Sex and Breakfast

Sex is supposed to feel good… so why does it sometimes feel like pressure instead? In this episode, we open up one of the most common—but least talked about—experiences in intimacy: sexual anxiety. From overthinking your performance to fearing disappointment, we unpack the quiet mental loops that can turn connection into stress. You’ll hear how anxiety doesn’t just follow sexual struggles—it often creates them. And more importantly, why nothing is “wrong” with you if you’ve felt this way. We explore the hidden cycle that keeps anxiety alive, how past experiences and cultural messaging shape your sexual confidence, and why your nervous system might be trying to protect you—even when it feels like sabotage. his conversation isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you feel safe enough to actually be in your body again. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in your head instead of in the moment… this episode will change how you understand your experience—and what you can do about it.Show Notes:See Our Episode: OM: The Missing Skill in Sexual ConnectionEsther Perel intimacy card deckMovie: Wanderlust, Mirror Pep Talk Scene—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

This episode invites listeners to slow all the way down and question something most people never think twice about: are you actually feeling… or just performing?The conversation centers around orgasmic meditation (OM)—a structured, mindful practice that removes pressure, performance, and even the goal of orgasm itself. Instead, it creates space for presence, connection, and deep attunement between partners.Through personal experiences and professional insights, the hosts unpack how OM can feel awkward at first—but with practice, becomes a powerful tool for rewiring intimacy. By focusing on breath, sensation, and nonverbal communication, partners learn to listen to each other’s bodies in a way that goes far beyond words.This isn’t about being “good in bed.” It’s about becoming present in your body, connected to your partner, and free from the pressure to perform.Show Notes:- Video links to OM practice: https://www.orgasmicyoga.com/rainbow-practice/Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

As conversations about sex become more visible online, many people are still quietly wondering the same question: What actually makes someone sexually confident?In this thoughtful episode, the hosts of Sex and Breakfast unpack the deeper ingredients of sexual confidence beyond performance, dominance, or experience. Inspired by a coaching story about a client who tried to embody a rigid “real man” script he found on ChatGPT, the discussion explores how internalized expectations, myths from media and pornography, and cultural narratives often undermine our sense of sexual self-trust. The hosts describe sexual confidence as a recipe made up of core ingredients—sexual education, personal boundaries, autonomy, values, and communication—along with softer elements like curiosity, patience, body peace, and emotional safety. Together, the panel reflects on how confidence is less about technique or perfection and more about practice, vulnerability, and the willingness to stay curious about ourselves and our partners.Show NotesEpisode referenced:—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

As conversations about equality expand beyond workplaces and politics, there’s another space where inequality still quietly exists: the bedroom. In this special International Women’s Day episode of Sex and Breakfast, the hosts explore the research behind the “orgasm gap”—the documented difference in how often men and women report orgasming during heterosexual encounters. Drawing on decades of studies, the conversation reveals that the gap isn’t rooted in biology but largely shaped by social norms, sexual scripts, and gaps in education about anatomy and pleasure. They also examine how familiarity, emotional safety, and collaboration between partners can narrow the gap over time. Rather than blaming any gender, this thoughtful conversation invites listeners to approach intimacy with generosity, shared responsibility, and open dialogue, reminding us that when pleasure becomes collaborative, everyone benefits.Show Notes: Research on the Orgasm GapArticle referenced: Emily Nagoski — “Has the Orgasm Gap Closed in the Last 30 Years?”Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

One year, countless honest conversations, and a global community later — this celebratory anniversary episode reflects on the journey of building a sex-positive space where curiosity, education, and pleasure meet. Nicole and the hosts revisit standout conversations from the past year, including fan favorites like exploring the many types of orgasms, reclaiming pleasure after motherhood, busting myths around Tantra, navigating long-distance relationships, and diving into the ever-expanding world of pleasure products. The panel shares personal highlights, surprising listener feedback, and the importance of normalizing open, shame-free conversations about sexuality across cultures.Show Notes:Must Listen Episodes of 2025:Unexpected Must-Try Sex ToysClimax Café: Exploring Every Flavor of OrgasmMoms, Pleasure Reclaimed: Because your body still belongs to youAncient Tantra for Modern Lovers: Part 1Ancient Tantra for Modern Lovers: Part 2The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 1The Real Work of Long-Distance Relationships - Part 2—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

