The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast

STOP STAYING SMALL JUST TO KEEP EVERYONE ELSE COMFORTABLE.We’ve all heard that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, but we rarely talk about the GUILT that comes when that "average" starts to feel like a weight. If you’re always the one reaching out, playing therapist, or shrinking so you don't make others uncomfortable, this episode is your permission slip to START FRESH.I’m sharing the truth about THE LOYALTY LOOP TRAP—that habit of staying tethered to people from your past just because of the history, even when the common ground has turned into mud. We talk about THE MUD-SEASON PARADOX and why the "messy middle" of growth is actually where the magic happens.It’s time to stop being "loyal" to loops that don't fit your life anymore. I’ll show you how to stop using your phone as a PHONE SHIELD so you can actually find the people meant for your NEXT season. From the muddy prairies of Saskatchewan to the reality of building a business, let’s clear the dead debris so you can finally bloom.In This Episode:(00:04) - The Lock Screen Audit: Who is HOLDING your emotional energy?(03:12) - The Mud-Season Paradox: Why the tulips are worth the mud.(05:50) - The Loyalty Loop Trap: Permission to outgrow your history.(08:45) - The Messy Middle: Why growth feels UNCOMFORTABLE.(12:30) - Wait or Walk: How to find your "new five" without hiding behind a screen.(14:06) - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge.Resources Mentioned:RhondaLavoie.comThe Paced App (getpaced.app)This Week's Challenge:Stop being the initiator. For one week, pay attention to who meets you HALFWAY and who only shows up when they need something. Then, reach out to one "FILL" friend who actually makes you feel lighter.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.

You can’t outwork a storm, and you aren’t a machine. In this episode, I’m getting incredibly honest about a "Logic Trap" that nearly cost me my business and my peace of mind. We often believe that if we’re strong enough, we should be able to handle every family crisis and business demand without skipping a beat. But I recently hit a wall that left me in tears at my favorite cafe, realizing that even when you’re doing the "right" thing, it still takes a massive toll on your energy. I’m sharing the physical warning signs I ignored—like the "Frozen Shoulder Effect"—and how I had to have a raw, difficult conversation with my wife, Crystal, to save my dreams. We’re talking about why we "numb out" on our phones when we're overwhelmed and how a simple pattern interrupt can give you your perspective back. In This Episode:(00:59) - Why we’re actually stressed (Hint: It isn’t disorganization). (03:52) - The Campfire Analogy: What happens when you run out of wood in a blizzard. (05:49) - The breaking point: Why I almost stopped the development of the Paced app. (07:31) - The "Frozen Shoulder": How your body says "stop" when your brain won't. (09:07) - Using Paced to break the "Numb-Scroll Fog" and reclaim your day. Resources Mentioned:TOT Cafe The Paced App rhondalavoie.com This Week's Challenge:Find one small thing in your life right now—a work task, an errand, or a household chore—and hand it off to someone else before you hit your breaking point. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr. #BurnoutPrevention #WomenInBusiness #AuthenticLeadership

Stop paying the hidden fee on your attention that is leaving you absolutely bankrupt this Easter break.Every guru and "wellness" influencer tells you the secret to peace is turning off your notifications. But what happens when silence becomes louder than the pings? In this episode, I’m getting "unfancy" about my own struggle with the Manual Check Loop—that twitchy impulse to refresh your apps even when your phone is silent. We’ve been sold the lie that staying busy is a personality trait, creating a Stealth Hustle Syndrome where we are physically at the park with our families but mentally composing emails in our heads.I’m breaking down the science of the "Just One Peek" Tax and why that three-second escape into Instagram actually costs you 23 minutes of deep focus. If you’ve felt like a failure for not mastering "digital minimalism," this is your permission slip to stop fighting your brain and start using friction to find your humanity again.In This Episode:(00:03) - The "Success Never Sleeps" Lie: Why hustle culture is a trap.(05:27) - Paying the "Just One Peek" Tax: The drain on your "Boss Energy".(08:55) - The Lesser of Two Evils: Why I turned my notifications back on.(11:32) - The 23-Minute Rule: The science of Attention Residue.(13:09) - Breaking the Trance: Using Paced as a pattern interrupt.(17:24) - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge.Resources Mentioned:RhondaLavoie.com The Paced App University of California Research on Attention Residue This Week's Challenge:Take a 2-Hour Digital Break today. Put your phone in a drawer in another room, close the door, and commit to "zero output"—no planning, no phone, and no "optimizing" your life.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.

You don't need a permission slip from a virus to finally take a rest. Have you ever had one of those weeks where you’re doing everything "right" according to the gurus, but you feel absolutely terrible? You’re checking the boxes and staying disciplined, yet your body is starting to feel like it belongs to someone else. In this episode, I’m sharing a very raw, personal story about a recent "shivering fit" that I tried to bargain away as a torn rotator cuff—only to realize it was a total nervous system collapse. We’re diving into the reality of Toxic Discipline—the voice that tells you to "push through" even when your eyes are blurry and your body is screaming. We discuss why the "Bro-Culture" version of productivity doesn't work for women carrying a heavy mental load, and why your "check engine light" is the most important tool you own. In This Episode:(00:05) - The "bro-culture" sleep trap and why 4:00 AM isn't the morning. (05:06) - The Birthday Shivers: My raw story of a total nervous system collapse. (12:20) - The "Unfancy" Fix: How the Paced App catches your energy leaks before they become a flood. (13:13) - The Weekly Challenge: Identifying and closing your biggest energy leak. Resources Mentioned:Official Website: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.app This Week's Challenge:Identify one major "energy leak" this week—like a standard obligation you feel you "should" do—and close it. Choose to listen to the whispers instead of the toxic discipline that tells you to keep grinding. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.

Are you addicted to your own competence? Have you ever felt like a total rookie, even though you’ve spent decades building a reputation as the expert? In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie dives into the "Identity Friction" that happens when your old, successful self fights the new "beginner" version of you. We often think Imposter Syndrome only hits those starting their first jobs, but it actually hits high achievers the hardest when we decide to pivot later in life. Rhonda shares her personal struggle with taking her new app, Paced, to the international stage and why we often "play it safe" just to avoid being seen in the learning phase. If you’ve been feeling like a fraud for winging it, this episode is your reminder that you aren't a fraud—you're a pioneer. In This Episode:(00:00) – The "Magnetic Rookie": Why being a student again is your superpower. (02:15) – The Competence Trap: How our "Expert Badge" becomes a cage. (04:30) – Identity Friction: The truth about playing it safe on the international stage. (06:15) – The 5 Faces of Imposter Syndrome (Which one are you?). (08:20) – The Strategy: 3 Steps to Filter the Truth and Relabel the Fear. (10:10) – Expansion Evidence: Why that "shaky" feeling is actually a win. (11:20) – The Weekly Challenge: Closing the loop on your wins. Resources Mentioned:Imposter Syndrome: The 5 Types (The Superperson, The Soloist, The Perfectionist, The Natural Genius, and The Discounter). The Paced App: getpaced.app Show Notes & Transcripts: rhondalavoie.com This Week's Challenge: Write down one thing you were proud of this week—not something you did perfectly, but something you were brave enough to do while still in the "not good at it yet" stage. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.app Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr. #ImposterSyndrome #HighAchiever #TheCompetenceTrap

Your mission is bigger than a stranger's "big ass" forehead comment.Have you ever had a moment that made you want to pull the plug on your big dreams? This week, I’m getting raw about the "cheap seat" remarks I received after putting myself out there on video—comments that weren't about my business, but about my appearance. I’m walking you through the "ouch" of being told I have a "big ass forehead" and how I moved from that initial gut-punch of hurt into a place of strength and laughter.But this isn't just about trolls; it's about your energy. I’m breaking down why your brain can't just "delete" a feeling and how unprocessed emotions leave a "threat file" open that drains your battery. I’ll share the three simple things we do in our house on an Unfancy Sunday to close those mental loops and protect our peace before the week begins.In This Episode:(00:05) - Why you are a victim of interruptions, not insecurities. (02:57) - The "Big Ass" Forehead: Dealing with trolls in the cheap seats. (06:10) - The Zeigarnik Effect: Why you can't just "delete" a mean comment. (07:13) - The Unfancy Sunday: 3 steps to keep it simple, laid back, and low key. (09:38) - Paced as a Pattern Interrupt: Breaking the digital trance. (11:13) - Showing up, big ass forehead and all. Resources Mentioned:Rhonda's Website: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.app This Week's Challenge: Try an "Unfancy Sunday." Don't try to be perfect or have gourmet meal prep for the sake of a photo. Just close the files: put the plan on the counter, discuss the meals, check the groceries, and look at transportation so you aren't guessing on Monday morning. Give yourself permission to have a cereal or frozen pizza night so you can actually enjoy your family. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: Rhonda Lavoie TikTok: @rhonda.lavoie Follow the Paced App journey: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr. #RhondaLavoie #PersonalGrowth #UnfancySunday #HandlingTrolls

