PODCAST · health
The Mental Healness Podcast
by Lee Hammock
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ [email protected]
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Why You Might Feel Guilty After Leaving an abuser
Do you feel like you’ve "abandoned" them? Are you struggling with the feeling that you’re the "bad guy" for choosing your own mental health? You’re caught in the Empathy Trap.From the inside out, I’m explaining how your conscience is weaponized against you in high-conflict relationships. We’ll cover:Why guilt is a leash used to pull you back in.Accepting the "villain" narrative so you can actually be free.The difference between healthy loyalty and trauma-based guilt.Choosing peace isn't a crime, and you aren't responsible for someone else's refusal to change. It's time to drop the guilt and reclaim your life.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why They Always Come Back When You're Finally Over Them
Have you ever received a random "thinking of you" text or a sudden apology after months of no contact? It feels like hope, but from the inside out, I’m telling you it’s something else entirely.In this video, I break down the "Supply Check"—the real reason high-conflict personalities reach back out when you’re finally starting to heal. We’ll discuss:Why sentimentality is used as bait.The difference between an epiphany and a power move.How to protect your peace when the "Hoover" starts.Stop guessing what their messages mean. I’m pulling back the curtain on the playbook so you can stay grounded and stop the cycle for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Her Ex used the courts to keep abusing her | Here's how she fought back!
How does a survivor handle a stalker who uses the legal system to continue the abuse? Hedya joins the podcast to share her shocking journey through extreme post-separation abuse. From her ex allegedly creating fake profiles to harass her, to him successfully suing her for a dog he gave her as a gift, and finally being served with a defamation lawsuit during her own stand-up comedy set—this story is a masterclass in resilience. Hedya explains how she turned her trauma into comedy and reclaimed her power.Connect with Hedya: https://www.instagram.com/healingwithhedya/Want to Be on the podcast? Fill it out here - https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormConnect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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These Words Make Manipulators Lose Their Power Over You
If you feel like you’re talking in circles and over-explaining your feelings to someone who won’t listen, you’re using too many words. When you’re dealing with a high-conflict personality, they aren't looking for understanding—they’re looking for leverage.I’m sharing the perspective from the other side of the power struggle to show you the 3 words that cause an immediate "system error" and end the game.Why "No" is a full sentence.The power of indifference and the word "Okay."How saying "I believe me" ends the gaslighting forever.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why They Withhold Compliments on Purpose
Have you ever noticed that the more you achieve, the less your partner or family member seems to notice? High-conflict personalities often withhold compliments and validation as a calculated move to keep you feeling "less than."In this Live, I'm pulling back the curtain from the inside out to show you why they refuse to acknowledge your wins. We’ll discuss the power dynamics behind the silence and how you can stop the cycle of hungering for validation from someone who will never give it.It’s time to reclaim your value and realize that their silence says more about their need for control than it does about your worth.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why They Get Meaner the Older They Get
Why do high-conflict people get meaner as they get older? Lee Hammock breaks down what happens when someone’s "charm" and "looks" start to fade. Learn why they start attacking your appearance, why they obsess over staying young, and how they switch to "pity" and "health issues" to keep you trapped when they can't use charm anymore. Get the truth about why narcissists and other toxic people hate getting older. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why a Toxic Person Is Most Dangerous When the Bank Account Is Empty
What happens when a toxic person goes broke? In this 15-minute deep dive, Lee Hammock (Mental Healness) explains the psychology behind the "Resource Collapse." Learn why manipulative people shift from grandiose controllers to financial parasites when their money runs out. We discuss the "vulnerability hoover" and how they blame their partners for their own financial failures.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The early warning signs of a manipulative person