Porn. You love it, you hate it, or you’ve never quite known what to do with it—and in this honest, nuanced episode, we talk about all of it. We explore porn through a sex-positive, value-based lens, unpacking the differences between visual porn, erotica, audio erotica, and ethical porn, and how each can impact desire, confidence, communication, and relationships. Drawing from conservative religious upbringings, clinical experience, and modern trends, the conversation addresses shame, violence in mainstream porn, the male gaze, and why porn is entertainment—not real life. You’ll hear how porn can be used intentionally as a tool for self-pleasure, education, and relationship enhancement, when it might be better to set boundaries or step away, and why the most important question isn’t “Is porn good or bad?” but “Does this align with my values and bring me closer—to myself and my partner?”Show Notes:Ethical porn platforms discussedAudio erotica apps: Dipsy, TRIQUINEducational resources mentioned: OMGYes, Beautiful Agony—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

In this insightful, and surprisingly nourishing episode, we take you far beyond vibrators and into the often-overlooked world of sensual foods, adaptogens, rituals, and everyday products that can profoundly support intimacy, arousal, and connection. From pantry staples like honey, coconut oil, and mangoes to plant-based alcohol alternatives, saliva-enhancing mints, pheromones, and ancient herbal traditions from around the world, this conversation reframes sexual wellness as something accessible, intentional, and deeply embodied. You’ll hear how stress, shame, and modern habits disconnect us from pleasure—and how curiosity, ritual, and gentler tools can help you feel more present, relaxed, and alive in your body.Show NotesThe Layer – washable, waterproof intimacy blanketPheromone-based fragrances, GodaSandalwood, vanilla, coconut scentsMassage oil candles (temperature play)Golden Glow (kava + kratom blend)Twinkle Tongue (saliva-enhancing liquid)Flint Mints / “blowjob mints” (Sichuan button extract) Kana Daily Chews (empathogenic plant-based supplement)Ashwagandha (stress reduction & libido support)Alice Mushroom Chocolate (arousal-focused formulation)Non-Alcoholic Adapotgen Drinks: Hiyo, Kin Euphorics, One TripJamu (traditional Indonesian herbal medicine)Tongkat Ali/Long Jack (traditional Asian herbal medicine):Important Notes:Always consult your medical provider before trying new supplements, especially if you take SSRIs/SNRIs or other medicationsSome products may be restricted or illegal depending on your country or region.— Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsite— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

As the new year begins, this reflective and grounding episode invites you to rethink resolutions and explore a gentler, more meaningful reset through realignment—especially when it comes to your sexual self. Instead of chasing rigid goals, the panel guides you through a journaling-based sexual reboot rooted in curiosity, compassion, and authenticity, while honoring what already sparkles in your life. You’ll hear honest perspectives on why resolutions often fall apart, how shame sneaks into self-improvement, and why checking in with your evolving desires—rather than performing for the calendar—can be deeply transformative. Through thoughtful prompts, spiritual tools, and real-life reflections, this conversation reminds you that your sexuality evolves with every season of life, and realignment can begin anytime, starting right now. Show Notes: Downloadable curiosity list— Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast: InstagramWebsite — Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

This is Part 2 of our deeply honest conversation about Long Distance Relationships, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.Show Notes: Attached — by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Five Love Languages — by Gary ChapmanErotic Blueprints — by Jaiya (framework/program)Controllable Long Distance Vibrating Panties

In this warm and deeply honest conversation, we unpack what really goes into keeping intimacy alive when love spans cities, countries, and time zones. From communication mismatches to reintegration struggles to the sweet ache of longing, we explore how long-distance couples can stay connected with rituals, values-based communication, emotional honesty, and playful creativity. The coaches and therapist share personal stories, practical tools, and the mindset shifts that make long-distance love not only possible — but incredibly meaningful.Show Notes: Attached — by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Five Love Languages — by Gary ChapmanErotic Blueprints — by Jaiya (framework/program)Controllable Long Distance Vibrating Panties