You aren’t lazy; you’re just redlining your engine in neutral. For the ambitious woman, procrastination doesn't look like sitting on the couch doing nothing. It looks like high-octane effort directed at the wrong targets. Whether you are scrubbing baseboards to avoid a difficult conversation or "researching" a new system for the tenth time, you are burning through your battery without moving the needle.In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie identifies the four "monsters" of resistance: The Perfectionist, The Dreamer, The Avoider, and The Adrenaline Junkie. We explore why your brain uses these "Safe Work Illusions" as a survival mechanism and why you wake up with a "guilt hangover" even after a night of supposed rest. Learn how to finally close those open mental tabs and trade your scrolling trance for real, deep recovery.In This Episode:(00:05) - Why "Lazy" is the lie you need to stop believing.(04:53) - The Perfectionist: Why your brain is redlining in neutral.(07:00) - The Dreamer: High vision vs. the "Tomorrow Tax".(08:18) - The Avoider: Using busyness as a shield.(10:02) - The Adrenaline Junkie: Stop using stress as a performance drug.(12:42) - The "Pattern Interrupt": Using physical movement to break the digital trance.Resources Mentioned:RhondaLavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.app This Week's Challenge:Stop the shame and identify your monster. Pick one "scary" task you’ve been avoiding and commit to being a "B-minus student" for just 10 minutes. Close the file so your brain can finally rest.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.   #Procrastination #HighPerformance #RhondaLavoie #WomensEmpowerment

You aren’t losing a fight against yourself; you’re losing a fight against a trillion-dollar algorithm.Have you ever spent your entire evening "relaxing" on the couch, only to wake up feeling like you have a hangover? It’s not because you’re lazy, and it’s not a character flaw. It’s a biological reality called Ego Depletion. Your willpower is a limited resource—a battery that drains with every decision you make during your busy day.In this episode, I’m getting personal about my recent 50th birthday crash and why I chose to cancel a recording rather than "push through" . We’re breaking down the science of why your brain feels like a laptop with 50 tabs open and how you can finally stop the "mind-filled" scrolling that is bankrupting your mornings. It’s time to stop blaming your discipline and start looking at your systems.In This Episode:(00:05) - Why grit isn't enough to stop the scroll.(01:13) - Milestone crashes: Lessons from my 50th birthday and the Paced launch.(04:05) - The "Hungry Shopper" Syndrome: Why we crave digital junk food.(06:29) - The Jesse Story: Understanding the "Digital Hangover".(08:21) - The Zeigarnik Effect: Why your brain stays wide awake while you sit still.(10:39) - The Paced System: Becoming a "bodyguard" for your own focus.(12:46) - Your Weekly Challenge: Identifying your vulnerability window.Resources Mentioned:The Paced App: getpaced.app (Available on Google Play Store; Waitlist open for iOS).7-Day Free Trial: See if the system works for you at getpaced.app.This Week's Challenge: Identify your "vulnerability window"—that time of day when your willpower battery is at zero—and move your phone to the kitchen or use Paced to create a guardrail.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr. #Willpower #RhondaLavoie #DigitalWellbeing #EgoDepletion #UnfancyLife

I turned 50 today. The world says it’s time to wind down. I say it’s time to build an empire.I turned 50 today. The world has a script for this milestone: look for golf courses, slow down, and fade into the background. But I realized that I couldn't survive the next decade of my career if I followed that script. I needed to pivot. In this special bonus episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the "double life" I’ve been living this month. By day, I’m a Real Estate Agent in Saskatoon. By night (and early morning), I’ve been battling with code, fighting with the Google Play Store, and revisiting my past life as an SAP Analyst to launch a brand new app. This isn't a polished success story; it's the gritty reality of becoming a beginner again at 50. We talk about why punitive "blocker" apps fail (I call this the "Digital Warden" Trap), why I refuse to do pushups just to scroll Instagram, and how I built Paced—a Prairie solution to a Silicon Valley problem. In This Episode:(00:00) - The "Double Life": Real Estate Agent vs. Tech Founder (00:50) - 50: Why I refused to slow down on my birthday(01:23) - The Secret: My past life as an SAP Analyst (The Wisdom Stack) (02:37) - Why I refuse to use apps that act like a "Jail Warden" (04:04) - Introducing Paced: The "Kinetic Exchange" (Walk to Unlock) (05:10) - The Challenge: Using your 30s skills in your 50s Resources Mentioned:App: Paced: Habits & Screen Time (Available on Google Play Store) App Mentioned: PushScroll (The "Pushup" App) This Week's Challenge:Download Paced (if you are on Android) or simply practice the "Kinetic Exchange" manually: Before you open social media, force yourself to take steps. Connect your body back to your brain. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#MidlifeReinvention #TechStartup #DigitalWellness

Why your brain feels like a browser with 400 tabs open (and how to close them).If you feel like you are working harder than ever but aren't moving forward, it isn't because you are lazy. It is because you are maxed out. We treat silence like a hole that needs to be filled with podcasts, playlists, and feeds, but in doing so, we drown out our own intuition.In this episode, Rhonda celebrates her 50th birthday by sharing the "unfancy" cure for the midlife crisis: turning the volume down. She identifies the "Content Drunk" trap—where we use learning as a form of procrastination—and breaks down the neuroscience behind why your brain physically needs boredom to create strategy. Plus, she introduces the Paced Protocol, a new tool launching today to help you stop the scroll and start the strategy.In This Episode:(00:00) - The "Rattle": Why your brain feels like a spray paint can.(04:27) - Are you "Content Drunk"? The difference between Input and Output.(06:40) - The Science: Inside "The Strategy Room" (Default Mode Network).(08:44) - The Calgary Drive: How silence creates million-dollar ideas.(13:55) - The Paced Protocol: A speed bump for your phone.Resources Mentioned:The Paced App: A tool designed to interrupt autopilot and put a "speed bump" between you and the scroll.This Week's Challenge:Find your "Calgary Drive." Whether it is your commute, the shower, or walking the dog—do it "digitally naked" (no headphones, no radio). Drive through the boredom until you get to the boardroom.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#UnfancyReset #DigitalWellness #PacedApp

Nice protects YOU from conflict. Kind protects the TRUTH.Are you addicted to keeping the peace? Do you apologize for things that aren't your fault just to make others comfortable? In this episode, Rhonda tackles "Good Girl Syndrome"—the conditioning that tells women to be small, quiet, and agreeable . We break down the massive difference between being "Nice" (Fear-based) and being "Kind" (Truth-based), and why your "politeness" might actually be cruel .Rhonda also gets real about the "Guilt Hangover"—that panic you feel at 3:00 AM after setting a boundary—and why it’s actually a sign of growth . Plus, a personal announcement: Rhonda is turning 50 and celebrating by stepping WAY out of her lane to launch her new app, Paced .In This Episode:(00:05) - Why women are criticized for the same behavior men are praised for(02:28) - Nice vs. Kind: The "Cat Pee" Real Estate Example(06:41) - Emotional Intelligence: Using warmth to close the deal(09:30) - The Guilt Hangover: Why you feel like throwing up when you say "No"(15:00) - Taking Up Space: The Paced App LaunchResources Mentioned:Paced App: Hitting the Android Store on Feb 13thThis Week's Challenge:Look at where you are being nice when you should be kind. Where are you protecting someone else's feelings at the expense of your own truth?🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#WomenInBusiness #RhondaLavoie #StraightShooter

Have you ever walked into your kitchen, looked at a pile of mail, and felt an immediate sense of dread? It’s not because the mail is hard to open; it’s because of what it represents.In this episode, Rhonda breaks down the biology behind why you can’t relax in a cluttered room. We explore the concept of "Visual Competition" and how your brain is treating every object on your counter like an open browser tab that is draining your battery. Rhonda also shares a vulnerable story about her own office "shame monument" and how she realized she was using clutter to punish herself for financial guilt.If you are tired of being the "clutter police" in your marriage or feeling like you are living under a dark cloud, this episode provides a simple, "unfancy" 5-minute tool to help you find your oxygen again.In This Episode:(03:12) - The "Ants in Your Pants" / Flight Response(05:27) - Rhonda’s realization: Using piles to punish ourselves(09:06) - The "Us Plan": How to stop being the Clutter Police(11:37) - The Tool: The 5-Minute ResetResources Mentioned:Concept: Visual Competition Concept: Decision Fatigue This Week's Challenge:Don't look at the whole house. Find just one surface (a square foot of granite or a corner of a desk). Set a timer for 5 minutes and clear that one spot so your eyes have a place to rest.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#VisualCompetition #DecisionFatigue #HomeOrganization

