The 90-10 Rule

Anthony uses the fact that he's the host of a relationship podcast to watch all the crazy relationship shows on TV.  One trend he's been noticing is that several of the young participants of these reality shows have NEVER been in serious relationships. Being in reality TV relationships doesn't give you the emotional intelligence to deal with serious relationships. Plus, what constitutes a serious relationship in terms of duration?  For a young person in their early thirties it's considered a red flag not having been in more than 3 relationships that lasted 6 months or more.  There are cultural changes in the new generations regarding dating and relationships.  This new generation doesn't get into a lot of serious relationships like the older generations did - it seems they hop around less intimate relationships that don't last too long. Could it be that the new technologies and dating apps have affected the way young people have relationships nowadays, and influence how long these relationships last?  Listen to this episode to find out if you have enough serious relationship experience to get married or if you're one of the young ones who switch partners as often as they change clothes. Support the show

This episode starts out with Anthony reciting some old school poetry from Mr. Wiggles, the song from Parliament. Queen Nina is getting ready to make a trip around the world and when she returns she'll be filled with new experiences and observations to share on the podcast. Everyone knows Tom Brady is the GOAT and his skill is unmatched. However, the recent divorce rumors have been concerning - what could be the factors that led to it? When Gisele married Tom, did she know who she was "getting in bed" with, and that the football was the first wife and she was just the "side chick"?Once you marry someone, can you force them to stop doing what they love doing? Is it fair to give someone an ULTIMATUM to put the marriage first? Some tough and complex issues regarding relationships and priorities are raised in this episode. Listen in to ponder whether you're just in an affair with your spouse and you're actually married to your career.Support the show

Virgins, virginity and celibacy. In this episode the topic deviates from the usual experience of sex to instead focus on the experience of not yet having it yet. Why do people abstain for having sex, and is such a thing biologically possible? Is sex a need or a want, and could masturbation be sufficient to suppress desire or satisfy libido permanently? Anthony shares situations from the television series, “Married At First Sight” where emotions and companionship might be troublesome in making the decision to marry someone, and if people are on the show to get laid or to find true life partners. Plus, the differences in the intricacies of sexuality for men and women - do men have a more basic need for it while women require and enjoy an emotional connection from it more than the sex itself?  Listen to the episode to learn more about why people abstain from sex for religious reasons or otherwise, and where does sex rank in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.Support the show

Queen Nina has a crush!  In this episode she blurts out the details of the entire process of how she got to have a crush on a guy who's chasing her romantically, while Anthony dishes out similarities between her current situation and how he came to be married to his wife.  Who is this mystery man that has captivated Nina's attention?  You'd never believe it, Rulers, it's an older white Jewish guy from Long Island!  Nina shares how she's dreamed of him asking her out and them both kissing, how deep have they gone so far in the relationship, what she plans on doing next as well as how their work situation might be an obstacle for their romance.  Listen to the episode to learn about how she's playing hard to get not just to make the relationship last but because she knows he likes the chase.Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina discuss and analyze the nuances of being a "F. Buddy" and how it compares and differs from being friends with benefits or being in a committed relationship.  They each share stories from their past on how they experienced a F. Buddy situation.  Plus, how complicated does it get when your F. Buddy catches feelings or wants something more, and how do you end up dealing with that situation?  Nina reminds us that women are the gatekeepers for sex, because they have the "cookie", and how they can use that to keep men coming back for more. Listen to this episode to get the best from your F. Buddy relationship, and learn how to manage it if someone involved catches feelings and wants something more than just sex.Support the show

Rulers, are you ready?  In this episode you will learn the top 21 things to woo your woman (according to an old Instagram reel).  The interesting part, however, is that to woo men, only two are needed: show up naked and bring food!  Anthony discusses this interesting piece of internet advice and why there is such a difference regarding what it takes to keep men and women loyal and satisfied in the relationship.  Plus, we learn some statistics about marriage and divorce while Queen Nina argues how infidelity plays an important role in those numbers.  The debate ensues as to why there is such a lopsided difference between the needs and wants of both genders, or if there really is any difference at all. Listen to this episode to learn ALL the 21 things to woo and keep your woman, or the two simple things required to woo and keep your man.Support the show

