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This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"How do I help my kids develop into emotionally mature adults? How can I support them so they don't have to struggle through the process of self-healing like we did?"In this episode, we explore the deep desire many parents have to protect their children from pain and struggle. We talk about the reality that healing and self-discovery are part of the human experience—and why trying to eliminate struggle entirely may not actually serve our kids in the long run. Lora shares insights about modeling emotional maturity rather than trying to teach it through instruction, and why nervous system regulation, mindfulness, and self-awareness are best learned through what children observe in the adults around them. Jeff reflects on parenting adult children and the evolving relationship between parents and kids as they grow.We also dive into:Why therapy is becoming more normalized in newer generationsThe difference between supporting children and enabling themCultural expectations around independence and parentingThe role of community in raising emotionally healthy adultsWhy modeling mature behavior matters more than perfect parentingThe power of apology in parent-child relationshipsUltimately, we come back to a simple but challenging idea:If you want to raise emotionally mature adults, become one.Is something in you waking up and you're ready for deeper work? Step through at ⁠⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠⁠***We are now on Patreon!***Support us at ⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠⁠ and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon!Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #parenting #emotionalintelligence #mindfulness #selfhealing #personalgrowth #mentalhealth #familyrelationships

In this episode, we offer a guided mind-body practice for designed for moments when the anxiety signal feels too high to manage. It's not about forcing calm or "fixing" anxiety. Instead, this gently engages imagination, sensation, and awareness to help the nervous system shift out of overwhelm and back toward regulation.This is great for all ages! When to Use This Practice- When anxiety feels intense and overwhelming- When grounding techniques feel inaccessible- When the body needs support before the mind can settle- A short reset during the day or before sleep***We are now on Patreon!***Support us at ⁠⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠⁠ and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon!Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠⁠ If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠⁠ Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #anxiety #meditation #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #healing

***We are now on Patreon!***Support us at ⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠ and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon!This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"How do you teach nervous system regulation and trauma therapy to men who don't do 'woo woo?' How do you teach this stuff to guys who don't even know they're anxious?"In this episode, we explore teaching nervous system regulation and trauma therapy to people - not just men - as this work is not gender specific. We discuss the misinterpretation of 'Woo Woo' and how that does not translate into the emotional and nervous system work being taught here. We dive into cultural perceptions of emotional intelligence, and personal experiences with anxiety. Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠ If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠ Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #anxiety #nervoussystemregulation #traumatherapy #emotionalintelligence #relationalskills

***We are now on Patreon!***Support us at ⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠ and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon!This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"I've been trying to date again after some major heartbreak, and I keep catching myself assuming people will leave me, ghost me, or betray me. What's the line between intuition and projection? Can you talk about trust after betrayal?"In our conversation this week, we explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on heartbreak, trust, and the distinction between intuition and projection. We discuss the importance of trust in oneself, healing, and emphasizing the need to understand our own patterns and behaviors in relationships. We discuss:- Heartbreak is a profound experience that often leads to self-reflection.- Trust is something that must be earned, both from others and oneself.- Rebuilding trust with oneself is crucial after experiencing betrayal.- Understanding the difference between intuition and projection can aid in navigating relationships.- Communication is key in addressing fears and assumptions in new relationships.- Self-trust is essential for making healthy choices in relationships.- Projection can often stem from past experiences and unresolved issues.- It's important to recognize when one is abandoning themselves in relationships.- Healing from heartbreak involves acknowledging and processing grief.- Practicing self-compassion is vital in the journey of recovery from emotional pain.Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠loramccarville.com⁠ If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠ here.⁠ Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Touches05:05 Navigating Heartbreak and Trust Issues10:23 Understanding Projection vs. Intuition15:45 The Complexity of New Relationships20:45 Self-Compassion and Healing After Betrayal26:14 The Importance of Relational Skills31:39 Closing Thoughts and Reflections#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #heartbreak #trust #intuition #projection #relationships #selftrust #healing #emotionalintelligence #personalgrowth #communication

***We are now on Patreon!***Support us at Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon!This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"I'm 58 years old, and I'm definitely grieving my life right now. It's like I'm slowly watching the version of life I thoughts I was supposed to have...disappear. Can you talk about identity transitions in midlife? I would love to hear your take on how to sit with that kind of grief."Our conversation this week explores themes of grief, reflection, and the importance of living in the present moment. We discuss:- Are you metabolizing the grief?- Reflecting too much can be a drag.- Living in the present... with compassion, is essential.- Emotional processing is crucial for healing.- Grief requires active engagement and reflection. - Finding peace in the present moment is vital. Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at loramccarville.com If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information here. Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #grief #presentmoment #presentmomentawareness #anxiety #depression #emotionalprocessing #mindfulness #loramccarville #jeffkalasky

This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"My body has been a war zone for my entire life. It doesn't feel like a safe place to be. Can you talk about how to approach embodiment when your body has been through so much trauma?"In this conversation, Lora and Jeff discuss the intricate relationship between the mind and body, exploring how stress and emotional turmoil can manifest physically. We emphasize the importance of shifting one's perspective and relationship with their body to foster healing and well-being. We discuss:The body can experience stress signals from past events.Mind recycling can affect present emotional states.Shifting the relationship between mind and body is crucial.Understanding the body as a war zone highlights emotional struggles.Self-care practices can help in managing stress.Mindfulness can aid in healing the body-mind connection.Emotional well-being is linked to physical health.Personal growth involves recognizing and addressing these connections.The present moment is key to shifting perspectives.Healing requires a conscious effort to change relationships with oneself.Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#mindbodyconnection #stresssignals #mentalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #selfcare #mindfulness #healing #personalgrowth #sowhatwhocares #loramccarville #jeffkalasky

This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"I've been doing a lot of work on myself the past two years, and I'm starting to feel...stable? (She says with hesitation) but there's this weird panic when things feel good, like I'm just waiting for it to all fall apart again. Why does 'regulated' feel so scary? I would love to hear your take."Lora and Jeff delve into the interplay between rational thought and emotional intuition, and explore how individuals can navigate their internal dialogues to foster personal growth and self-awareness. We discuss:The distinction between head and heart is crucial.Self-reflection can lead to deeper understanding.Emotional intelligence plays a key role in decision-making.It's important to question the source of our thoughts.Personal growth often requires introspection.Balancing rationality and emotion is essential.Understanding our motivations can guide our actions.Self-awareness is a journey, not a destination.Listening to our heart can provide clarity.Engaging with our thoughts can enhance our well-being.Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"I grew up in a house where 'emotions' meant you either yelled or you left. Now I'm in my 30s trying to figure out what I actually feel, but the words don't come. I freeze - total shut down. I feel like I don't have the vocabulary or the skills to maintain relationships in a healthy way. I feel like I need a course on 'Feelings 101' because I never got the starter kit."To address this question, Lora and Jeff discuss the complexities of emotions, particularly focusing on individuals who struggle with emotional expression due to their upbringing. We discuss the importance of understanding and articulating feelings, the impact of emotional shutdown, and ways to become more comfortable putting words to your emotions. Vulnerability and self-awareness are key components in our emotional landscapes, and can help us improve our interpersonal connections. We discuss:- Emotional shutdown can stem from childhood experiences.- Building emotional vocabulary is essential for healthy relationships.- Emotions are often misunderstood and require attunement.- Practicing self-awareness can help in recognizing emotions.- Vulnerability is crucial in expressing feelings to others.- Emotions are transient and can be processed without storytelling.- Using tools like a feelings wheel can aid in emotional expression.- It's important to approach emotions with compassion and curiosity.- Understanding the relational nature of emotions can enhance connections.- Deconstructing familial patterns can lead to personal growth.Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Introduction and Listener Engagement02:04 Understanding Emotional Shutdown04:43 Navigating Emotions and Relationships09:05 The Nature of Emotions12:39 Challenging Personal Narratives16:36 Building Emotional Vocabulary and Vulnerability