You don't need to feel good to start. You need to start to feel good.It is -30°C outside. The wind is howling. And honestly? The last thing you want to do is work. We have all been there—bargaining with ourselves, scrolling on our phones, waiting for the "vibe to shift" so we can finally tackle our goals.In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie breaks down the biggest lie in the self-help world: the idea that motivation is a prerequisite for action. Drawing on concepts from Mark Manson, Mel Robbins, and James Clear, Rhonda explains why "Activation Energy" keeps us stuck and how to push the merry-go-round just enough to get it spinning.If you are an ambitious woman who feels bone-deep tired this January, this episode gives you full permission to stop waiting for the magic spark—and shows you exactly how to light it yourself.In This Episode:(00:00) - The "Permission Granted" T-Shirt & Intro (00:33) - The -30°C Truck Confession: Why I secretly hope clients cancel (07:08) - The Paced App Story: How I lost 6 months waiting for a "sign" (09:29) - Flipping the Script: Action -> Inspiration -> Motivation (16:38) - The "Jesse" Story: How a teenager uses his phone to get "jacked" Resources Mentioned:Free Download: Get the "Do It Tired" Action Kit at rhondalavoie.com Book: Permission Granted by Christalee Froese (Pre-order at morejoy.ca) Book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson Book: The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear The Paced App - Stop the scroll (Available on Android) This Week's Challenge:Stop waiting for the perfect time. Stop waiting to feel good. Set a timer for 5 minutes, count down 5-4-3-2-1, and go.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#DoItTired #MotivationMyth #RhondaLavoie

Do you feel like your calendar is running you, instead of the other way around?In this episode, Rhonda Lavoie tackles the epidemic of the "Guilt Yes." If you are a high-capacity woman who feels resentful every time you look at your schedule, this episode is your permission slip to quit.Rhonda shares the messy, real-time struggle of closing the "TUF Collaborative" coffee meetups—and the moment she realized that by waiting at an empty table, she wasn't being a leader; she was just being a martyr with a macchiato.She also breaks down the strategic difference between quitting the AAC Chair (low ROI) vs. keeping the School Council Chair (high family ROI). Learn how to use Opportunity Cost to evaluate your schedule, how to color-code your calendar for a "Resentment Audit," and the exact 24-hour rule you need to stop over-committing.In This Episode:(00:00) - Confession: Why I’m haunting my own business.(02:30) - The "Go-To Girl" Trap: Competence vs. Obligation.(05:00) - The Coffee Shop Realization: Martyrdom isn't leadership.(06:29) - Strategic Quitting: Why I stepped down as AAC Chair.(08:27) - The 4 Buckets Framework (Ego, Guilt, Strategic, Heart).(12:40) - Opportunity Cost: You can't spend the same dollar twice.(16:30) - The "Nice No": Exact script to cancel plans gracefully.Resources Mentioned:Free Download: The 4 Buckets Cheat Sheet + The "Just Say No" Phone Wallpaper: rhondalavoie.com Derek Sivers: "Hell Yeah or No" Concept This Week's Challenge:Find that one "Ghost" on your calendar—the commitment that is dead weight but you're still dragging around—and kill it using the script provided in this episode. 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#ProductivityTips #Boundaries #RhondaLavoie

Statistically, most people abandon their New Year’s resolutions by the second Friday of January. They call it "Quitter's Day," and it happens because traditional resolutions are built on an "all-or-nothing" light switch that is designed to fail the moment life gets messy. In this season premiere, Rhonda Lavoie strips away the "Instagram perfect" veneer of goal setting and introduces a high-level business and sanity strategy: The Theme Word.Rhonda gets vulnerable about her own "Real Reel," including tackling a mountain of debt and the pressure of launching her new tech company, Paced, by her 50th birthday. She breaks down the "What-the-Hell-Effect" that leads to total collapse after one slip-up and reveals the specific habit—The Parking Lot Trap—that is likely killing your momentum. If you are tired of the "pass/fail" drama and ready to start living instead of just consuming, this episode is your unfancy guide to 2026.In This Episode:(00:00) - The "Quitter's Day" Statistic: Why Friday is the most dangerous day for your ambition.(04:09) - The "What-the-Hell-Effect": How one cookie (or one missed gym day) leads to total collapse.(05:25) - Rules vs. Filters: Why a Theme Word succeeds where resolutions fail.(11:09) - Roaring into 50: Why Rhonda is launching a tech company when society says "slow down".(14:43) - The Parking Lot Trap: The $5 idling habit that is putting your brain in "Park".(18:47) - The "Founding 20" Challenge: How to help launch Paced and get lifetime access.Resources Mentioned:The Paced App Waitlist: getpaced.app Rhonda's Website: rhondalavoie.com This Week's Challenge: Rip up your resolutions. Sit down for 10 minutes and ask yourself: What do I want to accomplish, and what do I want 2026 to feel like? Pick one word to act as your filter for every decision this year.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr. #QuittersDay #MidlifeAmbition #Momentum2026

If you are looking at your 2025 goals and feeling a heavy sense of shame because the boxes aren't checked, you need to stop grinding and listen to this. We have been conditioned to believe that success equals sticking to the plan no matter what—even if we hate it—but research shows that "goal disengagement" is actually essential for your health.In this Season 3 Finale, I am taking you behind the scenes of my "Real Reel.". I planned to sell 50+ homes and scale the TUF Institute in 2025, but I didn't hit those numbers, and I actually closed the business. On paper, it looks like failure, but it was actually the year of the Pivot.We discuss the "Competence Trap"—the danger of doing things just because you are capable of them, not because they are your calling. I also share why I delayed the launch of The Paced App and the simple 3-step audit you can use to clean up your life before 2026.In This Episode:(00:00) - Why I "failed" my 2025 plans (and why I’m happier for it).(02:24) - The shame gap: Dealing with the space between "the plan" and reality.(04:24) - The End of History Illusion: Why we make plans for a version of us that doesn't exist.(07:31) - The Competence Trap: Just because you can carry the load doesn't mean it's yours.(08:53) - Why I delayed The Paced App launch (and refused to force it).(12:54) - The "Unfancy" System: 3 steps to audit your life before the New Year.Resources Mentioned:Goal Disengagement Research: Understanding why quitting lowers cortisol and inflammation.The End of History Illusion: Why we underestimate how much we will change.This Week's Challenge: Look at one goal you are dragging into 2026 like a heavy suitcase. Open it up and ask: "Do I need to persist, or do I need to pivot?".🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#GoalSetting #TheCompetenceTrap #RhondaLavoiePodcast

Is "Work-Life Balance" actually making you miserable? If you feel like you are constantly failing to keep the scales level, it’s because you are chasing a myth. In this episode, we expose why the "50/50" split is a recipe for burnout and why you should aim for Harmony instead.We dive deep into the concept of "Continuous Partial Attention"—that exhausted state where you are physically present with your family but mentally checking emails under the dinner table. You’ll learn why high performers need to "oscillate" rather than flatline, and how to use the "See-Saw Method" to ditch the guilt and get your focus back.Plus, a special listen to the new podcast theme music written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr!In This Episode:(00:00) - The "Antique Scales" Trap: Why balance requires you to freeze like a statue (02:40) - New Music Reveal: Shout-out to Wade & Tan Fehr (04:51) - "Continuous Partial Attention": Why you are halfway everywhere (07:14) - The See-Saw Method: Why life needs to move to be fun (08:13) - Rhonda’s Real Life: Navigating "Sprint" vs. "Support" seasons (13:32) - How the Paced App breaks the "Zombie State" (and the "Cousin's Lunch" dilemma) (16:08) - The 3-Step Work-Life Harmony System Resources Mentioned:Concept: Continuous Partial Attention (Linda Stone) Concept: Oscillation (Jim Loehr & Tony Schwartz) Music: New Theme Music by Wade and Tan Fehr This Week's Challenge:Identify your season. Are you in a Sprint Season (Work-Heavy) or a Support Season (Life-Heavy)? Name it, accept it, and pick your one "Non-Negotiable" anchor to protect this week.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com The Paced App: getpaced.app Instagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast written and recorded by Wade and Tan Fehr.#WorkLifeBalance #ProductivityTips #TheRhondaLavoiePodcast #PacedApp

Struggling with holiday burnout and feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of tasks on your to-do list this December? You are not alone. We have somehow convinced ourselves that the holidays aren't just a season, but a competitive sport where we are trying to "gold medal" in baking, wrapping, and crying in the car.In this episode, Rhonda breaks down the absolute absurdity of the things we do to ourselves in the name of holiday spirit. From the deep regret of the "unpaid internship" that is the Elf on the Shelf , to the "hostage negotiation" of taking a family holiday photo, we are keeping it real. If you are ready to stop trying to win every event and actually survive the holidays with your sanity intact, this episode is your permission slip to lower the bar.We also discuss why "numbing out" by doomscrolling in the pantry is a sign of overwhelm, and how to use the Paced App to reclaim your peace.In This Episode:(00:00) - Why December feels like a competitive sport and the "Holiday Triathlon" (01:39) - The Elf on the Shelf Regret: Why it becomes a panic attack at 11:30 PM (03:33) - The Holiday Card Photo: Why it’s basically a hostage negotiation (05:23) - Stop Doomscrolling: Using the Paced App to numb out less and rest more (07:12) - The Baking Guilt Trap: Why "outsourcing" cookies is a system, not laziness (10:34) - The Wrapping Paper Marathon: When your gifts start looking like ransom notes Resources Mentioned:The Paced App: A gentle pattern interrupt to help you stop doomscrolling when you are stressed. Join the waitlist at getpaced.app.This Week's Challenge:When you feel the pressure to bake from scratch, remember: buying cookies from a local maker supports another woman's side hustle and keeps your kitchen clean. That is not lazy; that is a system.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comThe Paced App: getpaced.appInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#HolidayBurnout #MomGuilt #KeepItReal #RhondaLavoie #DecemberChaos

