Sticky Q's

Adie had not heard this term before, so Tom takes the lead in navigating us through the ever-changing lingo. Learn how trends affect our ability to consent and communicate and how we can broach topics with our young people when we are clueless (p.s. Most of us are!)You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

In part 2 of our interview with Lucy Crowley (our boss!) we discuss how parents and caregivers can use the law as a jumping off point to talk about what consent is and isn’t, and to collaboratively set healthy boundaries. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

There are laws about the age of consent to have sex, but what do they actually mean for parents and caregivers? This episode explores what’s behind age of consent laws and how a parent can best support their teenagers to navigate their sexual development while adhering to the law.   Adie and Tom talk about all this and more with none other than their boss, Lucy!  Lucy is the manager of SASS’s Primary Prevention team, is legally qualified and though no longer works as a lawyer, brings a legal lens to the grey areas of sexual intimacy. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

This is a hot topic, and we think adults and young people alike would love to know the answer.  Tom and Adie give it a red-hot go, discussing the nuances and challenges that come with deeply understanding and practising consent. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

As the impact of sexual harm becomes more well known, young people are seeking answers about who to believe – a sticky question to answer if we as adults don’t understand what’s going on. In this episode, we unpack our tendency to ignore bad news and do some self-reflection on how complicated things can get when you know someone involved in a harmful experience.In this episode we reference harmful sexual behaviours in young people, for more information see season 2, episode 2 (Is it still sexual assault if both people were kids?) and harmful influencers, for more information see season 2 episode 8 (What do you think about Andrew Tate?).You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

You’d think this would be a short answer, of course it’s legal to defend yourself! This is a common response when we talk about boundaries, but reality is that using physical force to protect ourselves isn’t as straight forward as it sounds in the context of an intimate relationship.But how do we draw that line?  When do we know that our actions are justified?  Turns out there’s much more to unpack if we want to set young people up for safety. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

In part 2 of our interview with Conrad, we dive a little deeper into the risks of online ‘relationships’, the nuance between child sexual abuse and exploitation and what are the best prevention strategies we have.  This is a candid conversation with one of the world’s foremost thinkers in this space.In this episode we reference: AFP and AUSTRAC target offshore sextortion syndicates preying on Australian youth | ACCCEYou’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

If a relationship is online, it can’t be THAT dangerous, right?  For this sticky, yet common question, we meet with specialist Conrad Townson who is a Principal Advisor on Child Sexual Exploitation (CSE).  In part 1, we learn what CSE is, what to look out for and how to talk to young people about the risks.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

This week we’re answering a very straightforward question, WHY?!  Sexual harm is prevalent in our world, and we talk a lot about how to prevent it.  That becomes much easier when we understand why and this week, Tom and Adie will unpack some of the most common reasons. In this episode, we reference the following:Identifying and understanding child sexual offending behaviour and attitudes among Australian men.pdfWho perpetrates child sexual abuse? | National Office for Child SafetyOur ambassador: Chanel Contos - 90 sec | Consent.gov.au - Check your understandingYou’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Welcome to season 3!  We’re thrilled to be back and jumping straight in the deep end with this sticky question. We want to destigmatise conversations about consent in every context and help you to talk with your young people about whether they are ready or not to try things they may have heard about.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

A straightforward question, with a complicated answer!Transparency is usually our go-to when it comes to talking with young people about their safety, but sometimes it’s not quite that simple. Adie found this question difficult to answer and reflects on her thinking with Tom.Join us in our season finale as we challenge ourselves with a very sticky question.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Grown-ups aren’t always great at having vulnerable conversations, even though we’ve had loads of time to practise!In this episode we talk about the unique considerations and pressures young people face when it comes to opening up about their experiences, and the things adults can do to make it easier, safer and more supportive for young people who might be seeking help.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

We’ve received so many questions about online influencers this year!  In this episode we talk about our own journey of changing how we address these questions in class and offer tips to help caregivers unpack the drivers and solutions to harmful attitudes online. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

For our second interview episode this season, we turned to Ebony for an answer to this question.Ebony is a counsellor and crisis response worker who has extensive experience helping people in family violence situations.She really opens our eyes about the nature of family violence and the victim/survivor experience.  We talk about how to spot the signs and support a young person in a harmful situation, especially as a parent.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Putting your heart out there is scary! This week we talk about why this fear is so common and the social pressure that young people are under when it comes to dating and intimacy. We offer practical advice on how to use consenting conversations to create safety in vulnerability.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Talking to your child about pornography can be really daunting as a caregiver. In this episode, we dissect the ethical questions surrounding pornography and suggest how young people can think critically about what they might be seeing. We also discuss the impact that pornography has on consenting intimacy, and cover strategies for preventing harm. Tune in as we lift the lid on a taboo topic.In this episode, we reference www.thepconversation.orgYou’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Is jealousy ok or is it a red flag? In this episode we explore the line between expressing big and difficult emotions and coercive control within relationships. It’s an issue of rising concern in Australia as we’re only just starting to understand what is considered ‘normal’ and ‘okay’ within teen relationships today. We’ll cover the basics of what coercive control is, what it looks like and how we can support our young people to spot, and seek help for, red flags in their relationships.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Part 2 of our conversation with Renae about harmful sexual behaviours in young people.  If you haven’t listened to part 1, please start there!  Here in part 2, Renae explains how to talk to kids about sexual behaviour and the current best practice when it comes to prevention and intervention of harmful sexual behaviours.Heads up, this episode includes explicit conversation about sexual harm. In this episode, we reference statistics from Australia’s Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual AbuseWe also reference research on harmful sexual behaviours in children and adolescents from: Schlesinger, L. B. (2010). Sex Offenders, Juvenile Offenders, and Cross-Cultural Crime Research: New Findings, All Interesting. International Journal of Offender Therapy and Comparative Criminology, 54(2), 147-149. https://doi.org/10.1177/0306624X09354114Caldwell, M. F. (2010). Study Characteristics and Recidivism Base Rates in Juvenile Sex Offender Recidivism. International Journal of Offender Therapy and Comparative Criminology, 54(2), 197-212. https://doi.org/10.1177/0306624X08330016Hackett et al. 2022. Life course outcomes and developmental pathways for children and young people with harmful sexual behaviourChouinard-Thivierge, S., Lussier, P., & Charette, Y. (2023). The Adult Offending Outcomes of Adolescents Who Have Perpetrated a Sex Offense: Is Sexual Offending in Adolescence Indicative of Things to Come? Youth Violence and Juvenile Justice, 21(1), 3–26. https://doi.org/10.1177/15412040221123529You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