Anthony is outnumbered when he welcomes Queen Nina and Queen Tones Motivates back to discuss the acceptable levels of complaint in a relationship that seems perfect.  Does having a good man who provides and is attentive to the family enough to invalidate any complaint a woman might have about the relationship?  Is being a responsible man who steps up to the plate when it comes to being a good husband and a good father simply not enough for women nowadays who seem to just want more and more and will complain about anything?  Plus, would women who have the perfect man in the perfect relationship still complain about something?  The girls claim there is always room to grow together, and that it's not always about being a provider or a good father, but about the quality of the relationship.Join the gang in this lengthy debate discussing the several factors of what makes a healthy relationship and learn a thing or two about taking a man for granted.Support the show

Uh Oh! Everybody’s honesty and integrity are questioned when Anthony asks, "Are you Really Just a Liar?"What makes someone a liar? Can a bunch of little white lies, spinning, twisting details and exaggerations be dismissed as something innocent and harmless or is that enough for the person in question to be considered a liar?  Anthony talks about a childhood friend who lies a lot, and how that plays into how people feel about them - surprisingly, people still like them!  Plus, what lies could be a deal breaker in a relationship, and is "exaggerating" about income a lie or just "spinning the truth"?  There is a big difference between putting an "untruthful" detail in your resumé and omitting your feelings about someone who isn't part of the relationship.  Listen to this episode to learn the "truth" about lying. Support the show

After finally plugging social media handles in the episode Anthony and Queen Nina discuss "What You Won't Do For Love" based on the famous song, and what are the things that people in a relationship wouldn't compromise in order to maintain the relationships.  From moving and relocating to choosing different career paths, there is a limit for every person as to what they won't do for love.  Plus, is there a difference on what people are willing to sacrifice for the relationship based on how young or old they are?  They discuss some segments of the lyrics and what they mean and what is probably going on in that relationship, and even share some of the craziest things they did for love, as well as what sacrifices they did or didn't make.  Listen to this episode to learn about "What You Won't Do For Love".Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina start out this episode with a little bit of movie trivia and some interesting facts and opinions about The Color Purple, and the fact that many people think it was made by a black director instead of Steven Spielberg.  On to the real discussion: is it important for women to have a label in a relationship?  Nina goes into what women really want from a relationship, and they both discuss a situation from one of the previous hosts, Tone.  What makes a relationship, and what makes it official?  Is living together and regularly being intimate with each other enough to be considered an official relationship?  And why do so many people (especially men) fail to introduce the person they're with as their official boyfriend/girlfriend?  How many dates would it take for a couple to be considered mutually exclusive?  The debate ensues as too what is the specific criteria to define the labels of a relationship.  Listen to this episode to get some critical insights into relationship labels and how much it takes to be official in these modern times.Support the show

A lot of digression in this one, Rulers.  Before getting to the main topic, Anthony and Nina talk about lotteries, gambling, TV shows, and even discuss separating the art from the artist when the artist is involved in a scandal, from Kevin Spacey, R. Kelly and Michael Jackson, and why people still accept their work or not.  They proceed to the real subject of the episode: does your perspective of the future change when you find "The One"? It might depend on the person. Nina shares her experience on how her perspective changed when she thought she had found The One, and how her life was affected due to the choices she made.  And are they still The One even if they spend years away, or is the bond strong enough to withstand the test of time?  Anthony goes into how for him, filmmaking was "The one that got away."  Also, who sacrifices their dreams more for their family, men or women? Listen to this episode to learn about the sacrifices people make for love. Support the show

Anthony tells Queen Nina about a quote he heard in a movie, "Money Is Never Just Money" and they both ponder how that applies to real life relationships.  Anthony shares the tale of his female friend who has interest from online, (swipe right suiters),  with two different men, one of which is doing well financially, and the other who seems to not have any money, but how she has better chemistry with the one who seems to not have any $$$$.  They go on to talk about the history of money and the reasons why women prefer men who make more and then the discussion gets derailed again when they debate what socialism actually is.  What does money actually mean and how does it play into the dynamic of relationships?  Listen to this episode to learn about if it's the wallet or the heart that weighs more in the scale of relationships. CHA-CHING! Support the show