In this guided meditation, Lora invites you to repair your emotional screens - the subtle filters that help protect and nurture your well-being. Through grounding, breathwork, and visualization, we can create an inner sanctuary where only what truly nourishes you can enter. This practice isn't about shutting out the world - it's about filtering it with clarity, compassion, and strength. What You'll Experience:- Grounding & Breathwork - simple techniques to bring calm awareness- Emotional Sanctuary Building - guided imagery to create a safe inner space- Filtering & Clarity - practices to release external noise and strengthen your emotional resilience- Deep Relaxation - a felt sense of peace and clarity that you can return to anytimeIdeal For:- Empaths- Anyone feeling emotionally overloaded or drained by outside influences- Listeners wanting to deepend mindfulness and self-awareness through meditation- Those seeking practical tools for emotional resilience and mental well-beingConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #meditation #mindfulness #selfcare #mentalhealth #wellness #innerpeace #personalgrowth #selfawareness #healingjourney #guidedmeditation #mindbodysoul #emotionalhealth #relaxation #mentalwellbeing #mindset

*THIS IS AN AUDIO ONLY EPISODE* (Sorry - the camera died)This episode is part of a new series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"I don’t think I have a ‘deep self.’ Everyone always says, ‘go inward,’ but I’m like… to what? It’s just noise in there. Is that normal? What do you do when there’s no essence to find?"For this episode, Lora and Jeff dive into the experience of searching for a "deep self" and only finding noise. We explore what essence might really mean - and how the language around it doesn't always land for everyone. From neurodivergent perspectives to moments of flow and everyday presence, we unpack different way of experiencing the self without forcing it or shaming yourself for not feeling it right away. We discuss:Why “go inward” isn’t always the most helpful cueHow essence can show up in flow states, memory, and everyday presenceThe role of language and neurodivergence in shaping inner experienceWhy resistance deserves curiosity, not pressureCommunity, teachers, and patience as antidotes to pop-psychology shortcutsWant to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 The Traveler and the Young Man’s Question01:46 Listener Question: “No Deep Self?”03:54 Essence, Noise, and Neurodivergent Perspectives15:18 Finding Flow and Everyday Presence28:45 When Resistance Shows Up41:47 Teachers, Language, and Community1:21:41 Closing Reflections by the Fire#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #selfdiscovery #essence #mindfulness #selfawareness #mentalhealth #neurodivergent #healingjourney #growthmindset #resistance #presence #relationships #traumahealing #innerwork #compassion #community #podcastcommunity

This episode is part of a new series where we answer your questions. Today's question:"Lately I'm starting to think I'm doing 'too much caring.' Like i'm hyper-attuned to everyone else and constantly managing the emotional temperature in the room. Is that trauma? Just being nice? Can you talk about the weird place between codependency and compassion?"We explore what it can look like when caring turns into caretaking, and how to stay grounded in your own emotional integrity. We discuss practical ways to witness others without absorbing their feelings, and how mindfulness and self-awareness can support healthier relationships. We discuss:Being hyper-attuned can signal both strength and overwhelm.Compassion should not come at the cost of your own well-being.Codependency and compassion are not the same—support doesn’t mean self-erasure.Mindfulness and emotional neutrality can protect your energy.Emotional integrity helps you show up with presence, not burden.Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 The Traveler’s Arrival and the Village’s Curiosity01:16 A Listener’s Question: Too Much Caring?02:54 Navigating Codependency and Compassion16:45 Finding Balance in Emotional Connections#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #emotionalhealth #compassion #codependency #mindfulness #mentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #selfawareness #healingjourney #boundaries #selfgrowth #traumahealing #innerwork #relationships #empathy #selfcare #podcastcommunity #mindfulrelationships #emotionalwellness #growthmindset #healing

Building community through connection.In this conversation, Lora and Jeff explore the multifaceted nature of community, emphasizing the importance of connection, respect, and open communication. We discuss how relationships are built on trust and the need for recognition within a community. The conversation also touches on the impact of isolation and loneliness in modern society, the significance of shared experiences, and the role of mindfulness in fostering community engagement. We highlight the necessity of collective care and the challenges of navigating differences in relationships.We explore;Community is about connection, not just shared interests.Respect is given, trust is earned.Open communication strengthens relationships.Isolation and loneliness are mental health crises.We are meant to be in connection.Recognition is about being seen in community.Mindfulness is present moment awareness.Navigating differences is key to community.Community is built on care and affection.Difficult conversations build trust.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Introduction to Community Building01:48 The Importance of Community03:55 Understanding Respect and Communication09:14 Navigating Differences in Relationships11:50 Shared Values vs. Shared Interests16:10 The Role of Community in Mental Health21:39 Isolation and Loneliness in Modern Society26:25 Engaging in Difficult Conversations32:29 Collective Care and Mindfulness#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #community #connection #respect #trust #opencommunication #mindfulness #relationships #mentalhealth #belonging #sharedexperiences #collectivecare #isolation #loneliness #selfawareness #healing #wellbeing #growthmindset #podcast #podcasting

