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"You have to be so lit up by your own desire that the right people, opportunities, and love can actually find you." — Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn gets honest about one of her biggest edges: embodying her full erotic self. Bryn unpacks her Erotic Blueprint, introduces the Bad Bunny archetype, and makes the case that turn on is a portal. One that doesn't have to be sexual at all. It can be a pastry on a Saturday morning, a song that stops you mid-walk, or a creative project that makes time disappear.Aliveness is your mating call. And this episode is your permission slip to chase it.Takeaways- What responsive desire is and why so many women don't realize they have it- The difference between performing sexuality and actually embodying it- Why so many women have never given themselves permission to access their full erotic self- The Bad Bunny archetype and what it means to choose your edge- Why turn on is a portal to aliveness, and aliveness is what actually attracts the life and love you want- The one question that can change everything: what do you actually desire? Not what you should want. Not what looks responsible or reasonable or right. What actually turns you on?Connect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

“Instead of praying for what you want, I want you to start praying that you can hold it when it arrives.” - Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn introduces the concept of a "dangerous prayer"—something her right-hand woman named but that Bryn realizes she's been praying her whole life. She shares the story of setting an intention before an event, only to spend the night at an emergency vet with her dog, and how showing up exhausted became the very answer to her prayer. From insights gained in a mastermind room of million-dollar entrepreneurs to understanding why sudden success often collapses, Bryn explores what it really means to expand your capacity. Takeaways- The concept of "dangerous prayers" and why they cost you everything but give you more- What expanded capacity actually looks like and the power of staying open where you used to collapse- Why overnight success often crashes: the vessel isn't strong enough to hold the blessing- The Kabbalistic concept of "bread of shame"—why receiving something unearned feels hollow- How to apply the “mirror principle” to see if you’re wanting what you're not yet giving yourself or creating for othersConnect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

🌹Sign up for the Mating Call Live Masterclass on 4/22! Join here: https://bryndaylor.co/mating-callIn this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn opens up about one of the hardest places to be seen: money. She shares the story of a difficult business week when she wanted something she couldn’t afford, and how her partner Eli's response taught her about receiving love. Bryn explores why creating space for support isn't neediness, it's necessary, and why letting a man show up for you is one of the most loving things you can do for both of you.Takeaways- The difference between shrinking in love versus creating space to be supported- How receiving is a skill that must be practiced in small moments before it's available in big ones- The concept of asking for help as data, and what this reveals - Why "Miss Independent Barbie" leaves no room for partnership and what to do insteadConnect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

🌹Sign up for the Mating Call Live Masterclass! Join here: https://bryndaylor.co/mating-callIn this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn interviews Whitney about her unexpected love story. When Whitney first came to work with Bryn, it wasn't about dating. She wanted help with creativity for her business. But when she started expressing herself more authentically in the world, something completely different happened: she found the kind of love that changes everything. Whitney shares the whole journey from feeling like something was missing despite doing everything "right" to attracting a completely different caliber of man.Takeaways- How working on authentic self-expression in one area (business) unexpectedly transformed Whitney's love life- The specific moment Whitney caught herself stopping hiding in her real, everyday life and what that behavior change actually looked like- What it looks like when someone shows up and loves you exactly as you are, mess and all- The surprising side effects that can happen when you commit to being more seen in the worldConnect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

“I didn’t need to learn how to make friends. I needed to learn how to stop hiding from them.” - Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn gets raw about the messy truth of female friendship — the wounding we’ve caused and carried, and how most of us learned to be likeable instead of known. From writing a brutal breakup letter to a friend in elementary school to finally collapsing at her best friend’s doorstep, she shares the story of what it took to stop performing and start letting women actually see her.Takeaways- How most of us have been both the perpetrator and victim in female friendships, creating walls that keep women from really seeing us- How prioritizing being liked over being known keeps us performing strength instead of experiencing real intimacy- Why real female friendship isn’t about finding perfect women, but becoming someone who lets women in- The difference between trauma dumping and authentic vulnerability- A question to sit with: is there a woman in your life right now who is trying to see you — and you keep showing her the curated version?Connect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

"Getting stuck in healing work is just another expensive version of hiding." - Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn shares her healing journey and the uncomfortable realization that led her to question everything. From a confronting encounter with a well-known men’s coach at a festival to the collective lies we’ve absorbed about what healing is supposed to look like, she explores the difference between healing as transformation and healing as expensive procrastination.Takeaways- The four collective lies keeping us stuck- How the healing industry has conflated depth with darkness, making us believe heavier sessions are more legitimate- Why you are the ultimate authority on your own experience, and nobody gets to tell you that you need healing- The three things that actually move the needle: taking action, letting yourself be vulnerable and seen, and time- The difference between healing from brokenness vs healing as nourishmentConnect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

