are engaging with both, and a few have already shared how conflicted or invalidated they felt.In response, we’ve released a special bonus episode. To gently offer a different perspective—one shaped by the lived experiences of survivors and informed by experts in trauma care and memory science. This episode also frames the heart of our season: why believing survivors matters, and how we hold sacred space for stories that are hard to tell.SHOW NOTES:Season 6 Introduction (Episode 1)Season 1 Significance of StoryTrauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis HermanRemember my Affliction:Advent Through Lamentations  by Kimrey DillonPrecious Remedies Against Satan's Devices by Thomas BrooksWhat is a Girl Worth?  by Rachel DenhollanderLiving in His Presence by Sylvia Gunter (re: Luke 11:24-26)Keith Evans quotes from https://youtu.be/nxPxss963SI?si=NbqKx7DFCqX0KyGsHonoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash by Ellen Bass and Laura DavisMisquoted 20,000; correct is 12,000 reports of satanic ritual abuseMisquoted 1 Timothy instead of 2 Timothy 3:16-17Dr Jim Wilder Resources:The Red Dragon Cast Down: A Redemptive Approach to the Occult and SatanismThe Other Half of Church: Christian Community, Brain Science, and Overcoming Spiritual StagnationSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

This week on Safe to Hope, we talk about the process of storytelling, self-care, and grief, and why survivors need time, patience, and space to make sense of what they’ve been through. Carya shares how putting words to her story changed how she saw it, but also how she wrestles with grief and the need for lament. SHOW NOTES:Season 1 Significance of StorySeason 6 Introduction (Episode 1)Season 6 Jesus is My CaptainDr Jim Wilder Resources:Thrive conference.The Red Dragon Cast Down: A Redemptive Approach to the Occult and SatanismPandora Problem: Facing Narcissism in Leaders & Ourselves The Other Half of Church: Christian Community, Brain Science, and Overcoming Spiritual StagnationEscaping Enemy Mode: How Our Brains Unit and Divide UsInformational Resources:Lalich Center on Cults and CoercionRAINN - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivors:Escaping High-Control Religious Groups On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane LangbergSelf-Care Resources:Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools and HandoutsSelf-Regulation for Daily TriggersThe Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous System - Relaxed Vigilance vs. HypervigilanceSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode of Safe to Hope, we meet Carya, our storyteller for Season 6. Instead of starting at the beginning of her story, we begin with where she has landed—a place of deep wrestling, but also profound hope. Through the lens of Jesus is My Captain, Carya shares the mystery of suffering, the presence of Christ in unimaginable pain, and the reality that following Him is not always safe, but it is good. Her words are a testament to the severe mercy of God, who calls us not to escape suffering, but to walk with Him through it.Show Notes:Season 6 Introduction (Episode 1)Informational Resources:Lalich Center on Cults and Coercion: https://www.lalichcenter.org/RAINN - Informational Support for sexual abuse survivors: rainn.orgOn the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Diane LangbergSelf-Care Resources:Christian Trauma Healing Network, Tools and Handouts:https://christiantraumahealingnetwork.org/resources/tools-and-handouts/Self-Regulation for Daily Triggers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcoIE3Yiaw0The Essential Skill to Regulate Your Nervous System - Relaxed Vigilance vs. Hypervigilance:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcoIE3Yiaw0&t=5sSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