Was that first date actually perfect, or were you just being studied? Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the red flags people miss when they are "swept off their feet." Learn the difference between genuine connection and calculated mirroring. From premature vulnerability to the "Soulmate Script," find out why your best date might be your biggest trap. Stop ignoring your intuition and start seeing the behavior for what it really is.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why The New Partner Isn't Getting A Better Version
Does it look like your ex finally changed for someone else? Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the truth behind the "New Life" performance. Learn why social media happiness is often a weapon used to control your emotions and why the new partner isn't getting a better version of them. Stop being the audience for a lie and start focusing on your own truth. It's time to walk away from the show for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Your Best Days Always Turn Into Arguments
Why does the narcissist always pick a fight right when you're supposed to be relaxing? Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the "Narc-Logic" behind weekend sabotage. From Friday night fights to Sunday morning anxiety, learn why your peace is a threat to their control and how they use "The Sunday Scaries" to keep you exhausted and easier to manipulate. Stop letting them ruin your recharge and learn how to take your weekend back starting right now.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Narcissistic Mothers NEVER CHANGE | Diagnosed Narcissist Perspective
Having a narcissistic mother is a unique kind of pain. Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down why toxic mothers compete with their children and why they can never truly apologize. Learn to spot the "Guilt Leash" and how to break free from the "Honor Thy Mother" trap without losing your mind. It’s time to stop being an extension of her and start being yourself. Build your foundation and get back on Solid Ground.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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He Was in Prison 8 Years, Then Immediately Did This to His Wife
I can't believe people like this exist! He spent 8 years in jail and the first thing he did when he got out was to cheat on his wife that was nothing but loyal to him. Pathetic
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The Hoover: 5 Survivors Share How They Were Pulled Back In
The "Hoover" is the most dangerous part of the narcissistic cycle. Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock and 5 survivors break down the exact tactics used to suck them back into their toxic relationships. From fake health scares to "accidental" texts, learn the logic behind why they won't let you go. Trust the data, ignore the hoover, and reclaim your reality. Get back on Solid Ground and learn to stay No Contact for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Mother Gothel Is a Narcissistic Sociopath | How She Manipulates Rapunzel
In this video, we discuss Mother Gothel from the "tangled movie" as a prime example of a "narcissistic mother" and how her actions constitute "narcissistic abuse". We explore the "emotional abuse" inflicted through her "toxic parents" style, especially after "mother gothel kidnaps rapunzel". It's a deep dive into the psychological underpinnings of this classic Disney villain.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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GHOSTLIGHTING! Why Narcissists Ghost You and Then Pretend They Didn't
What is GHOSTLIGHTING? It's a high-level manipulation tactic where a narcissist disappears (ghosts you) and then rewrites history to make you doubt your own eyes. Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the psychological mechanics of this 2026 trend to help you reclaim your reality and protect your peace. Get the clarity you need to break the trauma bond and stand on solid ground.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The narcissist and how they TEXT | Diagnosed Narcissist Explanation
How do narcissists send texts and emails? Is there a particular way that narcissistic people text you or respond to you? How would a narcissist respond and much more in today's video. Make sure to hit that subscribe button.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Emotional Abuse Vs. Narcissistic Abuse: What's The Difference?