Ghosting... What is it and why do people do it?  Anthony and Nina share tales of ghosting and discuss the reasons that lead people to just disappear to someone else without notice or explanation.   How rude is it to just decide to not see or talk to someone ever again without even telling them why?  If for any reason you're not a match with someone and don't want to see them again, is it justifiable to just ghost them or is it proper etiquette to let them down easy?  Is ghosting the price of online dating today, and is it acceptable?  Listen to this episode to learn what are some of the things that lead to ghosting and maybe how to avoid it as well as how to be polite to someone you don't want to see or talk to anymore without resorting to ghosting.   Boo...Support the show

In this episode Anthony and Queen Nina discuss the question of why is it that men rule the relationship, but women rule the marriage? And is there a difference between marriage and the relationship?  Is it that men control the relationship before the marriage, but after the "I do" then the woman is in charge? They discuss the idea that women are the gatekeepers of sex, while the men are the gatekeepers for marriage, and what that boils down to.  They revisit the topic of the different criteria that men and women have for finding a significant other, whereas women prefer someone who can provide security and are intellectually mature enough to be mentally engaging, while it seems that most men just want some young child-bearing hips and don't really care about how smart women are.  Listen to the episode to learn about some interesting theories as to why some common stereotypes about men and women might actually make sense.Support the show

Are You Through with Love or is Love Through with You?  Join this scintillating and insightful conversation between Anthony, Queen Nina and Jay.  In this episode the team share details from previous relationships in different times of their lives, and how those relationships affected their mindset, how their mindset affected their relationships or their interest in being in one.  Are times or circumstances in people's lives when it's probably best to not be in a relationship?  Or is it best just focus on academics or a career instead of a love life?  Sometimes relationships find you when you're not even looking, and maybe that's when it arrives best.  Are You Through with Love or is Love Through with You?   Maybe drama, maybe trauma, or just love fatigue.  The conversation then progresses to a myriad of topics.  Listen and learn about the miracle child Breezy.  Listen to this episode to figure out if you're through with love or if love is through with you. Support the show

This week Anthony welcomes his long-time friend Craig to the studio to share some funny and interesting stories about their wives.  Anthony revisits the hilarious tale of when his wife almost got them both arrested for drug smuggling when they went on a cruise, and Craig talks about the time when his wife, a hardcore sports fan, got upset over a comment he made about her favorite team despite the fact the game was already won.  The boys tell more funny stories (including a special occasion when The 90-10 Rule took place!) and reminisce about the times when things went hilariously wrong.   Listen to this first installment to hear the boys tell some war stories from interesting situations with the missus and also get a laugh or two. Support the show

Do women ask too many questions?  Queen Nina thinks it's just a matter of men not saying enough, but maybe it's just that there just isn't that much information available to begin with and there's just no point insisting.  Anthony takes Nina on a few examples of some cases where there just ISN'T any more info available, but Nina keeps on playing the 20 question game, but to no avail.   A heavy discussion then begins about communication and feelings, and how those play into the relationships and how stressful it might be for women when they don't feel appreciated enough to be told the important things.  And do most men have trouble communicating while women over-communicate?  Plus, Nina gives a lesson on how to distinguish a compliment from a catcall and how it plays into breaking the ice with a woman.  The team revisit Nina's obsession with Idris Elba.  Also, Mr. Jay once again jumps at the chance to holla at Nina.   Please Pray for Tom, he was in a bad wreck!Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina are joined by new audio engineer Mr. Jay to revisit some of the concepts of gender roles in the household and in the relationship.  Anthony states that men want a strong and independent woman, but not one with an attitude, and claims that a supportive woman isn't necessarily submissive.   Have women learned to become independent due to the absence of a man in the household?  Plus, is the Black Nuclear Family making a comeback nowadays in today's modern culture?  The trio expose their views on the subjects and share some relevant experiences and insights.  Listen to the episode to find out if Mr. Jay is mature enough to date Queen Nina. Support the show