“The goal was never visibility. The goal was always freedom from needing it.” -Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN podcast, Bryn explores the unexpected paradox of visibility and the three stages most of us move through on the path to true freedom. She shares a raw moment from a festival where a stranger’s observation shifted her entire perspective on what it means to be seen.Takeaways- The three stages of being seen: feeling invisible, desperately wanting to be seen, and choosing invisibility again- How the aching desire to be seen, though painful, is a crucial part of the path to true freedom- The importance of actively breaking out of invisibility while not chasing clout or attention for the wrong reasons- Why the ability to choose to tell your story, or not, comes from a place of peaceful power and wholenessFor 10% off Golden Rule Mushrooms, use Bryn’s code bryn10 at this link: https://goldenrulemushrooms.com/coupon-code/bryn10/shop/Connect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

Being Seen in Love: BTS of Our Swiss Elopement ft. Eli Facenda"Underneath all of that fear was just an extraordinary amount of love that wanted to surface. We were literally reaching a new limit in how much love we could hold at once." – Eli FacendaIn this episode, Bryn is joined by her husband Eli Facenda to tell the full story of their Swiss elopement. From planning a big Italian wedding and scrapping it, to writing their vows the morning of, to crying and laughing in bed the night before. This one is equal parts love story and permission slip.Takeaways- The "order the steak twice" philosophy — and how it became the framework for every decision they made about their wedding and their life together- Why the fear you feel before a massive commitment isn't a red flag — it might just mean you're upper limiting and expanding into more love than you've ever held- What it actually looks like to strip a wedding down to only the 10 out of 10 elements and let go of everything else- How writing their vows the morning of — with zero stress — was a masterclass in self-trust and surrender- What eloping gave them that a traditional wedding simply couldn't- And what’s next on their agenda with babies, moving, etc.Connect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

“Aim higher, because even if you miss, which you probably will, you’ll still hit your target.”In this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn explores what it actually takes to stop playing small.She shares the moment she finally signed up for an improv class after talking about it for nearly a year, and how that one decision led to a storytelling class that changed the trajectory of her creative life.This episode explores how the people you surround yourself with expand what you believe is possible, why aiming higher matters, and the power of taking the next courageous step before you feel fully ready.Takeaways- Why your environment shapes what you believe is possible- How spending time in the energy of the person you’re becoming changes your decisions- Why you need core beliefs to return to when doubt shows up- The power of taking the next aligned step instead of waiting for the perfect planConnect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

“Your job, throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” — Glennon DoyleIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn unpacks the part no one warns you about when it comes to visibility.Most women say they want to be seen. Very few are willing to be misunderstood.But being seen requires the willingness to be misunderstood and to disappoint. And that resilience lives in the part of you that refuses to abandon yourself.Bryn calls her your inner b*tch.Takeaways- The 3 stages of being seen: laying the foundation, clearing the old, and stepping into visibility- Why disappointment is the price of self-trust- What your “inner b*tch” actually is (and what she’s not)- Why women equate being liked with being safe- How to stop over-explaining and start tolerating discomfort- Practical ways to build the muscle of self-loyaltyConnect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

“If you don’t feel like a fraud at some point, you probably haven’t touched the real dream yet.” — Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn takes you inside the beginning of her book journey: a lifelong dream suddenly becoming real.And then immediately being hit with the question, “Who the f**k do I think I am to create this?”If you’ve been wanting to start the book, the podcast, the Substack — and suddenly feel like a fraud…This episode will remind you: That feeling isn’t a stop sign.It’s initiation.But only if you allow it to be ;)Takeaways- Why imposter feelings are a sign you’re expanding- The sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up (worry, criticism, even getting sick)- The fear of outshining and why it keeps women small- Why comparison often means you’re on the right pathConnect with Bryn: Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