Stop being confused and learn the differences between emotional abuse and the specific, systematic patterns of narcissistic abuse. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m explaining why the intent, the lack of remorse, and the "erasure of self" make narcissistic abuse a different beast entirely.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Narcissists Target Strong People: A Diagnosed POV
Learn the real reasons why narcissists choose you and why you were targeted for your strengths rather than your weaknesses. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down why "the light" in you is exactly what attracts a predator and how your empathy was weaponized against you. Stop feeling like a victim and start understanding the value you have that they tried to claim as their own.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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9 Survivors Share the Exact Moment the Narcissist’s Mask Slipped
Hear 8 powerful stories of the exact moment survivors realized they were dealing with a narcissist. As a diagnosed narcissist, I react to these "lightbulb moments" to show you why the mask finally had to slip. Stop the second-guessing and find the validation you need to start reclaiming your reality today.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why 2 narcissists could never be together
Discover why two narcissists can rarely maintain a relationship and the psychological "collision" that happens when two egos fight for the same supply. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down why we seek out "givers" rather than people like ourselves and why the power struggle in a narc-on-narc relationship is unsustainable. Learn the truth about the "mirror effect" and why two people using the same playbook can never find common ground.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The Second-Guessing Game: Why You Think YOU Are The Problem
Stop the cycle of second-guessing and learn why narcissists work so hard to make you doubt your own reality and intuition. I’m breaking down the specific tactics used to make you feel like the "toxic" one, from the "I never said that" routine to the reaction trap. As a diagnosed narcissist, I provide the inside perspective you need to reclaim your truth and stop wondering if you are the problem.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Colin Strickland was the Catalyst In Mo Wilson Losing it all
Analyze the chilling psychology behind the Moriah Wilson murder case through the lens of a diagnosed narcissist. I’m breaking down why Colin Strickland’s manipulation and triangulation were the true catalysts for Kaitlin Armstrong’s sociopathic descent into violence. Learn how narcissistic "information management" and lies in a toxic love triangle can lead to a tragic, irreversible end.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why the World Loves Them and You Don't
Expose the "Public Saint, Private Monster" dynamic where narcissists use a polished reputation to gaslight and isolate their victims at home. Learn why the world sees a hero while you experience a nightmare and how to navigate the reality of a two-faced partner. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down why the "Mask" is so effective and how you can stop letting their public image define your private truth.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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I Can't Believe This Keeps Happening! Shamar Elkins Is a Family Annihilator!
Breaking down the psychology behind the horrific Shreveport tragedy and why someone like Shamar Elkins becomes a family annihilator. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on the "monster" mindset, domestic dynamics, and the ultimate lack of empathy required to commit such an act. Understand the red flags of family annihilation and the dark reality of toxic family systems before they reach a point of no return.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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How Did The Narcissist BLAME You For Everything!
Stop falling for the trap where your reaction to abuse becomes the "reason" for the abuse. Learn how narcissists use DARVO and reactive abuse to convince you that you are the toxic one in the relationship. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down the mechanics of the "Villain Flip" so you can stop the second-guessing and start winning.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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11 Signs You're In A Toxic Work Environment!
Expose the toxic workplace reality by understanding the delusional beliefs held by narcissistic bosses that create hostile environments and destroy team morale. From corporate gaslighting to exploitative leadership, learn to identify the narcissistic red flags in management so you can protect your career and mental health. As a diagnosed narcissist, I provide the internal perspective on why toxic managers use manipulation and grandiosity to maintain control in the office.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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NARCISSISTS NEVER GROW UP: HERE'S WHY
Why do narcissists act like children? Today, as a diagnosed narcissist, I’m diving deep into the concept of "Arrested Development." I’m explaining why narcissistic people often have an emotional "pause button" that gets stuck in childhood, leading to adult tantrums, a lack of empathy, and the "Toddler in a Suit" syndrome. We’ll discuss why they can't handle boundaries, why they lose "object constancy," and why you can't "parent" your partner into maturity. If you’ve ever felt like you’re in a relationship with a child, this video will give you the clarity you need to stop the cycle and start winning.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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I Thought She Was Nagging, But She Was Just Expressing Feelings
I used to think my wife was nagging me, but I finally realized she was just expressing her feelings. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m breaking down why I took every honest conversation as a direct criticism and an attack on my character. Today, we’re diving into "Defensive Listening," the Narcissistic Filter, and why toxic partners use the word "nagging" to silence and gaslight their spouses. If you feel like you can't speak your truth without starting a fight, this video explains the psychology behind that wall. It's time to stop the deflection and start the healing.All my links https://link.me/mentalhealness
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Why Narcissists Can't Be Alone: The Secret Battle with Self-Hatred
What happens when a narcissist is finally alone? As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m getting raw about how my own mind attacks me the second the "audience" leaves. Today, we’re discussing why narcissists have a negative default setting, why silence feels like a death sentence, and how we use external validation (supply) as a shield against intense self-hatred. If you’ve ever wondered why your toxic partner couldn't be alone or why they constantly needed to be the center of attention, this is the internal reality they are running from. Join me for this deep dive into the "Internal Bully" of NPD.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The 15 Traits Of A Female Narcissist!