Can today's modern woman let a man lead the relationship? Anthony thinks that black women can't let their man lead in the relationship, and for once Nina agrees!  They discuss the peculiarities of relationships and what it means for each gender to take charge. If the woman lets the man lead, does that necessarily mean that she is being submissive? And if a man would prefer a supportive woman, who just isn't combative and would not needlessly argue with him and drag his mood down, does that mean that she is submissive?  Listen to the episode to figure out if you're the Quarterback and what that means in the relationship.Support the show

How age matters so much to women and how some women will not date anyone who is even 5 seconds younger than them.  Queen Nina thinks this has to do with how fast women mature compared to men, and shares her recent experience with being slightly infatuated with a man only to discover he's slightly younger than her.  Is she missing out on a great opportunity for a relationship by a subjective criteria?  Plus, the shocking revelation that Anthony’s wife is older than him and that he has never seriously dated any woman at least 5 years younger than him. Listen to this discussion about age and maturity and how it plays into relationships.Support the show

In this episode Anthony and Queen Nina welcome first-time guest Talaya, who is in the first steps of creating her own relationships podcast.  Anthony tells the story where he got to know a girl over the phone for 8 months and developed emotions, only to finally meet her in person and discover that she was not attractive at all.  The team go on to discuss a Netflix reality show, Love Is Blind, where participants get to know each other without knowing about each other's physical appearance.  The conversation shifts to a throwback to The Dating Game where the fat girls NEVER got picked.  Are looks essential to be attracted to someone? Plus, everyone shares their personal story of a situation where looks played an important role in the relationship.   Listen to this episode to hear about all the drama in the dating and relationships reality shows. Support the show

Anthony brings his lifelong buddy to help him recall an incident where his buddy got caught cheating, and Chris Sasso joins in to listen to the buffoonery among friends.  Codenames will be used in order to protect the innocent (or the guilty, in this case).  Anthony will be called “Speed” and his friend will be called “RacerX”.  For some reason RacerX just can't understand the concept of codenames and ousts Speed several times!  Heads up, Rulers, this is an enticing tale about making up a story to convince a girl that the two friends were going to Virginia Beach, but the real intention was for RacerX to go see another girl. But somehow RacerX's girlfriend inexplicably found his car parked 45 minutes away!  Overall, despite the codename mishaps, this is an intriguing chapter full of mystery, danger and men becoming mature and learning what's really important and valuable in relationships.  “Never underestimate a woman’s intuition.”Support the show

How authentic are you… inside AND the outside? Is there anything about you that is "FAKE"? There is a difference between plastic surgery and insanity, and the threshold is how intense the body modifications are.  Over the top and extreme implants are something that can throw most people off... but not everyone!  Are men attracted to the woman or just her looks?  And do women feel like they need to get "enhancements" to impress other women instead of trying to look good for men?  How can someone be trusted when everything on their outside is fake?  Do women use "fake" things as an armor for their own insecurities about their appearance?  Listen in and find out as Anthony and Nina go into an in depth discussion about all these "aesthetics". Support the show

Oh No!  Anthony is talking Q-R-azy.  He must be having a stroke based on that episode title! Turns out it's just an attempt to describe a question about how women behave in relationships...?  Or something like that!  Perhaps things would be much easier if Anthony would just wash the dishes.  Congratulations to anyone who can figure out what that’s all about.   Do men think women pull out random strings of thoughts that don't make sense?  Plus, the Queen and King start sharing their love about D.C and their memories from there.   Stay tuned and at the edge of your seats where it seems the topic of conversation changes at every minute. Support the show

The times have changed, but these games are still the same. Watch out, Rulers! This episode is all about that mature booty and how awkward it is for them to hit on people who are much younger.  It seems older people like to get nasty as well, but how come they're acting like 18 year olds when they're in their 70s?  What is the cutoff age for relationships with older people (especially cougars)? 90, 95?  How old is too old? Is it still worth being with someone when they're popping Cialis like its candy? Nina shares her take about how horny she used to be at 18 versus now and if there is a difference in hormones in women as they get older.  Does libido evolve or devolve with age?  Plus, Anthony gets schooled by Nina on how hashtags work, which ultimately leads to porn.    Listen to this episode to find out what things age like fine wine, and what things age like spoiled milk. Support the show