🥀 The Writer’s Rebellion closes Sunday 2/22! Join here: https://bryndaylor.co/rebel“Being seen isn’t scary. Being seen without safety is.” — Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn is diving into why visibility feels so triggering for so many women… even when they want to share their story, grow their platform, or finally use their voice.Because the truth is: most women aren’t afraid of being seen.They’re afraid of being seen and misunderstood. Judged. Shamed. Exposed.Bryn explores how being visible has historically come with real consequences for women, why so many of us learned to self-edit as a form of protection, and how “confidence” isn’t actually the missing piece.Safety is.And when a woman finally feels safe enough to be witnessed? Everything changes.Takeaways- Why visibility isn’t the real fear- How women learn early to self-edit as a form of survival- The hidden ways protection shows up - Why social media isn’t always a safe place to “practice being seen”- What it actually means to be witnessed without evaluation- How safe community rewires the nervous system around expressionConnect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylorSubstack: Pretty Messy ThoughtsLast chance to join the Writer’s Rebellion before it’s too late. Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

🥀 The Writer’s Rebellion is officially open! Join here: https://bryndaylor.co/rebel “The hollow feeling isn’t a problem to solve. It’s unexpressed life force asking to move.” — Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn is talking about a feeling so many women quietly carry… even when their life looks “good” on paper.The career. The relationship. The routines. The healing work. The self-care.And yet… something still feels off. Like you’re not fully in your own life.This isn’t depression. Or burnout. And it doesn’t mean you need to “fix” your mindset or achieve more.It usually means one thing: your creative energy has nowhere to go.Bryn breaks down why regulation without expression can still feel lifeless, how unspoken truth turns into restlessness and numbness, and why the ache inside you isn’t meant to disappear. It’s meant to be answered.Takeaways- Why many women feel empty not because their life is wrong, but because they aren’t creating- A nervous system can be calm and still starved- Rest and healing don’t replace self-expression- Unused creative energy often turns into irritation, numbness, or longing- Writing is one of the most powerful gateways back to yourself- Being witnessed in your expression changes everything- The ache isn’t meant to go away, it’s meant to lead you back to alivenessConnect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylor Substack: Pretty Messy ThoughtsJoin the Writer’s Rebellion: Now Open ❤️ Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

"Dreaming is a sign that you feel safe.” — Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn is talking directly to you about dreams. The ones you’ve tucked away, talked yourself out of, or told yourself were “too much.” She shares her own journey of self-discovery and what it really takes to claim a dream without knowing exactly how it will unfold.This conversation is about the vulnerability of wanting more, the courage it takes to say it out loud, and why clarity often starts with understanding what you don’t want. Bryn walks you through practical, grounded ways to reconnect with your intuition, give shape to your desires, and release control when it’s no longer your job to hold everything together.If you’ve been longing for something but questioning whether you’re allowed to want it...this episode is for you.Takeaways- Dreaming is a sign that your nervous system feels safe- Longing is information, not a problem- Knowing what you don’t want helps reveal what you truly do- Claiming a dream requires giving it shape and a voice- It’s vulnerable to want more- Life wants you to have what you desire- “Almost, but not quite” is a sign to keep goingConnect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylor Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

"You cannot hear yourself begin to whisper when there is the carrot that you’ve always wanted dangling right in front of you." - Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn explores the quiet hunger for significance. The kind that often disguises itself as ambition, entrepreneurship, and the drive to do more, be more, prove more. She shares pieces of her own journey chasing success and validation, and the emotional cost of building a life that looks impressive while feeling strangely empty inside.This is an invitation for you to notice where significance might still be running the show in your own life. And that letting go of validation can be one of the most liberating acts a woman makes.Takeaways- How to identify if you’re chasing significance- Where external validation can cloud our intuition- And the liberating journey of finally telling the truthConnect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylor Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

"Being seen is the precursor to an extraordinary life" - Bryn DaylorIn this episode of the SEEN Podcast, Bryn is talking directly to you about the parts of ourselves we hide in order to be loved. She shares her own story, where she lost herself, the patterns she kept repeating in relationships, and the moment she realized how deeply she wanted to be seen.This conversation isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about telling the truth, letting yourself be witnessed, and asking what might change if you stopped editing your story to belong.Takeaways- Patterns of seeking love can stem from childhood experiences- Being seen is crucial for living an extraordinary life- Hiding in plain sight can lead to feelings of emptiness- Claiming your worth starts with saying 'enough.'Connect with Bryn:Instagram: @bryndaylor Substack: Pretty Messy Thoughts Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe

SEEN is for you if you know you’re meant for more and you’re done hiding. Hosted by Bryn Daylor, this podcast is an invitation to tell the truth of your life, reclaim your creative voice, and choose visibility even when it’s scary. Real stories, big-sis advice, and the reminder that everything you want lives on the other side of being seen.Let's connect, babe. Be sure to follow me on Instagram for updates and more BTS content. Get full access to Pretty Messy Thoughts at bryndaylor.substack.com/subscribe