She thought she knew God. Then suffering came—relentless, overwhelming, and dark. In this episode of Safe to Hope, Dr. Ingrid Faro shares her journey of wrestling with evil, questioning God, and discovering a faith stronger than suffering. As we begin a season filled with hard yet necessary conversations, Dr. Faro helps us lay a foundation for understanding evil—because without that framework, we cannot fully grasp the hope that follows.SHOW NOTES:Dr. Ingrid FaroWebsite: https://www.ingridfaro.com/Evil in Genesis: A Contextual Analysis of Hebrew Lexemes for Evil in the Book of GenesisDemystifying Evil: Demystifying Evil: A Biblical and Personal ExplorationRedeeming Eden: How Women in the Bible Advance the Story of Salvation (not yet released)Honest Answers: Exploring God Questions with Your Tween co-authored with Janelle AlbertsOther mentions:Evil and the Justice of God by N.T. WrightThe Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.The Hiding Place by Corrie ten BoomSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In the powerful conclusion to our series on reconciled relationships, Ann Maree invites counselor Greg Wilson and biblical counselor Darby Strickland to discuss the difficult path of healing from domestic abuse. Greg and Darby offer deep insights into recognizing God’s presence amid suffering, stressing the need for patience and the priority of addressing an abuser’s behavior before focusing on the victim’s response. They unpack the impact of trauma and urge churches to stand by victims, even when human support falls short. This conversation is a compelling reminder of God’s unwavering work, even in our brokenness.SHOW NOTES:Is It Abuse?: A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims by Darby A. StricklandSomething Scary Happened by Darby A. StricklandSomething Sad Happened by Darby A. StricklandWhen Home Hurts: A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church by Jeremy Pierre and Greg WilsonGreg Wilson’s practice Soul Care AssociatesChristian Trauma Healing NetworkCalled to Peace (Protect the Flock is a seminar Called to Peace offers to churches.)ChrisMoles.orgMen of Peace programPeaceWorks University is Chris Moles training arm Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Imagine walking through the storm of domestic abuse, where hope feels distant, and healing seems impossible. In the gripping final episode of Season Five of the Safe to Hope podcast, Ann Maree sits down with Charles and Renee, a couple who once faced the darkest of days. But through God’s unwavering faithfulness, they found a path to reconciliation and healing.Renee opens up about the comfort she drew from the promises of Romans 8:28, believing that even in the chaos, God was working for good. Psalm 73:26 became her lifeline, reminding her that even when her heart felt shattered, God was her strength. For Charles, the journey was about transformation, leaning on 1 Peter 3:7 to understand the true calling of a husband, and 2 Peter 1:5-8 as a roadmap for growth in godly character.Together, they share how the Gospel changed everything, offering hope when there seemed to be none. Renee passionately calls for churches to stand boldly in addressing abuse with justice and mercy, while Charles urges leaders to prioritize an abuser’s repentance before rushing to resolve the victim's response. Their story is a testament to God's intervention and a reminder that church leaders must be equipped to walk with those in crisis.SHOW NOTES:Is It Abuse?: A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims by Darby A. StricklandSomething Scary Happened by Darby A. StricklandSomething Sad Happened by Darby A. StricklandWhen Helping Hurts: How to Alleviate Poverty Without Hurting the Poor . . . and Yourself by Steve Corbett & Brian FikkertWhen Home Hurts: A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church by Jeremy Pierre and Greg WilsonCalled to Peace (Protect the Flock is a seminar Called to Peace offers to churches.)ChrisMoles.orgMen of Peace programPeaceWorks University is Chris Moles training arm DASA ReportSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Join us for a powerful conversation with Chris Moles, pastor and biblical counselor, who shares his deep insight into the sinister nature of domestic abuse and how it can be confronted and redeemed. In this episode, Chris reflects on the complexities of coercive control, repentance, and the responsibility of power within relationships. He unpacks the distinct patterns of abuse, the weight of unrepented sin, and the journey from violence to gentleness. With thought-provoking analogies and real-life examples, Chris emphasizes the vital role of heart change, beyond mere behavior modification, in breaking abusive cycles. Whether you're seeking to understand abuse on a deeper level or looking for guidance in advocating for victims, this episode will leave you reflecting on what it truly means to lead and live like Christ.See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Violence by Jess HillWhen Home Hurts:A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church by Jeremy Pierre and Greg WilsonCalled to Peace (Protect the Flock is a seminar Called to Peace offers to churches.)ChrisMoles.orgMen of Peace programPeaceWorks University is Chris Moles training arm EQUIPSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Ann Maree introduces us to Charles, a husband who found his way back to his wife after a journey marked by abuse and redemption. With raw honesty, Charles talks about the abusive behaviors he once displayed, including his struggles with pornography and moments of deep despair that led him to threaten suicide. Through taking responsibility for his actions and seeking forgiveness, Charles witnessed a remarkable healing in his marriage.This episode sheds light on the difficult path of reconciliation in the context of domestic abuse, offering hope and insights for recognizing and addressing abusive behaviors. Join us for an inspiring conversation that highlights the power of grace, accountability, and the rare gift of true restoration in a broken marriage.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