In the spirit of the holiday season — a time of gifting, play, and delicious surprises — we’re sharing some of our favorite intimacy-enhancing products and pleasure-supporting tools. In this fun, unfiltered, and enlightening episode, we dive into the evolving world of sexual wellness items — from practical essentials to creative innovations you probably didn’t even know existed. Nicole highlights how modern sex products aren’t just about fun, but also support sexual health, comfort, communication, and curiosity for people of all bodies and identities. Whether you’re buying for a partner, a friend, or yourself — this episode invites you to explore, laugh, learn, and discover just how expansive and empowering pleasure can be.Show Notes: (Products mentioned)The Layer BlanketSelopa Tongue TeaserAya Wearable Vibrator by ZaloOhMiBod Club Vibe Panty VibratorAmbi Bullet Vibrator by LovenseLittle Red Bullet Vibrator by Like A KittenAvo Clitoral Massager by NancyHer Ultimate Pleasure Stimulator by Fantasy for Her Dilator Set by Dr. Laura BermanHung UFO MasturbatorOhnut by The Pelvic PeopleVaporator Smokable Vibrator by Maia Ovipositors: Egg-Laying Dildos Hydromax Penis PumpMagic Wand: Original, Mini, MicroMagic Wand AttachmentsNjoy Steel Butt PlugSona Clitoral Vibrator by LeloWartenberg Pinwheel Fur FloggerVesper Vibrator NecklaceDIY 4 in 1 FloggerNuri Massager by Tabu

Part 2 of this insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the screen era.Show Notes:“Five Gears of Touch” by Barry McCarthy“The Role of Touch in Couple’s Sexuality” – overview of touch as foundational beyond intercourse. Enhancing Couple Sexuality by McCarthy– for deeper explanation of the gears.“Exploring the Five Dimensions of Touch” – applying gears in real-world relationships. 

This is Part 1 of a 2 episode series of a warm, insightful conversation about the often-overlooked power of touch in relationships. Centered around Barry McCarthy’s “five gears of touch” model and the Touch Continuum. The group explores how intentional touch builds emotional connection, bridges intimacy, and opens clearer communication between partners. They highlight how modern couple life often bypasses the rich middle gears (sensual/playful), jumping from affectionate directly to intercourse, and discuss how this affects long-term sexual vitality, consent, cultural norms, aging, and even self-touch rituals. Listeners are encouraged to notice their own “gear usage”, speak about preferences, and reintegrate meaningful touch into their lives beyond the screen era.Show Notes:“Five Gears of Touch” by Barry McCarthy“The Role of Touch in Couple’s Sexuality” – overview of touch as foundational beyond intercourse. Enhancing Couple Sexuality by McCarthy– for deeper explanation of the gears.“Exploring the Five Dimensions of Touch” – applying gears in real-world relationships. 

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners that healing is not linear, survivors are not alone, and post-traumatic growth is possible through compassion, community, and the courage to feel again.Show Notes:RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — 24/7 confidential support hotline and resources for survivors of sexual violence.International Creativity for healing traumaThe Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild — A guide to understanding trauma and the body’s memory.The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis — A workbook for women survivors of sexual abuse.Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman — Foundational text outlining the three stages of trauma recovery.Take Back the Night — Nonprofit supporting survivors of sexual violence through awareness and community action.Somatic Experiencing® by Peter Levine — Body-based approach for releasing trauma stored in the nervous system.Succulent Wild Woman by SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) — Inspirational healing and creativity resource for survivors.Find a Pelvic Floor Therapist Near You — Directory of licensed pelvic floor physical therapists.

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we explore the complex, often silent world of sexual trauma. They open with a candid look into their own healing journey — from surviving childhood trauma to becoming a certified sex coach and advocate for survivors — before the group unpacks the different forms of sexual trauma, including “big T” and “little t” experiences, and how they manifest in the body and relationships. Together, they discuss stages of trauma recovery, the importance of trauma-informed care, and how creativity, breathwork, and body connection can be tools for reclaiming pleasure and empowerment. This heartfelt conversation reminds listeners that healing is not linear, survivors are not alone, and post-traumatic growth is possible through compassion, community, and the courage to feel again.Show Notes:RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) — 24/7 confidential support hotline and resources for survivors of sexual violence.International Creativity for healing traumaThe Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild — A guide to understanding trauma and the body’s memory.The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis — A workbook for women survivors of sexual abuse.Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman — Foundational text outlining the three stages of trauma recovery.Take Back the Night — Nonprofit supporting survivors of sexual violence through awareness and community action.Somatic Experiencing® by Peter Levine — Body-based approach for releasing trauma stored in the nervous system.Succulent Wild Woman by SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) — Inspirational healing and creativity resource for survivors.Find a Pelvic Floor Therapist Near You — Directory of licensed pelvic floor physical therapists.