In this episode, Lora and Jeff explore the link between knowing your core values and building authentic community. They start with a conversation about the difference between shame and guilt — and how understanding these emotions can guide us toward living in alignment with what matters most. From there, they dive into a practical core values discovery exercise, sharing their own top picks (like compassion, integrity, and resilience) and reflecting on where those values show up in life — and where they want them to show up more. Along the way, they unpack why shared values are the foundation of true connection and how embracing them can help overcome isolation and foster belonging.In this episode, we explore:The difference between shame and guilt, and why we’re wired for shame.Why shared values are essential for community.A guided core values discovery exercise you can follow along with.How to choose and refine your top values.Where values show up in relationships, work, health, and personal growth.The role of compassion, integrity, and resilience in everyday life.How to notice when you’re living out of alignment with your values.The challenge of individuality in a communal world.Personal stories that shaped our understanding of community and belonging.Why identifying your values is the first step toward finding your people.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Introduction to Shame and Guilt02:24 Understanding Community and Shared Values05:03 Core Values Discovery Workshop07:48 Exploring Personal Values08:12 Values in Relationships and Community09:58 The Role of Integrity in Community12:25 Resilience and Community Dynamics14:49 Navigating Individuality and Community17:46 Experiencing Community in Different Contexts20:08 Building Community and Connection22:54 Reflections on Community Experiences#sowhatwhocarespodcast #sowhatwhocares #loramccarville #jeffkalasky#corevalues #findyourvalues #communitybuilding #authenticconnection #integrity #compassion #resilience #belonging #valuesalignment #mindfulnesspractice #relationshipbuilding #selfawarenessjourney #healingjourney #valuesdriven #selfdiscovery #emotionalintelligence #personaldevelopment #growthmindset #podcastcommunity

In this powerful meditation, Lora guides you through a process of emotional integration - helping you connect with the parts of you that carry pain, protection, and patterning. You'll gently shift old emotional loops and move toward inner peace. This isn't about fixing yourself. It's about listening deeply - and letting your unconscious shift the pattern. What you'll experience:- Emotional Integration - a gentle yet powerful way to meet difficult feelings without overwhelm- Parts work + hypnosis - tools to identify protective parts and shift emotional patterns- Inner peace - a guided pathway toward resolution, softness, and internal harmonyIdeal for:- Anyone navigating emotional overwhelm or repeating inner stories- Listeners curious about their internal protectors and what they're guarding- Those seeking a body-based, subconscious approach to emotional healingConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#meditation #guidedmeditation #partswork #IFS #RRT #emotionalintegration #emotionalhealing #selfawareness #innerpeace #innerwork #traumarecovery #subconsciousmind #healingjourney #mentalwellness #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville

In Part 2 of our deep dive into the Shadow, Jeff and Lora go even further — from the depths of trauma to the spark of liberation. What does shadow work really look like? Is it always heavy? Does it have to hurt? What about the parts of ourselves that shine too brightly?This episode explores how to actually tend to the parts we’ve disowned — not just the painful ones, but the golden shadow too: our brilliance, confidence, and power that we may have hidden away to survive. In this episode we explore:Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this meditation, Lora invites you to meet the inner wall that has long protected you. Through gentle hypnosis and parts work, you'll uncover what stands between you and your next chapter - not to force it, but to honor it, understand it, and begin to shift from within. What you'll experience:- Unconscious Exploration: A journey beneath the surface to connect with hidden patterns- Parts Work & Hypnosis: Tools to understand and befriend your internal protectors- Transformational Insight: A chance to soften, integrate, and move forward with clarityIdeal for:- Anyone feeling "stuck" or unsure about their next move- Those who sense an internal block but don't know where it comes from- Listeners ready to go deeper into the subconcious and meet it with compassionConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#meditation #guidedmeditation #partswork #innerchild #hypnotherapy #mindbodyconnection #emotionalhealing #selfawareness #innerjourney #mentalwellness #selfdiscovery #healingpath #shadowwork #innerwisdom #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville

You’ve seen the posts. Heard the term. Maybe even said it: “I'm doing my shadow work.”But what is the shadow, really?In this two-part dive, Lora and Jeff wade into the fog of the human psyche to explore the parts of ourselves we’ve disowned — the messy, the shameful, but also the powerful and luminous. From family dynamics and cultural programming to unexpected gold hiding in the dark, this conversation shines a gentle light on what we avoid... and how reclaiming it might just free us.And yes — we open with an eerie, vintage-radio-style story. Because of course we do.In this episode, we explore:- The importance of ratings and reviews for podcast growth.- Understanding the shadow self is crucial for personal development.- Disowned parts of ourselves can include both negative and positive traits.- Cultural context influences how we perceive and engage with shadow work.- Patterns in our behavior can reveal disowned traits.- Integrating traits is more beneficial than eliminating them.- Personal stories can illuminate our shadow work journey.- Projection of our shadows onto others is a common behavior.- Macro and micro perspectives help us understand societal shadows.- Compassion towards our shadows fosters self-acceptance.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Navigating the Open Sea of Self-Discovery00:43 The Importance of Ratings and Reviews03:23 Understanding the Shadow Within09:03 The Cultural Context of Shadow Work10:48 Patterns and Disowned Aspects16:43 Macro and Micro Shadows in Society21:45 The Golden Shadow: Embracing Our Full Selves27:59 Compassion for Our Shadows#sowhatwhocarespodcast #sowhatwhocares #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #shadowwork #jungianpsychology #selfdiscovery #healingjourney #podcastconversation #mentalhealthpodcast #personaldevelopment #spiritualgrowth #integration #compassionateawareness #subconsciousmind #innerwork #systemichealing #reclaimyourpower #therapytools #nervoussystemhealing #ayahuascaretreat #podcastcommunity #selfawarenessjourney #shadowintegration

Welcome back to part two of our deep dive into the unconscious mind.In this episode, Lora and Jeff explore the practical and personal terrain of working with unconscious material—how it shows up, how to notice it, and how to begin integrating it. From symbolic dreams and family patterns to inherited beliefs, cultural systems, and unexpected triggers (like a butter dish), they unpack how the unseen forces within us shape everything from our values to our reactions.Lora brings a trauma-informed, curiosity-first approach to engaging with the unconscious, including tools from hypnotherapy, mindfulness, and active imagination. Jeff brings thoughtful questions and his own experience of trying to untangle personal truth from inherited programming.In This EpisodeHow dreams speak the language of the unconsciousTools for exploring symbolic material safelyWhat it means to be "resourced" before digging deeperWhy integration is messy, non-linear, and sometimes surprisingThe difference between healing and becoming more youHow inherited emotional blueprints shape choices and self-imageWhy ego resists change—and how to stay curious anywayIndividual healing as a path to collective transformationConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters:[00:00] Welcome Back + The Language of Dreams[04:15] Symbols, Safety, and Facing the Shark[08:30] Shadow Work, Golden Shadow & the Fear of Knowing[12:40] Ego Resistance + The Butter Dish Story[18:15] Integration as “Steady Jerks” Over Time[23:30] Quick vs. Slow Healing Modalities[28:00] Unconscious Beliefs and the Cost of Avoidance[32:10] Parenting, Programming, and Generational Patterns[36:45] Collective Unconscious + Family Politics[41:00] Death Penalty Story + Belonging vs. Belief[47:30] Journaling, Somatic Awareness, and Active Imagination[50:30] Final Thoughts + Staying Curious#sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #theicebergepisode #unconsciousintegration #shadowwork #jungianpsychology #generationalhealing #dreamsymbols #mindbodyconnection #traumainformedhealing #healingjourney #selfinquiry #innerchildwork #liminalspaces #nervoussystemsupport #emotionalpatterns #familydynamics #consciousparenting #collectiveunconscious #innerwork #curiosityoverjudgment #personalgrowth #spiritualdevelopment #steadyjerks