Female narcissists are often much harder to spot than men because they hide behind social norms like motherhood, caretaking, and "feminine vulnerability." Today, I’m reacting to the MSN article "15 Traits That Reveal Narcissistic Behavior in Women" and providing a diagnosed narcissist's perspective on how these traits manifest in real life. We are breaking down the "Social Camouflage" of NPD—from weaponized tears and the martyr complex to competitive parenting and the "Trophy Child" syndrome. If you feel like you’re being manipulated by someone who seems "perfect" to the outside world, this deep dive is for you. Learn the 15 signs before the mask slips for good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why They Leave You In The Hospital! The Ultimate Narcissistic Discard
When you get a serious diagnosis, a narcissist doesn't see a partner in pain—they see a "malfunctioning tool." Today, I’m breaking down the "Hospital Room Discard" and the harsh reality of why toxic partners bail during a medical crisis. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m explaining the logic behind the "6x more likely" abandonment statistic and how to recognize when your partner is already shopping for your replacement. You deserve a partner who stays in the room, not one who sees your sickness as an inconvenience.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The "Alpine Divorce": Why Narcissists Abandon You When You’re Vulnerable
The "Alpine Divorce" is the most chilling relationship trend of 2026. From viral TikToks to the tragic Thomas Plamberger conviction, we are seeing the literal physical reality of narcissistic abandonment. Today, I’m breaking down the NPD perspective on why a partner would leave you to freeze. We discuss the transition from "Micro-Abandonments" to the ultimate discard and how to spot the red flags before you're stranded.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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I Can't Believe He Tried This!? (Tanner Horner 'Zero' Reaction)
Tanner Horner has pleaded guilty in the Athena Strand trial, but his claim that an alter ego named "Zero" committed the crime is a pathetic narcissistic deflection. Today, I’m providing a diagnosed narcissist's perspective on this extreme lack of accountability and the chilling "hero-to-villain" shift revealed during his interrogation. We are breaking down why this "panic" story is actually a calculated web of lies designed to protect his own self-image. Subscribe for deep-dive psychological analysis and join the conversation below as we seek justice for Athena Strand.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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He Made It Home, His Wife Didn't and Now He's Under Arrest
Lynette Hooker went missing in the Bahamas and now her husband Brian is under arrest. There were inklings of previous violence in the relationship according to her daughter and now she thinks her stepdad had something to do with it. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why It's Hard Dating After You Leave a Toxic Relationship
If you’re terrified to start dating again because you’re afraid you’ll just attract another narcissist—that fear is actually your intuition trying to protect you. But today, we’re talking about how to turn that fear into a standard. We are moving from being "paralyzed" to being "empowered" in your choice. You don't need to trust other people yet; you just need to learn how to trust yourself again.Tonight’s Live Discussion:The Confident "No": How to spot a narcissist by setting one simple boundary (and why their reaction is the key).The "Slow Burn" is Sexy: Re-training your nervous system to prefer consistency over intense chemistry.Keeping the Vault Locked: Why you must stop trauma-dumping on the first date and how to protect your story.Red Flags vs. Normal Flaws: How to know when to run and when to give it a chance.Stop surviving your past and start building your future. Let's learn how to date with confidence, not fear.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Being VULNERABLE Makes You a Magnet for Narcissists
Never go grocery shopping when you’re hungry, and never go dating when you’re vulnerable.When you are in a season of pain or transition, your "predator radar" is compromised. You aren't looking for character; you’re looking for an escape. In this video, we discuss why being in a vulnerable state makes you the primary target for narcissistic "Hero" tactics and how to protect yourself.Key Points Covered:The Rescue Trap: How narcissists use your pain to bypass your boundaries.Numbing vs. Bonding: Why you can't properly vet a partner when you're using them to fix your loneliness.The Scent of Vulnerability: Why toxic people are drawn to those in a "low" season.The Solution: Why reaching "neutrality" on your own is the only way to safely date.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Narcissists Expect an AWARD for Telling the Truth?!