Watch out, Rulers!  This episode is a masterclass in the old school way of spitting game.Wind the clock back to 1988 when Anthony was a young playa’ and listen in as the sparks fly while Nina and Anthony re-enact one of his phone conversations which leads to a VERY ENTICING exchange of words overflowing with chemistry and sensuality.  Anthony was one of the few kids with his own phone and line in his room when growing up, and he sure made good use of that advantage to develop his game.  Plus, how do millennials date today?  How do they woo and court women? “Just barely” is Nina's answer.  The times sure have changed in terms of communication and courtship when youngsters can decide who they’ll be with by swiping right on a phone screen.  Perhaps it’s time to revive some of the classy chivalry that men relied upon when times were simpler and more elegant. Support the show

An A.S.M. means “Ain’t $hit Man.” The term also applies to women: ASW. They’re someone toxic and selfish who can completely wreck the mental health of who they’re with. How do you recognize an ASM/W? There are a few key traits and red flags to look out for: they’re disrespectful, lazy, manipulative and they like to sit on their ass at home spending money that isn’t theirs. Have the times changed so much that women are pressured into wearing less and less clothes on social media just to get the attention of a would-be romantic interest?  And with all the new communication technologies and dating platforms, have women become enablers of ASMs?  Did Tinder ruin chivalry?  Nina seems to think so! (She’s gotten too many messages that just said: “Anal?”)Listen to this episode to hear Anthony’s and Queen Nina’s deep discussion as to who’s really at fault when it comes to ASM/Ws, Then ASs themselves or their enablers and to figure out how to spot one as well as how to protect yourself from one.Support the show

On this episode Anthony and Nina discuss "The Relationship Box" and What's in It:  a checklist of items your mate must meet in order for the relationship to continue.  Nina thinks women have their boxes on the back-end: aimed at making compromises and adapting in order to make the relationship work, while men have the box up front:  worried more about physical appearance and attractiveness.  They share what's in each of their boxes and why, and proceed to aggressively nit-pick at each other's choices (as expected in that usual 90-10 way).  Could your box be too rigid to the point of being unachievable?  Perhaps you may "Find Yourself," "By Yourself." Listen to this episode to discover about the hosts' relationship boxes; do they actually prefer the same things.  What's in Your Relationship Box?Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina discuss the "I" word, (INFIDELITY).  According to an article Anthony found online, there are 5 types of infidelity:  Opportunistic, Obligatory, Romantic, Conflicted Romantic, and Commemorative.  They discuss and reflect on the different types and share their opinion on each one.  The conversation moves to the subject of porn and how according to Anthony, there just isn’t any porn of ugly people.  Plus, discussions on “drunk science” and a theoretical dilemma arises on what should be done if you discover that your significant other has had relations with your friends, and whether the parties involved need to know or not., (a.k.a.  Should You Tell).  Listen to this episode to troubleshoot how much information about past relations is “too much information” and what needs to be disclosed in order to avoid drama and disappointment. Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina have a crazy discussion about an episode of Dr. Phil where a married couple go through counseling and test the limits and boundaries of house chore roles in a relationship.  Is Dr. Phil really a qualified doctor who helps people, or do people just go on his show to be paid and/or exploited? This time the team take a big detour and go off the rails in a conversation about Boondocks and some if it’s characters, and make some very creative uses of the word “nagger” throughout the episode.  Is Nina more like Riley or Huey?  She sure does a killer Riley impression. Plus, did Obama’s election influence the way bi-racial people are cast on commercials and the way companies “pander” to minorities by trying to add more representation?    Listen to the episode to get an inside look at one of the craziest, and funniest episodes of The 90-10 Rule.Support the show

Relationship talk from the experts -- REAL MEN & WOMEN.  Now that we’ve established that women are better cheaters than men… yes you know you are!  How are women more than men likely to have an emotional affair?  In this episode, Anthony and Jackie J discuss emotional cheating from both a man’s and a woman’s perspective. They also discuss opposite-gender friendships and their likely chances of turning into emotional or physical affairs.  So, are you cheating or getting cheated on??Support the show