You might think you're steering the ship—but what if something beneath the surface is holding the wheel?In this first half of a two-part conversation, Lora and Jeff explore the conscious, subconscious, and unconscious layers of the mind—and why what we don’t know is often what drives us. Using metaphors, clinical insight, personal stories, and somatic wisdom, we unpack how early imprints, ancestral beliefs, and even misunderstood gut instincts can shape our lives without our awareness.Lora shares trauma-informed ways to begin exploring the unconscious without shame or overwhelm. Jeff opens up about the moments he’s realized certain values, choices, or reactions might not actually be his—they might be inherited or imprinted from long ago.Whether you’re newly curious about shadow work, or deep into healing old patterns, this episode offers gentle insights, surprising clarity, and encouragement to stay curious about what lives beneath the surface.In this episode:-Conscious vs. subconscious vs. unconscious: What’s the difference?-Why Jung rejected the term “subconscious”-The iceberg model of the mind-Gut instinct vs. misread data (and how trauma confuses the two)-The story of the trombone and the imprint in the sand-Generational beliefs and inherited emotional blueprints-Patterns, defensiveness, people-pleasing, and guilt as signals-How mindfulness, meditation, and curiosity help reveal what’s driving us-Why self-knowledge is always evolving—and never completeConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters[00:00] Listener Invitation + Iceberg Parable[04:10] Conscious, Subconscious, and Unconscious Defined[08:15] Jung’s Perspective + Iceberg Reframe[12:40] Gut Instinct or Misread Data?[16:00] The Trombone Story + PTSD & Imprints[20:45] Imprints, Samskaras & Subtle Grooves of the Mind[25:30] Curiosity in Mindfulness & Pattern Recognition[30:00] Signs of Unconscious Drivers: Guilt, Defensiveness, People-Pleasing[34:20] Inherited Stories and Generational Programming[39:00] “The System Can’t Know Itself” and Embracing Evolution[42:00] Lora’s Story: Divorce and the Legacy of Suffering[47:15] How to Begin the Work + Why Curiosity Is Key[50:00] Parting Thoughts + What’s Coming in Part Two#sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #theicebergepisode #unconsciousmind #shadowwork #jungianpsychology #generationalhealing #innerwork #mindbodyconnection #traumainformed #healingjourney #selfinquiry #integrationwork #nervoussystemregulation #gutinstincts #consciousliving #mentalhealthpodcast #personaldevelopment #emotionalawareness #patternsandtriggers #selfdiscovery

You don’t need a Himalayan cushion, an incense cloud, or perfect posture to practice formal mindfulness—and you definitely don’t need to suffer through it.In this episode, Lora and Jeff explore what it really means to have a formal mindfulness practice. We share personal stories, discuss the sneaky trap of spiritual ego, and break down the difference between simply sitting and truly observing with compassion.Lora offers a trauma-inclusive lens for developing a formal meditation practice that actually meets you where you are—bed, chair, or wobbly stool included. Jeff opens up about how striving to "do it right" can get in the way of accessing presence, and how formal practices can soften or reinforce our inner patterns depending on how they’re held.Whether you’re brand new to meditation or feeling boxed in by how you “should” be doing it, this conversation is full of insight, encouragement, and gentle permission to let the practice serve you—not the other way around.In this episode:What makes a mindfulness practice “formal”—and why that mattersThe myth of the perfect meditation postureHow compassion and structure balance each other in spiritual practiceTrauma-aware tips for starting (or restarting) a meditation habitWhat it means to observe yourself without becoming your thoughtsWhen discomfort is useful—and when it's just more rigidityConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #formalmindfulness #meditationpractice #mindfulmeditation #traumainformed #compassionateawareness #sitwithit #mindfulnessmatters #selfinquiry #mentalhealthpodcast #nervoussystemregulation #presentmoment #meditationtips #selfcompassion #healingjourney #innerstillness #consciousliving #spiritualpractice #personaldevelopment #observingmind #sowhatwhocares

What if your most powerful mindfulness tools are taking a pause and wiggling your toes? In this episode of So What Who Cares?, Lora and Jeff dive into one of the most practical, transformative topics they've explored yet: informal mindfulness. From taking a breath before answering an email to noticing the moment your subconscious takes the wheel, this episode explores why mindfulness doesn't always need to be fancy, time-consuming, or done on a cushion surrounded by crystals. It just has to be real. We discuss the acronym B.O.L.D. - Breathe, Observe, Listen, Decide - and why it can be a game changer when you're trying to stay aligned with your values in everyday moments. In this episode we explore:- What informal mindfulness really means and why it's more approachable than you might think- The role of the subconscious in everyday reactions- How values guide mindful decision-making- The power of the pause: learning to respond, not react- Community, connection, and why we can't do this work aloneSo what? Practicing presence in small moments helps us live a life that actually feels like our ownWho cares? We do. And we're walking it with you. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulnesspractice #informalmindfulness #selfawareness #mentalhealthpodcast #mindfulmoments #emotionalintelligence #subconsciousmind #valuesbasedliving #pauseandreflect #boldmethod #traumainformed #healingjourney #nervoussystemregulation #mindfulleadership #everydaypresence #selfcompassion #personaldevelopment #podcastforgrowth #sowhatwhocares #consciousliving #mindfuldecisions #innerwork #selfinquiry #communitycare #presentoverperfectChapters00:00 The Power of Mindfulness in Everyday Life03:47 Understanding Informal Mindfulness Practices07:10 The BOLD Approach to Mindfulness12:49 Navigating Emotional Responses with Mindfulness18:06 Becoming the Observer: Insight and Awareness24:08 Creating a Heart-Centered Life through Mindfulness