"I told you what I did, so why are you still bringing it up?"Have you ever had a narcissist finally admit to a lie, a betrayal, or a mistake—only for them to get angry at YOU because you were actually hurt by it? This is called the Confession Trap, and it is one of the most manipulative moves in the NPD playbook.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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963
How Do Narcissists Act When You RECORD THEM?
"You think showing a narcissist a video of how they treat you will finally make them understand. In reality, it’s often the spark that sets off the biggest explosion of the relationship."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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How Long should you stay no contact with a narcissist?
"Is No Contact a temporary boundary or a lifetime sentence? Today, I’m going to explain why 'forever' is usually the only safe answer when dealing with a narcissist."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Narcissist can bring up the past but you can't
"A narcissist has a 30-second statute of limitations on their own mistakes, but a lifetime contract on yours. Today, I’m explaining why we weaponize history to avoid accountability."In this video, we discuss:The Deflection Loop: Why bringing up your past is a narcissist's favorite "get out of jail free" card.The "Old News" Shield: How we use time to make our own toxic behavior seem irrelevant.Leverage vs. Resolution: Why the goal isn't to fix the problem, but to make sure you're the one on the defensive.The Narrative Lock: How keeping your mistakes alive allows the narcissist to maintain the "Moral High Ground."Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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960
Why I don’t hate my narcissistic father
"Forgiveness isn't about him; it's about the weight I'm tired of carrying."For years, I carried a lot of anger toward my father. He was emotionally neglectful, shut off, and displayed the classic traits of a narcissist. But as I’ve done my own healing, I’ve realized where that "emptiness" came from. My father was just a child when his own dad committed suicide, and he never got the help he needed. He didn't learn how to love because he was too busy trying to survive the trauma.Today, I’m talking about breaking the cycle. As a diagnosed narcissist myself, I can see the "shutter" that came down on his soul. I’m breaking down why I choose compassion over hate, and why understanding his trauma doesn't excuse his behavior—but it does set me free from the resentment.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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959
Why narcissists are the perfect reflection of you
"The person you fell in love with was actually just a better version of yourself."It’s the most painful realization in recovery: the 'soulmate' you think you lost was a manufactured character. Today, I’m taking the mask off to explain the "Representative"—the fake persona narcissists use to hook you—and how we use mirroring to make you fall in love with your own best qualities.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why Narcissists PAY for Intimacy
Most people assume this behavior is just about the bedroom, but for a narcissist, it’s a calculated move to avoid the one thing we fear most: Vulnerability. Today, I’m taking the mask off to explain why transactional dynamics are the "perfect supply." When you pay for a service, there are no expectations, no "mirror" reflecting our flaws, and a guaranteed discard.In this video, we discuss:The Power Dynamic: Why being the "Customer" is a narcissist's safe space.Avoiding the Mirror: Why real intimacy feels like a threat to the False Self.The Built-In Discard: Why narcissists love a relationship with an expiration date.Validation on Demand: The dopamine hit of "purchased" admiration.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The conversational narcissist: why they always shift the focus back to themselves 🗣️🔄
"They aren't listening; they're just waiting for their turn to talk."Have you ever shared something personal, only for the other person to immediately say, "That reminds me of the time I..."? That is the Shift Response. Today, I’m breaking down conversational narcissists. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m telling you why we do this. It’s not just "bad manners"—it’s a calculated way to regain the spotlight and ensure we remain the main character of every interaction.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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How to know if narcissists are actually changing
"Is it a breakthrough, or is it just better acting?"The most common question I get is: "Lee, can narcissists actually change?" The answer is yes, but it doesn't look like a Hallmark movie. It looks like a long, painful, and often ugly process of self-control. Today, I’m breaking down the difference between a narcissist who is "performing" therapy and a narcissist who is actually changing their brain chemistry.We’re talking about Consistency vs. Intensity, how to test for real accountability, and why "therapy speak" is the new favorite weapon for narcissists in 2026. If you’re waiting for a sign to stay or leave, this Live is for you.In this Live, we discuss:The Consistency Test: Why a "good week" means nothing compared to a "boring year."Weaponized Therapy: How narcissists use their therapist’s words to gaslight you.The Accountability Check: Can they sit in the discomfort of being "wrong" without a blow-up?Pro-Social Shifts: Moving from "I want to hurt you" to "I want to protect my life."The Relapse Reality: Why "perfect" is a red flag and "stumbling" might be a good signConnect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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The nicest guy: how the Ronnell Agee case exposes the neighbor narcissist 🏠⚖️
"The most dangerous monsters don't look like monsters—they look like the guy who mows your lawn." Detroit is in shock today over the Ronnell Agee case. Neighbors are on camera saying he was "the nicest guy we’ve ever known" and that "this can't be his character." But as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm telling you: that "nicest guy" brand is exactly how we hide in plain sight.Today, I’m breaking down the Neighbor Narcissist Mask. We’re looking at the Ronnell Agee kidnapping case to understand why narcissists build a reputation for being helpful and friendly. It's called a Proximity Shield, and it’s designed so that when the mask finally slips, the community refuses to believe the truth.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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954
What type of narcissistic supply are you?