In this vibrant episode, we dive into the playful intersection of sex and exercise — or “sexercise.” Together they explore how movement enhances sensual awareness, body confidence, and connection, touching on everything from coregasms and pelvic health to aging, embodiment, and pleasure as a lifelong practice. With humor and honesty, the conversation reframes fitness as more than physical strength — it’s about awakening desire, celebrating your body, and cultivating deeper intimacy with yourself and others.Show Notes: Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy — For pain, orgasm difficulties, and pelvic healthOrgasmic Yoga Forest Bathing Jane Fonda / Olivia Newton-John / Jamie Lee Curtis fitness icons — Cultural examples of sexualized exercise in this movieNational Institute of Health (NIH) study linking aerobic exercise to improved sexual function and reduced erectile dysfunction

In this essential episode, we dive into sexual accessibility for differently abled bodies—because everyone deserves access to pleasure, intimacy, and fulfilling sexual experiences regardless of ability. Join us as we break down harmful myths, discuss practical modifications that make sex more accessible, and share valuable resources that support disabled individuals in their sexual journeys.Urge.org (or Urge.com.org) - Provides education, materials, advocacy, and community support for people with disabilities exploring their sexualitySRHM.org (Sexuality and Reproductive Health Matters) - Education and advocacy resourceDr. Patti Britton's book on hosting your own SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment)Silc Arts: Pleasure within reach

In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, and redefining what sex and intimacy look like as we grow and change. Ultimately, sustaining desire is about cultivating a garden—requiring effort, curiosity, and joy—to keep intimacy alive and rewarding throughout life’s seasons.Show Notes:Book: Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiNetflix series: How to Build a Sex RoomYes/No/Maybe Guide (resource for couples to explore desires)Couple’s Card Decks: Hedonism and Debauchery & Our Sex GameBluetooth-controlled sex toys:  We-Vibe Bond: Wearable Stimulation Ring Lovense Max 2: Male Masturbator w/ remote app  Lovense Hush 2 Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug  Lovense Ferri: Vibrating Panties  Zalo Aya: 2 Ways Wearable Vibrating Panties. Lovense Lush 4: Remote G-Spot Vibrator Satisfyer Pro 2: Remote Air Clit Stimulator  Lovense Gemini: Nipple Clamps Lovense Nora: Remote Rabbit Vibrator Lovense Max Male Masturbator

In this two-part conversation, hosts and sexperts explore one of the most universal and challenging topics in long-term relationships: how to maintain and cultivate desire over time. They dive into the realities couples face—including dwindling libido, caregiving responsibilities, stress, aging, myths about spontaneity, and mismatched values. The discussion reframes boredom as a potential catalyst for creativity and emphasizes the importance of adaptability, curiosity, and playfulness in intimacy. Practical tools like novelty, role play, chore play, card decks, sexcations, massages, and erotic teasing are highlighted as accessible ways to rekindle connection. They also stress the need for empathy, communication, and redefining what sex and intimacy look like as we grow and change. Ultimately, sustaining desire is about cultivating a garden—requiring effort, curiosity, and joy—to keep intimacy alive and rewarding throughout life’s seasons.Show Notes:Book: Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiNetflix series: How to Build a Sex RoomYes/No/Maybe Guide (resource for couples to explore desires)Couple’s Card Decks: Hedonism and Debauchery & Our Sex GameBluetooth-controlled sex toys:  We-Vibe Bond: Wearable Stimulation Ring Lovense Max 2: Male Masturbator w/ remote app  Lovense Hush 2 Bluetooth Vibrating Butt Plug  Lovense Ferri: Vibrating Panties  Zalo Aya: 2 Ways Wearable Vibrating Panties. Lovense Lush 4: Remote G-Spot Vibrator Satisfyer Pro 2: Remote Air Clit Stimulator  Lovense Gemini: Nipple Clamps Lovense Nora: Remote Rabbit Vibrator Lovense Max Male Masturbator