Be here, now, with compassion and loving kindness. In this episode, Lora and Jeff explore the true essence of mindfulness, pulling it apart from buzzwords and misconceptions to reveal how it can ground us in our daily lives. We unpack the difference between mindfulness and meditation, share personal stories of staying present when things go awry (like losing a phone on the highway!), and talk about how mindfulness can help us show up in our relationships with compassion and attunement.The conversation also touches on how mindfulness is taught (and sometimes misused) in schools and corporate settings, and the ways it can be both helpful and misapplied. Whether you’re curious about mindful practices, want to understand the shadow side of “being present,” or are just looking for simple ways to bring mindfulness into your everyday routine, this episode is for you.In this episode, we explore:Mindfulness is present moment awareness with kind attention.The compassionate lens is crucial in practicing mindfulness.Mindfulness can be misused or weaponized in conversations.Mindfulness is not the same as meditation; they intersect but are distinct.Everyday activities can be transformed into mindfulness practices.Mindfulness helps in managing stress and staying grounded.Mindfulness can improve relationships by fostering connection.There is a shadow side to mindfulness when it is misapplied.Mindfulness is increasingly being taught in schools and workplaces.Starting with informal practices can help integrate mindfulness into daily life.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 The Journey Begins: A Mindful Exploration03:00 Understanding Mindfulness: Definitions and Misconceptions05:56 Mindfulness vs. Meditation: Distinctions and Intersections09:08 Everyday Mindfulness: Practicing Presence in Daily Life11:52 Mindfulness in Stressful Situations: Staying Grounded15:00 Mindfulness and Relationships: The Power of Presence17:57 The Shadow Side of Mindfulness: Misuse and Misunderstanding21:09 Mindfulness in Education and Corporate Settings24:06 Building a Mindfulness Starter Pack: Practical Tips27:02 Final Thoughts: Embracing Mindfulness in Everyday Life#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #mindfulmoment #presentmoment #selfawareness #meditation #selfregulation #compassion #kindattention #stressmanagement #mentalhealth #nervoussystemregulation #emotionalintelligence #relationshiptips #mindfulrelationships #mindfulpractices #mindfulnessmatters #corporatemindfulness #mindfulnessineducation #informalpractice #mindfulnessjourney #wellbeing #wellness #mindfulmonday #selfcare #selfcompassion #anxietyrelief #grounding #mindfulbreathing #innerpeace #mindfulliving

What if every breath you take in this moment is more than air - it's a sacred thread that connects you to everything? In this episode, we continue our conversation about breath, but with a more mystical perspective. While last episode we explored how breath can backfire when trauma is triggered, this time we're shifting into the numinous, the magical, and the spiritual. We explore:- The idea of breath as a sacred thread - a connection that links us to nature and to each other in profound ways.- How breath awareness isn't just about science or regulation, but about feeling the pulse of life that surrounds us. - Personal reflections and rituals that help us return to the present moment and honor the breath's role in sustaining life. - How awareness of breath can be both a gentle practice and a powerful anchor in challenging times. - How, with argon in every breath, we're literally breathing the past.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Introduction and Listener Engagement02:41 The Essence of Breath: A Sacred Thread04:49 Exploring the Mystical Aspects of Breathing10:23 Breath as Connection to Nature15:21 Rituals and Mindfulness in Daily Life19:11 Understanding Breath and Panic Attacks24:49 The Spirituality of Breath33:02 Breath: The Sustainer of Life#sowhatwhocarespodcast #sowhatwhocares #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #breathwork #selfawareness #innerpeace #spiritualawakening #sacredbreath #breathislife #numinous #healingjourney #meditationpractice #breathingtechniques #traumarecovery #holistichealth #soulfulbreath #mindbodyconnection #wellbeing #compassionateawareness #healingbreath #nervoussystemregulation #breathelife #breathpractice #mindfulmoments #spiritualhealth #resourcemindset #groundedliving

Sometimes breath isn't calming - let's talk about that.In this episode, we delve into the complexities of breathwork, exploring how practices intended for relaxation and mindfulness can sometimes activate traumatic responses. We discuss the importance of trauma-inclusive approaches to breathwork and the profound significance of breath in our lives. We explore various breathing techniques, a bit of the science behind breathing, and how breath can reflect on our emotional states and trauma. Breathing is an autonomic process that often goes unnoticed.Mindfulness practices frequently emphasize breath as a tool for regulation.Breath can trigger trauma responses in some individuals.Pranayama is a breathing practice in yoga that connects body and spirit.Breathing techniques can vary based on individual needs and conditions.Short, shallow breathing can indicate stress or emotional distress.Breath awareness can help in recognizing emotional states.Breath is a reminder of our existence and enoughness.Compassionate awareness of breath can lead to natural regulation.Breath practices should be approached with curiosity and without pressure. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 The Essence of Breath and Being02:55 Understanding Breath in Mindfulness and Health05:58 Breath Techniques: Pranayama and Beyond08:58 The Science of Breathing: Biomechanics and Physiology12:02 Breath and Emotional Well-being15:07 Navigating Breath in Stressful Situations17:56 Breath and the Nervous System20:58 Breath as a Reflection of Trauma24:12 The Spiritual Dimension of Breath26:57 Practical Breathing Exercises for Everyday Life#sowhatwhocarespodcast #sowhatwhocares #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #breathwork #mindfulness #pranayama #healingjourney #traumaawareness #nervoussystemregulation #breathhealing #selfawareness #emotionalwellness #yogabreath #traumainformed #somatichealing #mentalhealthawareness #spiritualawakening #breathingtechniques #mindbodyconnection #holistichealth #traumarecovery #wellbeingjourney #innerpeace #breathislife #healingbreath #calmthemind #selfhealing #breathworkhealing

This short, guided exercise supports you in building a clearer connection with your body - one part at a time. This Body Boundary Exercise is about establishing a sense of ownership, presence, and wholeness. Through gentle touch and awareness, you'll explore how to connect with individual parts of yourself, while staying rooted in the bigger picture of you.Adapted from the work of Dr. Peter A. Levine (Healing Trauma), this exercise invites subtle but powerful shifts that can help:- Increase awareness of your boundaries- Develop the ability to pace your internal experience- Grow your window of capacity - without overwhelm- Support regulation and containment for whatever arises- Create a stronger container for alivenessThis isn't a fix. It's a practice. One that might help you feel a little more here, and a little more whole. Learn more about Peter Levine and Somatic Experiencing at:https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/about-peterConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #SomaticExperiencing #PeterLevine #NervousSystemHealing #TappingPractice #TraumaInformedHealing #EmbodimentWork #AnxietyRelief #RegulationTools #BodyAwareness #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #MindBodyHealing #GroundingPractice #EmotionalResilience #SomaticSupport #MentalHealthTools #SafeInMyBody #Polyvagal #HealingFromWithin #NervousSystemCare #PresenceOverPerfection