Ever wonder why narcissists keep you around even when they don't seem to like you? It’s because you’re serving a specific purpose on the "Supply Menu." Today, I’m breaking down the different categories of supply—from the bank account to the bedroom and everywhere in between.As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m giving you the unfiltered truth about how we categorize people. We’re talking about financial supply, ego boosts, the "placeholder" (transitional supply), and even the people who provide "negative supply" through chaos. If you’ve ever felt like an object instead of a person, this Live is for you. Let’s figure out what you’re providing so you can finally stop serving it up.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Why You're Attracted To Narcissists
"Your brain is literally wired to fall for the vain narcissist."A groundbreaking 2026 study has revealed that humans mentally categorize narcissists into two distinct groups: the Vain and the Selfish. While the "selfish" face is easy to spot and avoid, the "vain" face is a trap. We often mistake vanity for competence, success, and leadership potential.Today, I’m breaking down the science of why we find certain narcissists irresistible and how their "agentic" mask makes them perfect for corporate management and high-status dating. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m telling you the truth about the "Competence Trap" and why your brain chooses to ignore the red flags when the mask looks this good.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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Top 4 narcs who tried to outsmart the jury
"There is nothing narcissists love more than a stage, and a witness stand is the ultimate platform. Today on MentalHealness, I’m breaking down the top 4 narcissists I’ve seen testify in their own defense..."As a diagnosed narcissist, I see the playbook they were using: the "pity play," the word salad, and the absolute refusal to take accountability. We’re deep-diving into the cases of Alex Murdaugh, Robert Telles, and more. Why do we think we can win over a jury when the evidence is stacked against us? I’m telling you the truth about the "Narcissistic God Complex" in the courtroom.IN THIS VIDEO:Ali Abulaban: The performer who couldn't stop making it about his lost "career."Brendan Banfield: Breaking down his 2026 "De-escalation" lie—why the jury didn't buy it.Alex Murdaugh: The "Crying Mask" and the collapse of a legal dynasty.Robert Telles: The "Helpful Neighbor" who claimed he was framed by an assassin.The Common Thread: Why narcs almost ALWAYS testify (and why it’s usually their downfall).Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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NARCISSISTS THINK THEY OWN YOU: Why They Don’t Want You, But Won't Let You Go
"If I’m done with you, why am I still stalking your page?"It’s one of the most confusing parts of the narcissistic cycle. They’ve discarded you, they’ve moved on, yet the moment you start to heal or find someone new, they reappear to blow your life up.Today at [Time], I’m breaking down the Narcissistic Ownership Mindset. As a diagnosed narcissist, I’m telling you the truth: it’s not because we miss you. It’s because we still view you as our property. We’re talking about the "Shelf" strategy, why your happiness feels like our failure, and how to break the "invisible leash" they’ve kept you on.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ [email protected]
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