In the final part of the Friendship, Love and Indiscretion special series, Raven returns to discuss a myriad of topics from falling in love too fast, meeting her husband when she was 15 and being pregnant at 16, which begs the question: Is it Love or is it Lust? Plus, we REVISIT the subject of her wedding to uncover EVEN MORE DRAMA related to her destination wedding in Las Vegas involving Drock, Tones' on-again off-again beau. Secrets will be spilled and suspicions will be raised! Hint: This episode will be heavy on the INDISCRETION theme. Listen to the episode to stay in the loop and tie up loose ends about this unbelievable twist in the final part of the series!Support the show

In this intensely emotional and tear-jerking part three of the Love, Friendship and Indiscretion series, Tones pours her heart out as we dive deep into the topics of sexuality and relationships. She reveals she is hypersexual and explains how that influenced her relationships in always wanting more sex than her partners could handle, but also how that frequently clouded her judgment in the past, leading her to dangerous situations where she was even assaulted and robbed. Plus, how her habit of going after emotionally unavailable men took shape while growing up and that abandonment issues might have made her try to use sex as a replacement for feeling safe and accepted. Ultimately she comes to the conclusion that sex is important, but it’s not everything, and reaffirms how much she is capable of love as well as worthy of being loved. Despite any differences, we can all learn a lot from her experience and all her personal growth throughout the years.Listen to the episode for an important life lesson on how sexuality plays such a deep and important role in relationships.Support the show

In the second part of the Love, Friendship and Indiscretion series, Raven returns to tell the Rulers about her destination wedding in Vegas. Hear about her experience as the bride and all the crazy things that happened throughout, including losing her poker-aficionado brother for two days, getting annoyed and delayed by the chatty makeup artist, how the guys were smoking pot and getting high, and having a stone dropped in her cleavage on her way to getting married. Still, she was chill enough to not turn into a bridezilla and managed to make the most of her big day despite everything. Plus, celebrate the news that Raven is pregnant!Support the show

On part one of the Love, Friendship and Indiscretion special series, Tone Motivates joins the Rule once again to share the experience of her best friend Raven's destination wedding in Las Vegas. She spills the details on all the fun, troubles and mishaps that took place on the amazing Vegas adventure. Hear about some of the key moments of the trip which include getting plastered and going up and down the strip, trying to assist in the management of a conveyor belt wedding at the Chapel of Love, and overall just having a good time with friends (unfortunately Elvis wasn’t there, though). However, we also learn some somber news as the conversation segues into the situation update on Tone's relationship with her beau Drock and the importance of living your truth. Listen to this episode to vicariously celebrate Raven's wedding (plus learn about some important exclusive news), and to hear about a new chapter in the “Shades Of Tone” book.Support the show

Always on the road - that is the life of a trucker. Anthony’s new brother from another mother J.C. shares some stories and wisdom from the decades spent being a truck driver, as well as how that imposed certain limitations on relationships. Imagine leaving the state only to return home 8 months later only to discover that you’re single. Does driving around the country all the time make you lonely? Plus, did you know some truckers have a girl in each state they drive through? Listen to this episode with the boys to learn what “lot lizards” are and other similar jargon from life on the road. (SPOILER ALERT: they’re truck stop prostitutes!)Support the show

Anthony tells Nina about his experience on a brand new cruise that he recently went on with his wife and about how everything was over the top due to the ship being new. His tales include a cool adventure with a mini-hurricane/tornado and a very funny story about when he and his wife both forgot their wallets in the ship! Anthony shares all the notes and ideas he had during his recent escapade about the several different types of people and curious phenomena that you regularly see on any vacation destination. Plus, news of a new podcast! A vacation-themed podcast is in the works behind the scenes! Listen to this episode to live vicariously through Anthony’s vacation adventures while you patiently wait for your own holiday getaway!Support the show

Anthony and Queen Nina talk about their family history and about being caregivers to their parents. Nina shares the story about how her parents had a toxic relationship which included drug issues, alcoholism and domestic abuse. The hosts discuss the awkwardness of having to help a parent with private parts, but also understanding how it’s necessary for their cleanliness and health. When does providing care to a family member become a financial burden? And is it better to do it yourself to save money at the risk of straining your relationship with a spouse or is placing them in a home or somewhere with specialized care a better option despite the price? Plus, how different family members dealt with and reacted to their parent’s ailing health, and how the responsibility of being a caregiver affects personal relationships.Support the show