A powerful conversation with Tabitha Westbrook, a licensed therapist and trauma specialist, as she sheds light on the challenging journey of reconciliation in abusive marriages—where it happens only 2-10% of the time. With compassion and insight, Tabitha discusses the essential role of humility and healthy shame in the healing process. She underscores the importance of a collaborative approach, involving advocates, counselors, and pastors, to effectively address domestic abuse. Tabitha also bravely challenges common misconceptions about pornography, affirming its destructive impact on relationships, equating it to adultery. Don’t miss her insights on healing sexuality after trauma, as previewed in her upcoming book, "Body and Soul, Healed and Whole." Tune in for a conversation that invites you to find hope and strength in your healing journey.SHOW NOTES:Tabitha Westbrook:Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality after Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control by Tabitha WestbrookTrauma Support ServicesResources mentioned:Church-Based Counseling series by Brad Hambrick.When Home Hurts:A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church by Jeremy Pierre and Greg WilsonCalled to PeaceChrisMoles.orgPeaceworks is Chris Moles training arm and Protect the Flock is a seminar Called to Peace offers to churches. Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

We invite you into a journey of healing and hope that speaks to the heart of every woman facing the pain of domestic abuse. This episode introduces Charles and Renee, a couple whose story is as rare as it is powerful—a story of reconciliation after abuse.Ann Maree delves deep into the nuances of Renee's story, highlighting the importance of discerning true repentance and recognizing the profound changes that signify real transformation. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding us that even in the darkest circumstances, God's redemptive power can bring about incredible change.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Have you ever wondered how someone’s personal journey through trauma can lead to a powerful message of hope? Meet Kimrey Dillon, our newest team member and the author of Remember my Affliction, a devotional crafted especially for abuse survivors. In a heartfelt conversation with Ann Maree, Kimrey opens up about her experiences of betrayal and suffering, revealing how they inspired her to create this resource. Rooted in the book of Lamentations, the devotional serves as a gentle reminder of God’s comforting presence in the midst of pain. Whether you prefer to reflect alone or with others, this flexible guide allows you to take your time and find solace in God’s promises. Plus, don’t miss the exciting news about our upcoming Festivals of Remembrance series and a sneak peek at the “Storyteller Series” launching on September 10. Are you ready to explore these stories of hope and healing?Shop Remember my Affliction here.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Ann Maree, Patrick, and Julia explore the principle of "do no harm" across the fields of medicine, counseling, and advocacy. Patrick delves into the intricacies of medical decision-making, discussing the balance between paternalism, technical approaches, and the importance of shared decision-making with patients. Julia highlights how shared decision-making is crucial in counseling, especially when working with vulnerable clients, and underscores the significance of humility and self-awareness in understanding power dynamics. Ann Maree reflects on the vital role lay counselors play in supporting professional therapists, emphasizing the need for careful language and encouragement. The episode wraps up with a preview of the upcoming season, which will feature a powerful story of reconciliation after domestic abuse.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Ann Maree sits down with Julia Fillnow, a licensed counselor with expertise in trauma, abuse, and addiction, and her husband, Patrick Fillnow, a physician and church elder. Together, they explore the vital intersection of faith and mental health, advocating for a collaborative approach between biblical and clinical counseling. Julia delves into the significance of understanding human behavior through psychology and the necessity of precise diagnosis in clinical settings. Patrick brings his medical perspective, highlighting the deep connection between physical and mental health. They also candidly discuss the strengths and limitations of their professions, emphasizing the role of God, the importance of humility, and the pursuit of comprehensive care.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Part 2 of PCA GA, "So What?" Join the conversation with Lynna Sutherland (Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew) and Donna Westcott (The Psycho-Theologian) as we further discuss the happenings, nuances, and responses to last week’s PCA General Assembly. We will also explore the questions, hopes, and wisdom as we move forward. An insider’s look into the 'business' of GA.SHOW NOTES:From Lynna’s ministry Advocacy From the Presbyterian Pew:PCA GA 2024 https://presbyterianpew.org/tag/pcaga24/Free course Presbyterian Church Government 101 https://presbyterianpew.org/courses/presbyterian-church-government-101/Donna Westcott, The Psycho-Theologian http://donnawestcott.com/Tim Keller podcast Ann Maree referenced at the beginning of the show can be found here https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/podcasts/rise-and-fall-of-mars-hill/tim-keller-mike-cosper-mars-hill-bonus.htmlAnn Maree on Help[H]er Substack https://helpher.substack.com/DASA Report (Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault) https://dasacommittee.org/committee-reportSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

