Sincerely Tanj

We’ve all seen it…assumed characteristics based on stereotypes seem from TV or small encounters. What odd is how some characteristics are easily accepted when portrayed by another ethnicity…

Weddings are a beautiful thing but as somebody who HATES crowds and fake smiles, I’m opting out for a private experience…

These rings come in so many forms and I’ve watched all of them up close and even participated in a situation myself. Maybe some of these situations sound familiar to you…maybe not…

Baby showers are a beautiful thing but I can’t help but think somewhere along the way it became more of a show and less about the life being celebrated…

It definitely takes a village to raise a child but what happens when that village is tired …?

A lot of time when somebody is accomplishing more than you, it’s quick to assume the cards just aren’t in your favor…but what if it could be and you’re KEEPING it from happening, would you fix it ?

It’s okay to keep some things to yourself. Even though people think they may be helping, advice is just advice…no need to do as someone suggests.

I’m all for close relationships with our children, as a mother myself, but I have noticed some have no idea what boundaries are and where they should be placed…

Happy New Years Guys 🫶🏾 I just wanted to share some events that have taken place and have a little chitchat to catch you guys up !

In the black community, I see a lot of woman talk about how much mothers dote on their sons as if they do NO WRONG and I agree…can’t relate, but I agree. Let’s shed some light on why I think this is…

Sometimes what you want may have not been in the cards for you at the time and that’s okay. Watching people I care for get the opposite of shitty experiences I had is a beautiful thing…

The last episode of this series ! Hope you guys enjoyed and maybe it brought some clarity for whoever needed it.

Nobody like a combative attitude. Some people think it’s cute…until it’s not.

Part 2 in this series of communication.

Communication styles really make a difference in any relationship you have with others in general. It can explain why some people in your life just don’t mix well with you. What is your style ? How do you express yourself ?

It’s been forever since we’ve done an episode and this is the longest yet, I think ? Lots of loaded questions in today’s episode

We’ve all heard about this…at least I think so and I’m just hear to say it has WAY more involved than just luck sometimes.

The “honeymoon” phase is something I feel like isn’t talked about enough and I’m sick of people assuming it’s JUST a phase. Let’s discuss this more…

When being a particular race warrants you to be more ATTRACTIVE…let’s really dive into this.

The last part of this series…I hope you guys enjoyed it especially during black history month. Protect those black babies !

Continuation of this fascinating study. Enjoy !

As little girls, we have all heard this phrase whether it was towards us of towards somebody else but where did this even stem from ? A study about the comparison of Black and Caucasian girls told me way more than what I expected…

To make something less of a headache, take away the obstacles and watch how much easier it is to get it done…

An old episode I recorded but still a valid point made. Be safe, ladies.

“What makes us special ?” I mean we could name quite a few things but our individual answer lies in this episode…

So we’ve all been told at one point as a kid “Oh, they’re just being mean because they really like you…” but can we talk about how harmful this way of thinking is ?

I meant to release this around the new year but I dropped other episodes before that. You’ll still enjoy my point though…

To be able to have a choice on daily things can be so quickly overlooked when it’s your “everyday” routine..

I’ve yet to be married but I know watching people close to me going through a divorce can be A LOT. So what does dating look like for them ? What are some things they wish they knew beforehand ? Would they do it again ? I asked a MAN for this last part to switch things up a bit…

Part two to my series of married couple but all from different aspects. This couple I used to work with finally got married and I had to get their opinion on their experience so far…

Marriage isn’t everyone’s end goal but I love a successful marriage as much as the next person. If it’s on your mind, maybe some of the advice from this series could help…

Let’s start the year up with making the first part of our day a pleasant one, shall we ?

The pressure to find your people is indeed real even moreso these days just make sure it’s where you ACTUALLY want to be…

It’s been awhile guys but bringing something a little extra and sharing a little extra with babe in today’s episode! Have a Merry Christmas ❤️

It’s one thing to think about what you want but to live as if you already have it ? That’s another…

So coparenting can already seem difficult trying to manage your child from two households but there are ways to navigate the hot/cold actions of others…

What happens when you’re forced to slowly pick up the pieces of your life…

You’re allowed to love your kid but hate being a mom sometimes. Regardless of what people think, there’s a big DIFFERENCE between the two…

Being young is great and all but life doesn’t get boring because you get older…it’s whatever you make it

Dedicated to my older sister, some of you guys HAVE to stop projecting your life/goals onto others. Everything AIN’T for everybody…

Something I hope to show or that he’ll come across one. Just a sum up of lessons I wish somebody told me. Granted, I tell him these things everyday but another reminder when things are hard is never bad either

So who would have thought men are taking up most of the space on dating apps ? I could give you a few reasons just based on my personal observation..

“If it was the last time y’all spent together ?” I never liked the idea of this question but it’s definitely a reality for some people..

“Mind the business that pays you…” is what I like to think of in this situation. There’s no point in trying to warn the next PERSON and I’m going to tell why…

Now I see A LOT of content all over social media about this lifestyle and though I don’t care for it, the message of the MAJORITY of the women are SENDING, is dangerous…

For some reason, we feel the need to defend ourselves to make sure we’re understood. STOP that. Who cares if they do or don’t….not your problem

So I bet like me, you thought there was only one KIND huh ? Like there’s no way there could be more but surprise SURPRISE there are…

Now I’m not sure if you’ve heard of this term but if you’ve ever felt like somebody is literally DRAINING all that you are…you might wanna rethink your company

Now you guys didn’t think I forgot about y’all, did you ? When you hear about narcissists, I always hear about the MALES but FEMALE ones do EXIST …they just aren’t as widely talked about in my opinion. Let’s dive in, shall we ?

So this went WAYYY longer than expected but you’ll enjoy it for sure…