How do you know that the person you’re with is “the one”? On this episode we welcome J.C, Anthony's new "brother from another mother" to bring a masculine perspective on relationships to the show. J.C tells the story about how he met his wife, the exact moment he knew she was the one for him and how they’ve been happy to this day (despite how clumsy she is). The hosts discuss how nowadays the “swipe right” generation always wants things right away and how the relationship etiquette has changed so much from back in the day. Plus, find out about the crazy time that J.C got into a fight with Russel Crowe in Tasmania in order to defend his wife's honor.Listen to this episode to gain some insight and perspective about your relationship and what to look out for when trying to find “The One”.Support the show

In this episode Queen Nina shares the shocking revelation that despite ALL the drama, she is NOT a baby mama. Do you have “That Good Stuff” with your beau or even know what that means? Anthony believes that women are more in control of whether they get pregnant or not than men while Nina says that “women are the gatekeepers for sex”, but using a condom is like “getting a massage with a winter jacket on”, do you agree? And is not using contraceptives worth the risk of getting pregnant? Plus, does having a lot of condoms put you at risk of being thought of as promiscuous? Listen to the episode to get in on this heated debate about pregnancy, drama, contraceptive, promiscuity and a whole lot of “broaching”.Support the show

Nina joins Anthony in discussing seven of the things that men and women (at least the classy ones) should never do in public. They talk about how they feel about each one and even admit to doing a few. Plus, are rich people more rude than non-rich people? In what different ways do men and women like to brag? And how much is an adequate tip for a waiter? You don’t need to have taken etiquette class in order to have common sense in regards to manners, but really, listening to this episode can’t hurt!Tune in to learn more about what to never do in public as well as find out if you have ever embarrassed yourself in public in the past.Support the show

Attractiveness is subjective, but some people are just BUTT UGLY. But what is beauty? Is it physical fitness or just how attractive someone’s face is? Or perhaps it’s as Queen Nina says, "Booty is in the eye of the beholder." On this episode Anthony and Nina discuss whether Idris Elba really is all that good-looking, what is the “Hollywood” standard for beauty as well as share their experience with previous relationships with people who weren't so attractive. Also, are ugly women better Lovers? Despite everything and everyone’s opinion, guess what? Ugly needs love too!Listen to the episode to learn a thing or two about your inner beauty and how it plays into a relationship.Support the show

THIS IS A BEST OF EPISODE!--He said, SHE said. Relationship talk from the experts -- REAL MEN & WOMEN.Are you a Mr. FIX It? Always trying to fix your woman’s problems when she tells them to you? What if you just sit back, listen, and do nothing about it? It might seem cruel, but maybe that’s what she wants. In this episode of the 90-10 Rule, Anthony and Lady D discuss the Mr. FIX It syndrome and why it needs to die. Should you change the way you think like a man to accommodate your woman or should it be the other way around? “If you need to know how a man’s thinking, ask a man; if you need to know what a woman’s thinking, you ask a woman.” [15:40]Episode Timeline:• [0:52] Intro• [1:00] Your man or your girlfriend…should he always try to fix it?• [6:51] Why can’t women accompany their men to their favorite activities?• [8:40] Engage or entice your woman to accompany you• [11:22] How women think vs. how men think • [15:40] Ask a man about a man and a woman about a man • [19:23] The two-way benefits of listening and not fixingSupport the show

In this episode Queen Nina gets a quick lesson on how James Brown created funk. Anthony hates the holidays, but we discover it may be due to some childhood trauma. Despite their anniversary being tomorrow, Anthony still hasn’t bought his wife a gift, but he's cocksure about his gift buying skills, and boastfully believes that he is the best gift giver out of all his friends. Nina, on the other hand, doesn’t give gifts, but instead prefers to give memorable experiences (like getting drunk and going bowling - or something!). Why do women celebrate their birthday throughout the entire month? It’s like for them it’s more than just a holiday, but a “holimonth”. (Nina even lost a job because they disagreed with her excessive and extravagant personal celebration policy). Anthony has never had a big celebration on his birthday, and perhaps that's one of the reasons he hates holidays (other than the fact that they’re mandatory), but his long-time wish would be to go on a 21 day cruise with close friends. Plus, this episode gives birth to the Ruler’s plans for the 90-10 Rule Birthday Bash, which is a big trip on a cruise ship with all the hosts, fans and friends. Will we be able to party like Anthony and Will partied with Quest Love at the podcast convention? Listen in to find out!Support the show