In this enlightening episode, the hosts dive deep into the wonderful world of orgasms, debunking the myth that they're "one size fits all" and celebrating the incredible variety of orgasmic experiences available. From the commonly known clitoral and vaginal orgasms to the lesser-discussed cervical, anal, energetic, and even "coregasms" from exercise, the panel explores how pleasure extends far beyond what we've traditionally been taught. They tackle common shame and misconceptions, emphasizing that all orgasms should be celebrated equally while offering practical advice for exploration including pleasure mapping, mirror work, and understanding the neurological connections that make transcendent, full-body orgasmic experiences possible.Show Notes: "Hysterical Literature" videos (women reading while using magic wand)Betty Dodson's educational videos on real women having orgasmsMagic Wand VibratorDipsea App (for audio erotica)Research on paralyzed woman experiencing orgasms Pleasure mapping techniquesFive dimensions of touch Mirror work

In this episode, the host explores the fascinating intersection of sex and cannabis, discussing how this plant can enhance connection, increase sensation, and support deeper intimacy. Dr. Norelyn, as a certified cannabis health coach and sex coach, shares personal experiences and insights into mindful cannabis use, emphasizing the importance of understanding the endocannabinoid system. The conversation addresses common myths, ingestion methods, and potential risks, while offering practical guidance on how to incorporate cannabis into sexual wellness practices. The episode concludes with a discussion on the VIBEs method, a holistic approach to combining cannabis and sex.Show Notes: If you or someone you know is interested in learning more about Cannabis for sexual wellness you can reach out to Dr. Norelyn here.

In this enlightening second part of a two-part series, host and trained Tantrik Dominique explores the true nature of tantra - far beyond the common misconceptions that reduce it to sexual practices. Dominique, drawing from her training with teacher Sama Zadora, explains what tantra actually means and represents and how this practice relates and is used in sexual practice. The hosts discuss different types of tantra and practices including breathwork, body awareness, and sacred connection.Show NotesUrban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

In this enlightening first part of a two-part series, host and trained Tantrik Dominique explores the true nature of tantra - far beyond the common misconceptions that reduce it to sexual practices. Dominique, drawing from her training with teacher Sama Zadora, explains what tantra actually means and represents and how this practice relates and is used in sexual practice. The hosts discuss different types of tantra and practices including breathwork, body awareness, and sacred connection.Show NotesUrban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas

In this episode, Dr. Norelyn and her fellow sex coaches & therapist explore the complex relationship between alcohol and sexual intimacy, challenging the normalized use of alcohol as a "social lubricant" in romantic connections. Discussing how couples often rely on alcohol to transition from their busy daily lives into intimate moments, but reveals the hidden negative effects this dependency can have on sexual health and performance. The hosts examine the difference between using alcohol as a ritual versus a crutch, explore the physiological impacts on both male and female bodies, and offer practical alternatives like adaptogens, breathwork, mindfulness practices, and cannabis microdosing. They emphasize the importance of intentional intimacy and discuss strategies for couples who feel "stuck in their heads" during sober sex, ultimately promoting a more conscious approach to sexual connection.Show Notes:Adaptogens: Natural substances (plants/herbs) that help the body adapt to stress and restore balance (i.e.):Ashwagandha: Calming adaptogen for cortisol regulationRhodiola: Uplifting herb that helps with fatigue and focusReishi Mushrooms: Available in powdered supplements or mixed with ceremonial cacaoCeremonial Cacao: Often combined with mushrooms for grounding effectsOur Sex Game: A sensual game recommended for couples to reduce performance anxiety