Have you ever had a "What If" idea that you immediately killed with "How?"How could I possibly start that business? How could I write a book? How would I find the time?That "how" is just overwhelm in disguise. It traps us in analysis paralysis, often leading us right back to the "mind-numbing pit" of doomscrolling to escape the pressure. In this episode, I’m sharing the origin story of the Paced App. It wasn’t a lightning strike moment, and it wasn't a result of a relentless, sleepless hustle.The truth? I sat on the idea for six months. And that gap wasn't a failure—it was marinating.Join me as I break down how a random podcast episode and a $6 coffee helped me stop worrying about the "how" and simply get curious. We’ll talk about why you don’t need a five-year plan to start, and how shifting your mindset from "relentless" to "curious" can finally help you get out of your own way.Tired of losing hours to the scroll? You're not alone. It’s not a moral failing; it’s a design problem. I'm building a tool to help us take back control. Join the 'Paced' app waitlist at getpaced.app.In This Episode:(00:00) - The "Pit of Despair" and the Facebook post that started it all (03:07) - The six-month gap: Why delays are often "marinating," not failing (03:54) - The Distraction: Building a Real Estate dashboard instead of the dream (06:30) - The "Nudge": How a Mel Robbins episode connected the dots (08:54) - The "UnFancy" First Step: Ordering a coffee and opening Gemini (14:35) - The Lesson: Why you need to be "Curious," not "Relentless" (17:00) - Why the "How" is just overwhelm in disguise (18:13) - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge Resources Mentioned:The Mel Robbins PodcastGemini (Google AI) Ep. 6: How I Use AI as My Creative PartnerTOT Cafe This Week's Challenge: The 10-Minute Investigation. I don't want you to be relentless this week; I just want you to get curious. Identify one recurring idea—that little "what if" that keeps popping up. Give that idea the "unfancy respect" of a 10-minute investigation. Go to a coffee shop, open a document, or ask AI one question. Don't commit to building it, just get curious and see what happens.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieFollow the Paced App journey: getpaced.appMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#GetCurious #PacedApp #AvoidantCoping #Overwhelm #PersonalGrowth

Ever feel that jolt of anxiety when your phone "dings"? You're in an important meeting or at dinner with your family, and even if you don't look, the sound alone shatters your focus. Let's be honest: this isn't a personal failure or a lack of willpower. It's a system designed to work against you, based on a "dopamine loop" that keeps you hooked.In this episode, Rhonda shares her "aha moment" about phone notifications and gives you the simple, "unfancy" 3-step system she used to take back control. This is the "Notification Detox". We'll talk about the real cost of "context switching" (it takes 23 minutes to get your focus back!) and walk through the "Audit, Purge, and Reintroduction" plan.This isn't about perfection; it's about awareness. Often, we're not just scrolling; we're using our phones as an "unconscious escape" from feelings like overwhelm or exhaustion. Tired of this feeling? You're not alone. I'm building a tool to help. Join the "Paced" app waitlist. Link in bio.In This Episode:(00:01:27) - The familiar pattern: Feeling anxiety from every single notification "ding".(00:02:44) - The "Aha Moment": Realizing there is no such thing as a "social media emergency".(00:03:40) - The "Why": It's not your fault; apps are designed to be addictive (The Dopamine Loop).(00:04:35) - The true cost of interruptions: "Context Switching" and the 23-minute rule.(00:06:15) - The 3-Step System: How to start your own "Notification Detox".(00:07:36) - Step 2: The Purge (and why you must be ruthless).(00:11:42) - Your 48-Hour This Week's Challenge: Do Step 2: The Purge. For just 48 hours, go into your settings and turn off all notifications except for phone calls and texts. Just see what it feels like to own your focus.Resources Mentioned:Concept: Context SwitchingConcept: Dopamine LoopTool: The Paced App🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieFollow the Paced App journey: getpaced.appMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days"by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#NotificationDetox #Overwhelm #DigitalWellness #AvoidantCoping #DopamineLoop

Let's be honest: criticism stings. We're wired for connection, so the fear of being judged is a powerful (and totally human) trigger. How often does that feeling make you "just check your phone for a minute," only to look up 45 minutes later wondering where the time went?You're not scrolling because you lack willpower; you're scrolling to escape a feeling. That's a normal response, not a personal failing.In this episode (Part 2 of our series on judgment), we move from the "them problem" to the practical fix: Forging Your Armor. I'll share Dr. Brené Brown's "arena" strategy and explain why you must stop taking feedback from people in the "cheap seats". We'll build a complete system to build real resilience, including how to identify your "Success Squad" and implement three daily skills: adopting a growth mindset , using the "Tuesday Rule" for self-compassion , and a simple CBT tool to finally silence your inner critic.Tired of this feeling? You're not alone. I'm building a tool to help you notice that pattern and get your power back. Join the 'Paced' app waitlist. Link in bio.In This Episode:[00:01:40] - Why the common advice to 'just ignore the haters' is useless (and why we're wired to care) [00:02:33] - The "Cheap Seats vs. The Arena": Why you must stop taking criticism from people who aren't being brave [00:04:09] - How to build your "Success Squad"—the small group of people who have earned the right to give you feedback [00:07:41] - The direct link between feeling judged and unconsciously scrolling to escape the feeling [00:10:11] - System 1: Flip the script with a growth mindset (a failure only exists if you quit) [00:11:49] - System 2: Practice self-compassion with the "Tuesday Rule" [00:12:41] - System 3: A simple CBT tool to challenge your inner critic [00:14:58] - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge Resources Mentioned:Dr. Brené Brown (researcher and author) The Paced App TUF Collaborative Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) This Week's Challenge: Identify your "Success Squad". Take out a single sticky note and write down the names of the only people whose opinions truly matter—the ones who are in the arena with you and have earned the right to give you feedback. This is your "square squad". For the next week, when you feel a wave of criticism, look at that list and ask: "Is this voice on my note?" If not, it's irrelevant noise from the cheap seats.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok:@ rhonda.lavoieFollow the Paced App journey: getpaced.appMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#FearOfJudgment #ImposterSyndrome #BreneBrown #Resilience #AvoidantCoping

The fear of judgment keeps too many amazing people playing small. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Rhonda Lavoie gets brutally honest about the times she was the judge, teaching you the system of Self-Analysis. You'll learn why that frustrating, neutral reaction to your biggest ambitions—like the Paced App—is a "Them Problem," a reflection of their own baggage and fear, not a verdict on your worth.In This Episode (Video Timestamps):(00:10) - The primal reason we fear judgment: Your anxiety is just your primal survival instinct at work.(01:50) - The framework: Why stepping into The Arena means criticism is a certainty.(02:30) - The hard truth: Why your own internal criticism is the root of the Them Problem.(03:23) - Failure 1 (Upward Comparison): Rhonda's unfiltered "What could you write a book about?" moment.(04:56) - Failure 2 (Fear of Loss): The internal battle when a friend joined the competition.(06:33) - Let's Make This Real: The 30-second self-analysis challenge.(07:08) - The Passive Them Problem: Why the Paced App conversations "fall flat".(08:37) - Rhonda's self-analysis: The 5 reasons for the neutral reaction (Intimidation, Envy, Fixed Mindset, etc.).(11:49) - The Lesson: Understanding their Anchor and seeing criticism as "mere data" about their internal state.(13:35) - Tease for Part 2: Forging Your Armor and curating whose opinion matters.Resources Mentioned:This episode discusses concepts related to Dr. Brené Brown's work on vulnerability and The Man in the Arena.Follow the Paced App journey: getpaced.app.This Week's Challenge: The next time you criticize someone else's big dream, stop and ask yourself: "What insecurity of mine is this reflecting?"🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieCheck out the Paced App: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.