What does the PCA General Assembly mean to us as women? Are we safe in the denomination? Tune in for this special Safe to Hope podcast featuring Lynna Sutherland (Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew) and Donna Westcott. Hear how they heard and experienced the denomination’s “business” last week and what this may mean for women.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

This episode showcases Darby Strickland, author and biblical counselor, and Jill Butler, biblical counselor and instructor who has her own adoption story. As these two expert contributors speak from a counselor’s perspective, they describe trauma experienced by the children in the foster and adoption systems and how the church can come alongside to offer support. And Jill tells about the trauma she experienced as a child in an adoptive family and how the Lord ministered to her along the way. Visit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.Click here for H Institute’s Theology of StoryHere’s info about Darby Strickland Something Scary Happened (her children’s book)When Children Experience Trauma: Help for Parents and CaregiversTrauma: Caring for SurvivorsHere’s info about Jill ButlerBooks about fostering: Foster the Family and Reframing Foster CareAlongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don't live in NC upstreamcollab.orgIf you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups. Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Caroline wraps up her story as a foster mom by relating how God continues to meet her family’s needs both physically and spiritually. She also explains how pastors, elders and churches can improve their sensitivity about serving well in the area of trauma. This episode is packed full of practical ideas to help churches serve adoptive and foster families. Have a listen!Visit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.Click here for H Institute’s Theology of StoryDr. Goudzwaard mentioned the book: The Other Half of ChurchFind out more about Aundi Kolber and her book Try SofterHere’s info about Darby Strickland and her children’s book Something Scary HappenedMeet Jill ButlerBooks about fostering: Foster the Family and Reframing Foster CareAlongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don't live in NC upstreamcollab.orgIf you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups. Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

DESCRIPTIONIn response to our last episode featuring foster mom Caroline, Dr. Ann Maree Goudzwaard interviews the Founder and Executive Director of Fieldstone Counseling in Akron, Ohio, Jonathan Holmes. Jonathan is not only a biblical counselor but he is also an adopted child with deep insight to share about how the church can come alongside adopted and foster children and the families who have chosen to adopt and foster them.SHOWNOTESVisit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.Click here to learn more about Jonathan Holmes of Fieldstone Counseling.Jonathan is the author and contributor to a number of books:The Company We Keep, Counsel for Couples, Rescue SkillsRescue Plan. Jonathan teaches in the MAC program at Westminster Theological Seminary, and he serves as a visiting faculty member for CCEF.If you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups. Alongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don't live in NC upstreamcollab.orgSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Caroline continues her story as she describes the second-hand trauma she experienced as a foster mom of traumatized children. She and Dr. Ann Maree Goudzwaard discuss how the church can better minister to foster families. Season 4 will continue our format of 3 storyteller episodes and 3 expert contributor episodes.Visit your county’s dept. of social services website for foster parent info.Foster care  books:Reframing Foster Care  by Jason Johnson.Foster the Family  by Jamie FinnResources about connecting with traumatized children:The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siege MD,When Children Experience Trauma  by Dark Strickland.Foster parent support group: Foster the Family.Link to Help[H]er’s own: H InstituteBible study: Second Mother: A Bible Study Experience for Foster and Adoptive Moms Alongside Families alongsidefamilies.org. If you don't live in NC upstreamcollab.orgSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

DESCRIPTIONIn response to our last episode featuring foster mom Caroline, Dr. Ann Maree Goudzwaard interviews licensed professional and biblical counselor Jessica Gallina with Fieldstone Counseling in Akron, Ohio. In this episode, we try to answer the question, “How can the church come alongside and care for the very unique needs of both the parents and the biological children and the foster or adopted children in these families?”SHOWNOTESClick here to learn more about Jessica Gallina and her colleague Jonathan Holmes (who will be on a future Safe to Hope podcast).Here’s a link to the ministry Alongside Families for those in NC and Upstream Collaborative for those in other states.Here’s more information about the ACE’s study: ACEs stands for: Adverse Childhood Experiences.Jessica mentioned the seminal book about trauma: The Body Keeps the Score.If you are a foster parent looking for a support group in your area please visit Foster the Family support groups.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Dr. Ann Maree Goudzwaard interviews Caroline, a foster mom who has experienced trauma in a very different way. Season 4 will continue our format of 3 storyteller episodes and 3 expert contributor episodes.Visit your local county’s department of social services website for info about becoming a foster parent. Alongside Families: alongsidefamilies.org and upstreamcollab.orgFoster care  books: Reframing Foster Care  by Jason Johnson. Foster the Family  by Jamie Men Here are resources about trauma and connecting with traumatized children: The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siege MD, The Connected Parent  by Dr. Karyn Purvis, When Children Experience Trauma  by Dark Stickland. Here's a foster parent support group Foster the Family. Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