Good news! - The Rule is in the top 5% of all podcasts! The Rulers still have a little homework to do, though: recruit three of your friends to subscribe and listen to our podcast! And ask your friends to tell THEIR friends - If we can do that through the next three months we can reach the “big dog” numbers.Why are women always trying to change men? Nina argues that they’re merely emphasizing that there’s room for improvement and that is actually a sign of caring, which makes the relationship better (allegedly). Do women help each other look prettier? Anthony clarifies that is one thing that men DON’T do, despite whatever Nina believes. The hosts share previous experiences where people tried to change/improve others and how it ultimately worked out for everyone involved.Listen to the episode to find out how to keep your partner from changing you, or maybe even how to change YOUR partner.Support the show

Can guys even compliment women anymore? The woman can accept it as much as she wants to, up until the point she doesn’t accept it anymore, but she needs to let the man know if she’s uncomfortable. The tricky thing is that the line is different for each person. There's a myriad of reasons for the Me Too movement, which includes a lot of power play, people who couldn't get jobs or promotions without explicit sexual favors in return, a lot of inappropriate stuff but also a lot of gray areas. Nina shares her experience about how she lost a job for saying something inappropriate to someone, and was forced to resign without knowing whether or not she was really in the wrong or even who she said what to. Listen to the episode to find out more about the hosts' experiences with inappropriate situations and how you can stay appropriate in the workplace or defend yourself from inappropriate behavior.Support the show

Are millennials really moving in together at the highest rate in history without getting married? If so, does that mean that they probably won't get married, but if they do, will they get divorced quicker? Nina, MJ and Anthony discuss how relationship culture has changed for the different generations and how the new era has rearranged the priorities for people being together. Nina says that it makes more sense to know someone by living with them before they make a decision about marriage and both MJ and Anthony believe that marriage is a commitment and not a situationship. Everyone shares their experiences on how they were brought up under different circumstances and how that shaped the way they look at relationships.Listen to the episode to figure out where you stand among the different generations and how that might influence how you deal with relationships and marriage.Support the show

Can you love someone without fully accepting them? Be it sexuality, political views, religion or stance on gun control, are we able to fully accept a friendship or family member if we disagree with them on key issues or are against certain conditions? Nina and Anthony talk about their opinions on that and what it takes to truly love someone with full acceptance and how having points of contention can influence a relationship. Plus, how much would you hide from someone out of fear they might not love you or accept you anymore?Listen to the episode to gain insight and reflect if your relationship works with full acceptance and how deep your love really is.Support the show

On this episode Ms. Motivates and Raven join in to discuss the question: Could money be a factor in the demise of a relationship? The hosts talk about how they deal with money in their relationship and if their significant other is a spender or a saver as well as their special techniques for fiscal responsibility. Are you the big spender or the money saver in the relationship? Plus, to what extent does disagreeing about finances put a strain on the relationship? Anthony says both involved need to agree on the finances and explains how joint accounts work and talks about the system he uses to organize finances with his wife.Listen to the episode to get a few money saving tips and to learn how to keep it from affecting your relationship negatively.Support the show

Watch out, Rulers! This is the worst one. Anthony babble and rant with no clear subject across a wide range of topics, being quite a bummer for everyone along the way. A few honorable mentions of the Soul Train, Don Cornelius and how the old days were better make this episode worthwhile, though. Did you know Anthony used to wear platform shoes and bellbottoms? Plus, find out what horrible crime Frank committed when he was a kid in order to keep his parents from getting a divorce (hint: it’s so shocking that it gets him banned for the next 6 episodes!). This week holds the record for the most words bleeped out, so much so that Anthony literally walks out and lets Frank take over for the end!Listen to the episode to listen to our hosts ramble on about f*** buddies, what the future of baby-making is gonna be, STDs, old and new trends and much more!Support the show