Feeling curious about AI but mostly just overwhelmed or intimidated? You're not alone! So many creators and entrepreneurs feel stuck, staring at a blank page or getting generic results from tools like ChatGPT or Gemini. The biggest mistake? Treating AI like a vending machine instead of a creative partner.In this episode, I share my practical, "unfancy" system for shifting your mindset and integrating AI into your workflow. Stop letting the "what ifs" paralyze you and start using AI to amplify your creativity and get back valuable time. It's all about Getting It Done, Keeping It Real.In This Episode:(00:02:03) - The Vending Machine Mistake & The Mindset Shift: From Tool to Collaborator (00:04:03) - Avoiding the "Robot Voice": You're the Creative Director (00:05:01) - My 4-Stage AI Workflow: Ideation, Research, Drafting & Repurposing (00:05:19) - Stage 1: Ideation & Brainstorming (Beating the Blank Page) (00:06:33) - Stage 2: Research & Synthesis (Your Research Assistant) (00:07:47) - Stage 3: Drafting & First-Pass Content (The "Sh*tty First Draft") (00:08:42) - Stage 4: Polishing & Repurposing (My Podcast Clip System) (00:10:10) - Real Story: How AI Solved My Content Command Centre Overwhelm with Apps Script (00:16:10) - The Art of the Prompt: Giving Clear Instructions (00:16:50) - Tip 1: Give it a Persona ("Act As" Framework) (00:18:49) - Tip 2: Provide Context & Constraints (The "Brief") (00:19:53) - Tip 3: Iterate (Treat it Like a Conversation) (00:21:48) - Addressing the Fears: Will AI make you lazy, less smart, or steal your voice? (00:27:18) - The Paced Connection: Intentional Creation vs. Unmindless Consumption (00:28:18) - Your Weekly Challenge: One Simple Step with the "Act As" Framework Resources Mentioned:AI Tools (General Concepts): ChatGPT, Google Gemini Google Workspace: Google Sheets, Google Calendar, Google Apps Script Concept: Anne Lamott's "Shitty First Draft" This Week's Challenge:Pick one small, repetitive task you dislike. Try using the "Act As" framework: give AI a specific persona (like 'expert copywriter' or 'meticulous assistant'), provide clear context and constraints for the task, and see how the results improve. Just start the conversation! 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.com Instagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieCheck out the Paced App: getpaced.app Music for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript .#AIforCreators #AIWorkflow #ArtificialIntelligence #ContentCreation #ProductivityHacks #EntrepreneurLife #StopOverwhelm #CreativePartner #PromptTips #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal

We spend so much time preparing for the fear of failure, but what if the thing holding you back is actually the fear of success?Success means change, new expectations, and leaving the safety of who you've always been. In this vulnerable episode, I share my real-time struggle with what author Gay Hendricks calls the "Upper Limit Problem"—the subconscious ways we sabotage ourselves when we exceed our internal thermostat for success.Using my journey with the Paced app as a real-world example, we'll dissect the four hidden barriers that make us feel "fundamentally flawed" and I'll teach you the 3-step "Success Planning" system I use to fight back. This is the system you need to define your goals, plan for the "good problems" success creates, and finally give yourself permission to evolve.In This Episode:(00:53) - Why the fear of success can be just as paralyzing as the fear of failure.(01:49) - Understanding the "Upper Limit Problem" from Gay Hendricks' book, "The Big Leap".(02:40) - The four hidden barriers that cause us to self-sabotage.(04:26) - My real-time story of hitting my own upper limit with the Paced app.(05:19) - How to fight back with a 3-step system: "Success Planning".(05:53) - Step 1: Define what success really looks like on your own terms.(07:11) - Step 2: Proactively map out your "success problems".(09:34) - Step 3: The most crucial step—giving yourself permission to evolve.(10:37) - Recap & Your Weekly Challenge.Resources Mentioned:"The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level" by Gay Hendricks.This Week's Challenge:Take one of your big goals, write down what success looks like, and then list three new good problems that success will create.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieFollow the Paced App journey: getpaced.appMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#FearOfSuccess #ImposterSyndrome #SelfSabotage #PersonalGrowth #UpperLimitProblem #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal #RhondaLavoiePodcast

In this first "Check-in," Rhonda gives a huge thank you for the incredible launch week and shares a look behind the scenes at her other big passion project: an app she's developing called Paced.Learn the "why" behind the app, the simple philosophy of taking back "your time, at your pace," and how the journey of building it has been a real-life example of the very principles discussed on this podcast—setting big goals, breaking them down into systems, and learning to "bounce back faster" from inevitable "hiccups".In This Episode:(00:04) - A Huge Thank You for the Launch (00:51) - What I'm Building: An Introduction to the Paced App (01:08) - The Philosophy: Taking Back Your Time, at Your Pace (01:29) - The Journey: A Real-Life Example of "Bouncing Back Faster"(01:47) - How to Follow the Paced Journey (01:54) - Teaser for Next Week's Episode Resources Mentioned:Paced App Website: getpaced.app🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieTikTok: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#TheRhondaLavoiePodcast #PacedApp #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal #PersonalGrowth

If you've ever been stopped in your tracks by the fear of failing, this episode is for you. In this direct, "tough love" episode, Rhonda confronts the "what if" list that paralyzes us and reframes the entire concept of failure. Learn the "Fear Autopsy"—a simple, practical system for dissecting what you're really afraid of—and discover why the only guaranteed way to fail is to not give yourself the opportunity to try.In This Episode:(00:03) - The Hook: You're Asking the Wrong Question About Fear(00:54) - My Story: Feeling Trapped and the "What If" List(02:16) - The "Fear Autopsy": A 3-Step System to Dissect Your Fear(04:08) - The Reframe: Why You're Already Failing(05:12) - The Science (Part 1): What is "Catastrophizing"?(06:10) - The Science (Part 2): The Cost of Not Trying & "Loss Aversion"(08:00) - Recap & Your Weekly ChallengeResources Mentioned:Concept: CatastrophizingConcept: Loss Aversion (from Daniel Kahneman)This Week's Challenge: Pick one thing you're procrastinating on out of fear. Ask yourself, 'What's the real consequence, and what's the cost of the first step?' And then, just take that first step.🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoieFacebook: Rhonda LavoieTikTok:@ rhonda.lavoieMusic for The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast: "Sunny Days" by Jimmy Gunnarsson via Descript.#TheRhondaLavoiePodcast #FearOfFailure #Mindset #GettingItDoneKeepingItReal

How many times have you started a new habit, only to miss a day and quit altogether? In this episode, Rhonda tackles the "all-or-nothing" trap that derails our best intentions.Learn how to reframe "failure" as a "hiccup" and discover the simple, powerful rule that is the key to building resilience: Bounce Back Faster. This episode is packed with personal stories and scientific insights to help you stop punishing yourself for missteps and start celebrating the win of getting back on track.In This Episode:(Note: You will need to adjust these times to match your final video)(00:12) - The "Next Monday" Myth: Why We Quit(01:05) - The "All-or-Nothing" Trap & My Video Podcast Story(02:29) - The Reframe: Why "Hiccup" is a More Powerful Word than "Failure"(03:40) - The "Bounce Back Faster" Rule, Explained in 3 Parts(05:32) - The Science of Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff(06:18) - Recap & Your Weekly ChallengeResources Mentioned:Concept: Self-Compassion (Dr. Kristin Neff)This Week's Challenge:The next time you have a hiccup with a habit, notice that inner critic, tell it to take a hike, and then consciously celebrate the win of getting back on track.

Does your morning feel like a total gong show? For a longtime, Rhonda felt the same way.In the first episode of The Rhonda Lavoie Podcast, Rhondashares the relatable origin story of her belief in routines, explaining how she only realized their true value after experiencing the chaos of not having one.Learn why your brain might be fighting against you in the morning and the simple systems you can use to start your day with intention.In This Episode:(00:01) - The "Gong Show" Morning: Are You Starting Your Day in Chaos?(00:20) - The Story: My "Intentional" Routine & The Miracle Morning(01:55) - The Turning Point: What Happened When I Lost My Routine in Mexico(03:07) - The "Aha!" Moment on the Patio(04:24) - The "Unfancy" System: My Routine & Simple Ideas to Start(07:51) - The Science Behind It: What is Priming?(09:39) - Recap & Your Weekly ChallengeResources Mentioned:·      Concept: Priming·      Book: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman·      Book: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod This Week's Challenge: Your challenge for this week isn't to create a whole new routine. It's to pick just ONE simple thing from the episode that you can do consistently every morning.🎧 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBEYouTube 🔗 CONNECT WITH RHONDAWebsite: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoie Facebook: @rhonda lavoie

In this short, special announcement, Rhonda shares the exciting news that the "TUF Coffee Shop Talk" podcast is evolving. Listen in to hear the "why" behind the change and the new direction focused on personal growth and real systems.What's New:New Name: The Rhonda Lavoie PodcastNew Tagline: Getting It Done, Keeping It RealOfficial Relaunch: Tuesday, October 7thOn launch day, we'll be dropping three brand new episodes all at once!Make sure you stay subscribed to this feed so you don't miss a thing! Thank you for being a part of this journey!Connect with Rhonda:Website: rhondalavoie.comInstagram: @rhonda.lavoie