DESCRIPTIONToday, we have the second installment where Help[H]er board member Julia Fillnow, a licensed therapist, interviews Dr. Ann Maree Goudzwaard, the executive director of Help[H]er. This final installment of the 2-part series concludes with more information to help our audience become better acquainted with Help[H]er ministry. SHOWNOTESAnn Maree mentioned Diane Langberg as one of her mentors as an advocate.Here’s a link to the PCA DASA Report (the Domestic Abuse Sexual Assault Report). Other resources who network with Help[H]er include Beth Broom, Chris Moles, Joy Forrest, Eliza Huie, Melissa Affolter, and Nate Brooks.  For information on Ann Maree’s trauma training, check out Global Trauma Recovery Training.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Today, we're going to turn the tables a bit here at Help[H]er and have someone else handle the interview for our Safe to Hope podcast. The idea for this podcast materialized when several of the Help[H]er board members asked Help[H]er Executive Director Dr. Ann Maree Goudzwaard to be interviewed so that she could introduce the audience more fully to the Help[Her] ministry with details of what they do. Here are Ann Maree’s favorite memoirs: The Glass Castle, Educated, Unbroken, All the Light We Cannot See, All My Knotted-Up Life, and an autoethnographic account, No Love in War.Ann Maree received her trauma training from Dr. Heather Evans and Dr. Phil Monroe at the Global Trauma Recovery Institute, and her advocacy training from Called to Peace.She mentioned the beautiful hymn by Wendell Kimbrough, Eternal Weight of Glory. And she referred to Question 109 of the Westminster Larger Catechism.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

A letter from our story-teller and survivor to her daughters. Words cannot do this heartfelt, gripping outpouring justice. Worthy of a repeat listen and study!Also available on our YouTube channel Subscribe to new releases.Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay. Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

We are blessed to hear wisdom, hope, and solid counsel from Joy Forrest. She is the Executive Director of Called to Peace ministry. Joy’s personal story has equipped her for this far-reaching and complicated endeavor.Resources mentioned:Joy’s website Called to Peace ministry. Books Called to Peace and Workbook.Is It Abuse?   and Something Scary Happened  The Christian Trauma Healing Network Making Sense of Forgiveness Caring for Families Caught in Domestic AbuseSafe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.

Today, Anna gives us insight into how God was with her during this difficult time, some of the ways that she found comfort, and what hope she would convey to pastors, leaders, and counselors who might be listening. Join us on November 28, Episode 6 with Expert Contributor, Joy Forrest, Executive Director of Called to Peace. Darby Strickland's book Is It Abuse? : A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims  is excellent for both victims and church leaders for identifying the patterns of abuse. Dr. Jeremy Pierre and Dr. Greg Wilson's book When Home Hurts is particularly helpful for church leaders. Trevor Laurence's book Cursing with God: The Imprecatory Psalms and the Ethics of Christian PrayerDiane Langberg's full talk of excerpts played in today's episode. Safe to Hope is a production of HelpHer. Our Executive Producer is Ann Maree Goudzwaard. Safe to Hope is written and mixed by Ann Maree and edited by Ann Maree and Helen Weigt. Music is Waterfall by Roman Senyk Music from Pixabayand and is licensed by Pixabay.Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible.Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              We value and respect conversations with all our guests. Opinions, viewpoints, and convictions may differ so we encourage our listeners to practice discernment. As well, guests do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of HelpHer. It is our hope that this podcast is a platform for hearing and learning rather than causing division or strife. Please note, abuse situations have common patterns of behavior, responses, and environments. Any familiarity construed by the listener is of their own opinion and interpretation. Our podcast does not accuse individuals or organizations.The podcast is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional care, diagnosis, or treatment.