The body keeps the score, yes - but it also holds the map.In this episode of So What Who Cares?, we explore what it means to come home to the body—especially when it hasn’t always felt like a safe place to be. We talk about the complex relationship between the body and identity, and how trauma, chronic stress, and disconnection can shape not just how we feel, but who we think we are.We explore how the body stores unprocessed experiences and how presence, curiosity, and small daily practices can help us reconnect. This is a conversation about sensation, survival patterns, healing, and what it means to befriend the body instead of fighting it.Our traveler finds himself in still waters, and explores how to ground, orientate, and resource himself into his own body. We explore: How trauma lives in the body and can shape our identityWhy being present in the body is essential for healingThe difference between “having” a body and “being” in itWhy chronic pain and tension can be linked to past experiencesHow somatic practices help build safety and connection from withinThe role of community in healing and regulationHow some movement practices (yes, even yoga) can disconnect usWays to track sensation and build body awareness every dayConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Takeaways:The essence of who we are is not the same as the body, but the body is where we begin.Befriending the body is a key part of healing and self-acceptance.Emotional and physical pain are often rooted in survival responses.The body can hold what the mind has long forgotten.Simple, consistent practices create space for change.Connection with others is essential—we’re not meant to do this alone.Sound Bites:"We have a body, but we are not a body.""The body does work as a beautiful tool.""Befriending your body is a big piece of it.""We need connection to heal.""The body holds things that we're not even aware of.""Yoga can disconnect you from your body.""I feel therefore I am.""There's a kind of safety in coming home to the body."Chapters:00:00 – The Calm Before the Journey02:07 – Understanding the Body and Identity03:33 – The Mind-Body Connection07:00 – Healing Through Presence10:50 – Befriending the Body14:45 – The Complexity of Pain19:31 – Tracking Sensation22:42 – The Impact of Trauma on the Body28:09 – Coping Mechanisms and Disconnection33:29 – Finding Connection Through Movement36:00 – Daily Practices for Body Awareness#sowhatwhocarespodcast #sowhatwhocares #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #podcast #podcasting #podcaster #podcastlife #podcastshow #newepisode #newpodcast #spotifypodcast #applepodcasts #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #healingjourney #traumahealing #selfacceptance #emotionalwellness #mindbodyconnection #bodyawareness #somatichealing #presence #somaticpractices #sensationtracking #yogaforhealing #identityandhealing #chronicpainrelief #selfawareness #befriendingyourbody #traumainformed #healingthroughmovement #communityhealing #fyp #tiktokpodcast #podcastrecommendations #podcastersunite #podcastcommunity

Emotions can shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. In this episode, Lora and Jeff explore what emotions really are, how they differ from feelings and states, and why some emotions stay with us long after the moment has passed. We unpack why we get stuck in certain emotional patterns, how culture and upbringing shape our emotional expression, and how we can begin to shift our emotional states with awareness, care, and compassion. We explore:- The difference between emotions, feelings, and nervous system states- How emotions can become “stuck” and turn into longer-term patterns- Why emotional granularity (naming what we feel) matters- How we’re taught to suppress or favor certain emotions- What emotional regulation really means (it’s not just being calm)- Tools to shift or interrupt emotional states—without bypassing real pain.Our adventurer arrives on a strange island where his words echo back as distorted emotions. Confused and unsettled, he meets a curious crane who explains that the island reflects not what he says, but what he feels. As the Traveler begins to listen inward, the echoes shift, becoming clearer. By the time he leaves, he carries with him a deeper trust in his emotions—and in his ability to face them.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Storytime: The Island of Echoes02:34 What Are Emotions?06:58 Feelings vs. Emotions vs. States10:45 Naming What We Feel (Emotional Granularity)15:11 How Emotions Get Stuck20:22 Cultural and Familial Messages About Emotion26:37 Learning to Tolerate Joy and Peace33:20 Shifting Emotional States with Intention#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #Emotions #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfAwareness #MentalHealth #EmotionalRegulation #HealingJourney #MindfulnessMatters #EmotionalGranularity #Compassion #FeelToHeal #TheIslandOfEchoes

Thoughts are powerful - but they're not always the truth. In this episode, Lora and Jeff wade into the murky waters of our thinking minds, exploring how thoughts shape our emotions, actions, and sense of self. We unpack the difference between active and passive thoughts, where our thoughts come from, and why missing information can cause us to fill in gaps with fear or negativity. Together, we explore tools for holding thoughts more lightly, building awareness, and finding more clarity and compassion in the noise.We explore:The difference between active and passive thoughtsHow environment and experience shape the way we thinkWhy missing data points often create false assumptionsThe impact of negativity bias on our daily livesPractical strategies for managing thought patternsHow meditation, mindfulness, and even humming can help soothe the mindOur adventurer rows into a heavy fog, the path ahead completely hidden. In the thick silence, every small splash, every creak of the boat feels bigger, scarier, more urgent. It would be easy to panic—to imagine monsters in the mist. But instead, he hums softly to himself, steadies his breathing, and remembers: not every sound is a threat, and not every thought needs chasing.Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Navigating the Fog of Thoughts02:57 Understanding the Nature of Thoughts05:59 The Source of Our Thoughts09:04 The Impact of Missing Data Points11:49 The Influence of Negativity Bias15:10 Balancing Positive and Negative Thinking17:51 The Role of Meditation and Mindfulness20:56 Tools for Managing Thoughts#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #MindfulnessMatters #EmotionalIntelligence #MentalClarity #SelfCompassion #ThoughtAwareness #CognitivePatterns #ManagingAnxiety #InnerStrength #HealingJourney #NavigatingTheMind #PersonalGrowth #FogOfThoughts

In this meditation, Lora invites listeners to cultivate compassion by recognizing our shared human experiences. By setting aside notions of difference, shame, and fear, this practice encourages a felt sense of common humanity - that all individuals wish for happiness and freedom from suffering. What you'll experience:- Mindful Awareness: Techniques to center your attention and become present.- Visualization: Guided imagery to foster empathy toward others- Compassionate Reflection: Phrases and thoughts to deepen understanding of shared human desires and strugglesIdeal for:- Individuals seeking to enhance empathy and understanding in their relationships- Those looking to expand their circle of compassion- Anyone interested in mindfulness practices that promote emotional well-being Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠#meditation #guidedmeditation #mindfulmoments #meditationpractice #compassion #selfcompassion #lovingkindness #empathy #innerpeace #mentalwellness #emotionalhealth #healingjourney #selfcare #justlikeme #sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville

Compassion, both outward and inward, is a skill. One that can transform how we relate to ourselves, others, and the hardest moments of being human. In this episode, Lora and Jeff explore the practice of compassion - what it is, what is isn't, and how it helps stay present with hard things without spiraling into shame. From noticing the stories we tell ourselves, to staying curious in conflict, to recognizing when we need to offer compassion inward before reaching outward.We explore:What compassion really means (and how it’s different from being “nice”)Why compassion is a powerful tool for regulationHow self-compassion helps us stay in relationship with othersNoticing the gap between what we feel and what we intendThe role of curiosity in staying open during conflictWhat gets in the way of giving ourselves grace—and how to move through itOur adventurer is jolted from calm to chaos - losing grip on a very important tool on his journey. He begins to slip into a spiral of shame and guilt, until he remembers the words of his teacher - reminding him to be compassionate to himself. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 The Journey Begins: A Traveler's Reflection04:05 Understanding Compassion: A Deep Dive10:32 The Importance of Self-Compassion15:52 Compassion vs. Niceness: Defining Boundaries22:54 Compassion in Community: Collective Care28:43 Navigating Political Divisions with Compassion35:42 Practicing Compassion: Steps to Take#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #SelfCompassion #CompassionPractice #EmotionalRegulation #MindfulnessMatters #CuriosityOverJudgment #HealingJourney #MentalHealthSupport #RelationalHealth #KindnessStartsWithin #EmotionalIntelligence #StayingPresent #PersonalGrowth #GraceNotPerfection

