Talking Shoppe with Deming-Rivers Social Club

Emily and Essence are back for Episode Four of Talking Shoppe! After “Work wife, Work Nemesis, and Work Overlord” segment, they unpack the concept of self-care as well as the misconceptions of self-care. They discuss how hormone fluctuations can affect productivity and emotion regulation, critique workplaces offering “self-care” when people are already at a breaking point, and distinguish proactive self-care from reactive coping. They compare their different self-care frameworks, including neurodivergent prioritization, internal monologue differences, access and routines, and how chronic illness changes capacity. They close with their weekly R.E.P.O.R.T segment.00:00 Welcome Back Chaos01:33 Self Care Preview01:53 Work Wife, Work Nemesis, Work Overlord07:36 Hormones And Capacity09:15 Self Care Vs Coping15:12 Why Self Care Fails19:24 Neurodiverse Needs22:08 Task Vs Fuel25:55 Connection vs Self Care27:33 Chronic Illness Capacity28:16 Quiet Minds Loud Minds30:42 Lowering Care Barriers31:41 Measuring Your Battery37:40 Prescribed Self Care Problem39:46 Top Self Care Rotations43:49 What We Learned Today45:51 The Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T

Essence and Emily introduce their weekly “Talking Shop” podcast and a recurring segment choosing a work wife, work overlord, and work nemesis. They discuss trauma-informed care in organizations, highlighting that many workplaces stop at acknowledging trauma and struggle to build skills and systems as well as the psychological safety needed to support people under pressure. They define trauma and distinguish trauma from PTSD criteria, and noting overlooked “margin” traumas. They critique performative approaches like posters, certifications, rigid policies, KPIs over wellbeing, and individualizing protective factors, offering examples like flexible scheduling, role clarity, validation, follow-through, and designing to reduce barriers. They close as always with their weekly R.E.P.O.R.T.00:00 Welcome to Talking Shoppe00:36 Why We Started This01:24 Work Wife, Work Overlord, Work Nemesis06:25 Trauma Informed Care08:32 What Trauma Really Means12:55 Designing For The Margins15:02 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs19:15 Workplace Culture Gap23:50 Certifications Versus Systems27:53 Stop Adding Fuel31:22 Behavior Function in Leadership34:33 Connection and Follow Through38:56 Self Awareness and Impact40:27 People Over Policy45:54 Trauma Informed as Mindset48:32 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T

In episode two of Talking Shoppe, Essence and Emily talk about their interests, new discoveries, and the struggles of setting up audio equipment. They introduce a game segment, “Work Wife, Work Overlord or Work Nemesis,” using nostalgic TV shows, and briefly reflect on awkward coworker invitations. The main topic is psychological safety, defined (via Amy Edmondson) as the belief that one won’t be punished or humiliated for speaking up; they emphasize it’s a felt experience that can’t be declared, and distinguish supportive structure from harmful rigidity, using bowling bumpers, balloons, and dam metaphors. They describe consequences of low psychological safety—self-censorship, festering conflict, marginalization, and burnout—and connect it to Deming-Rivers Social Club and therapeutic work with groups and organizations. They close with their Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T.00:00 Mic Check Banter01:05 Podcast Habits01:55 Tea Shop Shoutout02:42 Episode Two Kickoff03:00 Work Wife, Work Overlord, Work Nemesis06:56 Coworker Invites Story08:26 What Is Psychological Safety11:32 Structure Versus Rigidity16:28 Grounded Balloon Metaphor18:23 Social Club Origins20:55 Teaching Safety At Scale22:30 Family Systems Safety24:22 Leadership Safety Balancing25:03 When Safety Breaks Down27:27 Marginalization And Voice29:06 Burnout And The Dam30:57 Building Support Systems31:36 Next Steps And Q&A32:45 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T

Get to Know Essence and Emily: Why We’re Starting This PodcastEssence and Emily, psychologist, wives, and organizational culture consultants behind Deming-Rivers Social Club, introduce their new podcast as a way to share the raw, unfiltered conversations that don’t fit in typical social media content. They describe their work split between therapy and consulting with nonprofits and human services organizations to build more sustainable, inclusive cultures and reduce burnout and turnover through practical, engaging, experiential training rather than overly simplistic wellness advice. They share their path from grad school through internship matching, their training at Palm Beach County Youth Services Department, and how a systemic focus shaped their approach and led them to identify gaps after moving to Sarasota. They outline podcast themes: organizational psychological safety, mental health, identity, current events, and reality TV—and close with a “weekly R.E.P.O.R.T” on what they’re reading, eating, playing, obsessing over, recommending, and treating themselves to.00:00 Welcome to Talking Shoppe: Meet Essence and Emily00:20 Why a Podcast01:47 Who It’s For02:55 Therapy Meets Culture04:08 Grad School to Doctor04:41 Internship Match Day05:55 Palm Beach Training07:03 Residential Program Life07:52 Postdoc and Love Story08:45 Systemic Lens Explained10:24 Identity and Diversity12:53 Burnout and Capacity Gap14:15 Consulting Mission Values15:00 Real Talk Trauma Care16:16 Better Training Not Chair Yoga17:21 Reality TV Style Workshops18:04 Podcast Rough Draft Vibe18:40 Where To Find Us19:21 Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T25:58 Wrap Up And Next Episodes