Sex Coach, Nicole and her powerhouse panel of sexperts dive headfirst into the often-misunderstood world of lube. With humor, science, and serious sex-positive vibes, they break down everything from osmolality and pH balance to the difference between vaginal moisturizers, lube, and vulva balms. Whether you’re lube-curious, facing dryness, or navigating shame and misinformation, this episode gives you the confidence and knowledge to find the right glide for your body. Plus, you’ll walk away knowing how to spot harmful ingredients, test for sensitivities, and even repurpose lube for your hair or massage. Trust us—this is one episode you don’t want to slip past.Show Notes:Recommended Lube Brands & Products:Good Clean Love (Water-based)Maude (Water-based with aloe)Uberlube (Silicone-based)YES Brand (Water-based, oil-based, and vaginal moisturizers): Pjur (Various formulas including sensitive and medical-grade): Lube Dispenser: for hands-free reapplication—this one even warms the lube! Ingredients to avoid: glycerin, propylene glycol, parabens, petrochemicals & artificial scentsShare your stories or questions:  [email protected] us for more tips on IG: @sexandbreakfastpodcast

What’s on the bookshelf of a certified sex coach or therapist? Well, this episode spills the tea (or coffee) on the books that shape how these professionals talk about desire, relationships, bodies, and pleasure. Whether you're looking to better understand your own desires, explore tantra, spice up your relationship, or just be reminded you're not broken — there's a title here for you.Have a book we should know about? A title that changed your relationship to your body, sex, or partnership? Drop us a message or email at [email protected] Notes: Shelf Pleasure PicksCome As You Are - by Emily NagoskiThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – by John GottmanEight Dates – by John & Julie GottmanUrban Tantra – by Barbara CarrellasThe Art of Sexual Ecstasy – by Margo AnandThe Ethical Slut – by Dossie Easton & Janet HardyWomen of the Light: The New Sacred Prostitute – by Kenneth Ray StubbsWomen Who Run With the Wolves – by Clarissa Pinkola EstésAcupressure for Lovers – by Michael Reed GachThe Multi-Orgasmic Man – by Mantak Chia & Douglas AbramsContemporary Male Sexuality – by Barry & Emily McCarthy

In this heartfelt and illuminating Pride Month episode, Dominique Peters and her guests dive deep into the often misunderstood and invisibilized experience of being bisexual. They unpack the evolving language around bisexuality, the difference between bi, pan, and omni-attractions, and the myths of not being “bi enough.” With compassion and wisdom, the conversation explores the intersections of identity, spirituality, shame, allyship, and joy—reminding listeners that bisexuality is not about who you're with but who you are. Whether you're bi, questioning, or an ally, this episode offers insight, validation, and a call to embrace expansive, authentic sexuality without apology.Show Notes:Klein Sexual Orientation GridKinsey Scale Overview

In this playful and insightful Part 2 Series, Dr. Norelyn and her colleagues dive into the diverse world of play parties—from cozy cuddle gatherings to steamy sex-positive soirées. They break down the spectrum, including “second base parties” for those curious but not quite ready for the deep end. With a focus on consent, communication, and curiosity, they explore how these events can spark connection, fuel fantasies, and add some extra sizzle to relationships—all while respecting everyone's unique comfort zones.BDSM ChecklistSex & Play Party Checklist

In this playful and insightful episode, Dr. Norelyn and her colleagues dive into the diverse world of play parties—from cozy cuddle gatherings to steamy sex-positive soirées. They break down the spectrum, including “second base parties” for those curious but not quite ready for the deep end. With a focus on consent, communication, and curiosity, they explore how these events can spark connection, fuel fantasies, and add some extra sizzle to relationships—all while respecting everyone's unique comfort zones.BDSM ChecklistSex & Play Party Checklist

Dedicated to mothers, this warm and insightful conversation led by sex coach Dian Handayani, focuses on reclaiming intimacy and sexual pleasure after motherhood. Normalizing the challenges of postpartum desire, they emphasize that it's entirely natural to not feel ready for sex right away and highlight the immense physical, emotional, and hormonal changes new mothers face. The discussion touches on practical and emotional barriers for mothers—from short maternity leaves and anxiety to lack of privacy and being "touched out." The group offers empowering suggestions like chore play, sensory mindfulness, reframing pleasure, scheduling intimacy, and creating a sensual environment. The overarching message: go slow, prioritize yourself, invite partner support, and give yourself permission to rediscover your body and pleasure, without guilt or pressure.Show Notes: Book – Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiAudio Erotic App: DipseaMore on Chore-playThe Five Dimensions of Touch