For one of our toughest questions yet, we are bringing in our first guest!  Renae Pepper is a psychologist specialising in children and adolescents engaging in harmful sexual behaviours, and she’s joining the podcast to help answer this very sticky question.  It’s a big topic; in part one of our conversation Renae explains the impact of trauma, the causes of harmful sexual behaviour in young people, sexual behaviour in childhood and why context is crucial.  Heads up, this episode includes explicit conversation about sexual harm.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Welcome back for season 2!  We’re getting straight to it with a very sticky subject, emotional manipulation. We’ll discuss what manipulation and grooming behaviours look like, why it can be hard to detect, and how it undermines safe, consenting intimacy.Tune in for practical insights on recognizing red flags and empowering young people (and yourself!) to handle these challenging situations.In this episode, we quoted Tunya Petridis.  Tunya has worked as a trauma counsellor and clinical/practice supervisor for over 20 years specialising in working therapeutically with complex families and children who have experienced domestic violence, sexual abuse and neglect. Tunya currently provides practice/clinical supervision to counsellors and senior staff across Australia and consults on all aspects of trauma service provision.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

This is one of our favourite questions we’ve been asked! Adie and Tom talk throughwhat we can do if we realise we’ve caused harm to someone, ways we can reflectand how we can change behaviour. The episode also discusses the lack of good rolemodels in owning our mistakes and the gap in our community support for youngpeople who have caused harm but want to change.Findings from the 2017 National Community Attitudes towards Violence against Women Survey (NCAS) (ANROWS Insights, Issue 01/2019). Sydney: ANROWS. P. 22 are referenced in this episode.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Sadly, this is a pretty common experience. In this episode, Tom & Adietalk about the warning signs our body gives us when we feel unsafe, what ouroptions are, and what it means to be an ‘Ethical Bystander’ when we see someonein distress.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

This can be a really scary prospect for people. What do we do when a breakup feelslike it’s becoming unsafe? Adie & Tom walk through what our rights are and whatkind of supports we can access personally and professionally.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Technology moves faster than we can keep up with. Young people are dealing withsocial situations and expectations that adults often can’t even comprehend. In thisepisode, Tom & Adie talk about the crazy world of online messaging, sexting, nudesand how to manage your boundaries in a constantly changing landscape.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Heads up, this episode will include explicit conversation around sexual harm. This isa tough one – There are so many reasons why someone might not want to get helpafter an assault, and it can feel like an impossible task to know but also keep it toyourself. In this episode, Adie & Tom talk through our options when someonediscloses to us but asks us to keep it to ourselves – Who the professionals are, whatour obligations are, and how we can support the person in the moment.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Adie & Tom are ready to tackle the big question: What even IS sex? They discusshow to answer this very sticky question in an age-appropriate way, share their ownexperiences with ‘the talk’ and deep dive into understanding values and boundariesaround sex.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

A common conundrum! Your partner is about to Meet The Parents and all you can think about is how many ways there are to upset the folks. In this episode, Tom and Adie discuss the difference between healthy discussions and power plays, and how they navigate these things in their own worlds.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Sounds like a crazy idea right?! Join Adie and Tom as they talk about what it actually means to be consenting, why it’s not just about sex, and why consent might be both simpler and more complicated when we’re younger. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

You might have old memories of seeing cartoon or animated characters on tv and having some strong feelings! In this episode, Tom and Adie discuss the idea of being turned on by cartoons, which cartoons sparked that special something for them, all the complicated feelings, and what is ‘normal’ or ‘okay’ when it comes to being turned on.You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au

Trailer for the upcoming season of Sticky Q's!  A podcast where we answer anonymous questions from kids in our real life sex education classes. You’ll find more questions and answers on our Instagram.com/sticky_qsThis podcast is produced at Tasmania’s Sexual Assault Support Service, find us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sasstasmaniaOr online at https://www.sass.org.au/We understand that sometimes what we discuss might cause distress or concern for listeners. 24/7 support is available in the following ways:Tasmania Wide: 1800 697 877 (1800 MY SUPPORT)https://www.1800mysupport.org.auAustralia wide: 1800 737 732https://www.1800respect.org.au