Is real estate as "cutthroat" as they say? And in a fiercely competitive industry, is being nice really a good idea? 🤔 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm tackling these tough questions head-on!We'll dive into why real estate can feel so competitive, but more importantly, I'm sharing why I firmly believe professional kindness and respect are your ultimate superpower. Learn how adopting an abundance mindset (instead of scarcity!) can transform your business, leading to smoother deals, unexpected referrals, and a much more fulfilling career.I'll share personal examples of how kindness pays off, strategies for cultivating genuine industry relationships, and actionable tips for showing up as the professional, collaborative agent clients and peers love. If you're ready to win with integrity and build a business rooted in trust, tune in!Timestamped Key Points0:10: Intro: Why real estate is often described as "cutthroat."1:24: The nature of the real estate business that contributes to competition.2:29: The fear that being "nice" might be perceived as a weakness.2:54: Why professional kindness and respect are your ultimate superpower in real estate.3:18: Rhonda's examples of professional kindness (correcting errors, kind negotiations).5:48: The critical shift: Moving from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.6:44: The massive benefits of practicing professional kindness and abundance (trust, smooth deals, referrals, well-being).7:39: Actionable ways to practice kindness and build relationships in real estate.11:06: The power of building your network intentionally and living your "Why."12:03: Recap: Why kindness and collaboration are true professionalism and lead to success.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever freeze when someone asks, "So, what do you do?" and you just say "I sell houses"? 😬 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm tackling "What's Your Elevator Pitch?" – transforming that awkward moment into a powerful connection!If you joined us for Episode 57, you know your 'Why' is your internal compass. Now, your elevator pitch is its external expression – your unique value in a concise, compelling way. I'm sharing my own pitch, breaking down its key elements, and giving you other real-world examples. Plus, get my step-by-step guide to crafting your perfect pitch, including how AI can be a huge asset in brainstorming your ideal client and articulating your unique solution!Ready to make every introduction count and leave people wanting to know more? Tune in now!Timestamped Key Topics:0:08: The problem with the standard "I'm a real estate agent" pitch.2:04: Connecting your elevator pitch to your core "Why" (Episode 57).3:23: Rhonda's personal elevator pitch shared.3:39: The five key elements of a compelling elevator pitch (concise, clear, emotional connection, differentiation, invites conversation).5:18: Examples of other real estate agent pitches based on different "Whys."7:07: Step-by-step guide to crafting your own elevator pitch.8:55: How AI can be a powerful asset in crafting your pitch (brainstorming clients, articulating solutions).10:17: The importance of practicing, personalizing, testing, and refining your pitch.11:47: How a strong pitch transforms introductions and builds confidence.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever wish you had a cheat sheet for avoiding common real estate pitfalls and building a truly thriving career? 🔑 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm sharing four more "Custom Gems" from my "Dear Younger Me" series, packed with the straight-up wisdom I wish I could've given myself as a new agent.We're diving into critical lessons on:Mastering your income tax (no more tax season dread!).Accepting that you can't win every deal (and bouncing back stronger!).The power of building a personal brand that earns deep trust.And the game-changing skill of time management and prioritization to prevent burnout.Get ready for candid personal stories (including the time a client "fired" me!) and actionable insights that will genuinely shape your business and your peace of mind. Tune in to equip your future self for success!Timestamped Key Points:0:17: Introduction to Dear Younger Me series and this week's 4 lessons.1:04: Letter #14: Stay on top of paying income tax.2:22: Rhonda's personal tax struggles and the importance of a simple system.5:50: Letter #15: Accept that you can't win them all.6:58: Rhonda's personal story of being "fired" by a client and learning to bounce back faster.10:13: Letter #17: Build and establish a personal brand.11:22: Why personal brand is more than a logo, and how it builds industry trust (agent referrals).14:45: Letter #18: Master time management and prioritization.15:43: Rhonda's philosophy on time management, calendar protection, and avoiding burnout.17:48: Recap of all four lessons from the episode.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Are you caught in the real estate hustle, feeling like the peak season is pushing you to your limits? 🥵 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm getting brutally honest about Agent Burnout and Work-Life Balance.We're diving into the real cost of being "always on" – from chronic fatigue and unhealthy habits to overwhelming stress and irritability. But more importantly, we're bravely talking about the unseen battles: how unchecked burnout can sadly lead to serious mental health challenges, and in some cases, even addiction and thoughts of suicide. I'm sharing my own personal story with addiction, and how I found a path to recovery.This isn't just about 'being busy'; it's about protecting your well-being. Learn why you are NOT alone and discover vital strategies for sustainable success, including the life-saving power of collaboration and community among agents. Your well-being is paramount – let's talk about how to protect it.Timestamped Key Points:0:08: The real estate peak season: A recipe for agent exhaustion and routine disruption. 1:28: Why burnout is so common for agents: The "always on" nature and unpredictable schedule. 5:11: The industry joke about planning a getaway, illustrating real estate's unpredictable demands. 6:51: The physical toll of unchecked burnout: chronic fatigue, sleep issues, and nutrition challenges. 11:07: The mental and emotional toll of burnout: stress, irritability, and loss of passion. 12:40: The serious escalation: Burnout's link to mental health crisis, addiction, and thoughts of suicide. 13:23: Rhonda's personal story of overcoming addiction during the pandemic. 15:34: Crucial message: You are not alone, and help is available. 16:12: Strategies for sustainable success: Leveraging collaboration and community. 19:07: Other strategies to avoid burnout: planning, time blocking, boundaries, delegation, self-care. Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever wonder if you should specialize in real estate, or try to serve everyone? 🤔 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm tackling the age-old question: "To Niche or Not to Niche!"I'm sharing my own journey of exploring a niche (and why I ultimately chose a broader, yet intentional, focus), and breaking down the real pros and cons of both specializing and being a generalist. We'll dive into what type of business you want to run, how to gauge your market, and why passion is key to avoiding burnout. Plus, I'll reveal why building strategic referral partnerships is your ultimate secret weapon for consistent business, no matter your approach.Learn how to define your market focus, serve your clients with integrity, and build a business that truly lights you up. Tune in to find your unique path to success!Timestamped Key Topics:0:15: The central question: To niche or not to niche?1:18: Defining what niching means in real estate.2:24: Rhonda's personal journey of considering a niche (acreages) and why she chose not to strictly specialize.4:10: The benefits (pros) of having a clear niche in real estate.6:47: The downsides (cons) and fears associated with niching, including market vulnerability and burnout.10:56: It's a personal choice: Not every agent needs to niche down.11:48: Rhonda's current intentional approach (3 property types) and focus on clients.12:04: The critical rule: "Just because you're licensed doesn't mean you should" (e.g., commercial real estate).13:08: Steps to identify your passion and strategically define your market focus.17:31: The power of strategic referral partnerships and how they make business easier.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Feeling like your big goals are just out of reach, or that you keep starting over when you miss a step? 🎯 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, we're bringing you a replay of a foundational episode that's a game-changer for real estate agents!Dive into effective goal setting with SMARTER goals (that's Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound, Evaluate, and Revise!). Learn why it's never the wrong time to set new goals and, most importantly, how to keep pushing forward even when life throws a curveball. Plus, get insights into Rhonda's own Monthly Success Planner!This episode is packed with practical strategies to help you gain momentum, hit your targets, and build consistent progress without the overwhelm.Ready for a powerful reset? Tune in now!Time Stamped Key Pints:0:06: Introduction to Goals, Action Plans, and Overcoming Obstacles.1:13: Rhonda's Monthly Success Planner and its purpose.2:04: Introduction to SMART and SMARTER goal setting.3:39: Why the time of year doesn't matter for setting goals.6:15: The importance of continuing even if you miss a step.9:51: Detailed breakdown of SMARTER goal setting (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound, Evaluate, Revise).21:19: How to get your free copy of Rhonda's Monthly Success Planner.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever wish you could get a cheat sheet for thriving in real estate? 🤯 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm sharing four more "Dear Younger Me" letters packed with wisdom I wish I'd known sooner – insights that have profoundly shaped my career and can empower yours!We're diving into:Knowing Houses Inside & Out: Why understanding the bones of a home builds unparalleled trust.Ditching Cold-Call Advertisers: How to stop wasting money on "magic bullet" lead generators that simply don't deliver.Nurturing Relationships: Why seeing beyond the transaction (and using a CRM as your lifeline!) is key to lifelong clients.Mastering Listening: The transformative power of truly hearing your clients to build deep trust and guide them effectively.Get ready for actionable advice, candid personal stories, and the insights you need to build a more intentional and successful real estate business. Grab your coffee and tune in!Time Stamped Key Points:0:17: Intro to Dear Younger Me: Four powerful lessons for agents.1:18: Letter #10: Become an expert on how houses really work.3:56: Letter #11: Stop wasting money on ineffective cold-call advertisers.6:43: Letter #12: The necessity of nurturing client relationships (and using a CRM).10:39: Letter #13: Master the transformative art of listening.13:08: Rhonda's personal lesson from mastering listening.13:47: Recap of the 4 key lessons.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever feel like you're hustling hard in real estate but missing that deeper sense of purpose? 🧭 This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm sharing my very personal and unique journey to find my 'Why' – the core purpose that guides everything I do. And here's the twist: I actually partnered with an AI, Gemini, through Simon Sinek's powerful process!I'll break down what a 'Why' truly is (it's bigger than real estate!) and why having one is your ultimate asset for motivation, resilience against burnout, and authentic client connection. Plus, I'll walk you through how you can use a similar approach, sharing your own impactful stories to uncover your unique purpose. Ready to find the clarity that fuels your success and transforms your business? Tune in and start discovering your own guiding star!Time Stamped Key Points:0:07: Why finding your 'Why' is essential for real estate agents.1:00: Understanding what a 'Why' truly is (it's bigger than real estate).2:35: Rhonda's unique journey: Partnering with AI (Gemini) to discover her 'Why'.9:52: The practical power of your 'Why' in your real estate business (motivation, marketing, resilience).14:41: Actionable steps: How you can find your own 'Why'.17:53: Final encouragement and call to action.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever feel like the national news is talking about a totally different real estate market than the one you're actually working in? 🤯 You're not alone! This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm cutting through the noise to expose the real truth: real estate is fundamentally local.We'll dive into how national headlines, often focused on big cities like Toronto and Vancouver, can completely misinform clients and disarm agents in their own unique markets. More importantly, I'm sharing actionable strategies for how you can become the undisputed local expert, educate your clients effectively, and turn this common disconnect into your biggest competitive advantage.Stop letting misinformation dictate your conversations! Learn how to proactively monitor inventory, leverage local data, and confidently guide your clients through their market reality. This episode is packed with practical tips to help you shine as the go-to expert in your area.Ready to dominate your local market? Tune in now!Time Stamped Keypoints:0:08: The core truth: Real estate is fundamentally local. 1:43: Why national headlines misinform clients and frustrate agents. 3:20: The power of agents relentlessly educating themselves and their clients. 4:31: Practical steps to become the undisputed local market expert. 7:08: Strategies for proactively monitoring inventory and networking with purpose. 9:36: How to spot local trends and use tools like Google Alerts. 14:00: Final encouragement to be the local expert for your clients. Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever feel like those big goals are just… massive? Like climbing a mountain in flip-flops? This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, we're revisiting a simple but seriously powerful idea that can change everything: getting just 1% better, every single day.Forget those overwhelming leaps and bounds. This episode is all about the magic of small, consistent steps. We're breaking down how tiny tweaks to your habits and routines – both in your business and your personal life – can compound into HUGE results over time. Think of it as micro-wins that lead to major victories.If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just looking for a sustainable way to grow and improve without burning out, then grab your coffee and tune in. We're diving into practical ways to find those little areas where you can get just a tiny bit better each day, and why that consistent effort is the real game-changer. Let's ditch the pressure of perfection and embrace the power of small, steady progress together.Timestamp Key Points0:15: The 1% better concept: small daily improvements.1:02: Small changes = big results over time.3:10: How to find areas for 1% improvement.4:00: Consistency is key.4:45: Overcoming overwhelm with small steps.5:30: Business examples of 1% improvements.6:15: Personal examples of 1% improvements.7:00: Focus on progress, not perfect.8:30: The long-term power of 1% better.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Ever wish you could whisper some hard-earned wisdom into your younger self's ear? This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm doing just that with four more "Dear Younger Me" letters packed with the real-talk lessons I've learned on this crazy ride of business and life.We're kicking things off with a big one: stop waiting for "perfect" and just JUMP IN – because momentum comes from doing, not just dreaming. Then, we're diving into the power of setting those clear goals (yes, the big AND the small ones!) and the simple trick to actually sticking with 'em.Next up, we're tackling that whole "forward-thinking" thing – why keeping your eyes on the horizon is crucial, especially in a world that's constantly changing. And finally, for all my fellow efficiency nerds (and those who secretly wish they were!), we're talking about the magic of defining and documenting your processes to create more ease and less overwhelm.Grab your coffee and get ready for some straight-up advice that I hope will give you a little nudge and a whole lot of "aha!" moments, no matter where you are on your journey. Let's get into it!Timestamp Key Points0:17: Dear Younger Me #6: Just Start.2:17: Rhonda's experience with overthinking social media.3:57: Dear Younger Me #7: Set Clear Goals.5:06: Rhonda's tools for goal setting (vision boards, journaling, affirmations).7:46: Dear Younger Me #8: Keep a Forward-Thinking Mindset.8:54: Rhonda on resisting change and embracing AI.11:47: Dear Younger Me #9: Define and Document Processes.13:08: Rhonda's experience with the power of systems.15:27: Recap of the four "Dear Younger Me" lessons.16:49: Call to action to subscribe and leave a review.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Okay, listen up, everyone! Let's talk about something that might not be the most exciting part of building our businesses, but trust me on this, it's absolutely crucial: your credit score. Ever wonder why getting that business credit card or that line of credit feels like such a hurdle sometimes? This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I'm breaking down the real deal about your credit score and why it's way more important than you might think, especially for us as women making moves in our ventures.We're diving into why understanding this number can be a game-changer when you're looking for those financial tools to grow, or even just getting decent terms with suppliers. I'm keeping it real and explaining what actually moves that score up or down – no complicated jargon, promise. Plus, we'll bust the myth that having zero credit is the ultimate win (spoiler alert: it's not!).Ready to take the reins of your financial future and step into those opportunities with confidence? Grab your coffee and let's get into it!Timestamped Key Topics0:11: The importance of understanding your credit score before you need to borrow.0:40: How your personal credit score impacts your business financing (credit cards, lines of credit).1:02: Explanation of Canadian credit bureaus: Equifax and TransUnion.1:45: The value of regularly monitoring your credit score for errors and insights.4:20: Rhonda's personal practice of tracking her credit score monthly.5:12: Introduction to what affects your credit score (payment history, amounts owed, etc.).5:30: Breakdown of Canadian credit score ranges (Excellent, Very Good, Good, Fair, Poor).7:42: Addressing the myth that having no credit is the best approach for entrepreneurs.8:47: The importance of strategically using and managing credit for long-term success.9:39: Call to action to subscribe and share the podcast.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Feeling pulled in a million directions by bright new ideas while also battling the never-ending to-do list? You're not alone! This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, join host Rhonda Lavoie as we dive into the common struggles of Shiny Object Syndrome and Dull Distractions that can easily derail even the most focused entrepreneurs.Learn practical strategies to identify what's truly worth your attention and what's just a time-suck. Rhonda shares her personal goal-based filter to help you make smarter decisions about where to invest your precious time and energy.We'll also explore the illusion of the "Grass is Greener" and why chasing every new trend might not be the answer. Discover the power of setting boundaries and identifying your business's "non-negotiables" to stay on track. Plus, learn how to explore promising ideas without losing focus through "tiny steps" and develop a healthy skepticism for those "too good to be true" offers.Timestamped Key Points:0:10: Understanding Shiny Object Syndrome and Dull distractions.2:59: Recognizing the difference between exciting opportunities and everyday time-wasters.5:27: Key questions to ask yourself to identify distractions.6:41: Rhonda's practical goal-based filter for decision-making.8:54: The "Grass is Greener" trap in entrepreneurship.11:14: Setting boundaries and identifying "Non-Negotiables" for focus.13:46: Exploring new ideas strategically with "Tiny Steps."15:52: Spotting and avoiding "Too Good To Be True" offers (red flags).19:42: Final encouragement to stay focused on your vision.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy!Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching and TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter⁠