In today's episode, we dive into the transformative practice of Loving-Kindness, also known as Metta meditation. This meditation is designed to open your heart and cultivate compassion for yourself and others. In this episode:- A guided practice of loving kindness meditation. Whether you're new to meditation or looking to deepen your practice, this episode offers an approachable meditation to help you spread kindness and compassion. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #meditation #meditationpodcast #mindfulnesspractice #lovingkindness #mettameditation #mindfulliving #compassion #wellnesspodcast #innerpeacejourney #mentalhealthmatters #practicalmindfulness

Part 2 of 2: Anger is an emotion, not a behavior - and understanding that can change everything. In the second part of this two-part episode, Lora and Jeff dig a little deeper into the world of emotional responses, exploring how anger can be a useful guide when handled with awareness. We look into the importance of setting boundaries, befriending difficult emotions, and developing self-compassion to help navigate life. We explore:- Recognizing the urge to fight in stressful situations- Why setting boundaries is a form of self-advocacy - How anger can be beneficial when managed properly- The importance of befriending difficult emotions instead of avoiding them- Practical strategies for engaging with sensations and thoughts- How self-compassion make space for emotional growthConnect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠⁠Chapters00:00 Introduction and Context00:29 Confronting Emotional Responses05:12 Setting Boundaries and Managing Anger13:15 Befriending Difficult Emotions20:48 Engaging with Sensations and Thoughts#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #EmotionalResponses #AngerManagement #SettingBoundaries #SelfCompassion #MindfulnessMatters #EmotionalIntelligence #CopingStrategies #InnerStrength #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #HealingJourney #BefriendingEmotions #MentalHealthSupport

PART 1 OF 2:Our nervous system doesn't ask for permission - it takes over before we even know what's happening. In this two-part episode, Lora and Jeff discuss the fight or flight response, and how our nervous system reacts to everyday threats as if they're life-or-death situations. We explore how cultural conditioning can shape our responses to anger, anxiety, and fear and why recognizing emotions as signals - rather than actions - is key to reclaiming agency over our emotions. We explore:- Why the fight or flight response kicks in before logic has a chance- How our bodies react to modern-day stressors as if they're predators- The role of felt sense and somatics in recognizing emotional cues- How cultural conditioning rewards anxiety-driven behaviors- Why anger is an emotion, not an action - and how to hold space for it- Tools for metabolizing fear and anger in a healthy wayOur adventurer finds himself battling a threat that turns out to be no threat at all. Thrown into the water, his survival brain takes over. But when he finally surfaces, it's not a predator at all - just a curious whale passing by. The danger had never been real, but his body didn't wait to find out. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠⁠#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #FightOrFlight #EmotionalResponses #Somatics #SelfAwareness #SurvivalInstincts #MindfulnessMatters #EmotionalIntelligence #AngerManagement #CulturalInfluences #ManagingFear #MentalWellness #SelfRegulation #PersonalGrowth #InnerStrength #MindBodyConnection

Sometimes, the hardest battles aren't the ones we fight - they're the ones that leave us frozen. Stillness isn’t always peace. Sometimes, it’s being stuck. In this episode, Jeff and Lora explore what happens when our nervous system responds to stress—not with fight or flight, but with freeze, collapse, or fawning.In this episode, we explore:- The difference between freeze, collapse, and fawn responses- Why these survival instincts exist and how they serve (or hinder) us- The role of culture in rewarding certain nervous system responses- The impact of prolonged stress and how it can shape our identity- How to recognize when you’re stuck and ways to gently shift out of it- Practical exercises, from playful movement to the power of saying “no”Our adventurer is adrift in a sea that refuses to move. No wind, no waves - just an endless stretch of water keeping him in place. Lost in looping thoughts, he feels frozen. But a small piece of driftwood is all the reminder he needs to remember he is real, and that even the smallest shift is still movement. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠[email protected]⁠YouTube: ⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠Instagram: ⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠Facebook: ⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠Chapters00:00 Drifting in Stillness: A Metaphor for Life's Journey02:51 Understanding Stress Responses: The Nervous System Explained06:08 The Four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn08:54 The Nuances of Freeze and Collapse Responses11:59 Personal Stories: Lessons from Life's Challenges14:55 Functional Freeze: Navigating Everyday Life17:55 Internal vs. External Triggers: The Complexity of Responses20:59 Cultural Influences on Stress Responses: The Role of Society23:50 Engaging with Threats: The Fawn Response in Action24:19 Understanding Fawning and Agency27:21 Recognizing and Managing Nervous System States29:43 Play and Somatics in Healing33:55 Titration and Pendulation in Nervous System Responses39:59 Personal Experiences with Freeze Responses42:13 Practical Strategies for Empowerment and Saying No#SoWhatWhoCares #Podcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #FreezeResponse #NervousSystem #EmotionalRegulation #SurvivalInstincts #Mindfulness #HealingJourney #TraumaAwareness #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #MentalWellness #Resilience #FindingYourVoice

Our journey is not meant to be walked alone - sometimes, the way forward is found in connection. In today's episode, Lora, Jeff, and the lovely Bird explore the power of regulation and co-regulation, and why support and empowerment are so important. We explore:- What regulation really means - and why it's not just about feeling calm- The difference between self-regulation, co-regulation, and codependency- Why being independent doesn't mean doing everything alone- How presence - not words - is often the most powerful way to support others- The role of self-compassion in holding space for someone else- Why "handling your own stuff" doesn't mean carrying it aloneOur adventurer finds himself on a calm sea after his brutal storm last episode, feeling alone and tired, still bracing for the next wave. But as he watches a dolphin and a bird move in perfect sync, he realizes he was never truly alone. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠TikTok: @sowhatwhocarespodcastFind Lora McCarville at: ⁠⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/⁠Chapters00:00 The Calm After the Storm02:51 Understanding Regulation in the Nervous System05:50 The Importance of Co-Regulation08:56 Navigating Emotional States and Agency12:02 Codependency vs. Healthy Dependence15:03 The Journey of Self-Regulation18:06 Communal Care and Connection20:58 The Role of Self-Compassion24:09 Practicing Loving Kindness27:09 Final Thoughts and Reflections#SoWhatWhoCares #Podcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #CoRegulation #EmotionalSupport #SelfRegulation #Mindfulness #MentalWellness #Resilience #ConnectionMatters #HealingTogether #EmotionalIntelligence #InnerStrength #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #HoldingSpace