In this episode, they dive into a real-life case study involving a couple facing mismatched libidos and communication breakdowns in their sexual relationship. Sharing the story of “Steve” and “Michaela” (names changed for confidentiality), a married couple navigating neurodiversity, sensory sensitivities, and a desire to rekindle intimacy while trying to conceive. They explore strategies to help the couple better understand their individual and shared erotic needs. They also emphasize the importance of personal pleasure practices, communication around needs, and how broader relationship dynamics affect intimacy. The conversation wraps up with tips and insights on how to choose a qualified sex coach or therapist. Show Notes & Resources:Dual Control Model referenced from 'Come As You Are' by Emily NagoskiFive Love LanguagesErotic Blueprint QuizSex Coach U – Global Certification ProgramWorld Association for Sexual Health (WAS)Submit Your Anonymous Case Study or Questions 

In this episode, we explore the intersection of sex, religion, and shame, particularly how religious upbringing influences sexual beliefs and behaviors. They highlight that most major world religions, except Taoism, often promote shame around sex outside of marriage. The speakers share their experiences working with clients who struggle to reconcile their sexuality with their religious teachings. They emphasize the importance of respectful approaches, such as encouraging exploration of the body within acceptable boundaries and involving religious leaders when appropriate. Ultimately, they advocate for compassion, curiosity, and open-mindedness in supporting clients’ journeys to healing and sexual empowerment.

Exploring the deep connection between body image and sexuality, discussing how societal standards, cultural expectations, family dynamics, and media influence shape our perceptions of our bodies. We highlight the harm caused by negative comments, media portrayals, and unrealistic body expectations, particularly around genital appearance and sexual performance. The conversation touches on issues like body dysmorphia, the effects of social media filters, and the impact of life changes, such as pregnancy, on intimacy and body image. Experts share tips for cultivating self-love and body positivity, including mirror exercises, affirmations, and group witnessing practices, while emphasizing the importance of patience, self-compassion, and challenging harmful narratives to foster sexual well-being and self-acceptance.Show Notes:Books: Womanhood: The Bare Reality by Laura Dodsworth Books: 100 Women, Their Breasts, Their Stories by Laura DodsworthBooks: Manhood: The Bare Reality by Laura DodsworthWitnessing Circles: https://bodysex.com/courses/Original True Mirror and experiences

Diving into the importance of maintaining a healthy vaginal biome. We discuss how factors like antibiotics, tight clothing, travel, and harsh products can disrupt the vaginal biome, leading to conditions like bacterial vaginosis and increased vulnerability to infections. The conversation emphasizes the need for better education on vaginal health, alternatives to traditional treatments, and self-care practices, such as using probiotics, natural oils, and gentle lubes. We also explore the benefits of practices like going commando, using bidets, and being mindful of chemicals in personal care products. Show Notes:Underwear: HuHa: https://hu-ha.com/Underwear: Cottonslut: https://cottonslut.com/https://cottonslut.com/our-storyOsmolality chart: https://goodcleanlove.com/blogs/making-love-sustainable/what-is-osmolality-and-how-does-it-affect-your-vaginal-tissues?srsltid=AfmBOordu8f6Y-9aiVV7grkCL5UmXy2p_k4EEt2pAaiHmdEH1Few8aeQLube: Uberlube: https://uberlube.com/Lube: Good Clean Love: https://goodcleanlove.com/Fresh Peaches Gel for Intimate HygieneTravel Bidet by TushyEvvy Bio Vaginal Microbiome Test Kit

Today we're cooking up a sneak peak of the life working in sexual health from sex coaches to professional dominatrixes. The conversation also highlights the roles of pelvic health physiotherapists, occupational therapists, and surrogate partner therapists, underscoring the collaborative nature of sexual health care and the need for specialized referrals. We'll break down who does what and how to find the right person for you. ResourcesSex Coach U DirectoryInternational Professional Surrogates Association

In this episode, we meet the certified sex coaches and all about the Holistic Sex Coaching Model, MEBES® created by Dr. Patti Britton.Stay tuned for our next episode, Until then send us some love by sharing, hitting subscribe & leave a review - it really helps us to connect to more incredible people like you!  If you want to learn more about sex coaching or therapy you can find us at sexandbreakfastpodcast.com and be sure to follow us on instagram at sexandbrealfastpodcast.