Hey everyone, Rhonda Lavoie here. Welcome back to TUF Coffee Shop Talk Unfiltered! Have you ever dreamed of opening your own real estate brokerage? Maybe you think it's the ultimate sign of success or the key to bigger profits . I used to think that too when I opened The Urban Farmhouse Realty . In this raw, unfiltered episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why starting your own brokerage might be one of the biggest mistakes you could make. I'll share the hard lessons I learned, the real costs that go way beyond commission splits (think insurance, tech, marketing, and your time!), and why competing with the big players is tougher than you imagine . I get honest about why I ultimately closed my shop and found a better path to building my brand, making more money, and finding more happiness by leveraging the power of a larger company like eXp . If you're considering going independent, you need to hear this first. Learn from my journey before you take the leap! Timestamped Key Points:[0:26] Thinking about opening your own brokerage? [1:20] My story[2:07] Common reasons agents want to open their own brokerage (saving money, branding, control).[3:57] The #1 myth busted: Opening your own brokerage does NOT save you money.[4:20] The hidden costs: Insurance, licensing, dues, staff, tech, marketing, legal fees, and your TIME.[5:44] Why competing with big brokerages on tech, training, and support is nearly impossible for a small shop.[6:04] Example: The extensive (and expensive) tech suite provided by EXP that's unaffordable for most boutiques.[6:51] The challenge of providing adequate training, support, and lead gen as a small brokerage owner.[8:55] A better alternative: Building your team and personal brand under a larger franchise umbrella like EXP.[9:15] The benefits: Access systems, tools, support, and branding freedom without the brokerage headaches.[9:48] Shift your goal from "saving money" to "making more money" by leveraging a franchise model.[10:08] How models like EXP can allow you to earn back commission splits through programs like ICON.[12:17] My realization: I was too short-sighted and restrictive; joining EXP led to more money, a stronger brand, and greater happiness.[12:59] My final advice: Unless your true passion is being a managing broker, don't open your own shop – build within a larger structure.Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Celebrating Episode 50! This week on TUF Coffee Shop Talk, I dive into a topic crucial for so many of us today: creating your optimal home office . If you're working from the kitchen table or the couch, it's time for an upgrade! Your home workspace is more than just furniture; it's your command center, impacting your productivity, professional image, and well-being . I explore the essentials, from foundational ergonomics like adjustable chairs and sit/stand desks to tech must-haves like multi-monitor setups and reliable internet . We'll also cover the importance of natural light, organization, noise management, air quality, and even going paperless . Learn how to create an environment you want to be in, fostering focus and forward momentum, whether you're an entrepreneur or working for someone else. It's time to invest in yourself and build a better workspace – start simple and build from there! Timestamped Key Points:00:03 - Welcome & Celebrating Episode 50! 00:47 - Topic Introduction: Creating Your Optimal Home Office 01:00 - Why a Dedicated Home Office Matters for Productivity & Well-being 01:31 - The Problem with Working from the Kitchen Table or Couch 02:32 - Foundational Elements: Comfortable & Ergonomic Seating (Sit/Stand Desks) 03:07 - Tech Setup: The Power of Dual/Triple Monitors & Proper Positioning 04:08 - The Importance of Natural Light (and my own office building story) 05:29 - Personalizing Your Space: Cable Management & Making it Inviting 06:02 - Tech & Productivity: Reliable Internet Challenges & Solutions 07:00 - Going Paperless & Using Noise-Cancelling Headphones for Focus 08:01 - Brainstorming Tools: Adding a Whiteboard to Your Office 08:37 - Power Management: Surge Protectors & USB Bars 09:07 - Health & Wellness: Air Quality, Ventilation, and Bringing in Plants 13:27 - Ensuring Comfort: Temperature Control, Foot Rests, Lighting 13:46 - The Ultimate Goal: Create a Space You Want to Use for Better Productivity & Happiness 14:29 - Investing in Yourself: Start Simple and Expand Over Time Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Join Rhonda Lavoie in this TUF Tech Tips episode as she explores MaxAI.me, a powerful browser extension designed to streamline your workflow and boost productivity . Discover how MaxAI integrates leading AI models like ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, and Llama directly into your browser, eliminating the need to constantly switch between different AI tools. Learn how this extension can help you write better emails in Gmail, refine social media posts, summarize lengthy web articles instantly, compare responses from multiple AI models side-by-side, and even interact with PDF documents . Rhonda shares her personal experience using MaxAI for over a year, highlighting how it saves her time daily in tasks ranging from research and content creation (like podcast outlines and blog posts) to brainstorming ideas . Find out if this indispensable desktop tool is right for you and how you can try it out .Timestamped Key Points:00:04: Introduction: What is MaxAI.me? 00:21: Core benefit01:06: Rhonda's personal experience and why she chose MaxAI01:37: How it works02:03: Use Case: Enhancing writing within Gmail 03:02: Use Case: Editing posts and comments directly in Facebook/Instagram 03:46: Feature: Access to multiple AI models (GPT-4, Claude 3, Gemini Pro, Llama 3+) within MaxAI 04:53: Feature: Comparing responses from different AI models side-by-side 06:37: Feature: Summarizing web pages and long-form text 07:44: Use Case: Streamlining research and preparing for meetings 08:27: Feature: Using MaxAI as a standalone chat interface, including with PDFs 09:12: Use Case: Brainstorming ideas and creating content (blogs, podcasts) 10:56: Important Limitation: MaxAI is browser-based, no mobile app available 11:39: Information on the MaxAI free trial and Rhonda's affiliate link Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Have you wondered how AI tools like chatbots and smart algorithms can genuinely help your business? In this episode of TUF Coffee Shop Talk, host Rhonda Lavoie dives into the practical ways Artificial Intelligence is reshaping how we work . Rhonda shares her personal experience using AI tools like Gemini and ChatGPT, revealing how she leverages them for everything from brainstorming and content creation for her real estate business to streamlining her entire podcast production process . Discover how AI helps generate listing descriptions, social media posts, episode summaries, and even provides unbiased perspectives for business challenges . Learn how integrating these tools can save significant time, enhance creativity (even if you don't feel creative!), and ultimately make your business life easier . Tune in to get inspired and start exploring the AI tools that can revolutionize your own workflow! Timestamped Key Points:[00:57] Introduction[08:00] Real-world examples[09:17] Workflow Deep Dive[10:15] Podcast Production Hack[12:46] Beyond Tasks[16:10] AI for Strategy[16:46] Tool Landscape[17:48] Core Message[18:18] Powerful AnalogyLike what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Feeling tied to your paper planner? Ever leave crucial notes behind or struggle to find information when you need it most? In this TUF Tech Tips episode, Rhonda Lavoie shares her personal journey from traditional paper notebooks to the dynamic world of digital journaling . Discover the customizable templates, integrated features like calendars and specialized sections (reading logs, travel planners), and the sheer convenience that prompted the switch . Learn how digital journaling offers unparalleled flexibility, allowing you to access, update, search, and even add images to your notes seamlessly across your tablet, phone, and computer. Find out how going digital can enhance organization, boost productivity, and consolidate all your planning needs into one accessible place .Timestamp Key Points:[00:28] The limitations and frustrations of traditional paper planners .[00:57] Introduction to the potential of digital journaling [02:51] Discovering and customizing downloadable digital journal templates .[03:37] Rhonda's personalized daily digital journal setup (prompts, gratitude, notes) .[04:43] Navigating the digital journal and easily accessing specific dates .[05:14] Expanding beyond daily planning[05:52] Using the digital format for specialized planning, like a travel journal .[07:21] Key advantages[08:59] Major benefit[10:20] Powerful features[10:47] Specific app mention: Using Samsung Notes as the platform .[14:06] ConclusionLike what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Tune in for a replay of one of our most popular and impactful conversations: Imposter Syndrome . We dive deep into this common buzzword to uncover what it really means and how it might be holding you back . Learn to identify the key characteristics, such as persistent self-doubt, undervaluing your contributions, attributing success to luck, setting unrealistic goals, and even burnout . We explore different types, like "The Perfectionist," and guide you through reflective questions to see where imposter feelings might surface in your own life . Most importantly, walk away with practical strategies to move past self-doubt, learn to accept compliments genuinely, and recognize your accomplishments with the confidence you deserve . Whether this is your first listen or a needed refresher, gain new insights and actionable tips! Timestamped Key Points:00:20 - Introduction00:36 - Episode Overview01:19 - Beyond the Buzzword02:01 - Defining Imposter Syndrome03:05 - Key Characteristics Explored06:06 - Self-Reflection Quiz08:37 - Introduction to Types08:48 - Type Spotlight19:10 - The "Thanks, But..." Habit19:44 - Strategy20:26 - Core Message23:36 - Practical Tip RecapLike what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter ⁠http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Feeling confined by your local market or the traditional ways of the real estate industry? In this TUF Unfiltered episode, Rhonda Lavoie shares her personal journey of realizing she was limiting her potential by staying within her "bubble" . Discover why looking beyond your region, connecting with professionals in diverse markets (even internationally), and drawing inspiration from entirely different industries like hospitality or tech is crucial for innovation and growth . Learn practical steps to break free from limiting beliefs, expand your perspective by diversifying your information intake (podcasts, books), and ultimately redefine what success looks like for your business . Stop letting the "this is how it's done here" mentality hold you back .Timestamp Key Points:[0:05] Introduction [1:10] Personal Reflection [1:50] Realization[2:34] Expanding Regionally[4:57] Accessing New Ideas[5:57] The Industry Bubble[6:18] Cross-Industry Learning[7:37] Mentorship Beyond Real Estate[8:31] Practical First Steps[9:11] Example: The book "Unreasonable Hospitality" offers lessons applicable beyond the restaurant industry .[9:54] Host's Methods[11:14] Self-Assessment[11:39] Challenging Limiting Beliefs[12:09] Continuous Growth[13:57] Impact of Thinking BiggerLike what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter

Join host Rhonda Lavoie for a special episode of TUF Coffee Shop Talk, "Dear Younger Me" . Thinking back to her 20-year-old self searching for her place or her 35-year-old self starting a new journey, Rhonda shares heartfelt letters filled with the wisdom she's gained over 12+ years in real estate and through her personal development journey . Dive into the stories behind the advice on investing in yourself ASAP , the power of asking for help without feeling weak , and why collaboration is the secret sauce to achieving more . Discover recommended resources like books and podcasts and learn how small daily habits can create massive change . Grab your coffee and tune in for reflections, connection, and maybe even some wisdom to carry forward in your own life .Timestamped Key Points:[00:25] Introduction to the "Dear Younger Me" concept[01:00] Why Rhonda started the "Dear Younger Me" series[01:59] Letter #1 Begins[02:13] The power of daily habits [04:09] Accessible ways to invest in yourself[04:51] More podcast recommendations [06:15] Making reading a manageable daily habit (even just 5-15 minutes) [07:55] Letter #2 Begins[08:13] Overcoming the fear of asking for help and appearing weak [09:05] The importance of mentorship and community [10:10] Letter #3 Begins[10:53] How collaboration led to the TUF Collaborative and this podcast Like what you hear? I would love to hear from you [email protected]'t forget to subscribe!! I love to see my following grow, makes my heart happy! Follow me @ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠~ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠TUF Institute Website (Client courses, coaching an TUF Collaborative membership) ~ ⁠https://www.tufinstitute.com/⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my newsletter http://rhondalavoie.exprealty.com/newsletter