Some storms are bigger than others. But with the right tools, we can keep ourselves afloat - one scoop at a time. For today's episode, Jeff and Lora are joined by Niki (aka Bird), Jeff's wife and Lora's long-time friend! They take some time to discuss the window of capacity - or the amount of space each individual has to handle the things life throws their way. Our ability to handle life's challenges. We explore the following topics:- What the window of capacity is and why it's essential for navigating life- How emotions, stress, and trauma impact our capacity and what happens when we go beyond it- The myth that being "calm" all the time equals regulation- Why comfort doesn't always mean safety - and why we need discomfort to grow- How to recognize when you're outside your window and practical ways to get back inside- The role of movement, mindfulness, and connection in expanding our capacityOur adventurer finds himself caught in a storm, his boat slowly sinking. As he begins to panic, he discovers an old bucket - a tool he hadn't realized he had all along. With it, he bails out the water, keeping himself afloat long enough for the storm to pass. We all have limits, but we also have tools to keep going - one scoop at a time. Connect with So What Who Cares📩 Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠📺 YouTube: ⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠📸 Instagram: ⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠📘 Facebook: ⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠🌎 Find Lora McCarville at: ⁠https://www.loramccarville.com/Chapters00:00 Navigating the Storm: A Metaphor for Life's Challenges03:52 Understanding the Window of Capacity09:58 The Dynamics of Emotional Regulation20:00 The Impact of Modern Life on Our Capacity25:46 Understanding Our Emotional States32:34 Expanding Our Window of Capacity39:12 The Role of Community in Emotional Regulation41:32 Practical Tools for Managing Overwhelm#SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #WindowOfCapacity #EmotionalRegulation #SelfAwareness #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #StressManagement #PersonalGrowth #SelfRegulation #Resilience #InnerStrength #CoRegulation #OvercomingAnxiety #EmotionalIntelligence #TraumaHealing #FindYourBalance #MentalHealthSupport #SelfDiscovery #HealingJourney #OneStepAtATime #MindBodyConnection

You are not your emotions, sensations, thoughts or body. You're not the things that have happened to you or will happen. So who are you? In this episode, Lora and Jeff dive into the concept of self-sourcing - the ability to connect with your true essence beyond emotions, trauma, and external influences. Through storytelling, symbolism, and relatable conversation, we explore: - What it means to self-source and why it matters - How emotions and past experiences can cloud our sense of identity - The role of compassion, curiosity, and mindfulness in finding our way back to ourselves - How cultural conditioning shapes (and can distort) our self-perception - Practical ways to reconnect with your essence in everyday life In our opening story, our adventurer continues his journey at sea, discovering an old captain's hat in his pack - a symbol of the steady, true self that has always been with him. Connect with So What Who Cares 📩 Email: [email protected]📺 YouTube: @sowhatwhocarespodcast📸 Instagram: @sowhatwhocarespodcast📘 Facebook: So What Who Cares Podcast 🌎 Find Lora McCarville at: https://www.loramccarville.com/ Chapters 00:00 The Journey Begins: A Captain's Reflection 02:16 Self-Sourcing: Understanding Our Essence 10:08 The Role of Emotions in Defining Self 18:24 Navigating Trauma and Identity 25:50 Finding Compassion in Anxiety 32:47 Cultural Conditioning and Self-Perception #SoWhatWhoCares #SoWhatWhoCaresPodcast #LoraMcCarville #JeffKalasky #SelfSourcing #KnowYourself #Mindfulness #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalWellness #SelfDiscovery #InnerStrength #FindYourEssence #IdentityMatters #HealingJourney #TraumaAwareness #CompassionMatters #AnxietySupport #CulturalConditioning #MentalWellness #MindBodyConnection #SelfAwareness #GrowthMindset #HolisticHealing #PodcastLife

Our minds, our world, the human condition - it's an adventure. We are here to explore practical insights for an impractical mind. Hosts Lora McCarville and Jeff Kalasky are here to go on this adventure with you. Through their collective experience, curiosities, creative storytelling, and relatable conversations, they will serve as your guides and travel companions! Lora McCarville has spent years educating herself and teaching others in mindfulness through the lens of somatics and the nervous system. Through movement, yoga, meditation, and bottom-up practices - she helps people change the patterns in the oldest parts of their brains through storytelling, symbolism, psychoeducation, polyvagal theory, play (yes, play is still important for adults!) and so much more. Lora is trained in Rapid Resolution Therapy, Mindful Schools, Movement for Trauma Recovery, Jungian Somatics, Cultural Somatics, and is a 500 hr E-RYT trainer, leading hundreds of students and teaching retreats around the world. She is also a Clinical Hypnotherapist and meditation teacher. Jeff Kalasky is a self-proclaimed adventurer and podcaster with a Bachelor's in Psychology, and a curiosity to explore the physical and mental worlds around him. A veteran of the U.S. Navy, he has seen much of the world, and hopes his unique experiences bring an interesting perspective to Lora's teachings, and another level of relatability for the listeners. Connect with So What Who Cares: Email: [email protected] YouTube: @sowhatwhocarespodcast Instagram:@sowhatwhocarespodcast Facebook Find Lora McCarville at: www.loramccarville.com

***We are now on Patreon!***Support us at ⁠⁠Patreon.com/SoWhatWhoCares⁠⁠ and get access to bonus footage from this episode—plus behind-the-scenes moments, early releases, meditations, and more coming soon!This episode is part of a series where we answer your questions.Today's question:"How do you teach nervous system regulation and trauma therapy to men who don't do 'woo woo?' How do you teach this stuff to guys who don't even know they're anxious?"In this episode, we explore teaching nervous system regulation and trauma therapy to people - not just men - as this work is not gender specific. We discuss the misinterpretation of 'Woo Woo' and how that does not translate into the emotional and nervous system work being taught here. We dive into cultural perceptions of emotional intelligence, and personal experiences with anxiety. Is something in you is waking up and you're ready for deeper work, step through at ⁠⁠loramccarville.com⁠⁠ If you're feeling the call to a wilder reset, join Lora in Tulum for The Jungle Within Yoga + Meditation Retreat. More information⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠ Want to join the conversation? If you've got something you'd like us to unpack - big or small - send it our way. Your curiosity fuels these conversations. Connect with So What Who CaresEmail: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠So What Who Cares Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sowhatwhocarespodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠#sowhatwhocares #sowhatwhocarespodcast #loramccarville #jeffkalasky #mindfulness #anxiety #nervoussystemregulation #traumatherapy #emotionalintelligence #relationalskills